By definition, a pastor is one who “shepherds his flock.” You know this means he preaches, officiates weddings and probably has meetings in his office to explain some theological question; but what is the role of pastor really like? There are some common facts about pastors you might be unaware of.
Noteworthy Facts About Pastors
Here are 14 surprising facts about pastors that you might not know:
1. We fight the balance between pleasing people and pleasing God every day.
We do what we do because we love God…and people. Trying to please both is a common reason for pastor burnout in part because people and God don’t always want the same thing. Pleasing God wins, but living with the pressure of pleasing people can be extremely draining.
2. We often hear more negative than positive feedback.
People assume pastors get praised often for their good sermons. Not true. One of the unfortunate facts about pastors is that we hear complaints often and more readily than we hear compliments. Healthy pastors can live without a lot of compliments (at least they should be able to) but the reality is we often hear much more negative than positive feedback on the preaching, worship service, theological points, etc…
3. We say “no” because we love our sheep.
Pastors have families and lives too. We have to say “no” sometimes in order to be a good dad, a present husband, a good friend or for self-care. When a pastor says “no” to a church event, it should not be received as an indication that the pastor does not love the sheep, but as a protective measure for the greater good of the church body so the pastor can continue serving them well.
4. Our families feel the weight of our calling more than they will ever tell you.
My kids are young, yet they feel the weight I bring home at times. So does my wife. Pastor’s families are well aware of what they do and even the youngest member will feel the weight of what it means to lead a church. Be mindful that pastors are not called to serve without it affecting the family who is called, even if by default, to be in the ministry alongside them.
5. Eating well, exercising well and sleeping well is hard work for us.
Pastors are often selfless to a fault. We will more quickly go serve someone than to work out, sleep or prioritize self-care. While it may sound nice for a pastor to be selfless and think of others first, there is a balance to be practiced or it will not be good for the pastor or the person being served.
