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3 Questions Christians Should Ask Before Building a Personal Brand

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Sometimes, when I tell people that I help authors build online platforms, I feel like I’m being judged.

My job—as in, the means by which I pay my mortgage and buy food—is to help pastors, scholars and other Christian leaders build their online platforms (blogs, social media, etc.).

So, that either makes me the most or least qualified person to talk about this subject. You decide.

The Context

A lot of people wonder:

“How is it not sinful for Christians to build an online platform? On what basis is it acceptable that Christians start blogs, asking us to “like” their Facebook pages and trying to sell us stuff?”

If you use social media or read blogs, you have seen the “brands” or “platforms” to which I am referring. You have likely read blogs or watched videos of pastors, scholars or other Christian leaders.

God has gifted people with incredible communication skills, and in the 21st century, many of these people are using these gifts via social media and other digital outlets.

However, many see a problem with Christians (pastors, in particular) building “platforms” online. This is understandable. On the surface, a pastor or other Christian wanting to build a platform seems like nothing more than the sinful fruit of pride, flowing out of the sinful desire to “get famous.”

I get it. Digital platform-building can definitely be a vanity game, but it doesn’t have to be. A Christian who seeks to build a brand or a platform is not inherently sinning, necessarily.

Building a platform for the right reasons ultimately comes down to three factors: motivation, goals and accountability.

Here are three questions Christians should ask themselves before building a brand or platform:

1. What is my motivation?

I praise God when I sit down with an author at our first “platform strategy” meeting and he or she says, “I just don’t want to promote myself.”

I seriously say, “Praise God!” I’m not just saying that metaphorically.

Self-promotion is not only a sinful platform-building motivation, but it’s also an ineffective one. No one likes a Christian leader who lauds his or her newest book or worship CD all the time.

God is not pleased and the Christian leader’s audience is annoyed.

Christians must only seek to build a brand or platform if their motivations are outwardly focused rather than inwardly focused.

I was meeting with an author a couple of months ago who was afraid of promoting himself online. This author is a world-renowned Bible scholar and professor.

I said to him, “Think about all of the people around the world who would love to study under you or even just attend one of your classes but cannot do so for one reason or another. Your blog and social media isn’t a means to serve yourself. It is a means to serve them. Let them be your students online, for free.”

This really resounded with him, and together we were able to create a strategy that allowed him to open up his “classroom” to the world via blogging and social media.

His motivation is outwardly focused.

Christians must not build platforms motivated by selfish gain.

2. What is my goal?

Even if your motivations are pure and others-focused, the temptation of fame and fortune still lies in wait for even the humblest of us.

When building a personal brand, the Christian must have goals in mind that benefit others more than him- or herself.

As you’re starting a blog and hiring someone to coach you on social media strategy, what does “success” ultimately look like for your personal brand? If “success” is defined by personal gain, you need to check your heart.

When I meet with authors and we have discussions about their online platforms, I repeatedly circle back to one word: service.

I serve authors in an effort to help them better serve their readers. Wanting the best for the authors I serve, of course I would love for them to sell more books, but if their personal brand somehow leads them to sell a bunch of books, yet poorly serve their audience, I would feel as though I have failed.

Christians must build personal brands ultimate with the purpose of serving others. This doesn’t mean you can’t make money off of ads or through other means—there’s nothing wrong with profiting off of your gifts. But if “success” hinges on how much money you make rather than how well you serve, you need to be careful.

3. Who will keep me accountable?

This is perhaps the most important question of the three.

At the beginning, you may be motivated by your love for others and your primary goal may be to serve the church, but maintaining pure intentions is difficult, especially when the opportunity to make money comes your way.

If you’re hoping to establish a personal brand, you need accountability. You need a mentor or two who can tell you when they think you’re sinning.

You do not need “yes (wo)men.” You need people who will tell you the hard truth about you and your activity online.

If you do not have someone who can tell you the truth when it’s hard, you shouldn’t be trying to establish a personal brand.

Final Thoughts

At this point, I have written nearly a thousand words on this subject, and I could easily write a thousand more, but that would be boring for both of us.

In short, it is problematic for a Christian to build a personal brand online only inasmuch as it is problematic for a Christian to pursue a music career, or a book deal, or any other sort of individual expression of his or her gifts. In our time, we like to deride blogging and social media as an overt expression of hubris, as if blogging or having a Twitter account is vastly different from other means of communication in the past.

Just this week, I saw a pastor tweet that he thinks it is problematic for pastors to build online platforms. The irony was that he communicated this via his online platform. This is a common occurrence.

Like any medium, building a personal brand is a neutral act that can be righteous and God-glorifying in nature, or sinful and self-serving in nature.

Christians need the conviction of the Holy Spirit and the wisdom of friends in this pursuit as in so many others in our lives.

This article originally appeared here.

Joel Hunter Announces Departure From Northland After 32 Years: ‘My pastoral role in the church is fulfilled’

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Joel Hunter is probably best known for his attempts to broach the subject of climate change, social justice and developing interfaith partnerships in the American evangelical church. After 32 years of leadership at Northland Church in Longwood, Florida, though, Hunter is done.

“My call to the pastoral role in the church is fulfilled,” Hunter told the board of elders and executive staff at Northland. The 69-year-old senior pastor announced his intention to leave on Wednesday, August 2, 2017, after returning from an annual sabbatical.

Hunter is respected in his own congregation and also across religious lines, largely due to his conviction that “no one group could do the job of caring for the needs of the community and the world alone,” as summarized by Rev. Bryan Fulwider of the United Church of Christ. Echoing those sentiments, Rev. James Coffin, executive director of the Interfaith Council of Central Florida, says, “Joel defies stereotypes and labels.”

The driving force behind Hunter’s ministry has been to “follow Jesus and serve the vulnerable” as he explains in a letter written to his congregation. This force has driven him to make some pretty controversial stands over the years.

In 2016, Hunter had a role in the efforts to help the Orlando area recover from the Pulse Nightclub shooting, which left 49 people dead. Hunter received a call from a member of his church, a first responder to the incident, moments after it happened. He rushed to the scene to minister to the trauma-stricken people involved. The incident had a profound effect on Hunter, an experience he wrote about for Religion News Service.

Hunter was also on the program to lead a prayer at gathering of more than 2,500 mostly-white Christians to pray for the terror-stricken city. However, instead of delivering the prayer when it was time, Hunter stepped aside and gave the mic to Victoria Kirby York, who is on the National LGBTQ Task Force. Hunter cited his inability to speak due to his always having been privy to a powerful, majority community, and lacking experience of being “part of a vulnerable or a persecuted community.”

This is typical of Hunter’s approach to polarizing situations. He came to Christ while being involved in the Civil Rights movement. For Hunter, social justice and Christ have been intimately connected to one another from the beginning of his Christian walk. In the letter explaining his departure to his congregation he shares this:

“When I knelt at the altar to give my whole life to Jesus, I was a part of the Civil Rights movement. My focus on Jesus was not only for personal salvation after this life but also for compassion towards the marginalized in this life. My call to follow Jesus and serve the vulnerable is stronger than ever.”

Hunter has served the church world in various capacities, having been a spiritual advisor to President Obama, and currently serves on the board of the National Association of Evangelicals and the World Evangelical Alliance.

As far as what is to come, Hunter hints at ministry work outside church walls in his letter. “Jesus often taught in different synagogues but the bulk of his teaching and work was outside established religious settings. Following his way, I will seek to include the unincluded in the Kingdom.”

How to Launch Interest-Based Small Groups

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God is so creative in how he made the human race to be so diverse! Different nationalities, unique languages, beautiful skin colors and various interests! Here are three tips when launching interest-based groups…

#1. Recruit leaders with an appeal to their interests 

It’s crazy how two complete and total strangers who have never met before can instantly become like brothers the moment they start talking about the same sports team that they love! How does this happen? A shared interest draws them together. Interest based small groups have the power to bypass people’s natural hesitations to gather and warp-speed them into community! Therefore, when it comes to recruiting leaders for interest-based groups, start the conversation with these questions: “What do you like to do for fun?” “What are your passions?” “What are your hobbies?” In larger churches, I would recommend that the small group ministry leader and the team of coaches connect with prospective leaders at the groups/sign up table in lobby during weekend gatherings and/or have a strategy to connect individually with people. For leaders in smaller churches of 500 or less, I believe one of the most effective ways to recruit leaders is simply over coffee, over lunch or even one-on-one in the church lobby. From there, help your leaders choose a weekly or bi-weekly time that works best with their schedule to lead their group. Lastly, help your leaders come up with a simple format for their group. We encouraged all group leaders to share a short encouraging scripture during their group time, but the one aspect that all group leaders had to do was lead their group in a short time of prayer.

As a small group coach, Jesus appealed to his prospective leaders’ interests when he recruited some professional fisherman named Simon and Andrew to be part of his ‘People Fishing’ small group ministry when he said…

“Come, follow me, and I will show you how to fish for people!” Matthew 4:19

#2. Cast a contagious vision of community

When casting the vision of interest-based groups to your pastor, leaders and church body, the focus should not be so much on leading or joining a small group, but more about enjoying holistic community wrapped around the foundations of faith and shared interests.

When we launched interest-based groups last summer, we had a geo-caching group, a softball group, a new mommies group, a bicycling group, a baking group, a motorcycle group, a mountain biking group, a few fitness groups and a learning to play music group, among others! Adventure, food, fun and caring for each other around common interests—this is the kind of community that I think most people would be very interested in, if not longing to be part of!

“People join a group for content, they stay for the relationships.” –Rick Warren

#3. Diversify how you “train” your team 

To many people, the words “train,” “teach,” “seminar” and “meeting” have become synonymous with another word called “boring.” For example, to promote in your video announcements that “Small group leaders’ training is this Sunday during the second service” may not only come off as drab to your leaders, but many of them might not have the time to attend the “meeting.” Therefore, diversify how you equip your team by…

• Leading a “Rally” for your leaders or hosts as opposed to a “training,” “meeting” or “seminar” where you “teach” them. Rally means “to come together for common action or to inspire anew.” Promote and lead at least one dynamic rally with your leadership team before your groups kick-off. Inspire your leaders by casting a contiguous vision of holistic community, honor them with a delicious meal, equip them with simple resources and empower them with a time of prayer!

• Using Youtube, Vimeo or even your smart phone, create a few videos of about three minutes in length or shorter to equip your team. Start out with an energetic greeting, remind them of the vision behind groups and then give them a couple of quick tips on how to be an effective leader for their interest-based group. Do a few of these videos leading up to your launch date. I have found that video equipping like this can be very effective, especially for Millennial leaders who are tech savvy or for those with very busy schedules who can’t attend the rally. To view a short video I made as an example, click HERE 

• Sending out several group texts to your leaders can also be an effective way of equipping them, and one of the best ways to get them the information they need quickly. Genuinely tell them how much you appreciate them, give them one short tip or announcement and/or give them a link to an informative article to read.

• Using Mailchimp or another preferred platform, sending out a few group emails with a couple of laser focused equipping points, can be effective. However, I found that if this is the main way that you communicate with your leaders that it can just become white noise.

This article originally appeared here.

8 Characteristics of Believers Who Don’t Give Up in the Battle

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Living for Christ is hard—sometimes so hard that we’re tempted to wonder if it’s worth the sacrifice. It is, of course, but difficulties sometimes cloud that truth. Based on my years of studying spiritual warfare, here are characteristics of believers who don’t give up in the battle:

  1. They’re solidly connected to a local church. That is, they don’t just attend a church; they participate in it. They’re involved in a small group, and they serve in some capacity. They’re living for something other than themselves.
  2. They have a devotional life, even if it’s not perfect. They might be struggling with consistency, but they’re working at it. They make time to read the Bible and pray.
  3. They have somebody to walk with them. They don’t fight the battle alone, because they have a Christian brother or sister who stands with them. They share their burdens and their struggles—which always lightens the load a bit.
  4. They choose to believe what the Bible says. Even when they may not “feel” like it’s true, they make the choice to trust Bible truths like “I will not leave you or forsake you” (Heb. 13:5) and “greater is he that is in me than he that is in the world” (1 John 4:4).
  5. They rehearse God’s care in the past. It’s easy to forget yesterday’s blessings when today’s hard, but those who don’t give up fight hard to avoid that error. They continually remind themselves, “God has never let me down in the past. He won’t now, either.”
  6. They trust that when they are weak, God is their strength (2 Cor. 12:10). They may not like the battle, but they learn from the apostle Paul’s prior experience. Weakness doesn’t bother them, for they know God’s power is most evident when they are weakest.
  7. They understand the witness of faithfulness in the battle. They recognize that somebody’s always watching them—and that their witness is most potent when life is hard and their faith is stretched. Their faithfulness in the valley catches the attention of the watching world.
  8. They cry out to God. There’s no pretense in their praying. They sugarcoat none of their words, and they follow no formula in their prayers. They know God’s big enough to handle their questions and their pain. He is, you know…

Let us know how we might pray for you if you’re tempted to give up.

This article originally appeared here.

Under Appreciating vs Over Celebrating

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Why is Tuesday pizza day for Stephen Colbert and his team? And why has it been for a few weeks now?

This time last year, Stephen Colbert’s Late Show was losing to Jimmy Fallon’s Tonight Show by over a million viewers. However, when Trump became president, something happened for Colbert…there was a turning point for his show.

You can read this recent NY Times article for a hypothesis as to why this happened, but essentially, the turning point was a result of a three-hour heart-to-heart conversation between Colbert and his executive producer, Chris Licht.

AND DURING THAT MEETING, THEY MADE A DEAL…

“The deal was, he said, ‘Listen, let me make these decisions and don’t try to take them back from me,’” Mr. Colbert remembered. “And I said, ‘OK, well, don’t debate with me what’s funny.’”

So Mr. Colbert focused on the comedy and his performance, and Mr. Licht dealt with management issues that the host had been expending energy on: staffing, budgets, sales meetings, the works. [1]

After that meeting, Colbert started to ease up and focus on the things that came naturally to him. Leaving the rest to others.

Essentially, he became more of who he really was.

So in classic Colbert fashion, he made a deal with his team. Whenever they would beat The Tonight Show in ratings, they’d celebrate with pizza.

PIZZA? A REWARD LIKE THAT SOUNDS LIKE HIGH SCHOOL…

But it worked. It changed the atmosphere of the office. And so, as Chad Batka reported in his NY Times article,

Throughout the offices of The Late Show, staff members could be heard saying, “Pizza! Pizza!”—celebrating a reward that comes on Tuesdays when they beat The Tonight Show in the ratings. [2]

In light of the pizza party, here are my questions for you:

  • Does your team have something to look forward to?
  • After your team completes their goals—especially stretch ones—are you taking the time to celebrate?
  • When’s the next time you can use something as simple as a pizza party to bless and celebrate your team?

The fact is, no one can ever feel too appreciated. So it’s always better to over celebrate than under appreciate.

After all, as Patrick Lencioni likes to say, “Nobody ever leaves a company because they were encouraged too much.”

Consider starting today.

This article originally appeared here.

Meet the Worship Leader on Tour With Lionel Richie and Mariah Carey

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Tauren Wells is perhaps best known in the church world as the former frontman of the Christian band Royal Tailor. However, in between launching a worship school with his wife, serving on staff at a church and starting a solo career, Wells has landed an impressive gig: the opening act for Lionel Richie’s “All the Hits” tour, featuring Mariah Carey.

“I’m ecstatic to be added to a tour with such music icons,” Wells says. “It’s an amazing opportunity God has provided for me to share some of my new music, and I’m grateful to my team for working so hard on my behalf to make dreams like this a reality.”

Wells is performing songs from his new album, Hills and Valleys, which he released early this year.

Wells said he came up with the title song, “Hills and Valleys,” while he was jamming at church. As he was playing, a quote came to mind that says, “’When you’re on the mountain tops of life, learn to bow low, and when you’re in the valleys of life, learn to stand tall.’ And I thought man, this is a perfect picture for the believer.” Hence, the song is about learning to handle the mountaintop moments and the valley moments of life. “No matter where we’re at, we’re standing in God’s grace,” Wells explains.

Mandisa caught a glimpse of the fellow artist in action at the “All the Hits Tour” and posted the following video to her Facebook page.

But what might be even more impressive about Wells (besides his musical talent) is his commitment to the church. His wife, Lorna Brittany Wells, is the worship pastor of Roayalwood Church in Houston, Texas. Additionally, the couple launched Prisma Worship Arts School in 2014. The school has over 100 students and employs 20 “Dream Coaches” to help aspiring worship artists hone their skills and produce songs.

Lorna Brittany and Tauren also have two small children. Wells admits it’s hard to leave the kids while on tour, but he tells them, “You know why I’m leaving? To tell people about Jesus. That’s what we do.”

Ministry is on the forefront of Wells’ mind. When he signed with Provident Label Group to release his solo album, Hills and Valleyshe said he hopes “to use this solo platform as a way to minister to more, reach more and love more.”

You can listen to the title track from Hills and Valleys below.

Matthew McConaughey Named His Eldest Son for His Favorite Bible Verse

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Matthew McConaughey made an appearance on Good Morning America to promote the newest film he’s in, The Dark Tower. Straying slightly from the initial topic of the interview, the 47-year-old McConaughey shared the biblical meaning and significance behind his eldest child’s name.

“My favorite verse of the Bible is Matthew 6:22: If thine eye be single, thy whole body will be full of light,” the actor shared in the interview.

When his eldest son was born, McConaughey and his wife, Camila Alves, had six different names in mind. But, McConaughey said he didn’t want his son to be “Matthew Jr.”

Things took a providential direction when the doctor handed McConaughey a card and the couple was instructed to write the newborn’s name down. The time of birth read 6:22 pm. The couple took the time as a sign to name their son Levi, which McConaughey explains is another name for Matthew.

The actor is clearly proud of Levi, his nine-year-old, and his two other children: Vida and Livingston. In a 2014 interview with GQ, he admitted fatherhood has changed him, making him “more compassionate” and motivating him to go back to church.

McConaughey said church was a formative part of his childhood that he misses. “It’s a time for me to take inventory of my last week, to look at what’s in the future and say my thank-you’s and think about what I can work on to do better.”

While the actor does apparently read the Bible, the jury’s still out as to whether he’s made a commitment to Christianity. When asked if he believed in the resurrection of Jesus Christ, McConaughey said, “Well, it’s a heaven of a story, ain’t it?”

Dave Gibbons: Leading Your Church through Desert Moments

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Dave Gibbons is the founding pastor of Newsong Church in Santa Ana, California. He is also the Founder of Xealots, a global leadership network focused on Misfit Leaders. He has served on the boards of World Vision and Fuller Seminary. Dave has authored three popular books on leadership, culture, pain and what’s next: Monkey and the Fish; XEALOTS and Small Cloud Rising. Dave is married to Rebecca. They have four children pursuing their dreams.

Key Questions:

Church leaders today get a lot of advice about leadership from an organizational perspective. Can you talk about your view of leadership, strategy, and development from a spiritual perspective?
What is your perspective on pain and its ability to teach us?
What advice do you have for helping people embrace their God-given creativity?

Key Quotes:

“At the end of the day, I saw that we weren’t addressing the approach that Jesus did. He did the big crowds, but it seems like most of his life was given to the conversation, where there were these one-on-ones and these small groups, and in particular, it was his three and 12…So I said what would it look like if we actually re-allocated our resources from just focusing primarily on the community to actually focusing on the core?”

“When I was in this season [of change in our church], the Holy Spirit became the real elixir to me. Without him guiding me or strengthening me, I wouldn’t have been able to survive.”

“We’re living today in probably one of the most disruptive moments in history—not only in terms of economically, governmentally, nationally, but even spiritually.”

“When you’re in that desert stage where things are dying, you need to know that he’s honing you there and he’s giving you something that you’re not going to see unless you’re in the bareness. Because it’s in the dessert where the colors are obvious and the hues you didn’t see in the lush green are suddenly just starkly evident….You have to embrace the desert moment.”

“The millennials are hungering for leadership that’s actually fully present. So it’s not only that you’re authentic, but I think where we show the transcendent nature and power and beauty of God is when we can be fully present with someone and see them and know them and love them without any condition. And I think God is leading us to that dance.”

“Often the things you learn in the desert will be the very things that give you the sensitivity to focus where the Lord wants you to focus.”

“I think the incongruity [between how a pastor projects himself or herself and who he or she really is] causes a lot of stress, workaholism, addiction, because what you’re doing is you’re choosing to live a life of hypocrisy which I think that breeds an anxiety by itself.”

“When you think of [Jesus] in his perfect state and we’re all with him in heaven, he’s the only one that’s going to bear scars, and he’s still perfect.”

“He’s calling us to design processes where our people feel free and not burned out and anchored by an institution. It’s like our children should never feel like we’re holding them in prison to just do our household chores.”

“When you immerse yourself into a culture that’s dissonant or different than you, I think you actually start to understand who God is because he’s the ultimate ‘other’ to us sometimes as human beings. He’s foreign to us.”

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Why Sermon Preparation Is Not Devotional Time

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Every Monday morning, I swivel in my desk chair—praying, pondering. Yellow legal pads fill with chicken scratch in a language only I understand. About 50 Mondays a year, around 3:00 p.m., I start to wonder if I’ll have anything worthwhile to say the following Sunday. The other two Mondays I’m on vacation.

I know it’s the Holy Spirit, but many weeks it feels like sheer luck. My sermon comes together, and cogent points begin to form. I’ve heard of some pastors using their sermon preparation as a devotional time. For me, that could never happen. I sweat too much when I write sermons. I’d get dehydrated.

Sermon preparation is not—and should not—be used as devotion time. Sermon writing is devotional to an extent. Both involve prayer. Both elevate Scripture. Both require the work of the Holy Spirit. But they are different.

The purposes are different. Sermons are public. Devotional times are personal. The purpose of a sermon is to reveal the mysteries of God to the bride of Christ at a given moment. The purpose of a devotional time is to spur individual growth over time. There is overlap between them, no doubt. But the sermon is more acute in power, while the devotional is more longitudinal in power.

The processes are different. It’s not that sermon writing is a cold, mechanical process, and devotional times are warm, fluid interactions with God. The fruit of sermon writing can be similar to your devotion. However, the process of writing a sermon is—and should be—different than the process of having a devotional time. Sermons have a deadline. Devotionals are ongoing. Sermons have a weekly resolution. Devotionals require a lifetime of consistency.

The audiences are different. A sermon is meant for the entire church. In most cases, sermons have a broad audience—the 5-year-old and the 85-year-old. Five generations may listen to a sermon together in the same room. A devotional time, however, is exclusive to the individual. In order to separate the two, I make sure my devotional focus is different than the sermon series I am preaching. For example, right now I’m reading through Judges in my personal study and preaching through the Psalms in my sermons.

Your sermons should not act as a devotional time. It’s tempting. I spend 10 to 20 hours per week writing and preparing sermons. Is that enough to grow in Christ? I’m sure it is. But figuring out the path of least resistance is not the calling of a Christian. Is having two separate times efficient? No. But efficiency is not the primary calling of a pastor.

This article originally appeared here.

Why Your Church Needs to Talk about Vocation

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[Ed. Note: This article is adapted from a talk Amy Sherman gave at the Denver “Redeeming Work” conference sponsored by Christianity Today Institute September 2014.]

Congregational leaders, and especially pastors, often experience people telling them: “This is REALLY important! You MUST preach on this!” The “this” can be all manner of things, from evangelism to missions to financial stewardship to why the youth group shouldn’t be allowed to play paintball in the gym. Sometimes it’s easy to sort the wheat from the chaff. Other times, it can feel like there are 20 or so “top priority” topics for preaching and teaching. At Made to Flourish, we’re unapologetically arguing that teaching on faith and work is a top priority—in fact, one that ought to be ranked higher up than the top 20.

Why does it matter to have a strong theology of work? Why should congregational leaders help their flock connect faith and work? Why should we talk about vocation when there are so many other worthwhile things we could talk about, like evangelism or compassion ministry? Why does it matter?

1. It matters because discipleship matters.

Jesus has commissioned us to make disciples. Discipleship ought to be a primary topic congregational leaders are thinking about every day. And discipleship that doesn’t equip people for the activity they spend 40 percent of their waking hours doing is not discipleship.

You’d think that the activity people spend that much time doing would be addressed regularly from the pulpit. It’s not (at least in most churches). Dr. David Miller at Princeton University’s Faith & Work Initiative reports that fewer than 10 percent of church-goers can remember the last time their pastor preached on the topic of work. Research in 2014 by the Barna Group shows that nearly two-thirds of churched adults say it has been at least three years or more since they heard church teachings on work and career. (Happily, according to more recent research from the Center for Faith and Work at LeTourneau University, more pastors are preaching about a biblical view of work more often.)

But just not talking about work isn’t the only problem. Inadvertently, certain language and practices that are commonplace in churches can actually send a negative message to congregants engaged in the marketplace. Chuck Proudfit, a Harvard-trained businessman in Cincinnati who founded and oversees At Work on Purpose, one of the largest marketplace ministries in the U.S. (with over 5,000 active members) says businesspeople regularly complain they feel like second-class citizens at church. Why is this? It’s because the language at the church betrays a functional theology that accepts the sacred-secular divide. When congregants hear church leaders say, “Did you hear about Doug? He left the firm to go into full-time Christian ministry with Young Life,” it implies that Doug’s work at the firm was not full-time Christian ministry. Similarly, if the church regularly commissions “full-time missionaries” or commends the folks who volunteer as Sunday School teachers—but never commissions marketplace professionals seeking to be “missionaries” in their own vocational sectors and never commends the people in the pews who serve as full-time public school teachers, they reinforce this message that “churchy” work is what really matters in the Kingdom of God.

It may be the case that some pastors think they don’t really need to provide much teaching on faith/work integration because, after all, there are a lot of parachurch “marketplace ministries” out there that are doing that. Well, it’s true that there are indeed many such ministries. And some of them are doing a fine job of helping marketplace Christians understand their vocation in light of their Kingdom citizenship. But it’s also the case that the message of some marketplace ministries is insufficient: They limit their focus to the traditional three E’s: ethics, evangelism and excellence. Those three E’s are good but insufficient because they don’t concentrate enough on the work itself or connect our work to God’s work in the world.

“How to think about work” is not an arena we can just leave to chance. Average Christians need guidance from the church because the culture regularly bombards us with two loud and oddly conflicting messages.

On the one hand, there is a cultural message that work is everything. “What do you do?” is typically the first question strangers ask one another. Many of us are embarrassed if we cannot say, when asked how we’re doing, that we are “busy.” Many of us want people to know we’re busy—really busy. Because busy = important.

Americans work longer than the citizens of most nations. In the U.S., according to Forbes magazine, 86 percent of men and 67 percent of women work more than 40 hours/week at their paid jobs. In fact, 10 million Americans work more than 60 hours week. Americans work on average 1,778 hours a year—more than the British, the French and the Belgians. One in three American workers don’t take all their vacation days. Many rarely take time out for lunch. Not surprisingly, our society is replete with workaholics and all kinds of work-related stress and disease. In short, too many people are working too much and putting too much value, or investing too many hopes, in their work. Work has become an idol.

But there’s a second loud cultural message that’s common in America, and it’s a very cynical one. This is the message that work is generally stupid, meaningless and petty. Work is a curse, a drag; something we have to do because we’re not rich. It’s something we should try to avoid if at all possible.

Think about the huge popularity of the TV series The Office or of the comic strip Dilbert. They were hilarious, but they were also ruthless in their view of work as meaningless. Bosses are stupid, office politics are adolescent and company “missions” are a joke. It’s just dog-eat-dog, make a buck. It’s Dolly Parton’s “9 to 5” where they use your mind and you never get the credit.

Given these twin problematic pressures of contemporary culture on the folks in the pews, pastors need to step in. Congregants need to hear good teaching on a biblical understanding of vocation that can help them navigate the world of work faithfully in the midst of these unhealthy messages.

2. The vocation conversation is critical because failure to teach and equip on vocation and how faith and work connect is a major contributor to the young adult drop-out rate from church.

Hopefully, congregational leaders care about reaching the next generation and stemming the tide of Millenials leaving the church.

In his book You Lost Me, Barna’s David Kinnaman estimates that some 5 million young adults today—a group called “Mosaics” who are ages 18 to 29—leave the church or are putting their faith “on hold” in large numbers. Fifty-nine percent of Mosiacs drop out of church after attending regularly as a teenager.

Kinnaman argues that one of the most important reasons is that the churches don’t provide them a connection between Sunday and Monday. “One of the most recurring themes” in his research with dropouts, Kinnaman reports,

is the idea that [the Christianity they’ve been taught] does not have much, if anything, to say about their chosen profession or field…. It is a modern tragedy. Despite years of church-based experiences and countless hours of Bible-centered teaching, millions of next generation Christians have no idea that their faith connects to their life’s work.

These 20-somethings want their marketplace vocations affirmed, but instead hear theologically misguided teaching that “spiritual” work is superior to “secular” labor. They desire guidance and equipping on what it means to bring their faith to work, and how to renew culture through it. Instead, inside their congregations they have faced suspicion for their choice to work in fields like science, fashion and film. Coddled by overprotective parents and churches, they’ve also been warned to eschew the world and deploy their artistic talents only inside the church, where things are safe. But, Kinnaman notes, these young adults “want to be culture-makers, not culture avoiders.” Their churches have dismayed them with simplistic black-and-white answers that don’t match the complexity they sense in their world.

Kinnaman quotes one 20-something young woman, Kellie, who pleads with church leaders to change:

I am misunderstood by my Christian community because I am young and because I am a woman. People often assume that my international development work is just a “phase,” done for my own fulfillment, as if I do it for the thrill or for the snapshots I bring home. I would like my community to see my work for what it really is: the best thing I can do to act out the heart of Christ. It’s not a phase, but an important part of who Christ made me to be. Our work doesn’t look like a traditional Christian ministry.  The name of Jesus isn’t in our title, and evangelism isn’t the primary focus of our daily activities. But we are working for God’s kingdom and believe this is the way God would have us reach people for His purposes. God has placed a dream and calling within us, and we ask the church, rather than seeing us as young and idealistic, would see us as warriors of God who are acting as the arm of Christ, reaching the world with love, hope and empowerment.

3. The vocation conversation is critical because, to quote my friend Steve Garber, “Vocation is integral, not incidental, to the mission of God in the world.”

Again, hopefully congregational leaders care deeply about God’s mission in the world and the role their churches are called to play in that mission.

God through Christ is on a mission to renew all things. The grand story of His love begins with the creation of paradise in Eden and ends in a recreated garden city of perfect shalom. From the beginning God has invited human beings into this story. In creation, God invited human beings to become culture makers who make something of the world He created, filling it and ruling it with wisdom; tending and keeping the garden. He created us to be both lovers of Him and laborers with Him. (Or, better put, to receive both His love and His invitation to allow Him to work His purposes through us—for both our own and others’ good.)

The Fall alienated us from God. But through Jesus’ comprehensive atonement at the cross, comprehension redemption of all that was lost in the Fall—peace with God, peace with self, peace with others, peace with the creation—is made. The way is opened once again to be in a love relationship with God, and to participate again in His work, His mission in the world.

Because the missio Dei is about renewing all things, our daily vocations as Christ-followers have huge importance. In each workplace, in each work sector, Christ wants to work through us to promote all that advances His shalom and resist all that which corrupts it. Our daily work—not so much that week-long summer mission trip or the Sunday worship service—is one of the primary places where we participate with God in His mission in the world.

This is a message that people in the pew are hungry to hear. One 2014 survey reported that fully three-fourths of U.S. adults say they are looking for ways to live a more meaningful life. And among Christians there is an additional question being raised: What does God want me to do with my life? According to the survey, only 40 percent of practicing Christians say they have a clear sense of God’s calling on their lives. And the younger Christians—those in the millennial generation—are especially eager to hear counsel on this. Six out of 10 say that they want their work to make a difference in this world.

What an opportunity for pastors to respond, “Well, you can make a difference when you link your life’s work to Jesus’ work in the world.”

The pressure on pastors to preach on everyone’s pet subjects isn’t likely to diminish any time soon. But some topics really just are more important than others. Vocation is one of them.

This article originally appeared here.

The Biggest Mistake a Children’s Ministry Leader Can Make

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In children’s ministry, many leaders make a crucial mistake. A mistake that, if not corrected, can lead to ineffectiveness and burnout for the leader and their team.

Here it is:

Children’s ministry leaders see themselves primarily as managers, not leaders, of others.

Leadership exists to inspire, motivate and influence others, while management exists to plan, coordinate and execute the systems that make vision a reality. Management is important, but it’s far from leadership.

Here are three signs you might be too caught up in management to lead effectively:

1. Managers Have a Hand in Everything

Managers have a tendency to be involved in every aspect of their children’s ministry. One day, they’re planning long-term strategic goals, and the next, they’re making copies of the weekly curriculum. But, wait, why stop there? Managers also make sure to follow up on every task they’ve assigned to a volunteer (for accuracy, of course!), and they’ll also want to make sure they’re available whenever someone just “needs to chat.”

You get the picture.

Good leaders recognize when their plate is already too full, and they equip and empower others to fulfill the task at hand. Leaders also have a critical understanding that ministry managers often miss: They’re not always the best person for the job. Instead of relying on themselves, good leaders use their influence to bring others onboard who can simply do a better job than they can.

2. Managers Own Every Failure

When leaders adopt the role of having a hand in everything that’s going on, they also tend to assume control and ownership of everything that’s going on, too. Managers often attribute every success to themselves, not their team, and they do the same for the failures in their ministry.

This leads ministry managers to face two critical problems:

1. Abundance of personal guilt

2. Lack of interpersonal accountability

Failure is serious stuff for the ministry manager. When they’ve done everything humanly possible to be in control of every situation, yet it still goes wrong, they draw the inescapable conclusion: It’s their fault. The results of this guilt are myriad, and can be devastating for the ministry and for the individual.

Not only does this individual ownership of failure result in turmoil for the ministry manager, but it also creates a cultural identity for the ministry team that lacks accountability. Stripped of purpose (see “hands in everything”) and now accountability, team members being managed in this way often become apathetic toward the vision and mission of the ministry, and some may even quit altogether.

3. Managers Look Inward

Managers rely heavily on systems and structures within their ministry. The status quo of these systems and structures becomes the manager’s primary goal, and the team will feel it. Team members in this environment often hear the phrase “That’s not the way we do it here.” The manager is most content when the status quo is maintained and is often resistant to any change, even when change is desperately needed.

Managers exert control as their primary form of relating to their team. This makes sense, of course. If your goal is to preserve the status quo, then limiting the variables (like your team) is a logical choice. People, though, are not systems, and this approach often results in a stifling environment in which creativity is dampened.

Leading a Ministry

In contrast to these three potential pitfalls, good leaders limit their direct interaction, cultivate a team approach to failure and constantly dream big.

Limiting direct interaction is critical for leaders, especially in larger ministries. Managing 100+ people by a direct approach is difficult, but leading 100+ people directly is impossible. Good leaders recognize that their ability to influence and inspire their immediate circles is crucial to the outward motion of leadership that’s needed.

Cultivating a team approach to both successes and failures creates accountability for everyone on the team (it is not the leader’s responsibility to shoulder alone) and motivates team members to see their pivotal role in what is happening in the ministry.

Dreaming big and searching out new horizons is what will drive the ministry forward, and it’s the leader’s job to pursue it wholeheartedly. Allowing the status quo to be challenged and even equipping people to do it is a necessary part of leading a healthy ministry.

Stop managing; start leading.

5 Ways to Care for Your Team

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I’ve read through Proverbs dozens of times before. I’m not sure whether it was reading the verse in a different translation or just the thoughts on leadership going on in my head recently, but this stopped me in my tracks.

“Be sure you know how your sheep are doing. And pay attention to the condition of your cattle.” –Proverbs 27:23, NCV

Sheep don’t communicate.
Cattle aren’t sending emails.

Whoever is caring for them needs to regularly go out to the field and check in on them. See how they’re eating or if they’re getting lost or feeling sick. If the leader isn’t checking on them regularly, individuals or entire flocks could wind up injured, sick, missing or even dead.

I’m not sure what the person who wrote this proverb intended for his audience hear. Obviously he lived in an agrarian society and more than likely is talking about ACTUAL sheep and ACTUAL cattle.

But in the 21st century, leadership looks a bit different. With our office spaces, work-team cultures and git ‘er done enterprises, I can’t help but see this proverb as a metaphor for pastors and managers, directors and team leaders.

The modern leader’s translation might be as simple as this: Pay attention to the condition of the people under your care.

We’d love to assume that if something is wrong or if our people are hurting that they’d come to leaders directly. More often than not, that’s not the case. Leaders are often the last people to find out something is wrong—and usually end up hearing it from someone two or three people removed from the person with the issue.

It’s easy to get caught up in deadlines, meetings and the dailyness of completing the tasks required by our work. It’s even easier to forget that one of our primary jobs as leaders is caring for the people that help us get the job done.

And this is not OK.

Just think about that verse from Proverbs. These are STRONG verbs. The verse says, “Be sure.” Not just kinda look out the window and assume things are okay…ish. And, “Pay attention!” Why, because our attention is so cluttered with other things—phone (or smart watch) constantly dinging, impromptu meeting, parents who want advice—that means you have to carve out time, and specifically have a plan and actually figure out what is the litmus test for team morale and health.

That being said, here are five ways to care for your team:

  1. Initiate standing meetings: I get it; we all hate meetings. But think about this. Having a rhythm to check in will allow you to see your people through the good and the bad. I once worked for guy who only met with me when something was wrong. I knew that if I got an invite to Boston Market I was in for it—and not just because of the food. Regular check-ins are important to keep your working relationships healthy. They give you a chance to celebrate the good and improve the bad in a safe environment.
  1. Ask specific, open-ended questions: “How’s it going?” is not a good question. It’s too easy to answer with a “Fine” or “Good.” Rather, ask questions that give way to dialogue and keep the conversation moving with follow-up questions. Ask for input and suggestions; however, don’t write the person off if they can’t think of something right away. Some people need more time to process these sorts of questions. The right, open-ended questions allow your team to not only feel like you care for them, but they will ultimately feel valued as owners of how the ministry gets accomplished. When your team feels like owners, they will give more than 100 percent to the organization.

             Sample Questions/Conversations:

What are some of the “wins” you’ve seen in your area?
Share a few God-moments you’ve experienced in the past month or so.
What are the areas of frustration you face when it comes to your work?
If you knew everything you asked for would be a “yes,” what are the first three things you would ask for?
What are your goals for this season of ministry? How do you plan to accomplish them? What does success look like?

  1. Don’t freak out. Chances are that your people aren’t telling you what’s really going on because they’re scared of how you might react. As the leader, listen to them and offer to work together to fix the issues they bring up. By not freaking out, you’re keeping the door open for further conversations. People appreciate approachable leaders they can trust to remain steady even when the job gets tough.
  1. Encourage healthy morale. Thank people and celebrate them for the specific role they play in your organization. Even if they are behind the scenes and out of the spotlight, let them know their contribution to the team is valuable. Have fun. What you do is serious work, how you work doesn’t have to be serious all the time. Break out a 30-dance off. Surprise your team with donuts. Have soup week! Let your team know they matter as people not just cogs in your organization.
  1. Balance truth and grace. Not everyone will always perform well. If they need help, be honest and talk to them about it. People can’t improve what they don’t know is wrong. It’s better to talk them through the situation, get them help and set improvement goals. Hopefully, they will respond, make necessary changes and continue adding value to the organization. But it may not work, and unfortunately, sometimes it’s just a bad fit. If it’s time for them to discover other opportunities, let them go gracefully and generously. Continue leading them as you cheer them on and give them a leg up on finding their next position.


Your Turn
I’d love to hear how you care for the people you lead.

What’s the most creative way you’ve cared for your team?
What is the most challenging thing you face when it comes to paying attention to the people under your care?

This article originally appeared here.

Snapchat Wisdom on College Ministry Do’s and Don’ts

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No, this is not a post about how to use Snapchat (or any other social media) for growing a college ministry. Let me explain. I had this crazy idea last week to flood all of the college students I know on Snapchat with an informal research question. For those who do not know, I have served as a college/singles pastor at Lenexa Baptist Church in Kansas City and I am currently a New Testament faculty member at Hannibal-LaGrange University. My point is, I know a lot of college students and I am always looking for wisdom on how better to engage in effective ministry toward them. For the record, the number of students may not be statistically significant, but at least it was enough to arrive at some interesting conclusions. So, if you are currently doing college ministry or are pondering how to begin a college ministry, you may find what I am about to share helpful, or at least insightful. Now, here is the Snapchat question I asked,

What is one Do and one Don’t of college ministry?

I received a variety of responses. Allow me to list a few of them for you and then I will draw together some observations/principles for those of us who seek to faithfully minister to this unique generation. Here is a sampling of what they said…

  • Do not expect an immediate response when starting your college ministry.
  • Form friendships with college students with the intent of sharing the gospel.
  • Do not dumb down the gospel.
  • Know your audience.
  • Do not isolate your students from the larger body of believers.
  • Open up your life to your students.
  • Do life with them.
  • Keep your ministry “missional,” get it outside the four walls of the church.
  • Be careful in choosing your leadership.
  • Stay relevant.
  • Use challenging material that will make them dig deep.
  • Do not have too much structure; the ministry should have an organic feel.
  • Teach theology to college students.

From these and from my experience in college ministry, here are a few observations/principles that may help you get on the right track.

1. The size of your college ministry is not as important as you think it is.

Very little was said about students wanting to be part of a large college ministry. What was noteworthy is that students appear to value substance over sheer numbers. Unfortunately, in the past and from a pastor’s perspective, we have used numbers to gauge success. From the perspective of students, this conversation is not on their radar. Therefore, you would do well as a college minister to not base your worth on the size of your group. Churches, I exhort you, stop playing the numbers game with your leaders.

2. College students do not want shallow teaching, they long for depth.

Over and over again, from a majority of the students polled, I heard that depth of teaching was a major factor in whether they were attracted to or stayed connected to a college ministry. One student sent me this response,

I once had a Bible study on campus with students through Romans. You would not believe how hungry they were for depth. They had been given Sunday School answers all their life. Students love being part of meaningful conversations. I had one student so shocked that the Jews rejected Jesus, she slammed her fists on the table and yelled, “We need to tell them!”

In other words, put away the games you played in youth group and start digging deep into Jesus.

3. Relationships are more important than structure in college ministry.

Often, we begin with the opposite strategy. We are taught to develop the structure (what we do) and then, when we attract students, the focus shifts to building relationships (who we are). Almost every student responded with something about the importance of relationships. None of them were concerned at all with the format of the ministry. As a caveat, this is not to say that you have zero structure, throwing caution to the wind as you drink coffee with your students in a casual atmosphere. What I am noting is the priority you place on building relationships. In other words, focus more on who you are rather than what you do. As one student boldly declared, build a relationship with me before you lecture me. 

4. College students need engagement with the wider body of Christ, not isolation.

Here is a secret worth its ministry weight in gold. College students want to serve in your church. Give them leadership opportunities, however, as one student rightly said, do not allow students to serve if they are living a life of unrepentant sin. Connect students with married couples, senior adults, and above all, find places for them to serve out of the gifts they possess. Just because they are college students does not mean that they share in less of a portion of the Holy Spirit.

5. Patience is a must as you seek to disciple college students.

One of the first “snaps” that I received back read, Do not get discouraged when students seem to be living double lives, continue pouring into them. Another remarked, Do not make decisions for your students when they come to you for advice. Help them make their own decisions. I have discovered that ministry to college students is often messy, but you know, so is ministry to any other age group. It takes a calm, wise and patient leader to help guide students into Christ-likeness.

6. You have to be willing to open your life before college students.

I would note, if you are going to do effective, long-term ministry to college students, this principle is non-negotiable. They want to have fun with you as a leader, but they do not want you to act like a college student. They crave examples that they can follow and imitate. They want encouragement, but they value transparency the most. One student wisely said, Be willing to just hang out with me—but remember, it doesn’t always have to be about coffee. Some of our deepest relationships have been and continue to be built as open our home and our lives (for better or for worse) to college students.

7. Food, food, food…

It may seem simplistic, but if you feed them, they will come. One of the replies was telling as it got right to the point; food—it is hard to hear over a grumbling stomach. Remember this well and get this next sentence embedded in your strategy: A home-cooked meal may be the lifeline that a college student is longing for, especially if they eat off of a meal plan in their campus cafeteria, but even more importantly, if they are struggling with homesickness and afraid to tell someone. For many, this is the first time they have been separated from family. Your family could become their family.

Again, this post is a somewhat unscientific assessment on the best practices and common pitfalls of college ministry, the do’s and don’ts. But, I believe what is important to consider is that these principles are drawn from college students themselves. So, if you are doing college ministry or thinking of starting one, heed this practical wisdom. I truly believe that the generation that is in college right now is poised to do significant kingdom work. My prayer is that we see incredible gospel results as we faithfully minister to them.

This article originally appeared here.

Serious Injustice Calls for Serious Repentance

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One of the fastest ways to build friendship with someone is to complain together about the same people.

I’m sure that’s what was happening when the prophet Amos proclaimed the Lord’s judgment on Israel’s six neighboring nations (Amos 1:1-2:3). Nations like Edom and Moab were Israel’s competitors and enemies. And everybody likes to hear about judgment on their enemies. As Amos let the fire and brimstone rip, I can just imagine the people in the crowd nodding their heads and shouting back, “Amen! Preach it, preacher.”

But then Amos suddenly pivoted and started talking about Israel’s sin—which didn’t go over quite as well. This was God’s charge against Israel:

“They sell the righteous for silver, and the needy for a pair of sandals” (Amos 2:6b ESV). In other words, they exploited the poor.

“[They] trample the head of the poor into the dust of the earth” (v. 2:7). This means they used their riches to twist the justice system.

“And [they] turn aside the way of the afflicted” (v. 2:7). The Israelites were simply apathetic toward those who suffered. They lived lives of ease, comfort and luxury in the face of suffering.

Amos also called out their complicity with the new sexual order of the day. Israel was undergoing their own version of a sexual revolution, and God’s people were just going along with it. Even preachers quit preaching against it.

And, God says, maybe the worst part of it all is this: “Yet it was I who destroyed the Amorite before them.… Also it was I who brought you up out of the land of Egypt and led you 40 years in the wilderness, to possess the land of the Amorite” (vv. 9-10).

God saved the Israelites by grace, and they responded by ignoring and even exploiting others. They didn’t want to know what he had to say about how to live. The Israelites trusted God to save their lives, but they didn’t trust him to guide their lives.

Most infuriating to God, Amos said, is that they did all this while remaining fervent in their religious devotion. They came to church and sang God’s praises, but what occupied the rest of their week demonstrated that their hearts were a million miles away.

As you might expect, when Amos got done with this part of his sermon, the “Amens” had died down significantly.

When the Spotlight Turns

The bridge between Amos’ day and our day is not a hard one to make.

I can talk all day long about moral corruption in Hollywood, the secularist agenda being crammed down our throat by the media, activist judges who are misusing their positions in our country to curtail religious freedoms, the corruption and hypocrisy of groups like Planned Parenthood, and the evils of Islamic terrorism and the wickedness of religious persecution in places like Russia, China or North Korea.

And you would respond, “Amen!” just like Amos’ audience did.

But what happens when the spotlight turns on us? How many of Israel’s sins do we also see replicated in the church?

I know Christians who live in sexual sin throughout the week and then come to church on the weekend because they want God to be a part of their lives.

There are plenty of Christians in churches across America who work in businesses that use “legal” but ethically shady means in order to exploit those with less economic power.

And, of course, just as in Amos’ day, we have Christians who live in luxury while people around them perish.

We love talking about the sins of others, don’t we? But wouldn’t Amos probably say many of the same things about us that he was saying about Israel?

Judgment Begins With the House of God

And what if we persist in the same sins that Israel did?

“Woe to you who desire the day of the Lord! Why would you have the day of the Lord? It is darkness, and not light, as if a man fled from a lion, and a bear met him” (Amos 5:18-19a).

Again, I see the church in ancient Israel here. The Israelites talked about how much they yearned for God to come back and deliver them from their enemies. They wanted God to come back and bring the “good ol’ days” with him. But Amos said, “You really don’t want that.” He refers to “the Day of the Lord” five times, and it is always a day of judgment that begins with the house of God.

A lot of Christians today are like that: “Oh, Jesus, when will you rapture us? When will you come back and rule on earth?”

Be careful what you wish for.

For those walking in sin, Jesus’ coming will be like darkness, not light, like they are running away from a lion of a bad financial situation or bad politics and into the bear of Jesus’ judgment.

But therein lies the good news: The New Testament Apostles said that the “Day of the Lord” began on the day Jesus was crucified. There, the judgment we feared and deserved was poured out on him. And because of the cross, if we are willing to examine the sin in our lives, genuinely seek God and repent, we can find safety.

This article originally appeared here.

8 Gifts to “Pour Into” the Leaders You’re Developing

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It’s great to be “pouring into” people. That’s a popular phrase in today’s leadership environment. I’ve used it because I like the word picture of it.

Whatever I may have learned about life and leadership, I’m supposed to be passing along to others. But what does the phrase really mean? What, exactly, are we to pour into the people we lead?

We’ve been talking a lot as a church staff lately about leadership development. I really believe it’s the key to our reaching the next level of growth and effectiveness as a church. But I’m becoming aware of a couple of obstacles.

First, I’ve never led a church beyond where we currently are. I joined the staff of a church with well over 20,000 in weekend attendance, but I wasn’t there for the years when Saddleback grew from zero to their present size.

I’m facing the reality that what we’ve done so far as a new church plant has been good, but it isn’t sufficient to take us somewhere else. It’s the whole “law of the lid” that John Maxwell speaks about.

I think, on a practical level, that means we’re going to need to do some restructuring and shifting. We’re going to have to think outside of our already established routines. And we’re going to have to take some risks.

And the second obstacle is that I don’t think we’ve clearly defined what it is we need to be pouring into the leaders we’re developing.

Does that mean having coffee and chatting about life? Does it mean walking through a training course or workbook? I think the answer lies somewhere in between those two options.

There are at least eight gifts I hope to pour into the people I’m leading, and I hope they pass these gifts along to others too.

1. Love and concern

That is, living with a genuine interest in the lives of those we lead. And this is more than just the occasional “how are you?” question. It’s staying tuned in and aware of how life is along the way.

Loving people is pretty basic, but profoundly powerful.

2. Knowledge and skills

Obviously, if we’re going to raise up and train leaders, we need to pass along the knowledge and skills necessary to get things done. This comes in the form of apprenticing, coaching, resources and modeling.

3. Responsibilities, with clearly articulated expectations

I’ve had to learn a lot the hard way about being very clear in communicating my expectations of those I lead. I can’t assume that someone knows what results I desire to see unless I’ve painted a thorough and accurate picture for them.

4. Golden opportunities

As a leader, you no doubt always have a spot to fill and a task to assign. But do you reserve the very best opportunities—the ones most sure to be rewarding—for yourself? Or do you generously empower others with them to serve up the win to someone else?

Let me stop to note that the opportunities I’ve written about thus far are the easier ones to give. The rest get harder…

5. Theology—a peek into our view of God

You can always sit down with people and walk through some systematic theology, text-book style. But what I’m really referring to is that we speak openly of our faith in God in such a way that the people whom we lead have a bigger perspective of him from having been led by us.

6. Freedom

It’s hard to really let people go and entrust them with the freedom to fail, to make mistakes, to do things differently than we would do them ourselves. But that kind of freedom is necessary to effective leadership. When we fail to grant freedom, the best leaders will leave.

7. Accountability

Pastor Paul Chappell is always saying that “people only respect what you inspect.” My own tendency has been to give away tasks and responsibilities, but rarely to go and follow up on how it’s going. But good leadership requires us to check back in, to hold people accountable in a positive way.

8. Our big “YES!”

I’m not arguing that we should say yes to every idea or request that comes along. But those we lead should have the impression that it’s more likely that we’ll say “Yes!” than “No.”

Great leaders create “yes” cultures where people are encouraged to keep being creative. Sometimes leadership means saying “yes” to people even when it’s scary to do so.

I’m still figuring out how to give these gifts well, but I’m committed to doing so in order for our leadership development culture to thrive. You can have growth, or you can have control, but you can’t have all of both.

I want to err on the side of having just enough control to keep the train on the tracks.

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The Church’s Vital Role in Discipling Children

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Growing in the likeness of Christ is a community project. Christians may stand in judgment alone, but we will not arrive there alone. The Scriptures simply do not advocate people growing in conformity to Jesus all by themselves. We need the influence of others in order to mature in our faith, and this especially true for children.

How does the church play a role in helping children see the greatness of Jesus in all aspects of their lives? This video produced by the Village Church offers a vision for how this important process can work. Alongside age specific ministries for people of all ages, the Village Church encourages us to see the implicit ways a church can serve children.

The role of the church is to come along side parents by providing encouragement, support, accountability, prayer, and bearing with parents as they go through the inevitable hard seasons of parenting. The church also celebrates with parents when the work of God becomes more fully known in the lives of their children. We can also forget that there are many children who are spiritual orphans with no believing parents or guardians. In these situations, the church can fill the gap and provide the spiritual nurturing that child or adolescent needs.

As you watch this video, you may ask whether your church has an intentional strategy for discipling children.

10 Steps to a Better Offering

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“Just as we get going in worship, we have to stop and take up the offering!” That was the comment a staff member made a few years back when asked about the offering time at their church. It might not surprise you that with that attitude, giving had declined the year before at this church. That attitude permeates the church today. To increase giving and givers, we must recognize that the offering IS worship!

If you are a pastor, how much time did you spend this week preparing for your message? When I was in seminary, we had a preaching professor that said for every minute you preached, you should spend one hour of preparation. While I know few pastors that put in that amount of time, we all prepare and pray over our message. Why? Because it is so important.

So, let me ask you. How much time and preparation have you put into this weekend’s offering? Most would have to answer none or very little. Is the offering not important? If you struggle to make the budget, it suddenly becomes very important. Is not the offering a part of worship? Since it is worship, should we not put at least some thought and preparation into it?

Most offering times in churches are one of the most boring moments of the service. The typical church offering has become a routine that we rarely, if ever, put any thought or action into. Is it any wonder giving is declining? Here are some thoughts about how to break out of that rut and make your offerings inspiring and more impactful.

1. Elevate the importance of the offering first with yourself and then the entire staff. Work to change the attitude that the offering is an inconvenience, and see it as an act of worship.

2. Don’t be afraid to ask people to give. Never apologize for the offering. The offering is a time of worship. We never apologize for letting people give as an act of worship.

3. Plan out every offering just like you plan out every message. Spend time every week thinking through how to best present the offering.

4. Change the format and positioning regularly. Every once in a while, do something different to break the routine.

5. Always give a stewardship message before the offering is taken up. Work to craft one-minute messages that underscore the importance of giving. Use the time the ushers come forward to make a case for the offering.

6. Utilize testimonies before the offering as a means of inspiration. Laypeople expect you to tell them to give. When one of their peers talks about giving, they listen.

7. Use creative tools like video and skits to make the offering fun. There is a host of material out there. Use it. Be creative!

8. Always be positive with every offering appeal. Guilt never works, so don’t try to guilt people into giving.

9. Cast a compelling reason as to why people should give. People give to that which makes a difference. Tell them how their gift matters, and they will give.

10. Regularly tell people what their gifts have accomplished and thank them for their gifts. Blow your own horn. Link the offering to the ministries the church is doing. People give to success! People also like to be thanked. Never take your donors for granted.

I believe if you will incorporate these 10 steps, your offerings will dramatically pick up. Work and plan to make your offerings anything but boring!

Mark Brooks
President, The Charis Group

No one in America has written more on giving than Mark Brooks, The Stewardship Coach, writing weekly offering talks at www.Giving365.com. You can follow him on Twitter at @StewardshipMan or check out his blog at http://thecharisgroup.org/blog/.

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A Mid-Year Checkup: How Are You Doing?

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The year is half-way over. 

Do you remember your New Year resolutions? You might have tried to forget them back in February. Or you might still be chipping away at them. Either way, the half-way point of the year is a good time for a check-up. It’s a time to reflect on your resolutions or just take inventory of the year so far.

As you look back on the first half of this year, here are some questions to ask:

  • What are some of the highlights or major moments from the first half of this year? Are there events or circumstances that have kept you from pursuing some of your goals or desired changes? Are there things worth celebrating—goals met, changes made, blessings experienced, etc…? This helps me wrap my mind around both the good and bad of the year so far. It also provides a context for some of the changes we want to make in the second half of year.
  • How have I changed or grown as a husband/wife, father/mother, minister, employee/employer, student, friend? All of us have different roles and responsibilities. How are you doing in these roles at this point in the year? Are you struggling in any particular areas? Are you rejoicing in any particular area? Addressing these areas helps us look more holistically at our lives.
  • What would you like to do better or do more of the rest of this year? It is helpful to acknowledge the growth you have seen and yet seek to do more or do better in the remainder of the year. Rejoice in growth, but seek to grow more and more. Don’t let a rough start to the year in spiritual disciplines or life goals keep you from refocusing and seeking to change in the second half of the year.
  • What would you like to stop doing or do less of the rest of this year? Be honest. What have been the hang ups, obstacles or sins that need to be addressed at this point in the year? Often your answer to this question will arise from considering your answer to the previous question. Doing the things we know we should do or want to do more of means doing less of other things.
  • What will you do to implement these changes in your life? Every change we seek to make will require a plan. It will require counting the cost, evaluating the impact it will have on our life, and considering the ways we will accomplish it. Be realistic. Make plans prayerfully. Without a plan, you’ll merely be wishing for change. With a plan and prayerful dependence on the Lord, you’ll be on your way to seeing change in the second half of this year. 

You might also want to look at Donald Whitney’s 10 Questions to Ask at the Start of a New Year or on Your Birthday. 

Resources for the Rest of the Year

As you reflect and plan for change in the second half of the year, you may find some of the following resources (and ideas) helpful:

Bible Reading Plans:

Prayer:

Family Devotions:

  • 10 Ideas and 10 Tips for Family Devotions in 2017 – Whether you are in a groove or seeking to start family devotions with more consistency, this is a great resource for you.
  • Family Worship by Donald Whitney. In addition to the book, Crossway has provided a 5-Day Email Course: Family Worship 101.
  • A word of encouragement: It’s not too late to start or make a change in this area. Family worship often has rhythms to it. Find a way to get your family in God’s Word and prayer together regularly. Use or tweak available resources so they work for your family.

Evangelism

  • Begin with prayer. We simply cannot rush past this pivotal starting point. What we care about, we pray about. What we pray about, we often live out.

A 3-Fold Prayer for Evangelism:

God, give me an OPPORTUNITY today to speak to someone about Christ;
Give me WISDOM to see it;
Give me the BOLDNESS to seize it.

Marriage:

  • An End of Year Marriage Check Up by Kevin DeYoung. DeYoung’s questions are focused on the end of the year, but they are just as helpful for mid-year evaluation. Don’t neglect this area of your life. Get a sitter and go grab coffee over these questions.
  • Happily Ever After: Finding Grace in the Messes of Marriage by Desiring God (devotional). Maybe reading through something together as a husband and wife is your thing. This looks like a great resource from a number of different authors.

Time Management:

Finances:

  • Odds are you have experienced some financial stress this yearDon’t neglect this area. If you’re looking for a helpful basis of evaluation, check out Art Rainer’s The Money Challenge: 30 Days for Discovering God’s Design for You and Your Money. His website also has some great resources you may find helpful. 
  • Create a Budget. Most people don’t do it because it seems too daunting. I made this mistake early in my 20s. There are so many good resources available now that you do not have an excuse. If you have a budget, evaluate how you are doing and make necessary changes.
  • Visit with a Financial Advisor. You may even check if there are any financial advisors in your church. Most will review your information and walk through some action items at no cost.
  • Consider Using Mint. There are other personal finance apps, but this is my personal favorite. It allows you to see trends in your spending, which helps in setting your budget. It also allows you to sync all your accounts and bills in once place. Plus, you can use Mint on your phone, tablet or computer. 

Exercise: 

  • Check out the 7-Minute Workout Challenge. If you’re in a rut or unable to commit to join a gym, you might find this app a helpful resource. No weights required. Use it anywhere. 
  • Get a Gym MembershipOur family loves the Triangle YMCAIt offers multiple locations, great programs, childcare and connects us with our community. If you think you cannot afford a membership, ask about financial assistance plans at your local gym. 
  • Couch to 5k. I know, I know. If getting started seems daunting, this may be a great place to start. Accomplishing some goals can go a long way in starting exercising. 

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Jesus Loves the Rich

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Many people have a conception of Jesus that is—to put it as bluntly as possible—substantively deficient. Many envision Jesus as the prototypical religious leader who only cared for the outcast, the socially marginalized, the sick and the poor. A Marxist, revolutionary Jesus is the inevitable production of such a truncated conception. The Scriptures undoubtedly set forth Christ as one who preeminently exhibited deep and pervasive care for the poor and needy. Jesus attested to His own Messianic ministry by pointing to His compassionate miracles of healing for the needy (e.g., Isaiah 35:5 in Matt. 11:5). Additionally, Jesus teaches us that, if we are to be His disciples, we are to “invite the poor, the maimed, the lame, the blind” when we throw a feast, lest we fall into the snare of showing partiality and unjust preference to the rich who can repay us. But the Jesus of Scripture never showed partiality to the poor as over against the rich. The Jesus of Scripture came into the world to redeem rich and poor. A brief survey of the Gospel record teaches us this important lesson—a lesson that we so desperately need to learn if we are to be faithful witnesses to the saving grace of God in Christ to all in a day in which the rich are vilified by the poor.

In making this observation, I do not, in any way whatsoever, wish to downplay the incredibly serious dangers that accompany the accumulation of wealth. One cannot read the New Testament without being confronted with the many pervasive warnings that Christ and the Apostles raise with regard to greed. For instance, Jesus exposed the Pharisees for what they were in heart—“lovers of money.” The entire Pharisaic enterprise—and their subsequent opposition to Christ—was inseparably attached to their love of money (Luke 16:14). Additionally, Jesus gave the severest warnings about greed when He told the parable of the rich man and Lazarus (Luke 16:1-13) and the parable about the rich fool (Luke 12:13-21). The Apostle Paul raised the warning about the dangers of loving money when he wrote: “The love of money is a root of all kinds of evil, for which some have strayed from the faith in their greediness, and pierced themselves through with many sorrows” (1 Tim. 6:10). So many evils flow from the love of money. In fostering greed in our hearts, we put ourselves in danger of straying from the faith. James highlights some of the evils that flow from the love of money in his short but searching letter. Nearly half of the book of James is an indictment against the rich who were hearers of the word but not doers of it, who oppressed the poor, who showed partiality to other wealthy members in the church and who ultimately heaped up condemnation for themselves (James 1:10-11; 2:5-6; 5:1-2).

However, we must resist the temptation to allow the pendulum to swing in the other direction. We must resist the temptation to show partiality to the poor on account of the fact that there are many spiritual dangers that surround the rich. It is actually quite easy to convince ourselves that we are to write off the rich in favor of caring for the poor. In an age of sentimental humanitarianism, many would convince us that we are to fix all of our attention on the poor and that we are to leave the rich alone.

The redeeming love of Christ is not limited to or hindered by one’s socio-economic standing. This is good news for the poor. It is equally good news for the rich. There are echoes of this principle embedded in the Old Covenant Law of God. When the Lord gave instructions concerning the redemption price in the law, He insisted that “the rich shall not give more and the poor shall not give less than half a shekel, when you give an offering to the Lord, to make atonement for yourselves” (Ex. 30:15). This ordinance was clearly typical in nature, pointing beyond its own context to the spiritual realm of the ransom price that Christ would pay by shedding His blood for His people. The cost of redemption was the same for the rich and the poor. There is, after all, only one cost of redemption—the precious blood of Jesus (1 Peter 1:18-19). Additional principles of justice highlight this same indiscriminate concern for the rich and the poor. In Exodus 23:3, we read, “You shall not show partiality to a poor man in his dispute.” Then in Exodus 23:6, the Lord says, “You shall not pervert the judgment of your poor in his dispute.” It would be unjust to show preferential treatment to the poor in a dispute just as it would be to pervert justice for the poor in showing preference to the rich. God doesn’t judge based on socio-economic principles. He judges with righteous judgment.

The Christ who came into the world to redeem His people from their sin indiscriminately pursued both rich and poor. Though the rich young ruler walked away from Jesus sorrowful because he loved money more than God, the Scriptures tell us that “Jesus loved him” (Mark 10:21) while ministering to him. That account also set the stage for Jesus’ teaching about the rich entering His Kingdom:

“When Jesus saw that he became very sorrowful, He said, ‘How hard it is for those who have riches to enter the kingdom of God! For it is easier for a camel to go through the eye of a needle than for a rich man to enter the kingdom of God.’ And those who heard it said, ‘Who then can be saved?’ But He said, ‘The things which are impossible with men are possible with God’ (Luke 18:24-27).

The oft-cited verse, “The things which are impossible with men are possible with God,” is set in the context of Jesus teaching His disciples about the redemption of the rich. Immediately after teaching this principle, Jesus exhibited the reality of it when He saved Zacchaeus, who “was rich” (Luke 19:1-10).

When we scan the pages of the Old Testament, we find that there were some wealthy listed among the greatest of the redeemed (e.g., Abraham, Job, Joseph, David, Solomon and Daniel). When we come to the New Testament, we find Jesus redeeming wealthy religious leaders like Nicodemus, as well as a number of wealthy tax collectors (e.g., Zacchaeus and Matthew). We come across financially prosperous women who cared for the Savior during His earthly ministry (Luke 8:3), as well as wealthy women who opened their homes and ministered to believers after Christ’s resurrection (Acts 16:14-15; 2 John 1). We discover that the Savior was buried “with the rich at His death” (Is. 53:9; Matt. 27:57-61). We find the Apostle Paul teaching Timothy to “command those who are rich in this present age not to be haughty, nor to trust in uncertain riches but in the living God, who gives us richly all things to enjoy” (1 Tim. 6:17).

So, while we should give careful attention to the serious and severe warnings that the Lord, throughout His word, raises about the rich—we must also recognize the redeeming purposes of Jesus in ransoming for Himself a people, regardless of their socio-economic status. We must come to terms with the fact that the grace of God is not hindered by socio-economic status. We must understand that rich and poor need the same costly redemption—salvation through the blood of Jesus. And, we must labor to see the wisdom of God in redeeming both rich and poor in this life, so that both will benefit from one another in the unique way that He has designed for them to do so in His church. We must remember the words of the Savior: “How hard it is for those who have riches to enter the Kingdom of God…but, the things that are impossible with men are possible with God.”

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People Hate Meetings—So How Do You Train Leaders?

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People hate meetings. Meetings are inconvenient. People are busy. So, we really need to ask the question: What is training?

Training can be a blog post. In fact, that’s how my blog at allenwhite.org got started. I would answer one of my leader’s questions each week and send it to all of the rest.

Training can also appear in your video-based curriculum, if you are developing your own. By adding weekly training to the video, leaders have what they need when they need it as they go through the materials.

Training can be sent by video through an email. Any small group pastor/director with a smartphone, a tablet or a laptop can record a two-minute video (not longer) and send it out to his/her small group leaders each week. This is even better than training delivered with video-based curriculum, because you can answer timely questions as they are asked rather than anticipating what questions they might ask.

Yes, we still need initial training to get a group started. This could happen between services or even during a service, but we need to rethink small group training. If leaders are learning through blogs, books, articles or video emails, then that IS training.

One day I was talking to a pastor who came from a career in corporate training. As we talked about delivering training to group leaders when they needed it, he said, “You know, considering my background, this is going to sound funny, but the best training comes from the person who is proximate to the group leader when he or she is facing a problem.”

Rather than creating a seminar on common group issues and rounding everybody up at the church on Tuesday night, a conversation with an experienced leader or coach at the right time produced more meaningful training. Group leaders are best served when the training meets a current need as they are facing it. Leaders aren’t concerned with difficult group members until they have one. Leaders can be trained and prepared to a certain extent, but chances are they won’t remember what’s given to them if they are not currently facing the problem.

One Sunday morning a group leader who was a former member of my small group came up to me in the church lobby. She was concerned about an overly talkative member of her group and how to handle the situation. I had to laugh to myself because this former overly talkative member of my group was asking her former overly talkative group leader about a problem she was having with an overly talkative person in her current group. Ironic, huh?

In just a few minutes, I gave her a couple of tips on how to handle the situation. She thanked me. After the next meeting, the problem was solved. The over-talkative group member felt insulted and never came back. OK, that’s not true. The group member received the message loud and clear and cooperated from then on.

This group leader didn’t need to wait for the next training to come around, she came directly to me. She didn’t need to take copious notes from my training, it stuck in her head. Why? Because I gave her the training she needed when she needed it. Those are the lessons that stick.

While there is certainly a place for centralized Basic Training, the best training comes from the coach when group leaders need solutions to their problems. Rather than conducting meetings, develop relationships. Blogs and video training can certainly supplement what the coaches are doing, but the coach is the primary trainer. Small Group Pastors and Directors should invest their time in training coaches and developing their Small Group Team rather than overshadowing their coaches and micromanaging group leaders.

The world of training has changed. Online courses are replacing university campuses. Crash courses in some fields are all someone needs to build a successful career. If centuries-old educational institutions can innovate how they train and equip the future workforce, then it’s time for the church to innovate as well. Training tools should be developed for individual leaders through digitally interactive technology. Groups of leaders can be trained online, but meet individually with their coach in person. Mobile devices, social media and voice mail have made it possible to literally “encourage one another daily.”

Excerpt from Exponential Groups: Unleashing Your Church’s Potential by Allen White. Published by Hendrickson Publishers. Copyright (c) 2017 by Allen White Consulting, Inc. All Rights Reserved.

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