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How to Evaluate Your Ministry Events

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At our church, we have just completed two large events with a couple more staring us down. One of the things I try to do after each event is to evaluate the event’s effectiveness and my and my team’s competence. I realize that for each church this may look different, but I also realize that we sometimes need a starting point to get us going.

I break those questions down into three categories. People. Church. Me.

People

Did the right people come?
Who was missing that should have been at this event?
Who came that I didn’t expect to come?
Where were their opportunities for God to move in the lives of our kids?
Did we create memories that will last a lifetime?

Church

Did this event help build the church?
Did this event point people beyond their own need?
Did we preach Christ Crucified?
Did we as a ministry represent the values and vision of the church? Or did we do our own thing?
Was the church fully aware of what took place?

Me

Did I do what only I could have done at this event?
What did I do that someone else can do next time?
Did my team learn something from this event?
Did I grow in my dependence on Christ through this event?

It’s very easy to measure the effectiveness of what we do by how many people came or how much money we earned. Both are valid and helpful, but not ultimate. We are a church, not a Chic-fil-a. Our aim is to primarily pastor and love people, not to be a CEOs. We are more interested in helping those God has brought into our care to maintain a long obedience in the same direction. Large events to the extent they build the church and deepen our dependence on God are helpful. To the extent they are a spectacle, they are unhelpful. Let us by God’s grace create events that drive us deeper into God’s heart for our good and His glory.

This article originally appeared here.

The Necessity of Deep Thinking About Church Among Students

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“Hey man! Welcome to the Student Ministry! How are you?”

“I’m good.”

“Awesome. Is this your first time at church in a while, or have you been going somewhere else?”

“Yeah I grew up in the church! But I’m kinda going to a few different places right now.”

“Like you are looking for a new church?”

“Oh no, nothing like that. We just go to a lot of different churches. My Mom goes to the Greek Orthodox church early Sunday Morning, and I go with her to that sometimes. But my Dad goes to the big-box mega church’s late service—I like the worship there. And I go to a couple different youth groups. I have friends in one, but I heard your youth group had some cool stuff going on so I wanted to check it out.”

“Oh man, that’s crazy. Why do you go to so many places? Are your parents divorced?”

“Oh, no. They just like different churches and want to go to the places that they ‘connect’ with best.”

This conversation is not an exaggeration, and it isn’t something I made up. It was a real conversation I had with a student. And while he was certainly the most extreme example I’ve experienced, he is not alone. Author and pastor Matt Chandler has said that Christians (at least in the South) tend to treat church selection like an “ecclesiological buffet.” They choose which parts of which church they like best, and continue to attend as long as that particular need is met in that particular place. I have many students who view church this way:

“Well, I like this church because this group of friends goes here”
“That group of friends goes there.”
“I like the worship here.”
“I like the preaching there.”
“I really like the small groups at that church.”

I have many students who tell me that they do not go to the same church as their parents. Their parents will go to one church, and they go to the student ministry of another. I have also noticed a tendency to replace church community with para-church ministries, worship nights and weekly religious events. Even more fascinating is that many of these students treat their pick-n-mix ecclesiology as if it were a virtue. They say “God led them” there, or that since a particular ministry “resonates” and “connects” with a different part of their spiritual experience, making the effort to go to multiple places actually brands them a “better Christian.”

All of this is anecdotal evidence based on my particular experience as a student pastor in the Bible Belt. So I want to be careful about making definitive pronouncements. I also want to remind myself that youth group isn’t church (even though many of my students treat it that way), so a little bit of bouncing around isn’t the same as chronic church-hopping. Youth ministry is, at best, a supplement to the church gathered on Sunday morning, and an appendage to a parent’s discipleship.

Very few of my students are church-hopping for nefarious reasons. Very few parents allow them to do so because they are bad parents. Most people treat church like a buffet because they honestly believe it is in their best spiritual interests. However, I have four issues with the ecclesiological buffet:

  1. It treats church like a product. If you treat “church” as a product, a service rendered (as buffet-line mac n’ cheese), the natural result is that you will only attend if you feel like your desires are being met. If the worship leader changes, if you aren’t making friends quickly, if the pastor isn’t funny, then you’ll leave.
  2. It turns students into mystics. This approach reduces “church” to nothing more than the feeling of having a spiritual experience. If I ask students why they came to our youth ministry, or why they left another, it’s fascinating to hear how often the word “felt” comes up. “Feeling connected,” or “feeling the Spirit,” or “enjoying the music/sermon/small groups” becomes the only barometer to judge whether your presence should continue. It turns students into mystics because their decisions are being made on subjective “religious” experiences.
  3. It terminates on the self. No parent or student would ever say “church is ultimately about me and my preferences.” But this attitude betrays the fact that church-goers see themselves as consumers rather than worshippers. It betrays the fact that church is seen as another method for self-gratification.
  4. But perhaps the greatest concern is that this view of church ignores God’s Word. If the evangelical default is to treat church mystically, and as selfish consumers, Scripture describes the church as ruthlessly grounded, and entirely selfless.

RUTHLESSLY GROUNDED AND ENTIRELY SELFLESS
It’s only things that I buy that I treat like products. I will analyze products endlessly, read dozens of reviews, get what I can out of it only to forget it in a drawer, or upgrade to the newest model. I don’t do that with costly gifts.

The church was bought with Jesus’ blood.

“Pay careful attention to yourselves and to all the flock, in which the Holy Spirit has made you overseers, to care for the church of God which he obtained with his own blood.” Acts 20:28

While that is directed to pastors, it is equally applicable to every youth grouper and parent. We have a responsibility to remember that the church is ruthlessly grounded on Jesus Christ’s entirely selfless act. And that as members of that church we are to treat that gift, and the others who have received it, in kind. We are not to chase mystic experiences and subjective impressions. We aren’t supposed to bail when we can’t “get connected.” We are meant to stick our feet in the mud and die meeting the needs of our brothers and sisters in Christ, because of Christ who did exactly the same for them.

This article originally appeared here.

5 Ways Tracking Church Attendance Messes With Your Soul

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If you’ve spent more than 10 minutes in church leadership, you’re aware of the tension that tracking church attendance creates inside you and around you.

Sure, for starters, the way other leaders talk about numbers is an easy gateway for criticism (he’s totally obsessed with numbers).

But it’s deeper than that. It’s easy to criticize what an obsession with attendance, giving and growth trends might be doing to another leader, but it’s more important to ask what tracking numbers might be doing to you.

Before you think that you’re immune from this, or that “you don’t care about the numbers,” I’m not sure any of us gets a pass on this one.

Like many other leaders, I tend to be a little too obsessed with numbers. Some leaders say they don’t care about numbers at all, and if that’s you, just read to the end. There’s a danger there too.

Having been in church leadership for most of my adult life, tracking numbers has done a number on me too, both positively and negatively.

Here are five ways church attendance tracking can mess with your soul, whether you care about them or not.

1. You Feel Like God’s Only Happy With You When Your Church Is Growing

The basic thrust of the Gospel is this: Your salvation doesn’t arise from how good you are, but how good God is. Jesus didn’t come for you because you were awesome, but because you weren’t and he loved you anyway.

I have to admit there have been whole seasons where I’ve felt like God must be happy with me because things are going well, only to realize that—of course—that isn’t true.

But sometimes we leaders are like third graders who show up with our report card hoping that we gain mom and dad’s approval by our good marks.

Look, you have God’s approval. That was settled on a hillside outside of Jerusalem two millennia ago, and you gained it personally when you decided to place your trust in Christ.

God’s love for you in Christ is unconditional. His love for you is no different when your church is growing or when it’s stuck or even declining.

That understanding will give you the security you need to tackle whatever is ahead of you to further advance the mission of the church: whether that’s to build on a strong season or throw fresh energy into a tough season.

God doesn’t love you because of what you do, leaders. He just loves you.

2. Your Self-Esteem Rises and Falls With the Numbers

In the same way your relationship with God shouldn’t be impacted by trends in your church, your view of yourself also shouldn’t be impacted by them either. But it’s so hard to remember that.

Momentum distorts reality.

When you have momentum, you think you’re better than you are. When you don’t, you think you’re worse than you are.

In leadership, having a steady view of yourself is just as important as having a steady view of God.

Otherwise, everyone around you suffers. Your family will suffer. Your team will suffer. And of course, you’ll suffer.

If your self-esteem rises and falls with the numbers, you’ll be arrogant in the good seasons (and fail to address any underlying weaknesses) and despondent in the bad seasons (incapable of leading forward with humility and resolve).

Keep a steady view of God, and a steady view of yourself, and you’ll lead so much better.

3. People Become a Means to an End

When you’re obsessed with numbers, it’s so easy to start seeing people as a means to an end.

You can start viewing people through the lens of what they give you. When you do that, your heart goes dark and you start caring about all the wrong things.

People become a way of jacking up your numbers, increasing your fragile self-esteem or giving you bragging rights.

Leaders, there’s one reason people should matter to you: because they matter to God.

Over time, people will start to sense whether you care about them or whether you only care about what they give you.

Sadly, the world is full people who came to church looking for God but felt used in the process. Many have left church. Some are never coming back. That’s devastating.

If people become a means to an end, eventually you won’t have many people. And the people you do have will never know the kind of joy that’s possible in a healthy relationship with God and with each other.

4. Progress Becomes Your Idol

One of the greatest dangers you face as a driven leader is that progress will become your god.

I know for me, my fascination with the numbers is not as much an about the numbers as it is about progress. I just want to see progress in the mission, and that means that I love to see all the trends moving up and to the right.

But like most things, progress makes a wonderful servant and a terrible master.

When I idolize progress and the numbers that go with it, I substitute what’s secondary for what’s primary.

And that’s just wrong.

Progress serves God. It isn’t God.

5. You Don’t Even Care Enough to Count

One final way that tracking trends and numbers messes with your soul is this: Sometimes you just stop caring.

I have run into more than a few leaders who say, “I don’t even track numbers anymore.” They wear it as a badge of honor.

Not tracking is almost as bad as tracking too closely. Because then, accomplishing your mission doesn’t matter at all.

You know what all those leaders have in common (at least in my experience)? They lead stagnant or declining churches.

I feel for them…I know that leading when you have no momentum is hard. I’ve been there.

But here’s what’s ultimately true: To stop counting is to stop caring.

People matter, whether you have a few or whether you have many. They matter whether you’re losing or whether you’re gaining.

The numbers tell you something. And even if they’re telling you something you don’t want to hear, as a leader you should listen.

Sure, you can create all kinds of justifications in your mind for not counting:

We don’t measure breadth, we measure depth.

It’s not about quantity. It’s about quality.

God disciplined King David for counting. There you go—counting is sinful. 

Everyone else has sold out. I haven’t.  

I get that. We have to be so careful how we handle what we measure. It is a soul issue.

But I can’t escape the sinking feeling that leaders who have stopped counting are either hiding their insecurity or have stopped caring.

Or at least let me put it this way: I know when I stop counting it will be because I’m trying to hide my insecurity or it will be a giant red flag that I’ve stopped caring.

If it’s insecurity that’s bothering you, get over it. Admitting the truth is the first step forward.

And if you’ve stopped caring—here’s the bigger question—why are you still leading?

How Do You Handle Numbers?

We all get owned by how we handle numbers, whether we pretend to care about them or not.

Idolizing big can be a thin mask for ego.

Idolizing small can be a thin mask for insecurity.

This is a really tricky conversation that owns most of us at some level.

How do you handle the fragile relationship we all have with numbers? What’s helping you?

This article originally appeared here.

10 Reasons Church Members Don’t Trust Pastors

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I’ve previously written about why pastors don’t trust other pastors. If that lack of trust weren’t tragic enough, the truth is that many laypersons don’t truly trust their own pastor. Based on my years of doing church consultation interviews, here are some reasons your church members may not trust you:

  1. They’ve been burned in the past. It takes only one pastor to wrongly share private information to cause church members to struggle ever trusting pastors again.
  2. They’ve at least heard too many bad stories about pastor betrayal. Listen long enough, and you’ll hear some church member talking about a pastor somewhere who broke a confidence.
  3. They don’t trust pastors in general. Refer to points #1 and #2 above. Even if you and I have never betrayed them, they can’t get beyond what some other pastor did.
  4. They don’t trust our spouse. If church members don’t trust our spouse, they won’t trust us, either. Talkative spouses cost pastors a lot.
  5. They fear being a sermon illustration (even anonymously). Once again, they’ve heard it happen somewhere, and they worry it will happen again. If they never tell a pastor anything private, though, they never run this risk.
  6. They’ve read something negative we put on social media. Maybe it was an off-color comment or curse word. Perhaps it was a veiled exposure of another church member’s issues. Whatever it was, they no longer trust us as spiritual leaders.
  7. They don’t really know us well enough to trust us. We might carry the title of “Pastor,” but they know us as only the Sunday morning preacher they never see again until the next week. They may want to trust us fully, but they’re not yet convinced of our integrity simply because they’ve spent little time with us.
  8. They’ve seen too many pastors fall—often publicly. They’ve learned that nobody—including us—is immune to the possibility of falling. Why, then, should a church member deeply trust leaders who could be off the scene quickly after a fall?
  9. Some grew up in, or around, pastors’ homes. That is to say, they saw too much to ever fully trust a pastor again. It’s tough to overcome our family of origin when that family borders on hypocrisy.
  10. They know that pastors come and go. Why open their heart to leaders who could already be looking for the next green grass?

Pastors, what other reasons would you add? Laypersons, what are we missing?

This article originally appeared here.

When Disaster Strikes, Is It Enough to Pray?

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One of the most-used phrases in our Christian communities is “I’ll pray for you” or “I’ll be praying for that.” I also believe one of the most-used lies we tell people in our Christian communities is “I’ll pray for you” or “I’ll be praying for that.”

Please understand: I’m not pointing the finger at anyone—rather you are witnessing me falling to my knees in repentance. It is so easy to say those words to someone or about something (natural disasters, cities in crisis, world problems, etc.) than to actually stop what I am doing to speak to the One that has the power to help in any situation or crisis.

When thinking about how I have abused those words just because I want to be kind to someone in a time of need, I have been a fool, neglecting a gift that was given to me by the death of a perfect King. His death effectively paved a highway of communication, linking me to the one true almighty God. In light of this reality, I need to stop using that phrase unless I intend to take action and actually PRAY.

But Is Prayer Enough?

Now that I have that off my chest, I want to ask an important question that has been swirling around in my heart and mind over the past couple of days: Is prayer enough in a time of disaster? Or should we as His church focus our efforts toward other methods of assistance?

The Holy Spirit reminded me of what the Apostle Paul said in 2 Corinthians 1:3-4: “Praise be to God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, The Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our affliction, so that we may be able to comfort those who are in any affliction, with the comfort with which we ourselves are comforted by God.” Brothers and sisters, God comforts us so that we may comfort others. Let me say that again: God comforts us, the Father and creator of real true comfort and compassion so that we can have the opportunity to comfort others in times of affliction.

So should we be doing more than just praying for Texas right now? Should we be donating our cup of coffee money today? Should we fast from our lunch today and donate that money? Those that are close in proximity, should we as the church find out how we can be the literal hands and feet of Jesus Christ to those in need? Not only meeting their physical needs but also proclaiming to them how Jesus has met our spiritual needs as well? Should you and your church plan a trip to Houston in the near future?

What You Can Do Today

These are just some super simple ideas, and I encourage you to pray (not just say it to someone or post on social media that you are or that we should) about what God wants you and your church to do in helping during this and any disaster or someone in crisis.

Ed Stetzer wrote a brilliant article about how best to help in times of crisis. His suggestions focus on helping organizations that are already equipped to help people in the most efficient ways. This kind of help—whether it is financial or volunteer work done under their umbrella—is often the best thing we can do. Organizations such as the North American Mission Board’s relief fund and the Red Cross are already on the ground in disaster areas. Additionally, you can donate money through iTunes to the Red Cross.

To put things in perspective, 5 million people spent $100 each to watch two men punch each other in the face this past Saturday. It was an event that lasted less than an hour. Let’s make sure as Christ-followers we are not only good stewards of our money but of our time as well. Let’s give it to those in need not just to our own entertainment.

7 Reasons Your Fall Group Launch Could Fail

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I wrote this post one Fall as a postmortem of a church’s group launch after a colossal failure. They ignored some fundamentals, allowed their communications department to take over the messaging, and the whole thing would have tanked except for an 11th hour appeal. Please take the following into consideration, so they next postmortem won’t be about your launch!

Fall is a prime season to launch groups in churches across the country. In my consulting work with hundreds of churches across North America, I am working with churches from Florida to Washington and Southern California to New Hampshire. Among churches of various sizes and denominations, we are seeing some tremendous results. But, not every church hits a home run with their group launch. Here are some reasons why.

  1. You picked the wrong topic.

Small groups are a great vehicle for people to grow spiritually. But, in order for people to grow in a group, they need to actually be in a group. If a church’s goal is to connect their congregation into groups, then a felt needs topic is very attractive. If you give people something they want to study, they will jump right in. If you offer something they “should” study, it may not go so well.

Let me go on the record: Healthy, balanced small groups cannot live by felt-needs topics alone. But, kicking off groups usually doesn’t go well with series on evangelism, stewardship, fasting or other self-sacrificial studies. You need to establish your goal. If you want to increase the number of groups, then go felt needs. If you want to grow your people deeper, then offer these topics to your established groups.

  1. You set the bar too high.

The more requirements for group leadership, the fewer leaders you will recruit. If you required all of your new leaders to be church members, complete a lengthy leadership training process, or graduate with their Master of Divinity, you certainly limited the number of groups you could launch this Fall.

Your level of acceptable risk will greatly determine the reward. If you invite people to do a study with their friends, then you are only limited to people with friends. If you increase the requirements, you lessen the impact.

If you choose to lower the bar next time, then lessen the risk by forming “unpublished” groups. If the groups don’t appear on your church’s website, group listing or bulletin, you are not implying any kind of official endorsement of the groups. If friends invite friends, you will form good, lasting groups, and if someone gets in a bad group, well, it was their friend’s group after all.

  1. You focused on recruiting group members.

As a pastor, if the invitation is for potential group members, you may or may not actually start groups. You will certainly give yourself a lot of busy work trying to find enough leaders to accommodate the prospects or trying to place people in the right group. But, you’ve missed the mark and the point.

If you have a bunch of prospective group members, you might have a group. If you have a leader, you WILL have a group. In fact, the best way to get into a group is to start a group—you’re automatically in! When the focus is on recruiting leaders, you will greatly increase your number of groups. If your focus is on members, you will probably just end up with a mess.

  1. You put too much distance between the invitation and the response.

When you or your senior pastor made the invitation for people to start a group, how and when did they respond?

If they were sent to the church website to register, they didn’t go.

If they were sent to the church lobby, they walked right by.

If they were invited to a meeting in the near future, they forgot.

If they had a sign up card in their hand during the service, bingo, they’re in!

If they were sent an email to remind them to sign up at church on Sunday, they forgot again.

If they were sent an email with a registration link, then they signed up.

The less distance between the invitation and the response, the greater the result.

  1. You gave too many steps from “Yes” to starting the group.

If the pathway from the response to the group starting took too many steps, then you lost leaders at every phase.

If you recruited months in advance of your group launch, there were too many days before they started. Cold feet and good intentions didn’t get them there.

If you required a training class, a membership  class, a pastoral interview, a group orientation, a group connection and a final debrief meeting, you lost, lost, lost, lost and lost new group leaders.

If you kept the steps to a minimum, based on your own acceptable level of risk, you kept far more than any of the above scenarios.

  1. Your recruitment period was too short.

A few years ago, I was working with two churches of similar size who were launching groups on the same week. One church recruited 20 new leaders. The other recruited 60. The first church recruited leaders for one week. The second church recruited for three weeks in a row. Triple the recruiting equaled triple the result. You do the math.

  1. Your senior pastor was not on board.

If your senior pastor was hesitant about your next series in any way, it hurt you. Half-hearted appeals and hit or miss invitations lead to lackluster results.

If your senior pastor didn’t make the invitation for leaders, that was a huge miss. The senior pastor will get three times the result of any other staff member. I’ve served as an associate pastor for 20 of my 24 years of ministry. As soon as I learned this, I never made the invitation again.

How do you get your senior pastor on board with the series you recommend? You don’t. If you want your group launch to succeed, you have to get on board with where your senior pastor wants to go. If you respect your senior pastor’s direction, you will see respectable results. If you try to pressure your senior pastor into a series that is not his idea, you are on your own (literally).

Last Sunday, I worshiped with a church who had never had small groups. Their senior pastor decided it was time. He cast vision for groups. He kept the response close to the invitation. He focused on recruiting leaders. He did it all right. Then, on Sunday afternoon, 360 new group leaders showed up for training (and they have two more weeks to recruit!)

Between January and May this year, we have helped 12 churches launch nearly 3,000 small groups. One church of 2,500 adults now has 500 small groups. Another church of 4,000 adults recruited 1,200 people to LEAD groups. A church in the Harrisburg, Pa., area has grown by 7.5 percent over last year, and giving has increased by 7 percent because of connecting people into groups. Big things are happening if you follow these principles.

Learn the lessons from your failed attempt. There is no shame in failure, but there is shame in not learning.

This article originally appeared here.

Here’s How Many Volunteers Your Ministry Needs

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Children’s ministry is made possible by volunteers. The success of your children’s ministry rises and falls on the strength of your volunteer team.

I am often asked how many volunteers should a ministry have? To operate at the optimal level, here’s how many volunteers you should have in the rooms or environments. This does not include greeters, check-in team, etc.

Infants – 1 volunteer for every 2 children (minimum—ideally 1 volunteer for every 1 child)

Crawlers – 1 volunteer for every 3 children

Toddlers – 1 volunteer for every 4 children

2-year-olds – 1 volunteer for every 4 children

3-year-olds – 1 volunteer for every 8 children

4-year-olds – 1 volunteer for every 8 children

5-year-olds thru 5th grade – 1 volunteer for every 10 children (minimum—ideally 1 volunteer for every 8 children)

Monitor your numbers carefully and strive to reach these ratios. The younger the children are, the more critical it is to meet these ratios for safety reasons. This should be a top priority. Parents who walk into a nursery that is not meeting these ratios are far less likely to return. Some churches even hire people to work in their nurseries to ensure ratios are met. I have never done this, but if you choose to do so, it is definitely money well invested.

The primary reason you want to have these ratios for older children is because of the relationship factor. These ratios help ensure that kids are personally known by a caring volunteer. When you get above these ratios it can turn into crowd control rather than discipleship happening.

If you aren’t currently at these ratios, don’t be discouraged. Keep building your team. You will always need more volunteers, especially if you are growing and reaching new families. You can also get key insight about building a dynamic volunteer team in my book The Formula for Building a Great Volunteer Team. In this book, I share the steps I took to build a volunteer of over 2,600 in a local church. You can get the book in paperback or ebook formats at this link.

Volunteers is one of, if not the most important, aspects of your ministry. Focus on it and you’ll see your ministry flourish.

This article originally appeared here.

Why We All Should Care More About Speaking in Tongues

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The subject of speaking in tongues is perhaps one of the most misunderstood and controversial topics found in the Bible—and it is not my intent to settle everything here, but to point to what every Christian should embrace.

Despite the theological debates surrounding the idea of “tongues,” everybody who loves Jesus must agree that we need more speaking in tongues. We should not let a debate about the gift of tongues keep us from pursuing people of all tongues.

Speaking in Tongues and the Bible

In Spiritual Warfare and Missions: The Battle for God’s Glory Among the Nations, Jerry Rankin and I discuss the tongues motif as one of the Bible’s greatest missed themes.

Between the tables of the nations and the genealogy of Shem to Abraham, we find the account of the Tower of Babel. Some of us remember this story from our days in Sunday school. However, let me show you anew how this one narrative fits into God’s larger plan in redemptive history for His glory. Remember that Genesis 11 indicates humanity was on a mission for their own power fueled by self-interest. At Babel, we see collected humanity reaching for the dominion of God in order to make their own name greatly known.

Come let us build ourselves a city and a tower with its top in the sky. Let us make a name for ourselves; otherwise we will be scattered over the face of the whole earth.

What men meant for evil, God used for good. Humanity wanted to achieve unity apart from God, but in his gracious wisdom, God stopped them by creating different languages and dispersed them across the planet. However, despite the scattering of the people groups according to language, God had a plan for unity amidst their diversity. Throughout the Old Testament, God clearly directed His children to gather people from all tongues, tribes and nations and bring them back to Jerusalem in order to praise to God. Did it ever happen? I believe so, but it happened through the work of Jesus Christ and His Spirit.

In the book of Acts, we see a fascinating account of the Holy Spirit descending and sending tongues of fire to rest on people so that they may give praise to God in all different languages. Don’t miss this, it all happens in Jerusalem. Moreover, at Pentecost, the people who were scattered at Babel were represented in Jerusalem. In fact, every nation under heaven was gathered and heard Peter proclaim the gospel of Jesus Christ. Picture Acts 2:5,9-11 in your mind:

There were Jews living in Jerusalem, devout men from every nation under heaven … Parthians, Medes, Elamites; those who live in Mesopotamia, in Judea and Cappadocia, Pontus and Asia, Phrygia and Pamphylia, Egypt and the parts of Libya near Cyrene; visitors from Rome, both Jews and proselytes, Cretans and Arabs—we hear them speaking the magnificent acts of God in our own languages.

What do we see here? Essentially, Acts 2 records the reversal of Babel. Instead of man reaching for the dominion of God, God comes to the dominion of man. In Babel, we see men grasping for unity apart from God through their own strength and for their own glory. At Pentecost, we see God bringing man together in unity for His glory through His gospel.

From Pentecost on, the mission of God’s people changes, as noted in Matthew 28. Rather than bring people to Jerusalem, a centripetal mission, God’s people are to go with the Holy Spirit. God’s people were to leave Jerusalem and spread His praise to the nations, a centrifugal mission. Again, this is unlike Babel where the people built upwards to avoid being scattered outward. Jesus comes downward and sends us out His people to every tongue, tribe and nation in order to proclaim the gospel to bring glory to God’s name.

Why Many of Our Churches Are Still One Color

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“What’s wrong with our church?”

It was a sincere question. The elder wanted to know why there seems to be a steady erosion of attendance, discipleship and evangelism at his church.

Then I showed him the demographics of the church’s community. Over 40 percent of the area was non-white and growing, but the church was above 95 percent white. My response was simple. “You are not connecting with your community. The ethnic and racial diversity of the community is not reflected in the church.”

This church is one of tens of thousands of congregations that are one color, one race or one group. Why? Why is this reality still taking place today? Let’s look at six reasons.

  1. Racism still exists. Racism has not gone away. The events of this weekend in Virginia remind us of that tragic reality. Some pastors are still fired because they encourage racial and ethnic diversity in their churches. Other forms of racism are more subtle, but no less toxic.
  2. There is no intentionality. Churches that are evangelistic have leaders and members who are intentional about reaching people for Christ. Churches that better reflect the ethnic and racial diversity of our world are more intentional about praying, seeking and acting upon their desire to reach people who may not look like them.
  3. The leadership of the church is not diverse. If the ministry staff and lay leadership do not reflect the diversity of the community, the church is sending a clear message. The diverse community cannot have a true voice in the church if it is not represented in the leadership of the church.
  4. Many church leaders and members do not know what takes place in their own communities. Many times when I have met with church leaders and shared the demographics and realities of the members of their community, they express total surprise at what is taking place. Their church is a bubble. Or to use another metaphor, the congregation is an island of sameness in a community of diversity.
  5. There is no planned effort to connect with the community. Sure, it’s helpful to have events on the church property for the community. But it’s even better to go to the community where they are. The “go” approach is much more meaningful and biblical than the “you come” approach.
  6. The current church members do not intentionally connect more deeply with the diverse members of the community. When I met with the leaders of one church, some of the leaders expressed frustration they were not connecting well with the diversity of the community where they were located. They told me that the community members were welcomed and received well when they came to a worship service. I then asked if they were ever invited to their small groups or to the church members’ homes. Silence. To their credit, they got it, and they are doing much better reflecting the community they serve today.

“After this I looked and there was a vast multitude from every nation, tribe, people and language, which no one could number, standing before the throne and before the Lamb. They were clothed in white robes with palm branches in their hands” (Revelation 7:9, CSB).

Such is the diversity of the Kingdom.

And so should be our churches.

This article originally appeared here.

3 Reasons We’re Addicted to Digital Distraction

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Yep, There’s an App for That

We check our smartphones about 81,500 times each year, or once every 4.3 minutes of our waking lives.1

The impulse is not hard to understand. Our lives are consolidated on our phones: our calendars, our cameras, our pictures, our work, our workouts, our reading, our writing, our credit cards, our maps, our news, our weather, our email, our shopping—all of it can be managed with state-of-the-art apps in powerful little devices we carry everywhere. Even the GPS app on my phone, which guided me to a new coffee shop today, possesses 30,000 times the processing speed of the 70-pound onboard navigational computer that guided Apollo 11 to the surface of the moon.

It’s no wonder we habitually grab our phones first thing in the morning, not only to turn off our alarms, but also to check email and social media in a half-conscious state of sleep inertia before our groggy eyes can fully open. If the ever-expanding universe is humankind’s final horizon outward, our phones take us on a limitless voyage inward, and we restart the journey early every morning.

I am no stranger to this instinctive phone grab, but I wanted to see if others shared this pattern, so I surveyed 8,000 Christians about social media routines.2 More than half of the respondents (54 percent) admitted to checking a smartphone within minutes of waking. When asked whether they were more likely to check email and social media before or after spiritual disciplines on a typical morning, 73 percent said before. This reality is especially concerning if the morning is when we prepare our hearts spiritually for the day.

Our phones are addictive, and, like addicts, we seek hits immediately in the morning. And, yes, there’s an app for that.

Why Distractions Lure Us

Unhealthy digital addictions flourish because we fail to see the consequences, so let’s begin our study by uncovering three reasons why we succumb to distractions so easily.

First, we use digital distractions to keep work away. Facebook is a way of escape from our vocational pressures. We procrastinate around hard things: work deadlines, tough conversations, laundry piles, and school projects and papers. The average American college student wastes 20 percent of class time tinkering on a digital device, doing things unrelated to class (a statistic that seems low to me!).3 When life becomes most demanding, we crave something else—anything else.

Second, we use digital distractions to keep people away. God has called us to love our neighbors, yet we turn to our phones to withdraw from our neighbors and to let everyone know we’d rather be somewhere else. In a meeting or a classroom, if my phone is put away, I am more likely to be perceived as engaged. If my phone is not in use, but is faceup on the table, I present myself as engaged for the moment, but possibly disengaged if someone more important outside the room needs me. And if my phone is in my hand, and I am responding to texts and scrolling social media, I project open dismissiveness, because “dividing attention is a typical expression of disdain.”4

In the digital age, we are especially slow to “associate with the lowly” around us (Rom. 12:16). Instead, we retreat into our phones—projecting our scorn for complex situations or for boring people. In both cases, when we grab our phones, we air our sense of superiority to others—often without knowing it.

Third, we use digital distractions to keep thoughts of eternity away. Perhaps most subtly, we find it easy to fall into the trap of digital distractions because, in the most alluring new apps, we find a welcome escape from our truest, rawest and most honest self-perceptions. This was the insight of 17-century Christian, mathematician and proverb-making sage Blaise Pascal. When observing distracted souls of his own day (not unlike those of our time), he noticed that if you “take away their diversion, you will see them dried up with weariness,” because it is to be ushered into unhappiness “as soon as we are reduced to thinking of self, and have no diversion.”5 Pascal’s point is a perennial fact: The human appetite for distraction is high in every age, because distractions give us easy escape from the silence and solitude whereby we become acquainted with our finitude, our inescapable mortality, and the distance of God from all our desires, hopes and pleasures.

The Pascal of our generation puts it this way: “We run away like conscientious little bugs, scared rabbits, dancing attendance on our machines, our slaves, our masters”—clicking, scrolling, tapping, liking, sharing…anything. “We think we want peace and silence and freedom and leisure, but deep down we know that this would be unendurable to us.” In fact, “we want to complexify our lives. We don’t have to, we want to. We want to be harried and hassled and busy. Unconsciously, we want the very thing we complain about. For if we had leisure, we would look at ourselves and listen to our hearts and see the great gaping hole in our hearts and be terrified, because that hole is so big that nothing but God can fill it.”6

Uncomfortably Close to Eternity

To numb the sting of this emptiness, we turn to the “new and powerful antidepressants of a non-pharmaceutical variety”—our smartphones.7 But even as we seek escape in social media, death follows us and haunts those digital diversions in new ways. “I love the fun and frivolity of much of Twitter. The GIFs. The jokes. The nested conversations,” admits one honest writer. “The reality is, though, deep down there’s part of me that’s scared that if I’m out of sight, I’ll be out of mind, and I won’t matter anymore. In a sense, this is one dimension of the looming fear of death that most of us in contemporary American society never want to wrestle with or name anymore.”8 No, we don’t. All of us find ourselves uncomfortably close to passing into the mystery of eternity, leaving this place, and being forgotten in the only home we’ve ever known. So every day we jump back into the hamster wheel of our digital conversations and muffle the reality.

The philosophical maxim, “I think, therefore I am,”9 has been replaced with a digital motto, “I connect, therefore I am,”10 leading to a status desire: “I am ‘liked,’ therefore I am.”11 But our digital connections and ticks of approval are flickering pixels that cannot ground the meaning of our lives. And yet, I seek to satisfy this desire every time I cozy up to the Facebook barstool, to be where every friend knows my name, where my presence can be affirmed and reaffirmed at virtual points throughout the day. I want anything to break the silence that makes me feel the weight of my mortality.

So here’s an exercise to help ground our self-perception. Once a day, set your phone down for a moment, hold out your right hand, palm out and fingers to the sky, and imagine the timeline of history reaching a mile to your left and an eternity to your right. Your time on earth intersects roughly the width of your hand (give or take).12 Nothing puts social media and smartphone habits into context like the blunt reality of our mortality.

Let it sink in a bit. Feel the brevity of life, and it will make you fully alive.13

Notes
1. Jacob Weisberg, “We Are Hopelessly Hooked,” The New York Review of Books (Feb. 25, 2016).
2. This was a nonscientific survey of desiringGod.org readers conducted online via social-media channels (April 2015).
3. Leslie Reed, “Digital Distraction in Class Is on the Rise,” Nebraska Today, news.unl.edu (Jan. 15, 2016).
4. Oliver O’Donovan, Finding and Seeking: Ethics as Theology (Grand Rapids, MI: Eerdmans, 2014), 45.
5. Blaise Pascal, Thoughts, Letters, and Minor Works, ed. Charles W. Eliot, trans. W. F. Trotter, M. L. Booth, and O. W. Wight (New York: P. F. Collier & Son, 1910), 63.
6. Peter Kreeft, Christianity for Modern Pagans: Pascal’s Pensées Edited, Outlined, and Explained (San Francisco: Ignatius, 1993), 168–69.
7. Andrew Sullivan, “I Used to Be a Human Being,” New York magazine (Sept. 18, 2016).
8. Derek Rishmawy, “Forget Me Not (Twitter and the Fear of Death),” Reformedish, derekzrishmawy.com (April 6, 2016).
9. René Descartes, The Philosophical Works of Descarte, trans. E. S. Haldane and G. R. T. Ross (New York: Cambridge University Press, 1970), 101.
10. Kevin Vanhoozer, interview with the author via email (Feb. 26, 2016).
11. Donna Freitas, The Happiness Effect: How Social Media Is Driving a Generation to Appear Perfect at Any Cost (New York: Oxford University Press, 2017), 33.
12. Ps. 39:4–5.
13. Ps. 90:12.

Be sure to take a look at Crossway’s phone usage infographic for more statistics related to the many ways our phones are changing us—for better and for worse.

Blog originally published on Crossway.org; Material adapted from 12 Ways Your Phone is Changing You by Tony Reinke, © 2017. Used by permission of Crossway, a publishing ministry of Good News Publishers, Wheaton, IL 60187, www.crossway.org.

12 Principles on How to Disagree with Other Christians

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The consciences of Christians are remarkably similar, since we all have the same Word and the same Spirit. But on the edges of conscience, God has always allowed Christians a surprising degree of latitude in personal scruples. Paul didn’t command the stricter Christians of Romans 14 to get with the program and start eating meat as Jesus allowed. Nor did he command the meat-eaters to end their carnivorous ways on the outside chance they might upset the vegetarians. He expected them to get along until Jesus returned. (We use weak and strong in reference to the faith or the confidence of one’s conscience to engage in a particular activity [cf Rom. 14:22], not in reference to the strength or the weakness of one’s saving faith.)

But human nature being what it is, the stricter group was always tempted to judge those they saw as too free (“And they call themselves Christians!”), while the free group tended to look down on those with unnecessary restrictions (“those poor legalists!”). Fortunately, Paul condemned both attitudes.

But disunity isn’t the only danger. Arrogance and overconfidence among the strong made them ripe for a kind of sin-all-you-want heresy called antinomianism. Meanwhile, the judgmentalism of the stricter believers tended to push them into the legalistic heresy of the Judaizers.

None of these four attitudes on conscience disagreements pleased God; in fact, two of them were outright heretical:

Satan had his axe poised to take advantage of this natural split. What would be Paul’s glue to go into that gap and hold these churches together in the midst of conscience disputes? It would be the glue of Christian love as articulated in Romans 14 and 1 Corinthians 8–10. The chart below inserts Paul’s threefold solution of love into the growing split that threatened the early churches. Take time to look carefully at Paul’s solution of love that leads to unity:

The three center columns are derived mainly from Paul’s brilliant, Spirit-inspired analysis of conscience disagreements in Romans 14 and 15. In these two chapters, Paul offers 12 principles to ensure the strict consciences of the weak would be respected, while still allowing for the legitimate freedoms of the strong.

Here they are.

1. Welcome those who disagree with you (Rom. 14:1–2).
“As for the one who is weak in faith, welcome him, but not to quarrel over opinions [NIV: “without quarreling over disputable matters”]. One person believes he may eat anything, while the weak person eats only vegetables.”

By now you’ve probably already put yourself into a “strong conscience” or “weak conscience” box. But the fact is, in most issues, you’re probably both weak and strong at the same time in comparison to others. There are almost always people to your left and right on any given disputable matter. This means that, depending on the situation, God will call you to obey Paul’s exhortations both to the weak and to the strong.

2. Those who have freedom of conscience must not look down on those who don’t (Rom. 14:3–4).

“Let not the one who eats despise [NIV: “treat with contempt”] the one who abstains, and let not the one who abstains pass judgment on [i.e., be judgmental toward] the one who eats, for God has welcomed him. Who are you to pass judgment on the servant of another? It is before his own master that he stands or falls. And he will be upheld, for the Lord is able to make him stand.”

Isn’t this always the temptation of the strong, to look down on and despise the strict “legalists”? Paul condemns this attitude of superiority.

3. Those whose conscience restricts them must not be judgmental toward those who have freedom (Rom. 14:3–4).

And isn’t this always the temptation of those with a weaker conscience on a particular issue, to pass judgment on those “antinomians”?

Why are these attitudes so wrong? Paul gives two reasons:

1. “God has welcomed him” (14:3c). Are you holier than God?

2. “Who are you to pass judgment on the servant of another?” (14:4a). You are not the master of other believers.

We’re not saying these third-level issues are unimportant. It’s okay to talk about them, and even preach about them. It’s okay to tweet and blog about them. But with at least two conditions: Have the right spirit, and have the right proportion.

Should Christians Give Up on President Trump?

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I was recently involved in a heated conversation on Facebook between Christians who are angry with President Trump and those who defend him.  Most of us have heard, or taken part in, similar conversations.  As I have reflected on and prayed about what is going on in America, I have one point and two questions.

First, my point. We get the government we deserve.  The Church is called to be “salt and light” in any and every culture in which we find ourselves. If we have ineffective government and anger within our nation, we must first look at ourselves, the Church, the body of Christ.  The Church is not the barometer of our nation, measuring the spiritual climate. Rather, the Church is the thermostat, guiding the “spirit” of our nation.  In my more than twenty-five years of working in national Christian ministries, I have not seen the Church as fractured as it is today.

The Church must lead the nation by doing away with the pointing finger and the malicious talk (Isaiah 58:9). We, the Church, must stop fighting for our particular point of view or position. We have to tone down the conversation. The Church should model respectful and loving discussion, especially about polarizing political issues. We must stop fighting for our opinions to win, and start promoting God’s opinion. To know God’s opinion, we have to ask Him. We cannot presume to know God’s heart before we ask Him.

As I have asked God about the strife I see in and out of the Church, I think of two questions to ask every Christian involved in these debates.

Question #1:  Is God powerful enough to direct President Trump?  If you or your friends have given up on President Trump, this is the question for you.   Scripture provides a clear answer: “The king’s heart is like channels of water in the hand of the LORD; He turns it wherever He wishes.” (Proverbs 21:1 NAS).  There is no ruler, king, dictator, or president outside of the hand of God.  God’s sovereignty reigns. So when we have a problem with President Trump, let’s understand that his authority comes from God. Let’s not “give up” on President Trump, let’s go to God about him. This leads to my second question.

Question #2:  Do the Scriptures command us to pray for our President?  The answer is clearly yes: “I urge, then, first of all, that petitions, prayers, intercession and thanksgiving be made for all people— for kings and all those in authority, that we may live peaceful and quiet lives in all godliness and holiness. This is good, and pleases God our Savior, who wants all people to be saved and to come to a knowledge of the truth.” (1 Timothy 2:1-4 NIV)  Paul urges us to pray for our leaders because our prayers make a difference.  Our prayers are the primary way we can affect our culture and be “salt and light.”  God invites us to shape history with him through prayer and intercession.

Our ministry supports a network of tens of thousands of intercessors. We know that there is no neutrality in spiritual issues. We are either working with God’s will or against it.  I urge us all to obey God’s command to pray for our President—choosing to have faith in God to achieve His will through the President, whoever he is. When instead we choose prayerlessness, malicious talk, and pointing the finger, we cooperate with the adversary, rather than God.

These are critical times, with much at stake. The Church must be united in fervent prayer for our nation and its leader.

Redeeming the Time: Prisoners Earn Pastoral Ministry Degree

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On Monday, August 21, 2017, Nash Correctional Institution in North Carolina held a convocation service for about 30 prisoners who have committed to pursuing a bachelor’s degree in pastoral ministry with an emphasis in counseling and psychology. After graduating from the program, these students will use their training to counsel and minister to other inmates.

“It’s a way for them to make their lives count for something,” says Seth Bible, staff member at nearby Southeastern Baptist Theological Seminary and leader of the North Carolina Field Ministry Program.

The program, which has been featured in the local news, is made possible through a partnership between the seminary, the North Carolina Department of Public Safety (NCDPS), and Game Plan for Life. Game Plan for Life is a non-profit organization founded by Joe Gibbs, the former head coach of the Washington Redskins and owner of a NASCAR racing based in Mooresville, North Carolina.

Gibbs is footing the financial bill for getting the program started. Eventually, those involved hope to establish an endowment to keep the program running into the future. For now, the plans are to admit 30 students a year for the first four years. Upon graduating from the program, students will be dubbed “NCDPS Field Ministers” and will be appointed to ministry positions within prisons throughout North Carolina.

Requirements for Admission

Inmates who are selected for the program must have a significant sentence still ahead of them (15 years or more until release).

A statement announcing the new program explains that while it is “grounded in a Christian worldview,” “admission will be open to people of all faiths.” The class of 2021 includes Catholics, Protestants, Muslims, Rastafarians, and others, Bible tells The News & Observer.

Other requirements state prisoners must meet include: Have a high school diploma or GED; be in the regular prison population, not be sexual offenders or sexual victims; be at least 21 years old; and not have had a prison infraction in the 12 months prior to their application date.

Bible says he did not ask applicants what got them in prison. Instead, Bible wanted admission “to be based on their conduct and their character since they were incarcerated rather than what they did to get there.”

Logistics

Nash Correctional Institution’s location makes it a great fit to host the program due to its close proximity to the Wake Forest campus of Southeastern Baptist Theological Seminary.

Instructors will travel to the prison four days a week to teach classes on history, English literature, composition, communication, Biblical Hebrew and Greek, algebra, Christian theology, psychology, ethics, and counseling and ministry. The program mirrors another program for students offered at the Wake Forest campus. In total, students are required to complete 126 course hours.

According to the seminary’s website, the program is designed to equip graduates in the following ways:

Students will cultivate a heart of service towards fellow inmates.
Students will be able to plan and design various worship services.
Students will learn how to read and apply the Bible.
Students will formulate a philosophy of pastoral ministry.

The program is unique to other prison ministry programs, which work from the outside in. As Bible explains, “essentially you’re making a difference from the inside out.”

Bible sees the potential in the inmates selected for this first year of the program. “These guys want to make their time in prison count for something that is bigger than themselves. Something that will last beyond their time in prison,” he concludes.

The program seems to echo other thoughts on the need for prison reform that evangelicals and others have been calling for.

10 Lessons I Have Learned After Writing Exactly 1,000 Blog Posts

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Yay! I’ve now written 1,000 blog posts. Since most of my posts average 550 words, I’ve written approximately 550,000 words. It is hard to believe I’ve written that much content over the years, and I’m so grateful to God for His favor to allow this.

Here are 10 lessons I’ve learned after writing 1,000 blog posts:

  1. Consistency is the number one key to building an online audience.

You could write with the skill of John Grisham, but if you’re inconsistent, it won’t matter. Posting the same amount of times, the same days of the week, allows you to build trust with your audience.

2. Batching blog posts is the biggest key to consistency.

I’ve written about this in more depth here. If you write several posts at one time, then schedule them to release at your designated times, you will save time and stay in your workflow.

  1. The blogosphere has gotten very muddy, and video is the future.

If you’re thinking about blogging, keep in mind the Internet is shifting further and further into video. Follow the attention of the people and go there.

  1. Patience is the most important trait in being a writer.

It takes time to build an audience online. A long time. Podcasting audiences take even longer to build than blog audiences.

  1. Even if you watch your motives as closely as possible, people will accuse you of self-promotion.

This is just part of it. I’ve been accused of it, and every friend of mine who blogs consistently is accused of the same thing. Sure, I’ve been guilty of it at times. Just beware that if you start blogging consistently, your antagonizers will immediately jump to this line of attack.

  1. Once you start using a content calendar, you’ll write more quickly.

When you don’t have to think through your topic of writing, you can more easily jump into content development.

  1. There is a weird tension when your blog starts to take off.

I’m sure this is true in other fields, but as a pastor, with people start reading your content, and then you’re trying to focus on leading your flock, there are some people who may feel you should ditch the online ministry to focus more on the church. That’s why it is important to develop your content during non-work hours. That’s what I do, and it removes much of the tension.

  1. You will, likely, write something you regret.

After having written approximately 550,000 words, I’ve inevitably written things I wish I could take back. There are times I’ve been rude and/or inconsiderate. Now, more than ever, I look at my content and make sure I realize that what I’m posting is for the whole world to consume. When you mess up, apologize, delete or edit the post, then move on from it.

  1. You can legitimately reach the world via something as simple as consistently writing blog posts.

Out of 195 countries in the world, 165 of them have been on my website in the last 21 months. I’ve shared the truth of Jesus to nearly the entire world via a keyboard. If you write consistently enough, you truly can reach the world. I believe the next global revival is on the verge of taking place as a result of the boom of the Internet.

  1. When you blog, if you want to be a person of influence, pick your niche and stay in your lane.

I see a lot of people try to enter the discipline of blogging, but fall away because they lose focus of their site. As a result, they shoot off in dozens of directions and end up quitting.

Blogging is one of the best things I’ve decided to do in my ministry. Praise God for the opportunity!

Do you have any thoughts or questions about blogging?

This article originally appeared here.

Stop Recruiting Group Leaders

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Stop recruiting group leaders. Am I crazy?

If we stop recruiting group leaders, then where will they come from then? From within a group? Maybe. Will they just line up my door and demand to lead? Probably not. Will they just appear from outer space? Definitely not.

In our efforts to connect everyone into groups we forget one basic thing—everyone is already in a group. (That’s the premise of my book, Exponential Groups). People are in groups called families or friends or neighbors or coworkers or some combination of those. If our church members would gather these groups for a Bible study, then they are group leaders. As Steve Gladen says, “Leaders have followers.”

Unfortunately these leaders don’t spontaneously appear. They need a little help. They need a little incentive. This is where our Senior Pastors comes in. If we would give the same words we might say to our Senior Pastors, we would have triple the result. How do I know that?

Well, after recruiting group leaders myself for seven years, we managed to connect 30 percent of our adults into groups. When my Senior Pastor recruited leaders, we doubled our groups, then we tripled them. I haven’t personally recruited a group leader since 2004! (And, I served a whole other church since then).

But, how do we get our Senior Pastors interested in recruiting groups? Read more here.

Often our focus in the Fall is to connect as many people in groups as possible. We do a big church-wide campaign with the goal of getting 100 percent or more connected into groups. In order to have groups we have to have leaders. In order to have groups we have to have members. So we focus all of our energy on recruiting leaders and connecting people into groups. Then after the six-week campaign is over we find that we have very little to show for it. We work so hard to connect all these people into groups, only to see groups just as easily fall apart.

Stop recruiting group leaders. Spend your time and energy on something that will actually help your groups and leaders last. Namely coaches and training. If you put the same amount of effort into coaching and training as we used to put into recruiting leaders and forming groups, you will keep far more groups for the long term.

This article originally appeared here.

Your Inner Pharisee

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The Pharisees are boogeymen among evangelicals, and as such, it is hard to conceive that we ourselves might be Pharisees. They are other people—bad people, legalists, judgmentalists, those who attack Christ and defend fake, hypocritical religion. “Hypocrites” is the most important descriptor. Pharisees act as if they are righteous; while they “strain out a gnat” of sin, they “swallow a camel” of evil (Matt. 23:24). They travel over land and sea to win a single convert, only to make him twice a son of hell as before (Matt. 23:15).

Surely, we are not them.

In a strict historical sense, Christians are not Pharisees. Pharisaic religion rejected Jesus as the Christ, and therefore when someone worships him as God’s Son, he is no longer a Pharisee.

But is there an essence of Pharisaism alive today, even active within creeds that embrace the divinity of Jesus, the doctrines of grace and Trinitarian orthodoxy? If we leave aside the doctrinal and historical elements of Pharisaism, the following six areas of examination might expose our own inner Pharisee.

1. Our Prayers

Are our prayers, even if explicitly God-honoring, implicity self-exalting (Luke 18.9–11″ data-version=”esv” data-purpose=”bible-reference”>Luke 18:9–11; Matt. 6:5)? For instance, do we pray to sound impressive to those who hear us?

2. Our Preaching

Is our preaching more concerned with preserving human tradition than proclaiming God’s disturbing Word (Mark 7:8)? For example, do we appeal beyond what the text warrants in order to guard our particular ecclesiological tradition or personal doctrinal preference?

3. Our Practice

Do we fail to practice what we preach, such that our hearers had better follow what we say but not what we do (Matt. 23:3)? For instance, could someone observe us on Saturday night as much as on Sunday morning and imitate both to their own edification?

4. Our Judgments

Do we judge on appearances rather than on truth and character in order to avoid being challenged by those outside our “tribe” (John 8:52)? For example, are we less likely to accept what someone is preaching if he wears the wrong clothes, speaks with the wrong accent or comes from the wrong seminary?

5. Our Conclusions

Do we reject God’s supernatural gospel work such that we’re blind to the obvious conclusion that he is at work (John 9:34)? For instance, are we unwilling to accept the conversion of someone from the “wrong side of the tracks,” even if all evidence points to a work of God?

6. Our Motives

Are we willing to use unrighteous means for what we think is a righteous end (John 18.2–3″ data-version=”esv” data-purpose=”bible-reference”>John 18:2–3)? For instance, are we willing to play the manipulative politician—lying, threatening, bargaining, deceiving—to gain an apparent spiritual victory in our denomination or church?

At its heart, Pharisaism rejects God’s inner work in favor of external appearances (Matt. 23:25). The Pharisees refused to worship Jesus as the Christ—with some glorious exceptions (Paul, of course; see also John 3.1–15″ data-version=”esv” data-purpose=”bible-reference”>John 3:1–15; John 19.39–42″ data-version=”esv” data-purpose=”bible-reference”>19:39–42)—because he didn’t fit their idea of a Messiah, and he threatened their religious power (Matt. 12:1–14).

In the end, the Pharisees were even willing to support murder to accomplish their desires. May God keep us focused on the Lord Jesus, and may he enable us to embrace the Spirit’s work in our lives.


Editors’ note: This article is inspired by Josh Moody’s new book, John 1–12 for You (The Good Book Co.)

This article originally appeared here.

Chucking Seeds, Training Farmers and Building Greenhouses

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A farmer went out to sow his seed…”  Luke 8:5

For decades youth leaders have been like farmers. They chuck the seeds of the Gospel in youth group, during outreach meetings and at camps, retreats and mission trips. This is the way it has been since youth ministry sprung into being.

And praise God for youth leader/farmers who have faithfully sown Gospel seeds all these years. Millions have come to Christ as a result!

But there is a better way.

It’s not a newer way but the ancient way. It’s the way Jesus trained his disciples. And it is powerfully demonstrated in the first few verses of Luke 8, 9 and 10.

In Luke 8:1 Jesus was the primary seed chucker and the 12 watched him sow Gospel seeds from village to village: “After this, Jesus traveled about from one town and village to another, proclaiming the good news of the kingdom of God. The Twelve were with him…

In Luke 9:1,2 the disciples were the primary seed chuckers and Jesus watched them sow: When Jesus had called the Twelve together, he gave them power and authority to drive out all demons and to cure diseases, and he sent them out to proclaim the kingdom of God and to heal the sick.

In Luke 10:1, 72 other disciples were the primary seed chuckers and Jesus and the12 apostles were, most likely, watching, coaching and encouraging them as they did: “After this the Lord appointed seventy-two others and sent them two by two ahead of him to every town and place where he was about to go.”

It started in Luke 8 with Jesus doing the primary work of evangelism. Soon the primary outreach work had transferred to his closest disciples. And soon after that his followers were training other disciples. 

Jesus had moved from just chucking seeds to training farmers (the 12), and soon he was building greenhouses (building a ministry model that multiplied both seeds and seed chuckers.)

Let me ask a simple youth ministry question, are you stuck as the primary Gospel seed chucker in your youth ministry? If your primary outreach strategy depends on you giving the Gospel during outreach meetings then you are stuck in Luke 8:1

Don’t get me wrong, it’s good to give the Gospel (and not just at outreach meetings but in other meetings as well!). After all, Jesus didn’t stop giving the Gospel after Luke 8. He still preached the Good News, but his primary strategy moved from him (chucking seeds) to them (disciples chucking seeds) to it (building a greenhouse ministry that naturally multiplied seeds and seed chuckers, i.e., the 72).

How can you make the transition from being the only seed chucker to being a farm club for farmers and a greenhouse builder? Here are three keys:

1.  Make sure you are modeling how to live out evangelism in front of your teenagers.

Jesus lived on mission and his disciples saw it. From engaging the woman at the well (John 4:4-42), Jesus was always ready to engage in a Gospel conversation. And his disciples watched him do this again and again and again.

Are you exemplifying what it means to live a life on mission for Jesus? Are you living out a lifestyle of evangelism that your teenagers see and can model? Like Jesus said in Luke 6:40, “No student is above their teacher but everyone who is fully trained will be like their teacher.

For help in sharing your faith check out this four-minute video we put together at Dare 2 Share to give you a crash course in effective evangelism:

2.  Inspire, equip and unleash your teenagers to share the Gospel.

Just like Jesus sent his “youth group” on mission, we must do the same. We must inspire them to share the Good News of Jesus. Then we need to equip them how to share it in a clear and effective way. And, finally, we must unleash them to do it!

This is where many seed chucking classes often fail. If we teach them how to share the Gospel but never actually take them out to chuck seeds, they never really learn. Another way to put it is inspiration plus information minus activation equals frustration.

A super simple way to get your teenagers activated in evangelism is Dare 2 Share Live coming up on September 23. On this powerful day of outreach we will inspire teenagers to chuck Gospel seeds, train them how and then unleash them to do some actual sowing! Find the closest host site near you and bring your teenagers to get activated as seed chuckers along with tens of thousands of other teenagers across the nation!

Recruiting That Really Works

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If you talk to most KidMin pastors, they will tell you that recruiting volunteers is the most stressful part of their job.

Part of the reason for the stress is that many kids’ pastors spend much of their time on things that don’t work.

First of all, let’s talk about what doesn’t work.

• Bulletin announcements don’t work.

• Pulpit announcements don’t work.

• Guilt doesn’t work.

• Begging doesn’t work either.

What does work?

This is what the Holy Spirit said to me early in my ministry:

“Never beg for workers. Let people experience the anointing that is on the kids’ ministry, and let Me draw them to you.”

There is a calling or an anointing for kids’ ministry. The call comes from the Father. You are not the only one in your church that is called.

There are others; they just don’t know it yet. The key is to leverage opportunities for the entire congregation to experience what you experience every Sunday—the love of the Father for the kids in your class. One of the challenges in recruiting for kids’ ministry is that it is a hidden ministry. People don’t know how good it is. Your job is to make the kids’ ministry more visible.

The absolute best way to make kids’ ministry more visible is to ask your pastor to minister for one service on a Sunday morning.

If he says yes, you can do one of two things:

• A live kids’ service in big church

• Preach and cast vision for the kids’ ministry

People respond to vision, and people respond to passion. When I asked my pastor for a Sunday-morning service, he said yes, but then he looked at me and said, “It better be good.”

The bottom line is if you get a service in the sanctuary, it better be good.

If it’s not good, it will have the reverse effect:

• Volunteers will stay away.

• You may not get another chance.

• You will be communicating a negative experience to your pastor.

How do you make it good?

• Be prepared.

• Practice hard.

• Trust the Holy Spirit.

• Work like it all depends on you, and pray like it all depends on God.

If your pastor says no, then ask for five minutes on a Sunday morning or perhaps during a Wednesday-night service.

If the five minutes go well, it builds trust. He might give you the whole service next time.

Ask people to get involved.

Another productive way to recruit people is to simply ask them face-to-face to help. It’s ironic, but volunteers rarely just volunteer. Most people need to be asked one-on-one.

I go after the new parents that just started attending for three or four weeks.

This is how I ask them: “I’ve noticed that your kids are great kids. They are well-behaved and participate in service. I can tell that you are the kind of parents that I want to teach other people’s kids.”

Ask people to help with VBS or kids’ camp.

Many people do not want to make a long-term commitment, but they will get involved with something, like camp, VBS or a lock in.

This gives them an opportunity to experience how fun children’s ministry is.

This gives you an opportunity to build a relationship during the week.

After the event is over, ask them to volunteer in kids’ ministry.

I always get new volunteers for kids’ ministry from these special events.

Click here for a free checklist of things you should do once you get new volunteers.

This article originally appeared here.

Four Questions You Should Ask Every Time You Read the Bible

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When it comes to reading the Bible, asking good questions is essential. In a very real sense the quality of the questions you ask determines what you get out of the text and your ability to apply it to your life. But we need to make sure we are asking the right kinds of questions.

So what kind of questions is the Bible intended to answer? The Bible is first and foremost a story about God displaying his glory through the creation and redemption of humanity. It makes sense, then, that the Bible is designed to answer questions connected to this central theme. Jesus confirms this dual focus on God and humanity. When asked what the greatest commandment was, he replied, “You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind” (Matt 22:37). But Jesus wasn’t done. He continued, “And a second is like it: You shall love your neighbor as yourself” (Matt 22:39). Love God. Love others. This is the heart of what God wants from his people.

The challenge, then, is to ask questions that help us see these realities when we read the Bible. If that seems overwhelming, don’t worry! By asking four foundational questions, we can make sure we are asking the kind of questions that God designed the Bible to answer.

What Do We Learn About God?

God is the main character of the Bible, the hero of the story. So it makes sense that the first question we ask is what we learn about him. Scripture reveals who God is in at least three different ways.

First, it shows us God’s character, or his attributes. Sometimes the Bible states these directly (Rev 4:8), while at other times you have to infer it from the passage (1 Kgs 22:1–40).

Second, Scripture reveals who God is by showing us his conduct. In other words, we see God doing things in a passage that show us who he is. Take, for example, Psalm 23, which lists several things that God does for his people as our shepherd: leads, restores, comforts, prepares, anoints.

Third, the Bible reveals who God is by showing us his concerns. In passages like Exodus 22:21–24 God commands his people not to mistreat the sojourner, the widow or the orphan. God makes it clear that he values and protects the marginalized, and expects his people to do the same.

As you look for what a passage teaches about God, be sure to pay attention to all three persons of the Trinity. Sometimes a passage will even specifically mention all three persons (Matt 28:18–20; 2 Cor 13:14).

What Do We Learn About People?

As the pinnacle of God’s creation, human beings are at the center of God’s purposes for creation. The Bible has a lot to say about people. So when it comes to learning what a passage teaches us about humanity, we can approach that from three different angles.

The first angle is looking in the text for aspects of what it means to be created in the image of God. What longings or desires does the passage reveal that are expressions of being made in the image of God? A good example is Hannah, the barren wife of Elkanah, who longed to have a child (1 Sam 1:1–20).

Of course, sin regularly distorts our God-given desires and twists them in sinful directions and expressions. So the second angle to discover what a passage reveals about humanity is to look for the fallen condition(s) it exposes. The fallen condition is the sinful beliefs, attitudes, feelings, actions or tendencies mentioned or implied in the text. In some passages the fallen condition is impossible to miss. Take, for example, Proverbs 6:16–19, which explicitly lists “six things that the LORD hates, seven that are an abomination to him.” Other times, however, you may have to read between the lines to discover the fallen condition.

The third angle to get at what a passage reveals about humanity is to look for what our lives should look like as redeemed people. In Acts 2:42–47 Luke describes how the earliest believers lived out their faith in Jesus. This snapshot helps us see how the gospel transforms people to live as redeemed individuals as well as a redeemed community.

When the Preaching Is Bad

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What are we to do when we find the preaching to be deficient in the local church to which we belong? For some church members, that is a relatively easy question to answer—just leave! After all, many people will leave churches for all sorts of other illegitimate reasons: musical preference, children’s ministry, social expectations, etc. For others, this is an exceedingly difficult question to answer. There are godly men and women who find themselves torn over whether or not they should leave a church—even when they know that they are not being adequately fed by the ministry of the word. Add to this the fact that many will leave their spouses, change jobs and move to another country before leaving a church that they have belonged to for several decades. Affinity and investment often clouds objectivity. The difficultly of determining when to leave a church can also be due to the fact that the Scriptures do not seem to give us much by way of a clear answer to this question. After all, Jesus rebuked almost all of the seven churches in the book of Revelation for serious spiritual—and, at times, even doctrinal—errors, without telling the members of those particular local churches to leave them at that precise moment. These factors make it quite difficult for someone to give another person a definite and objective answer to the question. So, we are left to ask, “Are there any guiding principles to help someone in a situation in which he or she knows that the preaching at their church is deficient?”

In his book Be Careful How You Listen, Jay Adams gives us one of the most helpful treatments of this subject. Adams gives several categories by which believers can assess what is deficient in the preaching. For instance, we must first seek to distinguish between “seeming heresy” and “heresy” in the preaching. In order to do this, Adams suggests that concerned individuals go to the pastor and say something along the following lines:

“Pastor, we may have misunderstood, but here is what we think you have been saying. Please tell us if we are wrong; we are deeply concerned about this. We have come to you first; we haven’t made our concerns known to anyone else in the congregation.”

When individuals take this first course of action, the minister has an opportunity to respond. He might respond by “commending them for their honesty and prudence and will listen carefully to them.” This might be all that was needed for the minister to “make an effort to be clearer in his preaching.” If we fail to take this first course of action “none of these good things would happen.” When we fail to do things in this proper way, we take away an opportunity for clarity and growth.

However, if someone has gone through this first step and is ignored by the pastor—or comes to realize that the minister is truly preaching heretical doctrine (we have to know how to properly identify heresy if we are going to draw such a serious conclusion)—he or she should not immediately leave the church. Such individuals have a responsibility to go through the proper channels of accountability in order to bring about change. “They must,” Jay insists, “speak to the elders (or other board members, depending on the kind of church it may be) about the problem. They have a responsibility to the congregation and to the Lord that they cannot discharge by leaving the church.”

If a church member has followed the first two steps, and finds himself or herself getting nowhere, one final course of action may be taken:

“If the church belongs to a denomination, it may be possible to appeal to a high body (a Presbytery, convention, etc.). This may take time and it will require patience…but they are responsible to take every action possible to restore the ministry of this church… If the church is independent, they must attempt to rally as many of the members as possible to bring about a change in the situation… They will be vilified all along the way by some; but if they persist in a proper, humble, helpful manner—not returning evil for evil, but overcoming evil with good (Rom. 12:21)—keeping Christ’s honor and His church’s welfare always uppermost in their minds, they will proceed rightly.”

If these courses of action are followed in love, humility and patience, and no change occurs in the doctrine that is promulgated from the pulpit, such individuals “must finally leave the church and…unite with a church in which the Gospel is preached and the Lord’s word is held inerrant.”

However, what are men and women to do when “the preaching is neither suspect nor heretical, just poor?” Jay gives eight points of spiritual advice upon which men and women may provisionally act:

1. Pray for the pastor. We often underestimate what God has promised to do if we would call on Him and cast our cares on him. James reminds us that the “effectual fervent prayer of the righteous avails much.” Preaching is certainly not outside of the sphere of God’s authority and power.

2. Look for main points in the message—or points suggested by the message. Jot down questions, observations, illustrations and key passages that might relate to these main points.

3. Ask yourself, “How would I approach this passage?” When you do that sincerely desirous to learn and grow, “you will find that you are working all the harder because the pastor isn’t (or doesn’t know how to) work that hard to understand the Scriptures or communicate his understanding to others.”

4. Take more notes than you would otherwise. “Takes notes on all that comes into your mind” from related places in Scripture. “Meditate, and take notes on it.”

5. Think of your life in relation to the sermon (or your [biblically sound] reconstruction of the sermon). “Try to discover why the Holy Spirit put the passage in the Bible… Reflect on this specifically in relation to your own life and determine at least three ways you can implement the Holy Spirit’s purpose during the coming week.

6. On an especially bad day, forget about the sermon and focus on a hymn, the Scripture reading, or something in the prayer.

7. Learn from the sermon by contrast. When error is preached, ask, “What does the Bible really say?” Pursue that line until you are sure of the biblical truth. You will especially be sharpened if you read solid books that will help keep you straight.

8. Remember what it must have been like for Jesus to sit under the atrocious preaching in the synagogue for 30 years.

“What all this amounts to,” writes Jay, “is taking seriously the doctrine of the priesthood of all believers, for which the Reformers fought. They asserted not only the right but also the responsibility of the believer to come directly to God in prayer and to study the Bible on their own… Spurgeon could not have been too far from the truth when he said, ‘I have listened to many sermons from preachers called poor, in all corners of the country, and I have never heard one that did not teach me something, if I was in the spirit to profit from it.’”

None of this is to say that believers must stay in a church that does not preach God’s word in truth. Of course, believers should commit to being under the most sound preaching of God’s word that they can find in a reasonable proximity to their home. But, it is to stress the obligation that we have to the people of God and to the Lord to make every effort to see faithful ministry occurring in the church in which we have bound ourselves.

This article originally appeared here.

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