Did you know there are sins that can cripple every marriage?
Yes. There are.
You realize there are no perfect marriages because there are no perfect people.
Let me repeat that.
There are no perfect marriages because there are no perfect people.
Every marriage will have seasons that are more difficult than others. I often encounter couples in our church who think they are unique. Because we tend to put on our happy faces at church, they believe theirs is the only marriage in a bad season.
In fact, I’m convinced not understanding how many couples have weathered through these rocky places in marriage may be a reason many couples give up on their marriage. If they understood how normal they are they might be more willing to raise the white flag—ask for help—and work to restore the marriage.
I have observed over the years that there are some issues in marriages, which, if not addressed, can be crippling to the marriage. These are the “biggies.” They may manifest themselves in other ways, but if you could trace back to the origin, you would find these to be at fault.
And let’s not sugarcoat. They are sins. And we have all sinned. And we all sin. Every marriage is comprised of two sinners.
And this is the real reason there are no perfect marriages.
Left to fester on their own, these sins will eventually be the destroyer of the marriage or certainly keep it from achieving the oneness God commanded.
So, what are these damaging sins? I’m glad you asked.
Here are seven damaging sins that can cripple every marriage:
Selfishness—Marriage won’t work without mutual submission. Read Ephesians 5:21. Marriage is not a 50/50 arrangement. Ideally it’s to be a 100/100 bond—where both spouses willingly yield their all. (And I used the word ideal, because your marriage is not there and neither is mine.) When one spouse demands their way or will never work toward a compromise, the relationship can never be all it should be. One person is happy—the one who got their way—the other is miserable.
Discontentment—I’ve said before—boredom is perhaps the number one destroyer of marriage. There will be seasons in every relationship that aren’t as “exciting” as others. Some days you will “feel” more in love than other days. But the key to a long-term relationship is a commitment beyond emotion.