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29 Mistakes Churches Make With Money

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To wrap up this series on churches and money, I recently connected with my team at The Unstuck Group to find out what they’ve observed with money mistakes. My plan was to write a “Top 10” list, but the hits kept coming.

Here are 29 mistakes we’ve found churches make with money:

  1. Budgeting on faith rather than past performance. Faith budgets usually lead to frustration when the giving doesn’t come in and budget cuts are the last resort. We’d much rather see a church budget based on previous giving trends.
  2. Taking on too much debt. We’ve seen churches take on debt as much as six times their annual giving. The mortgage payments left very little room for paying staff and expanding ministry. Any level of debt below two times annual giving is usually manageable. Any debt over three times annual giving raises a red flag.
  3. Teaching on money in single messages rather than in a series. We find that churches experience a sustained increase in giving when they teach a series of combined messages rather than teaching the same number of messages individually throughout the year.
  4. Not knowing the names of your top contributors. I’ll never understand why pastors are willing to acknowledge the people who contribute their time and talents, but they’re not willing to acknowledge those who contribute their treasure. You need to know and cultivate those relationships, too.
  5. Paying too many people too little money. We’ve seen time and time again that the churches that get this right are the ones who hire higher-capacity leaders who get more ministry done by building teams and raising up new leaders. With higher-capacity leaders, the church needs fewer staff. With fewer staff, those who are hired can be paid more.
  6. Living “paycheck to paycheck” without cash reserves. We encourage churches to have six to eight weeks in cash reserves. This helps during the ups and downs of a typical ministry cycle, especially during the common drop in summer attendance and giving. It also buys the church time if there’s a crisis, economic or otherwise, to make adjustments.
  7. Saving too much money. On the other hand, we’ve also seen churches hoard their money. We’ve seen churches with more than a year of cash sitting in the bank with no plans to invest it for Kingdom impact. What may feel like wise financial planning could actually be poor Kingdom stewardship of God’s resources.
  8. Never talking about money. You have to talk about money if you’re going to teach the truth of Scripture. Jesus taught about money. The Gospels are filled with references to topics related to money. If you avoid talking about money, then you’re avoiding a critical piece of what it means to become a fully devoted follower of Jesus.
  9. Not providing a next step beyond the weekend service. It’s a fallacy to think that everyone’s spiritual and life questions will be addressed in a Sunday sermon. In every area of spiritual growth, there needs to be a next step beyond the weekend for discipleship. In the area of finances, that next step may mean financial coaching, small groups dedicated to this topic or online resources to help people experience financial freedom.
  10. Making desperate pleas for money. Though never talking about money is a big mistake, only talking about money when you’re desperate is a bigger mistake. This is why it’s smarter to have an intentional, regular plan to teach on this topic and then to provide ongoing transparency to your leaders and your church.
  11. Not establishing healthy financial controls. Without controls, you might as well just hand the money that faithful people have contributed to the evil people who exist in this world. I’ve heard too many stories of churches that didn’t have appropriate internal controls in place, and then people inside the church ended up stealing from the ministry. Ask an accountant who audits churches to help you put some basic protections in place.
  12. Letting the budget drive the ministry strategy. The ministry strategy should, instead, drive the budget. This can’t happen unless the church has clarified its vision for the future and its strategy for seeing that vision accomplished. We recommend an annual planning retreat prior to the budget process to prioritize initiatives that will drive financial objectives.
  13. Not conducting background checks on people who handle money. We would never allow anyone who ministers to kids or students to serve without a background check, and we should never allow anyone to handle money without one either. (Remember, it’s listed here because we’ve seen it happen…on multiple occasions.)
  14. Abdicating responsibility for monitoring financial health. Senior pastors, we’re talking to you. You can’t delegate financial management to a person or a committee and think you’re off the hook. You are still the chief financial officer of the ministry. Ultimately, you are the person who needs to champion financial health if your church is going to experience ministry health.
  15. Allowing multiple options for designated giving. When this happens, people give to their favorite little pet projects, which opens up the possibility that core ministry areas of the church could end up underfunded. No one wants to give to the electric bill, but it’s pretty important that the lights come on Sunday morning in the sanctuary. Ideally, you’ll have one fund that will support all ministries of the church.
  16. Not making it easy to give electronically. Come on! It’s 2017! Most people don’t pay for anything with cash or checks today. You need to make it easy and convenient for people to contribute with credit cards using their mobile phones and through your website.
  17. Lack of a strategy to cultivate high-capacity contributors. You need to be intentional in these relationships so that your first conversation isn’t the one when you are asking for a significant contribution to a critical ministry initiative. I can assure you that your “competitors” for charitable donations have the strategy and the people specifically employed to develop relationships with the people who have the potential to give the most to your church.
  18. Not paying bills on time. You would think that a church would have integrity when it comes to paying bills on time. In our experience, though, it’s not uncommon for one in 10 churches we serve to be behind in their payments. Let’s pray it’s just a systems issue rather than a lack of follow through to a commitment made.
  19. Sharing the numbers without sharing the stories. I’m a numbers junkie, but I know most people are not. For normal people, numbers do not communicate vision. Stories, though, can be very powerful. They help people see how their financial contributions are directly impacting people’s lives. You can never tell too many stories.
  20. Not saying “thank you.” Again, this is typically a reflection of a broken system. I refuse to believe churches are ungrateful for the financial sacrifices that people are making. This is just a reminder that we need to make sure a “thank you” goes out, at a minimum, after the first time someone gives to the church or after someone makes a significant financial contribution.
  21. Monitoring giving by the week rather than monthly trends. People don’t generally get paid every week, so there’s always going to be ups and downs from week to week. Attendance patterns typically shift with the seasons, so there will be ups and downs from month to month. Instead, monitor giving in this period to the same period last year and the years before. Is it increasing, decreasing or plateaued? Monitor those trends.
  22. Failing to include generosity principles in the discipleship path. “Wherever your treasure is, there the desires of your heart will also be” (Matthew 6:21, NLT). If you want people to experience a heart change, you have to help them grow in their understanding of stewardship generosity. If they’re still wanting to control their money, God is not in control of their heart.
  23. Avoiding transparency. Celebrate with your church when God provides financial resources to accomplish the mission and vision. Inform your church when the financial resources aren’t keeping pace. It’s not necessary for the congregation to know how every nickel and dime is spent. That’s the job of an accountant or auditor. The church should have a general understanding, though, of how their financial contributions are being used.
  24. Letting the treasurer or finance committee control where money is spent. The treasurer or finance committee should only be responsible for systems and controls for managing money that facilitates ministry. They should not be the ultimate decision-makers on how money gets spent. That’s the responsibility of the senior pastor and the leadership team.
  25. Not establishing purchasing guidelines. Without purchasing guidelines, every purchasing decision has to rise to the top of the organization for final approval. Instead, establish guidelines so that purchases under a predetermined amount that are within the previously approved budget can be made as needed. The Texas Baptist General Convention has provided sample purchasing guidelines within this financial policies and procedures document.
  26. Not creating financial margin in the budget. If you only budget 90 percent of what you anticipate receiving, as an example, you will lack financial margin for unanticipated opportunities or emergencies that present themselves during the year. By the way, there will always be unanticipated expenditures. This is particularly important for the church that hasn’t been diligent in maintaining a healthy level of cash reserves.
  27. Allowing individual ministry areas to do fundraising. We once worked with a church that required every ministry area to raise funds for their entire annual budget. Every ministry team was competing to raise money from people inside and outside the church. As a result, very little ministry was actually happening. The better strategy is to encourage your church to give to one ministry fund and then develop one budget to support every ministry team.
  28. Letting big givers dictate vision and ministry strategy. I’ve lived this. It’s not easy. The biggest donor (by far) in the church left the church because he didn’t agree with the ministry philosophy of the church. In the end, you need to stay focused on the mission, vision and strategy God has called you to pursue. He builds the church, and he will provide the financial resources needed to see his church thrive.
  29. Failing to pursue a big vision. People don’t invest in small visions. And they certainly don’t invest in organizations that don’t have any vision. People won’t give to a budget either. They will invest in a big vision especially when that vision is focused on helping people experience a transformed life in Jesus Christ. Find that big vision. Cast it often. Then invite people to join you in seeing that vision become reality.

I covered a lot of ground in that list. For those of you who made it to the end, I hope this is an encouragement for you to continue to be wise stewards of the financial resources God provides to our churches. I’m grateful for God’s provision and I’m praying you continue to be blessed with the resources needed to accomplish his vision.

This article originally appeared here.

Brooklyn Tabernacle: The Church That Prayer Built

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When Jim and Carol Cymbala went to Brooklyn Tabernacle in the early 1970s, according to Jim Cymbala, “More people were turning to Crack than to Christ.” He described the dismal early days in his book Fresh Wind Fresh Fire. They had no training for ministry, no money, and only a handful of members.

Before long, seeing few victories and feeling personally defeated, the discouraged pastor decided he needed to quit. It was during that dark period he received a distinct and unexpected call from God to lead the people to pray. The next time he was before the church, he told them about his strange call from the Lord to focus on prayer.

The following Tuesday night, about a dozen members joined the pastor for prayer. They joined hands, stood in a circle and prayed. Five minutes later, they were finished. They obviously weren’t sure yet how to conduct a prayer meeting but they had taken the first steps. Over the next few years, Brooklyn Tabernacle would become known around the country and around the world as a praying church.

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Today, about 10,000 people every Sunday wait in line to attend Brooklyn Tabernacle. The attendance is a miracle, but it doesn’t end there.

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Carol Cymbala has led the Choir since soon after arriving at Brooklyn Tabernacle. Her original choir consisted of nine people. In spite of not reading music, Pastor Cymbala’s wife Carol has received five Dove Awards, six Grammy Awards and has written hundreds of songs for the now 270-voice choir and for their 28 albums.

How has all of this occurred? Jim Cymbala traces it all to that call from the Lord so long ago to build a praying church, and to make the weekly prayer meeting the most important service of the week. He calls the prayer meeting  “the barometer of the church.”

It didn’t start big but it grew. The first Tuesday night prayer meeting of a few members gathered in a circle is now 3,000 people a week crowding into the church to call upon the Lord. The prayer meeting officially begins at 7 p.m. but people start pouring in at 5 p.m. to pray for the prayer meeting!

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In my life, the most spiritual experiences I’ve ever had in church have been at Brooklyn Tabernacle—both at the Sunday Church services and at the Tuesday night prayer meetings. The book Fresh Wind Fresh Fire, written the same year I came to Hyde Park Baptist Church as senior pastor, is the most influential book I’ve ever read.

Not everyone has had the privilege yet of attending the Tuesday night prayer meeting in Brooklyn, so we are bringing it to Austin. On Thursday, September 14, Jim Cymbala is coming to lead a City Wide Prayer Meeting at Hyde Park Baptist Church. This gift to the city is a ministry of the Unceasing Prayer Movement of Austin. Everyone is invited to attend. Doors open at 6:00 p.m. for prayer before the service begins at 7:00 p.m.

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God is moving in Austin, and around the country, through a prayer movement. Brooklyn Tabernacle is nothing short of a miracle but God can do anywhere what He has done there. We are praying now that the prayer movement in Austin will be energized and pastors and churches will be encouraged to pray as never before. God still hears and answers prayer!

This article originally appeared here.

Where Small Group Leaders Draw Their Strength

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Ministry is impossible. I can’t do it, but sometimes I forget that. I can’t change a heart. Only the Holy Spirit can do that. I can’t even make someone want to come to group, let alone choose to deny themselves and follow Jesus. But the Holy Spirit can. That’s why I need his power.

Ministry is draining. Leading others over a long period of time can leave me empty. But hearing from Jesus and sensing his love for me refreshes me like nothing else. That’s why I need to be in his presence.

Before we are servants of God we are children of our Heavenly Father. That is why we need time with our Father. Spending time to cultivate our relationship with God is essential for our work in ministry. Oddly enough, if I neglect time with him it will not be because I don’t want to take it. It will be because I enjoy it but see it as a personal luxury I cannot afford. But that is exactly wrong. Jesus said, “If you remain in me and I in you, you will bear much fruit; apart from me you can do nothing” (John 15:5).

One of the ways I remain with Jesus is to spend time alone with him worshiping, reading scripture, listening in prayer and journaling what I hear. I make it a point never to make my scripture reading double as sermon preparation. I don’t read the weekend’s text in my devotional time. This is time for God to speak to my soul as his child, not as his servant/worker. Even so, every once in a while I will get an insight or have an idea for ministry that comes out of my time with God. That’s fine, but it is not the point.

Jesus offers us his power, wisdom, strength, love and guidance. Let’s make sure we stay connected to him so that our souls will overflow with His presence.

This article originally appeared here.

This FCC Update Could Change How You Use Wireless Microphones

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If you think you have more time to replace those 600 MHz-band wireless microphones in the sanctuary, think again. Your wireless microphones might stop working as soon as tomorrow. In some cases, it’s already a problem.

Backstory

Originally, the United States Federal Communications Commission (FCC), auctioned airspace in the 600 MHz band. Users of wireless systems like microphones, in-ear monitors and intercom systems were to have until the year 2020 to vacate that space.

The auction resulted in frequencies from 614 to 698 MHz being auctioned to companies, including cell phone companies like T-Mobile.

What’s really happening

Dan Daley posted up this article that highlights how the auction winners are already using this space despite the notice sent by the FCC that we’d have a few years to comply. Check out the below highlights from the article.

Joe Ciaudelli, director of spectrum affairs at Sennheiser, said, “The year 2020 might seem far off, but because spectrum buyers can begin using their new bandwidth as soon as it’s paid for, wireless microphone users…are going to feel the impact sooner than others.”

And it’s proving true!

According to the article, just before a live event at a theater in Manhattan was to start, all the wireless microphones were disrupted by a 600-MHz cellular-phone signal that turned on in the building. Fortunately, the “on-site RF coordinator identified the source and the operator of the 600-MHz transmission node cooperated and turned off.”

What companies are quick to use their newly purchased airspace? Cell phone providers. Before we start throwing stones, we must recognize the growth of wireless technology and our love of checking email, Facebook, Instagram and even remote mixing comes at a price.

Stop Working?

So will your microphones really stop working if someone starts using the 600-band in your area? You’ll be subject to either non-stop interference or you’ll be open to the possibility of interference during usage. In my book, that renders the microphones useless. If there’s a possibility of interference then I’m replacing the microphone. Are you willing to risk interference during your church service? During the sermon?

A Little Relief

As an update from a reader who discovered this on the FCC’s web site:

Many frequencies in the TV bands that had been available for wireless microphone use prior to the auction will continue to be available after the transition period. These include:

  • VHF and UHF frequencies on TV channels 2-36, which fall below 608 MHz.
  • Certain frequencies in the 600 MHz guard band: 614-616 MHz.
  • Certain frequencies in the 600 MHz duplex gap: 653-657 MHz for licensed use or 657-663 MHz for unlicensed use.

If your wireless microphones can be set to use frequencies in these small areas, you can get a little relief. And please note the difference between licensed and unlicensed. Unless you have a license specific for your location, you’re unlicensed.

Canada and Mexico

While the ruling is specific for the USA, people within 50 miles of the border might want to prepare as well because cell tower coverage can overlap in some areas.

The Good News

A few companies are providing rebates on wireless microphones. If you have microphones that use the 600 band, the below companies are willing to cut you a break. Links are to their rebate pages.

This article originally appeared here.

10 Phrases That Describe the Most Effective Children’s Ministry Leaders

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Children’s Ministry Leaders are some of the best leaders I know. They can also be some of the worst (although these you probably couldn’t really call “leaders”).

Leading perhaps the most challenging and complex ministry in the church, true success in Children’s Ministry requires effective leadership.

But what does that look like? What are the things that make up a truly effective leader of Children’s Ministry?

As I’ve worked with, taught and interacted with thousands of leaders of Children’s Ministry, here is how I would describe those who are most effective:

10 Phrases That Describe the Most Effective Children’s Ministry Leaders

God Follower

Deuteronomy 6:5–9 is often used as key passage that encourages us to pass on our faith to our children. We tend to focus on the last part (Deuteronomy 6:7–9), but what is the first part of the instruction, in verse 5? It says before we pass on our faith to our children, we need to love God heart, soul and might. In other words, before we pass on faith to kids (as a parent or church leader), we are to be a God follower ourselves.

Relationship Builder

I’ve said it many times on this blog:

“Ministry always happens best in the context of relationship.” 

As the Children’s Ministry Leader, we must model relationship, talk about the value of relationship, equip our volunteers to build relationships, develop program which facilitates relationship…you get the idea.

Vision Definer

“Vision is a clear mental picture of what could be, fueled by the conviction that it should be.”

As the leader of Children’s Ministry, we are to see “what could be” and define that vision in alignment with the overall vision of the church (as set by church leadership). This is one of the characteristics that sets us apart as ministry leaders vs. being just ministry managers.

Vision Caster

The defined vision for our ministry should be part of virtually every conversation we have. It should be basis for every ministry decision we make. And it should flow through everything that happens in our ministry.

In order for all of this to happen, understanding the vision must take place. That begins with you, the Children’s Ministry Leader, being the Chief Vision Caster!

Check out 6 Ways to Share The Vision for Your Children’s Ministry for more some vision casting tips.

Culture Creator

Sam Chand says:

“The strongest force in an organization is not vision or strategy—it is the culture which holds all the other components” (see his terrific book Cracking Your Churches Culture Code as a great resource to help you create culture in your ministry).

We, as the leader of our ministry, play a key role in creating culture in the ministry we lead. The question is, are we being intentional about the culture we create by having a plan and modeling the culture we desire?

See these two articles for further help on being a Culture Creator:

People Equipper

Have you read Ephesians 4:12 lately? If not, you should…it gives you The One Sentence Children’s Ministry Leader Job Description.

Leader Developer

If you want to grow your ministry, develop leaders, not followers. Here are 5 Ways to Develop Leaders in Children’s MinistryThe reality is, if you don’t develop leaders, you will severely limit the potential of your ministry.

Avid Learner

Learners are leaders and leaders are learners.

Are you an Avid Learner? If not, you need to become one if you hope to lead your ministry effectively for the long-term. Every leader needs to have a personal growth plan (click here for tips on how to develop your own) and a large part of that must be about learning.

A good starting point: simply commit to reading. There are so many books out there to help you learn and grow as a leader. If you’re not much of a reader, just commit to reading a single chapter every day (if you can’t do that, maybe you need to rethink your ability to lead!). Reading one chapter a day will get you through about 25 books per year. That’s a great start to becoming an Avid Learner!

Creative Thinker

I used to say all the time, “I’m not creative.” But I discovered over time that this simply isn’t true. Every one of us is creative to some degree or another. Tap into that creative side and think about your ministry in a creative way. Try something new…and don’t be afraid to fail.

Additionally, for those of us who struggle to believe that we really are creative (and, let’s face it, some people just ooze creativity, but most of us don’t), learn to lean on those who are creative. Ask questions about how they would approach this problem, or how they would design this program, or how they would connect better with the people in your ministry.

Problem Solver

One of the quickest paths to influence is solving problems. A leader doesn’t put off problems. They don’t blame others for problems. And they don’t avoid problems.

A leaders is a Problem Solver.

Are you?

What other phrases describe the Most Effective Children’s Ministry Leaders?

This article originally appeared here.

America Needs Worldchangers

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Have you ever been misled by a GPS? A lot of people have, including me. I remember one instance when my GPS told me to take a certain freeway. Then it said to turn right at the next off ramp. I obeyed. I turned right. Then it told me to turn left. Then it said to turn right. And then it directed me back to the freeway. I thought, “What was that?” There was no reason to do that. I think the GPS was trying to mess with my mind.

Then there was a woman from Boston who made a right turn onto railroad tracks at the direction of her GPS. Her minivan got stuck on the tracks, but she and her children managed to get out before a commuter rail trained slammed into their vehicle.

We shouldn’t always do what a GPS tells us to do.

God has created certain animals with homing instincts, with built-in GPS units if you will. One of the most amazing examples is the Golden Plover, a bird native to Hawaii. During the summer, the Plovers migrate north to the Aleutian Islands. They lay their eggs, and when the eggs are hatched, the adult Plovers leave. They don’t provide their fledglings with little GPS units or smartphones. They don’t even send them a tweet. Yet somehow these little birds find their way to Hawaii. They make the journey to a place where they’ve never been.

God has placed a homing instinct inside human beings, who are uniquely made in his image. We don’t know what it is at first, but we know this much: From the moment we are born, we’re on a quest. It starts with toys. Then it is something else. It is this relationship or that possession. It is this position or that accomplishment. We have a homesickness for a place we’ve never been before, a place called Heaven. God wired us that way. The Bible says in the book of Ecclesiastes 3:11, “He has also set eternity in the human heart” (NIV).

Once we figure this out, we develop an eternal perspective. We see things in light of eternity. We realize that things on earth, though pleasurable and fun at times, are temporal. There are eternal things, things that matter even more. It changes the way we think and the way we live.

Abraham was a man who had an eternal perspective. He was called by God to leave his homeland, to leave his family, and go to an unknown destination. He packed up and went, leaving no forwarding address. And he changed his world.

There are only 11 chapters in the book of Genesis devoted to the first 2,000 years of human history. But then there are 14 chapters dedicated to the life of one man: Abraham. In the New Testament, he is named 74 times, and Hebrews, chapter 11, devotes one-third of its verses to Abraham and his wife Sarah. That’s a lot of ink. God must have wanted us to know about this great patriarch of the faith.

Abraham lived in a pagan culture. His family all worshiped false gods. He probably had been an idol worshiper himself. Despite this, God handpicked Abraham (Abram at the time) and came to him and said, “Go from your country, your people and your father’s household to the land I will show you” (NIV). God didn’t tell him what that land was. He didn’t tell him where that land was. Nor did he tell him where he would live.

Abraham didn’t have a road map. But what he had was a directive from God. To his credit, without argument, Abraham obeyed God. God said to go, and he went. This was faith in action.

World changers obey God. There are certain things God tells us not to do, and the reason he says that is to protect us. If God says not to do something, that is because it’s a bad thing. If God says to do something, that is because it’s a good thing. If God says to stay away from something, that is for our own benefit.

God told Abraham to make a clean break with his past and his family. Why? Because they were detrimental to his spiritual growth.

What kind of influence is your family having on you? What kind of influence are your friends having on you? Let’s turn it around. What kind of influence are you having on them? World changers influence their surroundings.

Sometimes our circumstances change, but if we are men or women of God, circumstances won’t change us. The Bible tells the story of Shadrach, Meshach and Abednego, three teenage boys who were plucked from their homeland and sent to a pagan country known as Babylon. Everyone was worshiping false gods and ultimately would bow down before the image of the king—all except Shadrach, Meshach and Abednego. They had faith in God and stood their ground, reminding us that world changers are almost always a minority and rarely, if ever, a majority.

It is often the one man or one woman who will stand up for what is true, the one who is far more concerned about God’s opinion, who stands up and says what is right.

We can’t control our entire environment. We may be in a workplace with people who don’t believe. We may be in a classroom around people who don’t share our faith. We may be in a family with unbelievers. I’m not saying we can change that. But there is a difference between those we’re around and those we choose to spend time with. Find friends who will build you up in your faith and increase your appetite for spiritual things, not people who drag you down and decrease your appetite for spiritual things.

We need people who will change their world today. America so desperately needs God. America so desperately needs to hear the Gospel. America needs world changers. America needs you. It needs you to do your part. I know that is a big order. But let’s localize it and talk about your world, your sphere of influence where you can make an impact like Abraham did. Do you want to change the world? Start by changing your world.

Taken from my weekly column at World Net Daily.

This article originally appeared here.

When Pastors Misplace Their Identity: 10 Probing Questions

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“No one is more influential in your life than you are, because no one talks to you more than you do.” When I heard this quote by Paul Tripp while I listened to his book Dangerous Calling: Confronting the Unique Challenges of Pastoral Ministryit caused me to pause and reflect. He’s right. No one talks to me more than I talk to myself. A corollary to his quote might be this: “We become more like who we listen to. If what we tell ourselves about our identity is false, then we develop a false identity.” In this post I suggest 10 question that might reveal when pastors misplace their identity.

How do you know if you’ve wrapped your identity around your church, ministry or preaching rather than around Christ? Consider these 10 questions.

  • Would I feel aimless if I faced a period of time when I wasn’t vocationally working in a church?
  • Do I see the need for grace in the lives of others more than I see the need of that same grace in my life?
  • Have I subtly allowed pride to infiltrate my soul because I know a lot about the Bible, have a theological degree or pastor a growing church?
  • Do I equate ministry success with God’s endorsement of my lifestyle (a thought from Paul Tripp)?
  • When I meet someone, do I find my unspoken self-talk focused on what he or she thinks of me?
  • Have I based my identity more on the horizontal (ministry success) than the vertical (my personal relationship with Jesus)?
  • Is my heart stirred more by compliments from others about my preaching, increasing attendance or recognition from others more than the greatness, grandeur and glory of Christ?
  • If attendance is low on Sunday, is it hard to shake a sense the following week that I’ve failed or that I’ve let God down?
  • Do I struggle with jealous feelings when I hear about the success of another pastor or church?
  • Do I find myself “burning the candle at both ends” to keep the ministry going?

What do you think about pastoral identity? Do you think misplaced identity is a problem among pastors? What questions would you add to this list that might be telling of misplaced identity?

If these questions have stirred you to think more deeply about your identity, consider reading Paul Tripp’s blog post about this subject here. And, I highly recommend reading his book as well.

This article originally appeared here.

Before You Fire Your Pastor

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It happened again this week.

A pastor contacted me to let me know his deacons asked for his resignation. The reason? No one was really clear about it. The best I can discern the issue was change, or the pace of change.

The church is known in the area unflatteringly as a “preacher-eater church.” They figuratively eat pastors and spit them out. And it is happening again.

I understand. The fault does not always reside with the church. Pastors aren’t perfect, and many of them have done some things that may deserve firing. But that is not the case with the vast majority of churches where I have details and good familiarity.

Stated simply, too many pastors are getting fired. It feels like an epidemic.

So, please church leader, consider these words before you fire your pastor. Please take a breath and see if any of my admonitions hit home.

  1. Pray more fervently. You are about to make a decision that will shape your church, the pastor and the pastor’s family for years to come. Make certain you have prayed and prayed and prayed about this decision.
  2. Understand fully the consequence to your congregation. A church is marked once it fires a pastor. Members leave. Potential guests stay away. Morale is decimated. The church has to go through a prolonged period of healing where it cannot have much of an outward focus.
  3. Listen to other voices. Many times personnel committees, deacons or elders decide to fire a pastor because they listen to a few malcontents. I know one church with a weak personnel committee that fired a pastor after listening to an executive pastor and a bully deacon. And they never asked to hear the pastor’s side of the story.
  4. Consider the church’s reputation in the community. You are about to receive the label: “The church that fired their pastor.” That will be your identity for some time.
  5. Seek mediation. There are some very good mediation sources available. Why not at least give it a shot before you make a rash and often uninformed decision?
  6. Let your pastor know why. Look at number three again. That church never told the pastor why he was being fired. Seriously. I guess it’s hard to explain that the deacon and the executive pastor have orchestrated a successful coup. I am amazed how many pastors have no idea why they are being let go. That is cowardly. That is not Christ-like.
  7. Consider a transition plan. Another church approached their situation with greater wisdom and Christian action. They shared sadly with the pastor that the chemistry was just not working between him and many parts of the congregation. But, instead of firing him, they let him stay on for up to one year to find another church. It’s always easier to find a church if you have a church.
  8. Be generous. If your church does make the decision to fire your pastor, please be generous with severance and benefits. Don’t treat your pastor like a secular organization might treat an employee. Show the world Christian compassion and generosity.

Forced terminations of pastors are sadly common. Please consider these eight thoughts before your church makes such a serious and long-lasting decision.

This article originally appeared here.

Keeping Things Focused

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I have a love-hate relationship with productivity tools.

There was a time in my life that you could accuse me of ‘dating’ to-do list management systems. Things, Toodledo, Wunderlist and good old-fashioned pen and paper… I’ve used all of these.

You know what I’ve discovered? There is no magic-bullet. There is no perfect system that eliminates my need to stop, identify what’s most important and create space to work on what’s most important.

Now, there are certainly tools I use to help me manage the big & little ‘rocks’. But…at the end of the day…it all boils down to actually using them.

There are seasons I use my tools well.

There are seasons I don’t.

When I don’t use my tools well, I ‘feel’ frantic. Like everything is spinning around me. I just can’t seem to grasp anything. The vortex of the latest and loudest is too great to overcome and I feel trapped and unable to focus on anything else.

When I do use my tools well, I end my day with a sense of satisfaction knowing that my time and energy were well invested. I can’t say that I feel ‘in control’ of what’s happening in my world. I think control is an illusion. But I am satisfied with where my time and focus are applied.

Here are list of tools I love to use to help me manage my day-to-day, week-to-week expectations. I’ve quit ‘dating’ these tools. I’m committed because they’ve made a huge difference in my ability to produce quality work.

Evernote
I’m another Evernote fan. I keep everything possible in Evernote. From the kids’ school syllabi to team meeting notes. I love that I can access my Evernote files from my phone or any computer connected to the interwebs.

Evernote is a great bucket for research, documents, meeting notes and other things I need to hang on to for a while. Using the tag feature, notes and documents are easily searchable and categorized.

Wunderlist
I used to use a paid subscription of Toodledo. I liked it. Used it for three years. But recently shifted to Wunderlist. I prefer the user experience of Wunderlist of Toodledo, yet both are great tools to help me manage and prioritize tasks.

GTD
This past year I participated in a GTD workshop. I’d read the book several years ago and loosely applied the principles. But they didn’t stick. The workshop was a huge benefit to me. I’ve incorporated about 60 percent of the system. And as I gain competency, I’ll incorporate more.

The aspects of the GTD system that I love are:

  • Email Inbox processing
    Action Folder: for emails that require an action for me.
    Read Now Folder: for emails I need to read for information and have a time frame attached.
    Read Later Folder: for emails I want to read but the clock isn’t ticking.
  • Physical Inbox processing – I’ve always had a physical inbox. And it was really just a place where papers piled up that I didn’t know what to do with OR simply didn’t want to deal with it! Now I have time scheduled each week where I clear out that inbox. I do something with the document. Either I turn it into an Action, add it to a Project, Trash it or it goes into the Someday/Maybe file.
  • Someday/Maybe – This is a notebook in Evernote. It’s my home for all those things I’d love to do… but just don’t have the time, budget or margin to do right now. At least I have a home for it until margin is available.
  • Brain Dump – I think GTD has a different name for this. But I’ve dubbed the process ‘Brain Dump.’ It’s intentional time carved out once a week where I just write out all the things that are on my mind. It’s crazy how freeing the exercise can be.
    This is one activity I don’t do consistently enough. I see a big difference in my creativity on the weeks that I’m faithful to Brain Dump. Creativity suffers the weeks I opt out of the Brain Dump.

Pomodoro Timer
I really love this tool. You can read about the technique here. But for someone like me who is EASILY distracted, this tool is pretty invaluable. It helps me to focus in concentrated bursts of time. When I know I need to get a project moved forward, using my Pomodoro Timer helps me to focus, produce, then intentionally take a break.

There are a variety of Pomodoro Timers available. I use the PomodoroPro app on my iPhone or Tomato Timer on my web browser.

From a productivity standpoint, these are the tools that I’ve found help me to manage the day-to-day crazy. But…at the end of the day…if I don’t use the tools, they don’t do me a bit of good. A tool is only helpful when you actually take it out of the toolbox and use it.

As we enter a new year, now is a great time to decide which tools you will use to help you focus on what’s most important in 2016.

What do you use to help you focus on the Big Rocks first?

This article originally appeared here.

How Do Older Leaders Follow Young Leaders?

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Do you follow a leader who is younger than you are?

This reality is becoming more and more common and will continue as the Xers and Millennials rise into positions of leadership.

Perhaps you are a volunteer leader, and your pastor is young. As an older and more experienced leader, you have a powerful opportunity to impact that young leader, your church and the Kingdom of God in a big way.

On Monday I wrote on this topic from the opposite perspective. You can check out that article here.

For this post, let’s tackle nine practical thoughts that will help your Kingdom impact increase, and help you enjoy your ministry even more.

I’d like to give a special shout out here to Ken Shaffer, who serves at our Bethlehem Campus as the Audio Director on the Production Team. Ken shared some great ideas with me for this post. What an awesome guy, talented leader and faithful servant of God. Ken, you model this so well! 

1) Trust that God has His hand on your situation.

It’s important to trust that this unique leadership relationship did not catch God by surprise. He knows who your leader is and wants you to follow. These “older/younger” partnerships are great. The young leader brings things like fresh ideas, youthful energy and a cultural connection. You bring experience, wisdom and a larger view. What a great team!

2) Settle the deeper reason for why you serve.

Strive for a heart level and steadfast resolve about why you serve as a leader. That resolve will settle your soul and remove the vast majority of potential challenges and conflict. If you serve first for the sake of the mission, your joy and productivity will increase.

3) Take the initiative to put out fires.

It doesn’t help when an older and wiser leader lets a young leader crash and burn. If you see a major issue brewing or consequence to a particular decision, say something. Take action yourself if you can. Don’t sit back and say “I told you so” afterward. Or “I knew that would happen.” The church needs you and needs you at your best. Meaning, with a positive and proactive disposition.

4) Share your wisdom and experience.

Mistakes will happen. That’s how young leaders learn. I’ll bet you have made a few mistakes along the way. I know I sure have, and I deeply appreciated when older and wiser leaders extended me grace rather than criticism. It’s true that the young leader needs to be teachable and also possess a positive attitude, but when you are both aligned, it’s a powerful partnership.

5) Don’t undermine authority and confidence.

It’s so easy to make a quick off-handed negative remark around other volunteers that really hurts the team and the mission. And it’s nearly impossible to take it back. It’s too late; you just added a little poison into the culture. If you have a legitimate complaint, talk to your leader directly. Repeatedly asking things like “Are you sure?” Or saying, “If that’s what you really want, well…OK, but…” is not helpful.

6) Avoid passive-aggressive behavior.

I loved the illustration Ken shared with me. The pastor says to the audio engineer, “Hey it sounds a bit loud, can you bring it down?” The audio tech says, “Sure! No problem!” Then shortly after the pastor walks away, the audio tech slowly brings the fader back up! That made me laugh. We all know that has happened!! (But never at Bethlehem Campus of course!) Keep it real, be honest and speak the truth in love.

7) Embrace change.

Give change a chance. Remember, you probably changed things when you were the younger leader. Change is not only good, but it’s also necessary. Without change, the church can’t grow. It might not be exactly how you would do it, but go with it. Rather than resist, offer your opinion about how to make a new idea better.

8) Keep learning.

If you keep learning, you’ll keep growing. And if you keep growing, you can teach your younger leader things he or she doesn’t know. You can show them how. It’s funny how that works. You already have more experience, so you have valuable wisdom to share. But if you appear to have stopped growing and are locked in on your current answers, people are less likely to want to know what you know. Nothing stays the same. Keep learning and your influence increases.

9) Pray that God will grant legacy to your leadership.

You may have 10, 20 or 30 more years of leadership still to give. Great, that just means more legacy developing time! Legacy is about what lives on after you. That requires pouring into and lifting up younger leaders. Your investment in younger leaders as you empower them to lead exponentially multiplies your leadership. Pray and ask God to use you for His glory and to advance His Kingdom!

This article originally appeared here.

It’s Called SELF-Control

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Things won’t go your way.

This is one of those rare phrases which applies to literally every human on the face of the planet. And for many of us, this is good reason to worry.

To stress out.

To become anxious.

For many of us, myself included, situations arise in our lives which are out of our control and these breed a myriad of responses. Some of us respond to the unmanageability of our lives in healthy ways, while others respond in unhealthy ways.

Galatians 5 lists a description of the Fruit of the Spirit, one of which is Self-Control. After years of having this list memorized and held in a rote category in my brain, something about it finally clicked. God instructs us to have self-control.

Not world-control.

Not others-control.

Not friend-control.

Not situation-control.

Not boss-control.

Self-control.

Because the painfully obvious fact is, we cannot control those other things. We cannot control diseases or jobs or world events, or family drama. But there is one area which we do have control over: Our own responses to all of these things.

My dad always tells me that life is 10 percent what happens to you and 90 percent how you respond.

To me, this maxim always seemed rather passive; that if I wanted things to go as I wanted, I had to get out and make them happen. But in reality, there is often (always?) a massive disconnect between what I want to happen, or how I want things to go…and the actual outcome.

This longing to control the world, others or anything else that is inherently out of our control results in a lot of angst and fear. There are a lot of what-ifs that can plague our minds if we let them, rather than concerning ourselves with our own personal reactions to people and events.

I recently began reading the acclaimed book by Townsend and Cloud Boundaries, which has helped straighten out what things are within and outside of our responsibility. For instance, the fact that your boss parties, sleeps around and wastes money on fruitless things is completely our of your control and out of your realm of responsibility. But what IS in your control is how you respond, how you love him, and whether or not you run your lips gossiping about him behind his back.

Think of it like a yard of a house. You are responsible for the lawn, flowers and weeds inside the bounds of your fence, and your neighbor is responsible for those in hers. It is not your duty to try to mow her lawn for her or plant flowers in her soil. Nor is it acceptable for her weeds to spill over into your yard. You are responsible only for what is in your own yard, and this is truly the only thing you can really control anyway.

Essentially, the only thing you can really control in this world is what goes on within the boundaries of your own person. You can control your thoughts, the things you fill your mind with, the things you eat and what you do with your body. These things are within your control and within your boundaries of control.

With this in mind, it therefore becomes wrong to try to control things which are outside of your boundaries, i.e., the actions or responses of others. Not only is it wrong, but it is the root of much of our angst, worry and stress. That’s why the Bible describes self-control as virtuous. It’s much easier said than done, but you can control your response to the world and your own actions.

One of the creeds in the first step of Alcoholics Anonymous states, “We admitted we were powerless over our addiction—that our lives had become unmanageable.” When we see our lives as unmanageable and out of our control, this often leads to a panic of sorts, often dealt with through addictions like drinking, drugs, eating disorders pornography, or anything else that makes us feel like we have some sort of control.

AA helps people understand that the future is opaque for everyone: It is unknown and mysterious. We cannot plan for it per se, but we can plan to control our own reactions to whatever happens. And this helps ease the angst of the unknown.

Leonardo da Vinci said, “One can have no smaller or greater mastery than mastery of oneself,” yet this is all we really do have control over.

You can choose to respond to your children with anger or grace, but you cannot control their actions.

You can respond to your unjust boss with love or malice and gossip, but you cannot control her management style.

Want to let go of anxiety, stress and fear? Stop trying to control the world and start trying to control yourself. It’s not easy, but coming to understand the virtue of self-control as more than simply not reaching for that last slice of pizza has helped me understand my own limitations and remove some of the stress of life.

May we be people who know our own boundaries. May we come to have control over that for which we are responsible, and let go of the things which are out of our control. May we abide by the Spirit, who enables us to open up our palms which often hold too tightly the actions of others and the events of the world.

This article originally appeared here.

What to Do When You Hear: “I’m So Disappointed in You”

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Perfectly Imperfect – A Travel Guide for Life, Faith and Relationships!

Some of the most painful words a human can hear are, “You let me down,” and “I’m disappointed in you.”

If you care at all about someone, then the last thing you want to do is disappoint that person. At our core, many of us wrestle with the tendency to be people-pleasers, and letting someone down ranks right up there with getting a root canal.

We hate disappointing. We avoid it. We have nightmares about it.

Whether it’s a friend, a spouse, a parent or even a boss, we do our best to avoid failing someone we love (or someone who signs our checks).

My first boss, Ron, was a tyrant. I was a 16-year-old scrawny kid who did his best to do his best. Sadly, I was driven by an unhealthy need to please, coupled with a ridiculous bent toward perfectionism. So you can imagine how devastated I was when Ron said to me at the end of my first week as a box boy, “I thought I had made a good choice when I hired you. Apparently not.”

I wanted to crawl into a hole and die.

A couple of years later, I discovered that Ron-the-Hun said that to everyone after their first week. He thought motivation by shame worked. Unfortunately, it does sometimes, and I did try harder, but that didn’t make what he did right, then or now.

Here’s a well-known but seldom acknowledged fact: We all fail. We all fall short. No one is perfect. No one.

Of course, we should want to do our best. It is a noble goal to want to flourish and do well. But you will disappoint people because you’re human and prone to wandering off course. If you’re absolutely successful at anything, it is at being absolutely unsuccessful at times.

If that’s true, and it is, then how can we live with such a reality without being in a constant funk? What should we do when we hear those painful words, “You could have done better” (a backhanded way of saying, “You blew it and let me down”).

First, get real. Stop holding yourself to a standard that is impossible to attain. I’m not suggesting you wallow in the mud of mediocrity or sluff off sin. Of course, not. Grow. Change. Get better. But don’t beat yourself up for being imperfect. Only One person walked this earth without failure or sin, and it wasn’t you (or me).

Second, own it and grow. Meaning, when you hear those painful words of disappointment from someone, ask yourself, Did I blow it and, if so, what can I learn from this experience? The best pathway to personal growth is not denial, but deciding how you will handle personal failure. As I’ve written before, you can go through it or grow through it. You decide. A wise person will learn from his or her mistakes.

Finally, don’t fixate on the problem or your past. You become what you focus on. In other words, if you fix your attention on the mistake or the problem, you tend to get sucked into a vortex of despair and further failure. The more you tell yourself, I will never do that again…I will never do that again…I will never do that again, the more likely you are to do that very thing—again. Instead, look to the One who is both the Author and Perfecter of our faith; keep your eyes on Him. What Jesus started, He will finish.

At some level, I fail every day. The voice of the enemy, the voice of others and even my own voice (i.e self-talk) try to discourage me by saying, “You are such a disappointment.”

But the One voice that matters above all—the One voice that pierces through the negative noise—always whispers to my heart, “You are loved. You are Mine. You are far from perfect, which is precisely why I came. Trust Me to complete My work in you.”

Whose voice are you listening to?

The Eternal sustains all who stumble on their way.
For those who are broken down, God is near. He raises them up in hope.

Psalm 145:14 (VOICE)

This article originally appeared here.

18 Hilarious Church Life Memes for Pastors

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We gathered 18 of our favorite “Hilarious Church Memes for Pastors” because, let’s be honest, we know you’ve seen things—oh, you’ve seen things! And, we know, you’ve thought things—who wouldn’t? No one sees or hears the things that a senior pastor, youth pastor, or children’s pastor sees or hears around the church. Church leaders have a unique view of the hilarious things that happen and the attitudes that come across with church folks. Which of these church life memes strikes a chord with you?

Church Memes for Pastors

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Ummhmmm….put in all that work and he doesn’t even know it was all for him!

church life memes 2

That’s right! You are a devil-stomping ninja straight from the army of God!

church life memes 3

Now…don’t say you’ve never thought of it.

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Don’t you love it when you can see the sermon landing?

church life memes 5

Truth is: Very few of us keep our eyes closed!

church life memes 6

“It’s the circle of life….”

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“Oh no he didn’t!”

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“Say it isn’t so!”

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“Daddy! Pleeeease!

Evangelicals to Trump: Don’t Punish the Children for Sins of the Fathers (DACA)

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Dear President Trump:
We are writing to support your efforts to find a workable solution for Dreamers, those young undocumented immigrants in our country who were brought here by their parents and who contribute great things to our society.

So begins the letter to President Trump written and signed by a handful of evangelical leaders on August 30, 2017.

The President faces an uncomfortable decision of what to do with DACA (Deferred Action for Childhood Arrivals)—the Obama administration’s executive order protecting the children of undocumented immigrants. DACA allows these people—also known as Dreamers—to live and work in the United States with government licenses.

The reason the pressure is on President Trump, who promised to put an “immediate” end to the “illegal” DACA executive order during his campaign, to end the program now is several attorneys general from various states have given him until September 5 before they will proceed with legal action. While there are legitimate questions about the efficacy of this ultimatum, it has an approximate 800,000 Dreamers concerned for their future and has prompted this letter from evangelicals and another one from immigrant members of congress.

President Trump’s position is certainly not enviable at this moment. As someone known for speaking his mind readily—and some would say almost callously—this decision seems to have the president ruminating. In a February press briefing, he admitted “the DACA situation is a very, very…difficult thing for me.”

The Evangelical Argument

Dreamers Help America

In their letter, leaders such as Russell Moore and Samuel Rodriguez argue that the Dreamers have a lot to offer America. “We have seen immigrants strengthen our great nation throughout its history, including their positive impact on our churches, our communities and our economy.”

Additionally, the letter argues those who have signed up for DACA have voluntarily undergone “screening for criminal activity and potential threats to national security.” They are also “leading in our churches and our communities,” studying, creating jobs and paying taxes.

It’s Not Their Fault

Essentially, the evangelical writers argue that the children should not be punished for the decisions of their parents. “They were brought here without their consent, and in most cases the United States is the only home they have known.” The immigration system is also culpable and the onus is on us as a country to “focus on real solutions for our broken immigration system.”

Eugene Cho of Quest Church in Seattle, Washington, says preventing Dreamers from reaching their full potential in the U.S. would be akin to placing a stumbling block in front of them. “To prevent individuals who were brought to this country as kids, through no decision of their own, from working, pursuing education and contributing to the full extent of their God-given potential is not only short-sighted, it’s also unjust,” Cho says.

Allowing Dreamers to Stay Is the Biblical Thing to Do

The letter also cites biblical heroes “from Abraham to Paul” who were immigrants. Even Jesus was an immigrant when he parents took him to Egypt to escape persecution. “As Americans, we are proud that our country has affirmed this biblical principle of valuing and protecting immigrants while also protecting national security,” the letter states.

Dave Gibbons, founder of Newsong Church in California, says throughout Scripture God “lovingly focuses on those who are vulnerable, the hurting and the immigrants. Symbiotic with our love for God is our love for the outsider.”

While it is direct, the letter is gracious and sympathetic to the difficult decision ahead of Trump. More than anything, it is calling on him to encourage Congress and other policy-makers in Washington to craft a long-term, workable solution for the Dreamers.

The long story short is that there is a reason God instructed us to welcome the foreigner and sojourner. We want what is best for them and our country. Now the question is: How, practically, do we make this work in our society?

The Linchpin of Real Forgiveness

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“May the LORD judge between you and me, and may the LORD avenge me on you; but my hand shall not be against you” (1 Samuel 24:12 NASB).

Everyone gets hurt. Therefore, everyone must decide how they will respond when they get hurt. And you really have only one choice: You can forgive or take revenge.

Revenge has many forms. You can withdraw, ignore, retaliate with words or actions, gossip and slander to tear someone down, rise in anger, and on and on. But what you’re saying is: “You’ve hurt me; therefore, I’m going to take this matter into my own hands and hurt you back.”

A Change in Courtrooms

David had every human right to strike out against a man who was chasing him down like a dog, seeking to kill him. We would think retaliation would be reasonable.

But David trusted the sovereignty of God. God had said not to strike His anointed leader (even if he was in the wrong), and David chose to do what God said and leave the results to God.

God is big, and David decided to transfer the case from his courtroom to God’s, believing that the Lord could settle the score if needed. At the end of the day, he held nothing in his hands.

This transfer is called forgiveness. Paul emphasized this truth in Romans 12:17-19.

Never pay back evil for evil to anyone. Respect what is right in the sight of all men. If possible, so far as it depends on you, be at peace with all men. Never take your own revenge, beloved, but leave room for the wrath of God, for it is written, “VENGEANCE IS MINE, I WILL REPAY,” says the Lord.

What’s in Your Hand?

Are you still holding a sword, against anyone? If so, relax your hand.

Trust that God is big enough to take care of those who have hurt you. Leave your case in the heavenly courtroom where it belongs.

Only then will you be able to obey the higher kingdom law that Jesus gave us to “love your enemies,” as you let the love of God be poured out in your heart through the Holy Spirit (Matthew 5:44; Romans 5:5).

This conquering love is what distinguishes us from our enemies. It shows a watching world we are united to the One who “demonstrates His own love toward us, in that while we were yet sinners [enemies!], Christ died for us.”

Forgiveness is one of the most stunning witnesses you will ever give.

This article originally appeared here.

3 Considerations While Facing Temptation

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This summer, I have been leading the guys in our youth group through a study of James. It’s been a while since I took a deep dive into James, so it has been refreshing to see so much in the text that I hadn’t caught before.

Alongside reading the text itself, I have been reading Warren Wiersbe’s Be Mature commentary and it has been a delightful companion through the study.

His chapter on James 1:13-18 is called “How to Handle Temptation.” What I love about Wiersbe’s chapter on handling temptation is that it isn’t just a pragmatic list of ways to prevent ourselves from sinning.

In instructing us about how to handle temptation and avoid falling into sin, Wiersbe doesn’t direct our thoughts inward—he directs our thoughts upward.

Below are Wiersbe’s three considerations while facing temptation with some of my own elaboration on his points.

1. Consider God’s Judgment.

Wiersbe identifies four stages of sin in James 1: desire, deception, disobedience and death.

We see this so clearly in the Garden of Eden. The serpent taps into Adam and Eve’s desire to be like God and deceives them in such a way that they disobey, ultimately leading to death for not only themselves, but all of humanity to follow.

God created Adam and Eve and had intimate relationship with them in the Garden of Eden. They were good and he loved them. Even this first couple, declared good in their creation, were not exempt from the judgment of God.

What makes us think we would be exempt from the just judgment of God should we be tempted into disobedience?

Unlike Adam and Eve, we did not enjoy intimacy with God from birth. But, in Christ, we can experience intimacy with God through re-birth.

As we face temptation, we must consider the judgment of God.

2. Consider God’s Goodness.

One of the ways Satan deceives us as we are face-to-face with temptation is making us think God is holding out on us.

You see this clearly in the Garden when Satan tells Eve that God doesn’t want them to eat from the tree because he knows that, if they do, they will become like him.

Satan likes to paint God as a sort of power-hungry ego-maniac that lives in constant fear of his creation overthrowing him from his throne.

This message is satanic to its core, isn’t it? What is more satanic than attempting to overthrow the rule of God?

Satan often tries to paint a picture of God he wishes were true, but is ultimately a hellish lie. Satan wishes God was afraid for his position as ruler over all creation, but God is not afraid of anyone, Satan or humans, orchestrating a coup to dethrone him.

God is a good Father who wants what is best for his children despite their frequent inability to see what “best” really is. Because of the brokenness that often blinds us from seeing what is true, Satan is able to twist our desires, deceiving us into believing that God withholds what we need out of fear.

God does not fear you, me or Satan, and he gives us what is best for us. James 1:17 tells us, “Every good and perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of lights, who does not change like shifting shadows.”

As we face temptation, we must consider the goodness of God.

3. Consider God’s Divine Nature Within.

In this point, Wiersbe does direct us, his readers, to look within, but he doesn’t tell us to look within to see how we might pull ourselves up by our bootstraps and avoid sin.

We must look within to see that, in our weakness, God has given those who believe the divine nature we need to resist that which is evil and choose that which is upright and good.

The new birth we have when we trust that the life, death and resurrection of Jesus Christ is enough to save us from our sins indwells us with the Holy Spirit—the only way in which we are able to face temptation and walk away without it devouring us whole.

When we face temptation, we must look to God and what he has done before we consider ourselves and what we can do.

The Father is a good, just God who has given us the Holy Spirit to help us become more like his Son.

In the face of temptation don’t consider your strengths or weaknesses before you consider who God is and what he has done.

This article originally appeared here.

How Social Media Is Molding Your Child

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I’m a ’90s kid. That means I have fond memories of gathering around the TV watching T.G.I.F. with my family, I could slay Bop-It like my life depended on it, and I owned several “Now That’s What I Call Music…” err, I mean, “WOW Hits.” It also means I lived in the era when the Internet boomed in the homes of everyday people.

I remember the first time I was granted access to the Internet in my own home. I had heard the rumors of this mystical land that lived inside Internet Explorer. It was the world where you could ask a butler named Jeeves any question, where the evilest thing you could find was pop-up ads, and receive the rush of chemicals to your head as you typed your heart out in AOL Instant Messaging (AIM).

This was my version of Social Media. Two hours a day, with only a handful of friends who also had Internet access, and an insufficient number of web pages. It was an experience.

This is not your child’s version of social media.

Your child’s social media isn’t an experience. It’s a lifestyle.

With the development of the cell phone and the plethora of other Internet connected devices, social media has become so integral in the lives our children (and us) that it’s reshaping the culture of childhood.

Let’s get one thing straight: Your children are not growing up like you or me.

Now, before you channel Ron Swanson and run to your child’s room to destroy every piece of technology they own, we have to understand HOW social media is shaping them.

PERSONAL IDENTITY

Social media is shaping the way your children are reacting, responding and reminiscing. They not only see the way you handle circumstances, they have access to entirely different worldviews and experiences. They are arriving at their conclusions on how the world operates by more than just your voice.

VALUE

Social media is a measure of their worth. How many likes did they receive on that Instagram post? Did they get over 200 views on their Snapchat story? How many retweets did they get? Their validation is now a numerical number instead of the truth of who God has made them to be.

CONNECTION

Social media is THE place where they connect with others. Forget about grabbing someone’s digits, what’s their handle? This is where they meet strangers and friends. This is the environment where they experience bullying, criticize others and/or affirm each other.

This is also the place where they gather news and get passionate about causes they believe in. It’s also the place where they will find romantic partners.

This is the world we live in now.

I know as a parent this can feel a little overwhelming. What are you supposed to do? You can’t stop the way the world is evolving with technology. The only real thing that YOU can do as a parent is to set the example. Show your children what a healthy balance of consumption looks like. When your kids remember their childhood, make sure they remember your face not the back of your phone. Dr. Catherine Steiner-Adair, Ed.D., advises, “ Don’t walk in the door after work, say ‘hi’ quickly, and then ‘just check your email.’ In the morning, get up a half hour earlier than your kids and check your email then. Give them your full attention until they’re out the door. And neither of you should be using phones in the car to or from school because that’s an important time to talk.”

PRACTICAL TAKEAWAYS

  1. If your child is on Facebook, Instagram, Snapchat, etc., be their friend and monitor their activity.
  2. Establish “no tech zones.” Make sure everyone (EVEN YOU) understands the rule and has no technology around the No Tech Zone.
  3. Find other interests other than the digital world. Do they like sports? Get them on a team. Do they like music? Get lessons going.
  4. Schedule times of adventure that require everyone to unplug. Go on hikes, canoe the lake, run the trail.
  5. Gather as a family and read the promises of who God created us to be. Teach where real value comes from with verses like Isaiah 40:31.

Navigating parenting in our world is like the wild west. We don’t have all the perfect answers and how-to’s, and that’s OK. When your child puts up a fight with these rules, because they will, rest in the knowledge that you’re preparing them for success in their future. Your children are regularly receiving both affirmation and criticism from the outside world, be intentional on affirming and loving your children in a more personal and meaningful way on a daily basis. Hug them. Love them. Listen to them.

This article originally appeared here.

11 Practices of Pastors Whose Churches Have Sustained Health and Growth

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Nothing breaks my heart more than visiting a church who once had great momentum, impact and influence, and then when seeing its current attendance, health and condition having to ask, “What happened?” The picture above illustrates this. The parking lot of this once great church is cracked, unkept, has weeds growing in it, and is in desperate need of repair. Sadly, the same thing could be said for this church. The parking lot is merely a visible representation of the church’s current condition. Taking this recent picture broke my heart.

On August 26, I will be celebrating my 15th anniversary serving churches with INJOY Stewardship Solutions. In short, I help pastors and church leaders with leadership development, readiness, generosity, need, timing and how to incorporate capital campaigns into their unique ministry plans.

What is unique about my calling is I only work with growing churches. The most important lesson I have learned over these 15 years is growing churches are led by growing pastors and leaders.

I have also noticed many differences between pastors whose lives and ministries have health over a long period of time and “shooting stars” whose ministries briefly skyrocket and then either the church or the pastor flames out.

The following are 11 Practices of Pastors Whose Churches Have Sustained Health And Growth. You will notice each practice contains a “P.” Some of these will be unpopular but I have seen WAY TOO MANY pastors needlessly fail and I’m sick of it. I want you to be aware of what I am seeing.

  1. Pastors Whose Churches Have Sustained Health and Growth Have Proper Priorities – They place God first, Family second and the Church third. They refuse to sacrifice their family on the altar of increased church attendance.
  2. Pastors Whose Churches Have Sustained Health and Growth Are People of Prayer – They dedicate specified time each and every day to Bible study and listening to God. They have spiritual disciplines which result in calloused knees. And when they stand in the pulpit on Sunday, their congregations intuitively know they have spent time with God and have a word for their lives from Him. This leads to my next point.
  3. Pastors Whose Churches Have Sustained Health and Growth Are Preachers, Not Communicators – This will be controversial but true. I know many people mean nothing negative by this term, but communicators can tend to give a talk, often a TED Talk with a Bible verse. Preachers have a message from The Ancient of Days to give to a certain group of people at a certain point of time in human history for the issues affecting their lives. To have a lasting ministry be a preacher, not a communicator.
  4. Pastors Whose Churches Have Sustained Health and Growth Are Willing to Pivot – They are willing to change. You should never change your core values or commitment to biblical truth but always be willing to change the method of how you deliver ministry.
  5. Pastors Whose Churches Have Sustained Health and Growth Celebrate Personal Holiness More Than Personal Freedoms – This will be another controversial topic but one I see all the time. Pastors who spend more time telling you how many beers they had last week than what they learned last week in their quiet times with God do not last. God honors personal holiness.
  6. Pastors Whose Churches Have Sustained Health and Growth Have a Deep Passion for the Lost – They are more committed to life change and transformation than the transactional components of ministry.
  7. Pastors Whose Churches Have Sustained Health and Growth Show Pity to Others – The definition of pity is “the feeling of sorrow and compassion caused by the suffering and misfortunes of others.” There are times people need a pastor, not their small group leader. Compassionate pastors have hearts that break for the conditions of others. They weep with those weep.
  8. Pastors Whose Churches Have Sustained Health and Growth Have Proximity – A good shepherd smells like his sheep. They are always around their people and staffs. Good shepherds are accessible. Proximity keeps the staff working hard and accountable. So goes the leader, so goes the people.
  9. Pastors Whose Churches Have Sustained Health and Growth Are Dedicated to Personal Growth – Once again, growing churches are led by growing leaders. They are deeply committed to growing spiritually and in the areas of character, competence, chemistry and creativity.
  10. Pastors Whose Churches Have Sustained Health and Growth Love People – People are the only appreciable asset your church has. Everything else depreciates. Jesus thought so much of people He was willing to die for them. Also, here is an interesting thought: If the pastor has some spare time on Sunday morning, where does he or she gravitate? Is it solitude (green room) or people (lobby)?
  11. Pastors Whose Churches Have Sustained Health and Growth Have a Plan – They have a vision and a plan to see it become reality. Also, a failure to plan is a plan to fail.

What are other practices have you seen in pastors who have sustainable ministries?

This article originally appeared here.

As Preparation Increases, Stress Decreases

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I’ve noticed this principle so many times in my own leadership and in working with other leaders. The more prepared I am to face a situation, the less stress I have in the situation.

Take a Sunday sermon, for example. On the weeks I’m able to spend my whole Wednesday and Thursday preparing, I’m far less stressed when I enter my weekend about the message I’ll be delivering. And, because of that, I discipline myself as much as possible to set these days aside for study.

Of course, that’s not possible every week. There are natural interruptions in life that I can’t and shouldn’t avoid. It’s understanding the principle that is important. Because when I realize the principle I am more likely to work toward seeing it become a reality.

I schedule most of my meetings on Monday and Tuesday. I delegate as much as I can on Wednesday and Thursday. And, perhaps most important, I place on my calendar when I will be studying.

And, this is just one example. It’s also why I use checklists to plan my week and my days. It’s why I am not afraid to say ‘no’ or ‘wait’ to non-emergency situations. It’s why I teach the Jethro and Acts 6 principles of leadership to our church. (Look them up for reference if you need a refresher.)

I’m intentional with my schedule and my life mostly because I’ve learned—the hard way—about this important principle.

Preparation decreases stress.

And, makes me a better leader.

Where do you need to increase your preparation so you can decrease your stress?

This article originally appeared here.

Why Night Time Is Danger Time

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Night time for many men and women is danger time. Before I got free of my addiction to pornography night time was a dangerous time for me. It was a time when I was tempted, especially after a particularly long day of work, to look at pornography. During this time of my life, now well over a decade ago, I would often sadly give in to the siren call of lust and selfishness.

Perhaps your struggle isn’t with pornography. You might struggle with going to the store or some restaurant to get ice cream late at night, or an extra snack after you’ve already eaten a full meal. Night time as danger time doesn’t have to be restricted to only pornography. Each one of us has specific temptations and points where we are being pressured to cave into temptation.

In my own walk with God, I’ve learned that it’s best at night if I’m alone I leave my phone on my nightstand charging. I don’t pick it up for any reason other than if my wife, mom or a close friend calls. This also ensures that I’m guarding my heart against temptation. In the evening I don’t get on my laptop except for rare circumstances where I have a burning article idea and feel the need to write. My evenings are spent with my wife reading, talking to her, or I’m at some event, or with a good friend.

To guard your heart and protect your marriage, you are going to have to be intentional. If you struggle with sexual sin of any kind in your life, nighttime is danger time. It means that you need help, whether that’s putting your phone on the nightstand or somewhere else in your residence; do it.

Pornography is crippling the lives of many men and women. It is selling them a bill of goods that seems to promise much but at the end of the day doesn’t. Instead, it leaves them bound in the shackles of guilt and shame; instead of in the freedom of hope in the gospel.

To fight for our growth in God’s grace and to stand firm in the Lord, we need to do the following: 1) we need ourselves to be growing in the gospel, 2) we need to understand the place of accountability, and lastly, 3) we need a plan of attack.

Growing in the gospel

First, we need to come to understand that our sin offends God. Jesus didn’t die so we could all have a group hug and join a social club. Instead, He died in the place of sinners and for their sin so they would put their sin to death. Theologians call this progressive sanctification that is daily growing into who we are already in Christ now. In other words, because we are His and He is ours, now we can love God and others as He intends for His glory.

We can see the awfulness of our sin only because the veil that clouded our vision has been removed by God when He replaced our heart of stone with a new heart, with new desires, and new affections for His glory. When nighttime temptation comes is not the time to prepare against the allure of lust. The time to prepare for the siren song of lust is beforehand.

We do this by understanding that if we just cave into the siren song of lust our fellowship with God will be broken. We remain wholly Christ’s, but Christ is not an approver of our sin. Our security remains in Christ, but our fellowship with the Lord is broken because of our sin. This is why 1 John 1:9 tells us we are deceived.

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