Teens new to the dating world desperately need biblical advice. As a youth minister, do you share signs from God that he is not the one? Or warnings that she isn’t cut out to be a godly spouse?
Awhile back, I outlined signs that your dating partner may be the one to settle down with and marry. So I want to follow up with a post outlining the opposite. What are some signs from God that he is not the one? How can you tell if your girlfriend isn’t marriage material?
These days, more marriages end in divorce than stay intact for life. So young people must be sure that who they’re committing their life to is someone they can spend the rest of their life with.
Marriage is a big deal to God, regardless of what society has made it. So check out these signs from God that he is not the one (or she is not the one). Then share them with your youth group students!
4 Signs From God That He Is Not the One
1. You don’t see eye to eye spiritually.
This is the biggy. Remember that warning in 2 Corinthians 6 about being unequally yoked? Paul meant what he said!
The priorities, challenges, temptations, battles, and loves of a believer and a nonbeliever make it very difficult to marry someone outside the Christian faith. When the first big storm of marriage comes, it’s important that you see eye to eye on Who can help fix it.
Many marriages end because people don’t get this right. So encourage kids to be careful. (Note: If you are married to a nonbeliever, there is still hope. Don’t give up!)
2. You aren’t best friends.
One of the biggest reasons I married my wife is because she was my best friend. So I knew when I married her that we clicked socially and relationally.
It’s in those friend moments that we know we’ve made the right choice. Is sex good? Yes! Is friendship the glue for the relationship? Definitely.
Make sure you’re best friends with him or her. Then marriage will be a lot more fun.