‘The First 10 Years Were Hell’—Lecrae and His Wife, Darragh, Share Why They Stayed Married

“But at the same time,” Darragh said, “I do feel like there became a point, and you know I’m not good with remembering exacts and things like that, but where it was like, ok, I felt like we have—we finally got on a better pace in our marriage or a better groove in our marriage.”

“I just felt like, it’s just hard,” she said, “and it’s like, you know, we just, we praying and we’re trying to grow individually and as a couple. We still tried to do things.”

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“Yes, we didn’t have a honeymoon phase and yes…we just jumped right in the nitty-gritty, but there were still good times in it,” Darragh continued. “It just felt like it was taking us longer to get into a groove.” 

In the moment, though, she was “not necessarily seeing that in that because it’s like, you’re married, now you’re pregnant, so you’re excited about that, and you’re having a baby, you know.”

Lecrae shared that he came to a point where he realized he had to change. “I was like, ‘Oh, she’s stubborn,’” he said. “I was like, ‘I can’t force her to see things the way I want to see things…if she questions my intentions, a wall’s going up.’ So, I know I can’t just force her to see things my way.” 

“So, for me, I was like, ‘Oh, I got to change; otherwise we’re not going nowhere,’” he explained. 

“I feel like I felt the same,” Darragh said. “I felt the same as far as, like, the Lord has to change some things, you know, in me or in you. Like, only the Lord’s going to be able to do that, you know? And we just didn’t know. But we were still like, ‘Okay, but we’re still in this.’” 

Lecrae and Darragh also talked about how Darragh has kept Lecrae grounded amid fame and what it was like for her to support him through the “darkest time in [his] entire life.” The hip-hop artist said that his wife’s love has been healing for him, as he comes from a background of abuse and neglect.

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“You have stopped me from ruining my life multiple times. You know what I mean?” he said. “And on top of that, you’re so faithful and consistent that in the back of my mind, I’m thinking, ‘Man, if I’m leading [you], like, that’s a high bar, somebody who’s this faithful and really believes in the Lord, like, okay, I got to be for real about this.’” 

“Where you have changed my life is, sincerely, you have been a rock,” Lecrae told his wife. “I grew up in this dysfunctional background, abandoned, abused, neglected, and here you come just like, ‘I’ll be here.’” And she’s remained through everything, said Lecrae, even though he is “a mess.”

“I’m a mess too,” Darragh said. “We’re all a mess.”

Lecrae said he was getting emotional and didn’t want to cry. “That’s like where I see the Lord has put you in my life,” he said, “is because I just expect people to abandon me. I just expect people to run out or to be like, ‘I’m done.’”

His wife observed that she does not really see her faithfulness as a special thing but as what should be normal.

“Take your compliment, Darragh,” Lecrae said as they laughed together.