The intention of this post is for my readers to give me resolutions, based off of their experiential knowledge and contextual insight, on how to manage their relationship with their senior pastor.
I need perspective on HOW youth pastors and senior pastors can get on the same page. I am constantly getting the questions like: How do I get my senior pastor on board? What do you do when a youth pastor and senior pastor come out of alignment?
WHY I think the breed of youth pastors don’t naturally drift toward their senior pastor:
- personality differences
- different ministry strategy
- gives lip service
- makes slow decisions
- misaligned mission and vision
- steeped too heavily in traditional and denominational values
- too old, out of touch and irrelevant
- no vision
- lack of commitment
- difference in minor theological convictions
- not a great work ethic
- simply not around—not physically present in the church office
- lack of trust
- poor communication skills
- no desire to try something new
- financially doesn’t support youth ministry
My working list that describes HOW youth pastors can have a decent Kingdom-minded relationship with their senior pastor:
– Do your homework before getting hired. Make sure the senior pastor shares the same ministry strategy and he/she energizes and inspires you. Ask the question: Would I be able to hang out with him/her outside of church?
– Get a team of parents and adults that function as the youth ministry elder board and begin to dream and envision what the student ministry should look like. This board/team will be directly responsible and accountable to communicate what God is doing in the youth ministry. It would be wise to recruit a parent/adult that the senior pastor already respects and you already like and work well with.
– Read a book together and start a conversation. For example: THINK ORANGE, Orange Leader Handbook and Inside the Mind of Youth Pastors (part II). The beauty about Orange is that it highly advocates for staff synergy and compatibility, and forces everyone to have one end in mind. Orange is like a church chiropractor—Orange is all about adjustment and alignment. The first part of Mark’s book talks about how to hire the right youth pastor, and the second part of the book describes the dynamics of the youth pastor and senior pastor relationship.
– Improve your interpersonal relationship by spending time together by you asking questions and just listening. One great move on how to improve your interpersonal relationship is to meet weekly, bi-weekly and/or monthly so you can organically just get to know each other.
– Plan a pastoral retreat that solely focuses on relationships and team building
– Pray for your senior pastor
– Play to your senior pastor’s strengths
– Invite a third party consultant—possibly another senior pastor or senior leader your senior pastor respects, trusts and admires
– Invite senior leadership to ALL youth events, retreats, programs and outings and ask them what they think