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Feeding Your Spiritually Hungry Kids

Children’s story books have always amazed me. In complete simplicity, there is often a message so profound (1 Corinthians 1:27– ”But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise”). I was looking at one of the all time classic children’s books, The Very Hungry Caterpillar recently, when God began to speak to me about growth.

Kids always have an appetite for more. I always think back to this classic line from the musical film Oliver!; ”Please sir, can I have some more?”. Through the faith of a child, Oliver had an expectation for more.

As a Children’s Pastor, each week I witness kids who walk into the church hungry…hungry to learn, to be loved, encouraged, accepted and challenged. In every child there’s a hunger for more. The truth is, just like The Very Hungry Caterpillar, our children are consuming anything and everything that’s placed in their path.

As children’s leaders we must recognise:

Children consume anything within reach

The Very Hungry Caterpillar begins his journey devouring anything in sight! Young children are eating machines, they don’t care what it is, but it will soon end up in their mouth. The early years really are a crucial time for us as parents and leaders to sow the things of God into our children’s lives. Never let a week go by without challenging your kids to learn a memory verse. This can even be introduced as the child is learning to read or it can be memorised through song. What is sown at this early age will never be lost or forgotten. Also, don’t become too controlling over their development. Our kids will grow even when they consume those things which are unhealthy. As a kid I drank a lot of soft drinks (Soda). My mum would buy this stuff by the gallon. Did it stop me from growing? No, but it probably wasn’t great for my chompers… We can be certain that as we sow and as we water, that our God stimulates the growing process. God will convict, discipline and love our kids in ways we never could.

Growth occurs in the secret place

We follow the caterpillar to a place where he wraps himself up into a cocoon. Here is the place where the amazing transformation occurs! Don’t get frustrated if you’re not seeing a change in a particular child. There may be some kids in your church who may be regularly disruptive or appear disinterested. Don’t give up!  Ask the Holy Spirit for a key to release this child’s expectation. They may simply have a different learning style that you need to include as you lead from the front. We must never lost heart after those Sunday’s where you couldn’t seem to engage a particular child.  Just like the caterpillar in the cocoon, it’s former appearance is just a glimpse of what’s to come. Significant transformation occurs in the secret place, and it’s only God that can operate on the heart. We must lead our kids into a place of dependency on God, not on ourselves. It’s never our responsibility to grow the seed, that responsibility is God’s alone.

A transformed child is free to be themselves

We all know the ending to this story… What was fat, green and hairy, soon transformed into something beautiful! What used to crawl awkwardly on it’s stomach soon glided gracefully through the sky, spreading it’s wings.

We recently had our team discipleship, where we meet to worship, share and connect as a family. As we begin every discipleship in worship, I felt it was only fair on my team that we should be led by someone who could actually hold an audible tune (I’ve learnt very quickly when not to lead). So I asked our Youth Pastor if we could join with the youth team for worship before we broke off into our different rooms. He was more than happy to include our kids team, so we joined in. After the worship, with tears in his eyes, our Youth Pastor thanked each member of our team for what they’ve sown into the life of our kids. He began to share that the teens who graduate from our kids ministry stand out amongst the rest of the teens who attend their programs. He also shared that although we may not see the fruit of what we’ve sown, they do.

The truth is, that they are seeing a group of teens who have been transformed in secret. Kids who have not only gone through the outward changes of growth and development, but have clearly been transformed into a life which glorifies God.

As kids leaders we may never see the other side of a life transformed, but know this, God is at work in the heart of every child as we teach, disciple, encourage and love. Remember, our role is to keep them hungry, but in the end God transforms. If we lead, they feed. Then God does the rest in the secret place.

Gross Games in Youth Ministry Are a Great Threat

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What are gross games in youth ministry banned for this youth leader’s program? Learn the reasoning behind this no-gross policy.

A TV show that revolutionized youth ministry games was “Minute to Win it.” These types of games are simple to set up and have a predetermined amount of time. Plus, students love playing them.

The best part about those games? There’s no shame! If a student can’t win, they don’t have to walk back to their seat feeling like a loser. The games are easy enough that anyone can do them. Yet they’re hard enough that no one can really do them.

Before that, another game show sparked many youth ministry game ideas. And now that show, “Fear Factor,” is returning to television. New host Johnny Knoxville (of “Jackass” fame) replaces Joe Rogan (now of podcast fame). But I strongly urge you not to use any games related to that show.

I’m not against “Fear Factor.” I used to love watching the original version. So don’t get me wrong. I’m not saying youth pastors and kids shouldn’t watch the show.

Instead, I believe gross games in youth ministry are a huge threat.

Why I Nixed Gross Games in Youth Ministry

When I was in 7th grade, we played a youth group game with four teams on one side of the room. On the other side were four grocery bags. One at a time, one person from each team ran to the bag. Without looking, they had to reach in, pull something out, and eat it. Items ranged from a candy bar to a jar of baby food or pickled pig feet. Then students had to run back across the room.

Other gross games in youth ministry involve overeating. For example, students have to eat as many Twinkies as they can in a minute. But one Twinkie they receive is full of mayonnaise instead of cream filling.

I’m sure you’ve heard of more disgusting games. What I’ve seen, especially in middle school, is a real threat to ministry.

For a while, I had planned on writing a post about this topic. My greatest encouragement came last night after middle school youth group. Afterward, one girl came up to me and said, “Thank you for not making us play any gross games. I never came to Middle School Mayhem because the first day I went in 6th grade, I had to bob for pigs feet. I don’t feel embarrassed playing your games though.”

Already I had been committed to never playing gross games in youth ministry. Now I’m committed to alerting others . Why? I honestly believe these activities are extremely damaging to our ministry to students.

The Danger of Gross Games in Youth Ministry

1. They are damaging because of their very nature.

When we play these games and ask for a volunteer, we are asking for someone to come up and be laughed at while they get very uncomfortable. No community-building is happening, except for a community of students laughing at the contestant.

For already-shy kids, this can be an extremely painful experience. As my student expressed last night, it might make them not even want to attend youth group.

2. They perpetuate the myth that youth ministry is just a bunch of silly games.

A lot of students at our church don’t come to our youth group. I’m working on boosting involvement. But I know one thing that has kept them out is the image of “Just fun and games” of many programs.

If I sent my own child, who returned and said “I don’t feel well, we played dodgeball with fish tonight”? Then I’m not sure I’m ever letting my kid return.

Call me crazy, but I just don’t see any benefit to playing disgusting games. I’d love to hear one if you have one. But for me, gross games in youth ministry serve as nothing but a threat to real ministry. In our program, we will never play them.

What are your thoughts about playing gross games in youth ministry? Do they have any role, or have you banished them, and why?

Youth Ministry Vision and Purpose Provides a Why

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Youth ministry vision and purpose provide big-picture context to your program. Without knowing the why behind your plans, the details about what and how won’t matter.

I recently read the book Start With Why by Simone Sinek. The focus of is in the title. People care more about why you do something than what you do or how you do it. So why don’t we start by asking why before we create another ineffective program?

I used to think that if I told kids what we did (events, fun, concerts, etc.) and how we did it ( with energy, lots of give aways, food, big crowds), they would be sold. They’d come to the event and then stick around for a while.

Had I stuck to that premise only, I would have left youth ministry long ago. The what and the how no longer excite me. But the why still keeps me going. That’s where youth ministry vision and purpose come in.

The Why: Youth Ministry Vision and Purpose

I think most kids know I don’t do youth ministry for money, fame, and glory…because there isn’t any. They stuck around because I care about them, hang out with them, share the truth with them, and sometimes discipline them.

Teens figured out that the why undercurrent of my life—my youth ministry vision and purpose—is to see them become dedicated followers of Christ. They know I’ll never give up on them.

This doesn’t mean my why was faultless. Sometimes I’d slip, focusing on what we do and how we do it. Sometimes I didn’t do relationships well, but the kids hung around anyway, God bless ’em.

So, how do we take the translate the meaninglessness out of our what and how of youth ministry? Instead of an invitation tag line or bumper for the next video of a  program we’re pushing, what compelling story or mission can be share?

An Example of Youth Ministry Vision and Purpose

Recently I rethought our worship band. Below is my why, what, and how of our youth band. I recently sent this information to our band leader.

Why do we have a band? This is purely philosophical. Yet if we can’t answer the why then the what and the how don’t matter. Why do we have a band?

  • It lets young people use their talents to glorify God rather than be spectators.
  • Young people need peers to model what worship is. 
  • When we create an atmosphere of worship with the best we have and lift God high, students will step out in faith and worship God in the fullness of the Spirit. 

Simple right? This is what the band will do.

1. Practice become worship leaders to their peers to the throne room of God, in band practice.
2. Grow deeper in their individual walk with God because of their commitment to worship
3. Become the best they can be at their instrument and vocals.

More simple, right? This is how we’re going to do it. We will…

  • Expect kids to be at practice and on time. Let’s have a few weeks of grace but the rule in the past is: If you don’t practice with the band, you do not play with the band that following week.
  • Create an environment of innovation. No idea is too crazy, no song to stupid, no combination of instruments too ludicrous. In other words, if they have an idea, let them share it, weigh it against the feedback of the rest of the band and what you think; and if it is doable, run with it. This means if someone has a solo, either instrumentally or vocally let’s figure out how to fit that in (special, offering, communion, closing, etc.)
  • Mentor and challenge kids to step up. Don’t let talented kids hide. Encourage them to step out. Really focus on certain kids to be lead worshippers.
  • We’ll bang the drum in all these areas. We will say it, write it, practice it, show it, paint it, sing it, or any other method that will keep our why at the forefront.
  • We will start each practice with a short devotion about worship. It will include interactive (open-ended) questions. We’ll let kids struggle to answer ”What does this mean for me personally?” “What does this mean for us as a band and a youth ministry?”
  • Recruit fantastic musicians and singers, from inside and outside the church, to mentor our kids in their instruments and vocals.

That process took me 15 minutes to complete. Feel free to use it, rework it to make it your own, or come up with something else. Just take time to ensure that youth ministry vision and purpose permeate your program.

Eugene Peterson: Would Jesus Condemn Rob Bell?

It was a pleasure to speak with the sagely Eugene Peterson at a consultation on Faith and Technology this past weekend. Peterson is best known for his ordinary-language translation of the Bible, called The Message, which has sold millions of copies, but he is also renowned for his many works on discipleship and spiritual theology.  He is the Professor Emeritus of Spiritual Theology at Regent College.

I spoke with Mr. Peterson about his memoir, The Pastor, and I look forward to publishing those comments.  But I also asked him — for our book feature on Love Wins — about the “Hellgate” controversy.  Peterson wrote a blurb for the back of the book that says, “It isn’t easy to develop a biblical imagination that takes in the comprehensive and eternal work of Christ…Rob Bell goes a long way in helping us acquire just such an imagination — without a trace of the soft sentimentality and without compromising an inch of evangelical conviction.”

What are your thoughts regarding Rob Bell’s book and the controversy it ignited?  What inspired you to endorse the book?

Rob Bell and anyone else who is baptized is my brother or my sister.  We have different ways of looking at things, but we are all a part of the kingdom of God.  And I don’t think that brothers and sisters in the kingdom of God should fight.  I think that’s bad family manners.

I don’t agree with everything Rob Bell says.  But I think they’re worth saying.  I think he puts a voice into the whole evangelical world which, if people will listen to it, will put you on your guard against judging people too quickly, making rapid dogmatic judgments on people.  I don’t like it when people use hell and the wrath of God as weaponry against one another.

I knew that people would jump on me for writing the endorsement.  I wrote the endorsement because I would like people to listen to him.  He may not be right.  But he’s doing something worth doing.  There’s so much polarization in the evangelical church that it’s a true scandal.  We’ve got to learn how to talk to each other and listen to each other in a civil way.

Do evangelicals need to reexamine our doctrines of hell and damnation?

Yes, I guess I do think they ought to reexamine.  They ought to be a good bit more biblical, not taking things out of context.

But the people who are against Rob Bell are not going to reexamine anything.  They have a litmus test for who is a Christian and who is not.  But that’s not what it means to live in community.

Luther said that we should read the entire Bible in terms of what drives toward Christ.  Everything has to be interpreted through Christ.  Well, if you do that, you’re going to end up with this religion of grace and forgiveness.  The only people Jesus threatens are the Pharisees.  But everybody else gets pretty generous treatment.  There’s very little Christ, very little Jesus, in these people who are fighting Rob Bell.

Microphones in Worship: Drums

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The proper selection and position of microphones in worship is the basis for building a solid mix around your drummer. If you start with these basics, you will have a foundation upon which you can begin to layer the rest of the band.

Microphones in Worship: Drums

Microphone selection

This is a very subjective area, and every engineer (and drummer) has his or her preferences. Here is a list of commonly used mics and their applications, not in any particular order.

Kick Drum: AKG D-112E, or the earlier D-12E. Electrovoice RE-20, Beyer M-88, Sennheiser MD-421U, Shure Beta-52, Shure SM-91(regular or beta versions), Audio Technica AT-4060.
Snare Drum: Shure SM-57, or SM-56 (same as 57 but has tilt mount), Audio Technica AT-4053, Audix D-3, AKG D-1000E.
Toms: Sennheiser MD-421U, Sennheiser E-604, Shure SM 98 (or 98-A), AKG 408, Ramsa S-5, Audio Technica AT-4053
Overheads-Hi Hat Shure SM-81, AKG 451, or 460, Audio Technica AT-4051.

RELATED: EVERYTHING you Need to Know About Church Microphones

Placement of Microphones in Worship

Now let’s talk placement. These would be starting places, but actual placement would depend on how it SOUNDS, not how it looks. And you also have to take into account the comfort for the drummer (as big mics can be intimidating to relaxed playing), and what kind of kit is set up, what kind of stands you are using, etc.

Kick

If there is a hole cut into the front bass drum head, then the mic is inserted about 2″ inside the hole and aimed just off center to the beater. If there is no front head, then place the mic inside the drum about 1 foot in front of the strike head, again aimed just off center. Personally, I have had good luck with an AKG D-112E or EV RE-20 at the hole and a Shure SM-57 placed inside, mixing the two mics together.

Snare

For live sound, I generally don’t mic the bottom of the snare, so let’s talk about top snare placement. With a Shure SM-57, I place it over the snare, next to the mounted tom, almost flat across the drum head, angled down slightly, with the capsule about 1 inch over the head. Any more, and it will get damaged by a stick hit.

If you find it necessary to use a bottom snare drum mic, feel free to. Some guys like it to get extra buzz from the snare strainer or even a different midrange tone. I suggest that you place it under the snare drum, aimed up at the drum at an angle, about 6 inches away from the drum. Keep in mind that this is just a starting place, and you will have to experiment. Make sure you put this mic out of phase if you are using it in addition to a top snare mic.

Toms

Similar to snare micing, only with more of an angle perpendicular to the floor (or head). Even if I have concert toms, I do not mic from the bottom or inside, as there can be problems picking up all of the audio from floor monitors.

Overheads

Up over the cymbals, left and right (I use two), on stage right between the ride cymbal and 1st crash aimed a little towards the other cymbals upstage. On stage left, over the 1st crash, aimed a little towards the other cymbals upstage.

Hi-Hat

Over the hat almost perpendicular to the floor but aimed upstage a bit.

There’s more than placement to microphones in worship – see Page Two . . . 

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