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Adding New Structure to Your Team: 5 Keys

There is a trick to adding new structure to a growing organization. Frankly, I think there is value in unstructured growth. We shouldn’t be afraid of growth we cannot understand. It’s messier, harder to contain, even uncomfortable at times, but it also keeps leaders energized, maintains momentum, and helps spur exponential growth.

As the organization grows – and as strategy changes – additions in structure have to be added. Even entrepreneurs shouldn’t be afraid of healthy structure. Adding new structure, however, can be a painful and disruptive process if not handled carefully. We must add structure strategically.

Too many churches and organizations are stalled, because when things got messy due to growth they simply added a new rule. The fact is structure should never be too inflexible. It should change with the organization. It should even change at times with the people who are in the organization.

How do you add good, helpful new structure in a growing organization?

5 Suggestions for Adding New Structure

1. The change should make sense with the organizational DNA.

We have to be careful altering something in a way which could disrupt the fiber, core, or root foundation of the organization. DNA is formed fast, but changed slowly – and sometimes never. It’s who an organization is and who people have come to expect it to be. It’s hard to disrupt this without disrupting future potential for growth.

Every church and organization is unique. For example, the structure we tried to add or change in church revitalization looked different from the structure we had in church planting.

I see new leaders get in trouble here a lot – when they don’t take time to understand the pre-established DNA before they announce a major change.

2. The structure added should not impede progress.

This seems common sense to me, but I’ve learned this is not always the case. Structure should further enable the completion of the vision, not detract from it.

Notice I said progress and not growth with this suggestion. It could be you need some temporary structure which slows growth for a season. When I was in city leadership there was a time we needed to slow the pace of growth so we could catch up with infrastructure in the city. We actually saw that as progress. If it slowed growth forever it would no longer be progress.

Songs Through the Centuries: The Power of Hymns

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When we arrived in our current pastoral call, one of the pleasant surprises my wife and I discovered was a Manse where we could host large groups of people, with a living room that could accommodate our two grand pianos without breaking a sweat. We suspected this might lead to some joyful experiences, and our suspicions were confirmed! Once again we learned the power of hymns when we offered to host the Spring party for our choir. The First Pres choir is uncommonly dedicated—followers of Jesus who find great joy, personal fulfillment, and rewarding ministry in making music well. Twice a year we get together to share fellowship unhindered by a rehearsal schedule or a liturgical deadline.

As we’ve learned to expect in this over-committed metropolitan area, not everyone could make it on any given night. But on this night, with a majority of choir members and their spouses, we had a house full. Our dining room table was filled with appetizers and desserts brought by our guests. A delightfully warm Spring evening enticed people into conversations both inside the house and on the deck. The food and the fellowship alone would have made it a good event—but then the magic began.

The Power of Hymns – Musical Ebenezers

Our Director of Worship and Music sat down at one of the pianos and began to play. Gradually, people drifted into the living room. Conversations became quieter. The music began to take central focus. One by one, people began to call out hymns. I soon joined in at the other piano, and for the next hour we sang: older and newer, gospel and traditional, some unison, some parts, most without a note of music—we sang. Unity of mind, heart, and spirit; community, an inextricable connection between music and faith—all were very real.

But the sharing didn’t stop with the singing. One man who, at the moment, seemed to be ahead in his battle with a relentless form of cancer, remarked how wonderful it was to be able to sing with strength again after much physical struggle. A woman was brought to tears when we happened to sing a hymn that had been sung at the service for her miscarried baby a few years before. Koinonia was strengthened when stories transformed hymns into musical ebenezers.

The Meaning of the Parable of the Talents

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Matthew’s gospel devotes two full chapters to the subject of the second coming of Christ. How does Jesus prepare his followers for the day of his return? He tells them stories. We can read Jesus’ words regarding his return in Matthew, chapters 24 and 25. In this discourse he gives solemn warnings about the last days. They will be perilous times. The days before his return will be without precedent, filled with danger and woe. But as he continues teaching about the second coming Jesus changes his tone and begins to relate one parable after another. These are the parables of the last days. These stories are well known: the parable of the wise and foolish virgins; the parable of the sheep and the goats; and the parable of the talents. However, in our familiarity with these stories we might miss the importance of their setting. Each story is told in the context of his second coming. Jesus is teaching us how to prepare for his return.

The Parable of the Talents

Listen to the familiar parable of the talents: a man going on a journey gives portions of his estate to three servants, who each make choices regarding what to do with the Master’s money. They do so with the knowledge that they will someday give an account of their management. After a long time the Master returns and the accounts are settled. What does this parable teach us about living our lives today as we await his coming?

First, the story begins with these simple words, “It will be like a man going on a journey, who called his servants and entrusted his property to them.” (Matthew 25: 14) Even as he sets the stage, Jesus is telling us something important: we have an entrustment. Everything we have is given to us by God. Do we see ourselves as stewards or owners? The answer makes all the difference.

A steward lives for the day he will return the Master’s goods to Him. An owner believes his possessions are his to spend in any way he sees fit. All we have–our material goods, our abilities, and even our very lives–belong to someone else. We are merely holding them for the day of reckoning.

Mother’s Day Craft and Bible Message for Children

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Need a simple Mother’s Day craft idea for Sunday school kids? We’ve got you covered! Help make Mother’s Day meaningful and memorable for families at your church. Check out this free children’s message and Mother’s Day craft.

Mother’s Day Bible Message: Because I Love You

Scripture: Exodus 20:12

You’ll need:

  • Bible
  • flowers (1 per child)

Say: Today is Mother’s Day! So let’s honor our mothers in a special way. Show the flowers. Aren’t these flowers pretty? You’ll each get one to give your mom, grandma, or another special caregiver in your family! 

If you’re leading this Bible message in front of the congregation, encourage kids to give their flowers now. If you’re leading this in a children’s church setting, wait and distribute flowers for children to give at the end of your time together.

Ask:

  • How do these flowers remind you of your mom or another caregiver you love?
  • How does giving flowers show honor to someone?
  • What other ways can we show honor to moms and people who care for us?

Say: Flowers are a lovely way to honor someone and show our love. We can also show honor by telling our moms we love them, helping around the house, and being pleasant to live with! Mention other ways the children talked about.

Honor Mom

Open your Bible to Exodus 20:12.

Say: This is what God says about our parents. “Honor your father and your mother, so that you may live long in the land the Lord your God is giving you.”

The Bible says to “honor” the people who take care of you. To honor means to show deep respect and love for someone. 

The next time your mom asks you to do something, remember to say cheerfully, “Okay, Mom! I’ll do it because I love you!” But be careful! You may surprise her so much that she faints! Then be ready to pick your mom up off the floor!

Say a prayer: Dear God, we thank you so very much for mothers, grandmothers, and all the people who love and take care of us. We know you’ll help us treat them in a loving and special way. Help us remember to do that all day every day, not just on Mother’s Day.

Send the kids back. Tell them to hug their moms, grandmas, or other special caregivers and say, “Happy Mother’s Day! I love you!”

Mother’s Day Craft: “Because I Love You” Boxes

Scripture: Hebrews 10:24

You’ll need:

  • small paper jewelry boxes (1 per child)
  • glue
  • assorted bright-colored puffy paints
  • fine-tipped colored markers
  • plastic jewels
  • colored paper (1 piece per child)
  • safety scissors

Tip:

For a little extra “wow,” use simple cardboard craft treasure chests. You can find these at most craft stores for a low cost. Or, for a simpler option, paper lunch bags work too!

Leading Through Crisis to Organizational Thriving

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In the wake of painful and public events, organizations often find themselves navigating a tumultuous path towards healing. Such events can fracture trust, incite fear, challenge integrity, and polarize opinions.

Yet, the journey to organizational healing, health, hope, and a thriving future is not only possible but can be deeply transformative.

This journey can be illuminated by drawing on stories of leadership and resilience from biblical figures, Abraham Lincoln, and Nelson Mandela, and applying principles from Neuroscience Informed Christian Counseling® (NICC) to guide the process.

Leading With Vision and Compassion: A Biblical Foundation

In the Bible, figures like Moses and Nehemiah exemplify leadership that is rooted in vision and compassion. Moses led the Israelites out of Egypt, not just by navigating physical wilderness but by addressing the emotional and spiritual turmoil of his people. Similarly, Nehemiah’s leadership in rebuilding Jerusalem’s walls was not merely a physical reconstruction but a communal healing process.

These stories emphasize the importance of vision that extends beyond immediate crises to a future of wholeness and hope. They remind us that true leadership involves bearing the emotional burdens of those we lead, fostering a shared vision for a thriving future, and committing to the holistic well-being of the community.

Embracing the Mismatch: Learning From Abraham Lincoln and Nelson Mandela

Abraham Lincoln, in the throes of the Civil War, and Nelson Mandela, amidst South Africa’s struggle against apartheid, demonstrated leadership that transformed national pain into unity. Their strategies embodied the NICC principle of “mismatch work,” which facilitates healing by introducing new, corrective experiences that starkly contrast with past traumas or maladaptive patterns.

Lincoln’s Emancipation Proclamation and Mandela’s truth and reconciliation approach served as powerful mismatch experiences, challenging entrenched beliefs and practices to pave the way for new narratives of unity and collective identity.

Metabolizing Pain through Healthy Grieving: NICC Insights

NICC emphasizes the integration of emotional, relational, and spiritual principles to foster healing. Organizations can take a cue from this approach by creating spaces for healthy grieving—a process that acknowledges pain, facilitates emotional expression, and transforms suffering into a source of strength and connection.

Just as Moses and Nehemiah guided their people through periods of lamentation and rebuilding, organizations today must allow for the metabolizing of pain, using it as fertile ground for growth and renewal.

Cultivating Connection and Thriving: A Path Forward

The biblical principle of thriving—living out one’s fullest potential in connection with God and others—is central to NICC. This principle can be a beacon for organizations aiming to move beyond survival to a state of flourishing.

It involves fostering deep connections within the organization, embracing diversity, and nurturing an environment where all members can contribute their unique gifts towards a shared purpose. By doing so, organizations can mirror the thriving ecosystems described in Scriptures, where diverse parts work together in harmony for the common good.

Prioritizing Time

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The noble calling of pastoring a church often comes with a relentless schedule and the constant pressure to juggle various responsibilities. Effective time management is crucial to making sure you can fulfill your duties while maintaining a healthy work-life balance. The good news is, there are practical strategies and tools to help you prioritize your time effectively. Consider these tools and tips as you learn to manage your days to maximize your time!

  • Set Clear Priorities: To manage your time wisely, it’s essential to have a clear understanding of your priorities. Consider the following steps:
    • Define your core mission and values.
    • Identify your most important tasks (MITs) for each day.
    • Regularly review and adjust your priorities as circumstances change.
  • Create a Weekly Schedule: Develop a weekly schedule that outlines your regular activities, including sermon preparation, counseling sessions, and administrative tasks. Allocate specific time blocks for each task to maintain a structured routine.
  • Delegate and Empower Others: Recognize that you don’t have to do everything yourself. Delegate tasks to capable team members or volunteers, allowing you to focus on your core responsibilities.
  • Utilize Time Management Tools: Embrace digital tools and apps to streamline your schedule and tasks. Some popular options include:
    • Calendar Apps: Use digital calendars like Google Calendar or Outlook to schedule appointments, set reminders, and block off time for focused work.
    • Task Management Apps: Tools like Todoist, Trello, or Asana can help you organize tasks, set deadlines, and collaborate with your team.
    • Note-Taking Apps: Evernote, Notion, or OneNote can help you capture ideas, sermon notes, and important information in one place.
  • Practice the Two-Minute Rule: If a task takes less than two minutes to complete, do it immediately. This simple rule can prevent small tasks from piling up and overwhelming you later.
  • Use the Eisenhower Matrix: Categorize your tasks into four quadrants: urgent and important, important but not urgent, urgent but not important, and neither urgent nor important. Prioritize your tasks accordingly, focusing on the important ones first.
  • Set Boundaries: Establish clear boundaries between work and personal life. Communicate your availability to your congregation and colleagues, and learn to say no when necessary to protect your time.
  • Batch Similar Tasks: Group similar tasks together and complete them during designated time blocks. This can reduce context switching and improve your efficiency.
  • Regularly Reflect and Adjust: Periodically assess your time management strategies and adjust them based on your evolving needs and challenges.
  • Invest in Self-Care: Remember that taking care of yourself is crucial for effective ministry. Prioritize self-care activities such as counseling, exercise, meditation, and spending quality time with loved ones.

Effective time management is a skill that can greatly enhance your ministry’s impact while making sure you maintain a healthy work-life balance. By setting clear priorities, utilizing time management tools, and practicing self-care, you can better serve your congregation and fulfill your calling as a pastor or ministry leader. Stay committed to refining your time management skills, and you’ll see the positive effects in both your personal and professional life.

This article originally appeared here.

Remains of Pastor’s Wife and Friend Identified; OK County GOP Chair Among ‘God’s Misfits’ Murder Defendants

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New information is emerging about the suspects charged with kidnapping and murdering Jilian Kelley, 39, and Veronica Butler, 27. As ChurchLeaders has reported, the four defendants—now being held without bond—belong to a religious anti-government group called God’s Misfits. This week, news surfaced that suspect Tifany Machel Adams, 54, is the GOP chair for Cimarron County, Oklahoma.

Adams is also the paternal grandmother of Butler’s two children, ages 6 and 8, who are at the center of an ongoing custody dispute. The last weekend in March, Butler had driven to pick up her children from Adams, taking Kelley along as a visitation supervisor. When Butler and Kelley failed to return, an extensive search ensued.

After two weeks, remains thought to be those of the missing women were found in rural Oklahoma. Those remains have now been positively identified as the bodies of Kelley and Butler. According to court documents, evidence from the scene indicates the women suffered violent deaths.

RELATED: ‘Suspicious’ Disappearance of Pastor’s Wife and Friend Has Multiple Agencies Searching

Kelley’s husband, Heath Kelley, is pastor at Hugoton First Christian Church in Hugoton, Kansas. In June, he is slated to begin serving at Willow Christian Church in Indianola, Nebraska.

Cimarron County GOP Official Charged With ‘Senseless Crime’

Adams was reportedly elected as Cimarron County GOP chair last year. When asked to comment on the charges against Adams, Oklahoma State Sen. Nathan Dahm, chairman of the state GOP, said:

While we at the Oklahoma Republican Party have no personal relationship or knowledge of the individuals who have been accused in this senseless crime, we have been made aware that Ms. Adams was previously elected by a handful of people to the role of chair in her county.

Dahm called the situation “tragic” and asked for prayers for the family—especially the “innocent children” involved.

According to an affidavit, investigators said Adams was trying to keep her grandchildren away from her son, who is in drug rehab, and from Butler. A custody hearing had been scheduled for April 17.

The other three defendants are Tad Collum, Cole Twombly, and Cora Twombly. All four are charged with first-degree murder, kidnapping, and conspiracy to commit murder.

An Oklahoma judge ruled that the suspects be held without bond because “proof of evidence or presumption of guilt is great” and because they have “the resources to flee if given the opportunity.”

According to a prosecutor’s motion, Adams admitted to investigators that she was responsible for the women’s deaths. Investigators also said the teenage daughter of Cora Twombly described hearing the suspects plot the murders.

RELATED: Suspects in Murder of Pastor’s Wife and Friend Are Members of ‘God’s Misfits,’ a Religious Anti-Government Group

Churches Request Prayers for Survivors’ Families

Pastor Heath Kelley’s current and future churches are requesting prayers for the victims’ families. On the Hugoton First Christian Facebook page, an administrator posted Thursday (April 18):

On behalf of the Kelley Family they would like to send a huge THANK YOU and appreciation to all their family, friends, church family, community and surrounding communities for the outpouring of love in prayers, hugs, food, supplies, visits and donations. Each one has been a blessing and they are humbled by your love and generosity.

The post continued: “The family would also like to share with you the following song that Jilian had been listening to on repeat over the past few months, ‘Whatever It Takes’ by Stephen Stanley.”

The Blessing of Constraints

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In the spring of 2019, I shared with the shepherding elders of our church that we were going to be launching one new congregation a year for the next five years. Our directional elders were already on board, we had resources set aside for the first launch, and we were in the process of building the staff for the first new congregation.

In January 2020, the lease we were about to sign for the first of the new congregations fell through. We started looking for a new location and then…Well, you know what happened in March 2020. At this point, it seemed like the plan to launch new congregations would be on hold for…Well, you know there were a lot of opinions about how long.

Early in the pandemic, a friend recommended the book “A Beautiful Constraint” to me—a book for marketplace leaders that encourages them not to think like a victim when an unforeseen constraint happens, and not even to think like a neutralizer who simply works around the constraint, but to think like a transformer and view the constraint as a gift. The book helped me ask the question: “How can the pandemic actually help us launch new congregations?”

Also, early in the pandemic I offered a systematic theology course via Zoom to people in our church. One of the sessions was about God’s attributes. We talked about the amazing reality that God exists outside of time, that he sees this moment with equal clarity and vividness as he sees all moments. I was challenged by my own teaching. God fully knew the pandemic was happening when he led us to plan to launch new congregations.

So, in July 2020, we launched six “Mariners in the Neighborhood” locations throughout Orange County. We chose cities where we believed we would one day launch a new congregation. At first each gathering was 50-60 people in a parking lot watching our online worship services together. Then a worship leader with an acoustic guitar was added, then a kids ministry, then Bible study groups, then a youth ministry gathering.

A year later, four of the six had become new Mariners Church congregations and we folded the other two into other congregations. Today, all four of those congregations launched during the pandemic are healthy (not perfect) and growing. New leaders have been developed. People have met Jesus. Cities have been served in his name.

Because God exists outside of time, constraints can be beautiful.

I hope I will remember God’s faithfulness to us in that season the next time there is an unforeseen constraint placed on the ministry. Which there certainly will be. There will be new challenges always, but we can believe that God gives leaders direction with full knowledge and understanding of the looming challenges.

The constraint can actually be beautiful and helpful and not a reason to abandon what God has called leaders to do.

This article originally appeared here and is used by permission. 

Church Staffer, Elementary School Volunteer Faces Felony Peeping Charges After Being Caught Placing Camera Under Women’s Skirts

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A North Carolina man has been arrested and charged with felony secret peeping after being caught on camera placing his phone under a woman’s skirt in a Greenville Target on Monday. Prior to his arrest, Thomas Elliott was on staff at Opendoor Church in Winterville and a volunteer at Eastern Elementary School in Greenville.

Elliott, 21, was apprehended after a Target customer noticed that he was behaving suspiciously and began filming him. In a video captured by this Good Samaritan, Elliott can be seen crouching down and placing his phone on the floor beneath the skirt of another female customer. 

The Good Samaritan then immediately confronted Elliott, calling upon a Target employee to get law enforcement involved. Elliott was later arrested. 

Following a review of store security footage, police said that Elliott may face two additional felony secret peeping charges. 

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In a statement to WNCT, Pitt County Schools said that it was alerted to Elliott’s arrest on Monday, adding, “We can confirm that the individual was a volunteer at Eastern Elementary School.”

“We are disturbed and deeply concerned by video footage of the individual that has been shared on social media and news outlets, and based on the footage, the individual will not be returning to our campuses as a volunteer or hired as an employee,” the statement continued.

Pitt County Schools said that Elliott had passed a background check before being allowed to volunteer at the school. 

Similarly, Megan Holland, lead pastor of communications at Opendoor Church, told WNCT, “Safety and security are of utmost importance to us. We are taking this situation extremely seriously. Thomas Elliott was immediately terminated upon notification of his arrest on Monday.”

“Additionally, he is no longer permitted on our properties,” Holland continued. “We continue to seek God’s wisdom in the aftermath of this situation. We pray for God’s healing and redemption for all those affected.”

RELATED: Suspects in Murder of Pastor’s Wife and Friend Are Members of ‘God’s Misfits,’ a Religious Anti-Government Group

The church did not disclose what role Elliott had served in prior to his termination. 

Jared Patrick Boyd: How Spiritual Formation in Community Links Lives

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How do we draw people together in deeper and more meaningful ways that provides space for their questions and encourages them to flourish in their faith? In this week’s conversation on FrontStage BackStage, host Jason Daye is joined by Jared Patrick Boyd. Jared is a pastor, a spiritual director, and the founding director of The Order of The Common Life. His most recent book is titled “Finding Freedom in Constraint.” Together, Jared and Jason explore the hope we find in the midst of the strains the church is currently experiencing, including people walking away. Jared highlights the value of spiritual formation in community as a vital and beautiful way for relationships to deepen and endure.

FrontStage BackStage Podcast With Jared Patrick Boyd

View the entire podcast here.

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Orange Founder Reggie Joiner and CEO Kristen Ivy Resign After ‘Inappropriate Relationship’

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On Wednesday (April 17), Orange announced that its founder and chief creative officer, Reggie Joiner, “voluntarily resigned” after admitting to “past inappropriate adult relationships”—including one with newly announced CEO Kristen Ivy, who has also resigned.

Orange, which hosts one of the largest family ministries conferences in the world, describes itself as “a team of ministry leaders, educators, researchers, counselors, writers, editors, artists, musicians, and producers all committed to supporting churches and families as they nurture the faith and future of the next generation.”

The organization is well-known for its age-specific curriculums for churches.

The 63-year-old Joiner co-founded North Point Community Church alongside Andy Stanley and for 11 years served as the church’s executive director of family ministry. Prior to that, he was a youth pastor at Sherwood Baptist Church.

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Joiner has also written over 30 books about parenting and church leadership. Joiner and his wife, Debbie, have four adult children.

Joiner’s website says that he has “changed the way churches and organizations create environments for and equip leaders, parents, and the next generation.” It continues, “Orange partners with over 8,000 churches internationally and is the architect of the Orange Conference and the Orange Tour, which provide national training opportunities for senior pastors, church leaders, and ministry volunteers.”

Ivy started at Orange in 2006 and has been instrumental in the development of Orange’s elementary school, middle school, and high school curriculums. She is the president of Parent Cue and a co-founder of The Phase Project.

In September 2023, Orange introduced Ivy as its new president and CEO, a transition that Orange said had been “thoughtfully planned over the past few years.” Joiner took the role of Orange’s chief creative officer.

RELATED: Lysa TerKeurst’s Husband Spent $118K on Extramarital Affair, According to Divorce Paperwork

Ivy has authored more than 20 books about parenting. She is married to her husband, Matt, and they have three young children.

Next week (April 23-25), Orange will hold its large annual conference in Atlanta. The conference will feature speakers John Onwuchekwa, Danielle Strickland, Jon Acuff, Rich Villodas, and others.

Nancy French Had It All—Then Along Came Trump. Her New Book ‘Ghosted’ Tells All.

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(RNS) — Nancy French’s approach to life can be summed up in a line from a hit Van Halen song.

“Might as well jump.”

At age 20 she dropped out of college to get married and move to New York with a man she barely knew, later talked her way into a career as a ghostwriter by hopping on a plane to Alaska to interview Bristol Palin and once collided with Sen. Mitt Romney on a mountain in Utah while pretending she was an experienced skier.

That fearless approach to life made French a five-times New York Times bestselling author and the go-to ghostwriter for viral celebrities from “The Bachelor” and “Dancing With the Stars,” as well as conservative political influencers.

Things were going great. Enter Donald Trump.

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When French and her husband, David, a conservative lawyer turned author and New York Times columnist, criticized Trump’s rise to political power, the two became pariahs in the conservative circles they once called home. Both friends and former clients cut her off as too radioactive to work with.

Things got worse when she shared about being abused as a teenager after hearing people dismiss allegations against former Alabama Supreme Court Justice Roy Moore for past sexual misconduct with teenagers.

French said she went from ghostwriter to ghosted in a heartbeat.

“I’d revealed my true self, and my fellow conservatives had found me contemptible,” she writes in her new memoir, “Ghosted,” out Tuesday (April 16) from Zondervan. The book traces her story, from her exploits as the best shot in her middle school hunter safety class to her surprising writing success to her post-Trump life, including a recent appearance on the “Moth Radio Hour,” recounting how David Lee Roth almost ruined her marriage.

The memoir is a story of friends lost and found and starting over after the life you thought you had vanishes.

Frederick D. Haynes Resigns Abruptly as Leader of Rainbow PUSH Coalition

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(RNS) — The Rev. Frederick D. Haynes III, who succeeded the Rev. Jesse Jackson as president of the Rainbow PUSH Coalition, has resigned suddenly from leading the Chicago-based civil rights organization.

“After continual prayer and deliberation, I have decided to step down from the
position of Chief Executive Officer and President of Rainbow Push Coalition
(RPC), effective immediately,” Haynes said in a statement issued Tuesday (April 16) on Rainbow PUSH letterhead.

Haynes, the pastor of Friendship-West Baptist Church in Dallas for four decades, could not be reached immediately for additional comment.

In a video statement, he called his work succeeding Jackson a “signal honor” but said it was time for him to continue his work in a different way.

“I felt it necessary, in light of the huge challenges faced by our community, in light of the challenges faced by this nation and world during this consequential year, to move in a different direction,” he said in the video statement posted on Instagram. “I will continue the fight for justice. I will continue to be a prophetic witness. I will just do it in another lane while continuing to honor the work of Rainbow PUSH and Rev. Jackson.”

The Associated Press reported that Jackson said in a statement that Rainbow PUSH had accepted the resignation of Haynes and said they would continue as “partners in the fight for peace, civil rights and economic justice.” He said his son, Yusef Jackson, would continue in his role as the chief operating officer of Rainbow PUSH.

In July, when the transfer of leadership was announced, the elder Jackson said he would continue to be part of its work.

“I am looking forward to this next chapter where I will continue to focus on economic justice, mentorship, and teaching ministers how to fight for social justice,” he said in a statement at the time. “I will still be very involved in the organization and am proud that we have chosen Rev. Dr. Haynes as my successor.”

Haynes, who is triply aligned with the National Baptist Convention U.S.A. Inc., Progressive National Baptist Convention Inc. and American Baptist Churches USA, told Religion News Service in a July interview that he was comfortable adding the additional role.

“I don’t know that it will be that much of a new juggle because I’ve been blessed to pastor Friendship-West for 40 years, and we have built a solid infrastructure,” he said at the time. “I have a great staff, a wonderful church, quite supportive. And the work I’ll be doing at Rainbow Push is, in reality, a larger platform of work I’ve always been doing.”

The Rev. Al Sharpton, president of the National Action Network, lauded Haynes’ work in a Tuesday statement posted on social media and said he appreciated his colleague’s contributions to Rainbow PUSH.

A Peculiar Perspective on Suffering

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Editor’s Note: This post about perspective on suffering is adapted from Laughing at the Days to Come: Facing Present Trials and Future Uncertainties with Gospel Hope (RHB, 2019).


My once bright future suddenly seemed dark. The onset of a rare neurological disease was causing me to gradually lose my hearing, and there was no promise that I wouldn’t eventually go completely deaf. My happy, teenaged world was being turned upside-down and there wasn’t anything I could do to stop it.

One night, a family friend handed me a small piece of paper with Proverbs 31:25 written on it: “Strength and dignity are her clothing, and she laughs at the time to come” (ESV). Surely, I had read this verse before, but my current circumstances caused me to see it with new eyes and I was quite intrigued.

Perhaps the reason why I was so fascinated by this woman was because she had something I greatly lacked. I was not laughing when I thought about the days to come—I was crying when I thought about the days to come. Yes, things could have been worse, but that is one of the reasons I was not laughing—because things likely would get worse.

But here was something valiant. As in every earthly life, there are a host of potential circumstances this woman could set her mind on. But rather than living her life with a fearful prospect of what may be—tomorrow, next week, five years from now—she has chosen to live a life that reflects what is; namely, the present, abiding reality of God. Rather than being controlled by waves of emotion and impulsive assumptions about herself and her Creator, she is governed by a right and prevailing conviction of who God has revealed Himself to be in His word. This was the laughter I needed if I was going to endure a progressive neurological disease in a way that honored God.

A Different Perspective on Suffering

For many Christians, the necessity of this laughter does not come as a surprise. We are not afraid to acknowledge the reality of suffering in a fallen world.

But here is the honest dilemma: The Bible lets me in on the uncomfortable fact that I am not in control of my suffering. It shows me the smallness of my understanding, the limitations of my knowledge, and the very sobering fact that I am a lump of clay in the hands of a potter. I may readily acknowledge the necessity of suffering for spiritual growth; I may be sincerely convinced that my suffering will be not only for God’s glory but also for my own joy; I may nod my head in agreement that, yes, this is good for me, and therefore I want to embrace this.

But then I remember that I am submitting not only to God’s delegation of suffering but to His design of suffering—every detail of it. There is no questionnaire asking me my history, preferences, future goals, strengths, weaknesses, and so on. There is no catalog of options to comb through, where I can provide some hints to God by circling the trials that seem doable. God, as father, shepherd, potter, chooses—period. And it is to His lofty, even mysterious system I must humbly submit while steadfastly clinging to whatever truths He has chosen to reveal in His word. He reveals to us the character of the One who ordains the suffering, the truths that define the suffering, and the final, heavenly reward after the suffering, but He does not allow us to choose exactly what it will look like and what specific earthly purposes it will accomplish.

A Christian Perspective on Suffering

This is the Christian’s peculiar perspective on suffering, and I say peculiar because it is a different perspective on suffering from that of the world. It is natural for humans to resist anything that would cause them pain and discomfort. We are creatures who tirelessly seek comfort and ease. The world may readily declare, “No pain, no gain!” But what kind of pain does the world embrace? The pain of its own choosing. The overweight person chooses the pain of a strict diet for the desired gain of weight loss. The aspiring businessman chooses the pain of exhausting overtime for the desired gain of wealth. The insecure teenager chooses the pain of ditching his one loyal friend for the desired gain of popularity with the in-crowd.

When the world chooses pain for the hope of gain, it does so in submission to its own desires. If the pain becomes too costly or unbearable or the desired gain simply loses its luster, there is always the option of changing courses so as to lessen the pain or do away with it altogether.

This is not how we as Christians approach pain and suffering. We do believe there is gain—great gain—at the end of our suffering. And we are told over and over in Scripture to keep our eyes on that eternal gain, to hope for it, to live for it, to wait for it (e.g., 2 Cor. 4:16–18). But when it comes to the suffering we experience on the way to that final reward, we do not live in submission to our own desires and choose our suffering with the aim to serve self. Rather, we submit to the sovereign will of our Father and live with a dominating desire to see Him praised and glorified whether our earthly suffering is little or much, anticipated or one painful surprise after the other. And when we find ourselves walking through a trial that appears pointless, unprofitable, or even harsh, we don’t run around in desperation looking for a way to escape it. Instead, we turn to the unchanging truths in God’s word that tell us who God is and how He graciously and wisely uses the suffering of His choice to make His children holy and happy. We seek heavenly gain—oh yes! But we do so with hearts submissive to our Creator, who Himself has chosen a very specific path for each of His children to obtain that final gain.

God has already chosen His particular means to sanctify us. Some of these means we have already experienced, some we are experiencing now, and others await us in months and years ahead. To the world, this is a frightening reality that flies in the face of people’s natural attempt to control their own lives. That things may get worse (or already are worse) is hard for them to accept, but that they cannot opt out or fashion things to their own liking is simply too much to take.

Not so for the woman who fears the Lord, for she has the great privilege of drawing back the thick curtain of earthly suffering and by faith casting her gaze on “the city which has foundations, whose builder and maker is God” (Heb. 11:10). There is a work that has been accomplished, a herald of good news that she has believed, and it clothes her in a strength and dignity unknown to the fearful world around her. She knows not what bitter providences await her and all the intricate ways God will use them. But she does know this: By God’s grace she has believed Him, and by God’s grace she will continue to believe, trust, and obey Him until He brings her safely home in that unclouded day of eternity.

This article about perspective on suffering originally appeared here.

How Team Friction Can Help Your Team

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An important leadership principle was shaped for me during what seemed to be a normal season in our organization. We were experiencing fast growth, but, thankfully, that was normal for us. It seemed things were healthy on the team. We had the right players and clarity of vision, however, team friction developed. It wasn’t major, but it was noticeable.

This isn’t unusual on teams. Even the best teams are made of imperfect people with differing views and opinions of how things should be done. So, the best teams will have friction at times. The only way to avoid it would be to institute a more controlled environment, where opinions don’t matter. However, friction really isn’t eliminated. It’s just silenced – for a time.

Some team friction can be good.

It means things are moving forward, change is occurring and there is the potential for future progress. You don’t get to progress without change. Change takes you into an unknown. So change, at least in the beginning stages, always creates a certain amount of friction.

But I knew this kind of friction was unusual for our team. It was more tense than usual. Progress was being curtailed some. Unnecessary stress was being created. I could see the potential for negative consequences long-term if, as the leader, I didn’t address it.

Thankfully, it was easy to diagnose the cause of our team friction. It isn’t always, but this time it was.

Our team friction resulted from:

  • Miscommunication
  • Unclear expectations
  • Unknown objectives

Have you ever seen any of those cause friction on a team?

We all have. Those are common reasons for friction in any relationship, and they can cause havoc on a healthy team.

Here’s the principle that emerged:

Apart from a system nothing was done wrong.

Here’s what I mean.

Sure, the friction was wrong if I allowed it to go on long-term. We have to get along to be a healthy team. Plus, without a doubt, the miscommunication, unclear expectations, unknown objectives were all wrong. They are common and all natural occurrences even on a healthy team, but we can’t let them continue without continually trying to address them.

Yet, when there is no system in place to address those concerns, or when the system isn’t good enough to address the issues in the current season, people will perform the best they know how to perform. When current systems don’t work people do the best they knew how or make up how they think things should be done. And, friction grows.

Systems are important:

  • If you want something repeated and done well you systematize it.
  • If you want something done better you create better systems.

Progress and change stretches current systems.

So, every system should continually be:

  • Evaluated
  • Reconstructed
  • Refined

Systems drive progress and if you want better progress keep creating better systems.

So, back to our team’s friction. As a leader, it was important for me to realize and remind people: No one did anything wrong. We were making decisions the best we knew how under the current stretched systems. In the process, unnecessary friction developed, which was totally natural.

What was important was that we learned from team friction and wrote a system – or a better system, in order to keep that type of friction to a minimum.

You can calm team friction on your team by:

  • Releasing people of a sense of guilt, which only causes them to be defensive and results in even more friction.
  • Identifying the need for improved systems.
  • Leading the process to create or develop better systems.

Here’s to writing better systems – until we need to tweak them again.

 

This article on team friction originally appeared here, and is used by permission. Check out Ron’s leadership podcast where he discusses issues of leadership nuggets in a practical way. Plus, check out the other Lifeway Leadership Podcasts.

Please: Protect Your Mac!

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Please Protect your Mac! (I know, I know, this can be a controversial topic, but hey, it’s an election year.)

Apple fans aside, it is important to objectively look at the security of all devices on your network and with access to your ministry data. Whether BYOD or ministry issued, device security matters. The myth that Macs don’t need protected continues to live and the bad guys know it. So you must protect your Mac.

Data from 2023 indicates that Apple has an 8.6% share of the worldwide computer market, leaving Microsoft Windows with the majority of the rest. The myth that Macs don’t need protection is often hidden in the 8.6% market share of PCs.  If you’re a bad guy, do you attack 8.6% of the computers or 91.4% of them?  Market share does not equate to operating system security.

Protect Your Mac

MBS recommends that all computers have security software. While Apple and Microsoft include built-in antivirus and malware protection, they often fall short of the enterprise security features most ministries require. I grant you; they are better than nothing, but do you want protection that is robust and strong, or simply better than nothing?

SentinelOne is the security suite that MBS recommends. Since MBS exclusively serves churches and ministries, we can provide SentinelOne for less than $3 per device per month. To stay agnostic, so you don’t think we only recommend products or services that benefit us financially, we don’t sell licenses directly, but through an authorized provider where we’ve negotiated ministry discounts.

MBS can help you set up your SentinelOne console, where you can remotely manage all machines across all platforms, from one place in the cloud – no on-premises servers required. Since you are buying the licenses directly, you don’t have to be an MBS client as your ministry owns the licenses, not MBS or any other third part provider.  Our provider also invoices you monthly, so you only pay for active clients, saving money over multiyear contract purchases.

What Epaphras has to Teach Us About Small Groups

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“You learned it from Epaphras, our dear fellow servant, who is a faithful minister of Christ on our behalf, and who also told us of your love in the Spirit.”

Colossians 1:7,8

Paul starts off by talking about Epaphras. Now Mr. E wasn’t just another follower of Jesus. Oh no, he had an important part to play in the lives of the Colossians. He’s the one who they learned from. Learned about Jesus and learned how it changes their lives. It changes everything. And the lessons of Epaphras can be applied to small groups today.

What Epaphras has to Teach Us About Small Groups

But out of the gate we’ve got a problem with the Apostle Paul and Mr. E. To be called a servant today is just about the ultimate insult. I can’t think of a more powerful word that puts a person down more than servant. Yes, there are many swear words and phrases that are meant to hurt, but I think servant is all the more hurtful.

When you’re a servant, it means that you don’t have the right to do things on your own. That you don’t have control over your life. You can’t make decisions for yourself. And when someone tells you to do something, you have to do it. There’s no room for discussion. No negotiation. Just blind obedience.

Funny thing though, Jesus doesn’t seem to have a problem with the word or the idea when it comes to our relationship with God and one another. It’s a voluntary submission to God and one another. Heck, Jesus even talks about himself like this.

Not so with you. Instead, whoever wants to become great among you must be your servant, and whoever wants to be first must be your slave— just as the Son of Man did not come to be served, but to serve, and to give his life as a ransom for many.”

Matthew 20:26-28

I know that we’re so much smarter and more sophisticated than those poor slobs back in the first century. But that’s what Paul calls Epaphras. But he’s not just any servant. Paul says that he’s a three-dimensional servant.

  1. Our – He’s not out there all alone, and neither is Paul. There’s a community within the followers of Jesus. A fellowship that must be fed, encouraged, cherished. Moving from being a friend to being an “our” takes time. You have to want it.

  2. Dear – Their relationship isn’t that he’s just one of the guys, but someone who’s beloved. There’s a God kind of love between them. They want nothing but the absolute best for each other and are willing to back it up with their time, energy, and resources.

  3. Fellow – They don’t just wear the same jersey because they’re on the same team. There’s a closeness that comes from time spent together. Doing things together. Working hard and sweating together as they give up their choices for the good of the group.

But this wasn’t enough. Mr. E. was oh so much more important to the Colossians. Yes, he was our dear fellow servant, he also was a minister. But Paul’s not thinking of a minister as the person up front behind the pulpit on Sunday mornings.

Student Ministry Longevity Matters More Than Personality: Here’s Why

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Longevity in student ministry beats personality every time. Want to know how I know? Awhile back, a parent asked why our church youth program was so amazing. Between you and me, our youth ministry really isn’t amazing. It’s pretty average, numbers-wise.

Our program is fully mid-1990s, and I used to be in charge. I may be lots of things, but I’m definitely not a pied piper. I love teens and love walking through this season of life and faith with them. But I feel awkward when I show up on campus. And I struggle with one-on-one contact time.

Finally I tapped out. A few years ago, I brought on an incredible couple to continue our student ministry tradition. And though I’m no longer implementing our program, I’m overseeing and championing it. Plus, I’m clearing the way for our directors to crush it!

As I reflected on that parent’s impression of our “awesome” youth ministry, I realized our success has little to do with me. Instead, it comes from the church leadership and senior pastor long before it comes from me.

The Fallacy of Big Personality vs. Longevity in Student Ministry

Many churches hire the young, amazing, attractional, extroverted youth worker. These superstars actually turn into supernovas within two years. Before they implode, these youth workers work long hours for little pay, with little divide between personal life and ministry.

They do a great job gathering students and gain some momentum. But sooner or later these youth workers tire, burn out, and/or graduate from seminary. Then they realize they can’t support a family with this salary (or some combination of factors) and leave.

And the church loses the advantage of longevity in ministry. We quickly replace them with the next great personality. But after a few short cycles of this, students and parents grow reluctant to give their hearts to a new person who will be gone in a year or so.

All About The Benjamins?

I hate that this is true. But what separates an amazing student ministry program from a flash in the pan seems to come down to money. Like everything, you get what you pay for. You may be able to get away with hiring a superstar youth worker for peanuts. But as soon as they realize they’re a superstar and can make double the money elsewhere, they’ll leave.

If you pay bottom-of-the-barrel salaries, you’ll get great youth workers who leave too soon. Or bottom-of-the-barrel youth workers who stay too long.

John Lindell Calls Mark Driscoll To Repent for ‘Trying To Destroy James River Church’ and ‘Sow Disunity’ in the Lindell Family

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During an evening service on Wednesday (April 17), Pastor John Lindell of James River Church in Ozark, Missouri, accused controversial Pastor Mark Driscoll of attempting to sow division in the Lindell family. According to Lindell, Driscoll even encouraged Lindell’s son to seize control of the church. 

“I get absolutely no joy or delight out of doing this to someone I’ve called a friend,” Lindell said during an emotional address. “Mark, if you are listening to this message, we love you and it’s with a heavy heart that we are calling you to repent.” 

Lindell’s call for Driscoll to repent is the latest in a series of strange events that began over the weekend, when Lindell and Driscoll publicly feuded and then apparently reconciled at James River Church’s Stronger Men’s Conference. 

To open the conference, two-time Guinness World Record holder Alexandr Magala performed a death defying act in which he swallowed a sword before ascending and then rapidly descending a large vertical pole. 

Magala, who has reportedly performed as a pole dancer at women’s and gay nightclubs in the past, told ChurchLeaders that he has since come to faith in Jesus and hopes his act inspires audiences “to reach new heights of what’s possible in their lives.”

During his message on Wednesday, Lindell reported that Magala could even be seen sharing his faith at the airport after the Stronger Men’s Conference. 

Following Magala’s performance, however, Driscoll told attendees that a “Jezebel spirit opened our event.” He then compared the conference opener to both an erotic dance and ancient pagan worship. Before Driscoll could continue his diatribe, he was shouted down by Lindell and promptly left the stage. 

Later, the two men returned to the stage, and Driscoll acknowledged that he should have addressed his concerns with Lindell privately. The two discussed their long friendship, and Lindell recounted sitting with Driscoll after Driscoll resigned in disgrace from Mars Hill Church. 

Driscoll founded Mars Hill Church in Seattle in 1996 but was forced to resign in 2014 amid allegations of controlling and abusive behavior. The church dissolved shortly after his resignation. In 2016, Driscoll founded The Trinity Church in Scottsdale, Arizona, where he has again been accused of being an abusive leader. 

During his onstage appearance with Lindell, Driscoll said that Lindell and his wife, Debbie, “have been some of the greatest friends to me and my family through the hardest seasons of our life.” In turn, Lindell praised Driscoll for his “prophetic voice,” comparing him to John the Baptist. 

To conference attendees and online onlookers, it appeared that the two men had reconciled. On Wednesday evening, Lindell told his church that he and Driscoll even posed for a picture that Driscoll posted on social media to celebrate their reconciliation. However, Lindell said, Driscoll subsequently took the post down. 

Mark Driscoll Rebuked the ‘Jezebel Spirit’ This Week—But What Is That?

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Mark Driscoll made headlines this week for being kicked off stage after he called out a performance at the Stronger Men’s Conference that he said displayed “the Jezebel spirit.” Driscoll later publicly reconciled with conference host Pastor John Lindell, but Driscoll has since been posting repeatedly on the idea of the Jezebel spirit, a topic Christians online are now fiercely debating. 

“The Jezebel spirit is a demon that has worked through men and women for centuries, from Queen Jezebel in 1st Kings to Jesus’s rebuke of the church in Thyatira in Revelation 2,” said Driscoll Monday on X, formerly Twitter. “This demon seeks to control and dominate, most often through seductive women but oftentimes through overbearing, domineering men.”

RELATED: Mark Driscoll Kicked Off Stage for Calling Out ‘Strip Club’-Like Performance at Stronger Men’s Conference

“There is no ‘Spirit of Jezebel’ or ‘Jezebel Spirit’ mentioned in Scripture,” said author and abuse survivor Jennifer Greenberg amid the online discourse on Driscoll’s actions. “There is a wicked Queen Jezebel in 1-2 Kings and a false teacher named Jezebel in Revelation 2:20, but the Spirit of the Anti-Christ is what the God warns us not to be seduced by (1 John 4:3).”

‘Jezebel Spirit’ Rebuked at Men’s Conference

Mark Driscoll, the controversial former leader of Mars Hill Church in Seattle and the current pastor of The Trinity Church in Scottsdale, Arizona, spoke at the Stronger Men’s Conference in Springfield, Missouri, on Saturday. Driscoll has been accused of controlling, abusive behavior during his time leading Mars Hill and during his time leading his current church.

The Stronger Men’s Conference, known for dramatic, over-the-top performances, had opened with an act featuring Alexandr Magala, a sword swallower and two-time Guinness World Record holder who has appeared on “America’s Got Talent: The Champions” and other iterations of the popular show.

In the past, Magala has performed in nightclubs as a pole dancer. In his performance at the conference, he took off his shirt, swallowed a sword, and then climbed a pole and slid down it. 

Between his speaking sessions, Driscoll addressed Magala’s act, telling attendees the “Jezebel spirit opened our event.” Driscoll went on to refer to the performance platform as “a high place” and the pole as “a pole of Asherah.”

“The same thing that’s used in a strip club for women who have the Jezebel spirit to seduce men,” said Driscoll. “In front of that was a man who ripped his shirt off like a woman does in front of a pole at a strip club.”

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