Carey Nieuwhof: How to Overcome the Cynicism That Saps Leaders of Strength

Carey Nieuwhof

Carey Nieuwhof is a former lawyer and founding pastor of Connexus Church in Ontario, Canada. In addition to being a pastor, Carey is the author of numerous books and articles focused on the topic of leadership. His latest book is Didn’t See It Coming. Carey and his wife, Toni, have two grown sons and live just north of Toronto, Canada. 


Key Questions for Carey Nieuwhof:

– Why are so many of us in ministry cynical?

– How does cynicism impact our relationship with God?

– How is cynicism a decision we make for ourselves?

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Key Quotes from Carey Nieuwhof:

“Cynicism is subtle, but it’s identifiable because it means, ultimately, the loss of hope.”

“One of the trademarks of cynicism is you take your past failures and your past hurts and you start projecting them onto the future.”

“Your past hurt starts to pronounce a death sentence on your future.”

“Most cynics are former optimists.”

“You find leaders who want to care, but have stopped.”

“When I close my heart to people, I close my heart to God.”

“Love actually requires an engagement of the heart, an engagement of the mind, an engagement of the will, and that is something that cynical people won’t do.”

“I think it is a male thing to want to be isolated and think that you’re a rock.”

“I realized that if I was going to build new friendships, I would have to put my heart into them.”

“Cynicism has its source in knowledge.”

“There is a group of people I want to be a part of by the grace of God. These people see life for what it really is, but keep their heart fully engaged.”

“Curiosity really fuels optimism–the cynic knows.”
“Ask more questions than you give answers….Rather than solving somebody’s problem for them, just ask them questions. Don’t try to be the smartest person in the room.”


Links Mentioned by Carey Nieuwhof in the Show:

Cynicism and burn out tests:

CNieuwhof on Twitter, Facebook, Instagram


Carey Nieuwhof on ChurchLeaders:

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