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4 Types of Anonymous Critics

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There are different types of people who give anonymous criticism. I’ve been a small business owner, elected official, church planter and church revitalizer. So perhaps I’ve received more than my share. As a leader for over 30 years, I’ve received my share of criticism. Anonymous critics comes with leadership. In my experience, if you aren’t receiving any criticism — you probably aren’t leading. You might be maintaining current systems well, but leadership is taking people somewhere new. That involves change. And that always invites some level of criticism.

You can read a previous post HERE on how I process anonymous criticism.

I know others do – and that’s okay for them – but I don’t automatically dismiss criticism because someone doesn’t sign their name. I try to consider if something in my leadership caused this person to feel the need to remain anonymous. (My StrengthFinder indicates I can tend to be controlling — something I have to continually guard against.) I have had people go to the trouble of making up a name and an email address. This was obvious because details are often accurate, but none of the information matches anyone in our database.

I also try to discern if this criticism is from someone who feels the need to remain anonymous. Perhaps something in their past (or present) keeps them from sharing their name. While I would always prefer to talk with the person, I try to reconcile his or her reasoning for withholding a name.

The reality is I believe there are at least four different motivations for a person offering anonymous criticism. I don’t believe this is the right option to take in giving criticism. It doesn’t fit well with my straight-foward personality. But I realize everyone is not like me.

4 Types of Anonymous Critics

1. Fearful

This is the anonymous critic who is simply afraid of conflict; perhaps because they’ve been injured by it previously. It may not be that the person doesn’t like you or the organization or that he or she doesn’t have good suggestions for improvement. This anonymous critic simply can’t bring him or herself to reveal his or her identity, because of fear. (Controlling leadership often develops this type of anonymous criticism.)

5 Ways to Overcome Being an Insecure Leader

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This post developed from talking with a young pastor overwhelmed with the responsibility he’d been given. It was his first church out of seminary. His church expects a lot from him – leading the church, preaching great messages, visiting the sick (and the well), managing a budget, and seeing the baptistry consistently in use – just to name a few things. He realized the weight of his position, but much of it he doesn’t feel qualified to deliver. Seminary didn’t give him the training he needed. He accepted the position knowing there would be challenges and knew he would have to walk by faith, which he wanted to do – but now he’s wondering if he’s in over his head. I realized he was dealing with a huge dose of insecurity. I previously wrote about this problem. It caused me to ask myself, so I could coach him: What’s the best way to deal being an insecure leader?

5 Ways to Overcome Being an Insecure Leader

1. Avoid comparisons

Insecurity often develops when a person compares his or herself to another. Don’t try to be someone you’re not. Be yourself. Realize who God designed you to be is not a mistake. Obviously, someone believed in your abilities as a leader. You need to stop comparing and start living in your own skin.

And that goes for the church also. All the things that are working in another church may not work in yours. They might. And there might be principles that will work. Be open to learning from others. Of course you should want the church to grow. But your church is a unique body of believers.

2. Concentrate on your abilities

What are you good at doing? Make a list of your good qualities. You probably have more than you think you do. This is where people who know you well can probably help. They see things in you that you can’t see or haven’t realized.

In times of feeling insecure we often forget who we are and how God has shaped us through experiences of life. We would never tell a church member they aren’t gifted – why would we believe this about ourself? Keep your list handy. It will help you to feel more confident if you focus more on your positives than your negatives.

‘He Rules the World’—A Rock-Pop Spectacle With a Christ-Centered Message for the Entire Family

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Celebrations of Christmas often feature traditional performances with soft music, choirs, and Bible costumes. But Peter and Jennifer Emerson have revolutionized this concept with their groundbreaking production, “He Rules the World,” a rock-pop experience that masterfully tells the nativity story while delivering an energetic, family-friendly show.

“He Rules the World” blends high-energy rock guitars, classically-trained vocals, and even the sound of a pop synth keytar with the Christian message of Jesus’ birth.

Peter was inspired to write “He Rules the World” after attending a Trans-Siberian Orchestra performance. Impressed by the spectacular lights, lasers, pyrotechnics, and the sheer energy of the show, he felt the call to create something similar—but with one key difference: a focus on Christ.

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“Their Christmas show was Christmas adjacent, but it wasn’t really about Christ. I wanted to do something that was both a spectacle and God-centered,” Peter said.

Peter told ChurchLeaders that his inspiration led to a six-month creative period in 2019, during which he wrote the music for the show. “God just pushed it through me,” Peter shared, crediting divine inspiration for the seamless and powerful composition of the show’s 17 songs. This rock opera, in its entirety, tells the nativity story in a way that’s vibrant and modern, yet faithful to the biblical narrative.

Those who attend “He Rules the World” will be immersed in an experience that combines Christmas music with stunning visuals, intricate lighting, and animated narrations by famous “Hercules” actor Kevin Sorbo. “I’m a very visual person,” Peter said. “I wanted something that was as interesting to watch as it was to listen to.”

The Emersons shared how they approached Sorbo. After a one-hour Zoom call with the couple sharing their vision for “He Rules the World,” Peter said that the “Hercules” actor was instantly on board, telling them, “Yeah, I’m in. What’s next?”

Jennifer emphasized the importance of creating a show that parents can feel good about sharing with their children. “I’m always looking for high-quality, fun, engaging activities that are family-friendly but also meaningful,” she explained. “He Rules the World” delivers the perfect balance between entertainment and spiritual depth.

“The older generations are going to enjoy a lot of the influences of music they grew up listening to—Styx, Steely Dan, and Tom Petty—while the younger kids are going to find themselves humming along to familiar Christmas melodies that they know,” Jennifer added.

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Jennifer recalled how a 12-year-old boy who attended 2022’s show said, “Man, this is the best concert I’ve ever been to! People need to come see this. The keytar is amazing!”

‘Suspicious’ Fire at North Las Vegas Church Under Investigation

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Officials are investigating a “suspicious” fire at Tabernacle of Faith Church in North Las Vegas. The fire occurred around 2:20 p.m. Thursday, Oct. 17. No one in the building or among the fire crew was injured. 

“We are growing in faith through the Word of God & teaching others to do the same,” says the church on its Facebook page, which adds that Tabernacle of Faith was founded in 1993 “under the leadership [of] Bishop Corine W Claiborne.” It is now led by Rev. Dr. Fredrick Johnson.

North Las Vegas Church Fire Under Investigation

According to reports, the fire took place in an exterior wall of the North Las Vegas church. When fire crews arrived on scene, they saw smoke coming out of the building’s gable vents. Upon entering the church building, they saw the fire was burning in the exterior wall and successfully contained it before it spread elsewhere. 

The North Las Vegas fire and police departments are working with the Bureau of Alcohol, Tobacco, Firearms and Explosives to investigate the fire’s cause. 

In a June 2024 interview on CTNVegas, Tabernacle of Faith’s pastor, Fredrick Johnson, discussed his spiritual journey, his ministry, and how he came to lead the church. Johnson shared that he was Claiborne’s assistant pastor at first and has been Tabernacle of Faith’s lead pastor since 2017. 

The pastor, who grew up in a “Baptist environment” and did not learn about the Holy Spirit until moving to Las Vegas, said that he did not always know God but perceives that God has always had his hand on Johnson’s life.

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Johnson said he went to seminary because God told him to; while there, he met the CTNVegas interviewer, Dauda Presley.

Citing 1 Corinthians 13, Johnson said that when people visit his church, “I want you to feel the love of God.” Following God, he said, is not a “task” but a “privilege.”

‘All Glory to God’—Cleveland Guardians Slugger Told God To ‘Take the At-Bat’

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After his 10th-inning walk-off home run in the American League Championship Series (ALCS) Thursday night (Oct. 17), David Fry praised God and admitted he had relied on help from above. “All glory to God,” the 28-year-old Cleveland Guardians catcher told a reporter, following the 7-5 game-three victory over the New York Yankees.

“I had a really bad first at-bat and strikeout,” Fry said. “And I just told God, I said, ‘Take it, man. Just take the at-bat.’” Later, during his post-game press conference, the night’s hero reiterated those comments. “I just told God, ‘Hey man, take this. It’s a tough matchup. Just try to have fun and you take the at-bat.’”

Fry, a Christian who partners with Jesus Won Apparel, spoke about the role his faith plays in high-stakes sports moments. “I try to give it to God, and I’m just trying to have the slowest heartbeat I can,” he said. “It’s tough in those situations to try to stay within yourself.”

The Guardians, who now trail the Yankees 2-1 in the best-of-seven ALCS, will try to even the series tonight at home. Cleveland hasn’t won a World Series since 1948, the longest current title drought in Major League Baseball.

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Cleveland Guardians Pitcher: God Writes the Script

During five innings Thursday, Guardians starting pitcher Matt Boyd allowed one run and two hits. The 33-year-old, who signed with the team in June, walked three batters and struck out four.

In his nine years in the majors, Boyd, an outspoken Christian, has faced injuries, surgeries, and many team changes. After having Tommy John surgery in June 2023, he went more than a year without a big-league start. Boyd also faced the uncertainty of being a free agent after last season.

Before his Oct. 12 game-five start in the American League Divisional Series (ALDS) against the Detroit Tigers, his most recent team, Boyd spoke about the turn of events. “I don’t write the script,” he said. “But the One who does writes it a lot better than me, as I’ve said many times.”

After Cleveland advanced to the ALCS, the veteran pitcher expressed appreciation for getting another chance to play baseball. Boyd said while he recovered from surgery, his daughter repeatedly asked when he’d be part of a new team. “When God shows us who to sign with, we’ll do that,” he told her.

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Pitcher Matt Boyd Says He Is God’s ‘Handiwork’

On social media, Boyd proclaims that he is “playing for an audience of one.” The pitcher and his wife, Ashley, founded Kingdom Home in 2018 to fight sex slavery. The organization rescues children from the sex trade in Uganda and also works to prevent human trafficking.

NC Pastor Charged With Sexual Exploitation of a Minor Following 2-Month Investigation

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A North Carolina pastor has been arrested and charged with sexual exploitation of a minor following a two-month investigation. Timothy Charles Rupard, 44, believed that he was communicating online with a 16-year-old girl. 

Editor’s note: This article refers to reports of child sex abuse that some readers might find triggering and/or disturbing.

Rupard is pastor of Temple Baptist Church, an independent KJV-only Baptist congregation in Newland, North Carolina.

According to WCYB, an investigator received a message in August from Rupard on an undercover social media account. In the message, Rupard, who reportedly utilized the fake username “David Eller,” allegedly solicited sex from a 16-year-old girl. 

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The account received more messages of a similar nature through September. In October, the investigator obtained a search warrant and determined that the account belonged to Rupard. 

“Rupard had been in consistent communication with what he believed to be a sixteen-year-old female,” the Elizabethton Police Department in Elizabethton, Tennessee, said in a release. “Throughout these conversations, Rupard had repeatedly expressed his desire to engage in sexual acts with the minor female.”

When Rupard expressed his desire to see the girl, adding that he was willing to drive to her home, police set up an operation to arrest him. The “girl” told Rupard that she was on fall break from school and that her mother would be working during the day. 

In addition to expressing his desire to engage in sex acts with the minor, Rupard also said that he would bring THC vape pens so that the two could get high together. 

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On Oct. 11, Rupard messaged the girl saying that he was en route to the her location at an apartment complex in Elizabethton, sending pictures of a road accident that resulted in him being stuck in traffic. He also spoke with someone he believed was the girl twice on the phone via the David Eller social media account. 

Bishop David D. Daniels III, Ecumenist Who Taught African, Pentecostal History, Dies at 70

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(RNS) — Bishop David D. Daniels III, a scholar and ecumenist who sought to build understanding of historical African and Black Pentecostal contributions to Christianity, has died at age 70.

Daniels, a professor of world Christianity and church history at McCormick Theological Seminary in Chicago, died on Oct. 10 after a “courageous battle with cancer,” said the Rev. Eric Lewis Williams, director of the Office of Black Church Studies at Duke Divinity School, who was Daniels’ colleague and former student.

The Rev. Maisha Handy, McCormick’s president, said her institution was “deeply enriched” by Daniels’ work and legacy. “His contributions to theological education are significant and timeless,” she said in a statement. “He will be missed by our village.”

Bishop J. Drew Sheard, the presiding bishop of the Church of God in Christ, said in a statement that Daniels was “not only a tremendous individual in the Church of God in Christ but also an influential figure in the body of Christ.”

Sheard said Daniels’ “wisdom, scholarship, and unwavering dedication to the ministry made him one of the most astute and respected leaders among us. As a profound historian of the Church Of God In Christ, Bishop Daniels’ contributions to the preservation of our rich legacy are unparalleled.”

In his work, Daniels drew attention to individuals, such as the late Mother Mary P. Patterson, who preserved a sense of COGIC’s place in the United States. Patterson helped erect historical markers in the South that chronicle the denomination’s history. Daniels also highlighted the work of Sherry Sherrod DuPree, a former president of the Society for Pentecostal Studies whose Library of Congress collection includes 1930s issues of COGIC’s The Whole Truth newspaper.

Daniels, also a former SPS president, is himself known for fostering greater understanding of the denomination and other Pentecostal traditions in wider Christian circles.

“Daniels was very interested in getting Pentecostals engaged, especially Black Pentecostals, … in a number of the ecumenical dialogues,” said Williams, reached as he arrived in Switzerland for a joint consultation with leaders of the global Pentecostal movement and the World Council of Churches. “But the work was so much that he would begin to get others from the tradition engaged.”

The Chicago seminary noted that Daniels’ contributions included lecturing widely, while remaining committed to his colleagues and students in academia.

“Devastated to hear of the passing of someone who was a scholar, teacher, and mentor for so many: Bishop Dr. David D. Daniels, III,” said the Rev. Yolanda Pierce, dean of Vanderbilt University Divinity School, on the social media platform X. “A loss for (the Church of God in Christ), McCormick, and so many other institutions.”

In a 2017 column published in the (Memphis) Commercial Appeal, Daniels critiqued celebrations of the 500th anniversary of the Protestant Reformation that year that often occurred “without any reference to African Christians.” In that essay, Daniels wrote about reformer Martin Luther’s interest in the Christians of Ethiopia.

In Helene’s and Milton’s Wake, Faith-Based Disaster Relief Groups Prepare for the Long Haul

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Eight Days of Hope volunteers clean out a house damaged by Hurricane Helene in Haywood County, N.C. (Photo courtesy Eight Days of Hope)

(RNS) — This past Sunday, worshippers returned to Biltmore Church, a megachurch in Asheville, North Carolina, for the first time in person after Hurricane Helene hit western North Carolina. It was bittersweet, said Bruce Frank, the church’s pastor. People were glad to be together, even as many are still grieving. “There is a lot of loss,” Frank said simply in his sermon.

Among the lost were Nora and Michael Drye, lay leaders at Biltmore, and their 7-year-old grandson, Micah, who became trapped on their roof and drowned in Helene’s flooding. Others in the church had lost loved ones, homes and their livelihoods.

Church members have rallied to support those affected, offering their parking lot to disaster relief groups and state workers and organizing drive-by centers where people can pick up water, ice, diapers and food for those affected by the disaster, said Frank.

The church is also collecting donations through a website they created called 828Strong, named for the area code for Asheville and nearby communities.

In the weeks before the hurricane, the church had been studying the New Testament’s Letter of James, which contains the well-known saying that faith without works is dead. Frank said that passage has come to life as church members have responded by helping their neighbors.

The coming months, he said, will be like a “stay-at-home mission trip” for church members, as they’ll be helping others near home.

With the one-two punch of Hurricane Helene and Hurricane Milton within two weeks of one another, faith-based disaster groups are getting ready for a long, slow recovery that may take years. “It’s going to take a long time,” said Frank, whose church is working closely with North Carolina Baptist Disaster Relief. Volunteers have already cooked more than 100,000 meals in the church parking lot.

Two hours away, in Boone, North Carolina, staff and volunteers from Samaritan’s Purse, an evangelical humanitarian group led by the evangelist Franklin Graham, have been working to clear debris, set up water filtration systems and deliver food and other supplies by helicopter to communities cut off by the storm.

In rural communities the group has set up some 50 Starlink kits to restore internet service and has furnished generators to supply power. “We’ve also set up oxygen shelters,” said Graham, for patients unable to receive their usual supplies, “and refilled more than 1,000 oxygen tanks.”

So far, said Graham, more than 16,000 volunteers have shown up to help, with more expected. The group is working at sites from Georgia to Florida in Helene recovery, as well as close to home in North Carolina. More help will be needed in the months to come, said Graham.

But Graham said plans are already underway for long-term rebuilding, primarily recruiting leaders for that work and arranging with suppliers for rebuilding materials. Meanwhile, volunteers already on the scene are installing culverts to drain water and helping to temporarily restore gravel roads washed out by the storm.

Graham, a supporter of Donald Trump, nonetheless expressed relief the election has taken a back seat to disaster relief. “Nobody’s talking about Democrats or Republicans,” he said. “It’s kind of refreshing. Politics is not an issue. It’s about getting people back up and running again.”

The nondenominational Christian volunteer group Eight Days of Hope has been working on rapid response to both Hurricane Helene and Hurricane Milton, setting up mobile feeding sites as well as trailers with laundry and shower equipment.

“So if you need a warm shower or you need your laundry done, you could come and do that and get a warm meal while you were there,” said Hannah Fletcher, a spokesperson for the group. Having just wrapped up its Milton response, Eight Days of Hope planned to continue responding for much of October in areas affected by Helene, while making plans to return for rebuilding work once communities have a long-term plan in place.

5 Qualities to Seek in the Heart of a Leader

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In this article I’d love to consider the heart of a leader.

Someone asked me recently what I primarily look for in the hiring of a staff position. I said, without reservation, first and foremost, I look for the heart of a leader. I want a heart which honors Christ more than self, one which desires to grow and learn, and one which is willing to sacrifice personal privilege for benevolent purpose of others.

The heart of a leader is more important than any other characteristic.

Consider, for example, the life of a Bible character by the name of Joseph. Joseph’s story runs from Genesis 37-50. It’s an amazing story of God’s sovereignty and grace. Joseph is a standard bearer for character in the Old Testament. Some say he’s in many ways an Old Testament example of Christ—not sinless, as Christ was, but certainly a God-fearing man.

The part of Joseph’s story I want to point out has to do with what identified him with the heart of leader. I submit his heart is representative of the kind of heart all leaders should seek to have.

5 Qualities to Seek in the Heart of a Leader

1. Imagination

Joseph was a dreamer. It caused him some problems, but he was able to see what others couldn’t see. He saw the big picture. Of course, this came from God, but I believe God has equipped all of us with the ability to dream. It may not be prophetic in nature, but we can seek and find the big picture if we are looking for it.

Pastor: Here’s the Best Thing You’ll Ever Do for Yourself

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Here’s how I learned about he best thing you can do for yourself. I’m remembering the time I bumped into Jeff Ingram in the hotel breakfast area. The previous evening, I had spoken at a local church while Jeff had led a conference for Sunday School directors in a neighboring community. Jeff said, “I had 14 directors in my conference. It was great.” I have never worked for Jeff’s employer–the Louisiana Baptist Convention with headquarters in Alexandria, Louisiana–but I knew what he is experiencing.

Without asking him, I can tell you the high point of his day. Jeff is sitting in his office and the phone rings. A pastor or church staffer or lay leader from somewhere across this state is on the line. “I need help,” he says. Jeff’s heart races. “Great,” he thinks to himself. “Someone needs me.”

What he says is, “Well, I’ll be happy to do anything I can for you.” If the caller has a problem of untrained leaders or an anemic organization that needs a shot in the arm or his Sunday School is in disarray and he is desperate for assistance, all the juices start flowing in Jeff Ingram’s veins.

This is great. This is what a denominational worker lives for. (He may even quote the Esther verse to himself : “I’ve come to the kingdom for such a time as this.”) This is why he’s there.

I guarantee it’s true, whether the worker is the employee of the association, the state convention, the national organization, one of our agencies.

The best part of their day is when someone calls needing what they have to offer. An even greater thing is when the caller asks for something they don’t know how to give and don’t know what to do about, but recognize as a genuinely needful situation and determine to find the answer. The worker/leader/servant loves a good challenge.

The worst part of his job, I guarantee, is sitting in his office with the phone never ringing. He begins to wonder if he is selling something no one needs, answering questions no one is asking, offering what no one wants.

The saddest part is looking at churches and their leaders who desperately need what they have to offer and either don’t know it or don’t care.

I’ve been on both sides of this situation.

–I’ve been the pastor (staff member, too, in two churches) who has sometimes felt the outside experts with their programs were irrelevant or out of touch or boring.

–I’ve been the denominational guy (the associational Director of Missions) who knew how to help that church down the way but could not force-feed the pastor or its leaders.

Here’s the Best Thing You’ll Ever Do for Yourself

What I did.

I once wrote a blistering letter to a group of pastors in a small parish some miles below New Orleans, my home base. “My colleague and I drove 80 miles each way last night to attend your meeting. Only two of you showed up.”  The background is that each of them had our gathering on their calendars and should have been present.

Feeling my oats now and enjoying venting–something pastors and denominational guys rarely get to do–I said to those pastors, “This is your meeting. I don’t need it. We did it because you asked for it. I don’t get paid extra for doing this. I could have stayed home with my family last night. Instead, I got in at 11:30.”

Is Our Worship a One-Sided Conversation?

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How can we expect meaningful worship responses on Sunday if we aren’t listening for God’s revelations the rest of the week? In other words, a singular focus on worship is a one-sided conversation without discipleship.

Is Our Worship a One-Sided Conversation?

Monological worship tends to monopolize the conversation, potentially causing us to miss the voice of God. Discipleship is intentionally becoming more like Jesus through a daily life of faith and obedience. So if we get too absorbed in our singing to God we can miss the discipleship of hearing from Him. And we can’t hear from Him if we aren’t regularly spending time with Him.

A dialogical discipleship and worship conversation, on the other hand, consists of a healthy balance of revelation and response. It is a meaningful interactive exchange built on our familiarity with God.

Youth Group Icebreaker Games for Kids: 10 Fun Activities

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Youth group icebreaker games are a fantastic way to help kids feel more comfortable and connected. These conversation starters break down social barriers. Plus, they encourage friendships and open dialogue among teens and preteens. And that sets the tone for meaningful relationships and discussions.

Youth leaders always need creative youth group icebreaker games. So here are 10 engaging activities to get students laughing, talking, and bonding. They provide a mix of high-energy, creative, and conversational activities.

Youth Group Icebreaker Games: 10 Get-to-Know-You Ideas

1. Two Truths and a Lie

In this classic game, kids learn interesting (and often hilarious) facts about one another.

How to Play:

  • Each participant takes turns sharing three statements about themselves. Two are true, and one is a lie.
  • The rest of the group must guess which statement is the lie.

Why It Works: This simple game requires no materials yet opens up a world of conversation starters. Teens and preteens love trying to trick each other. They often end up laughing at the creative lies or surprising truths their friends reveal.

2. Human Knot

Next, this game builds teamwork and communication among group members.

How to Play:

  • Have everyone stand in a circle, shoulder to shoulder.
  • Each person reaches out and grabs the hand of someone across the circle. Then they grab a different person’s hand with their other hand.
  • The goal is for the group to untangle themselves without letting go of any hands. Kids must talk and work together.

Why It Works: Human Knot fosters cooperation and breaks the ice through physical interaction. Kids must work as a team toward a common goal. Plus, it’s fun to see the creative ways people twist and turn to get untangled!

3. Would You Rather?

What a perfect icebreaker for getting teens to think and laugh together!

How to Play:

  • Ask questions like, “Would you rather fly or be invisible?” Or “For the rest of your life, would you rather eat only pizza or only ice cream?”
  • After each question, give a few seconds for kids to decide. Then have them stand in different places for each choice.
  • To spark funny conversations, ask teens to explain their choices.

Why It Works: This game generates conversations about silly personal preferences, so it’s guaranteed to lighten the mood. Teens love debating their choices and learning about likes and dislikes.

4. Balloon Pop

This high-energy game gets everyone moving and talking.

How to Play:

  • Cut slips of paper and write one question on each. Examples include “What’s your favorite movie?” Or “If you could have dinner with anyone, who would it be?”
  • Put one slip inside each balloon.
  • Inflate the balloons and scatter them around the room.
  • Each player grabs a balloon, pops it, and then answers the question inside.

Why It Works: This combines physical activity with conversation starters. Kids release energy while learning insights in a lighthearted setting.

5. Speed Friending

Next, this is similar to speed dating but without the romance! Teen get to know lots of people in a brief time.

How to Play:

  • Set up chairs in two lines facing each other.
  • Participants sit across from one another. They have 1-2 minutes to answer a get-to-know-you question and chat. For example, “What’s the best vacation you’ve ever taken?” Or “If you could live in any decade, which would it be and why?”
  • When time is up, one row shifts to the right. Repeat with a new partner.

Why It Works: Speed Friending encourages brief chats with several people. These types of youth group icebreaker games help shy or new kids feel included.

Friends With Jesus: Teach Preschoolers About Knowing Christ

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Being friends with Jesus is our ultimate goal in children’s ministry. From a young age, kids can discover the joy of having a personal relationship with their loving Savior.

In this preschool Bible lesson, kids color activity pages as they learn about being friends with Jesus.

Preschool Lesson: Friends With Jesus

Scripture: John 14:5-14

Supplies:

Color and Chat

First, write children’s names on their pages. Then give each child an activity page.

While children color their pictures, provide time for them to get to know one another better. Let children tell the group about their favorite food or game, how many siblings they have, or what kinds of pets they have.

Tell kids that spending time together and learning new things about one another is how people get to know friends better. Remind kids they can get to know Jesus in the same ways. They can spend time with Jesus, go to church, pray, and learn things in the Bible.

When children finish coloring, help them use a pencil to poke a small hole in the picture of the girl and another in Jesus.

Help children lace the heart bead onto the yarn and string the yarn through the holes. Then tie the yarn behind the picture.

Let children move the heart from Jesus to the picture of the child as you remind them that Jesus shares his love with us and we can share our love with him. Then let children move the heart back to Jesus and give ideas of how they can be friends with Jesus.

Encourage children to show the “You Can Have a Friendship With Jesus” activity page to their families and share with them how to get to know Jesus better.

Friendship With Jesus

Ask:

  • How did it feel to get to know each other better?
  • What can we do to get to know Jesus better?

Arkansas Pastor, a Foster Parent to 70 Children, Charged With 100 Counts of Possessing and Distributing CSAM

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James Vincent Henry, pastor of Crossroads Assembly of God in Delight, Arkansas, has been charged with 100 counts of possessing, viewing, and distributing child sexual abuse material (CSAM).

Editor’s note: This article refers to reports of child sex abuse that some readers might find triggering and/or disturbing.

According to the church’s website, the 43-year-old pastor has been married to his wife Brittney for 12 years, and the couple has three children.

Henry’s wife is also listed as a pastor of Crossroads Assembly of God.

Before becoming pastor of Crossroads Assembly of God, Henry served as a youth pastor at four different churches: Lacey Assembly of God, McGehee First Assembly of God, Mountain Pine First Assembly of God, and Newsong Church in Centerton, Arkansas.

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“An Arkansas State Police (ASP) Internet Crimes Against Children (ICAC) Task Force investigation led to the arrest yesterday (Oct. 15) of James Vincent Henry, 43, of Delight, for 100 counts of crimes related to the possession and distribution of child sexual abuse material (CSAM),” ASP said in a statement. “Henry is the pastor of [a] church in Delight.”

ASP reported that on Wednesday, Sept. 25, “Special Agents with the ASP ICAC Task Force executed a search warrant in Delight in reference to two cyber tips from the National Center for Missing & Exploited Children made through the online messaging applications Snapchat and Kik.”

Agents then reviewed “digital evidence” before obtaining an arrest warrant on Monday (Oct. 14). Pike County Sheriff’s deputies arrested Henry less than 24 hours later.

Henry has been charged with “100 counts of Possession, Viewing, and Distribution of Child Pornography (CSAM).”

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Henry currently remains in custody at the Pike County Detention Center.

Barbara Peacock: Actively Engaging in Soul Care

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As pastors and ministry leaders, how can we better care for our own souls as we care for the souls of others? In this week’s conversation on FrontStage BackStage, host Jason Daye is joined by Dr. Barbara Peacock. Barbara is an award-winning author and a passionate spiritual director and teacher. She’s earned degrees from both Princeton Theological Seminary and Gordon Conwell Theological Seminary. She’s the founder of Peacock Soul Care, and her most recent book is titled, “Spiritual Practices for Soul Care.” Together, Barbara and Jason explored the importance of actively and intentionally engaging in our own soul care as we serve others. Barbara also provides some incredible insights about the relationship between community and caring for our souls.

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Therapeutic Friendship: Receptive Capacity

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In the landscape of human connection, friendships stand as a testament to our capacity for empathy, support, and growth.

Central to nurturing these bonds is the concept of receptive capacity—the ability to openly accept and be enriched by positive interactions, emotions, and support from each other.

But what makes receptive capacity so crucial in friendships, and how can friends mutually cultivate it? Let’s explore…

Understanding Receptive Capacity

Receptive capacity is our ability to let in and be positively affected by the good in our interactions and relationships. It involves welcoming compliments, empathetic support, and constructive feedback without deflecting or downplaying their value. In the realm of friendship, it’s about allowing ourselves to be fully present and open to the joy, support, and love our friends offer, and equally, to offer the same in return.

The Importance of Receptive Capacity in Friendships

Friendships thrive on mutual respect, understanding, and the exchange of positive affirmations and support. Developing a strong receptive capacity within these relationships is essential for several reasons:

– Deepens Emotional Connections: Being receptive enhances emotional intimacy, allowing friends to feel seen, heard, and valued.

– Fosters Growth and Learning: Openness to feedback and new perspectives supports personal and mutual growth, encouraging both friends to evolve together.

– Builds Resilience: Sharing and receiving positive experiences and emotions contribute to a stronger sense of self and collective resilience against life’s challenges.

– Enhances Self-esteem and Confidence: Mutual receptivity in friendships can boost self-esteem, as friends recognize and affirm each other’s strengths and qualities.

Challenges to Cultivating Receptive Capacity

Cultivating receptive capacity is not without its challenges. Past experiences of rejection or betrayal, fears of vulnerability, and societal pressures to appear self-sufficient can hinder openness in friendships. Furthermore, the fast-paced nature of modern life often leaves little room for the deep, reflective conversations necessary for nurturing this capacity.

Ways To Mutually Cultivate Receptive Capacity in Friendships

Enhancing receptive capacity within friendships is a collaborative effort, requiring intention and practice. Here are some strategies to foster this mutual journey:

– Practice Active Listening: Show genuine interest in each other’s experiences and feelings. Active listening involves engaging fully with what your friend is sharing, without planning your response or judgment.

– Express Gratitude and Appreciation: Regularly acknowledge the value of your friendship and the qualities you admire in each other. This not only strengthens bonds but also encourages a culture of receptivity.

– Offer and Accept Support Openly: Be willing to ask for and offer support. Letting your friend know he or she can count on you, and showing that you can accept their support, reinforces trust and openness.

– Share Vulnerabilities: Being vulnerable with each other fosters a safe space where both friends can express their true selves, including doubts and fears, enhancing mutual understanding and acceptance.

– Reflect on and Discuss Emotional Experiences: Take time to reflect on how you both respond to positive moments within your friendship. Discussing these experiences can deepen your understanding of each other’s emotional landscapes.

Ted Bryant: How To Approach Hot-Button Issues Like Jesus

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How can we reliably approach today’s pressing social issues in a way that honors God and points people to Jesus? In this week’s conversation on FrontStage BackStage, host Jason Daye is joined by Dr. Ted Bryant. Ted is the lead pastor at Granger Community Church. He earned his MDiv at Moody Theological Seminary and his PhD at Notre Dame. His most recent book is titled, “The Jesus Method.” Together, Ted and Jason explore some of the common tendencies and temptations we have as ministry leaders when it comes to addressing some of the complex and controversial social issues of our day. Ted points us to the life of Jesus, focusing on the priority of relationships and helping us understand the value of not only what Jesus taught but also how he engaged the people around him.

FrontStage BackStage Podcast With Ted Bryant

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Miranda Zapor Cruz: Political Engagement & Kingdom Convictions—How To Avoid Common Pitfalls

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How can we avoid some of the common pitfalls when we engage in politics as Christ followers? In this week’s conversation on FrontStage BackStage, host Jason Daye is joined by Dr. Miranda Zapor Cruz. Miranda is a professor of historical theology at Indiana Wesleyan University. She holds a PhD in religion, politics, and society from Baylor University, and she earned her Master’s of Divinity at Princeton Theological Seminary. Her most recent book is titled “Faithful Politics.” Together, Miranda and Jason look at the unique dual citizenship that we hold as Christ followers in both the kingdom of God and the country in which we reside. Miranda shares how we can navigate some of the complexities and challenges and avoid common pitfalls when it comes to engaging in politics as Christ followers. 

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Solitude and Silence

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Jesus needed it. So did Moses, Elijah, Mary, and Paul. And that is just for starters. All the leading fathers and mothers throughout church history needed it, too. People like Augustine, Luther, Wesley, Calvin, and modern spiritual leaders such as Dietrich Bonhoeffer, Mother Teresa, Billy Graham, and Dallas Willard. What is it they needed? Solitude and silence. If these spiritual giants needed time alone with God, how much more do we?

Practicing solitude and silence does not come naturally. It is easier for some than for others. Yet without it, you miss the richness and depth of a walk with Christ that can come no other way. What does it say about your own sense of self-sufficiency if you ignore this practice?

The Nature, Necessity, and Practice of Solitude and Silence

  1. Solitude is getting alone with God. Many of us are uncomfortable with being alone. And silence can be deafening. We feel compelled to be doing something. But with practice, we begin to realize we are not alone. God is present in the silence. We learn to recognize his voice in the quiet. To truly practice solitude, we leave behind all work, reading, and music. Those things bring their own voices. We want to hear the purity and simplicity of God’s voice only. It is difficult to hear God’s voice without solitude and silence. When was the last time you were alone with God? Where can you go to spend 30 minutes of solitude and silence this week?
  2. Solitude and silence are necessary for perspective. Our minds are usually preoccupied with all the busyness, what ifs, and general disruption in our culture. It is a problem of our times. Without solitude, problems and fears loom large. Like silt in a lake that gets stirred, it takes time for the confusing noises of our hearts and minds to settle. Silence allows the reality of God to stand in the midst of your life. It puts things into healthy perspective.
  3. We need solitude and silence to identify our fears and desires. In solitude before God, alone and undistracted, we learn to face our fears directly. The power of fear is disarmed as we experience the loving, yet powerful, presence of God. Courage and assurance emerge. In silence before God, we are also enabled to identify our deepest desires, what brings us joy and hope. Too much interaction and noise can prevent us from recognizing what is truly in our hearts. How in tune are you with your own fears? Do you truly recognize your deepest desires for God? 
  4. We need silence and solitude for living out there. Solitude and silence are always for the purpose of re-engaging the world. Ministering to others, our families, and our communities. Having spent time in clarifying silence before God, we have a renewed perspective on God’s role in our lives and that we are not alone. The Spirit goes with us, enabling us to do what he has called us to do. Do your times of solitude with God help you re-engage the world?
  5. Solitude and silence can be learned. It might not feel comfortable. It can even be a little unnerving at first. But there are small steps you can take to begin experiencing solitude and silence, stepping out to your backyard late at night to gaze at stars, being intentional to turn off the radio on your commute to the office, an early morning walk in a local park. What small steps can you take this week to spend a few minutes in solitude and silence?

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The Satanic Temple Opens 2nd ‘Abortion Ritual’ Clinic, This Time in Virginia

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The Satanic Temple (TST), which considers abortion a “religious reproductive right,” has launched a second facility offering telehealth abortion services. The Virginia clinic, named the Right To Your Life Satanic Abortion Clinic, is similar to the virtual clinic in New Mexico, named Samuel Alito’s Mom’s Satanic Abortion Clinic.

TST opened its New Mexico clinic in February 2023, in response to the U.S. Supreme Court overturning Roe v. Wade the previous summer. After a draft of Justice Samuel Alito’s Dobbs ruling leaked in 2022, TST pledged to “protect religious abortion access for our members.” Since then, the organization has taken aim at strict abortion laws in Indiana and Idaho.

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As ChurchLeaders has reported, The Satanic Temple differs from the Church of Satan. Members don’t worship or believe in the biblical devil. The organization’s mission includes “rejecting tyrannical authority,” “opposing injustice,” and fighting for “bodily autonomy.” In 2019, the IRS recognized The Satanic Temple as a tax-exempt church.

Satanic Abortion Clinic Relies on Abortion Pill

TST Health, the group’s “religious reproductive health arm,” described its new clinic as an expansion of “low-cost, safe, and reliable abortion care” in America. The Virginia clinic, which opened with the help of donor funding, works with a third-party online pharmacy to supply abortion medication.

TST has helped cover medication and travel costs for people experiencing financial hardships. “We’re honored to have made a positive impact on so many lives during what can be a difficult time,” the group said.

During virtual consultations with TST Health, patients learn about potential risks of the abortion pill and what to do if complications arise. “We do not agree with the notion that telehealth care puts patients at risk,” said Erin Helian, TST’s executive director. “Instead, we argue that by expanding care and access, telehealth clinics, like ours, can save lives.”

TST Health staff, who are available online 24/7, schedule a series of virtual appointments with each patient and follow up afterward.

“Our new clinic presents a rare opportunity to provide vital medical care in an area that, thanks to lawmakers, is a virtual reproductive care desert,” Helian said. “Our second clinic is just the beginning of our expansion of easy [abortion] access.”

The Satanic Temple Calls Abortion a Religious Ritual

On its website, TST describes its “religious abortion ritual,” which protects members from “medically unnecessary and unscientific regulations.” During the so-called “destruction ritual,” people recite two TST tenets, including one that states, “One’s body is inviolable, subject to one’s own will alone.” Next, they state this personal affirmation: “By my body, my blood. By my will, it is done.”

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To prepare for the ritual, patients are instructed to ponder “the scientific reality regarding abortion” and recall “the struggle to establish the reproductive rights we have today.” Other people’s stories “may subdue stigmas you might feel from those who oppose abortion,” TST states. “Be proud of pursuing what you want for your life despite opposition.”

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