This post is written to my pastor’s wife. She is my wife.
It could be to anyone married to a pastor. It’s hard work.
In fact, I’ve said this before, but the spouse of the pastor may be the most difficult job in the church at times.
But, this one is to my wife. (You’re welcome to read along.)
I’ve also said this before—I have the perfect pastor’s wife. Younger pastor’s wives, if you want to learn how to do it, I’d submit my wife as an example.
Three years ago we ventured out—again—this time into church revitalization. Church planting was hard—God allowed us to be part of two plants—and this would prove to be our toughest assignment. And there have been many in our years together. Some days, especially early when change seemed rapid, Cheryl came home in tears many Sundays because people took the emotions of change out on her instead of me. (I’ve never understood that cowardly move, but it happens.)
Yet, God’s been faithful and Cheryl has been faithful. And, for the overwhelming portion of people, the church has been faithful. I couldn’t have done what I’ve been called to do without all of them.
But, second only to God, Cheryl deserves my applauds. Not that she’d ever expect it. That’s one of the reasons she’s so great—she just faithfully loves and serves others—but because it’s right for me to honor her. And I have this public opportunity, so here goes.
Cheryl, here are 10 “Thank yous” to the pastor’s wife:
Thank you for following me where God leads me—without complaining, or resisting, or refusing to move even though life was very comfortable where we were and the future looked very uncertain where we were going. Truth is, you are usually ready to walk by faith before I am. What a blessing!
Thank you keeping confidences. Thank you for biting your tongue when someone complains or criticizes unjustly. Thank you for knowing more “junk” than most people should, and never sharing it with anyone, yet being my closest confidant.
Thank you for being my biggest encouragement and never making the church wonder where your support is. Even when the message stinks, you pretend it is wonderful! Even if you think I’m doing wrong, your message to others is one of support.