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Is There Still a War on Christmas?

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There has been a lot of dialogue in the Evangelical world in recent years about a war on Christmas. The cry was to say “Merry Christmas” in defiance to something like “Seasons Greetings” or “Happy Holidays.” Regardless of the words we use, the war on Christmas is fed from lawsuits to remove civic-sponsored Nativity Scenes and school prohibitions about mentioning the Jesus of Christmas. However problematic the external forces of our society press against a Christ-centered Christmas, it may be our in-house disregard of Advent that sets us back. Could our fight for Christmas be a fight against Advent?

Advent traditionally is a focus on the waiting for the coming of Christ, making it even more difficult to translate to a secular world than simply a baby being born. Is the war on Christmas between secular Santa versus Jesus? Or could we be pitting a shallow Christmas glee against the poignant focus on a child born to make an ultimate sacrifice? Light set against the dark defies the sugar syrup of sentimental Christmas story re-tellings. Having produced many Christmas seasonal services over the years, the tension to deepen the idea of the Incarnation pushes back on the cry to feel the saccharine vibe of candy canes. We feed the beast of sentimentality as a means but might be losing something vital in the process. (I actually think Santa is way cool, by the way.)

Celebrating along with our culture and society a season of hope and giving makes for a needed connection. Those who are not church goers need to know most of us like a lot of the same things and that our point is to not evangelize for a boring Christmas. However, as far as us worshippers are concerned, why would we choose to not make the season of holy days a time to contemplate for ourselves? In reality, the tradition of four weeks of Advent leads to a traditional celebration of 12 full days of Christmas! Once we spend time in contemplating the waiting and need for a God-man to save us, the festival of Christmas can be launched from a truth we experience. Truth experienced is always better than propositions regurgitated, by the way.

5 Ways You MUST Lead Your Kidmin Volunteers

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Leading in children’s or family ministry is hard. It’s complex and challenging. It’s time consuming.

To lead your kidmin volunteers is, perhaps, the most difficult form of leadership (here’s a post on this).

Too often, in my own experience and in working with churches across the country, I see trying to lead their ministry without leading their volunteers. That might sound counter-intuitive, but it’s true. Once the volunteer is in place, we seem too often to simply forget about them until there is a crisis. That’s a great way to lose volunteers. And it’s simply not right.

I believe that, as leaders, our responsibilities for volunteers goes beyond simply enlisting them and putting them in to ministry. Our responsibility is to walk with them in the journey of faith and service.

LEAD YOUR KIDMIN VOLUNTEERS:

1. Know them personally. 

“Ministry happens best in the context of relationships.” Always has, always will. Whether this is parent to child, volunteer to child, staff to parent, or staff to volunteer, ministry always works best in the context of relationship.

Getting to know your kidmin volunteers is critical to successful ministry and enables all of the following responsibilities to a far greater extent.

2. Listen to them often. 

Besides being the best way to get to know them, listening also is the first step in sharing the vision (see the next responsibility). And do you know that I’ve had more great ideas about my ministry from volunteers than anywhere else? These are the people in the trenches, seeing the reality of what’s going on. They often have the best perspective of what will work and what won’t, what is needed and what isn’t.

3. Align them with vision.

Vision is (or should be) what you and your ministry is all about. That vision must be aligned with the overall vision of the church, and then successfully transferred to your volunteers. If they are not actively engaged with the defined vision, then more than likely they are doing little more than (at best) teaching some great ideas and (at worst) simply babysitting.

4. Equip them for serving. 

This is your primary responsibility as a church leader—equip people to do the work of ministry (Ephesians 4:12).

5. Engage them spiritually. 

This, of all the things listed here, is the area where I believe we fail the most. Leading in children’s ministry in any capacity is a sacred responsibility. Yet how many of us follow up on the spiritual lives of our volunteers? How often do we ask what they are learning, or how they are growing, or what they are struggling with?

This does not require personal discipleship of volunteers (although that would be great with some), but rather simply creating systems, having conversations, and engaging them in their spiritual journey. Not only is it our responsibility for the purpose of protecting the ministry we are called to lead, but it’s our responsibility because they are as much a part of “our ministry” as the families we serve.

IDEAS FOR FULFILLING RESPONSIBILITIES

  • Decide that these are priorities.
  • Align your work habits with these responsibilities. This means you probably need to delegate things that others can do so you can focus on what only you can do (like these responsibilities).
  • Create systems (it’s OK … even if you think having a system “de-personalizes” some of this, it’s better than not doing it at all. Here’s an example of having a system: The Best Connection Tool).
  • Equip other key leaders (whether staff or volunteers) to carry the load of these responsibilities so that they become part of your ministry culture.

For more great articles on leading volunteers, check out 25 Best Articles on Leading Volunteers (That Get Them to Stay and Thrive!)

Free Kids Lesson Package: “Diary of a Godly Kid”

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Free Kids Lesson Package

From CMD, “Teach kids about becoming a kid after God’s own heart.  Week 1 is all about making Godly plans. Sometimes we feel like we aren’t strong enough or smart enough or important enough to do anything really great. But God has big plans for kids who seek after his heart. 1 Samuel 16:1-13. Samuel Anoints David.”

This lesson package includes:

  • Make It Stick! Parent Sheet
  • Memory Verse
  • Skit
  • Object Lesson or Kids Sermon
  • Large Group Lesson
  • Small Group Discussion
  • Large Group Game
  • Take Home Activity

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Should You Attend a Friend’s Same-Sex Marriage Ceremony?

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Occasionally I receive emails from church members asking for my opinion on various personal or church problems. With this week’s U.S. Supreme Court ruling clearing the way for same-sex marriage in 30 states, an inquiry I received recently is relevant to all Christians—particularly pastors.

Since many church leaders will inevitably receive this kind of question, they must decide now whether they will advise their members to choose a biblical stance or “go along” with our society’s ever-lowering standards.

The letter

“I am a follower of God wanting to walk in His truth,” this person wrote. “I have been invited to a same-sex celebration of marriage by two, long-time Christian friends.

“I could attend because I love both of them and could celebrate their happiness, but I could not celebrate their union as a marriage. If I go I feel like a hypocrite, and if I don’t go I feel like a hypocrite. I am seeking counsel.”

My answer

I told this individual it was easy to understand his dilemma. He doesn’t want to alienate those he loves, but he doesn’t want to leave the impression he is endorsing immoral behavior. Most importantly, he doesn’t want to displease his Heavenly Father.

However, I told the letter writer this would not pose a difficult decision for me: I would not attend. He is being invited to participate in a ceremony that mocks God’s intent for marriage.

“The Scripture teaches that marriage is a sacred covenant between a man and a woman and God,” I said. “Marriage was not man’s idea. It was instituted by God in the Garden of Eden and (to paraphrase Matthew 19:6): ‘What God joins together man is not to separate.’ If I were invited to a polygamists’ ceremony of a man marrying four women, I wouldn’t attend because that ceremony would desecrate the sacred covenant that God ordained.”

While one can rationalize, “I’m not endorsing their behavior, I’m just being a friend,” his presence says to his children and others that gay marriage is OK. God destroyed Sodom and Gomorrah for this kind of behavior. And, Hebrews 13:8 states that Christ “is the same yesterday and today and forever.” James 1:17 teaches that God “does not change like shifting shadows.’”

Paul’s words

In the first chapter of Romans, the Apostle Paul documents the immoral behavior that characterized the world in his time. The list included same-sex relationships. He concludes with these words: “Although they know God’s righteous decree that those who do such things deserve death, they not only continue to do these very things but also approve of those who practice them” (Romans 1:32, emphasis added). I counseled this person that we must be careful not to leave the impression that we have caved in to the world’s pressure and approve of what God’s Word clearly prohibits.

“There’s one other factor,” I said. “Your attendance not only puts you in an uncomfortable position but an untenable one. You will be expected to respond to favorable comments like, ‘Isn’t this exciting?’ (or) ‘I’m happy for them, aren’t you?’ That setting would not be an appropriate environment for you to voice your convictions.

Should You "Theme" Your Worship Service?

Several months ago, I attended a large gathering of worship leaders, and during one of the sessions, someone introduced themself by saying, “Hi, I’m __________ and I’m a recovering thematic worship planner.” I didn’t realize that thematic worship planning had become taboo, and lots of questions began to flood my mind.

Why in the world would he say that? And what did he mean? Have worship leaders really begun to abandon the potentially beautiful connection between the music and the message? Doesn’t that do a disservice to the people we lead?

After gathering my thoughts again (and pondering the value of thematic planning for weeks afterward), I began to realize that there are still compelling reasons why I continue to plan worship thematically. Each week, I prayerfully, assiduously and deliberately choose songs that will help reinforce the message that our church community will hear from the Word of God. And I do it unapologetically. I still believe that thematic worship planning has remarkable benefits, and while some are the obvious ones you might expect, not all of my reasons are simply for the congregation at large.

Thematic Planning Reinforces the Message
This one is most obvious. Particularly in America, where it seems biblical literacy is at an all-time low, anything I can do as a worship leader to help underscore any piece of truth from our weekend teaching is worth it to me. Music and the spoken word have the ability to dance together in perfect form, and when one of our songs complements a teaching pastor’s message perfectly, our people connect to God’s truth on a different level—one that I believe is helpful.

Thematic Planning Helps Our Teams
More than actually having Truth reinforced, many times our intentionality helps our teams understand the purposeful nature of our leadership and planning. When my band rehearses one of the featured songs that we’ll use immediately following the message, they know that it’s been selected with care and we talk about how it’s connected to the teaching. And when we have a greater sense of purpose moving into our weekend services, we have a higher level of unity across all of our teams. We know that there’s a particular theme that we’re trying to help our attendees understand, and we’re working together to accomplish that goal.

Thematic Planning Helps Us Grow as Artists and Creative Leaders
It would be really easy for me to quit planning thematically. I wouldn’t have to go to the trouble of working with my teaching team to learn about their messages. I wouldn’t have to pour over music for hours on end looking for the perfect song for a particular subject matter. And I wouldn’t have to have extra meetings for the purpose of creative and thematic planning. But I feel like it makes me a better leader. I feel like we honor God in the process. I believe that my teaching pastors are going to great lengths to understand God’s desires for their weekend messages, and that knowledge demands the same investment from me as a creative leader.

Pastors: 7 Women You Should Watch Out For

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Editor’s Note: This article is intended to help pastors and leaders live and act wisely in their relationships with the opposite sex. We also know that this post only covers the male segment of ministry leaders. We hope to run an additional article in the future from a woman’s perspective. Also, to balance this article out, you might want to read 7 Sexual Lines No Pastor Should Cross.  

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“For the lips of an adulteress drip honey, and smoother than oil is her speech” (Proverbs 4:3).

Before there was a folk singer by that name, James Taylor was a professor of preaching. This veteran teacher of preachers held forth in classrooms at New Orleans Baptist Theological Seminary for many years. One day, in a room filled with young preacher boys, Dr. Taylor cautioned us about the temptations we would be facing.

“The day will come when a woman will sit in your office and proposition you. She will make herself available to you sexually. If your marriage is in trouble or if you’re not up-to-date in your relationship with your Lord, you could get in big trouble fast.”

I raised my hand. “Dr. Taylor,” I said, “do you really believe that every one of us in this room will face this?” My mind was incapable of imagining a scenario in which a woman—any woman—would sit in a pastor’s office and try to seduce him.

“Yes, I do,” he said. “Even you, McKeever.”

That got a laugh.

I lived to see that day. (Fifteen years after she sat in my office making herself available to the young preacher, while preaching in another state, I spotted that woman and her husband—the same husband whose antics had given her cause to seek my counsel originally—in the congregation. I was thankful I had gotten this thing right in my office that day.)

The writer of Proverbs tried to do the same thing Dr. Taylor did for us in seminary that day: prepare the young lad for what he would be facing down the road.

“My son, give attention to my wisdom, incline your ear to my understanding;

That you may observe discretion, and your lips may reserve knowledge.

For the lips of an adulteress drip honey, and smoother than oil is her speech; But in the end she is bitter as wormwood, sharp as a two-edged sword.

Her feet go down to death, her steps lay hold of Sheol. She does not ponder the path of life; her ways are unstable, she does not know it” (Proverbs 4:1-6).

The remedy for this—in a sense, the armor which protects one from such a vamp—the writer goes on to say, is to “drink water from your own cistern” (4:15). He gets rather explicit in his counsel to a young husband to satisfy himself intimately with his wife and with no one else.

Many a man of God has sabotaged his own ministry by sexual sin.

They’re all through scripture. We think of the sons of Eli, the high priest. “The sons of Eli were worthless men; they did not know the Lord” (I Samuel 2:12). “They lay with the women who served at the doorway of the tent of meeting” (2:22). The Lord had no patience with such antics and put them out of business quickly (4:11).

10 Ways to Maximize Your Church Anniversary

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In our consulting ministry, a question that occasionally presents itself is what to do when it’s time to celebrate a ministry or church anniversary. Most people intuitively get that something could/should be done, but often find it hard to know what to do about it.

Ironically, in the past few weeks, we’ve consulted with four different ministries or churches about this. My goal has been to help them wrap their minds around how to maximize these opportunities to strategically gain momentum. Two of the ministries are turning 40. One is turning 10 and the other a whopping 175 years of age! What a contrast.

Anniversaries represent a significant opportunity for you and your constituents or members to pause, reflect and celebrate God’s activity in and through your ministry historically.

But they also represent a great opportunity for you to help others see the vision God has burned in your heart and to open a window for them to peer into the ministry’s future. A celebration that’s done well can help open minds and prepare hearts for further Kingdom impact.

Here are several ways to maximize your ministry or church anniversary:

1. Start with spiritual renewal.

Nothing will set the tone better.

2. Glance back with your church anniversary.

Biblically, people need to remember where they’ve been, why they’ve been there and what they’ve done while they’ve been there. Reflect and remember.

3. Pause.

Think and talk about what is happening now. This is a great way to set the stage for what’s to come. Sometimes people need to zoom in on what is happening in their immediate context before they’re ready to receive grandiose ideas about the future.

4. Focus forward with your church anniversary.

Cast huge vision for the next major phase of your ministry. There is no more natural time to do so. An anniversary that is properly celebrated goes full cycle and begs some questions about the future. You should at least attempt to answer them.

5. Encourage your internal team and supporters.

Those who helped you get to this point will appreciate you appreciating them. It’s what gracious men and women of character do.

Screening Procedures for Childhood Ministry

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Careful screening procedures are needed for all volunteer and employed preschool and children’s leaders and teachers. When appropriate procedures are consistently followed, your church is in a position to protect children, safeguard teachers and reduce the legal liability of your church.

Assure teachers and potential teachers that their cooperation with the screening process helps your church meet moral, spiritual and legal responsibilities with loving diligence.

Getting Started

The implementation of screening procedures is a large task and involves the present and future well-being and reputation of children, teachers, and the entire church. Therefore, screening procedures should include these preparatory steps:

Involve all ministerial staff, church leaders and appropriate committees in researching and educating themselves regarding this matter.

Consult your church’s attorney for help in all aspects of the screening process, including the questions you ask, the forms you use and the confidential records you maintain.

Consult with your insurance company.

Build church awareness and support through presentations, printed information and discussion groups.

Document official church action regarding policies and procedures.

Encourage all ministers and staff members to undergo the screening process to set a positive example for others.

The Screening Process

Steps in the screening process include the use of screening forms, personal interviews, and background checks.

You will need release forms signed by all teachers permitting you to conduct reference, background, and criminal checks.

Contact all references and complete the background checks prior to the personal interview. You will need written documentation of contacts you make with references and information you discuss in the personal interview.

During the personal interview, document the person’s responses regarding his Christian testimony, special interests in working with children, past teaching and volunteer experience, interest in receiving training and other related information.

All of this information is confidential and must be kept filed in a secure area.

Feeding Your Spiritually Hungry Kids

Children’s story books have always amazed me. In complete simplicity, there is often a message so profound (1 Corinthians 1:27– ”But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise”). I was looking at one of the all time classic children’s books, The Very Hungry Caterpillar recently, when God began to speak to me about growth.

Kids always have an appetite for more. I always think back to this classic line from the musical film Oliver!; ”Please sir, can I have some more?”. Through the faith of a child, Oliver had an expectation for more.

As a Children’s Pastor, each week I witness kids who walk into the church hungry…hungry to learn, to be loved, encouraged, accepted and challenged. In every child there’s a hunger for more. The truth is, just like The Very Hungry Caterpillar, our children are consuming anything and everything that’s placed in their path.

As children’s leaders we must recognise:

Children consume anything within reach

The Very Hungry Caterpillar begins his journey devouring anything in sight! Young children are eating machines, they don’t care what it is, but it will soon end up in their mouth. The early years really are a crucial time for us as parents and leaders to sow the things of God into our children’s lives. Never let a week go by without challenging your kids to learn a memory verse. This can even be introduced as the child is learning to read or it can be memorised through song. What is sown at this early age will never be lost or forgotten. Also, don’t become too controlling over their development. Our kids will grow even when they consume those things which are unhealthy. As a kid I drank a lot of soft drinks (Soda). My mum would buy this stuff by the gallon. Did it stop me from growing? No, but it probably wasn’t great for my chompers… We can be certain that as we sow and as we water, that our God stimulates the growing process. God will convict, discipline and love our kids in ways we never could.

Growth occurs in the secret place

We follow the caterpillar to a place where he wraps himself up into a cocoon. Here is the place where the amazing transformation occurs! Don’t get frustrated if you’re not seeing a change in a particular child. There may be some kids in your church who may be regularly disruptive or appear disinterested. Don’t give up!  Ask the Holy Spirit for a key to release this child’s expectation. They may simply have a different learning style that you need to include as you lead from the front. We must never lost heart after those Sunday’s where you couldn’t seem to engage a particular child.  Just like the caterpillar in the cocoon, it’s former appearance is just a glimpse of what’s to come. Significant transformation occurs in the secret place, and it’s only God that can operate on the heart. We must lead our kids into a place of dependency on God, not on ourselves. It’s never our responsibility to grow the seed, that responsibility is God’s alone.

A transformed child is free to be themselves

We all know the ending to this story… What was fat, green and hairy, soon transformed into something beautiful! What used to crawl awkwardly on it’s stomach soon glided gracefully through the sky, spreading it’s wings.

We recently had our team discipleship, where we meet to worship, share and connect as a family. As we begin every discipleship in worship, I felt it was only fair on my team that we should be led by someone who could actually hold an audible tune (I’ve learnt very quickly when not to lead). So I asked our Youth Pastor if we could join with the youth team for worship before we broke off into our different rooms. He was more than happy to include our kids team, so we joined in. After the worship, with tears in his eyes, our Youth Pastor thanked each member of our team for what they’ve sown into the life of our kids. He began to share that the teens who graduate from our kids ministry stand out amongst the rest of the teens who attend their programs. He also shared that although we may not see the fruit of what we’ve sown, they do.

The truth is, that they are seeing a group of teens who have been transformed in secret. Kids who have not only gone through the outward changes of growth and development, but have clearly been transformed into a life which glorifies God.

As kids leaders we may never see the other side of a life transformed, but know this, God is at work in the heart of every child as we teach, disciple, encourage and love. Remember, our role is to keep them hungry, but in the end God transforms. If we lead, they feed. Then God does the rest in the secret place.

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