Your Pastor Wants This More Than a Pastoral Care Committee

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Pastoral care committees are great, but what if I told you there is something besides care baskets and pastor appreciation speeches that will keep your pastor going year after year?

A pastor’s visits one week included these two. The first was to a home where all was well. Ryan and Steph were prosperous; the home was pleasant; a good car sat on the driveway; the children were being educated in expensive schools; their manners were good; talent abounded.

The second was to a single mum. Nicole had been abandoned some years before by an abusive husband; she was bringing up Dan and Jim, two very difficult boys, alone; and she herself struggled with serious and persistent health troubles.

The pastor went away downcast and discouraged after one visit, thrilled and energised after the other. But which was which?

Pastoral Care and Spiritual Fruit

That pastor was me (although I have changed the names). Which visit cheered me more? I remember well. I came home from the first—where everything was “fine”—deeply depressed; and from the second walking on air. How come?

Ryan and Steph conformed outwardly to Christian beliefs, but showed no sense of deep heart work, no feeling that they really wanted to be wholehearted disciples of Jesus—in a word, no evidence of real repentance and lively faith. But, in the second, although the problems were crushing—and I did feel the pain of them—in Nicole’s heart there was a joy in the Lord Jesus, a quiet determination to walk with him through whatever life had in store, and a gritty and very real trust.

The very best thing you can do for your pastor, and I for mine, is to repent daily of sin and trust afresh daily in Jesus. To be honest, if you and I do this—together with our committed belonging—even if we are terrible at looking after our pastors in other ways, they will probably keep on pastoring year after year.

Walking in the Truth With Pastoral Care

In the short letters we call 2 John and 3 John, the elderly apostle John writes twice about the joy that comes to a pastor’s heart when they hear this kind of news:

“It has given me great joy to find some of your children [that is, members of your church] walking in the truth.” 2 John v 4

“It gave me great joy when some believers came and testified about your faithfulness to the truth, telling how you continue to walk in it. I have no greater joy than to hear that my children [men and women under my pastoral care] are walking in the truth.” 3 John v 3-4

To “walk in the truth” means much the same as to “walk in the light” (1 John 1 v 7). This does not, of course, mean achieving sinless perfection. Rather, it means a regular confession and repentance, so that the direction of our lives keeps turning back towards God’s law and God’s ways. And it means a clear and fresh trust that Jesus saves us from our sins.

The very best thing you can do for your pastor is to repent daily of sin and trust afresh daily in Jesus.

John makes all this clear in 1 John 1 v 5 – 2 v 2. This gives a pastor joy because it’s the reason they came into pastoral ministry. Whatever work they may have left behind them, they became a pastor because they dream and yearn and long that men and women should bring honour to God by walking in the truth, by following Jesus with fresh faith and honest repentance, as they themselves seek to do. If men and women are doing this under their ministry, they can wake up in the morning and get out of bed with a spring in their step. Nothing so drains a pastor of vital energy as having to preach to, having to go on praying for, having to try to lead and care for men and women who are impervious to the good news of God’s grace. Hardness of heart is the great pastor-killer.


This article about pastoral care is an excerpt from The Book Your Pastor Wishes You Would Read. The truth is, often we think, “What can my pastor do for me?” Far less often do we think, “What can I do for my pastor?” Christopher Ash is the author The Book Your Pastor Wishes You Would Read (but is too embarrassed to ask), a warm, practical book that helps us to see that if we want a joy-filled church, we need to have a cared-for pastor.

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Christopher Ash
Christopher Ash has been a pastor, and is now an author and writer-in-residence at Tyndale House, Cambridge. He was Director of the Proclamation Trust’s Cornhill Training Course from 2004-2015. He is married to Carolyn and they have four children and five grandchildren.