Leadership is a journey…a journey that’s probably different than you thought it would be before you stepped into leadership.
When I was young, I always thought top leaders had it all figured out. That the uncertainty would one day disappear once I had more life and leadership under my belt.
But as you eventually learn, it doesn’t really work that way.
In fact, I think most leaders struggle more than they let on. I know personally, at one point or another, I’ve struggled in each of the areas listed below. But, at the time, because I didn’t want to tell anyone how I really felt, I kept mostly quiet.
Looking back, I realize for too long I kept far too much of it to myself.
You know what keeping it to yourself does, right?
It leaves you isolated. And the silence gives fear power—power it should never have.
Just to let you know you’re not alone, and to break the power of darkness by cracking some daylight…
here are 12 secrets most leaders won’t tell you.
1. I’M LESS SECURE THAN I APPEAR
For most leaders, the together exterior doesn’t always match the fragile interior.
Security is a journey for sure…a tough one. Most people don’t like insecure leaders. But insecurity is a trap…the more insecure you are, the more you resist telling anyone you’re insecure. And the more they dislike you.
I think the best way to start dealing with your insecurity is to admit it, and deal with it.
A counselor’s office and a safe friend are great places to start with that, by the way. So is prayer.
2. I SECRETLY WORRY I’M FAILING
Leadership is complex and involves going through seasons of unpopularity.
It also involves making tough calls that can make you feel like you’re failing. Add to that challenges at home and unresolved issues from the past, and it can get crushing at times.
The negative voices in your head can get loud, and while people online debate who’s the G.O.A.T, you secretly feel like you’re simply the goat.
3. I’M LONELIER THAN I LET ON
Isolation is a problem throughout our culture these days.
Strangely, technology has made us more connected than we’ve ever been before, yet we’ve never felt more alone.
But leadership adds a new dimension. Because leaders deal with challenges others don’t naturally understand, it gets even more lonely.
Add to that the fact that most of us who are driven type leaders don’t do relationships easily, and sometimes it’s lonelier than it needs to be.