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He’s My #@*!-ing Pastor!

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From the Editor: “He’s My #@*!-ing Pastor!” contains references to profane language. While it is not our practice to include language such as this on churchleaders.com, we feel this article about divine interruption uses the references in a way that adds understanding and context to the story. The story itself is a practical example of reaching out to people in a different situation than your own and being willing to receive divine interruption as you dwell among those whose lives have not been transformed by the gospel yet. 


Receiving Divine Interruption

How ready are you for a divine interruption?

My morning office is the Waffle House. About three months ago I went into the Waffle House (WH) and I sat down in a chair at the “low bar,” the bar you can sit at that is at normal chair height. I did not notice the used coffee cup that was on the bar in the back next to the menu rack in front of the chair I sat in. It belonged to a man I will call Chuck, who happened to have gone outside to smoke a morning cigarette. Chuck is a man who comes frequently to the WH. He is a “rough” and crude man in his late 50s. He cusses allot and gives the waitresses and customers a hard time and is sharp with them when he is “in that mood.” Chuck walked back into the WH, saw me sitting in “his chair,” walked up to me and said coldly, “Hey #@*!, you are in my seat!” I turned to him and before I could say a word the two waitresses who were standing there almost jumped over the bar and verbally attacked Chuck. One said, “Now you listen here you #@*!, this man here is a #@*! man of God and if you ever talk to him like that again I will kick your #@*!!!” The other waitress jumped in, “Ya you #@*!, he is my #@*!-ing pastor! What the #@*! is wrong with you!” Show some #@*! respect!” The waitresses high-fived each other and one said to the other, “Sword of the spirit, #@*!!” And Chuck turned and walked out.

I sat there and processed what had just happened! First, the waitresses have never come to an ODC gathering, though I have invited them many times. And I never told the waitresses I was their pastor. But because of my coming into the WH four or five mornings a week and talking, listening and praying with them, it appears that is how they saw me. The other day the waitresses were talking about how life seemed to be attacking them. I took out my phone and I read to them from Ephesians 6 about the armor of God and explained it to them. And the one waitresses shouting “Sword of the spirit, #@*!” shows they were listening and retaining what I told them, I just need to work a little more on their application of that verse!

Fast forward to the divine interruption I experienced a month ago. I was walking in the WH and Chuck was outside in the front smoking. I said good morning to him as I was walking by, and Chuck kind of quietly and nicely (especially for Chuck!) asked if I had a moment. I told him sure and stopped by him. He said quietly as he looked at the ground, “I know you are kind of a religious guy and it’s not that big of a deal but I was wondering if you would pray for me for something. “I said, “Sure what’s up?” And he went on to say that the doctors think he may have prostrate cancer and he had a test today to confirm it. I said, “Of course,” but before I could say anything else he opened up and told me a story for about 10 minutes. The short summary of it was that he used to go to church a long time ago and was kind of close to God. Then he was drafted to Vietnam to fight in the war. He said he did some things there he was not proud of, things God could not forgive him for. He said in attacks on villages he shot and killed enemy soldiers who were just kids, also women and elderly. He saw children killed and witnessed and participated in other atrocities of war. He stopped praying after the war and has never gone back to church since he came back to the states. When I asked to pray with him there he said no, he had to leave, but for me to pray as you feel God will listen.

As he walked away my heart both mourned for him and was convicted for me. I had joined in with others at the WH at times commenting on Chuck and his behavior. However, the reason Chuck was an angry and hurtful man is he was filled with guilt that separated him from God. Guilt from things he did he thought were not forgivable. And I though I know and preach that God can forgive anything, I have never put him to “the test” of his forgiveness like Chuck has to. If I was the one looking down an M-16 and watching bullets splatter bodies of kids and women from my gun and trigger I was pulling, the event might make me an even bigger, hateful, guilt-filled person than Chuck. It reminded me that people are never the enemy.

Fast forward to yesterday morning. I was in the WH at the bar talking with customers and the waitresses when Chuck walked in. He walked over to a side bar he never sits in by himself and sat down. No cussing, no loud comments to people as he came in the restaurant. He looked devastated. One of the waitresses said they heard his son had died the previous night. My spirit told me to go sit in the chair next to him and I did. I said good morning to him and he said hey, and his eyes began to fill with tears. I told him I had heard that his son had died and if it was true, I was so sorry. We talked again for 20 minutes. Summary, he told me his son, who was 31 years old, and some of his friends, Chuck and Chuck’s wife (his son’s mother) were out on the front porch talking. His son told his friends how he had bought a new pistol. They asked to see it. He went into his truck and got it out, removed the clip and thought the gun was empty. It was not. He came back to the porch, and in handing the gun to his friend somehow it went off and the bullet hit his son in the head from less then two feet away. They rushed him to the hospital, but he died a few hours after he arrived. Chuck said he and his wife witnessed it. He could not get the sight out of his mind. It reminded him of the war. He had to come home from the hospital and clean his son’s blood, hair and other parts from the side of his house and porch. Tears were flowing down his face. He asked me if this was God’s punishment for the kids he killed in Vietnam. I said of course not and we talked awhile. His son had a wife and two kids 8 and 10 years old.

After we finished, I went home and my wife and I took the chicken I had grilled for dinner, along with sides, bread and a dessert, and I put it in a box and took it up to the WH. I also wrote a note to the family stating I was praying for them and asking to let me know if I could help in anyway with my phone number on it and put it in the box as well. I pulled into the WH just in time as Chuck was walking to his car to leave. I parked, got the box and gave it to him. Chuck teared up again as he took it. He said I did not have to, but I insisted, told him I was praying for him and I left.

Fast forward to today. I received a call today from Chuck. He thanked me for the food. He then said he and his family do not have any money. They are getting the cheapest cremation they can, and just going to do a remembrance service at their home. Their family does not attend a church, they do not know many church people, let alone preachers, and he asked if I would be willing to come to their house and share from the Bible and some words over their son and their family. I told him I would be honored to.

I have been going to the WH regularly for over three years now. Sometimes I wondered if I needed to continue going. Only one or two people, employees or customers, have ever came to an ODC gathering. So if you go by traditional church metrics, my time investment has not led to “church growth” or increased “numbers in the pews.” It has not resulted in one penny going into our offertory plate or pastor support. Yet God reminded me of my prayer I say to him every morning, which is, “God, please send me today the ones that no one else wants.” No one wanted Chuck; even I found it hard to be open to divine interruption and be around him. But God, through just being faithful, has given me an amazing opportunity: to be welcomed into his house, a house, a circle of family and friends, that no other pastor has ever been invited into, and share the love of God with them. And that is my heart’s desire, not to see them as an “evangelist’s projector opportunity” but a family in pain that simply needs the love of God, and to love them. I pray I may honor this.

My ODC family, I pray today you will be led by the Holy Spirit not to seek and enter into some structured ministry with people, but just simply enter into life and the lives of people. That in your daily set schedule you will allow and come to expect, even long for, a divine interruption from two things: God and people. Please for pray the same kinds of divine interruption for me. God bless you my friends!

Gary Liederbach

Lead Follower: ODC

This article about being ready for a divine interruption originally appeared here.

Clergy March in Silent Solidarity Against White Supremacist Protest in Charlottesville

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Around noon today, August 12, 2017, the Governor of Virginia, Terry McAuliffe, declared a state of emergency in Virginia due to a white supremacist demonstration turned violent in Charlottesville, Virginia. In a show of counter-protest, a group of clergy from different faith backgrounds also took to the streets to walk through the city, arms linked, while silently offering prayers.

“We’re going to fulfill the promises of Donald Trump” to “take our country back,” David Duke, a former imperial wizard for the Ku Klux Klan, told reporters.

“Unite the Right” drew protestors to Charlottesville, Virginia, early Saturday morning. The group of white supremacists, neo-Nazis and Ku Klux Klan members was protesting the removal of a statue of Confederate General Robert E. Lee from a public park. Counter-protestors also showed up to voice their disapproval of the white supremacist groups.

According to the New York Times, “Hundreds of counter-protesters—religious leaders, Black Lives Matter activists and anti-fascist groups known as ‘antifa’—quickly surrounded the crowd, singing spirituals, chanting and carrying their own signs.”

The rally turned violent after the crowd left the public park and a car mowed into a group of counter-protestors walking toward the city’s downtown mall. One person was killed and several more injured.

The protest kicked off Friday night as the white supremacist group marched through the University of Virginia campus with torches. In another part of town, clergy were preparing their own counter-protest, starting off with an interfaith prayer gathering.

Sojourners Magazine has been streaming live from the city, giving updates and posting them to their Facebook page. In the video below, you can see the clergy marching.

President Trump has condemned the violence in Charlottesville, citing “hatred, bigotry and violence on many sides” as being culpable.

34 Samaritan’s Purse Volunteers and Students Killed in Madagascar Bus Crash

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In a tragic turn of events last week, 34 people were killed in a bus crash in Madagascar, including eight Operation Christmas Child volunteers and 12 graduates from The Greatest Journey discipleship program. Samaritan’s Purse CEO Franklin Graham detailed the tragedy in a Facebook post early Friday morning, asking for prayers for those injured and the families who lost loved ones.

Graham said, “Thirty-four adults and children were killed in a horrific bus crash on their way to a church service in Madagascar a few days ago. There are reports of entire families being lost in the carnage. Samaritan’s Purse has worked in this country for many years…I’m thankful they knew the Savior and are now in his presence.”

According to reports, the wreck occurred when the packed bus plunged about 65 feet down a steep ravine after it struggled to climb a steep hill. The passengers were on their way to a nearby town to attend a church meeting. Unfortunately, the roads and bridges in Madagascar are often poorly maintained and these types of incidents occur frequently in the country.

“It is unimaginable what happened because the car was in good condition; the papers of the vehicle were in order. My wife and my children were among the passengers. The whole family is dead,” said Elias Ralaiarimanana, a bus driver.

The Greatest Journey discipleship program is offered through local churches around the world to children who enroll after receiving an Operation Christmas Child shoebox gift. The course “teaches boys and girls how to know Christ, grow in their faith and share this Good News with others.”

Graham concluded the post saying, “Would you join us in praying for those who are grieving their loved ones and for the many injured? ‘For we know that if the tent that is our earthly home is destroyed, we have a building from God, a house not made with hands, eternal in the heavens'” (2 Corinthians 5:1).

When Jesus Didn’t Call God His Father

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I’ve been called a lot of things in my life, but the title and name that brings me more joy (and stress) than all the others is father.

Having my small daughters run up to me when I get home from work yelling “Daddy! Daddy!” Listening to my sons describe a personal accomplishment, “Dad, you’ll never guess what happened!”

Those are irreplaceable moments that I deeply cherish because of the relationship I share with them. I’m their father and that means more than I could express.

For Jesus, He has had that deep personal relationship with God the Father for eternity. Stretching back, beyond the dawn of creation, that connection was there. Except the one instance when it wasn’t.

Throughout the Gospel of Matthew, Jesus refers to God as His Father. It’s how He teaches His disciples to pray (Matthew 6:9), longing for another way to achieve His purpose.

The only name Jesus addresses God with in Matthew is “Father.” Except the one time when He doesn’t.

As Jesus is enduring the punishment of the cross, Jerusalem goes black. This is no standard celestial event. The longest possible eclipse is 7.5 minutes. The skies were dark for three hours (Matthew 27:45).

In this moment, the darkness of sin poured out on Jesus is palpable. The One who knew no sin became sin on our behalf (2 Corinthians 5:21) and creation became dark.

Immediately following these three hours, Jesus cries, “My God, my God, why have you forsaken me?”

This is the first line of Psalm 22, a psalm of David that speak of the horrors of the cross centuries before crucifixion even existed.

There is no doubt that Jesus meant to point His hearers—both in that moment outside of Jerusalem and those in our age—to the prophetic nature of the psalm.

Yet, we should not overlook or ignore the fact that as Jesus is suffocating on the cross, gasping for breath, he forces out a prayer, but does not say, “Father.”

This is the one instance in the entire Gospel of Matthew where Jesus speaks to His Father, but does not call Him that.

Jesus did not call Him “Father,” so that you and I—anyone who trusts in Him for salvation—could have that privilege.

Jesus was abandoned by God, so that you and I could be adopted. He became an orphan to bring the fatherless to the Father.

He endured agonizing separation from the Father that He had never known through eternity past so that I could be brought near.

Yet, how casually do I treat that relationship? How flippantly do you regard the fact that you can call God your Father?

The only reason I am able to start my prayer with “Father…” is because Jesus endured those hours when He could not.

The one instance where Jesus did not call God “Father” means that I can call God “Father” for an eternity.

This post originally appeared on TheWardrobeDoor.com

How Can I Forgive Myself?

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Have you ever wondered, “How can I forgive myself?” The most faithful response to this question is to reject it as an illegitimate question.

The biblical teaching about forgiveness can be summarized in two main ideas:

  • God forgives sinners freely, completely and sacrificially. Ultimately, divine forgiveness is paid for by the cross of Christ.
  • Christians must forgive those who wrong us, as God has forgiven us for the sake of Christ.

That’s it. Sermon over. There is no third point. God has forgiven us and we must forgive others. Period.

What’s Wrong with, ‘How can I forgive myself?’

There are more than 125 direct references to forgiveness in the Bible. But the Bible does not teach that we should forgive ourselves. It does not explain how to forgive ourselves. It does not say anything about forgiving ourselves whatsoever.

God is just, holy and righteous. We are not. We are sinners who cannot do anything to win the approval of God. We cannot reach up to God. But God has reached down to us through the blood and righteousness of the Lord Jesus Christ.

Our infinitely holy God extends forgiveness to stubbornly rebellious sinners. Yet there are those who claim, “I know God has forgiven me. But I need to learn to forgive myself.”

The question “How can I forgive myself?” comes from the self-centered psychology of the world, not the teaching of scripture. In fact, it contradicts the message of the Bible. If I need to forgive myself, it suggests that I am the God that I have offended and need to appease. This way of thinking is not just erroneous, it is blasphemous.

To claim that I have been forgiven by God but I cannot forgive myself betrays that I do not understand, believe or appreciate the gospel of Jesus Christ. It is a sinister attempt of the Enemy to get us to depend upon our own righteousness, rather than the grace of God.

Isaiah had a violent encounter with the holiness of God (Isaiah 6), who was seated in sovereign authority. “Woe is me!” Isaiah responded, “For I am lost; for I am a man of unclean lips, and I dwell in the midst of a people of unclean lips; for my eyes have seen the King, the Lord of hosts!” (Isaiah 6:5).

Confronted by sovereign holiness, Isaiah braced himself to die. But God graciously forgave him instead. As he basked in amazing grace, Isaiah did not say, “I know God has forgiven me. Now, I have to learn to forgive myself for my unclean lips!” Rather, Isaiah volunteered to be God’s messenger, “Here I am! Send me” (Isaiah 6:8).

When a Christian repents of sin and receives forgiveness by the atoning blood of Christ, it is natural to wish you had never sinned against God in the first place. There should be a godly sorrow over sin. There will be regret and remorse as you consider those who are hurt by your sin. You may lament the consequences of your transgressions. But none of these things represent an ongoing guilt for which you need to forgive yourself.

“For freedom Christ has set us free,” declares Paul. “Stand firm, therefore, and do not submit again to a yoke of slavery” (Galatians 5:1). Jesus guarantees our spiritual liberty by declaring, “So if the Son sets you free, you will be free indeed” (John 8:36).

You do not need to supplement divine forgiveness with any self-forgiveness. Your forgiveness in Christ is complete. Receive it. Remember it. And rejoice in it. If your testimony is, “God has forgiven me,” that is enough! You do not need to forgive yourself.

1 John 1:9 is the Christian’s blessed assurance…

If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.

This article originally appeared here.

The Top 50 Quotes From the Global Leadership Summit 2017

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The 2017 Global Leadership Summit has come and gone, but the words of the speakers will remain in the minds and hearts of the leaders who attended for weeks to come. We will bring these words to mind and ruminate on them, over and over again, like a hungry person savoring a delicious meal.

Take a look at the top 50 quotes we heard at the conference and be encouraged!

Bill Hybels

“We all owe huge debts to those who planted leadership seeds in us.”

“How do we lead in an era of runaway divisiveness and disrespect? The solution has to begin with me.”

“We of faith do not get to choose who we respect.”

“Maybe it’s time we all step up and say we will set the standard for inclusivity and have zero tolerance for disrespect while we are at the helm.”

“God is an equal-opportunity story writer.”

“We leaders love to be challenged. We thrive on challenges. It’s how God made us.”

“My biggest concern about leaders is their lack of reflection time. We stop asking who we are doing this work for, what kind of person we are becoming, and whether what we’re doing is working.”

“Your culture will only ever be as healthy as your top leader wants it to be.”

“Do you have a personal betterment plan for your leadership in the following year?”

Sheryl Sandberg

“Hire for the people you’re going to need. Not the people you need.”

“Most organizations fail for reasons everyone is aware of but no one says.”

“We blame women for not doing housework and childcare perfectly and we applaud men for doing any of it.”

“We do not need to be someone’s best friend since first grade to show up in their tragedies. We just need to be there.”

“With good values and with vision anyone can be a leader.”

Fredrik Härén

“We can’t create out of nothing. Only God can. Creativity is taking two formerly known things and putting them together in a new way.”

“Your organization doesn’t become more creative by talking about creativity, teaching about creativity, or adding creativity to your mission statement, you do it by as a leader doing creative things.”

“The number one thing a leader has to do is to make the people who work for him or her more creative.”

“We are never closer to God than when we have a really, really good idea. We can sense God.”

Bryan Stevenson

“Hopelessness is the enemy of social justice. It is the enemy of effective leadership.”

“Effective leadership only happens when great leaders are willing to do uncomfortable things.”

“It’s the broken that understand the power of mercy. It’s the broken that understand the power of redemption.”

“True leadership is measured by how you treat the poor and neglected.”

“The opposite of poverty is justice.”

Laszlo Bock

“The experience of work should be meaningful.”

“We as human beings have far more in common than whatever separates us.”

“By treating people right, they do right by you.”

Juliet Funt

“In our days all of us are getting less and less comfortable with ‘the pause.’ This comes with a very high cost to our lives, our minds, and our organizations.”

“What are the costs of worshipping the god of busy-ness?”

“White space is a strategic pause taken between activities. These become the oxygen that allows our ideas to catch fire.”

“You must de-crappify your workflow.”

Marcus Buckingham

“When you take bad and invert it, you just get ‘not bad.’ Good is something so much better.”

“Excellence has its own pattern. You learn nothing about excellence by studying your failures.”

“People on your team want two things: 1) Make me feel apart of something bigger than me. 2) Make me feel special.”

“People say they want feedback, but they don’t. They want attention.”

“A year is 52 little sprints.”

“Leading is taking someone’s unique gifts and helping them contribute to the world.”

“I believe God blessed us with unique gifts and work is a space to discover those unique gifts and spread them to the world.”

Sam Adeyemi

“In leadership you don’t attract who you want, you attract who you are.”  

“Real and sustainable change in someone’s life begins with a change in their sense of identity.”

“Whatever people see and hear consistently in their lives will shape the direction of their hearts.” 

“Vision is the ability to see people, places, and things not just the way they are, but the way they could be.”

Immaculée Ilibagiza

“It is such a gift to have faith—to know that when you can’t, He can.” 

Michael Jr.

“The further you’ve been set back, the further you’re going to reach.”

Angela Duckworth 

“Of course talent counts, but effort counts twice.”

“Somebody in your life needs to love you so much that yes, they will let you quit on a good day, but not on a bad day.”

Gary Haugen

“All great leadership flows first from dreams.”

“Fear is the destroyer of the love that inspires the dream and replaces it with a preoccupation of self.”

“Am I more impressed with what humans are getting wrong, or what GOD is getting right in the world?”

“There are more people held in slavery today than at any other time in history.”

“Lone rangers do not make great dreams come true, ever.”


To read more about the 2017 GLS, check out these articles:

How the Practice of Solitude and Silence Increases Productivity

Bill Hybels: Incivility (Even in Christian Leadership) Is Killing Us

Sheryl Sandberg: The Problem With the Way We Treat Girls

Bryan Stevenson’s Primer on Social Justice

Bryan Stevenson’s Primer on Social Justice

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Bryan Stevenson is an attorney who works to “increase the justice quotient in this country.” At session 3 of the Global Leadership Summit, Stevenson offered a surprising solution to the overwhelming problem of social injustice we see in America: Proximity.

“One in three black male babies is expected to go to prison in his lifetime,” Stevenson says.

In 1972, there were about 300,000 people in prison, compared to roughly 2.3 million now. America has the highest population of incarcerated people in the world. This includes a 646 percent increase in women inmates over the years.

If Stevenson sounded calm and collected as he was sharing these alarming statistics, it’s not for lack of compassion. These are statistics that Stevenson know and understand on a personal level. He’s helped kids who are being tried as adults as young as 10, he’s fought for a mentally ill inmate who was sentenced to death and ultimately executed, and he still believes there is hope.

Through his years of social justice work, Stevenson has learn four key things about leadership.

We have to get proximate to the people who are suffering

Stevenson believes the only way to change a person’s situation for the better is to understand what life is like for them. And we can’t do that unless we get close. Politicians, as much as they may try to do good for people, are often far removed from the problems they’re trying to address.

“Leadership requires that the people we are serving believe we are with them,” Stevenson says. We’ve allowed distance to come between us and needy people, he argues, which makes us ineffective as we try to offer solutions. As leaders, we have to be willing to get closer to suffering.

“There is power in proximity,” Stevenson concludes.

We have to change the narratives that sustain the problems we’re trying to address

Stevenson argues that we could have used healthcare system to help people with mental illness, but instead we chose the prison system. This is because we’ve chose the narrative that people who are broken or hurt or beaten down by poverty have chosen this lifestyle for themselves and should be penalized.

“We’re so burdened by our history of inequality,” Stevenson says, that we can’t imagine a different narrative.

Indeed, there are wounds from eras past that have gone untreated. Namely, the genocide of the Native American population and the evils of slavery. “We’re a post-genocide society,” Stevenson says.

Stevenson believes the greatest evil of slavery was the narrative we told of racial difference—that there are differences between blacks and whites on the most basic levels. The narrative refused to acknowledge the human-ness and God-given worth of black people.

In America, we don’t talk about slavery, lynching, or wiping out entire tribes. But if you go to Germany, Stevenson says, they tell you about the holocaust.

We’ve got to stay hopeful

“Hopelessness is the enemy of social justice. It is the enemy of effective leadership,” Stevenson argues.

Stevenson admits it’s not easy to stay hopeful in the face of such an overwhelming problem. “It takes courage to stay hopeful in hard situations,” he explains.

The driving force behind Stevenson is the understanding that he works with broken people. “I do what I do because I’m broken, too.” Why is it, he asks, that when we see brokenness we want to kill it? Although Stevenson didn’t make this connection (he left it to the listener to apply), the question presents itself: Is the work of restoring broken people to wholeness not the message of the gospel?

We’ve got to do uncomfortable things

“Effective leadership only happens when great leaders are willing to do uncomfortable things,” Stevenson says. It’s not comfortable to sit in a holding room with a 10 year-old being tried as an adult after he has been molested and beaten by other inmates. But Stevenson has done that.

“True leadership is measured by how you treat the poor and neglected,” Stevenson reminds us. Those who have the privilege of being safe and secure, with a roof over our heads and food in our pantries should be the first to offer assistance.

But we won’t know what to do or how to help unless we get proximate to those who need help.

To read more on the subject of social justice, check out Bryan Stevenson’s book, Just Mercy.

Why I No Longer Say “Healthy Things Grow”

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“Healthy things grow” is one of the things I used to say to describe something successful. I once thought that something must be healthy because it is experiencing some measure of success. I would see more families come to our church or see an organization flourishing and would say: Healthy things grow. Because of their growth I assumed: a) they were a healthy organization, b) their growth was a sign of God’s blessing. While this may be true in some cases, overall assuming healthy things grow is not helpful at all. Here is why.

1. It denies the reality that unhealthy things grow as well. If your life has been touched by cancer you realize that unhealthy cells multiplying in your body are not a blessing in any way. If you have been in ministry long enough you have been a part of a church or known of churches or organizations that are seemingly successful yet wildly unhealthy. They may be seeing much success externally, but what we don’t see is the internal cost that success has taken. What we don’t understand is that failure isn’t always a sign of God’s judgment; sometimes success is.

2. It denies the source of life is Christ and preaches the gospel of pragmatism. Pragmatism preaches the gospel of “if it works do it” without considering “is this right to do,” or more importantly “does God want us to do this?” Bad behavior and unhealthy practices are overlooked because growth is the North American sign of blessing. So what do we do? We justify all matter of decisions based not on what does God want us to do, or what does scripture dictate for us. We promote strategies to grow at all cost.

The goal of our church should never primarily be growth. If it is we will unintentionally and intentionally hurt people and use people because we believe our cause is right. Our goal must always be the Glory of God alone. When we say things like healthy things grow, we most often attribute that health to something we have done or created rather than something God has done. When we think our actions are primary and Christ’s are secondary when it comes to growing the church, we begin to see ourselves as owners rather than servants who do their Master’s bidding. We turn to specialists that help keep us on track rather than wholly rely on Christ alone. Recently in my study of 1 Peter 4, I came across a commentary by Edmund Clowney that spoke to this truth in such a clear and concise manner. Here is what Dr. Clowney has to say about healthy things growing.

Why does Peter so emphasize our calling to minister as stewards, servants who recognize our dependence on God’s gifts? Because only so will we give God all the glory. Anyone who has begun a ministry in Christ’s name finds it perilously easy to shift the ownership of the enterprise. It becomes his ministry, her organization. Success demonstrates one’s own organizational skill and entrepreneurial genius. The leader gives lip-service to God’s enabling grace but trusts management techniques. He looks to professional consultants more than to the Lord. The ‘success’ of such a ministry may be a graver judgment from God than its failure.

Peter insists that we must minister in the strength that God provides, so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ. God is to be praised not only for the new birth from which our service begins but for the continuing grace that enables us, in serving others, to serve him.

Edmund P. Clowney

The Goal of our life is living for the Glory of God alone, not for personal success. My prayer for our church and for your church is that we grow in our dependence on God. That we seek him more than consultants. That we faithfully plant and faithfully water and let God cause the growth.

Soli Deo Gloria.

This article originally appeared here.

8 Reasons Excellence Must Be Standard for Churches

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I know that the church is made up of redeemed sinners who are hardly perfect. All of us have room for improvement, and none of us always gets everything right. Nevertheless, our churches must set excellence as the standard in everything we do. Here’s why:

  1. We do church for God, not for us. Everything we do as a church must be done for the glory of God (1 Cor. 10:31). To settle for anything less than excellence, then, is to ignore this requirement.
  2. No church defaults into excellence. Rather, we all default into the routine…into maintenance…into no longer seeing our needs for improvement. Unless we keep pushing for excellence, we settle for less than the best.
  3. We can do less than excellence in our own power. That’s a problem, actually. When we commit to do everything with excellence, though, we imperfect people need God’s help to reach that goal—and recognized dependence on Him is always good.
  4. Mediocrity is a poor witness. Whether we like it or not, the world is watching us. Guests who don’t always know church visit our churches. They don’t understand why we present something that is less than well done.
  5. Accepting less than excellence can be a spiritual cop-out. You’ve heard words like these: “Please pray for me. I didn’t have much time to prepare, so God will have to help me.” Sometimes emergencies do happen, but often these words are a spiritualized excuse for laziness or poor time management.
  6. This commitment forces us to work on improvement. Too many churches have no strategy to regularly assess and improve what they’re doing. A commitment to excellence demands a change in that process.
  7. Excellence demands training. It’s tough to reach excellence if you don’t know how to do what you’re tasked to do. That’s one reason why we must train and equip believers (not to mention Ephesians 4:11-13…).
  8. We’re equipping the next generations of church leaders. If we settle for mediocrity on our watch, we’re setting up the church to make the same mistake for decades to come.

What reasons would you add to this list?

This article originally appeared here.

One Hard Truth of Leadership

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There is one truth about leadership every leader must understand, but is difficult to receive by some leaders.

The probability is good you won’t like this truth either.

Not everyone will agree with you—or even like you—if you are a leader.

That’s hard, isn’t it? All of us—at a certain level—like to be liked. We want people to agree with us. We prefer cheers to jeers. No one enjoys being the bad guy. (Unless you’re really the bad guy.)

The truth, however, is if you lead anything, someone will disagree with your decisions and you will divide people into different opinions. There will be supporters and detractors.

(Keep in mind, there has never been a president of the United States—or any country—with 100 percent approval ratings.)

Leading is hard, because it takes people into the unknown. Leadership challenges status quo. It stretches people and organizations. It brings change, and change is always attached to an emotion.

Leaders must be prepared to lead toward the vision of the organization, even when it means losing approval ratings.

The only way to avoid this truth is to never lead.

Here is a strong word I would say to those who want to lead. And, I say this in sincere honesty and an attempt at humility. I don’t say it to dissuade you from leading, but simply to help you discern whether you should or not.

If you are someone who needs people to agree with you or who relishes popularity more than your desire to make hard decisions and do the right thing for the organization, then I suggest you choose something other than leadership in which to invest your energies. A friend of mine says you should sell ice cream if this is the case.

And, if God calls you to be leader. Lead strong—and lead well.

This article originally appeared here.

5 Ways to Minister to Other Christians This Sunday

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Every Christian is a minister. According to the book of Romans, every Christian is called upon by God to minister the Word of God to other believers (see Romans 15:14 and the words “able to instruct one another”). But what does that actually look like? How can normal people like you and me fulfill this responsibility? Truthfully, there are as many ways as there are Christians and congregations. Still, let me offer a few common ways you can minister God’s truth to others, even this week as you gather with your church.

First, minister truth in resolving conflict. Because we are sinful people, we will at times behave sinfully toward one another. There will always be some measure of interpersonal conflict within a church, and in Matthew 18 Jesus clearly addresses how such disputes are to be handled. It is interesting and important to note that the elders are not mentioned until the very end of the process. Conflict resolution begins with an individual approaching another individual and showing from the Bible how that person has sinned. If he does not repent, then two church members approach that individual and demonstrate from the Bible how that person has sinned. First alone and then together, they minister truth and trust that this ministry of the Word will confront the person and cause him to repent.

Second, minister truth in mentoring. The Bible calls on us to be intentionally involved in the lives of other people, especially people who are younger than we are. You might think of yourself as a mountain climber who has nearly reached the summit, then looks back to see someone following the trail behind you. You know this trail is dangerous, full of sheer cliffs, unexpected twists and sudden turns. What that person needs is someone who has already walked the trail to instruct him in navigating it safely. This is why passages like Titus 2 tell us that older men are to be involved in the lives of younger men and older women in the lives of younger women. We are to teach and train them, to minister truth from God’s Word that will help them successfully navigate life.

Third, minister truth in putting sin to death. We enter the Christian life with deep patterns of sin and sinfulness. God calls us to put such sin to death and to come alive to righteousness. This represents a greater challenge than we can face on our own. We need others to help us and we, in turn, need to help others. We help them by ministering the truth to them. So we open the Word to show them what it means to be holy in this area. We open the Word to remind them of the gospel when they’ve stumbled and fallen yet again. We open the Word so we can memorize appropriate passages together. We open the Word to pray its truths for that other person. In all these ways, we minister God’s Word to help another person put an ugly sin to death.

Fourth, minister truth in weaker/stronger disputes. This passage in the book of Romans falls immediately after Paul’s discussion of the weaker/stronger dispute that threatened to undermine the unity and effectiveness of that church. In that first-century context, this was a dispute between people who freely ate meat and people who remained vegetarian in an attempt to maintain the Old Testament laws. In our contemporary context it is unlikely we will encounter this exact situation, but there will still always be issues that threaten to divide us. Like this situation in Rome, it may not be an issue of truth and error, but an issue of weaker and stronger. When we see people struggling with such issues, we need to go to God’s Word and to minister his truth to them in order to foster unity and destroy division.

Fifth, minister truth in intentional spiritual friendships. At Grace Fellowship Church we have recently been emphasizing intentional spiritual friendships. We are intentionally making ourselves available to others to develop meaningful relationships with them, and in one way or another these friendships are bound together by God’s Word. So we have groups of women meeting together to study the Bible, groups of men meeting together to overcome a common sin, groups of men and women meeting together to read books. In its own way, each group is offering the opportunity for church members to minister God’s truth to others. In some way, each group is looking to God’s Word and bringing its truth to bear.

These are just five simple ways out of the countless thousands we could number. The simple reality is this: In every part of the life we share together as a church, we have the ability to minister the truth of God’s Word to others. Who in your church needs you to minister the word to them this Sunday?

This article originally appeared here.

Where Is the Salt? Where Is the Light?

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This has been a tough week. It’s been a tough few weeks. Mass shootings at an LBGT nightclub in Orlando. The deaths of Alton Sterling and Philando Castile. The sniper attacks on law enforcement officers in Dallas. However, these troubling times are not limited to the U.S. There’s the recorded rise of racial tension and explicit abuse after the Brexit results in the U.K., alongside political and economic uncertainty. The abduction and murder of IJM human rights lawyer Willie Kimani, his client and driver in Kenya. Bombings in Istanbul, Turkey. Bombings in Baghdad and Balad in Iraq. Attacks in Dhaka, Bangladesh. Clashes in southern Sudan. And these are just the events that appeared in my news cycle, I know there’s more. The daily realities of a broken, fearful world are devastating.

Soul stinging, gut wrenching, heart breaking.

Like you, I’ve been in prayer meetings and long conversations, lamenting and seeking God with others. I hope the conversations and prayer sessions continue; we need this time with the Lord, don’t we? We need His grace and truth to give us perspective.We need His comfort as we grieve. We need His love to fill our hearts where fear and pain and anger overwhelm. These weeks have left me vulnerable and raw, hurting for others yet feeling powerless. And in the places where the racial abuse has escalated, I’ve felt fearful for myself, my children, my family and friends. Our world needs to see His power displayed—love, mercy, salvation, redemption. We need a mighty move of God among the nations, cities, communities of our world. Nothing less.

Yet as the minutes turn to hours turn to days, I also feel the urgency of this moment of time for the church. Every generation of Christians, every generation of the church, has to decide how they will respond to the opportunities and to the challenges of their day. I grew up listening to sermons telling stories of missionaries and churches and movements of the past. I heard of their successes, I heard about revival and I heard about their legacies. How some faithful believers never witnessed their effectiveness firsthand, yet future generations felt their impact and influence. And in sermons and history lessons at school I also heard when the church failed. I heard about their silence and passivity when they needed to speak and act boldly. I learned about alliances with power and privilege that obscured their call to the Great Commission.

It’s sobering  to consider what will be said about today’s church. About us, our time, our day.

Will we be seen as a people who sacrificially laid down their lives for the gospel, who served and stood with the poor, the oppressed and the marginalized? Will we be seen as a people who stood complicit in the things that kept people bound and oppressed, self-serving and committed to our own privilege? Will be seen as the people who were the problem, or those who fought, served, spoke toward the solutions, even in our human frailty? Will we be seen as everyday missionaries, a sent people empowered by the Holy Spirit proclaiming the name of Jesus with our words, lives and love?

So many questions, and only time will tell the answer.

I believe prayer is the beginning of our response. In prayer I’ve been reminded of a statement the late Rev John Stott CBE once made. Stott was an Anglican pastor, leading All Soul’s Langham Place in London for many years. He was a prolific author, and a noted leader in the wider church. The following words were published in Stott’s book Issues facing Christians Today in 1984:

“Our Christian habit is to bewail the world’s deteriorating standards with an air of rather self-righteous dismay. We criticize its violence, dishonesty, immorality, disregard for human life, and materialistic greed. ‘The world is going down the drain,’ we say with a shrug. But whose fault is it? Who is to blame?Let me put it like this. If the house is dark when nightfall comes, there is no sense in blaming the house; that is what happens when the sun goes down. The question to ask is, ’Where is the light?’ Similarly, if the meat goes bad and becomes inedible, there is no sense in blaming the meat; this is what happens when bacteria are left alone to breed. The question to ask is, ’Where is the salt?’Just so, if society deteriorates and its standards decline until it becomes like a dark night or a stinking fish, there is no sense in blaming society; that is what happens when fallen men and women are left to themselves, and human selfishness is unchecked. The question to ask is, ‘Where is the Church? Why are the salt and light of Jesus Christ not permeating and changing our society?”

More than 30 years later, these words have not lost their prophetic edge. They challenge us to the core, and rightly so.

Where is the Light? The light that guides the way, that illustrates grace, and love and mercy. That models racial reconciliation. That illuminates a pathway to hope and new life in Christ. That drives out the darkness, that exposes the works of evil and casts it out of our communities and cities.

Where is the Salt? The flavor enhancer, whose very presence alone enriches, brings out the best in everything. How do we enrich our cities and neighborhoods? Salt that is generously present amongst the vulnerable, preserving in a way that only salt can, preventing the bacterium that rots society. In the winter here in Minnesota the salt is in the grit to protect the road, protecting lives in dangerous condition. You need a lot of salt available sprinkled generously along the roads for it to work. When life gets dangerous and risky, are we engaged in the gritty work that needs to be done to protect people?

Yes prayer is the beginning of our response. But as much as we pray up, we’ve got to show up too. Not because we’re the heroes—history tells us a lot about when the church tried that too—its not good. On the contrary, we’re pretty simple and ordinary.  We’re just salt, just light. Everyday people humbly walking into the prayers we prayed.

Where is God sending you as salt?

Where has God positioned you as light?

This article originally appeared here.

What Mark Zuckerberg Knows About Making Disciples

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Mark Zuckerberg and Jesus may have more in common than you think. Both are masters at making disciples—it’s just that Mark may not know it yet.

On Easter Sunday, I issued a challenge to those attending our church—many of whom don’t have much church experience, and some of whom hadn’t been in a church service before. The challenge was to do a bite-size daily Bible reading over the next 21 days, in order to explore faith in God more deeply and build a core habit to accelerate spiritual growth. In a pleasant surprise, 212 adults took me up on the challenge (over 10 percent of our attendance that day). With that kind of response, we knew we needed to do a good job delivering a tool that could actually help. Thankfully for us, it already existed. It’s called Facebook. We created a private Facebook Group, sent an email invite to the 212 on Easter Sunday afternoon, and waited. By Monday morning, nearly 100 of them were already in the group. Shortly after, another 50 jumped in. We ended up with 154 people out of the 212 actively participating in their new Daily Bible Reading habit in the group. The joy of it is that we were posting our journal entries through the Gospel of John, chapter by chapter. So not only were we being encouraged, but we were learning from one another how to interact with Scripture.

A lot of churches have been experimenting like this, and the evidence is mounting that social media is seriously underutilized for the sake of the Gospel.

Here are a few reasons why:

  • It’s fast. Video, information, updates and connections can happen so much faster here than anywhere. If we’re going to strike while the iron is hot, we’d better move at a faster pace.
  • The world is already there. With nearly 2 billion users, Facebook is unquestionably the largest platform in the world. If you add all the other social media platforms, there are very few people we can’t reach out to with a little effort and a very little money.
  • It’s safe for those exploring. Social media puts the user in control of how much they share and absorb. People can take steps at their own pace. That’s very appealing. And with the visibility it offers, the next step is always in view.

How can you get started using this tool? 
I recently heard about a church who is inviting new believers into cohort groups on Facebook to be discipled as a group. Another church is using social media to connect new members to other new members. You could use it to deliver follow-up on specific next steps. What ideas do you have? I’d love to hear your feedback on this issues. What questions, concerns or ideas do you have?

This article originally appeared here.

Sheryl Sandberg: The Problem With the Way We Treat Girls

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In session two of the Global Leadership Summit, Sheryl Sandberg addresses the gap in leadership between men and women. Sandberg, the COO of Facebook, shares she never thought of herself as a leader while she was growing up, and this fact points to a subtle bias that she feels needs to change in our society.

“I don’t think we encourage young girls to think of themselves as leaders and I think that needs to change,” Sandberg says.

Next time you see a little girl being called bossy, Sandberg says, tell the people saying that, “That little girl’s not bossy—that little girl has executive leadership skills.” If you chuckled after reading that line (as the audience did when she said it at the conference), this is exactly Sandberg’s point.

Why, she asks, is it a joke when the child in that scenario is a girl, but if the child had been a bossy boy, would we still laugh? This example points to the subtle biases our society holds about women and girls. For instance, women are expected to do the majority of the housework, even if they have a full-time job.

Sandberg shares about a time when she dropped her son off at school wearing a blue shirt. His blue shirt may have been insignificant any other day, but this particular day happened to be St. Patrick’s Day, which the school-drop-off volunteer not so kindly reminded Sandberg of. Sandberg feels if her husband had been the one to drop their son off, he wouldn’t have been looked down upon, rather applauded for dropping his kid off. “We blame women for not doing housework and childcare perfectly and we applaud men for doing any of it,” Sandberg explains.

These biases don’t just apply to childcare and housework; they also seep into the corporate world. Sandberg says only 5 percent of women hold the leadership positions in Fortune 500 companies and less than 25 percent of the seats in the U.S. Congress. Sandberg has seen this firsthand over her years in high-level positions at some of the world’s most influential companies.

After graduating from college, Sandberg had hope that her generation would be the one to make things equal, but the older she got, the more she realized it wasn’t happening.

It was this realization that prompted Sandberg to write her groundbreaking work Lean In. She began asking, “What are the things that are holding women back?” The driving force behind the work was Sandberg’s desire for an equal world—one where men, women, and people of every ethnicity and socio-economic status are treated equally.

“We can’t become what we can’t see,” Sandberg says. Meaning, without women in leadership, our girls won’t have role models.

Whether you belong to a denomination that ordains women or not, what does your church do to encourage the women in your congregation to fulfill their specific callings? What examples are you giving the young girls in your midst?

Hillary Clinton—Coming to a Pulpit Near You?

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Hillary Clinton has wanted to be a preacher for a number of years, an article published by the Atlantic reports. While most know the presidential candidate to be a committed member of the Methodist Church, few might have known of her aspirations to the clergy—the result of a calculated decision on her part to keep the depth of her faith quiet during the campaign.

“It will make me seem much too pious,” Clinton said as she asked Newsweek editor Kenneth Woodward not to write about her inclination toward the pulpit. This was back in 1994, when she was filling the role of First Lady.

During her grueling campaign last year, Clinton’s longtime pastor, Bill Shillady, rose at 4:00 a.m. to prepare a verse of Scripture and short devotional she could read on the road. Clinton also had a group of prayer warriors—more than 100 women clergy—backing her up. The group was called “We Pray with Her.”

Shillady is turning those hand-crafted devotionals into a book, Strong for a Moment Like This, set to release this fall. Clinton’s personal take on the 2016 election, What Happened, is also slated to release this fall.

Clinton grew up in the United Methodist tradition, which has a strong emphasis on helping people through social works. As the Atlantic article points out, Clinton even traveled with her youth pastor to hear Martin Luther King Jr. speak in Chicago.

During the tumultuous years of her husband’s presidency—namely his affair with Monika Lewinsky—Clinton clung to her church in Washington, D.C. and her Bible. “Her faith and her ability to think about forgiveness…was a very, very important part of how she dealt with that family crisis,” family friend and former press secretary for Bill Clinton, Mike McCurry, told the Atlantic.

Clinton has been criticized in the past when she’s tried bringing up religion. However, her hesitancy to share her faith, the Atlantic article postulates, may have cost her the election. In the key states Clinton lost to Donald Trump, high populations of mainline Protestants and Catholics might have rallied to her cause had they known about her lifelong faith. One commentator, Erick Erickson, had this to say on the irony of the public’s take on Clinton’s faith compared to Trump’s:

“As a Christian dedicated to advancing the Kingdom of God, it becomes mighty difficult to reconcile why one does not believe Clinton is a Christian when she has professed Jesus as both her Lord and her Savior, but one does believe Trump is a Christian without ever professing Jesus as his Lord and Savior.”

Those close to Clinton say her political career has been the way she has chosen to express her faith. It may not be a subject she speaks on frequently because, as Shillady explains, Clinton “doesn’t wear her religion on her sleeve, she just practices it. She follows the edict of what’s attributed to St. Francis: ‘Preach the gospel always, and if you need to, use words.’”

Perhaps now, though, with her political career concluded, Clinton might move into a teaching role for the Methodist Church.

The conclusion of that career came to a halting and bitter end with the election upset last year. Recently, an email Shillady sent to Clinton the morning after the results came in was made public.

“It is Friday, but Sunday is coming,” Shillady said. Comparing the devastation she was likely feeling to Good Friday, Shillady sought to comfort her by reminding her that Sunday is coming.

“You know one of my favorite sayings is ‘God doesn’t close one door without opening another, but it can be hell in the hallway.’ My sister Hillary. You, our nation, our world is experiencing a black Friday. Our hope is that Sunday is coming. But it might well be hell for a while.”

As with previous crises Clinton has faced, Shillady told CNN “her faith helped her move through that darkness.”

Shillady explains that the United Methodist church has a practice of inviting lay preachers every once in while, a role he feels Clinton would very naturally fill. “She is very comfortable in the pulpit…and she knows the Bible. That’s why I think she’d make a great preacher,” Shillady concludes.

What a Classical Conductor Can Show Us About Worship Leadership

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This will come as a shock to absolutely no one, but I’m not a classical-music guy. I’m totally inspired by the hard work and precision of an orchestra, but the truth is that I don’t listen to a lot of orchestra music or attend that type of concert very often.

But, I have seen enough live performances (and TV broadcasts) to know that at the end of a concert, the conductor gets applause. A lot of applause, actually. In addition, the conductor is always listed in the top-line credits when a song is being played on the radio or broadcast on TV.

Why is that? Think about it—the musicians in the orchestra learn the music. They spend hours practicing privately. They attend long, tedious rehearsals and when it’s time, they are the ones who perform the music. So why does the conductor seem to get just as much (sometimes more) credit as the people who actually make the music happen?

Now, if you know much about classical music, you know that the conductor actually logs more hours than anybody getting ready for a concert. The conductor is making notes, learning the music, even conceptualizing how to create a unique musical experience within the boundaries of precisely written works. The maestro is there before the rehearsals start and long after everybody goes home. So, you could make the argument that we applaud him or her for all their hard work.

But I think there’s another reason. An ever better one.

We applaud the conductor because he or she keeps everyone together. The job is taking a mass of musicians—varying in age and experience (and even ability)—and helping all of these individual musical voices join to create something cohesive and compelling. The conductor shines because the conductor’s goal is to make the musicians shine even brighter. All those hours in pursuit of helping players to achieve beauty and inspiration are what fuel us when we applaud.

I don’t think anybody should applaud you at the end of a worship set, but I do think you and I could learn a lot from the conductor. Too often, we devote our hours to making sure we come off as musically astute or highly creative or even simply “cool.” But there’s a higher goal in our music making: The people you lead need you to lead them. To stretch them. To grow them. To encourage them and to be the ears that help them to find something beautiful and inspiring when they make music for God’s glory.

Spend your hours wisely. Toil over music in a way that brings your players closer together and focused on God’s glory in our corporate worship. It’s time well spent!

 This article originally appeared here.

5 Reasons Church Organizational Changes Fail

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It is one of the most common questions I am asked.

Essentially, the question, in one form or another, deals with organizational change. The church wants to change its staff structure. The leadership wants to reconsider the roles and functions of elders or deacons. The lead pastor wants to have different people reporting to him.

To be clear, organizational change is absolutely necessary…some of the time. But much of the time, we lead organizational change for the wrong reasons. And the results are often frustration, exhaustion and loss of momentum. Here are five clear reasons church organizational change fails:

  1. The change is a substitute for dealing with people issues. There are one or more people in the organization who are problems in their current roles. They may be over their head, lacking people skills, lazy or incompetent. Instead of having the courage to confront the people directly, we organize around them. This erroneous move is sometimes called a “work around.” You are working around the real issue instead of dealing with it directly.
  2. The change becomes a substitute for execution. Work is not getting done in some areas. Ministry is languishing in other areas. The church tries to create an organizational structure to get the work done. But the greater need is simply for people to roll up their sleeves and do the work, as messy as it can be. Organizational change is not a solution for poor execution.
  3. The change gives a false sense of comfort and security. Sometimes leaders make organizational change and declare the work done once the changes are made. But the work should only be beginning after the change. The new organizational structure gives a false sense of comfort and security that the challenges have been met.
  4. The change does not keep up with the pace of other changes. Many organizational structures are so rigid or complex they cannot adapt to the fast pace of change. The new structure thus becomes a hindrance for future and greater health.
  5. The change is a copy of another church. There is nothing wrong with emulating another church’s organizational structure. But if we fail to discern if the new structure is really best for our context, the change will do us more harm than good. Unfortunately, too many church leaders contract emulation fever and it makes the whole church sick.

Change done for the right reason is good. Change done for the wrong reason or for the sake of change itself can leave the church in a more difficult position than keeping the status quo.

Lead change well. Lead organizational change well. Learn what is best for your church rather than copy another church. Seek wisdom before action.

This article originally appeared here.

Are Your Best Days in Ministry Behind You?

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If you’re human, and over 40, you’ve probably thought at least once, Are my best days behind me? (If you’re a pastor, you struggle with this just about every Monday morning!)

I’m not suggesting you need to be middle-aged or old to wonder about this question. If you felt like your high school or college years were some of your best, then you might have faced this disheartening question early in your life.

I know a guy who was a football star in high school, and he frequently talks about that time as the best days of his life—and he’s my age. It’s sort of sad. Especially since high school was over for him 40 years ago.

Recently I was at a retirement party for some friends. I’ve known them for about 20 years, and we worked together on a large church staff for five years. At this gathering, the staff said some very nice things about my friends, and there were quite a few honoring and funny stories told.

I was sitting there, listening, smiling and remembering, when a question hit me hard. Were those years with them my best years in ministry?

Then I nose-dived into thinking about the marathons and other races I ran as a younger man, the mountains I climbed and skied, the motorcycles I rode, the oceans I surfed and sailed, and the many other adventures of my life.

At 60, with a bad back and worse knees, most of what I did in my 20s, 30s and 40s isn’t physically possible anymore. I suppose if I spent two hours a day in the gym (using time I don’t have) or spent tens of thousands of dollars on surgeries (using money I don’t have), I might get strong enough to run another marathon or climb another mountain. It’s possible but unlikely.

Then, when it comes to ministry, I’ve experienced some awesome mountaintops as well. I’ve been a part of some powerful movements of God (like the Jesus People revival in the ’70s). I’ve planted churches and traveled the globe in ministry. When God said “Go!” I went wherever he led and did so without hesitation or regret. But all of that only adds to that nagging question: Are my best days long gone?

In case you’re wondering, here’s the conclusion I’ve come to: My best days are still to come!

Different, but better.

If you and I define best or better to involve more of the same, then we’re in trouble. If the measure of our future success is based on having the same balance, agility and strength we once had, then we’re bound for the blues. If we think our memory should be like it was before our mental RAM got full, we’re kidding ourselves.

However, if I believe that God is just as good today in my 60s as he was in my 30s, then I can and should expect more of his goodness in my life.

Living the adventure of following Jesus doesn’t need to be any less of an adventure just because you and I are older or physically limited.

Why not?

Because the secret to a full and fulfilling life is always found in obedience. (You might want to read that again.)

Jesus’ promise of “abundant life” is always connected to abundant conformity to his will. He is Lord. I am not. He is in charge. I am not. He calls the shots. I do not. So regardless of one’s age, the key to a good, better, best and even great present and future comes down to two words: Yes, Lord!

The exploits of my youth were amazing, not because I was young, but because I chose to take risks driven by faith. God spoke, and I tried my best to obey. At times I miserably failed, but those failures became part of my journey—a learning experience—and life was never boring!

The potential achievements and triumphs of my future can be incredible too if, and only if, I choose that same path of trust and obedience.

Therefore, I refuse to be the “old guy” who sits around reminiscing about the good ole’ days as if the voyage were over. It’s not.

Instead, regardless of how uncomfortable or challenging today or tomorrow might be, when the Father says “Jump!” I’m going to leap as far and as high as I can. (Even though jumping at my age is rarely graceful.)

Obedience is the path to greatness. Faith is the way to even better days ahead. Taking godly risks is not just for the young. Those who have experienced God’s favor in their past ought to lead the way when it comes to surrender because they know he is faithful and good.

Young or old, the issue is always the same: Will you and I follow him?

For the record, I’m all in.

This article originally appeared here and at KurtBubna.com.

 

Is Confidence Necessary for Ministry?

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Yogi Berra was correct about baseball when he said “90 percent of the game is half mental.” You can tell quite a bit about how a pitcher is going to pitch on that day by his body posture on the mound. If he has a ton of confidence in his “stuff” then he is likely going to have a solid outing. But pitching without conviction will get your pitches knocked all around the ball park. You could say the same thing about batting. In order to be successful you have to be confident in your “stuff.”

Does this extend to missions and ministry? In order to preach well, to engage the lost and to minister to church folks well, do I need to have confidence in my “stuff”?

The way we go about answering this question will determine how we train people for ministry. I will argue today that ministry is both similar and dissimilar to baseball in regards to “having stuff.”

On one hand, preaching without conviction isn’t really preaching. It is similar to baseball in this way. Doing ministry without conviction will not get you very far. I think Gardiner Spring was correct when he said, “No preacher can sustain the attention of a people unless he feels his subject; nor can he long sustain it, unless he feels deeply” (quoted from Montoya, 51).

To preach without conviction is a poor representation of the powerful words we proclaim. We must have confidence in our “stuff” if we are going to be faithful ministers of the gospel. You cannot do ministry well without confidence in the message you are proclaiming.

Did you notice the subtle switch I made in that last sentence? That is where the baseball pitcher is different than the minister of the gospel. The pitcher has to have confidence in how well he’s throwing his curve. The minister must have confidence in the unchanging Word of an omnipotent God. This impacts the way we train people to have confidence and conviction.

Consider Isaiah the prophet.

Here you’ve got a guy who is going to engage in a very difficult ministry. Nobody is going to listen to him. And he has to keep on preaching and preaching. Rather than leading to revival, his preaching is going to lead to rejection. That’s not a very easy gig. So how do you prepare a guy for tough ministry like this? It’s a ministry where he doesn’t get to open up the mouth of the lion but instead he’s going to get chomped to bits. How do you encourage someone to step out into that?

We often take the Stuart Smalley approach. We train folks to have confidence in their “stuff.” Our idea of equipping them is to give them all the tools we can and then boost their self-esteem. “You’re good enough, you’re smart enough and doggone it people like you.” You can make it because you’ve got what it takes!

But contrast this with how the Lord prepared Isaiah for his ministry. Rather than building him up, God broke him down. He took away every ounce of self-confidence that Isaiah could muster. He left Isaiah having absolutely zero confidence in his “stuff.” He rescued Isaiah from self-focus by overwhelming Him with His glory and grace. That’s how he prepared the prophet to engage in such a difficult task. Brokenness was the means.

So if we are training ourselves and others for the work of ministry, it’ll need to come through a similar path. A path that realizes that we have absolutely no competence on our own. One that has no conviction in its own stuff, but instead a conviction that comes through being overtaken by the Glorious One. It’s a hungry resolve to do all things for His glory because we know that this mission cannot be stopped.

So, yeah, if you want to do ministry well it has to be with conviction and confidence. You could maybe say it like this:

Such is the confidence that we have through Christ toward God. Not that we are sufficient in ourselves to claim anything as coming from us, but our sufficiency is from God, who has made us sufficient to be ministers of a new covenant, not of the letter but of the Spirit. For the letter kills, but the Spirit gives life. (2 Corinthians 3:4-6)

This article originally appeared here.

7 Ways We Put a Not Welcome Sign on Our Church

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I was running once and saw this sign and the first word that popped in my head was “Closed.” Anything which seems exclusive to the people already on the inside makes me as an outsider seem unwelcome. I’m sure that’s not the intent this church has with this sign. It’s probably a very welcoming church. I also know there are circumstances which make some churches have to limit their parking. Again, probably not the intent, but the sign seemed so harsh to me as someone unfamiliar with the church.

As I continued running I kept thinking about that sign and implications for those who saw it. It then brought to mind signs I’ve seen in store windows—which I don’t completely understand. The signs say, “Closed for Business.” How can you be closed “for” business? Seems more like you’d be closed “from” business. If you’re closed you’re closed.

Of course, none of us would intentionally place a “Closed for Business” sign on our church doors. But, it was a great way to jar my thoughts about some practices churches occasionally have, which, intentional or not, serve essentially the same purpose.

Over the years, Cheryl and I have visited dozens of churches. Whenever we travel we try to find a church. I’ve spoken at and consulted with a lot of churches in all types and sizes.

From personal experience—here are some ways you can place a closed sign to visitors on your church.

Only do “church” on Sunday.

When we make no effort to build community with people who visit we let people know by our actions—or lack of actions—that we are comfortable with the people in the church now. And, there is little room for new friendships. (This could include not reaching out to people we haven’t seen in a while.) Not long ago, while out of town, Cheryl and I visited a church, filled out a visitor card, and only placed our email and phone number on the card. Months later we have yet to hear from anyone.

Don’t act like you’re happy to see people.

Have no one greeting in the parking lots or at the doors. And, don’t talk to people you don’t know if people actually make it inside the building. I once was the guest preacher at a church. Not one person greeted us in the church. I literally had to go find somebody to tell me when to preach. Not one other person besides the person I found ever spoke to us. I realize that’s the extreme but I wonder how many times visitors feel that same way in our own churches.

Confuse people.

Display confusing signage or, better yet, none at all. And, don’t think about using people as guest hosts. I can’t tell you how many churches we have been to where it was very confusing which door to enter and where to go once we entered the door. At times, if I weren’t the speaker—as an introvert especially—I might have left. (Just being honest.) I have to be honest even more and say that could have somewhat been said of the church where I am pastor now. After years of add-on projects it can be a very confusing building. Hopefully we are continuing to make strides towards overcoming that with signage and people.

Make it uncomfortable for visitors.

If you really want a closed sign up, everyone should talk to the only people they know. It’s either that, or you could make visitors feel very conspicuous. Have them stand up maybe—or raise their hands—and keep them up until an usher comes by. We once attended a church that made visitors stand up, introduce themselves and tell why they came that day. Talk about awkward. Again, that’s extreme, but it certainly caused me to review how we make visitors feel welcome—and don’t.

Have your own language.

Use acronyms—for everything. When we pretend everyone already knows what we are talking about—don’t differentiate between VBS and Vacation Bible School—we make outsiders feel left out of the conversation. (Even the name of it can be confusing as to what it really is without some description being given.) Another thing that is very anti-welcome is to use personal names during the announcements no one knows but the regulars. (“We’ll meet at Sally’s for the ice cream social. See Joe if you want more information.”)

Have closed groups within the church.

And, don’t start any new ones. It could be any group—Bible studies, service groups, but when any small group has been together more than a few years—with no new people entering the group—it’s a closed group. A new person coming in will not feel welcome. They won’t know the inside jokes. They don’t know the names of everyone’s children’s. They feel very left out when personal conversation begins.

Beat people up without giving them hope.

And, for this one I had to go all theological on you. But, when we are clearer about how bad people are than how great the Gospel is, we can make outsiders—who may not yet be living the life we would suggest for them—like they don’t belong and have no chance of getting there. We should teach on sin—and not just certain sins, but all sin, including what I call the 3 G’s: gossip, gluttony and greed. But my goal is to always let people leave with the hope of the Gospel. It’s actually the only hope we all have.

Those are a few of my observations. Again, none of us would purposely place a “Closed for Business” sign on our churches—so we must be careful we haven’t done so by our unintentional actions.

This article originally appeared here.

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