There are seven lies Christians believe about sex. Things aren’t always what they seem. Think of Prince Hans in Frozen. He comes across as a charming, trustworthy guy, then pulls an Okie-Doke on Anna and leaves her for dead. Total jerk move.
I’m not proud of it, but I threw a couch pillow at the TV the first time I saw that scene. My wife looked at me like I’d lost my mind. Maybe I had. No regrets.
Hollywood uses this “Prince Hans Principle” all the time: paint a character one way and then drop the twist. But Hollywood doesn’t own that playbook. Life works the same way. People, ideas, and even beliefs aren’t always what they appear to be.
If you grew up in Christian culture, the “Prince Hans Principle” especially applies to sex. I still remember the first time someone told me sex was a gift from God. I didn’t know whether to be offended for God or cry because they might be right. Over time, through conversations and Scripture, I realized it actually is a gift.
That realization shifted everything. I had spent years seeing sex as something dirty, borrowed from Satan for the sake of procreation. Getting to the truth took time and it took unlearning a lot of lies—some from church culture, some from friends, some from movies.
7 Lies Christians Believe About Sex
Lie #1: Sex is dirty, nasty and only useful for procreation.
Many Christians treat sex like the awkward relative at family gatherings—necessary but unwelcome. Something we tolerate rather than enjoy.
But Scripture is clear: sex is a gift. A good gift. A gift meant to be enjoyed within the covenant of marriage. What if the church actually taught that? What if we discipled single adults toward anticipation instead of shame? What if we encouraged married couples to explore and enjoy the gift God created?
We might just see excitement and honesty grow where silence and confusion once lived.
Lie #2: Casual sex is fun and innocent because everyone is doing it.
In our culture, sex has been downgraded to a recreational hobby—on par with golf or whitewater rafting. Fun, sure. But stripped of mystery, depth, and covenant.
God designed sex to bind two people physically, emotionally, and spiritually. Nothing about that is casual. Until we reclaim the weight and wonder of sex, marriages will keep suffering from shallow expectations and cultural shortcuts.
Lie #3: It’s fine to have sex if I’m “in love.”
As my tenth-grade history teacher once said, “Love isn’t something you fall in and out of. It’s a decision.” At the time, I thought he was clueless. Turns out, he wasn’t.
Infatuation isn’t love. And sex was never designed for two people who feel “in love” for a season. It was designed for a husband and wife committed for life. If you’re truly in love, marriage is the next step. If you aren’t at a place where marriage is possible, trust God’s timing.
Sex outside of God’s design always carries brokenness with it—not because God is cruel, but because we’re using a powerful gift in a way it was never intended.
