I’ve been a wisdom-seeker all my life. Thankfully, I have had some great leadership influencers in my life and I have sought to learn from each of them.
Beginning with my high school principal when I was student body president. He taught me to take responsibility for my actions, but not to trip over my own humility. And a man in retail, who took interest in me in college. I was technically his “boss,” but he was every bit the leader to this young, inexperienced, first-term manager. He taught me I cannot lead alone. I may be the leader, but there is no leader without people.
I’ve been blessed with good role models. And, I have had some leaders who were not so good. Such as the guy who threw my sales book at me across the room.
Looking back, though, the best leaders I ever had shared some common traits. There were things that set them apart from other leaders, helped them be successful, and caused me to take notice in them.
7 Common Traits of the Best Leaders I Ever Followed
Had a character worthy of following. They were the same people on the job as they were off the job. They kept their word, but didn’t over-commit themselves to things they couldn’t do. I trusted their word, mostly because their actions backed up what they said. They loved their families and other people—including me.
Believed in me more than I believed in myself. They told me I had what it takes. They encouraged me to pick my head up after a mistake. They gave me courage to succeed. They encouraged my dreams, but they equally provided me a sense of reality.
Available to me when I needed them. They didn’t micromanage me. I was free to make decisions on my own, but they were there when I had a question, needed some advice, or they sensed I could use a word of encouragement.
Challenged me to be better than I thought I could be. Some of the leaders who inspired me the most always asked me good, often hard, questions. They didn’t let me give up easily. They kept me pressing forward even when I was ready to quit.
Skillful and competent, but not arrogant or self-serving. The leaders who impacted me most were humble, but capable. They often knew more than they allowed me to see at first. They wanted me to learn on my own, so they didn’t give me all the answers up front. I had to be with them long enough to realize just how wise they were. They continued to learn personally. I have always been encouraged to see someone I felt was so wise still learning from others—even from people younger and less experienced. Teachable leaders are easy to follow.
Visionary and challenged mediocrity. The leaders who inspired me most saw the future as brighter than today, if, as a team, we were willing to challenge our current paradigms. They weren’t content with settling for second best if first place was in our grasp. They didn’t label everything amazing. They were celebratory of each achievement, but they pushed the team (and me) toward continual improvement.
Lived for a legacy not immediate recognition. Leaders who have inspired me most weren’t looking for the attention of success. They were investing in the lives of other people. Sometimes they had to be gone as the leader before you knew just how valuable they were. They didn’t place their name on everything. They didn’t have to have all the ideas or be the center of the celebration. They weren’t afraid for others to succeed even above their own accomplishments. They acknowledged—and encouraged—the contributions of others on the team.
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