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12 Ways to Make a Child Feel Like a Million Bucks


Whether you are a Sunday School teacher, a children’s pastor or volunteer, or just someone who wants to make an eternal difference in the life of a child, here are a dozen ways to make a child feel valued.

#1 – Give them a COMPLIMENT.
Everyone enjoys hearing something nice about themselves, especially kids. Most of the time, they probably need to hear something good about themselves.

#2 – Send them a POSTCARD.
Kids absolutely love getting mail. In a kid’s world, only adults get mail, so it’s a big deal when something comes with their name on it.

#3 – Use their NAME.
Nothing is so sweet to hear as the sound of one’s own name. You can only call a kid “buddy” or “sweetheart” so many times before they catch on.

#4 – Make your first words VALUABLE.
Talking negatively toward a child will not get you far if you’ve not first invested into them positively. Establish a relationship before trying to enforce rules.

#5 – Kneel to their EYE LEVEL.
Getting down on their level speaks volumes about how much you care. It’s a big deal when an adult intentionally speaks to a child eye to eye.

#6 – Ask them about their WEEK.
Kids have a life too. Show you care by finding out about it. You might be surprised what you learn.

#7 – PRAY with them.
When you ask a child what you can pray with them about, you are opening a door of spiritual influence. Every kid has something they will let you pray for, if you’ll ask.

#8 – Remember their BIRTHDAY.
Kids remember you when you remember their birthday. Remember, it’s the most important day of their year to a kid.

#9 – Go to their ACTIVITIES.
Whether they invite you to their party, their ball game or anything else, it’s because they want you there. Your presence is a present in and of itself.

#10 – Take them OUT TO EAT.
Every kid loves to go out to eat, and every kid has a favorite restaurant. Take them out to eat for no specific reason and watch their face glow.

#11 – Visit them in their HOME.
There’s something magical that happens when kids who you invest into at church see you standing on the doorstep of their home. It speaks value to them.

#12 – Invest in them PERSONALLY.
Kids don’t care how much you know until they know how much you care. Let them know that they are more than just a number in a class to you.

P.D. James said this: “What a child doesn’t receive he can seldom later give.”

Remember that what you invest today will yield a harvest tomorrow. If kids are made to feel valued today, they’re going to pay it forward one day into the lives of others.

Of the 12 ways listed above, which one is your favorite, or the one you feel you’re the best at? What would you add to the list? I’d love to hear your feedback by you leaving a comment.  

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Andrew is a husband, the father of four awesome kids, and a children's pastor at a thriving church. He is passionate about intentional parenting and helping other parents and leaders effectively reach the next generation. He blogs about kids and family at https://godlyparent.com/, and provides proven resources for VBS and children's ministry at KidzBlast.com.