Why Doesn’t God Answer All My Prayers? Because Some of Them Are Stupid

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God doesn’t do stupid things.

No matter how many times we say “please.” No matter how much faith we have. No matter how hard we pray.

He does strange things. Hard-to-understand things. Even things that can seem totally messed up and cruel from our limited vantage point.

But he never does stupid things.

Why Doesn’t God Answer My Prayers?

I’ve come to believe that the main reason for my unanswered prayers is that I keep praying stupid prayers, asking God to do stupid things.

I can hear some objections already. “There are no stupid prayers!” But there are. I know. I’ve prayed some.

In fact, Jesus introduced the Lord’s Prayer by telling the disciples not to pray stupid prayers like the hypocrites and pagans do (Matthew 5:6-7).

People regularly ask God for stupid things.

  • “Help me win the lottery.”
  • “Bring my cheating boyfriend back to me.”
  • “Help me lose weight while I eat whatever I want and never exercise.”
  • “Bless me now, even though I’ve been ignoring you for years.”
  • “Make me smart enough to pass the test I didn’t study for.”
  • “Give me a bigger ministry than the church down the street.”

Then we get mad when God says “no” to our stupid prayers. Sincere, but stupid.

(This post only answers one side of the unanswered prayer issue. I address the other, more painful, side in my next post, ‘Why Doesn’t God Answer My Non-Stupid Prayers?‘)

Start with Pre-Approved Prayers

Prayer may be the most overlooked aspect of Christian life and pastoral ministry. Even though we know it’s the most important.

We need to become better pray-ers. But how?

Start with prayers God has already said he’ll answer.

Take a look at the Lord’s Prayer, for example. What if we practiced being better pray-ers by praying…

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Karl Vaters
Karl Vaters is the author of The Grasshopper Myth: Big Churches, Small Churches and the Small Thinking That Divides Us. He’s been in pastoral ministry for over 30 years and has been the lead pastor of Cornerstone Christian Fellowship in Fountain Valley, California for over 20 years. He’s also the founder of NewSmallChurch.com, a blog that encourages, connects and equips innovative Small Church pastors