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Thriving Beyond Suffering: Insights & Growth

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The concept of “suffering well” in the context of Neuroscience Informed Christian Counseling® (NICC) is deeply interwoven with insights from neuroscience, psychology, and spiritual teachings. It suggests an approach to life’s challenges that is not just about endurance but about finding meaning, connection, and growth in the midst of pain. This perspective is enriched by the works of Dr. Dan Siegel, Dr. Lisa Feldman Barrett, and Diana Fosha, alongside the principles of NICC.

Integration of Neuroscience and Emotional Processing

Dr. Dan Siegel’s notion of “mindsight” and neural integration provides a foundation for understanding how individuals can navigate emotional pain while maintaining connections with God and others. Mindsight offers the ability to perceive and respond to our own internal states and those of others with empathy, fostering a sense of connectedness even in suffering. Neural integration, a key to well-being, enables flexibility in handling emotional distress, ensuring that we do not become overwhelmed by our pain but can engage with it in a transformative way.

Dr. Lisa Feldman Barrett’s theory of constructed emotions further illuminates this process. By recognizing that our emotions are constructed by our brains as interpretations of our experiences, we grasp that we have significant control over our emotional responses. This insight empowers us to reframe our experiences of suffering, finding God’s presence and grace even in our darkest moments.

Diana Fosha’s Accelerated Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy (AEDP) emphasizes the healing potential of deeply felt emotional experiences within secure relationships. This aligns with the NICC’s emphasis on the therapeutic alliance and the spiritual connection between the counselor, the participant, and God, as a basis for navigating through suffering.

Drawing on these theories, the concept of feeling, dealing, and remaining relationally connected can be understood as a dynamic process that involves:

Feeling

This is embracing and experiencing difficult emotions fully, without resorting to defense mechanisms that distance us from our feelings. This requires mindfulness and self-awareness to recognize and accept our emotional states.

Dealing

This is regulating our emotional responses through dyadic co-regulation with an other and strategies such as cognitive reappraisal, mindfulness practices, and leveraging our understanding of how emotions are constructed. This enables us to navigate our emotional experiences in a way that is coherent and adaptive, rather than being controlled by them.

Remaining Relationally Connected

This is utilizing our capacity for empathy, understanding, and communication to maintain and deepen our connections with others, even when we or they are experiencing difficult emotions. This involves expressing our emotions in a way that is authentic and conducive to mutual understanding, as well as being receptive to the emotional experiences of others.

NICC: A Synthesis for Suffering Well

NICC stands out by synthesizing these psychological insights with Christian theological perspectives, offering a comprehensive framework for “suffering well.” It views suffering not just as an inevitable part of life but as an opportunity for deepening one’s relationship with God, self, and others. This process is supported by a secure therapeutic alliance, where the therapist and participant engage in a journey of understanding and transforming pain through the lens of faith.

Brian Martin: How Ministry Coaching Transformed My Life & Leadership

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How can ministry coaching help you be even more effective in living out God’s purpose for your life in serving his Kingdom? In this week’s conversation on FrontStage BackStage, host Jason Daye is joined by Brian Martin. Brian is the chief operating officer at PastorServe. Prior to joining the PastorServe team, Brian was a NASCAR chaplain for the Joe Gibbs Racing team. He also served as a chaplain in the U.S. Air Force. In addition, Brian was a solo pastor and an executive pastor. Together, Brian and Jason explore the many benefits of ministry coaching for your life. Brian shares from his own experiences how ministry coaching helped him understand more fully what God was doing in his life and what God desired to do through his life in ministry.

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Like a Child

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Picture this: It’s a summer evening, and you’re sitting near a campfire with friends. Children are playing nearby, and their giggles drift toward you. You’re staring hard at your lap, willing your muscles to relax, and praying fiercely, “Lord, help!” As you sit there, your friend asks you a question, and you feel like you’re answering through a fog. Ministry and seminary deadlines are looming, stress is weighing heavy on your mind, and you think “I should be doing something productive.” Has this ever been your story?

The old adage, “All work and no play makes Jack a dull boy,” is fitting for these moments. The implications can tend to hit our souls like a ton of bricks. As pastors, have we forgotten how to play?

With “burnout” still topping the lists of ministerial buzzwords these days, it’s safe to say many others have lost this healthy habit, too. Children hold practical knowledge of a skill we have neglected and lacked. Their giggles can beckon us away from our ministerial task lists and back into vital, life-giving, light-hearted relationships with God and others. So, together let’s consider what a childlike posture toward faith and life might do in realigning the health of our souls and our ministries.

1. “Let the children come to me.” The gospel of Mark records a beautiful and puzzling scenario. Crowds were bringing children to Jesus so He might touch them, but the disciples stopped them. In fact, the text says they, “rebuked them” (Mark 10:14). Jesus was “indignant” at the disciples’ behavior and said, “Let the little children come to me; do not hinder them” (Mark 10:14). He continued, “Truly I say to you, whoever does not receive the kingdom of God like a child shall not enter it” (Mark 10:15). What does childlike faith mean to you? How are you putting childlikeness into practice in your ministry? What might childlike faith teach us about playing—in general, and with God?

2. Know God as Father and yourself as his child. The psalmist David remembers correct posture and humility before God in Psalm 131:

O LORD, my heart is not lifted up;
my eyes are not raised too high;
I do not occupy myself with things
too great and too marvelous for me.
But I have calmed and quieted my soul,
like a weaned child with its mother;
like a weaned child is my soul within me.

 

Toddlers in their father’s arms trust with every fiber of their beings. They are not worried about anything, fully trusting their daddy to provide. As ministers, we must remember that our first role is not pastor, but a child of God. When did you last lean into God’s presence with a child’s trust? How might you trust God as your Father with the most complex parts of ministry?

3. Our God knows how to play. G.K. Chesterton has a brilliant quote from his Christian classic, “Orthodoxy”:

Because children have abounding vitality, because they are in spirit fierce and free, therefore they want things repeated and unchanged. They always say, ‘Do it again’… It is possible that God says every morning, ‘Do it again’ to the sun; and every evening, ‘Do it again’ to the moon. It may not be an automatic necessity that makes all daisies alike; it may be that God makes every daisy separately, but has never got tired of making them” (Chesterton, 68). 

Where are you currently tired? What parts of ministry feel like a task or chore instead of fun? What does it look like to co-create with God and have an attitude that says, “Let’s do it again!”?

Kenosha Pastor Re-Arrested at Hearing for Another Allegation of Stealing an ‘Intimate’ Photo

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Gabriel Mills (41), former guest experience pastor of Journey Church in Kenosha, Wisconsin, was arrested again following a new complaint that he captured an “intimate” photo of another person without her consent.

Mills’ first arrest happened on Sept. 23 after authorities obtained a warrant to search the pastor’s phone. A church member accused Mills of stealing two private photos of her from her husband’s phone while they were attending a life group at Mills’ home.

Investigators found two photos of the victim on Mills’ phone. The photos, which the victim claims she sent only to her husband, showed her unclothed. Mills was charged with two felony counts of capturing an intimate representation and was released after posting a $7,500 cash bond.

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Mills, who has five children with his wife Serah, was terminated from his position at Journey Church after church leadership learned of the allegations and his arrest.

Gabriel Mills Pleads Not Guilty, Then Arrested for Another Allegation

On Wednesday, Oct. 9, with the support of his wife and a some members of Journey Church, Mills appeared before Commissioner William Michel II for a preliminary hearing to plead not guilty. The commissioner concluded there was probable cause for the former pastor’s two felony charges and scheduled another court date.

At the conclusion of the hearing, Kenosha Police Department’s Detective Traxler immediately arrested Mills for a second time. Kenosha County Eye reporter Kevin Mathewson said that Mills didn’t act surprised and suggested that Mills might have been made aware that he was going to be arrested for a second time.

TMJ4 News reported that the Journey Church members who were at the hearing “didn’t want to go on camera, but said that they are still in disbelief.” Local news cameras captured footage of Mills’ family and friends outside the courtroom with tears in their eyes.

“This morning, Gabriel Mills was arrested after his preliminary hearing,” Kenosha Police Department Lt. Josh Hecker said. “A new complainant came forward, after reading the original media release.”

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Hecker went on to share that “detectives were able to locate evidence on Gabriel’s phone that substantiated the claims made against him by the [new] complainant.” Therefore, “Gabriel was charged with one more count of Capture an Intimate Representation Without Consent.”

Former CCM Singer Alisa Childers: Christian Music Industry Is ‘Just a Business’

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Apologist Alisa Childers, a former Christian recording artist, is sharing her thoughts on worship and the state of contemporary Christian music (CCM). In new video clips, she emphasizes that Christians must use discernment about many CCM songs and recognize that “true worship is God-centered.”

Childers, daughter of CCM pioneer Chuck Girard, sang with the Christian group ZOEgirl. The latest book from the podcaster and author is titled “The Deconstruction of Christianity: What It Is, Why It’s Destructive, and How to Respond.”

Alisa Childers: Not All Writers of Christian Music Are Christian

In a clip posted to YouTube by Cross Examined on Oct. 9, Childers is asked about ties between deconstruction and Christian music—and whether believers should be concerned about popular culture’s influence on the genre.

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Childers, 49, responded by sharing insights about the current state of the industry. Regarding CCM record labels based in Nashville, Tennessee, the industry is really “just a business,” she said. “It’s run like a business. [Labels are] owned, for the most part, by secular companies, and that’s who the higher-ups are answering to.”

As a result, Childers said, “There’s not really a theological standard in contemporary Christian music that people have to match up to. It’s really just what’s going to sell.”

The industry provides what churches want, she added, saying, “So they’re not necessarily writing from a perspective of like, ‘Hey, let’s give the church these theologically rich songs.’ They’re trying to get on the radio.”

Childers clarified, “I’m not saying all the Christian artists have that mentality. There are some really great people in that industry that are full of integrity and doing a really good job.”

Most worship music churches now use, she said, comes from labels formed by major churches, such as Bethel. “As far as how we approach quote unquote Christian music, we need to be incredibly discerning and realize that not everybody who’s writing Christian music is even a Christian,” said Childers. “Don’t just assume because something has a Christian label on it that it’s inherently even Christian.”

Worship Should Be Stable, Not Emotional, Says Alisa Childers

About what music Christians should listen to, Alisa Childers said the secular-Christian divide is complicated because a lot of “really solid Christian artists would say, ‘Well, we don’t like being called a ‘Christian artist.’”

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She urged parents to listen to music and talk to their kids about worldviews, because many lyrics have “really subtle messages.” Pointing to Taylor Swift, Childers said the pop star’s latest album is “super sexually charged,” so parents must determine whether that’s something they want to let form their kids spiritually.

How To Create a Sermon Series

In this episode of “Transforming the Church,” Pastor Derwin Gray gives his creative process for developing a sermon series.

KS Pastor Accused of Sexually Assaulting UT Woman With an Intellectual Disability

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A Kansas pastor has been arrested and accused of sexual violence in Utah. Ephren Taylor Sr. of Johnson County Church of Christ in Shawnee, Kansas, has pleaded not guilty to charges of rape, forcible sodomy, aggravated kidnapping, forcible sexual abuse, and intentional abuse or neglect of a vulnerable person.

Editor’s note: This article refers to reports of sexual abuse, which some readers might find triggering and/or disturbing.

Taylor, 65, allegedly committed the crimes in Millard County, Utah. 

According to Johnson County Post, on Thursday, Oct. 3, a 22-year-old woman who identified herself as having an intellectual disability called the Millard County Sheriff’s Office to report that she had been sexually assaulted. 

Investigators reportedly interviewed the victim using methods similar to a child forensic interview, as the victim’s disability is such that she possesses intellectual capabilities similar to those of a child ages 8-10. 

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The victim said that a man matching Taylor’s description had approached her while she was walking to work and asked her to go with him to an unspecified location. After she declined, citing that she was on her way to work, the man asked to meet her after her shift. She agreed, and the two exchanged phone numbers.

However, the victim said that the man came to her place of work and urged her to leave early. She declined. The victim then said that after her shift was over, she got into the man’s vehicle, and he told her that they were going to go bowling. 

The man then allegedly pulled over and raped the victim. 

RELATED: Pastor Arrested, Charged, and Fired After Allegedly Stealing Nude Photos of Church Member During Life Group

Investigators were able to identify Taylor as the suspect after locating security footage of the victim getting into his vehicle. They also confirmed that Taylor had contacted the victim by phone on the day of the assault. 

Free Post-Divorce Recovery Guide

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People Going Through a Marriage Breakup Often Hold Back About Their Pain

What you hear is only a fraction of their struggle—the version that hides the chaos and confusion they’re feeling. It’s the part of the story that won’t make you question their mental stability or their faith. Why aren’t they sharing the whole truth?

Many individuals facing the pain of separation or divorce, especially Christians, feel too embarrassed or ashamed to fully express their experience. They worry that being honest might be seen as a sign of weakness or a lack of faith.

The result? At best, they endure their pain in silence. At worst, they drift away from their church, feeling misunderstood and unsupported.

Download this free guide: That’s why we created “9 Things People Wish Their Pastors Knew About Divorce.” This resource aims to open your eyes to the hidden struggles of those experiencing a marriage breakup, so you can better support and care for those in your church and community who are hurting.

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Free Grief Support Guide

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The Bereaved Often Hold Back About Their Grief

What you hear is just part of the story—the version that hides the raw pain and confusion. It’s the version that won’t make you worry about their mental state or question their faith. Why aren’t they being fully open?

Many grieving individuals, especially those who are Christians, feel embarrassed or even ashamed to share the full depth of their struggle—especially as time passes. They worry that revealing their ongoing pain might be seen as a lack of faith.

Download this free guide: In this ebook, you’ll gain insights into the thoughts and emotions of those who are grieving, learn how they often misunderstand their own grief reactions, and find out what you can do or say to truly support them at different stages of their journeys.

The reality is that many grieve quietly, feeling unseen and unheard. Some even distance themselves from their church community, feeling like their needs aren’t understood or met.

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Church Planting Lessons Westerners Can Learn From African Pentecostals

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In October, the Missions Commission of the World Assemblies of God Fellowship (WAGF) held its seventh global missions congress in Nairobi, Kenya. Hundreds of national leaders, missions directors, and missionaries gathered to both celebrate the progress of missionary work in every region of the world, as well as from every region of the world. 

Leaders also heard many calls to further engage missionary sending and church planting work from the global South as well as the urgent need to champion the role of women and the next generation in that missional work. As is common of Pentecostal ministry philosophy, much of the topic of discussion centered around church planting.

Within the next 10 years, the WAGF is planting close to 625,000 churches throughout the world—an initiative they are calling MM33. If accomplished, this would mean that the world’s largest Pentecostal fellowship would nearly triple in size in a decade, to roughly one million churches globally.

Nearly half of those churches are planned to being planted by African Pentecostals. I’ve been fortunate to serve as the coordinator for the WAGF Church Planting Commission and, consequently, have had the privilege of interacting with many of the church planting practices and strategies being used by Pentecostals around the world today, including the faith-filled, rapid expansion of Pentecostal church planting by the African church.

As a former church planter myself and one who now helps consult and strategize with churches and church planters, I am convinced of two things. First, there is no singular “right” way to plant a church. Often, when a particular model for planting works in one setting, it’s elevated as the gold standard for church planting everywhere. But this is shortsighted and, quite frankly, ill advised. 

Second, while church planters need to consider the unique needs of their context when strategizing how to plant a church, there are many things we can learn from church planting practices in other cultures. And it is this second point that I believe we who serve as church leaders in the West (whether church planters or not) need to consider—especially as it pertains to learning from African Pentecostal church planting efforts.

While the particular strategies may vary, the principles that undergird those strategies are helpful to reignite a passion within us as we seek to live out our own call to participate in God’s reconciliatory mission where he has called us.

Here are several characteristics of African Pentecostal church planting that are helpful for the rest of us to consider:

1. African Pentecostals Constantly and Regularly Reinforce the Great Commission Responsibility of Every Christian.

A significant characteristic that has contributed to rapid expansion of Pentecostalism in the twentieth century—going from a ragtag minority in places like the United States, Sweden, and India—to a Spirit-filled movement 125 years later that consists of roughly half a billion Christians of all sorts of denominations, independents, Charismatics, etc.—is a high priority placed on the personal nature of the Great Commission. Among African Pentecostals, that personal responsibility to evangelize, to plant churches, to invest in others, is constantly reinforced in preaching, personal conversation, and discipleship. For African Pentecostals, the Great Commission isn’t a concept so much as it is a personal characteristic of one’s life.

For us in the West, the mission of God is often something we sort of assume people get if they hang around the church long enough. But a host of studies in recent years, as well as my own doctoral studies at Fuller Theological Seminary, found that this is hardly the case. 

People need to be discipled into sharing their faith, not simply in an abstract way, but it is most effective when they see it demonstrated by relational influences in their own life. This demonstrated mission incarnates the Great Commission task for individuals, helping them not only understand why they should share their faith, but also how

For church planting by African Pentecostals, this generates an understanding that any Christian is a potential church planter, not simply those within an educated clergy class. Some of the most aggressive church planting strategies in use worldwide today are those that engage the entire priesthood of all believers while providing training and education on the job (as opposed to an objective to be completed before a planter enters ministry).

Jesus Wants Us To Ask How To Serve, Not Who To Serve

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There’s a lot of dialogue going on right now in America over who “deserves” or “gets” to be our neighbor. 

But God has already settled this debate, decisively.

“Teacher,” a man described by Luke as an “expert in the law” asks Jesus in an exchange immediately preceding the parable of the Good Samaritan, “What must I do to inherit eternal life?” 

“What is written in the Law?” Jesus replies. 

The man answers, “Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength and with all your mind” and “Love your neighbor as yourself.” 

“You have answered correctly,” Jesus says. “Do this and you will live.” But the man in the passage wants to justify himself, so he asks Jesus, “And who is my neighbor?” (Luke‬ 10‬:25‬-29, NIV)‬‬

The question implies there is an answer that would include a person or group outside of the neighbor category, inferring there exist people of lesser status or value. It’s a question many of us ask still today—and a question still more believe they know the answer to!

But Jesus answers in an interesting way. Within the parable that follows, he makes the hero of the story a Samaritan. This was a person who was not welcomed within the local Jewish community, someone who cultural norms would suggest should not be treated as a neighbor. 

As I consider the question and response, it occurs to me that Jesus makes a statement that challenges the morality of the greatest of societies, past and present. It’s a response that introduced an ethic unthinkable at that moment in history and perhaps still today.

Jesus takes us to the very end of the line of those who would be recognized as a neighbor and leaps over it with a new proclamation, “But to you who are listening I say: Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you.”

God loves my enemies? 

For some, this alone is difficult enough. It’s certainly counter-cultural. But what feels even more radical is the exhortation to us, personally, to love our enemies. 

Nuns on the Bus Tour Members Say God Wants Everyone To Thrive—So Vote Accordingly

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People sign the Nuns on the Bus tour vehicle during a stop at Old St. Patrick’s Church in Chicago, Oct. 8, 2024. (RNS photo/Bob Smietana)

CHICAGO (RNS) — After six years without hitting the road for a political advocacy tour, the Nuns on the Bus are back, and this time they have brought friends along for the ride.

Organized by Network Lobby for Catholic Social Justice, the cross-country tour kicked off on Sept. 30 in Philadelphia and will end in San Francisco on Oct. 18 after visiting 20 cities. The bus tour is a follow-up to what had been an annual affair between 2012 and 2018 — with the exception of 2017 — as the sisters called for immigration reform, a living wage, improvements to health care and an end to wealth inequality and polarization.

For the 2024 tour, Network, the lobby founded by Catholic sisters in 1971, is citing Pope Francis in calling on Catholics and other “people of goodwill” to be multi-issue voters. The message stands in contrast to the U.S. Conference of Catholic Bishops’ guidance that “the threat of abortion” should be Catholic voters’ preeminent priority.

On Tuesday (Oct. 8), the bus carrying the sisters and their friends pulled up outside the former rectory of St. Agnes parish to visit the Circle Resource Center, a women’s community center in Chicago’s Brighton Park neighborhood.

The two dozen or so riders, a mix of Catholic women religious and representatives of Protestant and secular groups, toured the center before holding a news conference by the front stair.

Sister Sally Duffy speaks during a Nuns on the Bus event at the Circle Resource Center in Chicago, Oct. 8, 2024. (RNS photo/Bob Smietana)

Sister Sally Duffy, a member of the Sisters of Charity from Cincinnati, launched into the group’s mantra, which was repeated by speakers and riders over the next half hour or so.

“Everybody thrives,” she said, followed by the riders answering, “no exceptions.”

The idea of the visit — and the bus tour — was to get past partisan talking points and focus on the values many Americans share and on solutions that benefit everyone.

“It’s so important to us because it’s the gospel message,” said the 75-year-old Duffy in an interview.

Sister Alicia Gutierrez, executive director of the Circle Resource Center, said the former rectory, once in ill repair, had been transformed into a place where people can belong. Many of the women who attend programs at the Circle are immigrants, seeking a place to belong as they find their way in a new country.

“We wanted to have a place for the women who need friends to keep their hope in this country alive,” said Gutierrez, a member of the Society of Helpers. She said the center has become a place of love and community.

The Nuns on the Bus tour vehicle during a stop at Circle Resource Center in Chicago, Oct. 8, 2024. (RNS photo/Bob Smietana)

The Rev. Leslie Copeland Tune, senior associate general secretary of the National Council of Churches and one of the friends accompanying the nuns, said that stops on the tour, like the one at the center, have been a kind of prayer — connecting advocacy work to the power of ordinary people’s stories.

How To Know It’s Time To Drop Your Idea And Move On

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I’ve written about resilience and how important it is not to give up on your ideas, your projects, and your dreams – even in the face of opposition.  I used my friend and producer, the late Ken Wales, as an example of someone who pitched a movie idea for years and years and eventually made it happen. But the truth is, there are situations when it’s better to drop your idea and move on – even if you’ve spent years developing and writing it. The problem is – how do you know? What must happen before you realize it may be time to walk away?

How To Know It’s Time To Drop Your Idea And Move On

I’ve asked some experienced filmmakers in Hollywood about the danger signs that indicate when it’s time to drop a project and move on with your life:

From Movie and Television Writer-Producer Brian Bird:

1) When I get the same fatal note on the pitch or project from 2-3 people I trust, people who understand story and the business, and have earned the right to their opinion (not my mom or Aunt Connie from Albuquerque).

2) I have pitched the project at least 10 times without even a sniff of interest.  Either there is something wrong with the project, or I don’t have a clue what the marketplace is buying. (The 10 times might need to be adjusted upward a little given there are now hundreds of different buyers out there).

3) I am losing my own excitement for the idea.  When I’m pitching I can feel my passion for it draining away. At that point, it’s time to find a new idea to be passionate about.

Proven Strategies To Launch More Small Groups

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450017072Most churches cannot launch more small groups fast enough to keep up with the demand for discipleship. As the worship services grow larger, the small groups ministry gets further and further behind. Well, that’s not entirely true.

Churches CAN launch more small groups fast enough to keep up with the demand for discipleship, if they change up how they are launching more small groups. Here are 7 things I’ve discovered over the last 15 years in working with over 1,500 churches across North America. These aren’t just 7 ideas or 7 philosophies.

Proven Strategies to Launch More Small Groups

#1 Offer Multiple Short-term Opportunities.

People have watched small group methods and models come and go over the years. The innovators and early adopters are right there with you every time you propose a new idea. This is your low hanging fruit that amounts to about 30% of your congregation. This is also why most churches get stuck at 30% in groups.

The rest of the folks are waiting to see how long you stick with the latest and greatest idea. Once they see that you are willing to go the distance (and that nobody died from the new strategy), they’ll jump in. But, they need to know you’re serious by offering short-term opportunities to start groups over and over again. You will get sick of asking before some of these folks are even interested in trying.

#2 Offer Easy-to-Use Curriculum.

People aren’t dumb. They’ve been around. They know the Bible. I’ve surveyed some of the largest, most seeker-focused churches in the U.S. to discover they still had 95% transfer growth. Most of your congregation is not new, but they are busy.

Busy people don’t have time to prepare, so make it easier for them to get a group started. By creating and purchasing an easy-to-use video-based curriculum, people can gather their friends and do something intentional about their spiritual growth. This is not where you’ll leave them, but it’s a great place to start them.

#3 Offer an Experienced Leader to Help.

Before you panicked because I’m about to say “coaching,” think about something for a second. If you were to double the number of groups in your church in the next 30 days, how would you help the new leaders? When our church doubled our groups in one day, I panicked! Then, I matched up the new leaders with experienced leaders. This does two things for you.

First, all of the new leaders won’t be calling you, because you’ve given them someone to call. Second, you don’t have to worry about what’s going on in all of these new groups, because an experienced leader, who you know and trust, is getting to know the new leaders. Coaching helps everybody.

You Are the Light of the World: Meaning & Messaging

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You are the light of the world — what meaning is behind that phrase from Jesus? And what implications do those words have for his followers? Read on to explore this important message about shining brightly for Christ.

“You are the light of the world. A city set on a hill cannot be hidden; nor does anyone light a lamp and put it under a basket, but on the lampstand, and it gives light to all who are in the house.” Matthew 5:14-15

It’s fascinating to see what people will do when they think no one’s looking. Every once in a while, especially in this day and age, we glimpse what people are capable of through social media and hidden cameras. Generally speaking, people are less likely to sin when a camera is on them.

Imagine being the woman at the well or Nathanael. Here comes Jesus, who can tell them things that only someone with the ability to know all things could know. All Jesus told Nathanael is that He saw him under the fig tree. Nathanael responds, “You are the Son of God! You are the King of Israel!” The woman at the well becomes an evangelist, declaring to people that Jesus was able to tell her “all that she has ever done.”

Imagine the vulnerability they felt. They were minding their own business when, all of a sudden, there comes a man who sees them. He knows what they do in secret. He knows everything about them. Suddenly they realize something pretty scary. There’s no such thing as being alone as long as Jesus is alive. Jesus sees them at all times.

The Meaning of You Are the Light of the World

Jesus is the Light. The Bible is pretty clear about that. Jesus declares this truth over and over again. He said in John 8:12, “I am the light of the world. Whoever follows me will not walk in darkness, but will have the light of life.”

And in John 12:35-37, Jesus said, “For a little while longer the Light is among you. Walk while you have the Light, so that darkness will not overtake you; he who walks in the darkness does not know where he goes. While you have the Light, believe in the Light, so that you may become sons of Light.”

In Matthew 5:14 Jesus looks at His disciples and says you are the light of the world. Note that he tells them you are the light of the world. He doesn’t say they should be the light or should shine more brightly; rather, they are already the light. What’s the meaning behind that phrase?

The moment that people believe in the Light (Jesus), they themselves become sons of Light. Of course, believers have no light source in and of themselves. But rather, like the moon reflects the sun, we reflect the light of Jesus onto the world around us. We, simply by living holy lives in word and deed, striving to be like our Savior, shine the light of Christ to all the people around us. You are the light of the world. Teens in your youth ministry are the light of the world.

Shining Light in the Darkness

The world loves the darkness. Like a cockroach that freaks out when exposed to light, the world hates the light and wants to hide. Of course, I’m not comparing people to cockroaches; okay, maybe just the Pharisees. But when the light is around, the truth is clear. People don’t get to do the works they want to, like when the light is off.

Jesus said in John 3:19, “This is the judgment, that the Light has come into the world, and men loved the darkness rather than the Light, for their deeds were evil.”

Obviously, Nathanael, Zacchaeus and the woman at the well, just to name a few, when their sin was exposed responded with humility, repented, and embraced the light. But Jesus encountered other responses. In fact, the most common response was rejection and hate.

Jesus constantly exposed the Pharisees. He could see their hearts and was regularly reading their thoughts. On several occasions, Jesus told them what they were thinking, thus exposing the fact that He could see their evil thoughts. The Pharisees were desperately afraid of the crowd and therefore did not act.

But eventually, Jesus had been so exposed that running and hiding were no longer options. The Pharisees got put in a corner, decided enough was enough, and came back fighting. The problem was simple: The Light was too bright, and they wanted the darkness back.

That’s how sin works; it thrives in the darkness. Like bacteria that need water to live, sin lives off of darkness and grows exponentially. Whenever believers shine the light of Christ, the world won’t like it. They’ll be exposed and will want to run and hide or, in some cases, fight back. They did so with Jesus and will do so with us (John 15:20).

Being Light-Bearers for Jesus

Just like with salt, risk is associated with the role of light-bearers. With salt, it’s the risk of losing taste. With light, it’s the desire of hiding it and keeping it to ourselves. But in the meantime, we must ask: Are you reflecting the light of Christ on the world around you?

Just like we saw with salt, unbelievers should feel uncomfortable sinning around you. Of course, you shouldn’t be obnoxious and angry. But your life and your witness should trigger the world God has placed around you. Either they should despise you for following Christ or want to join you in following Him. That’s what the light does. It lights up darkness every single time.

You are the light of the world. That phrase has significant meaning and implications for our daily lives. May we be like lamps filling each room we walk into with light until the moment the Lord takes us home to be with Him.

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Impromptu Worship Service Breaks Out Among Contestants From ‘The Voice’

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Creigh Riepe, a contestant on “The Voice,” shared two videos on social media of an impromptu worship service that took place among the Season 26 contestants at a hotel pool.

Riepe, who is on Team Reba, wrote, “POV: You come across Season 26 contestants of ‘The Voice’ having an impromptu church service by the pool,” in a post featuring a video of multiple contestants singing “The Blessing” by Cody Carnes, Elevation Worship, and Kari Jobe.

“Nothing quite like our worship times together at ‘West Pool Church’ during the @nbcthevoice 🙏,” Riepe said in video’s caption.

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A couple days later, the Nashville, Tennessee, singer shared another video following requests from followers. Riepe posted contestants singing “O Come to the Altar” by Elevation Worship.

The new season of “The Voice” debuted Sept. 23 and introduced viewers to Riepe during the season’s third episode.

Riepe received two chair turns from coaches Reba McEntire and Gwen Stefani while singing Benson Boone‘s song “Beautiful Things.”

The coaches who didn’t turn their chairs for Riepe, Michael Bublé and Snoop Dogg, both praised the singer for the authenticity in his voice and expressed disappointment for not pushing their chairs’ red buttons.

RELATED: ‘The Voice’ Contestant Uses Worship Anthem to Proclaim God’s Love

During his introduction, Riepe shared that he has been sober for two years after experiencing what he described as a “wakeup call.”

Lisa Victoria Fields: Resilient Ministry—Navigating Disappointments Without Burnout

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As pastors and ministry leaders, how can we take our pain and disappointments and allow God to reframe them for his good and his glory? In this week’s conversation on FrontStage BackStage, host Jason Daye is joined by Lisa Victoria Fields. Lisa is a renowned Christian apologist who’s produced two documentaries. She serves as the CEO of the Jude 3 Project, and her most recent book is titled “When Faith Disappoints.” Together, Lisa and Jason look at some of the pain and disappointments that we often experience in our lives and leadership. Lisa then shares from her experiences as a ministry leader some keys in processing through these disappointments so we can avoid burning out in ministry.

FrontStage BackStage Podcast With Lisa Victoria Fields

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Help Parents Help Their Kids With LGBT+ Questions

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There are most likely topics on your heart that you wish you could get your congregation fired up about. Many good and needful conversations never gain traction. But there is one conversation that comes preloaded with interest: how to navigate LGBT+ questions in our current cultural climate with Jesus’ truth and grace. Even more specifically, how can parents guide their children through these complex waters when they often feel ill-equipped themselves?

Let’s consider four steps towards providing the parents in your congregation with support on LGBT+ questions.

(1) Pray

I don’t need to convince you that the temperature is high in this conversation. There are many big emotions swirling around, the most prominent of which is fear. When we become afraid, we might instinctively rely on our flesh instead of seeking the help of the Spirit. And if your people are afraid, it can trigger fear in you as well.

An additional challenge is that there is strong spiritual resistance in our culture to what God has said is good about bodies and sexuality. For many, affirmation of LGBT+ identities takes on a kind of religious significance; it represents to many normal people values that are good, true, and beautiful. If we want to speak of a different value system and hold it up as better because it represents the vision of the true God, we can expect attacks. Think of how Gideon feared when he was commissioned to destroy the idol; people defend their gods.

We fail if our first step in helping our congregations is not prayer. First step, middle step, last step. We are not sufficient in ourselves to lead people to faith over fear. We are not sufficient to topple idols. We must pray for God’s power, God’s guidance, and God’s protection.

(2) Educate Yourself and Your Team

There won’t be progress on such a volatile topic if you don’t take the time to educate your team and align them with your church’s position, posture, and practices. Families will seek guidance from various deacons, elders, and leaders, and they will be better helped if everyone is speaking from a unified vision.

This may mean that you take a step back and draft or revisit your church’s position, posture, and practices on LGBT+ questions and sexuality broadly. What does the Scripture say? What resources does your specific theological tradition bring? What are the aspects of your local context that need to be considered? Is the church leadership team equipped to communicate the church’s vision and values? This is work that has to be done before parents can be resourced in a godly, effective way.

(3) Integrate Your Vision Into Church Life Broadly

Your church likely has a number of theological positions that members have no idea about. In the new heavens and the new earth, we will, all of us, possess and be possessed by full truth and full love, but we are not there yet. In the meantime, you have to consider which theological truths need special repetition and representation so that your people can stand firm in this generation. All truths are useful for all times; some truths are under special attack and need special attention.

Once you have established a rhythm of prayer and have done the work of training your team in your church’s theological vision for embodiment and sexuality, you can turn towards considering how that vision should be integrated into the whole life of the church. If you try to equip your parents on LGBT+ questions but they don’t understand how that information flows from the broader church vision for sexuality, the foundation will be unsteady. LGBT+ questions are a piece of a broader cloth, after all.

One place in which to consider doing this is in sermons and/or adult-education spaces. You could decide to have a short series on God’s positive vision for sexuality. You could audit how you will discuss your church’s position when you preach through texts that touch on sexuality, marriage, singleness, or embodiment. What is said during Sunday mornings upfront, or in other formal settings by authorized teachers, sets the tone and the agenda. It demonstrates what is “allowed” to be talked about. In my work, I still regularly encounter churches who have never talked about LGBT+ questions in a formal way. In these situations, congregants often feel lost. Good leadership looks like starting and continuing the conversation.

‘Embarrassed’ Church Safety Team Member Arrested for Allegedly Staging a Terrorist Shooting at TX Church

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Jacob Wayne Tarver (45), a safety team member at Church at the Epicenter in Burnet, Texas, is in custody after allegedly “fabricating” a terrorist attack at the church. Tarver now faces felony charges for allegedly staging the church shooting and lying to authorities.

“Do not give in to the unfounded fears that are a result of this false story,” said the Burnet County Sheriff’s Office in a press release. “This falsehood can only be counteracted by the widespread announcement of the truth.”

Jacob Wayne Tarver Faces Felony Charges After Fabricating a Church Shooting

On Sunday morning (Oct. 6), the Burnet County Sheriff’s Office responded to a 911 call to Church at the Epicenter. The caller requested police, and then the call disconnected. When the police arrived, it was clear that shots had been fired and that the 911 caller, safety team member Tarver, had been the only shooter.

Tarver initially claimed that two suspicious males approached the church, one carrying a rifle. Tarver said that he then fired “multiple rounds,” prompting the men to flee via a white minivan.

After an investigation, the Sheriff’s office said, “There were no hostile actions taken or directed at the church by any persons, and no weapons brandished toward the church or the safety team member. At no time was the safety of the congregation in jeopardy.”

Tarver said he “fabricated significant details of this incident” and had “lied to law enforcement.”

According to local news, Tarver “recklessly fired three shots at a home and pond near the church, then lied to law enforcement about the incident.” Tarver admitted to being “embarrassed” for lying.

Tarver has been arrested and is in custody at the Burnet County Jail. A bond has not yet been set. He has been charged with two felonies (tampering with or fabricating physical evidence and deadly conduct) and a misdemeanor (false report to induce an emergency response).

The Burnet County Sheriff’s Office has pleaded with the public to widely share the truth about this incident in attempt to combat the “rumors and speculation surrounding this case.”


“For those of y’all judging. This man was a well respected man of this community,” commented one person who said she knows the family well. He “lost his daughter in a tragic car accident a few months ago. While it’s not okay he did this, he just sounds like he needs prayers and help.”

Another added, “I’ve known this man for a very long time. He has been a well liked and respected man who ran his own businesses and loved to help people. I can only imagine what he has been through to do something like this.”

Tom Ascol, Sam Rainer, and Willy Rice Among FL Pastors Bracing for Hurricane Milton

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Cooperative Institute for Meteorological Satellite Studies's visible infrared satellite loop of Atlantic Hurricane Milton. Oct. 9, 2024. SSEC/CIMSS, University of Wisconsin–Madison (Attribution or Attribution), via Wikimedia Commons

Hurricane Milton is barreling toward Florida, and it is the “11th hour”—or perhaps already past it—for people who want to evacuate.

Pastors who are in the storm’s projected pathway are posting updates about their situations and asking for prayer as the Category 4 hurricane approaches. A number are remaining in the area and preparing to serve their communities after Milton passes. 

“As most of you know, I am in the bullseye of Hurricane Milton,” said Sam Rainer, lead pastor of West Bradenton Baptist Church in Bradenton, Florida. “I am riding this one out along with several church members. West Bradenton has teams ready to help as soon as the storm passes. Some are trained in disaster relief. Others are first responders. And others are skilled tradesmen.” 

On Monday, Oct. 7, Rainer posted a photo of himself and a father and son, saying, “We’re gonna take a hit with Hurricane Milton, but my church is stepping up. I’m proud to serve with such incredible people. This father and son duo was helping board up homes for widows who cannot evacuate.”

Hurricane Milton Heads for Florida

Only two weeks after Hurricane Helene ravaged the Southeast, Hurricane Milton is projected to hit Southwest Florida, making landfall late Wednesday evening. Milton strengthened to a Category 5 hurricane on Tuesday but weakened to Category 4 status by Wednesday. It is expected to weaken more before making landfall but nevertheless still be a major hurricane when it arrives on land.

Milton already started impacting Southwest Florida Wednesday with rain, gusty winds, and tornadoes

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Hurricane Milton is projected to go through Florida starting on the Central West Coast. Rick Davis, a meteorologist with the National Weather Service in Tampa, told USA Today, “We’re telling people not to focus on the exact center because as the system makes landfall, the eye is going to be getting larger, and the wind field is going to be expanding.”

“Even if you’re not directly in the path, the effects will be felt far and wide at the point of landfall,” he added. Florida’s Attorney General Ashley Moody has advised people who plan not to evacuate to write their names on their arms so that volunteers can identify their bodies later if needed.

Hurricane Milton

Still image of Hurricane Milton off the coast of the Yucatán Peninsula on October 8, 2024 at 6:41Z as it takes aim at Florida. NASA’s Scientific Visualization Studio – Global Science and Technology, Inc./Alex Kekesi, NASA/GSFC/Greg Shirah, NASA/GSFC/George Huffman, Telophase/Jacob Reed, SSAI/Stephen Lang, NASA/GSFC/Peter H. Jacobs, ADNET Systems, Inc./Laurence Schuler, ADNET Systems, Inc./Ian Jones, Public domain, via Wikimedia Commons
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