4. Get back into leadership yourself
Once you have had sufficient time to process, it is time to get back on the horse. I have met many people who say, “I will never be a leader again.” This is their hurt and pain speaking. Avoid words like “never” or “always.”
I have walked this journey with a friend recently. Little by little as he healed, he accepted responsibility and leadership again. With each step, he embraced his return and calling again.
We do not want to allow our hurt and pain to compromise the call of God on our lives.
5. Be honest with your mistakes
Rarely is the blame entirely on the hurtful leaders. I call this the 1% principle. Even if you see yourself as erring in 1% of the problem, we must own our 1%.
Of course, we want the other person to respond to the 99%. But the reality is they may never own their mistakes. Our concern is not their response, but ours. We are responsible for our part of the problem. Doing so aids in our recovery.
6. Forgive
This may be the most important. Do not allow lack of forgiveness to taint you and your future leadership. We likely will not be the ones to bring correction to those who wounded us. We must forgive.
The truth of the matter is but for the grace of God, so go we. We will find ourselves in similar situations or worse without keeping our eyes on God and remaining in a place of teachability.
We must forgive and forget the offense.
We never forget the lessons we’ve learned. They can inspire and guide us for the rest of our lives as leaders.
Are there any other tips you would share to overcome hurt in leadership?
