More Messages Teens Need To Hear
4. No.
In Generation iY, Tim Elmore paints a startling picture of today’s teens. He says this generation is spoiled. On one hand, their parents are usually overprotective and hovering. On the other, they’re afraid to set clear boundaries, deny their kids’ requests, and simply say no.
Teens need boundaries and rules. They need to hear you say no. As a youth leader, it’s important to remember that you aren’t their buddy or BFF. You’re their leader. Kids follow you, not the other way around. So set boundaries! Then lovingly say no when teens cross them. You may feel as if you’re hurting kids by saying no. But in the end, it will be better for them…and for you.
5. Hang in there, and don’t quit!
Barnabas is the best example of an encourager in the Bible. What strikes me about him encouraging young believers is his message to them:
…strengthening the disciples and encouraging them to remain true to the faith. “We must go through many hardships to enter the kingdom of God,” they said. (Acts 14:22, NIV)
Sending encouragement doesn’t mean telling kids everything will be okay, things will look better tomorrow, or other people have it way worse. Barnabas encouraged young believers by telling them the truth: Struggles and trials are part of life as a Christian. So hang in there, and don’t give up. And, I’d like to add, you’re not alone. All teens need to hear those words!
Being a teenager has never been easy, and it sure isn’t nowadays. Teens need our support and encouragement, both in their everyday struggles and in their faith. But let’s encourage them with truth, not platitudes. Through our words, let’s help kids live in love and believe in Jesus boldly.
Can you think of other messages teens need to hear from adults? How do you encourage and affirm young people?
