6. You live out of your marriage or singleness.
Your highest priority is to invest time and energy to build a healthy marriage or singleness that reveals Christ’s love to the church and the world. Why? You know the quality and integrity of your marriage or singleness is the most important gospel message you preach. It is a sign and wonder that points people to Christ.
7. You receive limits as a gift.
You have a realistic sense of your emotional, relational, physical and spiritual capacities. As a result, you regularly say “no” to requests/opportunities rather than risk overextending yourself. You are profoundly aware that your limits are a key factor in faithfully fulfilling your God-given destiny.
8. You engage in conflict maturely.
You don’t avoid difficult conversations and are able to repair relationships (as much as it is possible) when they have been ruptured. Moreover, you can state your own beliefs and values without becoming adversarial.
9. You refuse to judge the spiritual journeys of others.
You are careful to take the “log” out of your own eye first—knowing you have huge blind spots—before removing the speck in another person’s eye. And you are deeply aware to let others be themselves before God and move at their own pace.
10. You make loving others well a number one priority.
You take the time to master learning new ways of relating as a Christ-follower. For example, you learn to speak clearly, honestly and respectfully, and how to enter other people’s world by listening deeply—without having to fix, change or save them.
11. You embrace endings and losses as a fundamental way God works.
You refuse to interpret endings as signs of failure. Instead, you rest in God’s goodness and sovereignty when disoriented by and confused by loss. You know that waiting attentively on God in the midst of disorienting change is foundational to your spiritual growth.
This article about an emotionally mature Christian originally appeared here, and is used by permission.
