‘The First 10 Years Were Hell’—Lecrae and His Wife, Darragh, Share Why They Stayed Married

Darragh believes that many of their struggles during that time of their marriage happened because they had “expectations, but those not being communicated, and then it comes out…it’s like, why are we arguing over some paper plates when it’s really deeper issues?”

“And I feel like that was so much of that time or we had issues over something else [that] really was a deeper issue,” she said, “but because we weren’t communicating those things, it came out as an argument over paper plates. Like, what are we doing?”

Lecrae agreed. “Yeah,” he said. “So, I remember that being the first argument. That’s the first time I realized you had a temper. I didn’t know you had a temper.”

“Just so everyone knows,” Darragh told viewers, “so, that was definitely the struggle in our relationship was he was Mr. Self-Righteous and I have the anger issues.” 

“Yes. It was oil and water, which you don’t get to see in friendship a lot of times,” Lecrae said. “That was something that we didn’t get to see. So the other argument that I remember that stands out the most is when I really felt like, yo, I was like, ‘One of us got to die.’” Darragh laughed.

“Somebody going to have to die for us to get out of this,” he went on. “Like, you just praying like, ‘Lord, if it’s me, just take me on home, Lord, because I don’t want to get divorced.’ I felt like the d-word is off the table at that time. Especially the perspective we had, it was like…no divorce, but we also weren’t saying we need counseling either.” 

“And I remember just being like, ‘Oh, somebody got to die, Lord,’” said Lecrae. “‘Like, just let one of us die, Lord. Then this whole thing will be over. Just take me to heaven, God. It’ll be fine.’”

The other huge argument he remembered took place after they had moved to Memphis, Tennessee. “And we over by Wolfchase Mall,” he said, “and I don’t even know what we were arguing about.” Darragh didn’t remember either.

“But it got so intense in the middle of the street,” said Lecrae, “you was like, ‘Let me out.’”

“I was so serious,” she said, pointing out Uber didn’t exist then, she didn’t know where she was going, and she believes it was nighttime. Darragh said, “I was like, ‘I’m getting out this car, whether you stop it or not. So, let me out this car.’”

“And I’m just sitting there like, ‘What are you—what are you doing?’” said Lecrae. “‘Like, what is the goal here? Like, why do you, what are you doing? Where are you going to go?’” 

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