3 Ways Leaders Can Deal With Their Shame

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Shame is a powerful and often silent killer of our soul. It has afflicted many pastors and ministry leaders.

Edward Welch, author of “Shame Interrupted” (a great book), defines shame in this way:

Shame is the deep sense that you are unacceptable because of something you did, something done to you, or something associated with you. You feel exposed and humiliated. Or, to strengthen the language, you are disgraced because you acted less than human, you were treated as if you were less than human, or you were associated with something less than human, and there are witnesses (Kindle loc 177-180).

So how do we deal with it? Here are some thoughts.

3 Ways Leaders Can Deal With Their Shame

1. Realize Where It Comes From. 

It comes from our own sin.

It comes from sins others commit against us.

It comes simply by association (i.e., someone in your family committed something scandalous and you feel stigmatized by it).

It comes from our humanness (i.e., when we realize we don’t have what it takes to achieve our goals in life; this is often true for pastors when they realize they may never pastor a big church).

2. Take Comfort in God’s Perspective.

He takes great interest in the shamed, forgotten, and marginalized (1 Cor. 1:26-28).

Jesus experienced shame for us and therefore knows it intimately (Is. 53.3).

God loves us not because of our worthiness (our perception that we have it all together) but because of his loving nature (Deut. 7:6-8).

3. Make 4 Critical Decisions.

Turn to his face in repentance.

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Charles Stonehttp://www.charlesstone.com/
As a pastor for over 43 years, Charles served as a lead pastor, associate pastor, and church planter in churches from 50 to over 1,000. He now coaches and equips pastors and teams to effectively navigate the unique challenges ministry brings. By blending biblical principles with cutting-edge brain-based practices he helps them enhance their leadership abilities, elevate their preaching/ teaching skills, and prioritize self-care. He has written 7 books, earned 5 degrees (including two doctorates) has been married for 43 years, and has 3 adult children and 4 grandchildren. For more information and to follow his blogs, visit www.charlesstone.com

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