3 Things Your Pastor DOESN’T Need You to Do as a Children’s Ministry Leader

3 Things Your Pastor DOESN'T Need You To Do as a Children’s Ministry Leader

As children’s ministry leaders, we are asked to do a lot in our church. It is not uncommon to be asked to take on responsibilities outside our “job description.” Often we need to work across departments to help support other things going on in the church. Many times, anything we do is done with little appreciation.

It can be frustrating and discouraging. And it can be unfair. Regardless, it never—ever—gives us the right to do things poorly. Especially as our job relates to supporting our lead pastor. In fact, we need to appreciate our pastor and do all we can to encourage them

And while we do that, there are some things our pastor never needs us to do. 

3 Thing Your Pastor Doesn’t Need You to Do as a Children’s Ministry Leader

Your pastor doesn’t need you to…

1. Complain about things behind his back.

You and I are on the team to help leadership (your pastor) fulfill the vision God has given to the church through them. It’s our responsibility to publicly and privately support that vision and their leadership.

If we have a problem, we need to address it personally and privately with the pastor (or other leader). Not finding resolution for our problem/concern does not give us the right to complain.

Your pastor doesn’t need you to…

2. Require his involvement to do your job.

I constantly hear children’s ministry leaders complaining about the lack of engagement by the lead pastor (or executive pastor, or board, or…). I get it…I’ve been in those shoes. Get over it! 

You and I were hired to lead a ministry—so lead it! Yes, it’s great to have the leadership engaged with what’s going on, but let’s understand that your pastor has more than enough on his plate. Leading a church is one of the most difficult occupationsnot just in the church, but anywhere.

I choose to believe that my leader wants children’s ministry to be successful, supports my leadership, and has a heart for reaching kids, so his or her lack of engagement is probably simply because they either don’t have time or don’t know how to be engaged. Do what you can to involve leadership, but don’t make it a requirement to success in your role.

Your pastor doesn’t need you to…

3. Limit your vision because of lack of resources.

  • There are never enough volunteers.
  • We don’t have enough staff.
  • The budget isn’t big enough.
  • Our space is limited and not very nice.

Have you found yourself saying these things? If not, you’re pretty unique, because virtually every children’s ministry I’ve ever encountered has at least one of these challenges (and usually several or all of them!). But as I served in out-of-the-box/meet in the school churches all the way to state of the art, Wacky World designed ministries, I discovered something: Ministry isn’t the result of nice facilities, or a big budget, or large staff (I once was the only KidMin staff at a church of 4,000!).

Instead, ministry is the result of a compelling vision which people own and are willing to invest in. Sure, the other things are great and can certainly enhance what we do & how we do it. But they are not necessary to accomplishing a big vision. 

As I recall reading in the Gospels, 11 young men changed the world with not much more than the clothes on their back and faith in their hearts—fulfilling a God-sized vision given to them by Jesus. Perhaps we ought to start worrying less about what we don’t have and more about the vision we do have.

We all go through seasons where things seem especially challenging. I believe that children’s ministry is one of the most difficult areas in the church to lead. But it’s not the only area that’s hard.
When we join a team at a church, I believe our #1 responsibility as a team member is to do everything we can to make our leader(s) successful. That primarily is accomplished by doing our job with excellence. But it also means NOT giving in to the temptations that come with problems, lack of support or lack of resources. We usually need to pursue our role in spite of these challenges.

What else would you say your pastor doesn’t need you to do?

This article originally appeared here.

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Greg Baird
Greg Baird is a Children’s Ministry veteran with over 20 years ministry experience. Greg has had the privilege of serving in four San Diego area churches, including under the leadership of both John Maxwell and David Jeremiah. He continues to fulfill his life calling through the ministry of ChildrensMinistryLeader.com, offering an experienced voice in equipping and connecting Children’s Ministry leaders around the country and around the world.