So trust is pretty important in marriage. Some of you that are married have a decent amount of trust in your relationship. How great would it be to raise that level of trust and grow even closer in your marriage? Others of you may have little trust. How would you like to move towards restoring what is broken?
Regardless of where you are in your marriage, you can always grow in the area of trust. Trust is a vital ingredient for any healthy marriage relationship! If you are intentional about building a solid foundation of trust in your marriage, you can build a family that will impact generations to come!
Here are 5 Smart Ways to Build Trust in Your Marriage:
1. Do what you say you will do.
Pretty simple. Say you are going to be home by 6pm? Be home by 6pm! If you can hold appointments elsewhere, you should be able to hold them with the ones you care about the most. Communicate your plans and try your best to stick to them. Trust is lost when you fail to follow through I’m action hat you have committed to in word. Choose the higher road and do what you say you will do.
2. Be consistent.
Time builds trust. Consistency over time builds even more trust. If your spouse is talking with you, be consistent in the way you engage and listen. If you have messed up recently in your marriage, as many have, it is going to take time to rebuild that trust. Be patient. Time and consistency. Be consistent.
3. Put your spouse’s interest before your own.
When marriages begin to go downhill, 9 times out of 10, one or both spouses begin to put their own interest before that of their spouses. ME mentality. This selfish mindset erodes trust faster than a wild hurricane on a sandy beach. When you SHOW your spouse you care about their needs more than your own, you will earn their trust over time. And when they begin to put your interests first, guess what happens? Both of your needs are met!
4. Don’t be stupid.
Seriously, don’t be stupid. Don’t do things that you wouldn’t do if your spouse was right next to you. Don’t say things you wouldn’t say if your spouse wasn’t right next to you. Don’t look at things you wouldn’t look at with your spouse right next to you. Don’t. Be. Stupid. Don’t be stupid!
5. Get past the past.
Forgive your spouse. If you’ve been married long, there is a 99.999% chance that one or both of you have played the “stupid” card a time or two. As a result, hurts happen and are tough to heal from and leave behind. If there is anything you are still holding against your spouse, let it go. Your forgiveness for them may eventually lead them to forgive you for when you have played the “stupid” card. Ultimately, you will not be able to control what their response will be, but you must take responsibility to forgive them first. Trust is impossible without forgiveness, because none of us are without fault. Forgive. Get past the past.
Which of these areas resonates with you the most in your marriage and why? What are other ways to build trust in a marriage? Love to hear your thoughts!