When It’s Okay to Not Chase Happiness in Marriage

Happiness in Marriage

I can remember being a few months into my marriage with Denisse, I said these words, “I want you to be happy. If leaving me will make you happy, then leave. It hurts, but I want you to be happy.” To a certain degree that may sound loving and sacrificial, but in reality, it’s neither. Real love seeks what’s best for the other person at all times.  

Quick side note: So thankful we serve such a loving, sacrificial God who knows our needs and always seeks out what is in our best interest.

The Bible says, breaking the marital covenant is not good.

“To the married, I give this charge (not I, but the Lord): the wife should not separate from her husband (but if she does, she should remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband), and the husband should not divorce his wife.” 

-1 Corinthians 7:10 -11

Righteousness > Happiness 

The greatest good we could do for ourselves and others is found not in “Happiness but in Righteousness.”

When we choose to do what makes us happy rather than choosing to do what’s right in God’s eyes, we find ourselves falling into a lot of confusion, depression, and we find ourselves ultimately walking through a short-lived fantasy land. – Hebrew 11:25

The encouragement I have for you today: The one thing I desire to leave you with today doesn’t encourage divorce in a selfish pursuit of happiness. Instead, encourage each other to righteousness. 

Real Biblical Love means following God’s commandments, and living righteously. 

This article originally appeared here.

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Rashawn Copeland
Rashawn Copeland is an Evangelist, Published Author, and Medical Service Officer in the United States Army. University of Central Oklahoma Graduate - Currently in Seminary at the Liberty University. Rashawn is the online campus pastor at Embrace Church Sioux Falls, SD. Married to Denisse Copeland and has a son named Jerrell Rodney Copeland.