Speaker, author and Gather25 founder Jennie Allen is known for inspiring others to live out their faith. Recently, she turned her attention to modern dating, offering candid encouragement—and a reality check—for adults navigating relationships today.
“Get less picky about the unimportant things,” Allen said.
Jennie Allen Says Dating in 2026 Is the ‘Worst’
The host of “The Jennie Allen Podcast” regularly addresses both deep and everyday topics, including mental health, feeling stuck, decision-making, and church hurt. She recently tackled another emotionally charged subject filled with twists, disappointments and hope: dating.
“Dating is crap today,” Allen admitted.
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While The New York Times reports that “sports and physical activity are the hot new way to meet a mate,” Allen suggested Christians are searching for something deeper than the latest “social currency for connection.”
“I am so sorry for how you’re having to date,” Allen said, offering pointed advice to singles—both “guys” and “girls.”
Finding genuine, wholesome relationships has become increasingly difficult. Dating apps, organized “speed-dating” events, and church or community events often leave singles discouraged and still single.
“Guys, ask girls out,” Allen advised. “Go on lots of dates. Treat them amazing because the end game is a wife that you respect, that is your best friend, that you love. And, you’re not getting there by sleeping around. So stop it.”
One commenter, Pete, echoed the call for intentionality.
“Make it clear to date exclusively!” Pete said. “This world is normalising to go on dates for the sake of dating. Be intentional about one person and commit.”
“Girls, say ‘yes’ to guys that you’re not attracted to. Just say ‘yes’ to them,” Allen said. “Say ‘yes’ and see because the reality is everybody is getting older. Everybody is not gonna be attractive one day. What you want is a person of character that is your best friend and that you can do life together as a team.”
A user named Maisie questioned that perspective, asking, “Why shouldn’t my attraction to a man factor in? I know attraction isn’t everything, but it certainly isn’t nothing.”
Allen concluded her advice by urging singles to “get less picky about the unimportant things and way more picky about the important things.”
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