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The 3 Things That Guarantee a Connection With Your Audience

The 3 Things that Guarantee a Connection with Your Audience

Every person in your audience has a personal narrative.

Your life is basically a “Choose Your Own Adventure” book. While there are parts of our lives we don’t choose, we do get to decide how we respond to life’s challenging moments, and that plays a major role in shaping our personal narrative.

Your personal narrative is the sum total of experiences you’ve had up to this point in your life. While others have influenced you and helped shape the person you’ve become, you own your narrative.

Knowing this, the fastest pathway to connect with any audience is to tap into the most common denominator: personal narrative.

The latest issue of Entrepreneur features fast-growing trends in business. And guess what’s big? SMALL businesses! Turns out that many small brands have figured out the secret to making a big name for themselves among massive retail stores.

What’s their secret?


Adam Elder writes, “The key is to tell seductive, inspiring (yet realistic!) stories that resonate, and to give customers what the biggest companies can’t: a sense that Yeah, we get you.”

That sense of “yeah, we get you” is not only great for small businesses, it’s also the best way for a storyteller to connect with an audience. The more you understand the personal narratives of your audience members, the greater chance you will have to engage them and connect your story to their life.

But how can one start to understand the personal narrative of the people listening?

Understand their world.

The small business in the Entrepreneur article did just this. As a camping equipment start-up, they realized that big brands like North Face and Patagonia promoted how their products had been tested in the rigors of Everest-type adventures. While many adventurers envision climbing a “fourteener,” the reality is that most people never camp more than a few hours from home. The camping equipment start-up tapped into the more “local” personal narrative and were able to compete with the big brands.

If you don’t know the world affecting your audience, do your homework:

Do you speak to kids? Watch a few hours of Disney XD. Volunteer in the lunchroom at a local elementary school where your kids attend. Read the books your kids are reading. Learn about their physical and mental development.

Do you speak to teens? Hop on social media platforms that scare you. Check out the shows and YouTube channels targeted at their demographic. Listen to the Apple Music or Spotify top 40 playlists—and don’t skip over the songs you don’t like.

Do you speak to leaders? Talk to them about their schedules. Skim a few books and listen to some podcasts in the genre. Authentically enter into their life and get to know the people you lead.

Make educated assumptions.

Even if your own family matches the demographic of your audience, we only know what people let us know. In other words, you can never fully know someone’s personal narrative. And because of that, you’re going to need to make some assumptions about their life.

If you assume statistics are as true for your ministry as they are in the world:

1 in 5 girls and 1 in 7 boys engage in self-harm
1 in 3 girls and 1 in 5 boys will be sexually abused before the age of 18
20 percent of people ages 18–49 suffer with some sort of mental illness

That means the people we serve might be going through something they’re keeping silent.

This doesn’t mean that we only target our messages to this part of our audience, but at the very least we need to acknowledge these struggles while we seek to connect with each person in the audience.

If you don’t know, ask.

I recently spoke to several groups of teenagers while on a missions trip in Costa Rica. The topic? Sex. That’s right. I had to craft a message for Costa Rican teenagers about one of the most difficult topics for any storyteller—let alone one living in a culture I knew nothing about.

So I asked questions about how this affects them, the pressures they face, and how other people have communicated this topic. I did some homework, and then I went to work building my message.

One of the worst things we can do as communicators is to craft a message or a story without considering the personal narratives of the audience members. Ask the questions before you get started. Do what it takes to help your story connect with the people listening.

In the end, you want to connect with your audience. You want the audience to experience that elusive “Yeah, they get me” moment where your story completely hits home and starts to impact their life.

In the “Choose Your Own Adventure” stories, I used to hate when I thought the story was going somewhere exciting only to find myself abruptly trapped beneath a boulder surrounded by hungry rattlesnakes and “The End” two pages later. I’d have go back, make a different choice, and continue the story to a more fulfilling end.

It’s the same struggle as a storyteller—you have to make a lot of choices—except you don’t get a do over once you’ve lost your audience. Will you simply deliver what you were handed in the way you feel comfortable? Or will you choose to do your homework so you can establish and keep a connection with your audience?

Choose to enter the adventure and tell better Bible stories that keep the story relevant in a person’s life long after they’ve finished listening.