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10 Ways to Know It’s Time to Quit

Geri and I were asked a couple of months ago, “How do you know if it is time to quit and get serious about this journey we call emotionally healthy spirituality.” 

Take a few minutes to see how many of the following ten statements apply to you.

It may be time for you to quit.

1. You need the approval of others to feel good about yourself.

2. You are angry, sad or disappointed and feel guilty about it.

3. You believe you don’t have choices.

4. You do for others what they can and should do for themselves.

5. You rarely consider your own hopes and dreams because of your focus on others.

6. You say “yes when you would rather say “no.”

7. You have difficulty speaking up when you disagree or prefer something different.

8. You’re becoming a less, instead of a more, loving person.

9. You are resentful and tired because you regularly “try to do it all.”

10. You are afraid to admit your weaknesses and flaws.

If two or three apply to you, you may need to start quitting.

If four to six apply, you have a lot to quit; if you scored seven or above, your true self in Christ may be “buried alive.”

Geri says it well: Quitting goes hand in hand with choosing. When we quit those things that are damaging to our souls, we are freed up to choose ways of being that are rooted in love and lead to life — both for us and others.

I am amazed at how easy it is to be “buried alive” as a leader amidst the rubble of demands and expectations.

What might you add to that list above?  

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PETE SCAZZERO is author of Emotionally Healthy Spirituality (Nelson, 2006), a groundbreaking work on the integration of emotional health and contemplative spirituality. He has also authored The Emotionally Healthy Church (Zondervan, 2003), winner of the Gold Medallion Award for 2003, Begin the Journey with the Daily Office (2008) and several best-selling Bible study guides. Pete is the founder and senior pastor of New Life Fellowship Church in Queens, New York City, a multiracial, international church representing over 65 countries.