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When All Hell Breaks Loose

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It’s been 25 years since the Columbine massacre.

It wasn’t the first school shooting in America, but the shocking scope and sheer evil of it made it the measuring stick by which all future shootings would be gauged.

It also radically changed my life. Here’s why:

MY LIFE BEFORE COLUMBINE

As I was growing up, a youth ministry had deeply impacted my life. As a scared, scarred, fatherless kid raised in the inner city, I was terrified of life. Between the violence of my family and the neighborhood we lived in, every day was a struggle.

But then a hillbilly preacher nicknamed (for some unknown reason) “Yankee” shared the Gospel with my toughest uncle on a dare. To everyone’s surprise, my uncle Jack came to Christ. Then the dominoes began to fall, and one by one my entire family came to faith in Christ.

RELATED: When all hell breaks loose… reflections on the Columbine High School massacre 20 years later

Getting involved in Yankee’s youth ministry was a game changer for me. Suddenly I had identity (as a child of God), belonging (with the people of God), and purpose (for the mission of God).

Over the course of my middle school and high school years, I transformed from a nervous Young Sheldon type into a bold evangelist. As a teenager, I went out sharing the Gospel every Friday night, led a bus ministry on Saturday, preached in church from time to time, and led outreach ministries.

And I wasn’t the exceptional kid. I was one of many ordinary teenagers equipped with extraordinary evangelism, theology, and discipleship training.

Yankee took teenagers seriously. He knew they came to Christ quicker and spread the Gospel faster than adults. Perhaps it was why his youth ministry had 800 teenagers, and his church had only 300 or so adults.

This strategic focus on youth stayed with me when my lifelong friend Rick Long and I decided to plant a church on March 12, 1989—a church that focused on reaching young people.

Eighteen months after starting the church, I launched Dare 2 Share—a nonprofit ministry with the goal of equipping teenagers to share the Gospel—with my former theology professor Jonathan Smith. I had an itch that needed more scratching. The church was great, but it wasn’t enough.

Dare 2 Share started with a simple mission statement: To energize teenagers to evangelize their world. And that’s exactly what we did.

We equipped teenagers across the Denver area, the Rocky Mountain region, and eventually the United States to share the Gospel.

In that first decade of ministry, we did a lot of training throughout the Denver area. Lane Palmer, a college roommate and good friend, was the youth leader of a church whose high schoolers attended Columbine High School. I’d gotten to know many of these teenagers through Dare 2 Share events and doing retreats and camps for Lane from time to time.

That brings us to April 20, 1999.

HOW COLUMBINE ROCKED MY WORLD

When I heard the news, I was in the youth room of a church in my hometown of Arvada, Colorado, promoting an upcoming Dare 2 Share conference on spiritual warfare and evangelism. There were six youth leaders who’d said “yes” to attending our free lunch so I could share with them about the upcoming event.

The theme of the conference was “When all hell breaks loose…strike back.”

As I unpacked the theme of the conference to these youth leaders, the pastor of the church knocked on the door and interrupted the meeting. He said, “Sorry to interrupt, but it looks like all hell has broken loose at Columbine High School. You all may want to stop and pray.”

We did.

But we had no idea until later that afternoon how bad it was.

Two teenagers had walked into Columbine High School at 11:21a.m., armed to the hilt with guns and bombs and the sinister intent to kill hundreds of their fellow students. They’d felt bullied and marginalized and now were taking out their anger on as many people as possible in the form of bullets and shrapnel.

‘It’s Called Go-Go Dancing’—Alex Magala Addresses Accusation He Is a ‘Stripper’; James River Church Says They Didn’t Know

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Alex Magala, the sword swallower who performed last Friday (April 12) at James River Church’s Stronger Men’s Conference, has released a video telling his side of the story.

Magala made headlines when he was publicly rebuked by controversial Pastor Mark Driscoll for what Driscoll described as a “strip club” performance. In reference to Magala’s performance, Driscoll told conference attendees that a “Jezebel spirit opened our event.” He went on to compare Magala’s performance to Old Testament pagan idol worship.

RELATED: John Lindell Calls Mark Driscoll To Repent for ‘Trying To Destroy James River Church’ and ‘Sow Disunity’ in the Lindell Family

 

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As Driscoll continued to talk through the applause of many in the audience, James River Church lead pastor and conference host John Lindell yelled at him, “You’re out of line Mark…You’re done.” Driscoll then promptly walked offstage.

Lindell and Driscoll later returned to the stage together and apparently reconciled. Driscoll went on to preach another sermon with Lindell by his side.

But in the days that followed, Lindell has called Driscoll to publicly repent, sharing that Driscoll had attempted to cause “division” within the Lindell family and “disunity in the body of Christ.” During a public rebuke, Lindell told James River Church that Driscoll sent messages to one of Lindell’s sons, calling Magala “completely demonic” and a “gay porn, stripper, Jezebel.”

Lindell called Driscoll to repent for, among other things, “refusing to stop the spread of lies regarding Alex Magala, a Christian brother.”

Magala Responds to Lindell Calling Driscoll to Repent

Magala is a two-time Guinness World Record holder, an “America’s Got Talent: The Champions” top performer, a “Britain’s Got Talent” top performer, winner of “Russia’s Got Talent,” and a 2014 Olympic Games Opening Ceremony performer. He also has a black belt in Brazilian jiu-jitsu.

The Stronger Men’s Conference was Magala’s first event in eight months, as he had been rehabbing a torn bicep.

“I am in tears. Recent events just broke my heart and after watching this, made it melt. I am touched and shocked at the same time. I hope we all find peace,” Magala said in a video posted to Instagram on Thursday (April 19).

In another video, Magala explained more about his act, faith, past, and family.

Near Chicago, a Lutheran Church Finds New Life at the YMCA

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Construction is underway on the former sanctuary of Good Shepherd Lutheran Church in Rockford, Ill., April 2, 2024, to become a gym in the future Good Shepherd YMCA. (RNS photo/Bob Smietana)

ROCKFORD, Ill (RNS) — In early April, just a few days after Easter, Good Shepherd Lutheran Church was filled with sounds of new life.

And hammers.

Two years ago, the church, which has shrunk from a congregation of 400 to a few dozen worshippers, decided to donate its building to the YMCA of the Rock River Valley in hopes the building could be reborn as a local Y. After months of planning and fundraising — the project will cost about $3 million — the rebirth of Good Shepherd finally got underway in late March 2024.

On Tuesday, April 2, the Rev. Eric Lemonholm, pastor of Good Shepherd, and Brent Pentenburg, CEO of the YMCA of the Rock River Valley, took a tour of the 1950s-era church, which is being transformed into Good Shepherd YMCA.

There were smiles all around as a long-anticipated dream was becoming a reality.

“We were once a big congregation in a big building,” said Lemonholm. “Then we became a small congregation in a big building for decades. The congregation knew something had to change.”

In recent years, the people of Good Shepherd, like thousands of congregations nationwide, found themselves dealing with the new math of American religion. In 2000, the median-sized congregation in the United States had 137 people, while today that number stands at about 60, according to data from the Faith Communities Today study. That has left congregations like Good Shepherd with buildings they can’t fill or afford to keep up.

Rather than closing its doors, the congregation at Good Shepherd decided to find a partner to share their space and continue the congregation’s work in the community. When the renovations are complete, the church’s former classrooms will house a fitness center and changing rooms, and the boxy sanctuary will be a brand-new gym.

The congregation will continue to hold services in a small chapel at the new YMCA facility when it opens. In doing so, they’ll become part of a small but growing group of churches who decided to make the Y their permanent home.

“We’ll be the church in the Y,” said Lemonholm, who splits his time between Good Shepherd and another small Lutheran church.

Founded in 1844 as the Young Men’s Christian Association, the YMCA’s official mission is “to put Christian principles into practice through programs that build healthy spirit, mind and body for all,” but the group has no official ties to any church or denomination, instead partnering with people from all backgrounds. In some communities, the Christian part of the mission is stressed more than in other communities.

The YMCA’s history and mission often make it a popular spot for startup congregations to meet before they can afford a building of their own. According to Tim Hallman, a former pastor and director of Christian emphasis for the YMCA of Greater Fort Wayne, Indiana, several churches like that rent space from the Y in their community.

‘Flynn’ Portrays the Christian Nationalist Evangelist’s Fight With the Deep State

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Michael Flynn, a retired three-star general who served as Trump's national security adviser, speaks on stage during the ReAwaken America tour at Cornerstone Church, in Batavia, N.Y., Friday, Aug. 12, 2022. (AP Photo/Carolyn Kaster)

(RNS) — Michael Flynn, Donald Trump’s former national security adviser and a driving force behind the ReAwaken America Tour, has a new show he’s taking on the road, a 127-minute hagiographic documentary chronicling his fight against the “Deep State” — a shadowy cabal of government operatives that Flynn insists are fixated on destroying him and his former boss.

“I’m surprised they haven’t killed me,” Flynn tells the camera in “Flynn.” “I’m surprised they’ve let me continue to live.”

“Flynn,” the film, poses as a straight-laced documentary but is starkly silent about Flynn’s current mission: spreading the gospel of Christian nationalism and preparing his followers to wage spiritual warfare, starting by taking over local politics.

The film’s goal seems to be to rewrite history and bolster Flynn’s credibility as a spiritual leader. After all, to Flynn’s followers, the “Deep State” isn’t just a political enemy, it’s a spiritual one, and the only way to serve God and save America is to destroy it.

According to Flynn’s narrative in the film, his Deep State troubles really began in 2010, when the lieutenant general, then director of intelligence for the International Security Assistance Force in Afghanistan, published a frank assessment (via private think tank) of ongoing intelligence failures in Afghanistan. That report rankled the powers that be, according to the movie — in reality, the report was well-received and endorsed by the secretary of defense at the time.

But from that point on, Flynn claims, “they” were on a mission to silence and destroy him via “baseless” accusations and fraudulent prosecution efforts.

In that sense, “Flynn” might be considered a counter to the 2022 Frontline/PBS documentary “Michael Flynn’s Holy War,” which told the tale of a once-respected lieutenant general who had served in the Obama White House as well as Trump’s before getting pulled into QAnon conspiracy theories, shady foreign dealings and Christian nationalism. Instead “Flynn” mythologizes its subject as a renegade who perseveres against all odds, standing up to malevolent forces in defense of “the truth.”

“He’s the only person who could have withstood this type of evil, this unfathomable domestic evil, and beat it, too,” said Flynn’s sister, Clare Flynn Eckert, as the camera panned to a gold statue of an angel holding a sword in front of an American flag. “He was meant for this time.”

The film premiered April 5 at a community center in Sarasota County, Florida, and will screen at 32 other locations, mostly municipal buildings, barns and church halls, across 25 states in the next two months. Tickets start at $35, but for $200 you get a photo op with Flynn and a “Flynn” film swag bag.

So far, the screenings seem to have attracted decent crowds and have featured prayer circles and drawn QAnon influencers as well as state senators, including Arizona State Sen. Wendy Rogers.

A week after the film became available on Amazon, it had sold over 4,000 copies, climbed to No. 31 in Movies and DVD, and No. 1 in the “Special Interests” category, beating out the Ken Burns National Parks collection, a line-dancing instructional DVD and the musical “Annie.”

Besides the film’s glaring absence of any mention of Flynn’s yearslong “ReAwaken” tour, which has taken Christian nationalism to suburbs and small towns across the country to recruit an “Army of God,” the film also fails to touch on the violent Jan. 6 riot at the Capitol.

Rebecca McLaughlin Defends Cru, Weighs in on Richard Hays’ New Book on Sexuality

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Author and theologian Dr. Rebecca McLaughlin defended Christian ministry Cru from criticisms about its stance on gender and sexuality and also called the news about scholar Dr. Richard B. Hays’ apparent shift to an affirming stance “​​exceedingly disappointing.” 

“I actually find Cru’s position to be extremely orthodox and quite helpful in difficult circumstances,” said McLaughlin, “because you’re talking about a large organization that’s working on a whole range of campuses and on all sorts of other contexts as well but trying to be clear and faithful when it comes to what the Bible teaches.”

McLaughlin shared her views in a recent interview on “The Stetzer ChurchLeaders Podcast,” where she discussed her upcoming book, “Does the Bible Affirm Same-Sex Relationships? Examining 10 Claims About Scripture and Sexuality.”

RELATED: Rebecca McLaughlin on Whether Christians Can Agree To Disagree About Same-Sex Relationships

Rebecca McLaughlin: Cru Is Drawing a ‘Clear, Orthodox’ Line

Cru, short for Campus Crusade for Christ International, is an nondenominational non-profit known for its ministry on college campuses. Its mission is to “win, build and send Christ-centered multiplying disciples who launch spiritual movements.”

Cru has received public criticism from some quarters recently for its approach to sexuality. One notable example was in November when Dr. Rosaria Butterfield spoke at a convocation at Liberty University and accused Cru of promoting “lies” about sexuality.

Butterfield is an author, speaker, former gay activist, and former tenured professor of English and women’s studies at Syracuse University. At one point in her life, she identified as a lesbian, but that changed after she trusted in Jesus as a result of a Christian couple’s friendship and hospitality. 

In her speech, Butterfield said some groups were promoting “lies,” including the idea that being attracted to the same sex is not a sin if people do not act on that attraction and that “people who experience same-sex attraction rarely if ever change and therefore should never pursue heterosexual marriage.” In addition to Cru, Butterfield named Revoice and Dr. Preston Sprinkle’s ministry, which she called “heretical.”

In response to a request for comment at the time, Cru directed ChurchLeaders to its position on sexuality and gender on its website. That statement says that God created people male and female, that believers are called to sexual purity, and that sexuality is corrupted by the Fall. Regarding same-sex attraction, the website says: 

We believe that same-sex attraction is contrary to God’s design for human sexuality. It represents a disordering of sexual desire in our fallen condition, which is neither morally neutral nor good. From a discipleship perspective, we also believe that all Christ-followers, including those who experience same-sex attraction, need encouragement, support, and love as they walk in the power of the Holy Spirit and battle temptation (Gal 6:2).

‘Overcomer’ Singer and Grammy Award-Winning Christian Artist Mandisa Dead at 47

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Mandisa Lynn Hundley, better known as just Mandisa, died at her home in Nashville, Tennessee, on Thursday (April 18) at the age of 47.

She was a Grammy Award-winning Christian artist and a two-time recipient of the K-LOVE Fan Award.

A representative for Mandisa told ChurchLeaders, “We can confirm that yesterday Mandisa was found in her home deceased. At this time, we do not know the cause of death or any further details. We ask for your prayers for her family and close-knit circle of friends during this incredibly difficult time.”

Mandisa first became a household name after she competed on Season 5 of “American Idol.” She finished in ninth place after surviving Judge Simon Cowell’s critique of her weight after her audition. She struggled with her weight throughout her career but later praised Cowell for his comments.

RELATED: Mandisa Shares Battle With Suicide on GMA: ‘God Saved My Life Quite Literally’

“My journey with my weight has been publicized [from] the moment that Simon Cowell made fun of me on national television,” she said in a 2013 interview with “Entertainment Tonight.” “The world was talking about my weight and while I hated it then, I look back now having lost a hundred pounds [and] I’m so thankful that happened. I’m thankful that Simon did that.”

The “Overcomer” singer recorded multiple songs that reached the charts not only in the Christian market but in the secular market as well.

Mandisa collaborated with TobyMacKirk FranklinMichael W. Smith, Jon Reddick, Matthew West, and Jordan Feliz. She was a regular opening artist for TobyMac and would often join him onstage to sing “Lose My Soul.”

In 2017, Mandisa shared on “Good Morning America” that she struggled with depression and became suicidal after her close friend died of cancer, leading her to go into hiding for nearly three years.

“I was this close to listening to that voice that was saying, ‘You can be with Jesus right now Mandisa, all you have to do is take your life,’” she told host Robin Roberts. “It almost happened,” said the artist. “But God, he stepped in and saved my life quite literally.”

K-LOVE chief media officer David Pierce said, “Mandisa loved Jesus, and she used her unusually extensive platform to talk about him at every turn. Her kindness was epic, her smile electric, her voice massive, but it was no match for the size of her heart.”

Joel Muddamalle: How To Face Your Fears and Insecurities

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As pastors and ministry leaders, do we struggle with admitting that we have fears and insecurities? In this week’s conversation on FrontStage BackStage, host Jason Daye is joined by Dr. Joel Muddamalle. Joel is the director of theology and research at Proverbs 31 Ministries, where he also co-hosts the “Therapy and Theology” podcast. He serves as a teaching pastor at Transformation Church just outside of Charlotte, North Carolina. His most recent book is titled “The Hidden Peace.” Together, Joel and Jason explore some of the fears and insecurities that we wrestle with as ministry leaders and the unhealthy cycle that those can create. Joel then provides some great practical ways to address these challenges as we embrace true humility.

FrontStage BackStage Podcast With Joel Muddamalle

View the entire podcast here.

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3 Lessons Learned From 50 Years of Marriage

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My parents celebrated their 50th wedding anniversary this past weekend!

As we took them out for a nice steak dinner to celebrate memories and milestones, I was reminded of some lessons learned from watching their marriage over the years. Here are just a few.

1. A Picture of Biblical Faithfulness

“Moreover it is required in stewards, that a man be found faithful” (1 Corinthians 4:2).

Marriage, like all areas of life, is a form of stewardship.

And like in any marriage, my parents have seen their share of “for better and for worse,” yet they’ve stayed faithful to each other through it all.

They have demonstrated unconditional love and sacrificial commitment to each other. They have also made a life together of sacrificially loving God and serving others, and left a godly heritage in the process.

Marriage isn’t meant to be easy. But that’s also why it’s referred to as a covenant and a commitment.

2. A Promise of Together Forever

In today’s culture, many kids are being raised without the confidence of knowing that mom and dad are in it for the long haul. The value of “till death do us part” has been challenged in a culture where 50% of all marriages end in divorce.

God’s plan for children is that their family be a place where they find their greatest security. Every child wants, needs, and deserves to know that their family will stay together through thick and thin.

My parents intentionally gave us the promise of being together forever, and it was never questioned.

Of all the things in life that are uncertain for a child, family should never be one of them. Because not only is “together forever” a promise, it’s a gift.

3. A Pattern Worth Following

While there’s no 100% money-back guarantee, here’s the best way to ensure your kids will have a successful marriage someday…Model one for them!

Pastor: You Were Not Made for Fame

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We live in a culture that is defined by fame. A culture that is saturated by fame. A culture that sees its worth based not on financial security or social standing like previous generations had. Our cultural moment sees the acquisition of fame as the greatest good, we measure our value by followers, fans, and likes. If you ask most kids what they want to be when they get older they usually say a YouTuber. That is not what kids said when I was young. When I was a kid, most kids wanted to be the president, a businessman, a policeman, or a teacher.

The lie that our culture has given into is that if I have fame I will be enough. Our culture has placed fame above power and money because those things, in our information, social media-driven culture flow toward fame. Sadly this desire for fame is not absent in the church. We measure the success of our work as a pastor by weekend attendance and event participation.

What is more tragic is the people who are supposed to be a prophetic voice to the perils of culture have themselves turned the vice of fame into a virtue. Celebrity preachers wearing streetwear worth thousands, hanging with A-list stars proclaiming that they want to “Make Jesus Famous.” As the years have passed we have seen the reality is that those same celebrity preachers became more famous and Jesus became more distant. Because a heart that pursues fame as its greatest good can not pursue Christ. The way of Jesus is antithetical to fame. Jesus would regularly say hard things that were not popular because his kingdom is an upside down kingdom. Yet so often the temptation and the advice given to pastors is to avoid controversy. Don’t say things that will alienate anyone.

We have given ourselves and bought into the marketing lie that more is better and fame is the goal. The chasing of fame comes at the expense of our soul. You can not desire fame as your pursuit without fame taking its toll.

Contemporary pastors are tempted to measure their success, not to mention fulfillment, precisely by how well-liked they are. (M. Craig Barnes)

The temptation to be liked and loved and famous is ever-present in the heart of a pastor. The temptation to be efficient with people is ever-present

Eugene Peterson, commenting on the pastoral vocation, said this:

The pastoral vocation in America is embarrassingly banal. It is banal because it is pursued under the canons of job efficiency and career management. It is banal because it is reduced to the dimensions of a job description. It is banal because it is an idol a call from God exchanged for an offer by the devil for work that can be measured and manipulated at the convenience of the worker. Holiness is not banal. Holiness is blazing.

Pastors commonly give lip service to the vocabulary of a holy vocation, but in our working lives, we more commonly pursue careers. Our actual work takes shape under the pressure of the marketplace, not the truth of theology or the wisdom of spirituality. I would like to see as much attention given to the holiness of our vocations as to the piety of our lives.

Basically, all I am doing is trying to get it straight, get straight what it means to be a pastor, and then develop a spirituality adequate to the work. The so-called spirituality that was handed to me by those who put me to the task of pastoral work was not adequate. I do not find the emaciated, exhausted spirituality of institutional careerism adequate. I do not find the veneered, cosmetic spirituality of personal charisma adequate. I require something biblically spiritual – rooted and cultivated in creation and covenant, leisurely in Christ, soaked in Spirit.

3 Reasons You Should Learn From People Different Than You

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Here’s a question I’m working through:

Does the breadth of your learning impact the depth of your learning?

I know… I think in tweets. But to say it a little less 140 character’ish: How much more could we learn by expanding the context of our education? And I don’t mean studying more people in your current industry. Granted, it’s not natural to study other industries and organizational leaders unlike us, but I think finding breadth could be a hidden ingredient to accelerated growth.

This idea hit me recently while at a conference. It was a great conference full of wonderful leaders – who I’ve heard from too many times to count. I saw an advertisement for another conference. Guess who was speaking? Basically the same people. Don’t get me wrong. I love and respect these leaders. They’re my mentors – some directly. But I wonder – does a homogenous learning community stunt growth at some point?

When we only learn from our own kind, we become critical more than curious.

As a pastor, I primarily learn from other churches, church leaders, and church models. As a younger leader, that was a great place to start. Seeing other perspectives and approaches to church helped solidify how I wanted to create and lead a local church. There was great clarity found in watching those who were already doing it. Yet, the more comfortable I got as a leader in my church, the more critical I became of leaders in the church. I accidentally replaced learning with critiquing.

Of course, that’s not a healthy dynamic, but it is a natural progression. When we visit other organizations within our industry, we are hyper-critical of what we understand (or think we understand).

Here’s what I’ve discovered: My Christian leadership growth for my church is limited when I only learn from leaders in the church. This principle extends to EVERY industry, company, and organization. Back to the principle (and tweet):

The breadth of your learning will influence the depth of your learning.

Maybe that’s not new to everyone, but for me, it has created a new category from which to learn. When I seek out leaders in other industries, it helps me in 3 specific ways.

3 Reasons Why Learning From People Different Than You Is Good

1. People Who Are Different From You Are Intriguing.

When I meet with leaders from other industries, my interest is automatically peaked because people who are different is intriguing. I find myself asking questions rather than simply evaluating executions – mostly because I can’t fully critique an industry I don’t fully understand. Think about it. When we are faced with something new, we automatically ask more questions. Curiosity begins to trust criticism.

2. Different Drives Innovation.

Some of my favorite innovations at Watermarke Church have come from interactions with leaders and organizations outside the church. Example: Just recently, I read a book on screenwriting. I have NO desire to ever write a movie script. I’m doing good to write a blog post. But as I began to understand the systems and approaches to movie scripts, it generated new ideas and possible innovations for me as a communicator. I’ve already tried a few successfully. A sermon is much like a story, and the principles of great screenwriting can (and should) be applied to message writing.

3. Different Isn’t That Different.

Leadership principles are transferable, and seeing principles executed in non-familiar settings can help us see the same things in new ways. We bring fresh eyes to old lessons. Sometimes that’s all it takes for us to discover a leadership breakthrough.

I know you already read the great business books. I know you study other leaders and models in your industry. But whom can you seek to learn from outside your industry? What other industries can provide new you new insights? It might provide the breakthrough you’ve been seeking.

How do you learn from people who are different than you? What other industries have you found most intriguing? I’d love to know so I can expand my breadth, too.

This article about learning from people who are different originally appeared here.

Adding New Structure to Your Team: 5 Keys

There is a trick to adding new structure to a growing organization. Frankly, I think there is value in unstructured growth. We shouldn’t be afraid of growth we cannot understand. It’s messier, harder to contain, even uncomfortable at times, but it also keeps leaders energized, maintains momentum, and helps spur exponential growth.

As the organization grows – and as strategy changes – additions in structure have to be added. Even entrepreneurs shouldn’t be afraid of healthy structure. Adding new structure, however, can be a painful and disruptive process if not handled carefully. We must add structure strategically.

Too many churches and organizations are stalled, because when things got messy due to growth they simply added a new rule. The fact is structure should never be too inflexible. It should change with the organization. It should even change at times with the people who are in the organization.

How do you add good, helpful new structure in a growing organization?

5 Suggestions for Adding New Structure

1. The change should make sense with the organizational DNA.

We have to be careful altering something in a way which could disrupt the fiber, core, or root foundation of the organization. DNA is formed fast, but changed slowly – and sometimes never. It’s who an organization is and who people have come to expect it to be. It’s hard to disrupt this without disrupting future potential for growth.

Every church and organization is unique. For example, the structure we tried to add or change in church revitalization looked different from the structure we had in church planting.

I see new leaders get in trouble here a lot – when they don’t take time to understand the pre-established DNA before they announce a major change.

2. The structure added should not impede progress.

This seems common sense to me, but I’ve learned this is not always the case. Structure should further enable the completion of the vision, not detract from it.

Notice I said progress and not growth with this suggestion. It could be you need some temporary structure which slows growth for a season. When I was in city leadership there was a time we needed to slow the pace of growth so we could catch up with infrastructure in the city. We actually saw that as progress. If it slowed growth forever it would no longer be progress.

Songs Through the Centuries: The Power of Hymns

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When we arrived in our current pastoral call, one of the pleasant surprises my wife and I discovered was a Manse where we could host large groups of people, with a living room that could accommodate our two grand pianos without breaking a sweat. We suspected this might lead to some joyful experiences, and our suspicions were confirmed! Once again we learned the power of hymns when we offered to host the Spring party for our choir. The First Pres choir is uncommonly dedicated—followers of Jesus who find great joy, personal fulfillment, and rewarding ministry in making music well. Twice a year we get together to share fellowship unhindered by a rehearsal schedule or a liturgical deadline.

As we’ve learned to expect in this over-committed metropolitan area, not everyone could make it on any given night. But on this night, with a majority of choir members and their spouses, we had a house full. Our dining room table was filled with appetizers and desserts brought by our guests. A delightfully warm Spring evening enticed people into conversations both inside the house and on the deck. The food and the fellowship alone would have made it a good event—but then the magic began.

The Power of Hymns – Musical Ebenezers

Our Director of Worship and Music sat down at one of the pianos and began to play. Gradually, people drifted into the living room. Conversations became quieter. The music began to take central focus. One by one, people began to call out hymns. I soon joined in at the other piano, and for the next hour we sang: older and newer, gospel and traditional, some unison, some parts, most without a note of music—we sang. Unity of mind, heart, and spirit; community, an inextricable connection between music and faith—all were very real.

But the sharing didn’t stop with the singing. One man who, at the moment, seemed to be ahead in his battle with a relentless form of cancer, remarked how wonderful it was to be able to sing with strength again after much physical struggle. A woman was brought to tears when we happened to sing a hymn that had been sung at the service for her miscarried baby a few years before. Koinonia was strengthened when stories transformed hymns into musical ebenezers.

The Meaning of the Parable of the Talents

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Matthew’s gospel devotes two full chapters to the subject of the second coming of Christ. How does Jesus prepare his followers for the day of his return? He tells them stories. We can read Jesus’ words regarding his return in Matthew, chapters 24 and 25. In this discourse he gives solemn warnings about the last days. They will be perilous times. The days before his return will be without precedent, filled with danger and woe. But as he continues teaching about the second coming Jesus changes his tone and begins to relate one parable after another. These are the parables of the last days. These stories are well known: the parable of the wise and foolish virgins; the parable of the sheep and the goats; and the parable of the talents. However, in our familiarity with these stories we might miss the importance of their setting. Each story is told in the context of his second coming. Jesus is teaching us how to prepare for his return.

The Parable of the Talents

Listen to the familiar parable of the talents: a man going on a journey gives portions of his estate to three servants, who each make choices regarding what to do with the Master’s money. They do so with the knowledge that they will someday give an account of their management. After a long time the Master returns and the accounts are settled. What does this parable teach us about living our lives today as we await his coming?

First, the story begins with these simple words, “It will be like a man going on a journey, who called his servants and entrusted his property to them.” (Matthew 25: 14) Even as he sets the stage, Jesus is telling us something important: we have an entrustment. Everything we have is given to us by God. Do we see ourselves as stewards or owners? The answer makes all the difference.

A steward lives for the day he will return the Master’s goods to Him. An owner believes his possessions are his to spend in any way he sees fit. All we have–our material goods, our abilities, and even our very lives–belong to someone else. We are merely holding them for the day of reckoning.

Mother’s Day Craft and Bible Message for Children

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Need a simple Mother’s Day craft idea for Sunday school kids? We’ve got you covered! Help make Mother’s Day meaningful and memorable for families at your church. Check out this free children’s message and Mother’s Day craft.

Mother’s Day Bible Message: Because I Love You

Scripture: Exodus 20:12

You’ll need:

  • Bible
  • flowers (1 per child)

Say: Today is Mother’s Day! So let’s honor our mothers in a special way. Show the flowers. Aren’t these flowers pretty? You’ll each get one to give your mom, grandma, or another special caregiver in your family! 

If you’re leading this Bible message in front of the congregation, encourage kids to give their flowers now. If you’re leading this in a children’s church setting, wait and distribute flowers for children to give at the end of your time together.

Ask:

  • How do these flowers remind you of your mom or another caregiver you love?
  • How does giving flowers show honor to someone?
  • What other ways can we show honor to moms and people who care for us?

Say: Flowers are a lovely way to honor someone and show our love. We can also show honor by telling our moms we love them, helping around the house, and being pleasant to live with! Mention other ways the children talked about.

Honor Mom

Open your Bible to Exodus 20:12.

Say: This is what God says about our parents. “Honor your father and your mother, so that you may live long in the land the Lord your God is giving you.”

The Bible says to “honor” the people who take care of you. To honor means to show deep respect and love for someone. 

The next time your mom asks you to do something, remember to say cheerfully, “Okay, Mom! I’ll do it because I love you!” But be careful! You may surprise her so much that she faints! Then be ready to pick your mom up off the floor!

Say a prayer: Dear God, we thank you so very much for mothers, grandmothers, and all the people who love and take care of us. We know you’ll help us treat them in a loving and special way. Help us remember to do that all day every day, not just on Mother’s Day.

Send the kids back. Tell them to hug their moms, grandmas, or other special caregivers and say, “Happy Mother’s Day! I love you!”

Mother’s Day Craft: “Because I Love You” Boxes

Scripture: Hebrews 10:24

You’ll need:

  • small paper jewelry boxes (1 per child)
  • glue
  • assorted bright-colored puffy paints
  • fine-tipped colored markers
  • plastic jewels
  • colored paper (1 piece per child)
  • safety scissors

Tip:

For a little extra “wow,” use simple cardboard craft treasure chests. You can find these at most craft stores for a low cost. Or, for a simpler option, paper lunch bags work too!

Leading Through Crisis to Organizational Thriving

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In the wake of painful and public events, organizations often find themselves navigating a tumultuous path towards healing. Such events can fracture trust, incite fear, challenge integrity, and polarize opinions.

Yet, the journey to organizational healing, health, hope, and a thriving future is not only possible but can be deeply transformative.

This journey can be illuminated by drawing on stories of leadership and resilience from biblical figures, Abraham Lincoln, and Nelson Mandela, and applying principles from Neuroscience Informed Christian Counseling® (NICC) to guide the process.

Leading With Vision and Compassion: A Biblical Foundation

In the Bible, figures like Moses and Nehemiah exemplify leadership that is rooted in vision and compassion. Moses led the Israelites out of Egypt, not just by navigating physical wilderness but by addressing the emotional and spiritual turmoil of his people. Similarly, Nehemiah’s leadership in rebuilding Jerusalem’s walls was not merely a physical reconstruction but a communal healing process.

These stories emphasize the importance of vision that extends beyond immediate crises to a future of wholeness and hope. They remind us that true leadership involves bearing the emotional burdens of those we lead, fostering a shared vision for a thriving future, and committing to the holistic well-being of the community.

Embracing the Mismatch: Learning From Abraham Lincoln and Nelson Mandela

Abraham Lincoln, in the throes of the Civil War, and Nelson Mandela, amidst South Africa’s struggle against apartheid, demonstrated leadership that transformed national pain into unity. Their strategies embodied the NICC principle of “mismatch work,” which facilitates healing by introducing new, corrective experiences that starkly contrast with past traumas or maladaptive patterns.

Lincoln’s Emancipation Proclamation and Mandela’s truth and reconciliation approach served as powerful mismatch experiences, challenging entrenched beliefs and practices to pave the way for new narratives of unity and collective identity.

Metabolizing Pain through Healthy Grieving: NICC Insights

NICC emphasizes the integration of emotional, relational, and spiritual principles to foster healing. Organizations can take a cue from this approach by creating spaces for healthy grieving—a process that acknowledges pain, facilitates emotional expression, and transforms suffering into a source of strength and connection.

Just as Moses and Nehemiah guided their people through periods of lamentation and rebuilding, organizations today must allow for the metabolizing of pain, using it as fertile ground for growth and renewal.

Cultivating Connection and Thriving: A Path Forward

The biblical principle of thriving—living out one’s fullest potential in connection with God and others—is central to NICC. This principle can be a beacon for organizations aiming to move beyond survival to a state of flourishing.

It involves fostering deep connections within the organization, embracing diversity, and nurturing an environment where all members can contribute their unique gifts towards a shared purpose. By doing so, organizations can mirror the thriving ecosystems described in Scriptures, where diverse parts work together in harmony for the common good.

Prioritizing Time

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The noble calling of pastoring a church often comes with a relentless schedule and the constant pressure to juggle various responsibilities. Effective time management is crucial to making sure you can fulfill your duties while maintaining a healthy work-life balance. The good news is, there are practical strategies and tools to help you prioritize your time effectively. Consider these tools and tips as you learn to manage your days to maximize your time!

  • Set Clear Priorities: To manage your time wisely, it’s essential to have a clear understanding of your priorities. Consider the following steps:
    • Define your core mission and values.
    • Identify your most important tasks (MITs) for each day.
    • Regularly review and adjust your priorities as circumstances change.
  • Create a Weekly Schedule: Develop a weekly schedule that outlines your regular activities, including sermon preparation, counseling sessions, and administrative tasks. Allocate specific time blocks for each task to maintain a structured routine.
  • Delegate and Empower Others: Recognize that you don’t have to do everything yourself. Delegate tasks to capable team members or volunteers, allowing you to focus on your core responsibilities.
  • Utilize Time Management Tools: Embrace digital tools and apps to streamline your schedule and tasks. Some popular options include:
    • Calendar Apps: Use digital calendars like Google Calendar or Outlook to schedule appointments, set reminders, and block off time for focused work.
    • Task Management Apps: Tools like Todoist, Trello, or Asana can help you organize tasks, set deadlines, and collaborate with your team.
    • Note-Taking Apps: Evernote, Notion, or OneNote can help you capture ideas, sermon notes, and important information in one place.
  • Practice the Two-Minute Rule: If a task takes less than two minutes to complete, do it immediately. This simple rule can prevent small tasks from piling up and overwhelming you later.
  • Use the Eisenhower Matrix: Categorize your tasks into four quadrants: urgent and important, important but not urgent, urgent but not important, and neither urgent nor important. Prioritize your tasks accordingly, focusing on the important ones first.
  • Set Boundaries: Establish clear boundaries between work and personal life. Communicate your availability to your congregation and colleagues, and learn to say no when necessary to protect your time.
  • Batch Similar Tasks: Group similar tasks together and complete them during designated time blocks. This can reduce context switching and improve your efficiency.
  • Regularly Reflect and Adjust: Periodically assess your time management strategies and adjust them based on your evolving needs and challenges.
  • Invest in Self-Care: Remember that taking care of yourself is crucial for effective ministry. Prioritize self-care activities such as counseling, exercise, meditation, and spending quality time with loved ones.

Effective time management is a skill that can greatly enhance your ministry’s impact while making sure you maintain a healthy work-life balance. By setting clear priorities, utilizing time management tools, and practicing self-care, you can better serve your congregation and fulfill your calling as a pastor or ministry leader. Stay committed to refining your time management skills, and you’ll see the positive effects in both your personal and professional life.

This article originally appeared here.

Remains of Pastor’s Wife and Friend Identified; OK County GOP Chair Among ‘God’s Misfits’ Murder Defendants

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New information is emerging about the suspects charged with kidnapping and murdering Jilian Kelley, 39, and Veronica Butler, 27. As ChurchLeaders has reported, the four defendants—now being held without bond—belong to a religious anti-government group called God’s Misfits. This week, news surfaced that suspect Tifany Machel Adams, 54, is the GOP chair for Cimarron County, Oklahoma.

Adams is also the paternal grandmother of Butler’s two children, ages 6 and 8, who are at the center of an ongoing custody dispute. The last weekend in March, Butler had driven to pick up her children from Adams, taking Kelley along as a visitation supervisor. When Butler and Kelley failed to return, an extensive search ensued.

After two weeks, remains thought to be those of the missing women were found in rural Oklahoma. Those remains have now been positively identified as the bodies of Kelley and Butler. According to court documents, evidence from the scene indicates the women suffered violent deaths.

RELATED: ‘Suspicious’ Disappearance of Pastor’s Wife and Friend Has Multiple Agencies Searching

Kelley’s husband, Heath Kelley, is pastor at Hugoton First Christian Church in Hugoton, Kansas. In June, he is slated to begin serving at Willow Christian Church in Indianola, Nebraska.

Cimarron County GOP Official Charged With ‘Senseless Crime’

Adams was reportedly elected as Cimarron County GOP chair last year. When asked to comment on the charges against Adams, Oklahoma State Sen. Nathan Dahm, chairman of the state GOP, said:

While we at the Oklahoma Republican Party have no personal relationship or knowledge of the individuals who have been accused in this senseless crime, we have been made aware that Ms. Adams was previously elected by a handful of people to the role of chair in her county.

Dahm called the situation “tragic” and asked for prayers for the family—especially the “innocent children” involved.

According to an affidavit, investigators said Adams was trying to keep her grandchildren away from her son, who is in drug rehab, and from Butler. A custody hearing had been scheduled for April 17.

The other three defendants are Tad Collum, Cole Twombly, and Cora Twombly. All four are charged with first-degree murder, kidnapping, and conspiracy to commit murder.

An Oklahoma judge ruled that the suspects be held without bond because “proof of evidence or presumption of guilt is great” and because they have “the resources to flee if given the opportunity.”

According to a prosecutor’s motion, Adams admitted to investigators that she was responsible for the women’s deaths. Investigators also said the teenage daughter of Cora Twombly described hearing the suspects plot the murders.

RELATED: Suspects in Murder of Pastor’s Wife and Friend Are Members of ‘God’s Misfits,’ a Religious Anti-Government Group

Churches Request Prayers for Survivors’ Families

Pastor Heath Kelley’s current and future churches are requesting prayers for the victims’ families. On the Hugoton First Christian Facebook page, an administrator posted Thursday (April 18):

On behalf of the Kelley Family they would like to send a huge THANK YOU and appreciation to all their family, friends, church family, community and surrounding communities for the outpouring of love in prayers, hugs, food, supplies, visits and donations. Each one has been a blessing and they are humbled by your love and generosity.

The post continued: “The family would also like to share with you the following song that Jilian had been listening to on repeat over the past few months, ‘Whatever It Takes’ by Stephen Stanley.”

The Blessing of Constraints

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In the spring of 2019, I shared with the shepherding elders of our church that we were going to be launching one new congregation a year for the next five years. Our directional elders were already on board, we had resources set aside for the first launch, and we were in the process of building the staff for the first new congregation.

In January 2020, the lease we were about to sign for the first of the new congregations fell through. We started looking for a new location and then…Well, you know what happened in March 2020. At this point, it seemed like the plan to launch new congregations would be on hold for…Well, you know there were a lot of opinions about how long.

Early in the pandemic, a friend recommended the book “A Beautiful Constraint” to me—a book for marketplace leaders that encourages them not to think like a victim when an unforeseen constraint happens, and not even to think like a neutralizer who simply works around the constraint, but to think like a transformer and view the constraint as a gift. The book helped me ask the question: “How can the pandemic actually help us launch new congregations?”

Also, early in the pandemic I offered a systematic theology course via Zoom to people in our church. One of the sessions was about God’s attributes. We talked about the amazing reality that God exists outside of time, that he sees this moment with equal clarity and vividness as he sees all moments. I was challenged by my own teaching. God fully knew the pandemic was happening when he led us to plan to launch new congregations.

So, in July 2020, we launched six “Mariners in the Neighborhood” locations throughout Orange County. We chose cities where we believed we would one day launch a new congregation. At first each gathering was 50-60 people in a parking lot watching our online worship services together. Then a worship leader with an acoustic guitar was added, then a kids ministry, then Bible study groups, then a youth ministry gathering.

A year later, four of the six had become new Mariners Church congregations and we folded the other two into other congregations. Today, all four of those congregations launched during the pandemic are healthy (not perfect) and growing. New leaders have been developed. People have met Jesus. Cities have been served in his name.

Because God exists outside of time, constraints can be beautiful.

I hope I will remember God’s faithfulness to us in that season the next time there is an unforeseen constraint placed on the ministry. Which there certainly will be. There will be new challenges always, but we can believe that God gives leaders direction with full knowledge and understanding of the looming challenges.

The constraint can actually be beautiful and helpful and not a reason to abandon what God has called leaders to do.

This article originally appeared here and is used by permission. 

Church Staffer, Elementary School Volunteer Faces Felony Peeping Charges After Being Caught Placing Camera Under Women’s Skirts

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A North Carolina man has been arrested and charged with felony secret peeping after being caught on camera placing his phone under a woman’s skirt in a Greenville Target on Monday. Prior to his arrest, Thomas Elliott was on staff at Opendoor Church in Winterville and a volunteer at Eastern Elementary School in Greenville.

Elliott, 21, was apprehended after a Target customer noticed that he was behaving suspiciously and began filming him. In a video captured by this Good Samaritan, Elliott can be seen crouching down and placing his phone on the floor beneath the skirt of another female customer. 

The Good Samaritan then immediately confronted Elliott, calling upon a Target employee to get law enforcement involved. Elliott was later arrested. 

Following a review of store security footage, police said that Elliott may face two additional felony secret peeping charges. 

RELATED: Former San Jose Youth Pastor Charged With Multiple Sex Crimes After Years of Parental Complaints

In a statement to WNCT, Pitt County Schools said that it was alerted to Elliott’s arrest on Monday, adding, “We can confirm that the individual was a volunteer at Eastern Elementary School.”

“We are disturbed and deeply concerned by video footage of the individual that has been shared on social media and news outlets, and based on the footage, the individual will not be returning to our campuses as a volunteer or hired as an employee,” the statement continued.

Pitt County Schools said that Elliott had passed a background check before being allowed to volunteer at the school. 

Similarly, Megan Holland, lead pastor of communications at Opendoor Church, told WNCT, “Safety and security are of utmost importance to us. We are taking this situation extremely seriously. Thomas Elliott was immediately terminated upon notification of his arrest on Monday.”

“Additionally, he is no longer permitted on our properties,” Holland continued. “We continue to seek God’s wisdom in the aftermath of this situation. We pray for God’s healing and redemption for all those affected.”

RELATED: Suspects in Murder of Pastor’s Wife and Friend Are Members of ‘God’s Misfits,’ a Religious Anti-Government Group

The church did not disclose what role Elliott had served in prior to his termination. 

Jared Patrick Boyd: How Spiritual Formation in Community Links Lives

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How do we draw people together in deeper and more meaningful ways that provides space for their questions and encourages them to flourish in their faith? In this week’s conversation on FrontStage BackStage, host Jason Daye is joined by Jared Patrick Boyd. Jared is a pastor, a spiritual director, and the founding director of The Order of The Common Life. His most recent book is titled “Finding Freedom in Constraint.” Together, Jared and Jason explore the hope we find in the midst of the strains the church is currently experiencing, including people walking away. Jared highlights the value of spiritual formation in community as a vital and beautiful way for relationships to deepen and endure.

FrontStage BackStage Podcast With Jared Patrick Boyd

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