#5 might change the way you pursue your spouse sexually…
5. “Let your wife be a fountain of blessing for you. Rejoice in the wife of your youth. She is a loving deer, a graceful doe. Let her breasts satisfy you always. May you always be captivated by her love.” Proverbs 5:18-19
Lifelong monogamy within marriage is the best plan for sex. God wants your sex life to be AMAZING, but it needs to be amazing with the person you married. If you start looking outside the marriage then everybody gets hurt. Think of sex like fire and marriage like a fireplace. When fire remains in the fireplace it gives off light and warmth to the entire house, but when you take fire out of the fireplace and spread it around other places, everyone gets burned!
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#6 is something many people don’t realize Jesus actually said...
6. “But I say, anyone who even looks at a woman with lust has already committed adultery with her in his heart.” Matthew 5:28
The sex (fantasy) in your mind matters as much as the sex in your bedroom. Jesus raised the bar high when it came to God’s standards for a “faithful marriage.” He taught that monogamy isn’t just physical; it needs to be mental as well. If our thought-life is X-rated, then it’s going to have a negative impact on experiencing true intimacy in marriage. We need to be “mentally monogamous” to experience all God intends for sex and marriage.
#7 reveals why sexual sin is in a category all by itself...
7. “Run from sexual sin! No other sin so clearly affects the body as this one does. For sexual immorality is a sin against your own body.” 1 Corinthians 6:18
Sexual sin* is in a category of its own because of the devastation it causes. Many have been taught that all “sin” (breaking God’s laws) are in the same category, and while all sin hurts God and people, sexual sin is in a category by itself because of the powerful, negative consequences it creates for everyone involved. The Bible says so much about sexual sin specifically to PROTECT us from the consequences. Never trade temporary pleasure for permanent regret!
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*I know this steps on a lot of toes in our modern culture, but the Bible clearly puts homosexual sex within the category of sexual sin. God LOVES all people and God sees equal value in every life, but not in every lifestyle. For more on this, you can check out my post on Gay Marriage (by clicking here).
#8 reveals a beautiful truth about overcoming past sexual regret and/or abuse...
8. “This means that anyone who belongs to Christ has become a new person. The old life is gone; a new life has begun!” 2 Corinthians 5:17
You can find healing from past sexual regrets (and/or past sexual abuse). Most of us have some kind of sexual “baggage” from our past. It may come in the form of choices we regret or brokenness over abuse we experienced. In either case, God wants to bring you healing and peace. God loves you more than you can imagine. Allow His love and grace to fill the cracks in your broken heart.
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This article about Bible verses about sex originally appeared here.
