Why Small Groups Should Not Try To Fix Others

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One of the interesting insights coming out of the 12-step literature is that it is counter productive to try to fix others. We can only fix ourselves. An atmosphere where we are constantly trying to fix others will quickly squelch honesty. I do not want a group that is constantly trying to fix me. If the group tries to fix others, no one will be honest. It does not matter how well-meaning the group is in this, fixing kills honesty.

Why Small Groups Should Not Try to Fix Others

I have seen this happen in groups many times. One person will bravely risk sharing something that is not working. Someone will tell them, “You just need to pray.” Another will tell them to, “Just forgive and forget. Another will tell them to, “Have more faith.” Another will tell them that if they just had more discipline all would be well. Everyone has simple answers to enormous problems. And no one puts a bandage on the wound. This is where Sunday school gets a bad name. To give a “Sunday school answer” is synonymous with a simplistic, unrealistic, or poorly thought through answers.

People do this fixing in a well-meaning way. They are honestly trying to help but it does not help. It only squelches the atmosphere of honesty. There is something almost magical that the Christian community can do for one another. If they will hear one another, really listen to the feelings as well as the facts, and bring those together to the Father, the group will find healing. As long as we are trying to fix each other, God isn’t allowed to do much fixing.

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Josh Hunthttp://www.joshhunt.com/
Josh Hunt loves small groups. He travels extensively training group leaders. He has spoken in some of America's leading churches including First Baptist Church Atlanta and Thomas Road Baptist Church, Lynchburg, VA. He has written several books on group life including You Can Double Your Class in Two Years or Less, Disciplemaking Teachers and Make Your Group Grow. He writes a popular online curriculum called Good Questions Have Groups Talking. His website is www.joshhunt.com

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