In today’s culture, the sanctity of marriage faces increasing challenges. From rising divorce rates to the pressures of modern life, couples often find themselves struggling to maintain healthy, fulfilling relationships.
Pastors and church leaders have a unique opportunity—and responsibility—to support couples, fostering strong, Christ-centered marriages that can withstand the tests of time.
Marriage is not just a private relationship; it’s a reflection of God’s covenant with His people. A thriving marriage strengthens families, communities, and the church as a whole.
But how can churches proactively support couples and create an environment that helps marriages flourish? Here are five best practices to implement at your church.
1. Prioritize Premarital Counseling
One of the most effective ways to foster long-term marital success is by laying a strong foundation before couples say, “I do.” Premarital counseling shouldn’t be optional—it should be a requirement for couples getting married in the church. These sessions provide a critical opportunity to address key topics like communication, conflict resolution, intimacy, finances, and biblical principles for marriage.
By investing in premarital counseling, churches help couples set realistic expectations and navigate the inevitable challenges they will face. Using resources such as “Preparing for Marriage” or similar biblically-based programs can ensure couples are equipped with the tools they need to build a lasting relationship.
2. Offer Ongoing Marriage Enrichment Programs
Marriage enrichment should not stop at the altar. Just as individuals need continuous spiritual growth, marriages require ongoing nourishment. Churches can provide this by hosting regular retreats, workshops, and seminars focused on communication, intimacy, forgiveness, and unity.
These programs should be framed as essential parts of the Christian walk, encouraging couples to invest in their relationships consistently—not just when problems arise. This proactive approach helps to prevent marital breakdowns before they begin.
Through intentional work, I’ve seen the transformative impact that marriage enrichment programs can have on couples and families. By equipping churches with tools and resources, Communio empowers congregations to build a culture that supports thriving marriages and reduces divorce rates in our local communities.
3. Create Mentorship Opportunities and Support Groups
Mentorship is a powerful tool for strengthening marriages. By connecting younger couples with older, more experienced couples, churches can foster relationships that provide encouragement, wisdom, and accountability. These mentorship relationships offer couples a safe space to discuss challenges, receive prayer, and gain practical insights from those who have weathered the ups and downs of marriage.
In addition to mentorship, small support groups allow married couples to share their experiences, build community, and realize they are not alone in their struggles. These groups can focus on specific topics such as finances, parenting, or managing conflict—ensuring that couples receive tailored support for their unique needs.
4. Regularly Preach and Teach the Biblical View of Marriage
Regular teaching on the biblical model of marriage reinforces its importance within the church. Sermons, Bible studies, and discipleship programs should consistently highlight the sanctity of marriage, addressing topics like love, sacrifice, forgiveness, and commitment. Key scripture passages such as Ephesians 5:22-33 and 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 provide a strong foundation for these teachings.