Pride—When one spouse can never admit they are wrong or see their own flaws, it opens the door for a wedge of bitterness in the other spouse. Pride is also destructive when the couple is too proud to admit their struggles or get the help they need.
Unforgiveness—Holding on to past hurts not only damages the marriage bond, it destroys the person who refuses to forgive. Trust can’t be developed until forgiveness is granted. And isn’t grace received expected to be extended?
Anger—The Scripture is clear—we should not go to bed in anger. And there is a reason. Anger is a wedge—one which only grows wider when not dealt with over time.
Complacency—As soon as you think your marriage is above the problems of other relationships, you’re in trouble. The enemy loves to attack the unaware.
Coveting—Couples who compare themselves to other couples will almost always be disappointed. There will always be people with more—and it likely isn’t making them as happy as you think it does. And, keep in mind, many times people disguise their struggles well. The couple you think has it all may wish they had what you have. Every couple is unique. Comparison only leads to frustration.
Ask yourself this question: Which of these is most prevalent in my marriage today? Which is causing the greatest harm? Which of these, while it may not be an issue today, could be if we don’t get serious about it soon?
Be honest with yourself—and ultimately—with your spouse.