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4 Ways Parents Can Help Their Kids Pursue Purity

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Many things aren’t the way they used to be, and yet some things are as they have always been. 

So it is with purity.

It is almost expected that teenagers and young adults will choose impurity over purity. And the opportunities to do so only seem to keep increasing. We should think seriously about this challenge facing our children. Yet, things are just as they have always been. Driven by sinful desires, we are tempted to and often choose the temporary, fleeting pleasures of lust over the eternal, satisfying delight in the Lord. We should not shrink back in fear or sit still in ignorance.

While there may be new challenges facing a teenager’s pursuit of purity today, we can still point them to the old, but tried and tested, wisdom of God’s Word. 

1. Frame the call to purity in the broader call to sanctification. 

The ultimate desire of a parent should be that their child would treasure Christ above everything else. If we place abstinence or any other good pursuit as their ultimate priority, we will misdirect students from what matters most and will ultimately lead to a pure life in the long run.

So, talk about purity and do so often (see point 2), but don’t talk about it only. Talk as much about reading God’s Word, prayer, gossip, what they’re listening to/watching, living for Christ at school, dealing with conflict in relationships, etc…

Follow the pattern of Proverbs. Purity was such a significant enough issue it takes up the better part of four chapters (Prov. 5-9), but it wasn’t the first or majority of what is said. Purity, like all godliness, begins with the fear of the Lord (Prov. 1:7).

Don’t neglect the urgency of this issue, but remember: The pathway to lasting purity is a growing love and likeness to Jesus Christ.

2. Talk early, talk often and keep talking.

Many parents are talking to their teenagers about sex and purity too late. In fact, you are probably late if you are waiting until they are teenagers. Statistics say that 1 in 3 children between ages 11-14 have seen pornography on a mobile device (see point 3 below).

Be the first voice your child hears about sex and purity. Be the first to tell your child that God created sex and that sex is good. Be the first to warn them about the perils of pornography. Be the first to admonish them about the joy of purity. Be the first to point them to Jesus who can sustain them in their pursuit of purity and restore them from their impurity.

These conversations will not all happen in one setting and they are often on a need-to-know basis when they are young. What matters is that you do not neglect to talk about it. Talk about when they bring it up. Talk about it when your discernment prompts you to bring it up. Talk about it often and don’t stop talking about it.

Remember that you do not need to talk to your teenager about this issue out of fear or anxiety, but out of wisdom to lead them in the path of purity. For some suggestions about helpful resources, see “When It’s Time for the Talk” by Tim Challies

3. Be slow to introduce technology and don’t do so without accountability and restrictions.

This is the frontline of the battle for purity. To give your teenager a smartphone or any wifi capable device without restrictions is to give your teenager unlimited access to porn. Odds are your teenager already has a smart phone/device or has been asking for one for months, if not years.

Let me be clear: Technology is not the problem. It is our sinful desires that take advantage of technology’s anonymity and access to immorality.

Parents must get educated on the resources available guiding teenagers to use technology with wisdom and set restrictions that point them in this direction.

Helpful resources:

4. Saturate yourself in God’s grace so you can lead your teenager to do the same in their fight for purity.

There will likely be a day your teenager is seriously struggling or has failed in the area of purity. When that day comes, point them to Christ as the source of forgiveness and the motivation for their continued pursuit of purity.

In order to help your teenager pursue purity, you need to know and dwell on the satisfying nature of God’s love and grace. You cannot give your child what you do not posses yourself. When you are saturated in God’s grace, you will be able to help your teenager respond to whatever struggles and failures they experience as they seek purity throughout their lives.

This article originally appeared here.

5 Summer Tips From a Secret Church Shopper

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I stay busy with with secret church shopper consultations during the summer, as wise churches prepare for the fall. Now that we are in the midst of summer, let me give you five practical tips to implement at your church so you can prepare for a killer fall. Here we go:

Vision cast to your guest services team

So often, people that serve on a church’s guest services team feel unimportant. They think they are not good enough to sing on stage, lead a small group, or are not tech-savvy enough to serve on the production team. It’s vital that your leadership overcommunicate that this is not the B-team. This is not a place to serve for people who have no talent. This is a vital ministry and is a front door to your church. People make up their mind whether or not they will return in the first 10 minutes. First impressions matter!

Pray with your team before your first service

Never, ever forget the God-factor when you serve in ministry. We are but vessels. We need the Holy Spirit of God to love, lead and serve through us. Pray each week with your team that they would be the hands and feet of Christ. Pray for God to break down walls of fear, skepticism and distractions. Pray that the lost would come to Christ and that the hurting would find healing and hope.

Remember it’s always someone’s first Sunday

I really can’t stress this enough. No matter the size of your congregation, chances are, someone is entering your doors for the first time. The larger your church is, the more this is true. Churches of 200 can expect at least five to eight guests a week. Larger churches welcome even more into their midst. When you gather with your guest services team to pray before your first service, remind your team of this simple truth. Focus them on their mission to welcome all who enter with love and to be a servant.

Free up your hands

One of my pet peeves is when I see people on the guest services team who have a coffee or cell phone in their hand. This is a red flag for me. I want my team shaking hands, hugging regular members, holding doors open and pointing to where people need to go (or even escort them there). If your team member are distracted by looking at their cell phones, it is one of the rudest and worst first impressions you can give a newcomer.

Focus on your guests and not your team

A lot of times when I visit a church or even attend my local church, I’ll notice team members in conversation with each other and talking while guests pass by them. Again, this is a red flag and a big no-no. Another pet peeve of mine is parking lot attendants standing next to each other and talking. Parking lot attendants should be spread out and not bunched up together talking. Door holders, ushers and greeters should be focused on their role and not engaged in conversation with friends. Make eye contact with all who enter, smile and welcome them.

First impressions matter, so take them seriously and do all you can to remove distractions and barriers for your guests. Love and serve others like you would want to be loved and served.

Finally, give all the glory to God. It is he who uses us as jars of clay and melts cold hearts. The cool thing is we get to be a part of that supernatural process.

I hope you’ll implement these tips and have an amazing fall. If I can serve you and your church in any way, I’d be honored. Find out more about my consulting.

This article originally appeared here.

The Problem of Praying for Our Children

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I have a prayer problem. Instead of letting prayer draw me closer to God, I can let it take me down winding paths of worry.

Let’s see. What should I pray about for my kids? Well, let’s start with all the things that could go wrong. That sounds logical.

Like Peter, I start to focus on the waves instead of the Savior, waves that haven’t even arisen and probably never will.

I recently taped a photo of each of my four kids into my prayer journal so I could look at them when I prayed. As I began to pray, my sister came to my mind. She’d just been through a devastating divorce and had written about her story.

As I looked into the innocent eyes of my kids, I thought about her pain. I thought about the trials God was preparing for my own children. Would he spare them from the tragedy of a broken marriage? What about physical pain? Would he keep them from harm?

Then I thought about the reason my sister chose to share her story. She didn’t offer five easy steps for avoiding pain in your life. It was just the opposite. She wanted to show the unparalleled beauty of a faith refined through trials. “Don’t be afraid that being used by God will mean future pain,” she writes. “Of course it will. And hallelujah.”

Whole Package

There’s nothing I want more than for my children to walk with their Savior and be used for his glory. But I cannot pray for that and pray that God spare them from all earthly pain. Why not? Because pain and trials are God’s promise to all believers (John 16:331 Pet. 1:6). Because Christians should consider trials normal (1 Pet. 4:12).

I don’t want mere “fire insurance” so my kids go to heaven. I want them to enjoy communion with their Savior every day, to experience more than the superficial comforts this world offers. I want them to know their Maker. I want them to make an impact for the gospel. Even more than a pain-free life, I want all of that for them; I want the whole package.

Refinement Means Fire

This means that my children who profess faith in Jesus will go through a refinement process. But refinement means fire—and fire means pain. It means they’ll spend every day fighting against their flesh and against the world. They’ll be ridiculed. They’ll groan with aching bodies for their heavenly home. They’ll have earthly comforts taken from them by a hand that wants to give them so much more.

If that’s what it means to be a follower of Christ, then it’s what I want for my kids. Does this mean I should pray they’ll experience pain? No, but I should be praying—every day–that God will draw them to himself and make them like his Son, even if it means trials. And it will.

Bread From the Father

So is it OK to pray for earthly protection? If my child breaks his arm, can I pray for quick healing and prevention of future accidents? Scripture clearly says yes.

I think about the father who didn’t give his son a snake when he asked for a fish (Luke 11:11). Part of God’s merciful care is providing for our comfort and safety. Beyond that, we can boldly ask him for our daily bread, but we ask too much when we demand to know what the bread will look like.

When I hold my toddler, hot and crying with an ear infection, I pray his pain will leave. Of course that’s not wrong. It’s asking for bread from my Father. But I know his definition of bread might be different from mine. It’s kind of like when my 5-year-old asks for a cupcake right before dinner, and I say no. He’s simply too young to understand why I won’t give him what he wants.

Though I can and should pray for health and safety for my kids, I ultimately have to trust God knows best. He knows what they truly need. He knows how to use them for his glory and their joy. If more pain means more glory, God will help me accept it—even help me praise him for it, perhaps through tears.

Hounding Hypotheticals

Sometimes our prayers skip the specifics and go straight to the end result: “Make my child like Jesus.” To avoid getting caught up in all the hypotheticals, it helps me to pray for what I don’t know in the context of what I do know.

I don’t know that my child will never experience a heartbreaking loss. But I do know that God “heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds” (Ps. 147:3). I don’t know that my child will get a good job and be financially stable all his life. But I do know that God is a “shield to all who take refuge in him” (Ps. 18:30). I don’t know whether my child will avoid every devastating disease. But I do know that “those who wait for the Lord will gain new strength; they will mount up with wings like eagles” (Isa. 40:31).

When I bring requests to God from the standpoint of what I already know about him, I can leave the hypotheticals behind and pray his faithfulness over my kids. My prayers become less about what could happen and more about who God is.

Of course we never desire pain for our children. But when we put on gospel-centered glasses, we’re freed to pray for things that offer far more than earthly comfort. We begin to pray that God wouldn’t simply prevent every hardship that could come their way, but that he’d use them for his renown. These prayers accomplish much for my children, and replace worry with confidence in my heart.

This article originally appeared here.

5 Hurdles Every Executive Pastor Has to Get Over

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I am not a great surfer, but I love to surf!

There is a lot of skill and intuition required to ride a wave. Surfing is also being able to recognize the right opportunity. Choosing the right day to go out or the right wave in a set to chase is vital to a strong day in the water.

Personally I have learned a lot of the skills required to ride a wave. My struggle remains recognizing the best waves to ride.

Similarly, my job requires me to be a skilled opportunist as well. Executive pastors are constantly processing managing people, mapping out strategy, ministering to people and a dozen other things all simultaneously. At the same time we have to have intuition to recognize the right opportunities within every context of leadership.

Much like my surfing experience, I find many executive pastors miss some critical opportunities.

We trust too little.

Trust is a wide net with us. We struggle to trust both people and God. Why? Because we tend to be control freaks. Our tendency is to only truly trust ourselves. Trust requires surrendering control. We miss opportunities to see God move on our behalf because we operate like we can control the universe better than He can. We miss opportunities to see people we lead flourish and our church grow due to our lack of confidence in them.

We are unwilling to live with a product we don’t have our own fingerprints on.

Perhaps it is due to knowing just enough about every area of the church, an insecure need to be needed or a genuine belief that we know more than everyone else; but many executive pastors wrestle with accepting others’ work as good enough. Because of this we manage products instead of people. This is our greatest missed opportunity, as it turns great leaders into insecure followers when we insist on being the generator of innovation.

We get into weeds more than we should.

Most executive pastor’s have an administrative gift. To scratch the itch of this giftedness we will deep dive into details that are lower than we need to be flying. Strategically focusing on detail is healthy; doing so on impulse is undisciplined. Our churches need our eyes on the horizon of where we are headed with intentional glances below. Staying in the weeds robs the church and leaders on your team from moving forward.

We make too many decisions.

There’s some weird leadership bravado that emerges around decision making. Pastors believe decision making power equals power. I disagree. Empowering others to make decisions is where real power lies. When I make quick decisions for the team based on my own impatience or arrogance, I miss opportunities for the team to be better leaders and the church to experience better results.

We soft pedal the truth with our lead pastors too often.

Telling the truth to my pastor readily and truthfully is a must. When I don’t, I miss the main goal of my job. Keep in mind, truth telling requires the right motives. I have to tell the truth in a tone that informs and improves over in a tone designed to sway my leader’s opinion. My responsibility is not to deliver truth to get my way but to deliver truth that helps my pastor lead the way.

I will never be a champion surfer. The skills are beyond me and the intuition baffles me. However, I will keep paddling out. In the same way, I continue to lead through challenging seas of opportunities. Hopefully I will keep learning to seize more than I miss!

Keep leading bravely.

This article originally appeared here.

5 Steps to Healthy Delegation

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Even a potential control freak leader like me knows healthy delegating actually improves the organization.

Yet, I work with dozens of pastors and leaders every year who struggle to release authority and responsibility.

How do we let go of responsibility when we are wired so heavily toward not doing so? How do we delegate when the church holds us responsible for getting things done? How do we let go when doing so makes us sometimes feel so out of control?

I often say there are three underlying reasons a leader doesn’t delegate.

Pride. They don’t think someone else can—as well as them.
Selfishness. They don’t want someone else getting the credit.
Ignorance. They simply don’t know how.

I can’t help with the first two, other than point you to Scripture and hope it convicts you otherwise. But, I can help you with the third one. And I’m not trying to over simplify a complicated leadership issue. It’s certainly not “easy” to implement as the title indicates, but understanding the process really is simple.

Here are four easy steps to healthy delegation:

Identify

It could be a specific one-time task or an ongoing assignment, but find something that would be better delegated—either because you aren’t as skilled as others, don’t have adequate time to commit to it, or have lost interest. You have to get gut honest here, but look for things you know someone would be better suited to lead. They have more time or talent in this area. And, don’t get stuck on this one. Make sure you find something. There is always something when you look for it.

Match

Find the right person/s for the responsibility based on passion, experience and follow through capabilities. This can be volunteer or paid, but pick people who will do what they say they will do and you trust. Otherwise you will constantly be looking over their shoulder, and back to not delegating again. And, you may not know until you give someone a chance to try. And, please don’t say there is no one to trust in your church or organization. If that’s the case, I see a couple options—you can change organizations or change the leader—and, most of the time it is the leader. Part of leading is raising up others to lead. (I’m not trying to be harsh, but it’s true.)

Release

This is the “letting go” part. (This is the scary part for many leaders. You may simply have to walk by faith on this one. I suspect Moses did when he followed Jethro’s advice.) Few leaders really do this well. Leaders usually lean more toward control than release, in my experience. But, if you want to be a delegator, especially a healthy delegator, you have to learn to give up your right to control. It won’t likely be done the way you wanted it to be done. It may not be done at the pace you expected. You have to release authority to do the delegated work. Help cast a vision of what a win looks like, give them the tools they need, but, this is the part of delegation you need the most—getting out of the way.

Follow-Up

Healthy delegation isn’t a dumping of responsibilities. If you are the senior leader, even when you delegate you have some responsibility, even though you have released authority. Set a reminder on your calendar to periodically follow up with the person. Remain close enough and available to them should they have questions or need help, but stay out of their way as they complete the assignment.

I realize it’s not easy for some to delegate responsibility. It comes with discipline and practice. One way to improve at this is to consider the overall purposes and goals of the organization, recognizing they can better be attained through delegation, and allow accomplishing them to be the leader’s principal responsibility—rather than simply completing tasks personally.

The journey to complete a worthy vision includes delegating. Letting go to achieve greater success should be a key motivation for leadership.

This article originally appeared here.

3 Ways Great Leaders Handle Tough Circumstances Differently

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Circumstances.

You face them every day, you are always reacting to them—positively or negatively.

Think about it. What situations in your life do you wish would change right now?

A different work environment that doesn’t suck the life out of you.

Better health.

A happier marriage.

A closer connection with God.

A more understanding boss.

Less pressure.

I mean, I get that. Few of us look over our life and pronounce things perfect.

I can let circumstances get into my head way too easily. It doesn’t even have to be anything serious to upset me. I can let the weather bother me, loud talkers in public places get under my skin or simply the fact that I feel like my to-do list is too long. Good luck to me if God ever wanted to truly test my character.

So far this year, both in my reading (I reread the classic 7 Habits of Highly Effective Leaders this year) and on numerous podcast interviews, I keep running into a recurring theme: that effective leaders handle circumstances differently than ineffective leaders do.

What’s the difference?

There are at least three deeply significant differences. If you want to imitate the great leaders when you face challenging situations, do these three things.

1.Refuse to Let Your Circumstances Define You

Far too often, we look to our circumstances to determine what’s going to happen next.

Today (and every day), you will be tempted to let your circumstances define you.

It shows up innocently enough:

Well, I can’t because…

That’s awesome for them but you need to understand my situation…

I’d love a chance at that, and yet…

I was going to do it, but…

Well sure I would have more success if X wouldn’t be true…

I used to believe that was possible…

So what’s the critical mistake you and I will make over and over again unless we see it and address it?

You’ll let your circumstances define you. And….

If you let your circumstances define you, they’ll defeat you.

They will defeat you. I promise.

In fact, your circumstances will generate an excuse factory in your mind which will produce a thousand reasons why you can’t make the progress you were hoping to make.

They will convince you that you can’t change, that you can’t solve the problems you’re facing, that you need to surrender to an inevitable fatalism.

Let that happen, and you will lead more poorly. You will live more poorly.

If you let your circumstances define you, they will defeat you.

2. Stop Blaming God for the Obstacle. See the Opportunity.

The story of God’s people is always a story of God’s hope prevailing amidst tough situations.

The only time circumstances were close to ideal was in the Garden of Eden, and somehow we managed to mess that up.

Otherwise, God has chosen to use:

Dysfunctional families (have you read the story of Joseph??)

Enslaved peoples

A stammering prophet (Moses) who had to go up against the world’s most powerful king

Lion’s dens

Burning furnaces

Whales who love to eat humans

Death on a cross

Prisons and persecution

I always think if I was in one of those circumstances, I would wave a white flag and conclude God had abandoned me.

Which is exactly why you should never let your situation define you.

In each of these cases, God was writing a story that was bigger than any and all of it.

And leaders who realize that truth manage to transcend their circumstances to move into a better tomorrow.

Try to think of a great leader in biblical history or history as a whole whose legacy was a product of their situation.

That’s right. You can’t.

Because none of the great leaders we admire were made by their circumstances. They refused to let their situation define them. Instead, they overcame them.

They stopped blaming God for the obstacle. Instead, they trusted God for the opportunity. That’s what makes for greatness.

3. Don’t Let Success Seduce You

Of course, you know circumstances don’t always work against you.

Sometimes everything’s going your way. Some of you are in that situation right now. You can’t imagine things lining up better in your favor.

Which is exactly why you should still never let your circumstances define you. Because they will still defeat you.

Here’s how.

You will stop working hard. You’ll stop dreaming about the future. You will even be tempted to let your present momentum carry forward indefinitely.

And it will carry you, for a season. And then things will grind to a halt.

Just ask any company that has to reinvent itself after a decade on top. Ask any happily married couple that hit cruise control only to discover they started drifting toward the ditch.

When you stop working on it and let circumstances define you, those same circumstances will eventually defeat you.

In fact, you will realize what every leader sliding down the far side of a success curve realizes:

The greatest enemy of your future success is your current success. 

If you don’t constantly fight against your circumstances and seek to transcend them, they will defeat you. Even the good circumstances.

What do you do if all your dreams come true? Ask God for bigger dreams.

So What Circumstances Do You Need to Fight Against Today?

Well—the short answer is, all of them. At least at some level.

That’s why leaders are never content with the status quo. Progress requires we kick hard against the status quo, trusting all the while that if we follow hard after God and his truth, we will find a better tomorrow.

So how would you characterize your circumstances?

What do you hate (or love) right now that you can surrender into the arms of a loving and all-powerful God?

You will lead better.

You will live better.

And your circumstances will no longer define you or defeat you.

What are you learning about circumstances?

This article originally appeared here.

Lifeway Poised to Pull “The Message” From Shelves Over Eugene Peterson’s View of Homosexuality

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Yesterday, July 12, 2017, Religion News Services published an interview with Eugene Peterson, author of The Message Bible. It is quickly gaining exposure on the evangelical news tract due to Peterson’s surprising comments on homosexuality. Now, LifeWay Christian Bookstores are poised to pull Peterson’s The Message Bible off their shelves.

“LifeWay only carries resources in our stores by authors who hold to the biblical view of marriage,” a spokesperson for LifeWay told the Baptist Press. The Southern Baptist-affiliated company has reached out to Peterson to confirm the views he expressed in the interview, which they deem counter to a “biblical view of marriage.” If confirmed, the company plans to pull all of Peterson’s work from their inventory, including the best-selling Message Bible.

After Family Christian filed for bankruptcy earlier this year and announced it would be closing all its brick and mortar locations, LifeWay inherited the unofficial title of largest Christian bookstore chain in the nation with its 170 locations. The bookstore also has a significant presence overseas. On its site, LifeWay describes itself as “one of the world’s largest providers of Christian resources.”

This is not the first time LifeWay has pulled an author’s work due to said author’s view on homosexuality. An uncannily similar incident with Jen Hatmaker occurred last year. Hatmaker was also interviewed by Jonathan Merritt and expressed her sentiment that same-sex marriage could be “holy” and that the church should do better at accepting same-sex couples. Just two days after the interview, LifeWay announced it would pull all of Hatmaker’s work from their shelves. Earlier this year, they also pulled Sho Baraka’s album due to the Christian artist’s use of an anatomical reference in one of the songs.

Reaction to Peterson’s interview has been swift. Several well-know evangelical writers have published articles about it—either regrettably writing Peterson off as an unlikely heretic or rallying to his support. Some have also landed in the middle, having a hard time reconciling the wisdom they’ve gained from Peterson’s work with his most recent statements.

Denny Burk, president of the Council on Biblical Manhood and Womanhood and professor of biblical studies at Boyce College, posted a heated article about the interview. Burn calls Peterson’s move to discard “the moral consensus of the entire 2,000-year history of the Christian church…folly of the first order.” Burk also refers to the debate over homosexuality “the watershed issue of our time, separating those who will follow the word of Christ from those who will not.” By Burk’s estimation, Peterson has fallen by the wayside.

Russell Moore, president of the SBC’s Ethics and Religious Liberty Committee and outspoken evangelical, had a more middle of the road reaction to Peterson’s interview. Moore’s article, published by The Gospel Coalition, addressed the question of whether or not one should continue reading Peterson’s work. Moore is obviously torn, after having just finished reading Peterson’s latest work, As Kingfishers Catch Fire, and concluding it to be “his finest book yet.” Moore says “I can’t un-highlight or un-flag my Peterson books. I can’t erase from my mind all the things he has taught me.” However, Moore also can’t bring himself to do something like invite Peterson to speak at his church or recommend one of his books to a new, impressionable believer for fear of leading others astray.

Time will tell how Peterson’s work will be received following this interview. Coincidentally (or perhaps not), Peterson actually addressed the issue of his enduring legacy in the interview with Merritt:

I haven’t been part of anything big. I’ve never been a big church preacher. I’ve never been on the radio or anything like that. I’m so pleased that people care about what I’ve done and support it because these are difficult times for the church. I’m quite aware of that. Anyway, I guess I’m just surprised that anyone would remember at all.

One thing appears to be certain: The evangelical church is going to remember (and discuss and debate) Peterson’s remarks on homosexuality for a while to come.

Is Hallmark Planning Your Worship Schedule?

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Some congregations and even entire denominations have not embraced the Christian Calendar as foundational to their worship planning and implementation out of concern that it is too rigid, routine or orthodox. So in their desire to be non-liturgical they have in fact created their own liturgy framed by Hallmark or denominational and civic calendars.

The desire for worship creativity has caused some congregations to look elsewhere, believing annual celebrations promote monotony and conformity. But Timothy Carson wrote, “Exactly the opposite may be true. Because it has stood the test of time, it may be sufficiently deep to allow me to swim more deeply in it. Because it is repeated, I have another chance, today, to go where I could not go yesterday.”[1]

In the Middle Ages the church calendar was filled with such a multitude of saint’s days that the value of festivals like Christmas, Easter and Pentecost were lost. Some of the Reformers, such as John Calvin, in response eliminated the entire church year. Other Protestants responded similarly, and in the 16th century the Puritans rejected even Christmas as a festival day.[2]

As Protestant congregations began again to commemorate special days they focused on cultural and denominational calendars instead of the Christian one. So as the antitheses to what was considered Catholic, these civic days were given as much or more credibility as the days of the Christian calendar. But as some of these congregations avoided the Christian calendar they were at the same time affirming some annual observances whose foundations were not always biblically grounded.[3]

God has placed each one of our congregations in a unique cultural and national context. So worshiping while giving consideration to those contexts is one of the exciting challenges for a modern church. As long as Christian worship is our starting point it will provide us with the opportunity to take up that challenge without compromising our biblical and theological foundations.[4]

So why couldn’t we celebrate Mother’s Day, Graduation Sunday and Memorial Day in the same seasons as Ascension Day and Pentecost? Without ignoring one or the other, it is possible to converge holidays significant to our civic and denominational calendars with those Christian holidays significant to the Kingdom.

[1] Timothy L. Carson, Transforming Worship, (St. Louis: Chalice, 2003), 57.

[2]Barry Liesch, People in the Presence of God: Models and Directions for Worship (Grand Rapids: Zondervan, 1988), 223.

[3] Carson, Transforming Worship, 56.

[4] Robert E. Webber, ed., The Complete Library of Christian Worship Vol. 5, “The Services of the Christian Year” (Peabody, MA: Hendrickson, 1993), 82-83.

This article originally appeared here.

Kick-Starting the Plateaued & Declining Church: Part 2

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Basically, we are working from the premise that leadership is as leadership does. It’s one thing to know leadership skills, principles and truths; it’s another thing to lead people practically on a day-to-day basis. But, God-called leaders must discover how to do that. It means learning to do things like walking slowly among the people, being strategic and intentional on a day-to-day basis, choosing potential leaders, consistently developing leaders, and cultivating a missional mindset and lifestyle (teaching believers to follow Christ at work, at home, in the church, in the community and to the ends of the earth).

Where does that start? It starts in the heart. It starts in pursuing the Great Commandment and, as a result, cultivating a love for the place and the people that God has called you to serve.

When Mike Dodson and I were researching and writing Comeback Churches, we were encouraged to find that the leaders we surveyed rated spiritual factors very high. In fact, think about how profound and simple this is—the highest rated single factor overall was renewed belief in Jesus Christ and the mission of the church. When asked what spurred the revitalization process, comeback leaders said that it was refocusing on Jesus Christ and His mission for the church.

How do you refocus on Jesus? Fall in love with Him again (Rev. 1:4-7, 2:4-5). Basically, pursue the Great Commandment. What is His mission for the church that He purchased with His own blood? Make disciples of every tongue, tribe, nation and people on the face of the earth to the glory of God the Father. Sorry, we’re getting a little carried away here. Let’s get refocused on the specific point.

How did Nehemiah end up back in Jerusalem leading a revitalization movement among God’s people? It would be easy to think that Nehemiah was just focused on rebuilding a physical structure, the wall. While that was one of the tasks at hand, his real job was mobilizing a demoralized people. That’s the only way the wall was going to get rebuilt.

So, how did he get there? It started with a simple question to one of his brothers and some men from Judah—“I asked them concerning the Jews who had escaped and had survived the captivity, and about Jerusalem” (Neh. 1:2, NASB). Notice, his first real concern was the people, then he also asked about the city—the people and the place. Too many pastors (and church planters too for that matter) want to pastor a different people and in a different place than the one God gives them. Love the people and the place God sends you.

Pay attention to the morale of the people and why they are where they are, and why they are the way they are. And, pay attention to the state of the community and its people. Ask questions and listen to people inside and outside of the congregation. Listen to the answer that Nehemiah gets to his question and his response:

They said to me, “The remnant in the province, who survived the exile, are in great trouble and disgrace. Jerusalem’s wall has been broken down, and its gates have been burned.” When I heard these words, I sat down and wept. I mourned for a number of days, fasting and praying before the God of the heavens. I said, 

Lord, the God of the heavens, the great and awe-inspiring God who keeps his gracious covenant with those who love him and keep his commands, let your eyes be open and your ears be attentive to hear your servant’s prayer that I now pray to you day and night for your servants, the Israelites. I confess the sins we have committed against you. 

Neh. 1:3-6, CSB

Through passionate and intentional prayer, Nehemiah cultivated a heart for the people and the place that God was preparing to send him.

Beyond that, don’t go into the situation thinking that you know everything there is to know about the people and the place that God is sending you to minister. Sometimes it’s easy to go into a situation and think that you’ve got the answers—you’ve got the plan, the strategy, the techniques, just the right method to make things work. Be careful. Step wisely. Cultivate a heart for God, and let Him birth in you a deep love for the people and the place that He has set before you. This kick-starting thing will take some time. Don’t underestimate the spiritual components of praying intentionally and strategically, developing a love for people in the church family, learning to love the larger community and its people, and renewing belief in Jesus Christ and the mission of the church.

Understand that Nehemiah already had a pretty deep comprehension of the people, the community and its history. In addition, he was a Jew. Those components enabled him to move pretty quickly in the process. His learning curve wasn’t very steep. If you are moving into a new area and among a new people, it will likely take some time to earn credibility and trust. That can definitely impact how quickly you will be able to kick-start things and make changes.

This article originally appeared here.

Why We Are Pro Life

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“How long will you judge unjustly and show partiality to the wicked? Give justice to the weak and the fatherless; maintain the right of the afflicted and the destitute. Rescue the weak and the needy; deliver them from the hand of the wicked.”

(Psalm 82:2-4 ESV)

Today, in Washington, D.C., thousands upon thousands of people will participate in the March for Life, the largest pro-life rally in the world. The march is built on the conviction that unborn babies are made in the image of God, and, as such, deserving of the rights God has given to all people.

I want to outline here the two key reasons why we—pro-life advocates in general and The Summit Church specifically—believe this, and why we take it seriously. Then, I want to address some of the “red herrings” in the discussion. Finally, I want to offer a word of hope to you, wherever you stand on the issue and whatever your history. All of this is meant to serve and love both the unborn and those of you who have abortion as part of your story.

To state it as simply as I can, we believe that the unborn are humans worthy of protection. Here are two reasons:

1. Science and Logic

Scientifically, the human embryo, from the point of conception forward, is already a whole human entity. As Dr. Maureen Condic, a professor of neurobiology at the University of Utah, states,

Embryos are not merely collections of human cells, but living creatures distinct from a group of cells; embryos are capable of growing, maturing, maintaining a physiologic balance between various organ systems, adapting to changing circumstances and repairing injury. Mere groups of human cells do nothing like this under any circumstances.

This isn’t a minority opinion, either. Every science textbook recognizes that human embryos are not merely an extension of the woman nor “collections of cells” but rather independent human beings. If they are not “human,” what else could they be?

Scott Klusendorf helpfully points out that many of the distinctions that are made to imply that the unborn are not “human” enough to be deserving of the protection of life fail to hold up with even the slightest application of logical consistency. He uses a SLED acronym to show the inconsistency of saying that unborn babies are not people yet, with each letter standing for something pro-choice advocates bring forward to deprive the unborn of their humanity:

  • S: Size. Yes, you were much smaller as an embryo, but since when does body size determine value? A 5’2” woman may weigh half as much as a 6’5” man, but we don’t think of her as less human as a result.

  • L: Level of development. You were less developed as an embryo, but infants are less developed than teenagers. Do we think infants have less value? Of course not. What level of development quantifies as human? Is it “consciousness”? Unborn babies possess some type of consciousness at 15 weeks. But does a temporary lack of consciousness deprive one of their humanity? If you lost consciousness in a coma, with the doctor saying with reliable certainty that you’d regain consciousness within three to four months, would you believe others had the right to kill you in your unconscious state?

  • E: Environment. Where you are has no bearing on what you are. Does an eight-inch journey through the birth canal change the essential value of the unborn? What exactly is the difference between a baby 10 minutes before birth and one 10 minutes after birth, such that we are allowed to kill one but not the other?

  • D: Degree of dependency. Sometimes it is stated: Unborn babies rely on their mothers for survival. But does dependence make a person un-human? Those with disabilities have a higher degree of dependency than you do. So do the elderly. Newborn infants, left alone, would die within days, if not hours. Humans are humans not by their function but by their nature.

When you push the reasoning of pro-choice advocates to its logical end, the results are horrifying. Peter Singer, the famous Princeton bioethics professor and staunch pro-choice advocate, for example, has said that parents should have the right to terminate their children until they are 2 years old. That’s gruesome, and most people reject his conclusion. But isn’t it just taking the logic to a necessary end? As Peter Kreeft, professor of philosophy at Boston College, says, “Name for me one argument for abortion that cannot be used to justify infanticide.”

2. Scripture

For those who are Christians, there can be no doubt that the unborn are full persons. Bible writers consistently talk about unborn babies in this way. King David says God knew him before he was born: “You [God] created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb” (Psalm 139:13 NIV). Or take John the Baptist, who was filled with the Spirit in his mother’s womb. Not only was he alive, but God was also dwelling within him. And consider this: The Hebrew word for “child” is the same, whether referring to children outside the womb or children inside the womb.[1] The Bible teaches that all human beings are image bearers of God (Genesis 1:27; James 3:9) and that the intentional killing of innocent human beings is forbidden (Exodus 23:7; Proverbs 6:16-19). Intentionally killing any innocent human made in the image of God is an assault on God himself (Genesis 9:1-5).

For the Christian, there can be no doubt that abortion is the destruction of a person made in God’s image. Yet, nearly two-thirds of the women getting abortions say they are Christians![2]

Red Herrings

The conversation about abortion really should hinge on one question: Are the unborn human or not? If they aren’t, then you don’t need much reasoning for abortion. But if they are, then the reasoning behind the pro-choice cause falls apart. The arguments become “red herrings,” distractions that aren’t relevant to the issue at hand. (A red herring is a fish that has been brined until it turns red, which makes it smell particularly odorous. The origin of the term is a helpful metaphor: The story goes that a person might be able to use the scent of the fish to distract hunting dogs, who would lose their trail.[3])

Here are some of the most common red herrings used in the discussion about abortion:

A. If you’re so pro-life, why do you only care about babies before they’re born?

This comes in a variety of forms, but the basic implication is that those who are pro-life are hypocritically so: They say that don’t want women aborting babies, but they also won’t do anything to help those women or babies after birth. For example, pro-choice advocates might say: “Are you willing to adopt all these unwanted kids you don’t want aborted?”

The charge is carefully engineered, but it is both a logical fallacy and utterly inconsistent with the facts about pro-life advocates.

Logically, this is an ad hominem argument. It’s an attack on pro-life advocates, not on the pro-life view. These objections are carefully engineered to silence pro-life advocates, because whoever feels that they have done enough for women and children? If you imply that people aren’t truly loving, the honest person will say, “You’re right. I could do more.” That’s the power of the “argument.” But remember, it’s not an argument. It’s an attack. The question of the humanity of the baby isn’t even addressed. It’s a red herring that diverts the discussion away from logical reasoning to moral judgmentalism.

But this attack also misrepresents the facts. Pro-life Christians do care, and not just in a don’t-get-abortions kind of way. Pro-life pregnancy centers, for instance, outnumber abortion clinics two to one. They provide parenting classes, clothing and adoption service. Pro-lifers adopt more often than pro-choicers. And they give far more to charity than their pro-choice counterparts.[4]  Who can forget Mother Theresa turning to Bill Clinton at the 1994 prayer breakfast and saying, “I want the child. Please give me the child. I am willing to accept any child who would be aborted and to give that child to a married couple who will love the child and be loved by the child.”

We want to promote a culture of life, and that means caring about life from the womb to the tomb. So if we aren’t caring for the poor and needy and marginalized among us, we need to repent. But that should never lead us to stop caring and fighting for the protection of the vulnerable and voiceless unborn.

B. Only women can speak on this issue.

This is often hurled at male pro-life advocates because the discussion touches on issues affecting women’s bodies, not men’s. But again, this is a logical fallacy: Whether it is right or wrong to intentionally kill someone depends on the person being killed, not the gender of the person making the argument. Remember: The central question is, “Is the unborn one of us?”

To answer that question, we must examine the validity and soundness of the respective arguments. Arguments don’t have gender.

Maybe an even more appropriate response is to ask, “Which women?” What about the women who are aborted? Or the millions of pro-life women? “Women” don’t have one view on this. And, in fact, the statistics show that women are more pro-life than men. If we’re only listening to women, then we should accept the pro-life position.

Justice means speaking up for any who are voiceless, regardless of their gender or yours.

C. Shouldn’t we spend more time speaking out against the poverty system that creates the need for abortions?

As with most of the red herrings, there’s an element of truth here. Yes, we should work to fight the poverty that can create the despair that makes abortion feel necessary. But again, this is logical fallacy. Whether or not abortion is wrong is not contingent on the environment surrounding it. Imagine a Southern slave owner explaining why the economic system Northerners created demanded slavery. Even if that had been true, we’d maintain that the practice of slavery was wrong anyway.

If we truly love people, we should do everything in our power to help them. So we speak out against the poverty system and we speak out against abortion. It’s not an either/or.

D. If you don’t like abortion, don’t have one!

This argument stretches the limits of the word “like.” We’re not talking about a preference (“Don’t like Pepsi? Don’t drink it!”). We’re talking about people’s lives. I don’t oppose abortion because it violates some preference of mine; I’m opposed because I believe it ends human life.

To imagine how absurd this statement is, change the variables in it: What would you think if someone said, “Don’t like slavery? Well, don’t own a slave!” or “Don’t like sexual assault? Don’t do it!” Pretty insensitive, right?

E. I’m personally opposed to abortion, but I don’t think we should overturn Roe v. Wade.

This statement is similar to the above, and it’s often offered on college campuses with good intentions. But logically it falls apart with the slightest investigation. Abortion either deprives an innocent human being made in the image of God of life or it doesn’t.

The question to ask here is: Why are you personally against abortion? Is it because you know it is the wrongful taking of human life? If that’s what you think, are you really willing to sit back and do nothing while innocent people are murdered? That sounds a lot like Pilate, washing his hands and hoping that the evil of others won’t splash onto him.

Again, try applying the logic with different variables. Would people ever say something like this about child abuse? “I’m personally opposed, but let’s not get the law involved.” No! Why not? Because no one’s “rights” includes the right to harm someone else. If the baby is a child, our right to make choices does not extend to taking its life.

F. Abortion needs to be legal so that it’s safe for mothers.

The narrative surrounding abortion rights goes something like this: Back in the 1970s, women were dying by the thousands in back-alley abortions. Then Roe v. Wade happened, and now women are much safer. They’re going to do it either way, so we might as well make it safe.

The truth of the matter is that maternal death had been in steady decline—from 7,267 to 780—in the years between 1942 and 1972. And of those 780 deaths, 140 were related to abortion (though that also included spontaneous abortions caused by miscarriage).[5] So the idea that abortion was overwhelmingly common—but dangerous—simply isn’t true. What we can be sure of is that the death rate for babies in abortion procedures is 100 percent.

G. What about situations of rape or incest?

The number of pregnancies that arise from the tragic instances of rape or incest may be small, but they are nonetheless painful. Our hearts go out to anyone in this situation. For you, we recognize that this question is less of a red herring and more of a reflection of a heart-rending situation. We grieve with you.

The heart of this question is about the way we respond to pain and tragedy. A woman in this situation may be saying, “This baby came to be through the most horrific event of my life. Why should I be forced to bear the burden of something that only reminds me of that pain?”

The answer, in brief, is twofold: First, it’s actually not healing for the mother to pursue abortion. When faced with tragedy, the most healing path forward is not to push away any evidence of the pain. It is to bring that pain to God, allowing him to heal us. We’ll get more to that in a moment.

Second, this objection, like the others, shifts the terms of the debate. We aren’t debating whether rape is heinous. We agree that it is and that it leaves deeply wounded victims. But is the child at fault for how he got there? How do we, as a civil society, treat innocent human beings that remind us of painful events? We don’t help anyone by harming one human simply because he reminds us of another human’s sin. The question, once again, hinges on whether the unborn are human or not.

H. I have a right to my body.

No one is arguing against that. But does your right to your body include taking the life of another for the sake of convenience? Aren’t there competing rights at stake? What about the rights of the unborn child?

Advocates of slavery doubled down on slavery based on similar reasoning in The Dred Scott Decision of 1857. They admitted that the slaves had a right to freedom. But they also argued that the slave owners had a right to their property. The justices in the Dred Scott case reasoned, tragically, that the right to property superseded the rights of the slaves to freedom.

In the question of abortion, we also have competing rights—that of the right to privacy and that of a right to life. Are we going to follow Dred Scott and reduce people to property that can be disposed of?

The rights and safety of women are precious and important. But pregnant women aren’t the only people involved. It reminds me of a Planned Parenthood boast I saw recently: “Abortion is safe, with only one death per 100,000 procedures.” Shouldn’t that say 100,001 deaths per 100,000 procedures?[6]

Where do we go from here?

Our efforts to defend the life of the unborn need to move beyond mere statistics; we have to recognize how deep a scar abortion leaves for all involved. I read a piece recently by a woman who marched in support of abortion rights in 1973 and had an abortion a few years later. She admits that her decision has haunted her for 30 years. She writes:

It certainly does make more sense not to be having a baby right now—we say that to each other all the time.

But I have this ghost now.

A very little ghost that only appears when I’m seeing something beautiful, like the full moon on the ocean last weekend.

And the baby waves at me.

And I wave back at the baby.

“Of course, we have room,” I cry to the ghost. “Of course we do.”

Abortion leaves victims. Not only the child, deprived of life, but often the woman, who can’t escape the regret of the decision.

To those of you who have abortion in your past, we know that you are hurting. We don’t want to make this any harder than it is; we simply want to prevent others from enduring the same pain that you have had to endure. If abortion is part of your story, you need to know that we serve a Savior who died so he could make us whiter than snow and whose resurrection has the power to restore beauty from ashes.

Each one of us, on some level, has dismissed the value of human life. We may have had different ways of doing it, but we’ve elevated our desires over the life of another. Furthermore, the entire human race rejected and murdered Jesus. Yet through that murder, God brought salvation and restoration. Because of that, there is no tragedy, no mistake, that he cannot redeem, no sin that he will not forgive. Through the victory of his resurrection, he can make all things new.

None of us need live a second longer trapped in the past.

If you’ve had an abortion, your baby is with Jesus today. Both Jesus and that baby forgive you, if you will receive it.

To all of us: Jesus’ redemption of us should forever change our attitude toward those around us who are hurting. It shows us our dignity. The value you place on something is shown by what you’ll give up for it. We were so valuable to Jesus he gave up his life to redeem us. Furthermore, it shows us our responsibility to those who are hurting. If anyone ever had the right to terminate another human being, it was Jesus. Instead, he willingly let himself be terminated in order to restore God’s image in us. Jesus looked at the ruins of our lives, and he saw the potential for glory.[7] He beheld despair, and brought hope. He saw our tragedy, and he came to our rescue.

If we’re following Jesus, reaching out in mercy will characterize our lives, too.

Here are a few practical ways we can get involved:

  • Pray. Our work should not end with prayer; it should start there. It is our greatest ally in the battle for life (Ephesians 6:19-20).

  • Some of us need to consider this a calling. God doesn’t call every Christian to be involved in every cause equally, but for some of you, God will make this “your” cause. He’ll put ministry to women considering abortion on your heart, and you’ll get involved in their lives while you advocate protection for the unborn.

  • Join with one of the many organizations doing great work for pregnant mothers and their children, like Pregnancy Support Services and Human Coalition. Studies show that 85 percent of women considering abortion would change their minds if they were allowed to see an ultrasound of their baby.[8] These organizations make that possible.

  • Consider the work of fostering and adoption. My friend Russ Moore says, “Think of how revolutionary it is for a Christian to adopt a young boy with a cleft palate from a region of India where most people see him as ‘defective.’ Think of how odd it must seem to American secularists to see Christians adopting a baby whose body trembles with an addiction to the cocaine her mother sent through her bloodstream before birth. Think of the kind of credibility such action lends to the proclamation of our gospel… What if we as Christians were known, once again, as the people who take in orphans and make of them beloved sons and daughters?”[9] I’ve heard it said that the cry of the pro-life movement is, “Don’t kill them.” But the cry of the Christian goes further: “We want them.”

  • Work to promote the family. About 85 percent of women who have abortions in the U.S. are unmarried. The stronger the family gets, the less the perceived need for abortion becomes. Maybe the best way to fight against abortion is to fight for the family.

History will judge us—indeed, eternity will judge us—by how we respond to this moment. And we can move forward with confidence that, regardless of the situation around us, God defends the cause of justice. In the words of Abraham Lincoln,

“I am convinced that the Lord is on our side in this great struggle, for the Lord is always on the side of the right; but it is my constant anxiety and prayer that I and this nation may be on the Lord’s side… Lord, give us faith that right makes might, and in that faith let us to the end dare to do our duty as we understand it.”

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[1] Scott Sauls, “In the Image of God,” sermon on Genesis 1-2
[2] Much of the material in this section comes from Scott Klusendorf and John Stonestreet, 21 Days of Prayer for Life.
[3] The literal use of “red herrings” to distract dogs from a trail is almost certainly apocryphal. (Mythbusters, in all of their scientific prowess, declared this one “busted.”) Still, the image is a helpful metaphor for any claim that distracts from the argument at hand.
[4] Adapted from Klusendorf and Stonestreet, 21 Days of Prayer for Life
[5] Clarke D. Forsythe, Abuse of Discretion: The Inside Story of Roe v. Wade, 102.
[6] https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vWKqeJxzeBc&app=desktop. I owe Tim Challies for the insight, in a tweet!
[7] Adapted from Scott Sauls, “In the Image of God,” sermon on Genesis 1-2
[8] Klusendorf and Stonestreet, 21 Days of Prayer for Life
[9] Russ Moore, Adopted for Life, 79, 20

This article originally appeared here.

Serving a God Who Is Not in a Rush

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Human beings have always been in a hurry. God has never been in a hurry.

  • God waited a very, very, very long time, after Adam and Eve, before He called Abraham.
  • God waited almost 2,000 more years before entering human history in the person of Jesus.
  • God (in the person of Jesus) waited almost 30 years before beginning his public ministry.
  • God waited to gather and disciple the Twelve.
  • God waited through his arrest and crucifixion rather than call on the legions of angels at his disposal.

From the beginning to the end of Scripture, we discover stories of God teaching his people patience. Abraham had to wait 25 years. Joseph waited between 15 and 25 years. Moses waited until he was 80 years old to begin his ministry. Israel waited 40 years in the wilderness.

It was Tertullian (204 AD from North Africa) who wrote that, when the Holy Spirit descends, patience and waiting is at its side. He argued that, without patience, which is the Spirit’s “companion and assistant,” the Spirit will feel “very uncomfortable” and leave us.

Alan Kreider, in his book The Patient Ferment of the Early Church, notes that one of the primary reasons the church grew in her first 300 years through persecutions and oppression was because of her commitment to patience. In their business dealings, sexual morality, care for the poor and refusal to participate in violence, they created a comprehensive “culture of patience.” They taught this through their careful and intentional process of discipleship (i.e., catechesis). In fact, he argues, the early church fathers wrote more about the Christian virtue of patience than about evangelism. They taught:

God, in dealing with Israel across the centuries, was never in a hurry. God’s mission is unhurried and unstoppable. [In fact] “patience is the very nature of God”…[and] the fall of Adam and Eve was marked by human impatience, which was “the original sin in the eyes of the Lord.” Patience is a distinctive sign of the Christian.

As a result, Krieider argues, people looking on from the outside were attracted to the non-anxious, unforced lifestyle of the early Christians and the church blossomed evangelistically.

Most of us struggle with the slow, mustard seed nature of the way Jesus works, especially as it relates to building our churches. For example, discipleship, the basis of our development of leaders, is slow. It requires patience. We have invested 21 years in the development of The Emotionally Healthy (EH) Spirituality Course and The Emotionally Healthy (EH) Relationship Course. And we are still learning. But I know that if we patiently persevere, this mustard seed of God will grow remarkably and powerfully in us and around the world.

Let me encourage you to register for our Emotionally Healthy Leadership Conference on May 3-4. We limit the conference to 350 people. Ask God if he is inviting you to set apart those days. You can read more on our website.

This article originally appeared here.

Sunday School Teacher vs Large Group Storyteller

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Many of us who grew up going to church spent our mornings in Sunday school with Sunday school teachers who prepared lessons to teach us about the Bible.

The idea of Sunday school started in the 1780s. School on Sunday came out of the Industrial Revolution and began as literacy schooling for impoverished kids who worked in factories throughout the week.

Over time it morphed into what we experienced growing up in the church. While the practice of Sunday school has certainly changed through the years, we continue to use old vernacular like “teachers,” “classrooms” and “lesson plans.” We look for volunteers who embody the stereotypical “Sunday school teacher” etched in our brains.

But at some point we need to ask, is the Sunday school model initiated two centuries ago the most relevant to 21st-century kids?

When I think about my own Sunday school experience, I remember only a handful of teachers. Those memorable volunteers had one thing in common: They didn’t act like teachers. There were more like mentors or guides. Today, some might even call them small group leaders or storytellers.

It’s not that we weren’t learning anything or that we didn’t see our Sunday school teachers as authority figures. We were, and we did. But rather than positioning themselves as the experts with all the answers, they approached our time together as fellow travelers on this faith journey. They shared stories from their own experiences. They also began conversations with us that cast a vision for what it meant to follow Jesus.

Recently, I’ve had opportunities to coach churches that were trying to move from a traditional Sunday School model to a large group/small group model of children’s ministry. I noticed that more often than not, vocabulary matters. When we use traditional Sunday School vocabulary, we’re doing a disservice to the environments we create for kids and families to grow in their relationship with Jesus. This can start with a simple shift in moving from “large group teacher” to “large group storyteller.” When we start shifting the vocabulary we use, you have the potential to revolutionize the dynamics of what can occur in your children’s ministry. You’ll find you can start recruiting a different kind of children’s ministry volunteer.

Think about it: What if instead of finding typical Sunday school teachers, we found people who were gifted to connect with kids through conversations and storytelling? If we did that, we might find ourselves with a larger pool of potential volunteers to serve our kids.

Building a team of Bible storytellers starts with knowing the difference between storytelling and teaching. When you understand this, it will change how you view children’s ministry programming. You’ll find you might want different curriculum that reinforces this new mindset. You’ll need different sorts of volunteers. You may even completely change how you plan your ministry year. All for the better!

Please don’t hear me saying that teachers are bad. Teachers are amazing. I love teachers. I’m a trained educator and have many friends who’ve dedicated their lives to teaching. It’s one of the hardest and most important professions on the planet. But in your children’s ministries, having a teacher mindset on Sunday ultimately does not build the sort of relationship between a child and storyteller where the Bible comes to life and captures their heart.

Take a look at the differences between Sunday School teachers and storytellers when it comes to children’s ministry.

Everyday Occurrence vs. Special Event

Having a teacher is an everyday occurrence for most kids. Kids spend roughly 1,500 hours of their year in a classroom with a teacher.

Kids may watch stories in movies or TV shows or read stories in books every day, but for most kids, the chance to experience a captivating live storytelling is a special occasion for theme parks or theater. Having a storytelling mindset can make Sunday mornings feel like a special event that leaves the kids wanting to come back the following week.

Learning vs. Transformation

Unfortunately for many teachers, the content they need to cover drives their classroom priorities. More often than not, teachers end up focused on transferring only the information kids need in order to pass standardized tests and complete their grade.

Rather than just learning, storytellers shoot for transformation. Yes, storytellers also hope their audience will learn something and gain new knowledge. But more than that, storytellers are also concerned with how the story connects with the whole person—emotionally, morally and spiritually. The storyteller shoots for a level of engagement that will serve as a catalyst for transformation in a person’s life.

At vs. With

Throughout the day, most of a teacher’s time is spent talking at a room full of kids, where the average ratio is one teacher to 26+ kids. Sure, there are one-on-one conversations that happen throughout the day. But the majority of the time the teacher is communicating with the kids happens through lectures spoken at the students.

According to the National Storytelling Network, the definition of storytelling is “a two-way interaction between a storyteller and one or more listeners.” By that definition, the storyteller is building a relationship through communicating with their audience. Storytellers invite their audience into the story and create a space for kids to imagine themselves in another world. That world is the one found in the pages of the Bible. Storytellers act as a guide—creating a dynamic two-way interaction—where the kids have a direct impact on how the storyteller portrays the Bible story. Wonder and discovery are unleashed when storytellers can create an atmosphere where kids take ownership of how they experience the storyThis allows kids an atmosphere to grasp God’s truth, start to apply it, believe it and live it out.

Teachers are amazing, and many of them are excellent storytellers. But creating your environments with the traditional educational model kids experience throughout the week will not result in long-term engagement with your ministry. Instead, create a culture of storytellers trained and gifted to engage kids in a two-way conversation about faith week after week.

What’s Next?

If you’re ready to build a storytelling mindset in your children’s ministry, sign up below to be part of the first group of leaders to go through our free introductory video course for Tell Better Bible Stories.

Tell Better Bible Stories makes it easy for you to build your storytelling team, develop their skills and create a successful environment for kids to grow in their relationship with God!

Get an early start on building a dynamic storytelling team with these two great tip sheets:

  1. Volunteer Recruitment Part 1: Finding Great Storytellers
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This article originally appeared here.

5 Things to Do in July That Lead to Way More Groups This Fall

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Five things to do in July:

  • Plan New HOST Kits or Orientation(s) that will be provided in mid to late August.  Whether you’re recruiting HOSTs for a church-wide campaign or you’re simply launching some new groups this fall, your newest leaders will be ahead of the game if you give them the training they need to get started. Keep in mind that adults learn on a need to know basis. They don’t need to know everything, but there is a short list of things that will help them prepare. Over the last seven years we have gradually shifted away from host orientations. They still work to a degree, but we’re finding it much easier to get the information and training to more new hosts by providing a Host Kit. See also, HOST Orientations That Launch GroupsBreaking: Add This HOST Orientation to Your Bag of Tricks and How Do We Help a Host Get Off to a Great Start?.
  • Provide the training your newly recruited coaches will need in order to come alongside your new group leaders this fall. One of the most helpful things you can do is introduce your new leaders to their coach at the HOST orientation. A face-to-face introduction will go a long way toward helping make the connection solid. Especially after appropriately recognizing your coaches as experienced and knowledgeable game-changers, your new leaders will be much more likely to return phone calls and actually look forward to connecting with their coach. If you no longer do a host orientation, consider connecting coaches with hosts as they pick up their host kit. See also, Skill Training: Four Questions Every Coach Should Be Asking
  • Plan a HOST Gathering that will take place in late August or early September. A gathering or rally allows your senior pastor a great opportunity to cast vision about the fall from a leader’s perspective. A rally provides a fun and inspirational boost as your groups make ready for the fall group launch. See also, Steve Gladen on the Power of HOST Gatherings.
  • Plan a series of email communications that will begin in August. You’re going to need to need to communicate with existing small group leaders and new small group HOSTs as well as the whole church about what is coming. If your church is like mine, those emails are much more likely to go out when you need them to go out if you’ve coordinated them with your database manager. See also, 5 Keys to Getting Everyone Involved in Your Church-Wide Campaign.
  • Plan your curriculum distribution process. Whether you’re planning a church-wide campaign or are simply launching a wave of new groups with your fall “semester,” you’ll need to have a plan for distributing curriculum. Many churches do the bulk of curriculum distribution in their HOST orientation. Others set up distribution points in their bookstore or lobby. Thinking through that process in July will allow you to recruit the number of volunteers you’ll need, coordinate delivery, as well as arrange for payment.

This article originally appeared here.

 

5 Practices of Healthy Leaders

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Have you ever wondered how high capacity leaders got to where they are? I mean, did it just happen overnight, was it a natural God-given talent, or did they have to work to get to where they are?

From my perspective, I believe that high capacity leaders have habits that they do that have resulted in where they are today.

So, what are the habits of healthy leaders. Here are a few observations that I have noticed regarding this question.

1. Healthy Leaders Commit and Value Their Personal Time With Jesus

If you want to be a great leader, the best habit that you can cultivate right now is a personal time with Jesus. Value and commit to it.

Too often, leaders fall out of love with Jesus, and it is usually because somewhere down the line they stopped valuing and committing to their personal time with Jesus.

If you want to be healthy and able to feed others, you cannot feed others from an empty source. You must be filled yourself, and you can feed others from your full source.

2. Healthy Leaders Value Community and Friendships

As I get older, I am understanding the importance of genuine friendship.

Ministry is hard, but ministry done in isolation is much harder.

God never intended for us to do ministry alone. His intention is to do life with other people.

As I study the best leaders, I have noticed that they have some outlets (friendships) that they can talk to about anything. These friendships encourage them, counsel them, hold them accountable, inspire them and make them better.

If you cannot think of a friend who does this in your life, you need to seek out friendships like this in order to stay healthy as a leader.

3. Healthy leaders Have a Personal Life and Hobbies

Every healthy leader that I know has a hobby of some sort to take their mind off of leading.

Ministry is so difficult, because it demands so much, and the idea of being on the clock 24/7 is so true in many people’s eyes.

If you are like me, you struggle turning work off in your life. I struggle with this. I go to bed with things on my mind. I wake up with my “to do list” in mind.

One of the best practices that I began a couple of years ago was to try to play golf every two weeks to take my mind off of things. It has helped me physically and helped my leadership immensely.

4. Healthy Leaders Practice Saying “No” to Some Things

Look, there are some times you have to say yes even when you do not want to. I get that, but too often pastors and leaders say “yes” to everything.

Saying “yes” to everything is unhealthy. Plain and simple.

When I first started leading when I was about 20 years old, I said yes to everything and eventually found myself in a very unhealthy place with my family and my personal life.

As I have grown in leadership, I have realized and even understood the importance of saying no to things that don’t matter as much as the things I am willing to say “yes” to.

5. Healthy Leaders Are Selective of the People They Give Their Time To

Let me be real honest with you. There are people in your life that suck the life right out of you. There are people around you who drain you emotionally and spiritually. There are people in your life who waste your energy and take away your passion.

I used to think that was part of leadership and that I must spend extra amounts of time with them. I do not see that anymore. I actually am willing to avoid these types of people for longer lengths of time.

I have learned that a habit that can set me on the path of stronger leadership is to avoid time with people who drain me.

Healthy leaders know who to give their time, energy and passion to.

This article originally appeared here.

John Crist Takes Stinging Jab at Millennial Missionaries in New Video

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Much has been written about the generation that follows Generation X. This particular generation, aptly named the Millennial, offers a challenge to the church in regards to gospel engagement. The following video by the comedian John Crist offers an interesting (and very sarcastic) profile of how “Millennial Missionaries” try to reach scuba divers in Aruba with the gospel.

During his honeymoon and while he was dipping lobster in butter, Quinn felt the call from God to humbly serve in Aruba. There were “God-Moments” for Quinn and his wife, Kylie, such as their interactions with the cabana boys, the golf caddie, the para-sail guys, and even a heart to heart conversation with a Jet Ski owner. The couple has even experienced their share of persecution. For instance, a scuba diver instructor actually asked her to take off her cross necklace before going into the ocean! They are undaunted, though, because being missionaries in Aruba is like living out the poem “Two Footprints in the Sand.”

Quinn and Kylie are asking for financial partners to fund their three-month Aruba mission trip. After three months, they plan to transition to their new assignment: The vineyards of Tuscany, Italy. They are asking for prayer and…. ten thousand dollars… a month.

Have a good laugh with this video, but please remember that the satire in it can expose some real and faulty values that can exist in our western church culture. What are your thoughts? Does any of this (however much hyperbole it contains), ring true?

UPDATE Eugene Peterson: Homosexuals Can ‘Have as Good a Spiritual Life as I Do’

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UPDATE July 13, 2017

Christianity Today reports Peterson has retracted some of the statements from his interview with Jonathan Merritt.

Peterson wrote the following statement Thursday afternoon:

Recently a reporter asked me whether my personal opinions about homosexuality and same-sex marriage have changed over the years. I presume I was asked this question because of my former career as a pastor in the Presbyterian Church (USA), which recently affirmed homosexuality and began allowing its clergy to perform same-sex weddings. Having retired from the pastorate more than 25 years ago, I acknowledged to the reporter that I “haven’t had a lot of experience with it.”

To clarify, I affirm a biblical view of marriage: one man to one woman. I affirm a biblical view of everything.

Peterson also clarified what he meant by his response to the question of whether he would perform a marriage for a same-sex couple.

When put on the spot by this particular interviewer, I said yes in the moment. But on further reflection and prayer, I would like to retract that. That’s not something I would do out of respect to the congregation, the larger church body, and the historic biblical Christian view and teaching on marriage. That said, I would still love such a couple as their pastor. They’d be welcome at my table, along with everybody else.

Addressing the statement that the homosexuals he knows have “as good a spiritual life as I do,” Peterson had this to say:

When I told this reporter that there are gay and lesbian people who ‘seem to have as good a spiritual life as I do,’ I meant it. But then again, the goodness of a spiritual life is functionally irrelevant in the grand scheme of things. We are saved by faith through grace that operates independent of our resolve or our good behavior. It operates by the hand of a loving God who desires for us to live in grace and truth and who does not tire of turning us toward both grace and truth.

The original article we published on July 12, 2017, follows.


 

Eugene Peterson, author of The Message Bible and respected voice in the evangelical community, recently sat down with Jonathan Merritt of Religion News Services to answer some very pointed questions on cultural hot-button issues. Among those answered: Peterson’s evolving view on homosexuality in the church.

“I wouldn’t have said this 20 years ago, but now I know a lot of people who are gay and lesbian and they seem to have as good a spiritual life as I do,” Peterson told Merritt. While he admits during his time as a pastor (Peterson spent 29 years pastoring a Presbyterian church he founded in Bel Air, Maryland) he didn’t have many encounters with homosexuals, he had a couple of key interactions with them in his church.

One such interaction was with a young man who wanted to take on the music minister position. A gifted musician and high school teacher, this young man had grown up in Peterson’s church. While asking for the job, he told Peterson he was gay. Peterson was proud of his congregation, who didn’t make “any questions about” his hiring the young man. In Peterson’s estimation, this young man “was a really good musician” and the right person for the job.

Peterson feels the church is in a time of transition concerning its stance on homosexuality. “I think that kind of debate about lesbians and gays might be over,” he says. As far as whether homosexuality is right or wrong, Peterson doesn’t have a definitive answer. “I don’t think it’s something that you can parade, but it’s not a right or wrong thing as far as I’m concerned.” In Peterson’s eyes, it’s time to lay the debate down. If people don’t agree on a church’s decision to include homosexuals in the congregation, he says, “they’ll probably just go to another church.” When asked if he would officiate a wedding ceremony for a gay couple, he said he would.

Peterson’s curious answer to this question raises another, age-old question: What exactly is the purpose of the church? Is it to be a sort of support and good-works club for people who have weeded out blatant sin in their lives, or is it to be a place where people from different socio-economic backgrounds, philosophies, cultures and perhaps even sexual orientations gather to seek God and his will together? Judging by his responses in the interview, Peterson appears to believe it is the latter choice.

Moreover, the 84-year-old scholar and author has expressed, both in his interview with Merritt and also on our recent podcast interview with him, his belief in the importance of pastoral relationship in churches. He is no fan of the megachurch, where he feels pastors have given into a consumer mentality—thinking more about how to sell people on coming to church and less on how to build relationship with them. In a megachurch, Peterson says, “there’s no relationship with anybody.” He goes on: “I’m just upset by the fad-ism of the megachurch, but I just don’t think they’re churches. They’re entertainment places.”

True church, according to Peterson, is “relational,” where people know the other people they are praying with and for. And perhaps a cue from the ChurchLeaders interview with Peterson explains his stance on homosexuality a bit better. When talking about the role of a pastor, Peterson said, “Conversation is one of the most important things pastors need patterns on how to develop—instead of telling people what to do, asking them what they’re doing.” When this advice is applied to a pastor ministering to a homosexual, Peterson seems to be suggesting that instead of telling them their lifestyle is wrong or sinful and they should change, the pastor should first get to know the person, hear his or her story, and engage them in relationship.

Relationship is obviously very important to Peterson, who continues to maintain contact with people through letter writing, despite his decision to leave public life, as Merritt describes.

After reading through the interviews, I cautiously boil down Peterson’s responses this way: Whether the church decides to welcome homosexuals in our congregations or not, whether our denominations choose to ordain them or not, and whether or not we vote to allow them the same rights as heterosexual couples, the bottom line is we should be doing what we can to build relationship with them. He doesn’t seem to be interested in making a blanket statement on whether or not homosexuality is a sin. Instead, he shares his experience and leaves it to the reader to make his or her own mind up about the issue.

Adam Hamilton: Lessons on Leadership from Moses, the Reluctant Prophet

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Adam Hamilton is senior pastor of The United Methodist Church of the Resurrection in Leawood, Kansas, one of the fastest growing churches in the country. Since its founding in 1990, the church has become the largest United Methodist Church in the denomination with over 20,000 children, youth and adult members and an average weekend worship attendance of 10,000. Adam is the author of several books, including Moses: In the Footsteps of the Reluctant Prophet. Adam and his wife of 33 years, LaVon, have two grown daughters.

Key Questions:

What are the factors that helped you go from a church that didn’t exist to the largest United Methodist Church?

How did you keep up with the leadership challenge of managing a church that has grown exponentially over 27 years?

What does the fact that Moses didn’t get to enter the Promised Land mean for us as church leaders?

What advice would you give to pastors who shepherd an average church?

Key Quotes:

“I thought if we could offer worship that looks familiar—from their past—and at the same time is relevant and is passionate, and we explain certain things to them like ‘why are we doing this’, that might be what separates us from many of the other churches that look similar.”

“Are you prepared for the fact that the day may come where this church grows beyond your leadership abilities and capabilities?”

“This church does not exist to give me a job. This church and its mission is more important to me than me working here.”

“Jethro becomes the first management consultant in human history…And he gives the advice [to Moses] every great management consultant has given to every leader, and that is: You’ve got to delegate.”

“We’re probably not doing a good job if everybody agrees with everything we’re doing.”

“The leaders who change the world are the people who refuse to give up. They listen, they learn, they’re humble, they try not to get overwhelmed by the opposition, but they keep going.”

“In your rear-view mirror it says ‘Objects are closer than they appear’, but when it comes to our fear, objects appear bigger than they really are.”

“I think for Moses [the Promised Land] was always more than a just a piece of real estate. It was a place where God’s Kingdom was lived out on earth as it is in heaven.”

“For us as Christians, the Promised Land is the Kingdom of God. It’s this vision that’s bigger than we are, that we’re pushing ourselves toward, we are trying to live into, we’ll never fully live into it this side of eternity, but we’re going to pray every dayThy Kingdom come, thy will be done on earth as it is in heaven,’ and we’re going to lead our people toward that vision of the promised land.”

“If your vision of the Promised Land is such that you’ve finally made it, then your vision of the Promised Land was too small.”

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7 Marks of a False Teacher

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No one enriches hell more than false teachers. No one finds greater joy in drawing people away from truth and leading them into error. False teachers have been present in every era of human history, they have always been a plague and have always been in the business of providing counterfeit truth. While their circumstances may change, their methods remain consistent.

Here are seven marks of false teachers.

1False teachers are man pleasers. What they teach is meant to please the ear more than profit the heart. They tickle the ears of their followers with flattery and all the while they treat holy things with wit and carelessness rather than reverence and awe. This contrasts sharply with a true teacher of the Word who knows that he is answerable to God and who is therefore far more eager to please God than men. As Paul would say, “But just as we have been approved by God to be entrusted with the gospel, so we speak, not to please man, but to please God who tests our hearts” (1 Thes. 2:4).

2False teachers save their harshest criticism for God’s most faithful servants. False teachers criticize those who teach the truth, and save their sharpest criticism for those who hold most steadfastly to what is true. We see this in many places in the Bible, such as when Korah and his friends rose up against Moses and Aaron (Num. 16:3) and when Paul’s ministry was threatened and undermined by those critics who said that while his words were strong, he himself was weak and unimportant (2 Cor. 10:10). We see it most notably in the vicious attacks of the religious authorities against Jesus. False teachers continue to rebuke and belittle God’s faithful servants today. Yet, as Augustine declared, “He that willingly takes from my good name, unwillingly adds to my reward.”

False teachers teach their own wisdom and vision. This was certainly true in the days of Jeremiah when God would say, “The prophets are prophesying lies in my name. I did not send them, nor did I command them or speak to them. They are prophesying to you a lying vision, worthless divination and the deceit of their own minds” (Jer. 14:14). And today, too, false teachers teach the foolishness of mere men instead of teaching the deeper, richer wisdom of God. Paul knew “the time is coming when people will not endure sound teaching, but having itching ears they will accumulate for themselves teachers to suit their own passions, and will turn away from listening to the truth and wander off into myths” (2 Tim. 4:3).

4False teachers miss what is of central importance and focus instead on the small details. Jesus diagnosed this very tendency in the false teachers of his day, warning them, “Woe to you, scribes and Pharisees, hypocrites! For you tithe mint and dill and cumin, and have neglected the weightier matters of the law: justice and mercy and faithfulness. These you ought to have done, without neglecting the others” (Matt. 23:23). False teachers place great emphasis on their adherence to the smaller commands even as they ignore the greater ones. Paul warned Timothy of the one who “is puffed up with conceit and understands nothing. He has an unhealthy craving for controversy and for quarrels about words, which produce envy, dissension, slander, evil suspicions and constant friction among people who are depraved in mind and deprived of the truth, imagining that godliness is a means of gain” (1 Tim. 6:4-5).

5False teachers obscure their false doctrine behind eloquent speech and what appears to be impressive logic. Just as a prostitute paints and perfumes herself to appear more attractive and more alluring, the false teacher hides his blasphemies and dangerous doctrine behind powerful arguments and eloquent use of language. He offers to his listeners the spiritual equivalent of a poisonous pill coated in gold; though it may appear beautiful and valuable, it is still deadly.

6False teachers are more concerned with winning others to their opinions than in helping and bettering them. This was another of Jesus’ diagnoses as he considered the religious rulers of his day. “Woe to you, scribes and Pharisees, hypocrites! For you travel across sea and land to make a single proselyte, and when he becomes a proselyte, you make him twice as much a child of hell as yourselves” (Matt 23:15). False teachers are ultimately not in the business of bettering lives and saving souls, but of convincing minds and winning followers.

7False teachers exploit their followers. Peter would warn of this danger, saying: “But false prophets also arose among the people, just as there will be false teachers among you, who will secretly bring in destructive heresies, even denying the Master who bought them, bringing upon themselves swift destruction… And in their greed they will exploit you with false words” (1 Peter 2:1-3). The false teachers exploit those who follow them because they are greedy and desire the riches of this world. This being true, they will always teach principles that indulge the flesh. False teachers are concerned with your goods, not your good; they want to serve themselves more than save the lost; they are content for Satan to have your soul as long as they can have your stuff.

Inspired by Shai Linne and Appendix II of Thomas Brook’s Precious Remedies Against Satan’s Devices.

This article originally appeared here.

One Sure Sign You’re on a Healthy Team

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I’ve often said good leaders never assume that silence means everyone is in agreement.

Especially during seasons of change, the leader can’t assume everyone is on board because they aren’t hearing complaints. On one extreme, people may feel there will be retribution for stating their opinion. The reality is, leaders can be intimidating just by position—whether they intend to be or not. On the other extreme, people may not say what’s on their mind, simply believing it would be something the leader already knows. But, all of us only know what we know. We don’t know any more.

The leader doesn’t always hear what they need to hear, which is why good leaders ask good questions.

There is one caveat to this principle, however:

When a team is healthy—really healthy—so that the leader is approachable and team members know they are encouraged to participate in discussion. When there is no unresolved conflict or underlying drama. And, when people are on the team not just for a paycheck, but because they believe in the mission and love the team.

When the team is really healthy…

Silence can be interpreted as agreement.

That’s because:

  • The freedom to challenge is present
  • The fear of retribution is absent
  • The power of unity is prominent
  • The spirit of cooperation is elevated
  • The synergy of differences is celebrated
  • The collaboration of ideas has been utilized
  • The sharing of thoughts is welcomed

When you are on a really healthy team, people feel freedom to speak up when needed, so if they don’t, you can often safely assume they are in agreement.

I’ll be candid, I’m not sure I have been there more than a few times in my leadership career. I’m not even sure we are there yet with our current team. We have new staff members and we are in a season of rapid change. But, in the months to come, I’ll be looking to measure progress in this way. I’ll be reminding our team of this principle and the ramifications of it.

A good personal evaluation for the leader is to ask yourself this question: What does silence on my team indicate?

If people aren’t pushing back against change, what does that really mean?

And, for your sake, I hope it means you’re really serving with a healthy team.

This article originally appeared here.

Why Fascination Is So Powerful in Kidmin

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There’s no doubt that you can learn without being fascinated—say it repeatedly or listen to someone talk, talk, talk. But, it is GUARANTEED, yes guaranteed, that you’ll learn something when you’re fascinated. These are the “Oh my goodness” moments. “I didn’t know that.” “I’ve never seen that.” “How does that work?” “How did you do that?” (Read those first two sentences again and grab onto the difference.)

So, why are we doing the same things over and over and over again when we teach kids in the church? If kids (actually, people of all ages) learn every time they are fascinated, then we need to make it a goal to use fascination as a tool to draw kids into the Word of God. That means not doing it the same way every time.

Being fascinated focuses your attention. Have you ever been delayed in a traffic jam for an hour…or two? Of course you have! More than likely the reason for that delay was that there was an accident and everyone wanted a chance to take in the scene when they finally got close. A flood of questions went through each passerby’s brain as they observed the flashing lights, car in the ditch and the contents of a truck scattered on the ground. Although it was terribly unfortunate circumstances, people were nonetheless fascinated. It was unusual. It was something they didn’t understand. It put their curiosity on high alert. They had questions. They wanted to know more. Those are the characteristics of fascination.

It only makes sense that if we create an environment where fascination is everywhere that kids will grasp that we serve a fascinating God! So, how do we go about incorporating fascination as we challenge kids to live a life where Jesus is Savior and Lord? Seriously, I could spew out ideas the rest of the day on this, but let’s just hone in on a few specific areas.

Science Experiments

We often talk about the most difficult group to engage being 3rd, 4th and 5th grade boys. They could be off in no-where-land, engulfed in their handheld device or bouncing off the walls…but when you introduce a science experiment, they’ll lose all interest in what they were doing. Eyes will be glued on what could happen next. Our purpose, though, is not to teach the science. Our purpose is to draw kids to the Word of God, and now that you have their attention and created fascination, encourage them to voice their observations—the characteristics of the experiment. Take those observations and then increase the challenge by asking them to relate what they observed to a spiritual truth. Of course, you’ll have something in mind—a direction you’d like to go—but don’t discount that they may see something completely different and it is totally valid. Connect a fascinating experiment to Scripture and you’ve given kids a visual that won’t easily fade from memory.

Live and In-Person Experiences

Showing a photo of what you’re talking about is always helpful. But, what if you had the actual item or person, instead of the photo? What if kids could touch the object and turn it to look at all sides? What if they could ask questions of the actual person, like a ballerina or firefighter? That takes it to an entirely different level—to a fascinating level.

A friend of mine posted a photo on Facebook of her three children watching the tow truck load their family van to transport it to the repair shop. She said the event took over an hour and the kids stood at attention in the grass at the edge of the driveway mesmerized the entire time. Which is more fascinating? Showing a picture of a tow truck or watching one load a vehicle on the back? It was a live experience. Now, I’m not saying you need to bring a real tow truck into your classroom (although I bet some of you are trying to figure out how right now), but anytime you can go the extra step by taking a photo and making it a live experience, you have created fascination.

Storytelling

We have the greatest story to tell—God’s story, and how we can be part of it. His story is told with giant warriors, loaves of bread, jars of oil, on a mountaintop, in the belly of a fish, from jail, and on and on. God let His creativity go absolutely crazy when telling His story. So should ours! Want to see eyes get big? Want to fascinate? Turn out the lights and tell the mysterious story of Nicodemus going to Jesus in the middle of the night, but do it using blacklight figures. Bring in Abraham, in full garb, to amaze the kids as he tries to count the stars in the sky that represent his descendants. Take kids out under a tree where they’ll look up and find Zacchaeus perched on a limb recalling the day his life changed. Make it fascinating so they’ll fall in the love with the Word.

I’ll be the first to admit that fascinating takes extra time and energy. But, it makes teaching so much more memorable and fun—for both students and teachers! When kids chatter to their parents later in the day about what they did while with you, you’ve achieved fascination. So, how are you going to fascinate your kids this week?

This article originally appeared here.

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