So be the adult who does. And when you do, spend time doing something with them.
If you really want to know what’s on their mind, don’t sit down for a face-to-face conversation. Take them to the mall. Shoot baskets. Go on a walk together. Middle schoolers will feel more comfortable and known if they get to talk while doing something with you, even if it’s silly or mundane.
Then listen. Ask questions, where it’s appropriate. But mostly, listen to them. You might be surprised how ready they are to talk, if you show you’re ready to pay attention.
You might also be surprised at the seriousness and gravity of some of their questions and thoughts. Of course, they will likely share some random things. They’re just beginning to think abstractly about themselves and their world, but this is the age where their faith can really become their own.
So go find a middle schooler. Ask them some questions. Listen to what they say and earn the right to be heard later on. And if they give you the chance, make sure they know just how much God loves them.
The hope and truth you speak into their lives at this age might help God save them a lot of heartache later. And I think you’ll discover that talking to middle schoolers is fun.
