Sex. The Good & Bad.

what does god say about sex

Here is a question we all need to be able to answer: What does God say about sex?

About a year or so ago my wife started to tell me that I needed to have “the talk” with our oldest son. Not just a talk, but the talk—about the birds and the bees, where babies come from, or as I call it, boom-shakalaka.

Needless to say, I wasn’t in a hurry to have this conversation with my son. So much so, I put it off for eight months #parenting.

But even though this was a conversation I kept avoiding because it’s kind of awkward, it was a conversation I so badly wanted to have with my son. Why? Because when it comes to the topic of sex, so many of us have a misunderstanding of what sex is all about.

And the world? With sex, the world doesn’t make things any clearer.

The #MeToo movement is happening and we’re all appalled, and rightfully so. I can’t imagine if any of these recent accounts involved my daughter. But then Hugh Hefner dies and Time Magazine gives him a commemorative issue. Am I missing something?

Yes, the topic of sex might be awkward, but it’s so important for us to think about and to be able to answer the question, “What does God say about sex?” Because whether we’re 10 years old or 60 years old, so often this area of our lives is completely out of order.

What Does God Say About Sex?

So, what does God say about sex? Here are three truths:

1. What God says is good is really good.

When it comes to sex, what God says is good is really good. And all God’s people said, Amen!

But just to be clear, what does God say is good? In Proverbs, we’re told to “share your love only with your husband/wife and to rejoice in your spouse” (Proverbs 5:15-19). And getting even more specific, we’re told to let your husband/wife be a fountain of blessing for you.

Serving each other.
Going through the good and bad of life together.
Laughing together.
Crying together.
Rejoicing in each other.

Getting a little crazy, God says “your wife is like a loving deer, a graceful doe. Let her breasts satisfy you always.” I’m not even sure what that means, but it sounds awesome.

Once more, what God says is good is really good. And God is the one who created sex, right? So He might know how to use it best.

2. What the world says is good is not good.

With sex, what the world says is good is not good.