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The Question All Leaders Must Answer Correctly

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Deuteronomy 31:1-4
He said, “I am now 120 years old, and I am no longer able to lead you. The LORD has told me, ‘You will not cross the Jordan River.’ But the LORD your God himself will cross over ahead of you. He will destroy the nations living there, and you will take possession of their land. Joshua will lead you across the river, just as the LORD promised.”

Can you imagine what Moses is feeling as he utters these words to Joshua?

In case you don’t know the context, Moses has been leading the Israelites to the Promised Land. He’s had ups, downs and in betweens. He’s old, tired and worn out. He commissions Joshua, the next leader, and has to basically tell him, “Look, I’m not gonna accomplish my vision, but you will.”

Many would expect Moses to kind of shift after that, withdraw and even maybe manipulate Joshua a little bit to keep him from accomplishing what he wasn’t going to be able to.

Moses didn’t do any of that.

In fact, if you read the rest of the chapter, you’ll find Moses encouraging and commissioning Joshua to do great things. You’ll see Moses continue to teach the frustrating and stubborn people he’s been leading for years.

Moses didn’t sacrifice the promise on the altar of his own pride.

As leaders, we have to constantly answer the question,

What matters more…Me or the Mission?

Good leaders are mission focused leaders. They put pride to the side for the future prosperity of what they’re leading.

Good parents are less concerned about living their dreams through their kids than they are about their children being great adults.

Good pastors are more concerned with people meeting Jesus than them getting enough stage time.

Good leaders care less about their status than they do about their organization’s success.

So, are you willing to move toward the future even if it means you won’t see the completion of the vision? Will you invest in others even if they may experience success you won’t?

Great leaders choose the mission over the “me.”

This article originally appeared here.

What a Seminary Degree Will NOT Do

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Consider this a love note to some unemployed preachers.

Not all, mind you (I’m trying to stave off a ton of irate letters). Just some.

I have all this education and training. Why won’t churches call me as pastor?”

He was angry at God, at all churches and at the system. He sported a college degree and two diplomas from seminary, the last entitling him to call himself “Doctor.”

And yet he was unemployed.

His resume shows two years each at several churches. Not a good record.

“The old churches are blackballing me,” he said. “I’m thinking of suing them.”

At one point he said, “I’m giving up on the organized church.”

Now, a casual observer may think I’m betraying a confidence here. I might be, except for one overriding thing: I’ve heard this same complaint, in one form or other, at least a half-dozen times over the years.

There’s a lot of this going around.

This complaint is based on a few false assumptions…

–that a seminary degree proves you know something.

I have known men with advanced degrees who are functionally illiterate, who never read a book or have a creative thought, and whose sermons are a repetition of every stale cliche’ in the book.  Read their writings and you come away shaking your head, that an educated person would not know that subjects and verbs must agree, that spelling is not only a good idea but imperative.

Having a seminary degree, even several of them, to our everlasting shame, does not prove you are educated.

–that a seminary degree entitles you to a job.

No one owes you a job, least of all the church of the Lord Jesus Christ. So, unemployed preacher, turn your anger in some other direction. Better yet, get over it. Get out there and find a job, even if it’s flipping burgers. If nothing else opens up, you can preach on the streets, ask the nursing home for permission to hold services there, or visit the jails. Someone out there will listen to you. But that degree does not obligate anyone to pay you a salary.

–that a seminary degree puts you ahead of others in the job market.

Sorry, Charlie. That degree does not prove you are smarter than the guy without one, more capable than the fellow with the high school education laboring away at his bi-vocational calling, or even that you are qualified for anything.

There was a time, perhaps a generation ago, when doctorates suddenly became more plentiful, that search committees were impressed by degrees and thought “Doctor” before a name would guarantee quality, effectiveness, dedication. But those days are over, ruined forever by shoddy preaching done by shallow preachers certified by sick seminaries.

And that’s not all bad. No search committee should call a minister because of his degrees or bypass one due to the lack of them.

–that a seminary degree proves your dedication, your spirituality, your competence.

It doesn’t. Seminary diplomas should carry fine print at the bottom saying something like: No guarantee is made by said seminary that the possessor has attained spiritual maturity, knows his Bible or lives by faith. Anyone hiring this candidate assumes full responsibility for checking into the background, doctrine and capabilities of same.

So, what good is a seminary education then, if it doesn’t prove your qualifications or guarantee you a job?

A few years spent on the campus of a good sound theological seminary when done properly—by which we mean the student studies conscientiously, does classroom preparation faithfully, fulfills the expectations of the professor, etc.—will do a great many things…

–It will enlarge the mind and heart of the student.

–It will inform him/her of the world of biblical history, language, culture, content and such.

–It will connect the student with professors, the denomination, various agencies, ministers far and wide, and colleagues (i.e., students), all of which will be invaluable to a lifetime of service to the Lord through His church.

–It will teach the student some skills. In seminary, I learned the Hebrew and Greek languages, took a series of classes covering both the Old and New Testaments, took some intensives on certain books of the Bible, and took classes on Christian ethics and social considerations. The classes on church history—I must have taken a dozen of these—opened my eyes to the heroes and heresies of the past, something everyone who would open God’s word to preach should know. I loved the classes on biblical archaeology and have read a dozen books on that subject over the years.

Seminary did me a world of good. It gave me a huge group of friends, many of whom are still in harness and still getting it done, after more than 50 years. I treasure the friendships made in classrooms, in the hallways before and after class, and on campus as we got to know each other in our homes.

And, it will do one huge thing more: A seminary education, while it will not prepare the student for everything that arises in his future ministry, will give him/her the tools for dealing with whatever challenges arise in the future. He will know how to look up a word, how to study the history of some movement, and where to find some essential information.

I do love New Orleans Baptist Theological Seminary. They get a check from me every year, and I pray for President Chuck Kelley, his amazing wife, Dr. Rhonda Kelley, and a ton of faculty and administrators there. Some of them have been close friends of mine for a half century. A couple of them I taught in Sunday School when they were in college.

Go to seminary. Work at it. Get the degrees. But don’t expect it to be the lord of your life afterward. Of the Lord alone was it said, “He is my Shepherd; I shall not want.” Don’t expect your diplomas to get you into anything. They’ll not even get you a discount at McDonald’s. What they will do is give you a leg up on doing the ministry God called you to do.

This article originally appeared here.

The Glorious Gift of Gospel-Driven Community

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Susie and I moved to new part of the Nashville area this spring.

When we were making our moving decision, we settled on two possibilities. Option A provided a shorter commute to work, but meager friendships and connections. Option B required a longer commute to work, but more opportunity for solid community. Each option provided about the same amount of house for the money, so that point was rather moot.

We went with Option B, which was my first choice, but not Susie’s. We were nervous, but we’re really glad we did.

Susie and I are both from the same town in Indiana. Before we moved to Nashville just over three years ago, virtually 100 percent of our friends lived within a three-hour drive of our town. We really took it for granted, I think, because we didn’t realize how alone we could feel until we moved seven hours away from everything we’ve ever known.

The first two-and-a-half years we lived in Nashville, we were really bad at making friends. We lived in an apartment and we more afraid of than friendly with our neighbors, and we loved our church, but lived 25 minutes away from it and most of our friends who went there, which prevented any frequent hangouts.

Plenty of you reading this already know this, but the first two-and-a-half years we lived in Nashville were incredibly difficult from a social perspective. We spent our entire lives in the same 60-mile stretch of Indiana, and when we moved seven hours south to a foreign land called “The South,” we didn’t realize how hard it would be to make friends, and we were terrible at making friends.

But, praise God, since we moved in April and have gotten settled in our new town and our house, we have grown in our ability to make friends. We’ve met some neighbors, our church is only 10 minutes up the street, and our community group is just five minutes away.

Since moving and establishing ourselves in a new town and amidst a new community of friends and neighbors, I’ve been learning about the give and take of community.

Community Gives a Lot

Already, in just the last couple of months that our community group has been meeting regularly, Susie and I have been so blessed to remember what it feels like to be a part of a community that loves each other even though we aren’t lifelong friends. When we left Indiana, I was always afraid we would never make friendships that could compare with the ones back home. Already it feels like we have found a community of people that would do anything for us—God has so so blessed us in this way.

Before we even joined the church, a group of people from the church helped us move into our house. This is speaking my love language big time—I hate moving, and these people did it for us even though they had no idea who we were or if we would even come to their church.

Community gives a lot. Community encourages; community provides; community corrects; community sacrifices. In short, a community loves.

God has been so good and has so blessed us with a group of friends who will love us enough to encourage us when we need encouraging and correct us when we need correcting. We don’t have everything in common, but we have the most important thing in common: our gospel-driven devotion to one another.

Community Takes a Lot

With the blessing of receiving the gifts of gospel-driven community comes the requirement of investing in gospel-driven community. I do not say “requirement” to say it is burdensome…but it might be.

I have always marveled at how a group of Christians can come together, regardless of race, socioeconomic status, political stances, interests or otherwise, and sacrificially love each other because of how miraculously they have been sacrificially loved.

If we are to benefit from the sacrificial love of gospel-driven community, we must also love sacrificially for the sake of our community.

This can be burdensome. Sacrificial love is rarely easy—after all, it is sacrificial. But, by the grace of God, sacrificial love brings joy in its wake. Loving others as Christ has loved us is a worshipful, God-glorifying experience.

My prayer for anyone reading this is that you’ve found a community of some kind, in your neighborhood, church or otherwise, that both allows you to receive sacrificial love and requires you to give it, too. It is one of the most wonderful experiences in life, to imitate the sacrificial love of Christ.

This article originally appeared here.

5 Essential Leadership Skills for Kids’ Pastors

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As you minister to the kids, you will grow as a leader. You are going to need a lot of volunteers to reach a lot of kids, so it’s critical that you understand leadership and that you grow in your leadership skills.

Here is my list of the top-five leadership skills you need for kids’ ministry:

1. Be an example.

The leader is the one who sets the pace. Peter said it like this: Care for the flock that God has entrusted to you. Watch over it willingly, not grudgingly—not for what you will get out of it, but because you are eager to serve God. Don’t lord it over the people assigned to your care, but lead them by your own good example.

1 Peter 5:2,3

You need to be the one who is more committed than anyone else. Don’t just be on time for your volunteer meetings, be 10 minutes early.

Be prepared when you minister. Don’t just get up in front of the kids and wing it. Don’t ever just read the curriculum.

The Scripture says to study to show yourself approved (see 2 Tim. 2:15). Preach out of your overflow.

Practice your drama skits. Memorize your lines. Test all your media elements on the screen before church so you are not embarrassed.

You are the leader. The kids are watching you. Your volunteers are watching you. They are only going to do what you do.

2. Be proactive.

When I first started in kids’ ministry, I saw myself as a victim.

I loved the kids, but I felt like my ministry was totally at the mercy of other people.

I played the blame game a lot:

Things would get better if…

…parents placed a higher value on their children.

…more people would step up and volunteer.

…my pastor understood how important kids’ ministry is.

This type of thinking does not get you anywhere.

You do need people to help you minister to the kids, but people will not follow you just because you think they should.

A proactive person does not focus on the things he can’t control. Don’t waste time getting angry about things you can’t control.

What are some areas that you do have control over?

  • Your Thoughts.

You have total control over your thoughts. Think about what you are thinking about.

Are you constantly thinking negative thoughts about yourself? I had a huge battle in this area because I grew up in a negative environment.

Choose to hang out with people who are positive and make you feel good about yourself.

  • Your Words.

Words are powerful. You can use your words to build people up or to tear people down.

  • The Kids

You are the person who has the most influence over the kidmin program.

Quit whining about people that don’t see your vision.

Make the children’s ministry the most exciting ministry in the church. Only you can do this. Nobody is going to do it for you.

One day my pastor announced in a staff meeting that he had booked a special speaker for a New Year’s Eve service.

The service was starting at 8:00 p.m. and going until midnight. I was not happy about having to plan a four-hour kids’ service in the middle of the holidays.

My first thought was self-pity, which then led to anger.

After I got over my pity party, I got a great idea. What if I planned a New Year’s Eve lock-in for the kids? I had to be at church anyway, right?

I ran the idea by my pastor, and he liked it. Instead of trying to babysit the kids for four hours, we planned a big party.

Parents dropped off their kids at church at 8:00 p.m.

At 10:00 p.m., we loaded up on a bus and took the kids to Chuck E. Cheese. We had all the pizza they could eat, all the pop they could drink, and all the video games were free. At 2:00 a.m., we reloaded the buses and went back to church for a lip-sync contest. Eventually, the kids rolled out their sleeping bags. Kids, parents and volunteers all had a blast; so we made it an annual event.

A successful kids’ pastor is proactive.

You don’t have time for a pity party. Stop thinking about all the things you can’t control, and pour your energy into the things you can control.

3. Vision Casting and Goal Setting

All leaders are visionaries. While vision casting and goal setting are not the same—they are connected.

Vision is simply the desired future. What do you see?

As believers in Christ, vision is not just something we imagine. It’s something that comes from heaven. We want to be able to say with the Apostle Paul, “I was not disobedient to the vision from heaven” (Acts 26:19 NIV).

Proverbs 29:18 KJV says, “Where there is no vision, the people perish.”

Churches need to have a vision for their kids, or their kids will perish. We will lose the next generation! This is why vision is so important.

Goal Setting is a way to measure progress toward what you see in the future, not just for you—for your entire team.

Goal setting is important because it is highly motivating for your team to set some goals and then accomplish those goals. Unlike anything else, this gives your team confidence in your leadership.

Here is how I cast vision with my team:

  • I have one meeting every year specifically for vision casting.
  • I do this on a Saturday morning in January.
  • Before I cast the vision for the coming year, we look at the vision from the year before and measure our progress. (I don’t always accomplish every goal on the list, but I do accomplish most of them.)
  • I cast the vision for that year illustrated with a Power- Point™ presentation.

This communicates to everyone that we do what we say we are going to do, and it creates momentum.

4. Delegate, Delegate, Delegate

To survive in kids’ ministry, you need to learn the leadership skill of delegation.

As the kids’ pastor, you have responsibility for ministry in multiple classrooms happening simultaneously, plus ministry to parents and first-time visitors, overseeing volunteers, and the constant need to recruit new volunteers. To make matters worse, all this is happening at the same time—on Sunday morning.

If this sounds stressful, it is; but only if you do it by yourself. The solution to this dilemma is to spread your leadership around by delegating to others.

For example, if you enjoy teaching first through fifth graders, you need to find good people to greet new parents, process check-in, oversee your volunteers, and teach the other classes.

Figure out what you are good at, and delegate the rest.

You don’t have to be good at everything. There are people in your church who are good at the things you are not.

My pastor says, “Delegate everything you can delegate.”

The more you delegate, the more it frees you up to be creative, and it gets someone else connected. It also communicates to your leaders that you trust them.

Do not hesitate to ask people to do the things you can’t or don’t have time for. This is the only way it may get done.

• Don’t be afraid of no.

In the past, I have not asked people to do things out of the fear of rejection. Hey, the worst they can say is no. If they say no, you haven’t lost anything. If you don’t ask; however, you will never hear yes.

• Don’t make decisions for people.

Some of my volunteers are stay-at-home moms. At times, I have felt guilty asking them to volunteer when I know they have many kids at home. I assumed that they didn’t have time to volunteer, but I learned not to make the decision for them. Your volunteers are big people. If they can’t do it, they will let you know.

• Delegation is not dumping.

There is a difference between delegation and dumping.

When you dump, you ask someone to do something and then never talk to him or her again. You assume it is done.

Delegation is not just getting through your to-do list. It is mentoring people. You need to stay in regular communication with people that you delegate to.

5. Communication

I spend a lot of my time communicating with people. It just comes with the territory. That’s why it’s critical to take the responsibility to communicate with your leaders, volunteers, and parents.

Let people know what is expected of them up front, and follow through. Before each weekend, I communicate with everyone on the schedule. I usually communicate by e-mail, but sometimes I call people if it is really important.

I have found that my teenage volunteers don’t use e-mail. The best way to communicate with young people is by text or Facebook.

My point is that people communicate in different ways, but I take the responsibility to make sure communication happens. For example, I don’t assume that communication happens just because I fired off an e-mail. If I don’t get a reply, then call to talk about the weekend.

Shouldn’t my volunteers be more responsible than that?

Maybe, but they are volunteers. They don’t have to be there.

The bottom line is I have fewer no-shows if I connect with people during the week. It also gives me an opportunity to speak into their lives.

Communication is a two-way street. It’s not only about what you have to say. Real communication happens when you understand each other, so build listening into your communication.

Here is another blog about the importance of having Teenagers in ministry with you. 

Did you know? This year, I released a brand new KidMin book called The Red Book that tackles this issue and more in its 45 chapters? This book is a step-by-step guide on how to develop an effective KidMin that brings life change to the kids you minister to on a weekly basis. Click here to claim your copy.

This article originally appeared here.

How to Find the Perfect Volume

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The perfect volume for a church service isn’t found in a magic number. Truth be told, what one person finds perfect, another thinks is too loud or too soft. Who’s correct? This guide helps you find the ideal volume for your sanctuary and implement a process so all audio techs mix a consistent volume each week.

Let’s get this part out of the way. You might even hate me for it. I can take it, I’ve raised teenagers. Here goes: The volume level for your church service is to be at a professional level, which is not the same as a rock concert.

I was at a huge church tech conference that offered a worship time. Was the volume perfect? Far from it. I talked with other techs afterward and we all agreed it was so loud that we couldn’t worship. I’ve even been at a 50-person church which was just as bad. It’s not a rock concert!

What’s this professional level of which I speak? Before that can be answered, let’s talk about sound measurements.

Sound Meters and Measurements

Meters for measuring sound are called SPL meters, not dB meters. Oh, someone might say “dB meter,” but what is measured is the SPL (sound pressure level). When sound enters the ear, we don’t detect “volume.” Instead, we detect the pressure in the air created by the sound waves. When the pressure is strong enough, we feel it, like a loud bass guitar or thunder.

SPL meters are great but they aren’t all the same. There are a few differences.

1. Feature Set

They all offer basic functionality, but some also allow for tracking and recording the average over a period of time. I rarely use extra functions except when I want a sound average for my own curiosity, audio geek that I am.

2. Meter Type

The type affects the quality. Put a better way, smartphone meters can vary a lot in how well they detect sound versus a true hardware-based meter which is more accurate.  Smartphone meters are also often limited to 100 dB and rely on the phone’s microphone, unless a measurement microphone is purchased for the phone—at that point, why not just buy a real meter? Meters can be re-calibrated if necessary.

Primarily, I use a hardware-based meter but do use an iPhone meter on occasion, such as if I’m at a loud restaurant and curious about the volume, again, audio geek that I am. My recommendation is for a hardware-based meter when taking front-of-house measurements.

Please note that while the measurement is defined as dB SPL, for ease, I’ll be using the generic term “volume” going forward.

How to Measure Sound

A quick glance at a sound meter will reveal options including weight and speed. These are very important in SPL measurement.

Weight

Coke or Pepsi? Chevy or Ford? Weighting is another one of these questions because there are two types of weighting common to live audio: A-weighting and C-weighting. The difference is one measures sound how humans hear and the other measures sound differently.

Our ears interpret frequency volumes differently. In the below chart, the Equal Loudness Curve shows how the frequency/volume differs. As the frequencies decrease (to the left) and increase (to the right), the volumes start increasing so they are perceived to have the same sound level. For example, a sound at 1000 Hz at 80 dB SPL appears to sound as loud as a 100 Hz sound at 90 dB SPL.

A-weighting measures sound as if it’s heard by the human ear. This weighting reduces frequency volume below 600Hz. Not a lot at first, but by the time you get to 200Hz, it’s a 10dB cut. The same thing happens above 5kHz with 20kHz getting a 10dB cut.

Let’s say a contemporary band is playing at 90dBA (notice the “A” at the end). C-weighting does cut the highs just like the A-weighting but it doesn’t cut the low-end volumes until below 40dB. Therefore, that same band might have a C-weight measurement of 96dBC. The differences in weightings is seen below.

As well as A and C weights, there are other weights but they’re not appropriate for live sound measurement in music situations.

Which is preferred? I’ve heard arguments on both sides. Pick one and stick with it. Much of what you are doing is comparing numbers within your own sanctuary. Also, the volume that works for one church doesn’t equate to the volume that will work in another.

Personally, I use A-weighting. I believe it’s a better representation in the venues I mix. That being said, I’ve checked my C-weight numbers when I thought there was a heavy amount of low-end in the mix. If you run an organ in your service, use C-weighting. See what I mean?

Speed

How often should measurements be taken? Be careful before answering. While a combination of instruments and singers produce a combined sound, there are all sorts of little volume peaks that occur, from the sound of the drum stick on the snare head to a passing guitar note. Watching a constant measurement would drive you crazy because it wouldn’t show a true average. This leaves two meter options: fast and slow.

  • Fast is 125 milliseconds. A little slower than constant but it’s still going to pick up a lot of peaks.
  • Slow is 1000ms (one second) and the preferred method. Can a lot happen in one second? Yes. However, to get a true average, it’s the best speed.

Notation

Record measurements by using the formula: Number dB[WEIGHT] (speed).
For example, 90dBA (slow).

Max vs. Peak

Some meters allow for tracking a max volume and a peak volume. For recording average sound levels, use the max value. The peak could be significantly higher because it doesn’t take a time factor into consideration. You might see a max value of 90dB and a peak value of 96dB. Your average would be 90dB.

How to Measure the Room

Using a combination of weight and speed settings, there are a few volume levels to record. It starts with the volume across the room.

There isn’t a perfect acoustic space where all points in the room receive sound at the same level, at least not in the church world. Through this process, you’ll discover how much of a volume difference occurs in the room. As long as the differences aren’t too bad (under 5dB) then all is good. If it’s greater than that, it’s time to call a professional to address the problem through speaker alignment changes, acoustic treatment or other options.

1. The Shape

Start by drawing out the shape of the sanctuary and mark where the seats are located. Next, draw a grid over this with points every 12 feet. If the sanctuary is small and/or has side seating or alcoves, make sure to cover those areas.

2. Pink Noise

Run pink noise through the house system. Pink noise is equal energy through octaves and works in the same way our ears work. Dennis Foley of AcousticFields.com says, “It’s not that pink noise is calibrated to the human ear’s frequency response. It’s just calibrated to how we hear, which is very well-grounded in math. Each time the frequency doubles, we hear that as an octave. From one octave to the next, we expect to hear an appropriate amount of sound energy (depending upon the program material), which is why we calibrate our audio systems to pink noise. Octave bands are easier for our hearing mechanism to understand.” 

Set this loud enough that is seems like a reasonably loud volume.

3. Measure

Walk to each point where the grid lines intersect and take a measurement. Write this on the grid intersect. Make sure you also take a reading from behind the mixer as it’s a reference point.

4. Review Results

Once finished, look for high and low volume areas. This shows how the congregation hears the sound system. Also, if you get volume complaints, find out where they sat and see if it’s a naturally louder part of the room. You might find the sound booth has the lowest volume which means when you’re mixing and think the volume sounds right, the congregation is hearing it louder—maybe a lot louder.

In an upcoming section on finding the right volume for the room, remember any such difference and accommodate for it.

Room Range

Time to take a few measurements from the sound booth.

1. Noise Floor

The noise floor is the level of ambient noise that’s present in the room when the sound system is turned on. If the room’s air handlers present a noticeable volume, then they add to the noise floor. This means you want to know how much sound is present in the room when the AC/heaters are running and the sound system is humming. Once a room fills with people, their presence (talking and moving around) can also contribute to the noise floor.

The noise floor is the level at which you can minimally produce sound through the house speakers. We typically don’t think about how low we can go, but if you have a soloist who is singing a capella then it’s possible they might lower their volume and sing at a whisper.  You don’t want their volume to drop below the noise floor.

2. Maximum Volume

The next volume to record is the loudest the system can go. That being said, be careful testing. Just because the audio system goes to 150dBA doesn’t mean you should push it that high. What you’re looking for is the point in which the system starts clipping and/or the house audio distorts. An older sound system might distort at 100dBA while a newer system might go much louder. The reason for finding this upper level is to find out how much you can push the volume over the nominal (expected) volume.

Let’s say the band mix runs around 88dBA. One day the band is on fire, the congregation is really into worship, and you want to push the volume a little higher to add energy to a song. If the system distorts at 95dB, you don’t have much room to work. If it’s higher, it does. You don’t want to fill the room with a distorted sound. Once you find the optimal volume for the room, as described in a later section, note that as the nominal level. There will be a nominal level for music and one for the spoken word. Record the higher of the two.

You can record this volume with pink noise, though it would be hard to hear the distortion though you could see the amp clipping. Or, do it with the band playing. If you opt for this route, you’ll have to do it quickly.

3. Headroom

The difference between the nominal level and the loudest the system can handle is the headroom. For tall people who ride in small cars, you know all about headroom and the first big bump you hit—ouch.

4. Dynamic Range

There’s one more volume to record and you don’t need the meter. Subtract the noise floor from the loudest value (before distortion) and you get the dynamic range. This is the volume range in which you can safely run the volume and know it will be heard. This can be useful for using volume as a dynamic to a song. Just remember to account for the sound of congregational singing.

In the below image, I’ve used a handful of easy numbers to demonstrate all of this.

 

What’s the Right Volume?

Here’s a list of how I’ve heard the right volume described:

  1. I love my country music turned up loud in my truck but I expect church music to be soft.
  2. As loud as I want, whenever I run sound.
  3. Loud enough I can’t hear myself sing.
  4. Loud enough I CAN hear myself sing.

And you thought picking out a paint color with your spouse was hard.

The right volume for your church service, once you find it, will not be perfect for everyone. It’s possible and you might be so blessed. However, understand each person has their own preferences so what you’re looking for is the volume that suits the majority of people.

The right volume is not what worked at your old church. It’s easy to hear a certain volume and get used to it. I started at a church several years ago and was told, after my first few services, that my mixes were solid but just not loud enough. I raised the volume and then discovered it: “That actually sounds better.” It was the right volume for the room.

The right volume is that which enables the majority of the congregation to be engaged with the sermon, hear all spoken words no matter the speaker, and fully engage in worship. Note those are three different things, each requiring an appropriate volume. This means you can’t set the volume on the channels at the beginning of the service and never touch them again.

During the sermon alone, I guarantee the pastor’s volume level will change. It will likely drop the longer they talk or when they pray. Mixing is an active process, and while there might be good decibel levels that are set for a channel, they might need changed, so never forget that.

Through this page, I’ll help you find the best volume ranges for all of these things but you’ll still need to listen throughout the service in case a change needs to occur.

How to Find the Right Volume Range for the Room

The right room volume is based on three things:

  1. Hearing safety
  2. The desire of the worship leader/pastor/church elders
  3. The response of the congregation

Before discussing the process of finding the right volume, know you might already have it figured out, but just don’t know it. And it’s always good to verify it. After all, it might be good but it could be better. Let’s get to it!

1. Hearing Safety

Provide a safe volume level so as not to create permanent or temporary hearing loss. This doesn’t mean you can’t “mix loud.” It means you shouldn’t rattle teeth.

One problem with mixing on the louder side is when people bring up the OSHA (Occupational Safety and Health Administration) hearing level safety chart as a means of saying, “it’s too loud.” This chart lists the limits for sound levels over a period of time. Take a look at the chart and then read on to find out why it’s not useful for the church service situation.

I’ve had this conversation with a congregation member who contacted me, through this site, regarding their church. “I bought a sound meter and watched it during the worship time. They exceeded the OSHA numbers.” At this point, I asked them the question, “Did you use A- or C-weighting?” I didn’t mind having the conversation with them about their church’s sound, but I did want to make sure they weren’t comparing apples to oranges. But the weight question was just the beginning.

The problem with using the OHSA chart for comparison with live audio production is the OSHA chart is based on constant noise as one would find in a manufacturing facility with constant running machinery. For example, when their chart shows a limit of two hours for 100dBA, they’re talking about a constant noise for two hours. Worship sets aren’t apt to run for two hours and they aren’t going to be that loud the whole time. Therefore, don’t worry too much about the chart. Common sense should tell you when it’s too loud. And if you’re not sure, see the next two points.

2. The Desire of Church Leadership

This is a tricky area. There are times when leadership is wrong about volume. I’m talking about instances where they are clearly wrong. For example, a sound tech once told me his church leadership said to crank the volume because more volume equals a better worship experience. I’ve visited places like that and trust me, it doesn’t and I could tell the congregation didn’t like it either. This could be a make or break deal for you.

For example, if I was at a church that demanded a certain decibel level I knew was too loud for the congregation and detracted from worship, I’d attempt to educate leadership and ask to test lower volumes and get responses after the service. Or, they could just track their complaint count. If this didn’t work and they said I had to keep it at that volume, I could not in good conscience stay on as an audio tech at that church—even stay at that church for that matter. We have a huge responsibility to the church, to the congregation and to God to sculpt the audio so it’s a blessing; always remember that.

You could be on the other end in which you’re told to keep it soft, too soft. I wouldn’t consider it a make or break deal because you aren’t doing damage to anyone’s ears. But if they aren’t engaging because it’s too soft, it’s a conversation you need to have with the worship leader and the church staff, if necessary. In either situation, first go to the people to whom you directly report. And again, ask to test volume changes.

I’ve been fortunate as all pastors I’ve worked under have all allowed me to run the volume as I saw fit.

I should add that if you’re running sound and the pastor comes up and asks you to turn it down…turn it down. You can talk later about why/what they thought was loud.

3. The Response of the Congregation

The best way to set the volume level is by basing it on the number of people singing, standing, raising their hands in praise, or using whatever your congregation tends to do that shows they are fully engaged in worship. That goes for music. For the spoken word, it’s a bit harder but if you hear people say they couldn’t hear the message, then it wasn’t loud enough. So let’s talk practical application.

Volume Testing

Consider this three-step process for meeting the needs of the congregation regarding volume level:

1. It Seems Right

Set the volume during the sound check based on what you think is right.

2. Make a Change

Once the service starts and the worship band starts, look at the congregation and slowly raise the master fader volume to an extra 3dB. If there’s no change, try higher or lower. At some point, you’ll see more or less people fully engaged in worship. The more stoic the congregation, the harder this can be.

3. Check, Rinse, Repeat

Once you find that ideal volume, check to see what is it, using the SPL meter. The next time you run sound for a service, do steps 1 and 2 again and check again with the meter. You’ll find a few things happen from one service to the next and from one song to the next. First, your average dB levels will vary slightly from service to service and that’s ok.  It means you’re meeting the needs of the congregation for each particular service. Second, you’ll find a soft song might sound better at a lower volume than a higher one.

Let’s talk real numbers. I won’t recommend a specific volume level because it all depends on your room and the congregation. For example, in one church I ran the worship sets around 86dBA(slow). At the church I’m at now, I run around 91dBA(slow). I know guys that run their worship sets around 104dBa(slow). 86dB to 104dB is a huge difference. It’s a matter of what sounds right in the room and how the congregation reacts. All that to say, use your ears and watch the people. I mean listen with your ears and watch with your eyes.

Let me be clear: Going forward, a meter should not be used as the primary means of setting and maintaining the volume. That’s to say, don’t ride the house fader so the volume never goes above or below a specific number like 88dBA. The song needs room to move. Same for the spoken word. I can have a song that fluctuates from 84dB to 93dB during the song. That’s normal. One verse only has a piano. The chorus has all instruments in. The usage of every instrument in a song affects the volume and so a natural change is normal. What you’re looking for is the number that best represents the majority of the song.

When you find the right range, start using your ears to guess the right range. Run the volume so it’s where you think it should be. Then, check the meter to see. When I moved to a bigger sanctuary, as I’ve mentioned, I found I was mixing quieter than I needed to be. After a while, you’ll find you’re mixing the right volume and the meter only becomes something you check a couple of times per service to make sure you haven’t let the volume get away from you.

Visit this page for a worksheet you can use for testing volume changes.

Volume Policy

Work with the church to establish a church policy on volume. Then, it becomes your safety net. There might be complaints, and they should be investigated, as I’ll cover soon, but as long as you’re under the church’s policy level and within their preferred range, you’re good.

Uniform Volume Across Services

There are times when one sound guy refuses to listen and runs the volume higher.  The mentality is normally that of, “I know what I’m doing,” or the self-centered, “I like it this loud.

In order to get these people to change their ways, they need to be educated in two areas.

  1. They need to know you’ve determined the volume range that works in the church. This can happen in a meeting with everyone or one-on-one.
  2. They need to see it from the congregation’s point of view and that’s the best way to lead into a discussion of how you found the best range.

The congregation needs a music volume that’s conductive for worship and it’s not based on your personal preference. That’s why I spent a previous section discussing how to find that right volume. If there is anyone on the audio team that mixes louder or softer than everyone else, they need to understand this point.

The congregation also needs to hear a consistent volume of audio production from one week to the next. If you mix music at a volume the congregation likes and the next person mixes too loud, the congregation will notice and they’ll come to a point where they look to see who is running sound on days they don’t like it. Eventually, when they walk in and see that person in the sound booth, they know they aren’t going to enjoy the service.

Volume and Mixing Warnings

A few notes and warnings about the dangers of volume, hearing and mixing.

Volume and Frequency Changes

Mixing music isn’t as simple as dialing in the mix and leaving everything alone. Not only are mix changes required from one song to the next, the volume of the song affects the mix sound. This can be heard in the high-end and low-end sounds. As soon as you lower the overall volume of the band, the first thing you’ll notice is the highs and lows seem to have dropped off. Therefore, when mixing a slow song that would benefit from a lower volume, listen to where the highs and lows have gone. A little EQ work in those areas will bring the mix back to life.

Volume Creep

It’s easy to boost the house volume when you’re into the music. Just a little louder, just a little louder, just a little … you get the idea. But if you’re doing it for yourself, you’ll get into trouble.

When it comes to raising the volume, it’s OK to do this when it’s part of your active mixing plan, such as boosting for a chorus or for the last song of the service. But there’s an area where things get dangerous: TTS.

Temporary threshold shift (TTS) happens when your ears get used to a loud volume and it registers differently. Eventually, the same “loud” volume no longer sounds loud. You’ll want to push it louder. In some cases, you’ll want to make mix changes such as boosting the highs and lows. However, these changes would destroy your mix. If you’re ever doing extended mixing sessions in a loud environment for over 30 minutes of solid sound, either wear ear plugs when you’re not mixing or step out of the room for 5-10 minutes. You’d want to talk with someone or listen to something at a low level so your ears can reset.

Boosting volume for effect is a valid use of volume boosting but don’t let yourself get tricked into boosting the volume because you suddenly think it needs it.

Ways to Manipulate Volume

There are three primary ways in which audio volume can be controlled through automation: compression, limitation, and gating. While they aren’t directly related to setting the right volume for your sanctuary, they are worth noting because of their functionality and impact on volume.

Gates

A gate is used to control when a sound is heard, based on its volume level. In this case, if the volume drops below the specific threshold, it’s no longer sent out to the house mix. This is useful to rid a microphone of excess stage noise when it’s not receiving the intended sound, such as when a vocalist stops singing.

Compression

Audio compression is the process of reducing the dynamic range of a sound. This compression occurs when the volume level signal exceeds a specified level. In practical terms, when a singer decides to belt out the chorus, instead of jumping for the fader, the compressor does the work for you.

I prefer to use compression on any channel in which the volume could potentially spike quickly and noticeably unbalance the mix. For example, if an electric guitarist changes pedal effects during a song then there’s the potential for the next pedal effect to have a higher gain and thus become massively louder that everything else in the mix. It’s OK (and good) to have volume fluctuations in a mix; a louder vocal can give the feeling of more of an emotion, for example.

Limiting

A limiter is a compressor with a fixed high ratio, such as 50:1. It’s used as a protective measure so a volume spike caused by something like a dropped microphone or something worse isn’t amplified. That amplification could damage speakers and even harm hearing of those people in the room, either on a temporary or permanent basis. This will be set to a higher threshold than anything else so any event can still produce audio with a wide range of volume and allow for normal volume spikes like a burst of energy from the drums.

Music Versus the Spoken Word

Volumes levels are funny when it comes to music compared to the spoken word. A band might be rocking out the sanctuary at 94dBa but if the spoken word was run at that volume, it would be unbearably loud. The majority of the volume discussion has been about music, as it’s more a point of contention than anything. So, what’s the best volume for the spoken word?

Let me ask this question. Can you hear the pastor? That’s an easy one. How about this: Can you understand the pastor? The same questions should be asked of anyone speaking in to a microphone.

When it comes to the spoken word, the problem is usually with the mix. That’s right, it’s an EQ problem. So much effort is put on the music but little is spent on the spoken word.

Check out this article of mixing the spoken word:

Based on my experience, the right volume for the spoken word is when the speaker can be heard throughout the room while the volume walks a thin line between “just loud enough” and “too loud.” Vague, I’m sure. When I’m listening to a speaker, I want to feel I’m listening to them, not to an amplified voice. I want it to feel personal. When it’s too loud, I feel it’s echoing off the wall. When it’s not loud enough, I have a hard time hearing them.  It’s about finding the balance. You don’t want the congregation struggling to hear and you don’t want them to feel like they’re in a sports arena.

Complaints

There’s a problem with volume complaints. They’re incomplete. Seriously. Someone comes up and says the volume was too loud. This is their opinion, right off the bat, and there is much more to learn. Consider the following questions:

  • Where were they sitting?
  • Is this their first time at the church?
  • How old are they?
  • Did you run the music mix louder than usual?
  • What, exactly, was too loud?
  • Have they complained before?
  • Has the makeup of the band changed?

Don’t dismiss complaints. Some are valid. Regular complaints from different people each week are a sign of a problem. If people are leaving the church because of the volume, it’s a problem. Ask the person questions that can bring to the surface why they thought it was too loud. The next step might be to recommend they sit in a different area. Or, explain the volume is in the preferred range set forth by the church. Be sympathetic, learn what you can, and be honest. You might even find yourself saying, “I’m sorry, I think I did run it a little louder than normal.

Dealing with Hostile Complainers

The band was rocking and I’d just checked my meter to make sure I was within the allowable volume range when I felt a tap on my arm. From outside the sound booth, a man had reached over. When I turned to address him, he started going off on me and saying things like if I didn’t turn down the volume, he was going to walk up to the front of the sanctuary. I explained, twice, the volume level was within the acceptable range and he could take it up with the person I named. Eventually, he walked away. I was a bit shaken but more surprised than anything. These things happen.

Deal with these people in a calm but firm manner. If it’s during the service, you’re not going to alter the volume just for them—unless you know you were running it way too loud, but that might go without saying. You can recommend they talk to you after the service or simply direct them to talk with your leader. If you have a technical director, it’s probably them. If it’s you, again, offer to talk after the service or later in the week. Be kind, yet firm. You are doing a job that you know how to do.

If a person is hostile after the service, use the same things outlined above except add in the ability to ask questions. However, if you think that would only make them more upset, find someone else in church authority and go to them.

Complaints can still happen when you have the perfect volume for the majority of the room. It’s just part of the job.

Ear Plug Usage

Are ear plugs for the congregation OK?  I’ve had people tell me they keep a bowl of earplugs by the doors to the sanctuary. If that’s not a sign of a problem, I don’t know what is. Let’s tackle this from two points of view.

1. They Asked

It’s possible there are a couple of people in your congregation who find the music too loud and opt for earplugs. This can happen. I was at a church where an elderly man would walk into the hallway during the music because it was too loud for him. The volume as at a respectable level but for him, it was too much and instead of making a big deal out if it, he would quietly slip in and out during the service. But to put out a bowl of earplugs? There needs to be a better way. Just the sight of the bowl would throw anyone. I say it’s the responsibility of the person but if a couple of people ask for them, consider keeping them at the sound booth.

2. They Need It

If you’re running the volume so loud that half the congregation wants ear plugs, IT’S TOO LOUD! I had a person recently tell me their spouse could no longer sit through a service because of the high volume. You’re mixing for a church service, not a rock concert. And you also can have children and babies who are exposed to those high volumes and don’t have the ability to leave (or to express the pain from the volume).

If you’re running the volume so loud that you have to put out a bowl of ear plugs by the door, please explain the details of why it’s absolutely necessary to run it that loud. Oh, you don’t need to convince me, you need to convince yourself.

The Pre-emptive Strike

I had an elderly man come up to me before the service and kindly asked if he could ask me a question. I smiled and said, “Sure, what’s the question?” He said he has sensitive ears and wanted to know if the service would be loud. I paused, hesitant to just say yes, knowing volume preferences are relative and knowing we run at good levels. Then I said, “Given the type of music and the size of the band, it does tend to be loud by nature of these things.

He could have left or asked me, “Does it have to be that loud?” but instead showed a wonderful spirit by asking about the schedule of the service and if there was a place with a close-circuit TV he could watch. I explained that in the outer lobby are televisions that broadcast the service. I also explained the first fifteen minutes of the service are music but then we run a 30 second intro video before the sermon and suggested he come in then. He was grateful for the help and went away happy.

Had I had ear plugs to offer, I wouldn’t have felt right about it. To me, it’s like saying I know it’s too loud and here’s our way around that. Please know this is my opinion. I know churches that offer them to people who are grateful to have them, and the sound techs and the church are OK with it and it works for them. Maybe it’s just the gut feeling I get whenever I walk into a church and see a bowl of ear plugs. My first thought is, “this won’t be good.” It’s not inviting; it’s foreshadowing.

This article originally appeared here. Visit the original page to download a worksheet to help you find the right volume for your sanctuary.

5 Huge Youth Ministry Myths

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When it comes to youth ministry there are tons of myths floating around out there. Here are five of the biggest ones:

1.  The “Youth Ministry is a 20th Century invention” Myth

Nope! According to the blog The Happy Surprise, “In Avot 5 (from the Mishnah: rabbinical commentary that was added to the Old Testament), we learn of the ancient Jewish education traditions: scripture study begins at age 5; Mishnah study at 10; Torah obligations at 13; continued rabbinical study at 15 if chosen to be tutored by a formal teacher or apprenticed to a trade; marriage at 18; formal teaching at 30.

When Jesus, the ultimate rabbi, took his disciples into Capernaum only Peter and Jesus paid the temple tax (Matthew 17:24-27). If I’m reading these passages correctly then Jesus was a youth leader…with only one adult sponsor (Peter) and one really rotten teen (Judas).

In Titus 2:1-8 Paul challenges Timothy to have the older men teach the younger men and the older women to teach the younger women. These “younger” were most likely teenagers who were being ministered to and mentored by older adults.

Don’t buy the myth that youth ministry is a 20th Century invention. It began 2,000 years ago. Let’s get our adults to do what Jesus did by getting them to invest in a group of teenagers.

2.  The “Burn the box” Myth

We have all received a youth ministry box of sorts with lots of cool stuff in it. It has dodge balls, pizza, self-image talks, worship songs and marshmallow guns.

Some people say that the youth ministry box should be burned and we should start over. Because youth ministry in many circles has not been as effective as it could be, the thought is that we need to shake the Etch-A-Sketch and start over.

But that’s not the answer.

I’m grateful for the youth ministry box we have received from our youth ministry forefathers. The average youth leader has digital lessons to teach truth and game apps to break down barriers in the group. We have more camps, conferences, events and retreats to choose from than ever before in youth ministry history.

And we should all be grateful for these!

All of the items “in the box” can become nudges to gently push teenagers one millimeter (or, if we’re lucky, one meter) closer to Jesus.

We just need to create room in the box for the things that matter most. For instance, there’s not much room in the typical youth ministry box for intercessory prayer, relational evangelism and discipleship multiplication. Room must be made but we don’t have to burn the box to do that.

For a list of non-negotiables that should be in the box, check out Gospeladvancing.com.

3.  The “Either/Or Discipleship/Evangelistic” Myth

Most youth groups fall into one of two categories: They are a mile wide and an inch deep (aka “evangelism-focused“), or they a mile deep and an inch wide (aka “discipleship-focused“).

But the truth is they should be both! It shouldn’t be either/or but both/and!

Jesus took his disicples deep into the truths about God. But he took them wide with the Gospel at the same time. He had a “grow as you go” philosophy of discipleship. As his mostly teenaged followers took the Gospel across Judea he taught them the deeper truths about God. When they got excited about being able to cast out demons, he challenged their theology by encouraging them to be more excited about the reality of their salvation (Luke 10:20).

Teenagers grow quicker when they have something on the line, and evangelism puts their social equity on the line in a big way. If a teen claims the name of Christ they could be called names by their friends. If they align themselves with Jesus they could be at the back of the line when it comes to being “in” with the popular kids. But this risk accelerates the discipleshp process at warp speed.

Spiritually speaking the teens that go the most grow the most.

4.  The “Moms and dads should be the only youth leaders” Myth

There is a strand of stringent thinking in youth ministry that says that moms and dads should be the only youth leaders in the lives of their own children. The problem is that, for many Christian teenagers, moms and dads aren’t the spiritual leaders they need to be to really exemplify Christianity to their own kids.

For example, my mom was not even a believer when I was a teenager. I actually got to lead her to Jesus at the age of 15 and I discipled her!

There are more and more teenagers, like I was, who may not have Christian parents and desperately need Christian adults in their lives to coach and mentor them spiritually.

But even with Christian parents it is important to have other Christian adults as strong influences on their teenagers. I am the dad of two teenagers and am immensely grateful for the other Christian adults who speak into their lives. Some of these are official “youth leaders” and others are just adults that my teenagers know and respect.

It’s a myth to think that moms and dads are the only youth leaders in the lives of their teenagers.

5.  The “Lead pastors who leave youth ministry are sell outs” Myth

Who hasn’t heard this said about a youth leader, “He’s just using youth ministry as a stepping stone to a real job ..becoming a pastor.” Well, being a pastor is a high calling. And just because you become a lead pastor doesn’t mean you have lost your passion for youth!

You can get into youth ministry and get out, but once youth ministry “gets into you” you can never leave. Some of the best youth leaders I know were former youth pastors. Bill Hybels was a youth pastor and his built-in bent toward reaching the young never left him. I’m convinced that is one of the reasons why his ministry efforts feel so fresh, relevant and energetic!

I often call these kinds of pastors youth pastors with authority ..and a budget!

When I was a preaching pastor I cleared the path for the youth ministry at our church to be effective. I supported the youth pastor, deflected criticism about the youth ministry and challenged the people of our church to get behind the youth ministry in a big way. If he needed budget I’d try to get it. If he needed support I’d seek to provide it.

Lead pastors who leave youth ministry aren’t necessarily “sell outs” who gave away their passion for youth for a bigger paycheck and more glory. Instead many of them become the biggest advocates for youth ministry in the entire church.

These are five of the biggest myths about youth ministry. What are some others?

This article originally appeared here.

9 Facts About the Political Views of Millennial Evangelicals

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The Pew Research Center, a leading provider of Millennial and religious data whose data drives much of what I write here, recently republished some data from the 2014 U.S. Religious Landscape Study.

The data they shared deals with the political views of Millennial evangelicals, comparing them to the political views of both older evangelicals and all Millennials.

Overall, the numbers tell us that Millennial evangelicals hold more liberal political ideas than older evangelicals, but more conservative political ideas than their non-evangelical Millennial peers.

Here are just nine numbers from the article I found interesting. All percentages below are of “Millennial evangelicals,” or evangelicals born between 1981 and 1996.

1. 42 percent self-identify as “Conservative.”

Only 16 percent of Millennial evangelicals self-identify as “liberal,” and 34 percent of them self-identify as “moderate.” It is unsurprising that the highest percentage of Millennial evangelicals identify as “conservative,” but the high percentage of moderates is fascinating, too.

2. 51 percent self-identify as “Republican/lean Republican.”

A higher percentage of Millennial evangelicals identify with the Republican party than identify as “conservative,” which is sort of interesting to me. I wonder how much this percentage would change if the survey was done again this year, as the survey was done in 2014 before the election season.

3. 65 percent say “abortion should be illegal in all/most cases.”

If you’re an older evangelical and you’re afraid that Millennial evangelicals are too liberal, never fear: They hold the line on pro-life issues. Sixty-five percent of Millennial evangelicals believe abortion should mostly be illegal, compared to just 63 percent of older evangelicals and compared to just 36 percent of all Millennials.

4. 49 percent oppose same-sex marriage.

This number is a bit low, honestly. Evangelical leaders need to understand that the biblical sexual ethic they preach is going to grind against the marital beliefs of about half of the young evangelicals in their congregation. That is not to say pastors should teach anything different, but it does make the case that the way in which marriage is explained may need some examination.

5. 27 percent say “growing immigrant population is a change for the better.”

I’m really sad this number is so low. The question isn’t even about illegal immigrants; it’s about immigrants in general. Only about a quarter of Millennial evangelicals say the growing number of immigrants is for the better. Thankfully, only 31 percent say the growing immigrant population is for the worse.

6. 41 percent say “bigger government and more services are preferable.”

This number is pretty high when you compare it to older evangelicals, only 27 percent of which agree that bigger government and more services are preferable. Fifty-four percent of Millennial evangelicals say that smaller government and fewer services are preferable, which is in line with their Republicanism/conservativism.

7. 51 percent say “homosexuality should be accepted by society.”

Remember: This is 51 percent of Millennial evangelicals, not all Millennials. So, over half of Millennials who self-identify as “evangelical” believe that homosexuality should be accepted by society. This is in line with the 49 percent of Millennial evangelicals who oppose same-sex marriage. Only 32 percent of Millennials’ older evangelical peers believe the same way they do here.

8. 55 percent say “stricter environmental laws are worth the cost.”

Only 43 percent of older evangelicals agree with this statement, which simply shows that Millennial evangelicals are a bit more environmentally conscious than their older evangelical brothers and sisters. I definitely see this to be true in my own life—I don’t hear many of my friends, even the most conservative ones, saying things like, “Global warming is a hoax.”

9. 50 percent say “government aid to the poor does more harm than good.”

This is a complicated issue, isn’t it? The desire to help the poor is so strong among Millennials, but Millennial evangelicals are split down the middle about whether or not the government’s work in this area is helpful. Further, 38 percent of all Millennials believe the government aid to the poor does more harm than good—that number is unusually high, in my opinion. I would think more Millennials would see the government’s help at इ-श्रम कार्ड रजिस्ट्रेशन ऑनलाइन as a positive.

So What Does This Mean?

Millennial evangelicals, while about half still identify as “conservative” or “Republican,” do lean left on a number of political issues in comparison to their older evangelical brothers and sisters. At the same time, Millennial evangelicals are quite conservative in comparison to their non-evangelical Millennial peers.

This reality affects how evangelical pastors and church leaders minister to Millennial evangelicals and equip them for gospel ministry.

I think, most of all, older pastors and church leaders need to be careful not to take firm stands, conservative or liberal, on political issues that have no clear, biblical resolution.

For instance, it would not be wise to say “global warming is a hoax” or “illegal immigrants don’t need to apply for citizenship” from the pulpit. Making such statements may lead to unnecessary division and build obstacles to gospel ministry.

Multi-generational ministry is a glorious blessing. Young people can learn from old, and old from young. But it isn’t easy. Don’t make it any harder on yourself by taking hard stances on political issues that may have multiple biblical perspectives.

This article originally appeared here.

3 Things Required for Discipleship

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Whoever said discipleship was easy was misinformed. Paul refers to the work of discipleship as a “struggle” in Colossians 2:1-3. The process of making disciples and discipling disciples is a difficult work, but it’s what Jesus has commissioned us to do. If we give ourselves to teaching athletics, building friendships or doing service ministry (social work), but we don’t engage in the work of discipleship—we’ve missed our calling as a disciple of Jesus (Matt. 28:18-20). Mark Dever writes:

At the heart of Christianity is God’s desire for a people to display his character. They do this through their obedience to his Word in their relationships with him and with each other. Therefore he sent his Son to call out a people to follow him. And part of following the Son is calling still more people to follow the Son. [1]

As we examine the work of discipleship, there are many different component parts and aspects—but there are three elements that are central and necessary for true discipleship to happen.

Theology

You can build community around almost anything—from coffee to athletics. One foundational necessity for Christian discipleship is biblical theology. In order to lead people to a higher knowledge of God, such knowledge is built upon a firm foundation of the gospel.

This is where many small groups derail themselves in discipleship. They gather over food, have deep and rich conversations, build important relationships—but they don’t have strong teaching, and what they do learn in those settings can often be shallow. That’s not the case for all small groups, but that ditch has certainly claimed a massive number of small groups through the years. Theology matters and it’s a necessity to build discipleship relationships on God’s Word in order to see people grow spiritually.

How many older men do you know who claim to have been saved for many years but don’t posses the theological capabilities to disciple someone in the faith? This is far more common than you might think—especially in the Baptist church.

Time

When you read the New Testament, you see that Jesus invested time in people’s lives. He intentionally spent time with disciples, taught them, prayed with them, prayed for them and modeled a life of holiness before them. Discipleship is hard work because it requires a time investment.

Everyone begins each day with the same number of hours, it’s how those hours are spent that prevent biblical discipleship from taking place. That goes for individual Christians as well as for churches as a whole. In Acts 20:31, Paul described his ministry in Ephesus as consisting of “night and day.” How many churches do you know that seem to be too busy doing everything other than making disciples?

Willingness

It may seem like an obvious point, but true biblical discipleship requires a willingness on all parties involved. The one who is taking the lead in the process of discipleship as well as the one being discipled—everyone must be willing to engage in the process or it will not happen. Before people can learn anything, they must be willing to learn. Before people can follow Jesus, they must be willing to see His example from the pages of Scripture, hear His Word taught and watch Christianity modeled in the lives of others.

This is why the church is a necessity. It doesn’t matter if you’re referencing one-to-one discipleship, small group discipleship—call it Sunday school, small groups, grace groups, connection groups or whatever you like—there must be a willingness on all parties to get involved, learn, talk, pray and put into action the gospel of Jesus Christ.

You can’t force people into discipleship. You can’t guilt trip people into discipleship. Anything less than a willingness to grow as a disciple of Jesus will lead to a broken model—one that may build friendships but may not end in genuine disciple making.

The work of discipleship is not one thing the church does—it’s what the church does. It requires theology, time and willing people. Without theology—it’s friendship. Without time—it can’t work. Without willing people—it will never work.


  1. Mark Dever, Discipling, (Wheaton: Crossway, 2016), Introduction.

This article originally appeared here.

Hobby Lobby Fined $3 Million for Acquiring Artifacts Smuggled From Iraq

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Hobby Lobby has been fined $3 million for purchasing stolen ancient artifacts and having them shipped the United States. Reaching a decision Wednesday, July 5, 2017, a court in New York ruled the artifacts should be confiscated and the craft supply company fined.

Steve Green, the President of Hobby Lobby, traveled to the United Arab Emirates in 2010 to inspect the artifacts. Meeting with two Israeli dealers and one from the UAE, Green was told the artifacts were legally purchased in the 1960s and belonged to the family of a third Israeli dealer who was not present.

In January 2011, Customs and Border Protection seized five of the packages making their way to Hobby Lobby headquarters. It didn’t take much for CPB to discern the customs forms contained false information that “substantially undervalued the pieces,” as an article by the Atlantic reports.

The artifacts in question—some 450 cuneiform tablets and 3,000 clay bullae—were purchased between 2010 and 2011 via wire transfers (totaling $1.6 million) to seven different bank accounts. The artifacts were then shipped to various corporate addresses held by Hobby Lobby in Oklahoma City, Oklahoma in packages labeled “Tiles (Sample).” Green admits, “We should have exercised more oversight and carefully questioned how the acquisitions were handled.”

Compounding the issue is the fact that the antiquities expert the company hired to help them with the purchase advised against it. In a memorandum to the company, the expert wrote, “I would regard the acquisition of any artifact likely from Iraq…as carrying considerable risk.” The expert cited the fact that “an estimated 200-500,000 objects have been looted from archaeological sites in Iraq since the early 1990s,” and the objects most commonly looted are “cylinder seals, cuneiform tablets.”

By way of explanation, Hobby Lobby released a statement about the “Artifact Import Settlement,” which states the reasoning behind the purchases (and others like it) was to try “to preserve these items for future generations, to provide broad access to scholars and students alike to study them, and to share the collection with the world in public institutions and museums.” Further, the statement expresses the company’s commitment to adhere to standards established by the Association of Art Museum Directors (AAMD) going forward.

And go forward they intend to do. “Our passion for the Bible continues,” Green says, “and we will do all that we can to support the efforts to conserve items that will help illuminate and enhance our understanding of this Great Book.”

It is this desire to preserve and present the history of the written form of God’s word that prompted the Greens to partner with other evangelicals to erect the Museum of the Bible, which is scheduled to open in Washington, D.C., this fall. Green is the founder and chairman of the board for the Museum of the Bible.

The question arises if artifacts to be displayed in the Museum of the Bible were acquired illegally since Green and Hobby Lobby were so instrumental in the museum’s genesis. Steven Bickley, the vice president of marketing, administration and finance for the museum states they “don’t have any concerns about our collection” since “the artifacts that were referred to were never in our collection.”

Green and Hobby Lobby seem to be chalking this whole episode up to a lesson learned. “The Company was new to the world of acquiring these items, and did not fully appreciate the complexities of the acquisitions process. This resulted in some regrettable mistakes,” the statement reads.

How to Minister to the Fatherless

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Summer has been hard for my boys since their father died six and a half years ago.

First comes Father’s Day. Watching my kids over the years, I have realized that it’s very easy to dismiss Father’s Day as an irrelevant Hallmark marketing ploy when your own dad is still around. But for my boys, Father’s Day is a big deal. Then comes June 30, which would mark my husband’s 49th birthday, if he were still here for us to celebrate. July 4 used to be a big family occasion for us, and seven years later, we still have not settled on a new tradition to replace the old.

I remember in particular one rainy Fourth. We were stuck indoors, and one son was glued to ESPN. Late that night he came to me crying because all day ESPN had run patriotic stories about military service persons returning home and being reunited with their families. Over and over he saw husbands and wives surprising their families, and he watched their tears of joy and relief after months and sometimes years of painful separation. My son cried because he knew he would never have that joyful reunion this side of heaven, and he cried because he wanted to be happy for those families, but he felt so sad for himself.

There are many ways a child can become fatherless. Death, abandonment, abuse and incarceration remove the dad from a child’s life completely, and divorce can (but does not always) have a similar effect. The loss of a father, no matter how it happens, has profound and lifelong impact.

God takes the plight of the fatherless very seriously, making their welfare an urgent priority for His church.

James 1:27 in the Amplified version reads: “External religious worship [religion as it is expressed in outward acts] that is pure and unblemished in the sight of God the Father is this: to visit and help and care for the orphans and the widows in their affliction and need…

In other words, God is saying, “If you really love Me, take care of the kids who don’t have a dad.”

God declares Himself “a Father to the fatherless” (Psalm 68:5), and one of the primary ways he expresses this Fatherhood is through His church, the body of Christ whose hands and feet He uses to accomplish His purposes.

Here’s where to start: Build a relationship with a child who doesn’t have his or her dad. This takes time, effort, consistency and patience, but if you want to show a fatherless child the love of their heavenly Father, there’s no other way to do it. Demonstrate commitment and dependability. When you place yourself in God’s hands and ask for His love to flow through you to a hurting child, He will answer that prayer and show you what to do.

One of my husband’s best friends has taken my youngest son out for breakfast on Fridays for nearly seven years now. This man isn’t trying to replace his dad or rescue my son; he just wants to love him. He sometimes gives advice, or attends a school event, or takes my boy jet-skiing, but mostly this friend just listens. He spends time with him, and tells him God loves him. Another of my husband’s closest friends has walked through the college process with my two older sons, taking them on tours and helping them make decisions. Just this past week, yet another friend took my 15-year-old out to practice driving, and when my son expressed interest in his job, he took my boy to work with him for the day.

All these years later, these godly men (and others) are still investing time and attention in my fatherless sons. Together, they have formed a community that loves, protects and provides for my boys. They have become God’s gracious provision to our family.

Some things to keep in mind as you show love to the fatherless:

  • Know what the milestone days are. Dad’s birthday, or the anniversary of his leaving—these dates matter, and the grief can be fresh and raw years later. On my husband’s birthday every year, my brother-in-law comes over and we eat a meal of all my husband’s favorite foods. It’s a way to acknowledge the loss and remember the fun stuff.
  • Help the child do very practical dad things. One time my son angrily kicked a hole in the wall. A friend of my husband’s came to the house and very calmly, without judgment or lecturing, taught him to repair the sheetrock damage. He made my son do the actual work himself, and came back to supervise the repainting a few days later. This friend led my son to take responsibility for his childish behavior, and encouraged him to act with greater maturity in the future, exactly as his father would have done.
  • Don’t try to fix the fatherlessness. You can’t. Losing a parent is a great grief and a deep sadness and nothing anyone does will change or compensate for that fact. You cannot heal a brokenhearted child; that is God’s job. What you CAN do is “comfort those who are in any tribulation with the comfort with which [you yourself] are comforted by God” (2 Corinthians 1:4). A child may be fatherless, but he or she does not have to be a spiritual orphan too.

Finally, whatever you do, don’t give up on a fatherless kid. Children who lose their fathers are often angry and wounded, and this can lead to some long-lasting, unloveable behavior. Don’t quit loving them. Wait on that front porch for the prodigal, and pray for him continually. He desperately needs to know that the love of the Father “bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things” (1 Corinthians 13:7).

God in his grace must instill in you His love that never fails, because you can’t do it in your own strength.

Though an earthly father may leave or abandon or die, our fatherless children can hear from His body the promise of our perfect heavenly Father: “I will not in any way fail you nor give you up nor leave you without support. I will not, I will not, I will not in any degree leave you helpless, nor forsake nor let you down, relax my hold on you. Assuredly not!” (Hebrews 13:5 AMP)

This article originally appeared here.

5 Ways to Lead When You Have No Money or Team

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I recently surveyed over 1,400 pastors of small to mid-sized churches to find out what they struggled with.

I ran the survey to collect input for a new online course I’m releasing this fall called Breaking 200 Without Breaking You, all about breaking the 200 attendance barrier, something 85 percent of churches never do. (You can sign up to get on the inside track for the course release here.)

Man, I learned a ton from that survey.

One of the common refrains leaders voiced was uncertainty about how to lead when they didn’t have much money or the right team.

After all, most of us visit megachurches and think if I only had a tenth of their money and their people, it would instantly solve my problems. And then we go back to our own context and get almost instantly depressed.

So when you have almost no money for ministry and you clearly haven’t got the right kind of people in the room, where do you start?

Believe it or not, neither condition is fatal to your cause. In fact, almost every great movement, church or organization you admire started with no money and no people.

So how can you lead when resources are scarce to nonexistent?

There are at least five things you can do to help you find traction.

1. Cast a Big Vision

Of course you know that one of the principal roles of the leader is to cast vision.

But what do you do when you have almost nothing other than vision?

Well, you cast a big vision.

Vision creates something out of nothing. It turns impossibility into reality.

It startles people out of their complacency, stops them from settling for less and moves them to action they wouldn’t otherwise take except for the vision of what could be.

Too many leaders forget that vision precedes money and people. Why? Because vision always precedes resources. Sometimes all you have is a vision…and that’s enough to get started.

And remember, resources follow vision. They never precede it.

If you want to attract a team and resources, cast a big, clear and compelling vision.

2. Raise Your Passion Level

Does passion really matter? You bet it does. More than you think.

Passion is different than hype. Hype attempts to manufacture something that doesn’t quite ring true.

Passion runs deep. It’s authentic. It resonates. And it’s contagious.

No amount of money can ever substitute for a lack of passion.

Your team will never be more passionate about the mission than you are. If you’re disturbed by the lack of passion in your team, look in the mirror. If you’re not fogging mirrors, they never will.

3. Start With Who You Have

Sure, you don’t have your dream team. Dream teams don’t randomly assemble. They’re built.

But leaders who wait forever for a dream team to appear eventually have nightmares.

So what do you do instead? You start with who you have.

Yes, I know you don’t have the team you want. And yes, everyone else seems to have a better team.

You need to realize, however, that’s where most leaders begin. When I started ministry at three tiny, stagnant churches over 20 years ago, the buildings weren’t exactly teeming with high capacity leaders.

So, start with the best leaders you can find. If you begin by working with the best people you have in the room, eventually higher capacity leaders will fill the room.

Want more on building a high performing team from scratch? Listen to Episode 39 of my leadership podcast with Chris Lema. You can subscribe to my podcast for free here or listen below.

4. Focus on What You CAN Do

It’s so easy to be negative. In fact, it takes zero work. It’s the default of the human condition.

As a result, it’s easy to complain about everything you lack and what seems impossible.

Leaders who focus on what they can’t do always miss what they can do.

Plus, you end up setting a negative tone for the organization when you always talk about what’s not possible.

What CAN you do? Answer that and go do it.

Keep doing it, and eventually you’ll be accomplishing far more than you ever thought.

5. Believe This Is Only the Beginning

Often as a leader you can grow so discouraged that you think of your current lack of whatever as the end.

Your attitude leaks.

When a leader loses confidence, so does the team.

When a leader is bored, the team grows bored.

And when a leader is passionless, well it doesn’t take long for a group to lose any sense of enthusiasm.

We leaders are dealers in hope. And hope in the mission of the local church is never misplaced. After all, the church was Jesus’ idea, not ours.

So don’t look at your current lack of resources as the end, look at it as the beginning.

Want More?

If you want more ideas on how to generate the kind of momentum you need to reach your community, I wrote about it in detail in my latest book, Lasting Impact: 7 Powerful Conversations That Can Help Your Church Grow. In that book, I tackle seven critical issues every church needs to address if it wants to make an impact in today’s culture.

I also created a team edition companion video series so you can work through the ideas with your elder board, key volunteers or staff. You can get that here.

In the meantime, what helps you make progress when you feel like you don’t have the money or the people you’d love to have?

This article originally appeared here.

5 Elements for Great Volunteer Conversations

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A great conversation, through the lens of a leader, is based on purpose.

Emotion, heart and genuine connection play a vital part. And we absolutely should enjoy our conversations. But we respect and honor people more by being helpful, rather than what feels like hang time with a buddy.

Enjoyment and meaning come from purpose.

A common question is how to make the most of all the one-to-one meetings. I personally like to think of them as conversations rather than meetings. That creates a different picture for me.

Meetings seem like something organizations do, conversations seem like something people have. Semantics? Perhaps. But words matter because they create mental images. I enjoy conversations; I’m not so sure I want another “meeting.”

Enjoy the relationships you have with your volunteers, but use the time wisely. I know you are busy, and so are your volunteers, so having a game plan for a great conversation is just smart.

Who initiates the conversation changes the tone, but it doesn’t change the important elements.

If you initiate as the leader, the conversation has a certain feel. If the volunteer initiates, the conversation takes a different path. However, other than emergencies such as a marriage in crisis or a death in the family, etc., certain elements are helpful in nearly every conversation, regardless of who initiates.

This list is not meant to be formulaic. It’s not intended to be mechanical. I’m offering a certain order, but it doesn’t always have to go that way. It’s a guide. For example, if you have a long-standing relationship, some of the elements can be covered in a minute or two. If it’s the first time you meet a new volunteer, you might barely get through a couple of elements on the list and need to talk again soon. There may be a coaching moment, and there might not be, etc. But overall, these elements will serve you well as a leader.

5 key elements to guide a great conversation:

1) Encouragement

You can’t over encourage anyone. The only factor required to ensure that encouragement is meaningful is that you are sincere.

Take time to listen. If it’s the first time you meet, you may need to give a large amount of the conversation to hear their story. If you know the person well, you may only need a few minutes to catch up. This is usually the best place to start the conversation.

Always thank the volunteer for their contribution to the team!

2) The Matter at Hand

It’s best to get to the point soon. It’s surprising how often the real matter of the conversation is left to the end, and the time runs out before you finish what you set out to accomplish.

Whether it’s solving a problem, coaching for personal growth, or planning an event, the purpose of the conversation should be clear and known in advance. Since you know your purpose, jump in and use your time well.

There is no need to create a rushed feel; it’s amazing how much you can accomplish in a relaxed way when you are focused.

(If the conversation is highly conflict oriented it requires a different approach. Conflict is a complex subject and needs an entire article on its own.)

3) Coaching Moment

One of my favorite approaches is to write these two words on a napkin. Fruit and Joy. Fruit (results) without joy is drudgery. No one can last long like that. Joy without fruit may be fun, but you don’t accomplish anything.

Ask the person how they are doing in each one. Whether the topic involves their job, or home life or ministry, both fruit and joy must exist for meaningful success to be realized over the long haul. This practice isn’t necessary every time you talk, but it’s a great coaching tool as needed.

4) Vision

If the conversation is more church ministry oriented, always connect it to the bigger vision of the church overall. Don’t hesitate here. You might be tempted to think that the person “gets it” and knows the vision as well as you do. They might! But remember vision leaks; you can’t communicate it too much. Like “catching up” on a personal story, this doesn’t need to take long. It can literally be just a few minutes.
Casting vision helps inspire, connect and remind people of why they do what they do.

5) Spiritual guidance

I think of this as the “How’s your soul?” question. Essentially you are asking how their walk with God is going. A good question to ask is: “What is God saying to you lately?” Or, “How’s your prayer life? Alive and vibrant or more of a dry season?”

You don’t need to have all the answers, but you can offer spiritual guidance that gives direction and encouragement. You may offer a scripture or just good counsel. You may just listen and offer to pray. Praying for them right then, or later if more appropriate, is one of the best gifts you can give.


These elements will help you have great conversations!

This article originally appeared here.

The 3 Most Important Skills Youth Workers Should Have

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You can’t be good at everything. You don’t need to be good at everything. And lots of stuff you are really good at, or are hoping to become good at, doesn’t really matter too much at the end of the day. So what if we narrowed it down to only THREE things youth workers do need to be good at; what might be the top three universal skills of a youth worker? NOTE: I purposely left “spiritual” things such as prayer life, integrity, etc. off the list because (whether true or not) I’m gonna assume we’ve got that stuff dialed in.

My List:

The ability to be a fantastic active listener. Just being a good listener isn’t enough, but being a fantastic active listener means you are listening, responding with guiding questions, probing here and there, and picking up on themes that you might want to dig into deeper at another time.

Patience. Patience makes almost everything better! Being patient with the annoying students, the struggling students, the cocky students, the “church” students, parents, elders, volunteers, yourself, and the whole “process” of youth ministry and discipleship may be the most underrated but important skill/mindset you can have.

A strong work ethic. This next statement won’t win me many fans, but here it goes: Lots of youth workers are lazy. To be specific, lots of full-time youth workers are lazy. We have somehow confused reading blogs, downloading sweet apps and checking the Instagrams of our students as hard work. Don’t get me wrong, times have changed and how we work is in a state of flux, but (and here’s the money tip…) many of the people we work for such as senior pastors, elders, parents, etc. don’t yet “get it” and still expect us to be willing to do the nitty-gritty grunt work every now and again. When we complain that we haven’t had a day off in almost an entire week, or insist on taking an extra day off after the grueling scavenger hunt we led for our small group, they have a hard time feeling our pain. Here’s a tough question: If an elder followed you around for a week, would he feel compelled to recommend you for a raise or that you be replaced with a part-time college student?

What skills would be at the top of your list?

The One Question I Ask When Receiving a Complaint

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It would be difficult to be in leadership and not have people upset with a decision you made at some point. In fact, with every decision comes a variety of responses. Leadership guides people places they’ve never been before, so leading always involves change. Change of any kind stirs an emotion, which can be positive or negative. The more the change is uncomfortable the more negative the response may be.

So, receiving complaints or criticism is not a rarity in leadership. It comes with the position. But, there is a question I try to ask every time someone complains to me.

This question is powerful in determining how I will respond.

When I have complaints or criticism I ask a question:

Is the complaint individual or representative?

In other words:

  • Is it one person with a problem, or are there multiple people with the same problem, but I’m only hearing from one?
  • Does this complaint represent one person’s opinion, or is it representative of a larger number of people?
  • Is it a personal issue to one, or a public issue to multiples?

The answer is critical to me before I respond.

It doesn’t mean I don’t need to pay attention to the one complainer. Their point may be valuable. They may see something I can’t see. I need their input. And, I listen to them. (I think good listening and responsiveness is part of good leadership.)

But, I also know I can’t please everyone. Some individuals are simply going to disagree with the way I do something. And, some people simply don’t like any change. And, if it’s just one person’s complaint, I can listen, we can talk, we can agree to agree or disagree, and we can move forward. I know where I stand with them.

But, while I listen and respond even to individual criticism, when there is a growing tension among a larger group of people, I know the issue demands even more intentionality.
It may or may not alter my response. Leaders shouldn’t lead to be popular. They lead to do the right thing. We don’t lead alone, but after we’ve done all we can to include others and the decision has been made, we move forward.

But, when a larger group are upset about change it will likely alter the intensity of my response.

I’ve learned when a larger number have the same complaint or criticism, even if we are certain about the change, the damage done to the perception of my leadership may disrupt all the other good we are trying to do.

In those cases where the criticism is widespread, often its for a few reasons. People don’t understand, because they don’t fully understand why. People haven’t felt included along the way. Or, frankly, some people simply don’t like change and will rebel against it regardless. When I realize the complaint from an individual is representative, I can talk to more people to figure out the root of the problem. I can tell the vision (for the change) more often and tell it in more ways and in more places to help people understand the why behind the change. (Zig Ziglar told me years ago, “When people understand the why they aren’t as concerned with the what.”)

Finally, when I know there are more people involved I can monitor people’s perceptions more closely. I’m no longer wondering how one person feels, but I know I have a larger group to track with through the change. (And, again, not to make them happy, but to help them through the process of change.)

Individual or representative? Knowing the difference is huge.

This article originally appeared here.

Kyle Idleman: How Pastors Miss the Grace of God

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Kyle Idleman is Teaching Pastor at Southeast Christian Church in Louisville, Kentucky—the fifth largest church in the country with over 20,000 in attendance every week. Kyle is a sought-after speaker for regional and national conferences and the author of four books including the bestsellers Not A Fan, The End of Me, and Grace Is Greater. Kyle and his wife, DesiRae, have four children.

Key Questions:

You talk about grace being greater when you experience it rather than trying to explain it. Can you unpack that for us?

Why do you think pastors, in particular, struggle with experiencing grace?

What is the difference between authenticity and vulnerability and why does vulnerability work better when we’re trying to help other people?

Key Quotes:

“People can understand grace, but still underestimate the greatness of grace in their own lives.”

“I think what kept me from experiencing the joy of God’s grace and kindness in my life is a refusal to be honest with myself about struggles, about failures, about ways that I have fallen short.”

“To truly experience grace, we have to be in a place that is safe to be vulnerable. And a challenge for a lot of Christian leaders is we don’t feel like we can be vulnerable with each other in front of a church that we’re leading.”

“When I am vulnerable, I can receive grace and other people can find grace.”

“Paul’s discovery of God’s grace did not come through God’s blessing in the way that Paul would have wanted or Paul would have been looking for. It came unexpectedly. It came through disappointment. It came through discouragement. It came when God didn’t respond the way Paul wanted him to—that’s where he discovered the sufficiency of grace.”

“For those of us in ministry, it is a really discouraging job if you don’t have…that kind of confidence in God’s faithfulness and in his sovereignty and his redeeming work. It’s not going to take very long to get worn out and burnt out.”

“The greatest demonstration of God’s grace is not just his provision—it’s his presence.”

Mentioned in the Show:

Grace Is Greater

 

6 Reasons Your Church Should Have a High Attendance Sunday

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If you’re reading this the week it is originally published (this article is originally released June 21, 2017), you may be wondering, “Why is he writing about a high attendance Sunday in the middle of the summer?” Because this is the time to start planning for one if you’re going to do it in the fall.

In my (nearly) decade of serving as a senior pastor, high attendance Sundays have proven over and over again to be one of the most effective outreach tools I’ve seen. The best way to execute a high attendance Sunday at a high level is to use my friend Thom Rainer’s program, “Invite Your One.” We did it last year at Church of the Highlands and will do another one in mid-August this year.

Why should your church have a high attendance Sunday? Here are six reasons…

  1. It rallies the troops to come on the same day

I don’t know about your church, but of all the people who attend Church of the Highlands, most come just once every four to six weeks. It is frustrating, but from what I’ve gathered by talking to other pastor friends, this is becoming more and more common.

A high attendance day rallies the troops. People mark it on their calendar to unite together for a big day like this.

  1. It gives you a target.

When you have a goal at which you’re aiming, it moves you forward. This is a uniting process. The entire church is aiming at the same date, has the same goal of inviting people, and the has same desire to see a mighty harvest.

  1. It nearly always emphasizes people inviting people.

It has been proven over and over again that churches primarily grow via people inviting people. As much as marketing matters (and it does), word of mouth matters more.

  1. It is a great way to build momentum.

Churches are organisms that grow off of momentum. Few things can help build this momentum more than a Sunday where the church is packed. It shows life and energy.

  1. It keeps you focused on the importance of reaching lost people.

Churches’ natural inclinations are to focus on themselves. This is true with individuals as well. It requires intentionality to focus on others. Instead of “my four and no more,” you can focus on “inviting four and maybe more.”

  1. It works.

This is more than anecdotal; this is factual. Churches that focus on high attendance Sundays reach more people and grow more than churches that don’t. I learned this from the aforementioned Rainer program. Since we know it works, we should do it.

What is stopping you? Begin planning your high attendance Sunday soon. Have you ever been a part of one of these special days? Let me hear about it in the comment section below.

This article originally appeared here.

Dispelling the 80% Myth of Declining Churches

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Buckle your seat belts.

Over the next several posts, I will be sharing with you the results of an incredible research project on 1,000 churches. At the risk of overstatement, I think this data may point us to some exciting and positive opportunities. Indeed, I hope to share a plan for the evangelistic renewal and growth of our churches in the weeks ahead.

But I am getting ahead of myself.

Allow me to share, at the risk of boredom, the basis of this research:

  • Our program randomly selected 1,000 churches with available data for 2013 and 2016.
  • The strength of the study is its accuracy. The margin of error at the 95 percent confidence level is +/- 3.1 percent. If you’re not a numbers nerd, that means this data is incredibly accurate.
  • The possible weakness of this study is that it only includes churches of my denomination. We took this path because we have a gold mine of data. I do believe, however, this data can be a good approximation of evangelical churches, and a rough approximation of all Protestant churches in North America.

THE RESEARCH SAYS 80 PERCENT IS NOT CORRECT

Have you ever heard, “80 percent of churches are either plateaued or declining”?

I have. It’s wrong.

Here are the results of our research. We used average worship attendance as our metric rather than church membership. Unfortunately, church membership is fast becoming a meaningless metric.

  • 56 percent of churches are declining.
  • 9 percent of churches are plateaued.
  • 35 percent of churches are growing.

So here is the new and correct statement of reality: 65 percent of churches are declining or plateaued. There is a huge statistical difference between 80 percent, the myth, and 65 percent, the reality.

SO WHAT?

I loathe research projects that ultimately offer only statistics and not solutions. Over the next several weeks, I will be sharing with you some incredible and eye-opening research. But, ultimately, I will offer some solutions based on what God is doing in these growing and evangelistic churches compared to the declining churches.

Here are some areas I will cover in upcoming posts:

  • The danger line in worship attendance that becomes a predictor for church death.
  • The relationship between the growth of the community and the growth of a church.
  • How some smaller churches are thriving in the shadow of megachurches.
  • What the most effective evangelistic churches are doing differently.
  • The relationship between small groups/Sunday school and the growth of a church.

My goal is ultimately to provide a clear path for evangelistic growth and renewal in our churches. We are learning so much from these churches and their leaders. I can’t wait to share more of our findings in future posts.

In the meantime, remember this basic fact: 65 percent of churches are plateaued or declining, not 80 percent.

And 35 percent of churches are growing.

It is my prayer that we will help you understand how your church can be in that latter group of churches.

This article originally appeared here.

The Cosmic Importance of Children’s Sunday School

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A friend of mine, an amazingly effective Bible teacher, once told me that he was turned down by his church to teach children’s Sunday school. The reason, he said, wasn’t that the church didn’t think he was gifted to teach but that he was too gifted. They wanted him to teach adult discipleship classes, so they didn’t want to “waste” him on children’s Sunday school.

That statement was one of the saddest and most self-destructive things I’ve ever heard from a church.

How Sunday School Transformed Me 

I’ve often said that I wouldn’t want to have to choose between my seminary education and my childhood years in Sunday school, but if forced I would choose Sunday school each time. Now that’s saying something since I believe so strongly in seminary education, and gave most of my ministry to it. I’d never want to give that up. But as important as theological education was for me, Sunday school was more so.

There was nothing about my Sunday school experience that would be commended by a seminar on children’s development or Bible teaching. My teachers weren’t theologically trained, and probably not one of them could have explained the hypostatic union or the Pauline doctrine of election. They also weren’t pedagogically equipped. Some just had us go around the room taking turns reading, monotone, from the curriculum shipped from the denominational publishing house. Sometimes the biblical text was incomprehensible to us, since we were, at the time, a King James Version-only church (not out of some theological conviction but because we didn’t know about other translations).

And yet, Sunday school transformed my life.

What I needed was the slow repetition, over years and years, of the Word of God. What I sometimes find among Christians is knowledge of systematic theology in one tribe or of biblical moral principles in another—without knowing the narrative of the text itself. Some Christians know how to argue their view of whether Romans 7 describes pre- or post-conversion experience but don’t know the difference between Rehoboam and Jeroboam, between Abigail and Michal. We would all—as gospel Christians—affirm the entirety of the Bible as necessary and profitable, but still might, if we’re honest, think that knowledge of the text’s details—rather than the theology or life principles arising from it—is more about Bible trivia than the Christian life. If so, we are wrong.

Love the Lord Your God With All Your…Intuitions

We can sometimes assume the Bible is profitable to us since we know how to search it for the right passages at the right moment. Someone in the church is teaching that sinless perfection is possible? Well, we know how to get to 1 John 1. We feel guilty for sin? We know how to find Psalm 51. We are depressed and discouraged? We can go to Jesus in Gethsemane. That’s all good and valuable, but it’s not as important as having our intuitions shaped by the whole Bible.

When Jesus is tempted by the Devil in the wilderness, his response—with biblical texts—isn’t a matter of proof-texting. His biblical responses aren’t just propositional but narrative. When Jesus responds to the temptation to turn stones into bread with “man shall not live by bread alone,” he’s doing more than finding an applicable truth to counter an error. He recognizes he’s standing where Israel had stood before him, in the wilderness, tempted to question God’s fidelity to his people. When Jesus cries out from the cross, “My God, my God, why have you forsaken me?” he isn’t merely quoting an isolated text on vicarious atoning suffering. He sees himself in the warp and woof of Psalm 22. So it isn’t just a cry of dereliction but ultimately a cry of victory too: “For kinship belongs to the LORD, and he rules over the nations” (Ps. 22:28).

It’s good to find a word from God when we need it. But God usually prepares us with his Word before we know we need it. Jesus tells his disciples ahead of time he will be crucified. He tells them ahead of time they will experience persecution, “that when their hour comes you may remember that I told [these things] to you” (John 16:4). What a blessing to have a conscience shaped by the story of Peter’s restoration years before you wonder after a terrible sin if Jesus will receive you back. What a blessing to know how to inhabit the story of Elijah years before you wonder if you’re alone and abandoned.

If you’re walking through a time of fear and anxiety, you may scan the whole Bible to find relevant words, but I’ve found the best way is to have intuitions so shaped by the rhythm and flow of the text that most of it lies there submerged, poised to rise to the forefront at just the right time.

That’s why children’s Sunday school is not just another program. It can be a matter of life and death.

This article originally appeared here.

Trusting Christ – How to Take Steps of Faith

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The longer I live the more I’m convinced that our journey with God is about trusting Christ more. The more we trust Him, the more of our hearts belong to Him. The less we trust him, the harder our hearts become.

Trusting Christ

Trusting Christ can grow in times of prayer and in seasons of hardship. Trust can bloom when we read stories of triumph or see God’s power on display. In the past I’ve talked about what it means to trust God, but how does God develop our trust? Perhaps the thing God uses to develop our trust as much as anything is the Faith/Trust Cycle. Here’s how it works

Steps of Faith

The cycle begins when the Holy Spirit prompts you to take a step of faith. He might lead you to apply for a new job, give generously to a worthy cause, start a ministry, launch a new church, open a new business or share your faith with a friend (just to name a few). Life is a series of ever increasing steps of faith.

These steps of faith usually counter our feelings of safety and security. The what-if’s and what-might’s shout louder and louder as we stand at the edge of the unknown. God is simultaneously behind us and before us. He’s behind us (nudging us to jump), and before us (waiting for us to arrive). As you take a step of faith into the unknown, God is already in the future waiting on your arrival.

Increased Trust

Each step of faith reveals a willingness to trust God. You release your grip of control when you finally hang the open sign, write the check, make the move or take the leap. All talk turns into all obedience.

Your act of obedience doesn’t make God any more faithful than what He already was. It just reveals a measure of His faithfulness you’ve never encountered. And when God’s faithfulness steps toward your step of faith, your trust in Him is bolstered. You see God for who He truly is, and you shake your head in bewilderment as to why you didn’t jump sooner.

But the journey doesn’t end there.

We get comfortable. Life settles. What was once a step of faith is now a boring routine. It no longer requires faith because it has become your new normal. So what does God do? He disrupts the normal. He moves the line. He speaks again. He leads you and prompts you to take a new step of faith. And, just as before, the fear of the unknown taunts you and haunts you. Will you jump into the safe place of God’s will, or will you retract into the sinful place of disobedience? Will you leap forward or lean backward?

Each step of faith is hard, but each step leads to a new level of trusting Christ. Again, a relationship with Jesus is about learning to trust…again, and again, and again. When you take a step of faith, your trust in God increases…and then He invites you to take another step. Around and around it goes, maturing your faith, stretching your vision and growing your obedience. That’s how God develops our trust…He invites us to take another step.

Does this mean you’ll never experience failures or setbacks? Nope! But even in the disappointments you’ll see the faithfulness of God on display. And with each step of faith, you’ll realize more and more just how much you can trust your Heavenly Father. What step is He leading you to take today?

 

This article on trusting Christ originally appeared here.

The Surprising Number One Reason Missionaries Quit

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The most common reason missionaries go home isn’t due to lack of money, illness, terrorism, homesickness, or even a lack of fruit or response to the gospel.

Regretfully, the number one reason is conflict with other missionaries.

Yes, you read that correctly.

From my own experience on the field and after five years of training, equipping and sending missionaries, I have witnessed this truth firsthand. In all my travels around the world, I’ve spent countless days with missionary teams of all types, sizes and makeups, and one reality remains true: All of them are deeply flawed.

Toward the end of the 20th century the World Evangelical Alliance released a significant study that found “conflict with peers” the top reason North American missionaries leave the mission field.

Why Teams?

In light of the seemingly inevitable conflict with other missionaries, why emphasize teams at all? The simple answer is that it’s the example and model we see in the New Testament. Jesus and his disciples lived and did ministry together. Paul and Barnabas—set apart by the Holy Spirit and the church in Antioch—went out together on the first missionary journey.

Conflict within missionary teams is inevitable in a fallen world.

We see further evidence of teams on mission in Paul’s “apostolic band.” One scholar notes that in the New Testament, at least 55 men and 17 women were associated with Paul on his missionary journeys. All this to say, there are biblical, practical and pastoral reasons why we encourage the formation and sending of missionary teams.

Five Challenges

Yet conflict within missionary teams is inevitable in a fallen world. Here are five challenges that threaten all missionaries and missionary teams.

1. Unmet expectations

Whether we realize it or not, we all arrive on the mission field with certain expectations. Unmet expectations related to missionary teams are a real problem, especially for young missionaries with an idealistic perspective of the mission field.

2. Conflict equation

Sinful people + sinful colleagues + sinful people they are trying to reach = lots of sinful people and potential for conflict.

When you join a team on the mission field, you are stepping into this conflict equation, and you must acknowledge that reality.

3. Stressful life

Missionary life is filled with stress and pressure, and much of it’s subconscious. Things that seemed so simple—driving, grocery shopping, paying bills or sleeping—suddenly become challenging and stressful. It’s not always easy to articulate and identify, but subconscious stress is a reality for many missionaries and missionary teams around the world.

4. Comparison and jealousy

We’re creatures who naturally and effortlessly compare ourselves with others. Since teams often live life together and are around each other often, there’s great tendency for comparison to creep in. If we aren’t careful, we can compare, become jealous, and in the process destroy a team with our pride.

5. Persistent sin

The bottom line is that we’re sinners. We’re selfish, we’re prideful, and when put in stressful situations, we’re often poor teammates and partners in the Great Commission.

What’s the Solution?

So, in light of these challenges, what are missionaries and missionary teams supposed to do? Here are three things.

1. Maintain a realistic perspective of team

Composed of only sinners, missionary teams are far from perfect. So beware of going to the field with an idealistic and utopian perspective of team.

2. Be flexible and adaptable

Nobody likes teaming with high-maintenance people. Most missionaries are entering a culture where they have little control over most things that happen; as a result, flexibility and adaptability are crucial.

Missionaries must intentionally pursue intimacy with Christ and learn to abide in him long before they ever cross geographical, cultural and linguistic barriers.

3. Prepare spiritually, physically and emotionally

As Mack Stiles has written, “There is no such thing as transformation by aviation.” Missionaries must intentionally pursue intimacy with Christ and learn to abide in him long before they ever cross geographical, cultural and linguistic barriers.

In the end, being a good teammate isn’t just a matter of effort, though that’s important. It’s a matter of mercy and grace. We need God’s mercy and grace on a moment-by-moment basis. We need the gospel to change us from the inside out. We need the Spirit to rewire our hearts, wills, desires and affection—and in the process make us more like the Son.

That’s the only way we can be the kind of teammates who honor God and help fuel the spread of the gospel to the ends of the earth.

This article originally appeared here.

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