4. Be unfailingly kind.
Being a leader doesn’t equal being harsh, judgmental or mean. Even when you disagree with people, even when you have to make decisions that don’t have the majority’s support, be kind. You can say no to people without making it personal. You can give negative feedback without being harsh. And you can oppose someone and still be cordial.
Don’t make fun of people, talk behind their backs ot humiliate them in front of others. Respect them and treat them with kindness, even when you disagree or when they’re acting stupid. Show love and grace in all your contact with other people. Treat them as Jesus would have treated them.
5. Put others first.
In 2012, lots of buzz spread about the shameful actions of the captain of the Costa Concordia. When his cruise ship ran aground in Italy, Captain Schettino allegedly abandoned ship long before all passengers were evacuated. Even after a direct order from the coast guard, he refused to reboard.
As a leader, you have to put the interests of others first. You’re the captain; you don’t just abandon ship when disaster strikes. The safety and well-being of “passengers” is your first priority. But even when you’re in calm waters, you protect your crew and passengers first and foremost. You don’t do anything that could possibly harm them.
In youth ministry terms, commanding respect means making decisions that are beneficial to your leaders, volunteers, and youth. But it also means changing your perspective and your language from “I” to “we.” Take a team approach and talk about “us” and “we” instead of just yourself.
Invest in great relationships with your team but not because that benefits you. Instead, do it out of genuine interest in who your teammates are.
How are you commanding respect as a leader? Would you add anything to this list?
