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Stop Bullying: 7 Practical Ways To Build a Caring Children’s Ministry

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Need tips to stop bullying in your children’s ministry? Consider these seven practical steps to thwart bullying. Learn how to build a caring community at your church.

While schools have come under scrutiny for violent incidents, churches often feel exempt from dealing with bullying. Church is supposed to be a safe place, right? But the truth is that bullying happens wherever kids are.

As a children’s minister, you can take concrete steps to stop bullying. In the process, you can build a caring community among the children you shepherd. Here’s how…

7 Ways to Stop Bullying

1. Don’t minimize or disregard instances of bullying.

Whether a child or adult reports the bullying, take it seriously. Don’t indulge in looking the other way and thinking “kids will be kids.”

2. Put in place no-nonsense anti-bullying procedures.

Your classroom code should be that every child is valuable and unique, and no child will be left out or hurt. Create a zero-tolerance atmosphere that says, “No bullying allowed!”

3. Don’t resolve the situation yourself.

Doing so only reassures the bully that his or her target is weak.

4. Don’t tell the target to avoid the bully.

This doesn’t solve the problem. It’s only a superficial, temporary fix.

5. Don’t confront the bully or the bully’s parents alone.

Bullying is often a learned behavior. During a confrontation, the bully or his or her family may demean you. So have a backup at the meeting.

Genuine Relationships Matter: Insights Teens Need To Hear

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Genuine relationships matter in today’s connection-driven world. Technology keeps advancing to help us better stay in touch with those we love. The upside of this? High school reunions are way less awkward. Now we can deal with all the drama before we arrive. The downside? A new generation doesn’t always know the difference between “real” and “fake” relationships.

There are different types of relationships. As a nation, we once took this to heart. A person with common interests who you felt safe enough to share your secrets with was a close friend. The guy you make small talk with while waiting at the dentist’s office was not. Now, because we can follow dentist guy on Twitter, we don’t always know how to define him.

Genuine Relationships for a New Generation

Today’s teens can’t recall not being able to connect with someone virtually. They’re accustomed to having access to people any time, in any format. We can learn about our contacts through pictures, videos, posts. That can give us the illusion that we know someone just because we know some information about them.

Sociologists use the term social ties to explain how we truly connect to someone. How strong a tie is between any two people depends on the amount of time they spend together, the emotional connection, the level of closeness, and (I like this one) the reality of how reciprocal the relationship is.

3 Types of Relationships

Experts say we can have three types of social ties, and not all represent genuine relationships. Youth ministers must teach students the truth about different types of connections.

1. Weak Ties

These are “acquaintances” or people we interact with but have no emotional attachment to. This is the person we see every day in the hallway and say hi to, but that’s it. We follow them on social media because we met them once. We might see a lot about their lives but don’t really have anything to do with them.

2. Strong Ties

These are the genuine relationships most important to us. These are people we share our lives with, and who share their lives with us. Some would say this could never happen via social media.

I would contend there needs to be times when you truly interact with these people in person, or face to face in some way. However, with video chats or a good old-fashioned telephone, we can have long-distance friendships pretty easily. What’s important in these ties is that you go deep, and the connection isn’t one-sided.

Evangelicals for Harris Support Candidate Who ‘Better Reflects Christian Values’

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A group called Evangelicals for Harris has formed to back Vice President Kamala Harris, a Democrat, in her run for president. As part of their “Christian belief in the common good,” supporters urge people to reject Donald Trump, the Republican candidate and 45th U.S. president.

On social media, Evangelicals for Harris is publicizing an upcoming Zoom call for “fellowship and action.” The speaker lineup for the Aug. 14 event includes Dwight McKissic, Jemar Tisby, and Raymond Chang. “All Christians and people of good will” are invited to join the call and exercise “our God-given citizenship by voting for someone who better reflects Christian values.”

Evangelicals for Harris: VP Is Christian, Respects Other Faiths

According to a July 24 press release, the Rev. Jim Ball founded both Evangelicals for Harris and, during the 2020 presidential campaign, Evangelicals for Biden. “Kamala Harris knows how to stand up to and stare down bullies,” Ball said. “We’re going to win, and she will make a terrific president. Tough on bad guys. Compassionate for those in need. Ready to unite our country.” The VP’s policies are “pro-family” and “pro-environment,” Ball added.

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On its website, Evangelicals for Harris highlights “Kamala’s Faith Story.” The group recaps her Baptist background, her “calling” to public service, and her “great respect for other faith traditions,” including Hinduism and Judaism. Harris’s favorite Bible verse, according to the group, is 2 Corinthians 5:7, about walking by faith, not sight.

Evangelicals for Harris notes that the VP, “a deeply committed and faithful Christian,” supports religious liberty and separation of church and state. It quotes her as saying, “Like many people of faith, I have private conversations with God where I usually ask for the strength and protection to make good decisions and do the right thing.”

In response to pro-Trump comments online, Evangelicals for Harris contrasts each candidate’s supporters. “Too much of the Church has been consumed by worship of Trump and the false prophets that deify him,” the group stated. “We support Harris but she is not our savior. See the difference?”

Faith Leaders Stump for Kamala Harris

One scheduled speaker for Wednesday’s online event is Dwight McKissic, senior pastor of Cornerstone Baptist Church in Arlington, Texas. On Aug. 11, he posted, “Anyone who has, or plan to vote for Donald J. Trump has absolutely no moral authority…as in none, zero, nada…to question the morality or immorality of the Democrat presidential nominee or their platform.”

‘I Prayed About It, Thought About It, and I Was Very Intentional’—Harrison Butker Explains Controversial Commencement Speech

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Kansas City Chiefs kicker Harrison Butker told members of the media during training camp last week that he stands by what he said during his commencement speech at Benedictine College in May.

The speech Butker delivered to students of the Catholic liberal arts colleges in Atchison, Kansas, has been the subject of considerable controversy.

Speaking to graduates, Butker, a devout Catholic himself, expressed his beliefs on COVID-19, President Joe Biden’s administration, the Catholic Church, abortion, Taylor Swift, marriage, and children.

He also praised his wife for being a “homemaker.”

“Isabelle’s dream of having a career might not have come true, but if you ask her today if she has any regrets on her decision—she would laugh out loud,” Butker said after he praised his wife for embracing “one of the most important titles of all: homemaker.”

RELATED: Harrison Butker Slams Biden and Taylor Swift During Controversial Commencement Address at Benedictine College

When asked last week if he’d change what he said during his commencement speech, Butker said, “I prayed about it, and I thought about it, and I was very intentional with what I said, and I stand behind what I said.”

“If people knew me as a person,” Butker added, then they would have “understood that I was coming from a place of love and not a place of trying to attack or put people down [and] that I only want the best for people.”

Butker expressed his love for women and said he wasn’t devaluing them by what he said. “My whole career, I’ve talked about how I’m a husband and I’m a father before it comes to me as a kicker—something I’ve always preached,” he said.

“But then when I use that to talk about women, I say that they should embrace and love being wives and being mothers over their career,” Butker continued, “I think then it gets construed that I’m trying to put women down, which I’m not at all. I love women. I love my wife, and it comes from a place of love.”

RELATED: ‘Shall Reap Corruption’—Harrison Butker Posts Bible Verse Following Olympic Controversy

The three-time Super Bowl Champion praised his wife for the “sacrifice” she has made for him. “She has completely changed her life around, and she has made sure she is focused on being the ultimate wife and the ultimate mother,” he said. “And I love her so much for that, and I see how happy and excited she is day to day to wake up and embrace that life.”

Supporting Your Family Through Church Leadership Crisis

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When a leader in your church experiences a moral failure, the repercussions can extend beyond the church community and deeply affect your family. As a pastor or church staff member, it’s important to support your spouse and children as they navigate their own emotions and reactions to the crisis. Here are strategies to help your family process the situation effectively.

Acknowledge and Validate Their Feelings

Your spouse and children may experience a range of emotions, including shock, anger, sadness, confusion, and betrayal. It’s important to acknowledge and validate their feelings without judgment. Let them know that their emotions are normal and understandable in light of the situation.

Listen Actively: Provide a safe space for your family members to express their feelings. Listen without interrupting or offering solutions immediately. Sometimes, they just need to be heard.

Validate Emotions: Affirm their feelings by saying things like, “It’s okay to feel this way,” or “I understand why you’re upset.” Validation helps them feel understood and supported.

Open and Honest Communication

Keeping the lines of communication open is crucial during a crisis. Be honest with your family about what’s happening while ensuring the information you share is age-appropriate for your children.

Be Transparent: Share the facts of the situation in a way that is appropriate for your children’s ages and maturity levels. Avoid hiding information, as this can lead to mistrust.

Answer Questions: Be prepared to answer your family’s questions honestly. If you don’t have all the answers, it’s okay to say so. Reassure them that you are navigating this together.

Regular Check-Ins: Make it a habit to check in with your spouse and children regularly. Ask how they’re feeling and if they have any concerns or questions.

Provide Emotional Support

Supporting your family emotionally involves being present and attentive to their needs.

Quality Time: Spend quality time together as a family. Engage in activities that your family enjoys and that can provide a sense of normalcy and connection.

Emotional Availability: Be emotionally available for your family members. Offer comfort through physical affection, such as hugs, and through verbal reassurance.

Encourage Expression: Encourage your spouse and children to express their emotions through various means, such as talking, writing, drawing, or other creative outlets.

Seek Professional Help

Sometimes, professional support can be beneficial for helping your family process the situation.

From Contestant to Judge—Christian Artist Carrie Underwood Replaces Katy Perry as a Judge on ‘American Idol’

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After winning the fourth season of “American Idol,” Christian artist Carrie Underwood has sold more than 85 million records worldwide. Every album she’s recorded has debuted in the Top 10 on the Billboard Top 200 for all genres. And she’s not even close to done yet. Underwood has been invited back to where it all started to join “American Idol” as the show’s newest judge.

“This is my home,” said Underwood in a video announcing her return to the show.

‘American Idol’ Adds Carrie Underwood as a Judge for 23rd Season

“American Idol” just announced that Carrie Underwood will replace Katy Perry as a judge on the show. Underwood will serve alongside judges Luke Bryan and Lionel Richie.

After seven years as a judge, Katy Perry left “American Idol” in 2024. While coaching many artists over the years, Perry encouraged 21-year-old contestant Israel McFarland to use music to rebel against his parents and his Christian upbringing. Perry related to the contestant because she had a conservative childhood before embarking on a secular music career.

“My parents…liked to name us all names from the Bible,” McFarland explained. When Perry asked if his upbringing was strict, McFarland answered, “Yeah, very strict. My parents—they did not like secular music. [My mom will] still comment if she hears a cuss word in my songs.” He shared that cussing is “one of the few things in life I enjoy.”

Perry then jokingly asked McFarland, “Alright, Israel, what Satan music are you going to share with us today?” He sang “The Cost,” depicting the sacrifices music artists make in order to pursue their dreams. McFarland didn’t make it past his audition on the show.

A portion of the Season 22 finale of “American Idol” was dedicated to honoring Perry and the contestants she inspired over the last seven years. The Top 12 female contestants joined her on stage to sing a medley of Perry’s hits. The popular judge then rose on a small platform to display her long skirt containing the faces of the 24 contestants she coached during her time on the show.

With such huge shoes to fill, the show searched for just the right judge to replace Perry. Show executives looked no further than one of the show’s previous contestants—and winners—Carrie Underwood.

Underwood vividly recalled life before she auditioned for “American Idol.” “I remember being at home in our little house in Checotah and seeing on TV that there were auditions in St. Louis,” said Underwood.

“I went from nobody knowing my name to tens of millions of people watching the show,” Underwood shared. “I’m proud of everything I was able to accomplish on the show, and I’m so proud of everything I’ve accomplished since.”

The list of successes for the artist is astonishing—85 million records sold worldwide, 28 No. 1 singles, eight Grammys, 17 American Music Awards, 10 People’s Choice Awards, and seven CMA awards.

“Even if I go far away, this is my home,” Underwood said of Checotah, Oklahoma. “American Idol” executives thought she could easily say the same thing about the show. The next season, Season 23, will air in Spring 2025.

Hearing God—A Way of Life

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Have you ever noticed how important it is to pay attention to the tone of voice with which something is said? Depending on the intent or attitude of the speaker, a voice can be compassionate or cold, inviting or demanding, timid or confident. Have you ever considered what God’s tone of voice might be like?

Hearing God is rooted in a lifelong, interactive relationship of communication, intimacy, living in the will of God, and learning to live with God’s voice (John 10:3-4). It is the same for you as a pastor as it is for all people: It is less about how to listen (technique) and more about staying close to the one who is talking. Staying close will help us as pastors to continually fine-tune our perception of God’s character. Learning to hear God well includes learning to recognize both the content and the tone of God’s voice that represents the character of God. Indeed, God is the one who truly knows how to “speak the truth in love” (Ephesians 4:15). Even when the tone of God’s voice is bold or firm, it still flows from his character of love: patient, kind, not bragging or prideful, not rude or self-seeking, not easily irritated, keeping no record of wrongs, not delighting in evil but rejoicing in truth (1 Corinthians 13:4-7).

The five points and exercises below can help you train yourself in recognizing God’s voice from its tone and content. Does what you hear match his character? Or is it more from self or from the enemy?

Indications of the Voice of God

  1. Tone
    From God   
    -Leads and invites
    -Quiet
    -Invited and wanted
    From within self or from enemy
    -Driving or pushing
    -Loud
    -Illegal entrance (forcing its way)
    Think of a time in recent months, in your role as a pastor, when you felt pressured into making a decision. How did that feel? How does that pressure measure up with the qualities above? In contrast, when have you sensed God inviting you to do something? How did that feel?                                               
  2.  Content
    From God 
    -In line with scriptural principles
    -Merciful
    -Corrects actual behavior
    -Convicts of specific sin
    -Peacemaking
    From within self or from enemy
    -Prooftexts
    -No mercy
    -Broad condemnation
    -Condemns self-worth
    -Division
    Think of a time in your life when you felt unworthy or like a failure as a pastor. Now compare that with a time when the Spirit convicted you of something specific that you needed to address. Notice the difference.
  3.  Relevance of Content
    From God  
    -Current situation
    -Practical, even mundane
    -Simple and definite
    From within self or from enemy
    -Future outcomes
    -Impractical and sensational
    -Complicated and confused
    As a pastor, in seeking direction from God for a specific decision, try to recall a time when the direction was clear, simple or practical. Now compare that with a time when the impressions you were getting felt confusing and complicated. What might you infer from these two examples from your own life?
  4. Effects of Content?
    From God 
    -Love, peace, and joy
    -Hope
    -Faith increased
    -More understanding of others
    From within self or from enemy
    -Anger, worry, and discouragement
    -Hopelessness
    -Faith deflated
    -Despising of others
    Think of a current decision or dilemma that you are facing. Prayerfully reflect on the various options. Which ones tend to foster in you the qualities “From God” versus the qualities “From within self or from the enemy”?
  5. Exercise Options
    “How Does It Sound?”
    Read aloud Scriptures where God is speaking to his people or an individual. What tone do you read it with? Does that tone reflect the character of God? If not, try rereading it aloud until it does. This is quite intriguing to do. Test yourself with the Scriptures below or others that come to you.

I am the LORD your God, who brought you out of the land of Egypt, out of the house of slavery; you shall have no other gods before me (Exodus 20:2-3).

Man Arrested After Reportedly Confessing to Pastor That He Molested a 4-Year-Old

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A 65-year-old Tennessee man has been arrested and charged with two counts of aggravated rape of a child. Russell Vacherlon was arrested after reportedly confessing to a pastor that he molested a four-year-old girl. 

Editor’s note: This article contains information about child sex abuse and assault that some readers might find disturbing and/or triggering.

According to an arrest report obtained by Scoop: Nashville, Vacherlon contacted the pastor on July 3 and confessed to sexually assaulting the girl. 

When the pastor told Vacherlon to report himself to authorities, Vacherlon reportedly became angry and ended the call after expressing that he thought the conversation was confidential.

The pastor then reported Vacherlon to law enforcement. 

RELATED: Pastor Steps Down Amid Backlash for Failing To Report Possible Child Sex Abuse Material on Fellow Clergy Member’s Computer

On July 8, investigators received additional information from the victim’s father, who said that he walked in on Vacherlon alone with his daughter. The father said that Vacherlon was scrambling to put on his pants and that his daughter’s pants and underwear were down around her knees. 

After getting his daughter to a safe location, the father said he asked her about the incident. The child reportedly indicated that this was not the first time Vacherlon had assaulted her.

During a forensic interview on July 16, the child told investigators that Vacherlon had been making her “suck his crotch” and that he had been “licking her butt.” 

Vacherlon was formerly a keyboarding teacher at Christa McAuliffe Middle School in Palm Beach County, Florida. But Vacherlon forfeited his teaching license in 2023, roughly five years after being accused of inappropriately touching several 11-year-old girls, who were his students in 2018.

RELATED: South Carolina Pastor Fired After Church Learned He Is a Registered Sex Offender

In 2019, Vacherlon was charged with misdemeanor battery. Vacherlon continued to work in a school district job with no student contact until 2021, when the charges against him were dropped under the condition that he resign his teaching job, pay a $100 fine, and complete 25 hours of community service.

Appeals Court Rules Against Dave Ramsey’s Company in COVID-Era Religious Discrimination Case

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(RNS) — A federal appeals court has ruled in favor of a former employee who claimed Ramsey Solutions, the company run by Christian personal finance guru Dave Ramsey, discriminated against him during the COVID-19 pandemic.

Brad Amos, a former video editor at the Franklin, Tennessee-based company, sued Ramsey Solutions in 2021, saying he was fired for not agreeing with Ramsey’s faith-based views about how to respond to the pandemic.

During the pandemic, Dave Ramsey downplayed the risk of COVID-19, referred to those who wear masks as “wusses,” barred employees from working at home and said his company would be guided by faith not fear. Amos’ attorneys alleged that at the Lampo Group — which does business as Ramsey Solutions — wearing a mask or social distancing was seen as “against the will of God,” and employees were required to agree with Ramsey’s beliefs about the pandemic.

Attorneys for Amos also claimed that his faith, including Amos’ belief in the so-called Golden Rule — doing unto others as you would have them do unto you — required him to mask, social distance and comply with other CDC recommendations during the pandemic.

His insistence on doing so, Amos alleged, led to his firing.

“Amos says that his termination was based on his failure to submit to Lampo’s religious practices and his expression of his own religious beliefs with regard to COVID measures. These facts form the basis for Amos’s religious-discrimination claims,” according to a ruling from the U.S. Court of Appeals for the Sixth District.

Amos’ attorney also claimed that Ramsey Solutions had committed fraud by allegedly lying to him about the “cult-like” atmosphere at the company.

In December, a U.S. District Court had dismissed both the discrimination and fraud claims before they went to trial, saying Amos had failed to show he was discriminated against.

In the lower court ruling, U.S. District Court Judge Eli Richardson wrote that “it is not enough that a plaintiff’s sincerely held religious beliefs do not align with the religious beliefs that underlie the employment policy (requirement) that the plaintiff was terminated for non-complying with. Instead, the plaintiff needs to have alleged a religious belief that conflicts with an employment requirement,” Richardson wrote.

On Thursday (Aug. 8), the Sixth Circuit ruled that the district court had erred in dismissing Amos’ discrimination claim. The court ruled that federal law protects employees from discrimination based on “religious non-conformity” — also known as reverse discrimination, or requiring an employee to follow a religious belief or practice.

The Sixth Circuit Court also ruled that a belief in the Golden Rule qualified as a religious claim and was protected from discrimination.

During the appeal, the Equal Employment Opportunity Commission filed a friend of the court brief, urging the appeals court to reverse the lower court ruling — saying Amos had made a plausible claim for religious discrimination.

The EEOC also argued that the term “reverse religious discrimination” was not accurate and said the term “religious non-conformity” was more accurate in cases like the one involving Amos.

“As with all other types of religious-discrimination claims, the employer is accused of discriminating against the employee on the basis of religion,” the EEOC wrote. “Here, however, it is the employer’s religion that is the focus. But that doesn’t make the discrimination ‘reverse.’”

“We’re happy with the result and look forward to the opportunity to continue fighting for our client,” Jonathan Street, an attorney for Amos, told RNS in a statement. The case will now return to the lower district court for trial.

Ramsey Solutions did not respond to a request for comment.

The company’s lawyers, in a brief filed as part of the appeal, said the disagreement between the company and Amos was about how to apply safety protocols. Religion, they argued, had nothing to do with it.

“This lawsuit should never have been filed,” an attorney for Ramsey wrote. “At the heart of it is an aggrieved employee who disagreed with his employer’s approach to the COVID-19 pandemic.”

Ramsey’s attorneys also argued that Amos had failed to make his religious discrimination claims in a clear and timely manner and so those claims were invalid. “Because Plaintiff-Appellant failed to plead reverse religious discrimination, it is not properly before the Court on appeal,” Ramsey’s attorney argued.

In Scandal’s Wake, ACNA Adopts New Rules on Reporting Misconduct

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(RNS) — In 2022, Mark Rivera, a former Anglican lay minister, was convicted of felony child sexual assault three years after a young girl told her mother that he had abused her. Months later, he pled guilty to felony sexual assault, nearly three years after his neighbor reported that Rivera had raped her.

From the first, his survivors said, authorities in the Anglican Church in North America’s Upper Midwest Diocese had been slow to respond, casual about informing their fellow church members and, even after he had been arrested, sided with Rivera.

In 2021, several of Rivera’s victims went public about the obstacles they faced in reporting Rivera’s misconduct, and, ever since, a group of ACNA members has been clamoring for the denomination to revise its abuse prevention protocols.

Now, the denomination has taken steps in that direction. At its June meeting in Latrobe, Pennsylvania, the denomination’s governing bodies added two sections to church bylaws about safeguarding and reporting misconduct, according to a recent update to ACNA’s website. A long-awaited overhaul of Title IV, the bylaws’ protocol for church discipline, is still reportedly in the works.

It was in part “because of the nature of what was going on in the Upper Midwest” that ACNA called an extraordinary meeting of its Governance Task Force, a committee of clergy and laity, around early 2023, charging it with reviewing the denomination’s bylaws, according to the Rev. Phil Ashey, then the group’s chair.

Bishop Stewart Ruch III. Photo via ChurchRez.org

Bishop Stewart Ruch III. Photo via ChurchRez.org

By that time, the Rev. Stewart Ruch, the charismatic bishop who oversees the Upper Midwest Diocese, had returned from a voluntary leave of absence he had taken after admitting to mistakes in responding to the allegations against Rivera. He has since become the subject of a church trial examining whether he knowingly welcomed individuals with histories of predatory behavior into diocesan churches.

The task force commissioned two working groups: A Title I group to examine minimum safeguarding requirements for dioceses, and a Title IV group to review the denomination’s policy for responding to clergy misconduct. The task force reportedly spent more than 1,500 hours developing proposals, raising hopes that the Assembly, ACNA’s largest representative body, would be voting on sweeping revisions to Title IV this June.

But in early March of 2024, the task force published a draft of proposed changes that included two significant Title I amendments, and only minor revisions to Title IV. A May 2024 update of the proposals framed the Title I changes as laying the groundwork for an eventual Title IV overhaul.

The proposed new Title I sections gave the dioceses and their bishops responsibility for their own best practices and reporting of misconduct. This raised concern that the proposals allowed the church’s national leadership to evade legal liability for abuse. Others worried the draft left unclear who would hold bishops accused of misconduct accountable. At the June meeting in Latrobe, one member of the task force urged that the denomination strengthen its own oversight. The final version that passed included additional language saying it was “moral duty” of the whole church to “see that the flock of Christ is protected from abuse,” while leaving primary responsibility in the hands of the bishops.

The Rev. William Barto, a priest in the Reformed Episcopal Church (a sub-jurisdiction of ACNA) and a member of the Title IV working group, said while many dioceses already had pre-existing policies, the final version of the Title I amendments will formalize that requirement. “This is consistent with the larger governance structure of Anglican Church in North America, which is very decentralized and puts focus of activity on the congregation and the dioceses that support those or oversee those congregations,” he said.

Rev. William Barto. Image courtesy ACNA

Rev. William Barto. Image courtesy ACNA

Barto told RNS he thinks the change is a step in the right direction. “In the trial of Bishop Ruch, in the diocese of the Upper Midwest, part of his defense is, it wasn’t my job … I trusted the local rector, the local priest in charge, to take care of this,” he said. “So this is, in part, an effort to foreclose that and clarify that the buck does stop with the diocesan bishop, in terms of the misconduct of their clergy, staff and their congregations.”

Still, the new version of Title I lays out minimum requirements that the dioceses must adopt by the end of 2025 in their misconduct protocols. They include the appointment of report receivers, the creation of a reports investigation committee, requirements that pastoral care be provided to the reporting party and clergy accused of misconduct and guidelines for dealing with reports of lay misconduct.

Ashey, who leads the mission organization American Anglican Council and who served on the Governance Task Force for 15 years, praised the revamped Title I, calling it “a wonderful framework for caring for those who’ve suffered trauma. It also provides a fair and transparent process and care for those who’ve been accused as well, and it provides the ability for each diocese to devise its own process of discipline that actually incorporates these general standards.”

But Sarah Wagner-Wassen, a canon lawyer in the Anglican Catholic Church who has written about the ACNA canons, as church laws are known, said she is concerned that making changes to Title I without the expected overhaul of Title IV creates inconsistencies in the reporting requirements.

In North Carolina, Nearly 1,200 Southern Baptist Churches Participate in Week of Service

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Anne Bazemore, right, of Raleigh, volunteered serving coffee to men experiencing homelessness who flocked to Oak City Cares, a nonprofit in downtown Raleigh North Carolina. The 25-year-old is a member of Imago Dei Church, a Southern Baptist congregation. RNS photo by Yonat Shimron

RALEIGH, N.C. (RNS) — Friday morning (Aug. 9) by 9 a.m., about 100 mostly homeless men lined up outside Oak City Cares, a multi-service nonprofit on the downtown’s edge. Anne Bazemore was there by the door to offer them a hot cup of coffee.

Bazemore, 25, was one of a handful of volunteers from Imago Dei Church who spent the week of Aug. 3-10 volunteering with various civic organizations as part of ServeNC, a statewide project launched this year by the Baptist State Convention of North Carolina.

A total of 1,169 mostly Southern Baptist churches in 92 of North Carolina’s 100 counties participated in the effort, fielding volunteers for a week of service helping vulnerable populations, including homeless people, orphans, prisoners, refugees and the elderly.

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By Friday, Bazemore knew the names of some of the regulars and how they liked their coffee: black, with cream and sugar, or extra sugar. On a counter just beside the door were two insulated 5-gallon coffee urns; Bazemore poured out coffee until there was no more. She had spent two hours each morning this past week at Oak City Cares, an organization that offers the unhoused a place to shower, do laundry and get medical and case management services.

“Just as I was once far off and have been saved and given a family and given hope by the grace of God, I love getting to love and serve the marginalized in my city,” said Bazemore. “And I count it a great gift that I get to do it.”

Summers are often a time when congregations send out people to far-off missions work. This year, the state’s Southern Baptists envisioned something closer to home.

“In my almost 20 years of being a Christian, I can’t remember a time that a group of churches this large was doing something like this together,” said Todd Unzicker, executive director-treasurer of the Baptist State Convention.

There are approximately 2,800 congregations that partner with the state convention. Nearly 45% participated.

“I think that’s pretty historic,” added Unzicker.

The Woman's Missionary Union of North Carolina served at With Love From Jesus Ministries in Raleigh organizing and managing a free clothing and grocery store for guests as part of ServeNC. Photo courtesy Serve NC

The Woman’s Missionary Union of North Carolina served at With Love From Jesus Ministries in Raleigh organizing and managing a free clothing and grocery store for guests as part of ServeNC. Photo courtesy Serve NC

Despite a tropical storm that scuttled some outdoor projects, the churches managed a range of aid initiatives. In Winston-Salem, Calvary Baptist Church packed 750 school backpacks. First Baptist Church of Raeford built a wheelchair ramp for a couple in the community. Friendship Southern Baptist Church in Concord put on a “Senior Prom Night” at a local nursing home. Salem Baptist Church in Dobson stocked shelves and bagged groceries at a local food pantry.

The Southern Baptist Convention has faced a series of challenges in recent years: declining membership, a sexual abuse crisis, a crackdown on women pastors, a condemnation of in vitro fertilization, an embrace of Trump and MAGA politics.

Who Is Your One?

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Who is your one?

One person, one name, one life—your “one” who you know needs a relationship with Jesus to change the trajectory of their life.

Get that name. Get that face. Commit to it. Write it down on a piece of paper. Stick it in your Bible. Put it on your desk.

The ripple effect of that decision could be beyond what you can even imagine.

Let me give you an example. In 1858, there was a Sunday School teacher in Boston named Edward Kimball. He was concerned about one of his students who worked in a shoe store. Kimball went to where he worked and found him stocking shelves in the back. He challenged him about his relationship with God, and the young man decided to give his life to Christ.

His name was D. L. Moody, who left the shoe business and became one of the greatest Christian leaders of his time. If you have heard of the Moody Bible Institute or Moody Publishing, you know that his legacy continues to this day.

One day Moody was speaking in a church to a man named Frederick Meyer. Meyer was so inspired by Moody’s story and the impact of his Sunday school teacher, that he decided to enter into vocational ministry as well. One day, when Meyer was speaking at a church in Northfield, Massachusetts, a man named J. Wilbur Chapman heard him speaking and gave his life to Christ.

Chapman entered vocational ministry and began mentoring a young baseball player named Billy Sunday, who went on to speak to thousands about Jesus. Sunday was actually once in Charlotte, North Carolina speaking at a series of meetings. Inspired by Sunday’s ministry, a group of men in Charlotte dedicated themselves to reaching the city for Jesus. They brought in an evangelist named Mordecai Ham.

By now, it was the year 1932. A local farmer loaded his pick-up truck with neighbors and brought them to the meeting led by Ham. One of the neighbors was a 16-year-old boy who sat in the crowd every night. On the very last night of those meetings, he gave his life to Jesus.

That teenager was named Billy Graham, who would go on to tell more people about Jesus than any other person in history.

And it all started with one man, Edward Kimball, reaching out to another, who reached out to another, who reached out to another…on and on it went.

The power of one.

How To Escape Condemnation

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There is therefore now no condemnation to those who are in Christ Jesus, who do not walk according to the flesh, but according to the Spirit. (Romans 8:1)

It can be a cruel world. Even at the start of our lives.

Ask any junior high kid how mean classmates can be. Name-calling, challenges to fights, snapping of towels in the gym locker rooms, you name it. Children at that age can be relentless when it comes to picking on each other.

Those who are the ones being harassed often feel like they are being condemned. Feeling condemned can be very troubling. As kids grow older, they can try and overcompensate this sense of condemnation in an unhealthy effort to feel approved.

The chase for approval can be crippling.

There is only one who can give the approval that many crave. That one is Jesus Christ. The one who loves unconditionally.

For those who live according to the flesh set their minds on the things of the flesh, but those who live according to the Spirit, the things of the Spirit. For to be carnally minded is death, but to be spiritually minded is life and peace. Because the carnal mind is enmity against God. (Romans 5:5-7)

Hostility toward God is not good. Especially when eternity is at stake. It’s best to cry out to Jesus and begin a relationship with Him now because “the law of the Spirit of life in Christ Jesus has made me [you] free from the law of sin and death.” (Romans 8:2)

Feelings of condemnation disappear—sometimes quickly, sometimes slowly. In His timing, you will be able to set aside what others may think of you or act towards you. God loves you no matter what!

But if the Spirit of Him who raised Jesus from the dead dwells in you, He who raised Christ from the dead will also give life to your mortal bodies through His Spirit who dwells in you. (Romans 5:11)

It can take a long time for adults to recover from the wounds of their youth. They can bury themselves in all sorts of habits and addictions in order to seek an answer to their pain. However, there is a solution: His name is Jesus Christ.

May you find Him now!

Prayer

Dear Lord, we seek a relationship with you. We welcome you in us. Help us to turn away from our fleshly desires. Thank you, Jesus, for the peace that comes from knowing you! Amen

This article originally appeared here and is used by permission. 

8 Things To Do When Depression Hits Your Pastor

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More and more pastors are dealing with the issue of depression. The pain is often deep, and few pastors have immediate places to turn for guidance and comfort. I am re-posting these words to help churches whose pastor might be facing this struggle. If that’s your church, here are some of my thoughts:

  1. Don’t be surprised. It happens. Sometimes we pastors, too, bear wounds from yesterday, and we often carry heavy burdens from today. As I’ve written before, “dark nights of the soul” are not uncommon. In fact, historical heroes of faith like Charles Spurgeon and Martin Luther faced these kinds of battles.
  2. Don’t assume it’s a sign of a lack of faith. Depression may well become a faith struggle, but it’s not an immediate indication that a pastor lacks faith. The issues are often much more than that, and pastors have a tendency to keep silent about all of them.
  3. Don’t take it personally. Depression can be a long-term issue with multiple causes, and seldom is one tough church the cause. That’s not to say, though, that a tough congregation doesn’t make healing more difficult. Church members who act like non-believers don’t help anybody.
  4. Do pray for (a) patient understanding for your members and (b) healing for your pastor. Members may not fully understand the issues of depression, and they may first be surprised that pastors deal with such things. Pastors simply want God to strengthen them and grant them victory.
  5. Do offer help with counseling time and costs. Insurance should help, but additional costs might add up. In my estimation, a church has some obligation to help their pastor find healing—both for the sake of their church and for the sake of his present and future ministry.
  6. Do find your own role in the church and serve fully. Depression among pastors is often exacerbated by their belief—faulty though it is—that they must do everything nobody else will do. On the other hand, you likely cannot know the joy and peace a pastor gets when his members serve well and thus remove some of his stress.
  7. Do pray daily for your pastor’s family. The stresses on a family are great, and many families bear that weight silently and quietly. Don’t wait until you hear your pastor’s family is in trouble to start praying; rather, start praying now that the enemy would not devour their home.
  8. Do encourage your pastor for a job well done. Too many church members just assume that their pastor knows their love and support, but their silence often says something to a leader who’s already battling internal strife. A little affirmation can be more powerful than you might imagine.

Pray for your pastor today, and let us know how we might pray for you if this post speaks to you.

Cultivating Divine Blessing Through Prayer

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Lately, I have been impressed with the fact that prayer is arguably the most important need for the sustenance, vitality, and continuance of the church. A prayerless church is a powerless church. A prayerless congregation will trend toward becoming a loveless congregation. A prayless people will ultimately become a self-reliant people. Every true believer recognizes the need for prayer to hold a far more central and abiding place in his or her life. How then can we cultivate this means of grace toward divine blessing for the benefit of the church in our day and the advancement of the kingdom of God among His people? The answer is found, at least in part, in the words of the Apostle Paul in Ephesians 1:15-20.

Cultivating Divine Blessing Through Prayer

Having praised and worshiped God for the divine blessing that He freely gives His people in Christ (i.e., election, sanctification, adoption, justification, reconciliation, an inheritance, and the sealing of the Spirit) in Ephesians 1:3-14, the Apostle then turns to let the believers in the church in Ephesus of how he prays for them. He writes,

“For this reason, because I have heard of your faith in the Lord Jesus and your love toward all the saints, I do not cease to give thanks for you, remembering you in my prayers, that the God of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of glory, may give you the Spirit of wisdom and of revelation in the knowledge of him, having the eyes of your hearts enlightened, that you may know what is the hope to which he has called you, what are the riches of his glorious inheritance in the saints, and what is the immeasurable greatness of his power toward us who believe, according to the working of his great might that he worked in Christ when he raised him from the dead and seated him at his right hand in the heavenly places.”

The flow from praise to prayer is instructive for us. Paul goes from praising God for “every spiritual blessing” with which He has blessed His people “in the heavenly places in Christ” to giving thanks to God for them. He then moves from thanking God for the grace He has already given them to praying for a greater realization of these spiritual blessings in their experience. What greater fruit of worship could there be than a heart that turns to the Lord in prayer for those blessings for which we have worshiped and praised him!

12 Keys to Improving Worship Keyboards

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So you’re playing worship keyboards for your band this Sunday! Here are some proven steps and practices to help you do a great job.

12 Keys to Improving Worship Keyboards

1. Download the charts & MP3s

• Get your charts early. Start practicing as soon as the charts are available.

• Download from PlanningCenter.com or other online sources. (You can also upload to Dropbox)

• Put the charts on your iPad or print them off.

• Download the MP3s and make a playlist or use Planning Center’s Service app and Media player

• Double check to see what keys you are playing in.

• What key is the recording in? Transpose the MP3 if necessary.

2. Listen to the original recordings

• What is the keyboardist(s) playing on the recording?

• What is the exact tempo?

• When does the keyboard sit out?

• What voicing is the player using?

• What is the musical feel for this song?

• Is this a keyboard song or guitar-based song?

• What are the lead lines that are important for you to play?

3. What are the best sounds to use for this set?

• Piano Sound

• E-Piano sounds (Rhodes & FM)

• Strings, Pads & Vox

• B-3 sounds

• Pipe Organ

• Ethereal sounds

• Bass sounds

• Brass patches

• Layering

4. What keyboards do you have?

Spend time with your keyboards and mark down your favorite patches and learn how to access them quickly. Create your own user settings.

• Yamaha

• Roland

• Nord

• Korg

4 Battles to Set Boundaries in Ministry

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Henry Cloud and John Townsend wrote the wildly popular book, Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No to Take Control of your Life. Dr. Cloud also wrote Boundaries for Leaders. I recommend them both. Essentially boundaries in ministry for leaders or pastors are like a property line around your yard, only in this case that yard is your soul. Healthy boundaries in ministry make for healthy souls. Unhealthy boundaries make for unhealthy souls.

In my 34 years in ministry, I’ve seen many pastors with poor boundaries in ministry. Sometimes I’ve not kept healthy ones myself. Why is that so? I suggest 4 reasons and 4 potential ways to build healthy boundaries.

4 Battles to Set Boundaries in Ministry

1. Our call and vocation is rooted in our desire to help people.

And helping people takes time, and lots of it. If you are successful as a ministry leader, people with needs will keep coming your way. So, you’ll never check everything off your ministry to-do list. There will always be one more person who needs to hear the Gospel, one more person who needs prayer, one more person to counsel, one more call or email to return, one more hour you could spend polishing your sermon, etc., etc. Our vocational call places us in a position where needs will always vie for our attention.

  • Solution: Remind yourself that Jesus didn’t heal everybody and he didn’t make himself available 24/7. In fact, he often spent time along with His heavenly father away from people. If the Son of God needed healthy boundaries, it seems that we do too.

2. Our 24/7 connected world makes it hard to disconnect.

I recall the first cell phone I owned. It was a Motorola flip phone that looked like a brick with one edge angled. It was novel and fun. Few other people owned cell phones at the time. And because cell phone usage was expensive, I didn’t give out my number to many people. So, I didn’t have to field many calls even though I looked cool as it hung off my belt. As cell phones evolved from ‘stupid’ phones to ‘smart’ phones they no longer served as tools for talking. Now not only can someone call us, but they can text and email us. My current phone is actually set up to send me a text when I miss a call (ugh!). We can be reached 24/7 in multiple ways which blurs boundaries.

  • Solution: Put your phone away after 6 pm. Don’t answer emails after 6. Don’t put your cell phone next to your bed even if you put it on vibrate. If it’s within reaching distance, you’re still connected.

How the Holy Spirit Transformed a 93-Year-Old Woman into a Messenger of Faith

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“Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; the old has gone, the new has come!” (2 Corinthians 5:17). Becoming a new creation sounds as if it involves a radical change, and indeed it does! Hence, C. S. Lewis could say: “The Christian life is simply a process of having your natural self changed into a Christ self, and…this process goes on very far inside. One’s most private wishes, one’s point of view, are the things that have to be changed.”

But it should be a great encouragement to us that no one is ever too old or to set in their ways that the Holy Spirit can’t change their hearts, as this wonderful story a reader shared on my Facebook page demonstrates:

I would like to share my mother’s testimony for her. My parents, in their 90s, had to go into a nursing home because I physically could not take care of them anymore. When my father passed six months later, my mother became depressed and started having hallucinations about him. Many people told me to just go along with her hallucinations and not upset her with the truth that he was dead. It took prayer, long talks, and taking her to the cemetery for her to come to the real truth.

She then began asking about salvation and about my father in Heaven. He had accepted Christ as his Savior. I gave my mom your Heaven book, and it has helped change her life. Before I never really knew if she was saved, but she is now openly telling everyone that Jesus is her Savior. She is telling nurses and residents about salvation and Heaven. She has gone from staying in her room to actively participating in activities and meeting people. I’ve seen the Holy Spirit move in her as she slowly walks the halls with her walker going in residents’ rooms, spending time with them, and covering up someone in bed if their blanket has fallen off.

My mother at 93 is ministering to others and telling them about Heaven. No one is ever too old to be used by God for His purposes. I had given up on my mom ever changing but with the Holy Spirit in her heart now she is truly a new creation. Randy Alcorn, thank you for ministering through your book to my mother and others.

After reading her story, I thought about how I often hear (and totally understand) why people say, “When someone has dementia, don’t feel the need to correct the untrue things they are saying. That will only frustrate them.” Many years ago, when Nanci’s dad kept looking out the window and seeing his wife who had died, and other family members and friends, many of them deceased, and saying various people had come to visit him, Nanci and I just nodded. We learned early on that if we pushed back, it would hurt him and make him think we didn’t trust him. So it was only the really BIG things that mattered when we would offer gentle correction.

However, what strikes me about this reader’s story is that she took her mom to her dad’s grave to help her understand he had died. It was then that “She began asking about salvation and about my father in Heaven.”

Suppose she had taken people’s usual advice and not “bothered” her mother with the truth that her husband had died. Would that have meant her mother wouldn’t have asked about salvation in Heaven that led to a relationship with Jesus? Something to think about.

But for sure, let’s never give up on our family and friends who don’t know Jesus, even those with dementia. Let’s keep pointing them to Him and trusting that the Holy Spirit is at work, even when we can’t always see it.

This article originally appeared here and is used by permission. 

How To Build Hope

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One of the things on my Bucket List that I’m probably not ever going to do is to visit Machu Picchu. It’s an ancient Inca city that’s about 8,000 feet up on top of a mountain. You have to climb four days and three nights just to get there. But when you get there, what a sight! Machu Pichu also speaks to me about what it takes to build hope into our lives.

I’ve always been amazed at the buildings. Without using iron or even wheels, they carved and moved massive stones all over the place. The stones fit so perfectly together that you can’t even get a piece of paper in between them. I’m lucky if I can even draw a straight line with a ruler.

But more than just building this city on top of a mountain, it’s in an earthquake zone. And on top of all that, it’s in the middle of a rainforest. So, you’d think that earthquakes or the rain would have destroyed the city long ago. And you’d be right except for two thing.

  1. First, they built strong foundations that go down, deep to the bedrock.
  2. Second, they also built an amazing drainage system that carried away the rain so it wouldn’t weaken the foundations.

How to Build Hope

Yes, they built Machu Picchu one stone at a time. And when it comes to hope, you built it one stone at a time. One thought at a time. One memory at a time.

There is no such thing as instant hope. Or some immediate fix to a life lived without hope. Hopelessness was made in the fires of a life lived with disappointment. One failure at a time. One overwhelming sadness at a time. One negative comment at a time. One undeserved criticism at a time.

A Simple Exercise That Will Infuse Life Into Your Church Staff

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Some time back our church staff held our annual in-house evaluation retreat when we reviewed the prior year’s goals and plans. God had given us a good year and we wanted not only to discuss how we could improve, but rejoice in His blessings. After we prayed, we did a simple exercise that infused life into each of us. Here’s what we did that I guarantee will infuse life into your staff, whether they are paid or volunteer.

This will infuse life into your staff.

We had nine on our ministry staff and eight were present that day. I asked everyone to write down the names of each church staff member sitting around the table. I then asked them to write down one quality about each person that they most appreciated. That was the easy part. The uncomfortable, yet life-giving part came next.

I then asked each person to look at one individual and tell him or her what they appreciated most about that person. We went around the table while each of us stayed on the ‘hot seat’ (maybe there is a better term for it). Then, one by one, we each looked directly at that staff person and told him or her what we most appreciated about them.

It was an incredibly life affirming experience.

Tears were shed.

We become vulnerable.

Each of us got blessed.

Our retreat took on an incredibly open and affirming tone.

It was amazing.

Gratefulness expressed to others is not only biblical, but it brings with it many practical personal benefits as well. Science is now telling us what the Bible has for centuries: showing gratitude, saying thanks, and affirming others is really good. Here’s what we’re learning about gratefulness.

  1. Gratefulness stimulates Christ-honoring behavior, called pro-social behavior by psychologists.
  2. Gratefulness can actually make us happier.
  3. Gratefulness can help decrease the power of materialism.
  4. Gratefulness can help us learn to forgive more consistently.
  5. Gratefulness can help us sleep better.
  6. Gratefulness can make us feel better physically because it evokes the production of two neurotransmitters in our brains, dopamine and serotonin, involved in reward and well-being, respectively.

So, when we experience and show gratefulness to others or in our hearts, many benefits result.

Two great Scriptures remind us how important gratefulness is.

“I will give thanks to you, Lord, with all my heart; I will tell of all your wonderful deeds” (Psalms 9:1).

Give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus” (1 Thessalonians 5:18).

Try this with your staff (or even with your family) and experience how life giving it can be.

What are some other life-giving exercises have you used with your staff?

This article originally appeared here.

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