When discussions occur about looking for a spouse, there is an emphasis that is usually placed on compatibility. After all, who would want to be married to someone who is significantly different personality-wise? But when it comes to looking for a spouse could there be a chance that we might be overplaying the importance of finding someone who aligns with us on virtually everything? In the following video, Jefferson and Alysa Bethke speak to this interesting subject.
Here is a compelling question: Do we need to be compatible with our partner before we marry them? Jefferson is convinced that what keeps a marriage together is not our idealistic or romantic notions of marriage, but actually our commitment to the marriage. When we believe that marriage is a covenant that we make before God, then we can make it work with anyone, regardless of incompatibility. This DOES NOT, however, mean that we are to be unwise with whom we marry.