If you wake up to the sobering reality that you’ve existed on artificial compatibility, that doesn’t mean you can’t begin to build true intimacy. True intimacy can be pursued at any stage of marriage. It would be much better for everyone involved if, instead of seeking a divorce and building yet another relationship on artificial intimacy, the couple chooses to begin building true intimacy, with God as the center of the relationship.
I can tell you this: The level of maturity it will take to rebuild a stale marriage instead of killing it and moving on can lead to some of the most transformative growth of your life. It will require hope, courage, patience, honesty, understanding and perseverance—all key virtues for a Christ-like life.
How do you start building or rebuilding that intimacy? Well, that’s what A Lifelong Love: What if Marriage Is About More than Just Staying Together? is all about. To keep this blog post under 1,000 words, all I can offer is this (to some) shocking diagnosis: If your marriage is frustrating or underwhelming, it’s possible that you haven’t even really experienced what true marital intimacy is all about. Doesn’t it make sense to first seek that out instead of just start over with someone else?
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