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How to Live Up to Your Wedding Vows When Things Go Bad

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On your wedding day you stand before family and friends and recite those famous wedding vows, pledging your love “for better or worse.” In essence, on the most romantic day of your life, you’re saying, “This could go bad.” But at the same time you’re promising to keep your vows and not to go anywhere if it does.

Matt Chandler, pastor of Village Church and president of the Acts 29 Network, told listeners to the ChurchLeaders podcast that the need to keep your vows is the reality of marriage that he wishes more people understood.

What It Means to Keep Your Vows

Chandler put that reality into context. He said when you promise to keep your vows at a wedding, you are telling God and those in attendance, “One of us could get sick, really sick with cancer, and I’m staying if that happens. And we could be broke, we could be sharing Ramen noodles and Dr. Thunder for the next 20 years, and I’m doing that with you.”

He calls that a covenant promise as opposed to a contractual arrangement that is dependent on one party’s happiness. That’s counterintuitive to today’s understanding of love that he calls “emotive and cupidian.”

Chandler encourages pastors to help clear up the confusion about dating and even the early years of marriage saying, “The culture lied to them about how to walk in the fullest possible life in relation to others.”

He called on church leaders to present a plan that is far more lovely than the world’s plan and the good news that God’s grace covers where we have fallen short.

Young people today are walking a difficult line. On one hand, the world is selling the idea that selfish love is most fulfilling and is all about emotions. On the other, the church is shaming those who fall short of God’s design.

“I want to, as often as I can, tell people that the Bible is grimy and those who are God’s brightest lights are those who make sinners in the congregation feel like they are junior varsity.”

Chandler recommends courtship to a generation frustrated with the dating culture.

The natural tendency of males seeking to conquer and females out to capture has Christian singles in a foggy confusion. They aren’t sure how to date in a way that honors the Lord and values the soul of another person.

He believes courtship is getting to know someone until the rose-colored glasses are removed. At that point, Chandler says, you see that little bit of crazy in the other person but say, “I’m not going anywhere.” The Hebrews called it the “love of the will.” It is then that the discussion can turn to future goals and big issues.

He believes that courtship allows godly men to pursue godly women in friendship in hopes that it grows into something more.

And then comes marriage with its own set of challenges. Chandler told the story of his own struggles in marriage in the first four years.

Strength in Deuteronomy Means Much More than You Thought

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You have likely heard Deuteronomy 6:4-5 quoted many times. It’s known as the Shema. 

“Hear, O Israel! The Lord is our God, the Lord is one! You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength.”

This video from the Bible Project focuses on the last word in the Shema; “strength.”

The word in Hebrew is “me’od” and it’s found 300 times in Scripture.  But here is the fascinating part—the word does not actually mean “strength.”

The Shema is one of the few places in the Bible where “me’od” is translated “strength.” Why is that?

The literal translation for “me’od” is “very” or “much.” Grammatically, it’s an adverb used to comes alongside other words to augment their meaning.

For example, in Genesis 1:31, God refers to his creation as “good” six times. But the seventh time he adds “me’od” meaning the creation was “very (me’od) good.”

Later in Genesis 7:18 we read about the Great Flood. The flood waters are called “me’od powerful.”

In the story of Cain and Abel in Genesis 4:15 Cain is said to be “me’od angry.”

In some cases “me’od” is used twice to increase the force of the word it is augmenting to its total capacity as in Genesis 30:43 where Jacob is described as being “me’od, me’od wealthy.”

That means when understanding the word as used in the Shema, it doesn’t mean strength or power but “much”— we are called to love God with all of our “muchness.”  

Loving God with all of your “me’od” means devoting every possibility, opportunity and capacity that you have to honoring God and loving your neighbor as yourself.  It’s the most wide and expansive word in the Shema because it can refer to almost anything.

The meaning of the word has challenged translators throughout history.  Ancient Jewish scholars who translated the Hebrew Bible into Greek used “dunamis”, meaning “power” or “strength” for “me’od.” It’s the most widely used understanding in Bible translations.  But ancient Aramaic scholars translated “me’od” to mean “wealth.”  They saw money as a concrete thing that opens up all kinds of opportunities to love God by giving away resources.

Jesus quoted the Shema in Mark 12:30 by using two words to unpack the meaning of “me’od” saying we should love God with all of our mind and power.  Both are human capacities that can be used to love God in an infinite number of ways.

The video concludes by telling us that “me’od,” no matter how you translate it, doesn’t limit the number of ways we can show love for God. Rather, it means everything in a person’s life offers a chance to honor the one who made you.  

What does that mean for pastors?  John Piper described his love for God this way;

“The burden of my ministry is to make plain to others that “The steadfast love [of the Lord] is better than life” (Psalm 63:3). And if it is better than life, it is better than all that life in this world offers. This means that what satisfies is not the gifts of God, but the glory of God–the glory of his love, the glory of his power, the glory of his wisdom, holiness, justice, goodness, and truth.”

That is a fitting example of loving God with all of our “muchness.”

Why Growth Is Non-Negotiable for Leaders

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Great leaders keep growing.

The very best leaders I know are hungry to grow. They are internally motivated to keep reading, learning and practicing toward improvement. They are dedicated to personal development.

Great leaders understand that yesterday’s wins do not guarantee future successes.

The best leaders want to become even better leaders to increase their impact for God’s Kingdom.

We learn by experience, observation, mistakes, good coaching, study, prayer and practice, lots of practice.

In essence, we have to practice what we can’t do until we can. That’s my simple definition and pathway to growth as a leader.

Let me state it again: Growth as a leader comes from practicing what you can’t do until you can.

It’s more than just study, stimulating roundtable discussions and even great coaching. At some point, you have to practice something new.

Growth, by very definition, involves new things, greater ability and new territory. If you are doing the same things with the same people repeatedly, that requires no practice. It may require stamina and faithfulness, and both are great attributes, but by themselves do not produce progress.

The primary characteristic that separates those who are faithful from those who are faithful and fruitful is the willingness to pay the price.

Personal development requires deliberate effort, discipline and focus. For example, I heard a recent quote that approximately 50 percent of those who have joined a gym in 2018 have already quit.

Growth as a leader is like that. It may or may not include a physical gym for you, but it will always require sustained extra effort.

3 Reasons for Growth:

1) Culture changes

Our current culture is changing so rapidly that the only way to genuinely keep up is continued growth/personal development.

As culture shifts, it impacts how we do ministry. We cannot continue to do ministry precisely as we have in the past and remain relevant. That requires change, which demands awareness, the ability to adapt and lead at a more advanced level.

2) Life advances

Culture doesn’t shift in a vacuum; it advances in multiple realms such as technology, medicine, communication, politics, business and education. None of us can keep up with all of that, but without growth we not only can’t keep up, but we’ll also fall quickly behind.

The result is a leader who is out of touch, behind the times and potentially no longer relevant.

With growth, we can select a few priorities to focus on and “keep up” with life’s advancements. I remember when my mom was 66 years old and taking her first computer course! She understood the importance of continued growth!

Who Will Hold the Ropes: A Plea for Great Commission Pastors and Churches

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In 1792, William Carey published a treatise with the long title: An Enquiry Into the Obligations of Christians to Use Means for the Conversion of the Heathens. Most of Carey’s contemporaries believed that the call to cross-cultural evangelism applied only to the apostles. Carey challenged this view by arguing that the Great Commission of Matt 28.18–20″ data-version=”hcsb” data-purpose=”bible-reference”>Matthew 28:18–20 is a binding command on every generation of Christians. He recounted the history of missions, offered a survey of the state of global Christianity during his day, and urged Baptists and others to form societies to send missionaries to foreign lands with zero or minimal gospel presence.

That same year, Carey preached a missionary sermon from Isaiah 54:2–3, which reads, “Enlarge the place of your tent, and let the curtains of your habitations be stretched out; do not hold back; lengthen your cords and strengthen your stakes. For you will spread abroad to the right and to the left, and your offspring will possess the nations and will people the desolate cities.” His sermon had two points: expect great things, attempt great things.

Even Lottie Moon had a Mentor in Missions

Before the end of 1792, Carey and his friends in the Northamptonshire Baptist Association founded the Baptist Missionary Society, which was the first organization of its type in the evangelical world. Carey himself was sent to India the following year, where he served as a missionary until his death in 1834. His example inspired hundreds of others to become missionaries. Carey has often been called the father of the modern missions movement because of his advocacy for foreign missions and his role as the most famous early evangelical missionary.

Andrew Fuller Held the Ropes

Many people have heard of William Carey; far fewer have heard of his good friend Andrew Fuller. Like Carey, Fuller was nurtured in a theological context that wasn’t congenial toward intentional evangelism and missions. And like Carey, Fuller came to believe that every Christian was commanded to spread the gospel, and some were called to do so cross-culturally.

Before leaving for India, Carey famously told Fuller, “I will go down into the pit, if you will hold the ropes.” Fuller held the ropes by serving as president of the Baptist Mission Society from its founding until his death in 1814. He traveled all over the British Isles, raising funds and preaching missions-related sermons. The missionaries in India and other early fields could concentrate on their ministry in the field because they knew Fuller was advocating for them back home.

While the Great Commission is a command for all Christians, not every believer is called to move to another land to serve as a cross-cultural missionary. But many are, and these missionaries need pastors back home who, like Fuller with Carey, will hold the ropes for them as they spread the good news among unreached and underserved people groups.

The Best Leaders Are Broken Leaders

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I cannot over-emphasize the importance of humble leadership.

I am broken. I lead a community of broken people called a church. And we often say, unapologetically, that we are a community of the broken who have good news for the broken.

The Importance of Humble Leadership

Don’t misunderstand. I don’t mean that we’re “broken” in the sense that we’re rendered useless by our imperfections. The opposite is actually true. We’re made more useful, and we discover our greatest purpose through our pain and suffering.

A.W. Tozer is often credited with a quote I’ve shared a few times myself,

It is doubtful whether God can bless a man greatly until He has hurt him deeply.

And without fail, every time I share it, I get pushback and it usually revolves around the idea that God would never hurt us, right? Isn’t his plan for our lives more along the lines of health, wealth and prosperity?

But consider the context in which Tozer wrote his statement…

We tend to think of Christianity as a painless system by which we can escape the penalty of past sins and attain to heaven at last. The flaming desire to be rid of every unholy thing and to put on the likeness of Christ at any cost is not often found among us. We expect to enter the everlasting kingdom of our Father and to sit down around the table with sages, saints and martyrs; and through the grace of God, maybe we shall; yes, maybe we shall. But for the most of us it could prove at first an embarrassing experience. Ours might be the silence of the untried soldier in the presence of the battle-hardened heroes who have fought the fight and won the victory and who have scars to prove that they were present when the battle was joined.

The devil, things and people being what they are, it is necessary for God to use the hammer, the file and the furnace in His holy work of preparing a saint for true sainthood. It is doubtful whether God can bless a man greatly until He has hurt him deeply.

~ A.W. Tozer, The Root of the Righteous (p. 165).

So it isn’t that God causes evil to come into our lives for no purpose. Rather, it is that he uses the suffering we endure for our good, to prepare and shape our character so that we’re up to the task of leadership.

I happen to be a pastor who struggles with depression. And I’m not alone.

I’ve spent nearly a decade networking with pastors and church leaders all over the world and I never cease to be surprised at the number who, in private conversation, will divulge their own battles with depression and loneliness.

20 “Bible Dialogue” Questions

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Here’s a way you and your group can study the Bible without using a Bible-study guide. I developed these questions (some of which I picked up from other places) several years ago.

Read a section of Scripture (a chapter, for instance) together as a group. Be creative. Read in the round (one verse or sentence at a time) or have group members read in parts. Then ask some general questions to get people dialoguing around the text. Move from “what did you get” questions to “what will you do” questions. Here are a few possibilities. You might use only one or two of these kinds of questions in a study! Remember that follow-up questions are the best questions.

  1. What jumped out at you in this passage?
  2. What’s going on here? Summarize what’s happening.
  3. What did you notice here, maybe for the first time?
  4. Who are the main characters in this passage?
  5. What’s your favorite verse in this passage? Why?
  6. What’s your least favorite verse in this passage? Why?
  7. What do you think God is trying to communicate overall in this passage?
  8. If we were writing a sermon with three main points from this passage, what would be our three points?
  9. What did you sense the Holy Spirit saying to you?
  10. What example do you see here that you can follow?
  11. What commands do you see here that you need to obey?
  12. What thoughts do you find here about God himself?
  13. What promise(s) do you see here for you to claim?
  14. What principles do you see here that you need to accept?
  15. What can we learn as a group from this passage?
  16. In what verse or section do you sense God speaking directly to you?
  17. How will this passage affect your relationships this next week?
  18. What changes do you feel like you need to make based on this passage?
  19. So what? What are you going to do based on reading this?
  20. What is one specific thing from this passage that you would pray back to God? How would you word that prayer?

This article originally appeared here.

The Dangers of Echo Chamber Leadership

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We leaders often enjoy the affirmation and adulation of others as we express our ideas, provide direction and set future courses.

And we sometimes enjoy it so much that we only want people to agree with us and affirm us, even if we are wrong.

It’s called echo chamber leadership. Properly defined, it’s an environment in which leaders encourage and encounter only beliefs or opinions that match their own, so that their existing views are reinforced and alternative ideas and pushback are not considered.

For certain, it’s very dangerous. And Christian leaders are not invulnerable to it, far from it. Indeed the evangelical celebrity culture exacerbates the problem.

What are some key issues that help us leaders not fall into the echo chamber leadership trap? Here are six considerations:

  1. It is the leader’s responsibility to avoid the echo chamber. We can’t lay the blame on the shoulders of those who may be under our leadership. Leaders may have firing or some other type of punitive authority over them. Leaders must take the necessary steps, not the leader’s followers.
  2. Sycophants are extremely dangerous. They take the echo chamber to its extreme to let leaders know how wonderful they are. They gush over them, fawn over them and seek to please them unendingly. Leaders can really enjoy such adulation and attention. They can make the leader seem the paragon of perfection. Such pride is a forerunner to a fall.
  3. Leaders must seek out people who care enough about them to speak truth to them. A few years ago, Brad Waggoner, the number two leader at LifeWay, said some things to me that really ticked me off. I let him know I was not happy. His response: “I care more about you than the consequences of telling you. Go on and fire me.” Such friends are priceless, especially if they work for you. By the way, Brad was right and I was wrong.
  4. Social media and blogs can drive leadership to the echo chamber. Because any critic, naysayer or nutcase can have a voice in the digital world, leaders can be tempted to withdraw to the seeming comfort and affirmation of the echo chamber. But the echo chamber is actually more dangerous than exposure to the critics and the crazies.
  5. The leader’s response to contrary opinions and criticisms will send a message to the watching world. I was in the room when someone suggested a contrary opinion to the leader. He blew up like an implosion with 1,000 sticks of dynamite. We got the message. Don’t say a word unless we agree with him and can affirm him.
  6. Moral failure is common among leaders who dwell in echo chambers. These leaders are convinced they are God’s gifts to humanity. They are the smartest person in the room. After all, everyone has told them so. They cannot fail. They will not be tempted. Then they are tempted and they fall. And they usually fall hard.

Nathan is one of my heroes of Scripture. He had the courage to speak truth and confront King David (2 Samuel 12). The consequences could have been dire and deadly. But Nathan loved David too much not to speak truth to him.

I am thankful for those who have Nathan-like courage. And, at least in this case, I am thankful for leaders who respond like David.

The echo chamber is a siren song. It leads to failure, destruction and even death.

None of us leaders are exempt. Stay strong in the Lord.

This article originally appeared here.

Your Church’s Culture

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The latest edition of the Harvard Business Review spotlights “The Culture Factor.” No, not the culture at large but organizational culture.

“Strategy and culture are among the primary levers at top leaders’ disposal in their never-ending quest to maintain organizational viability and effectiveness,” the lead article begins. “Strategy offers a formal logic for the company’s goals and orients people around them. Culture expresses goals through values and beliefs and guides activity through shared assumptions and group norms.”

And what is organizational “culture”?

“Culture is the tacit social order of an organization. It shapes attitudes and behaviors in wide-ranging and durable ways. Cultural norms define what is encouraged, discouraged, accepted or rejected within a group. When properly aligned with personal values, drives and needs, culture can unleash tremendous amounts of energy toward a shared purpose and foster an organizations capacity to thrive.”

Oh how I wish more church leaders understood this. And, even more, how to create a positive, biblical culture, and then how to protect it.

Here are some thoughts that might serve:

First, create a culture for your church. Have the mission painted as a clear target on the wall. Let there be no doubt what gets rewarded and valued, and what is held in contempt. Establish core values. Determine how you will relate to one another in community. The goal is to have an innate sense of “this is us” and “this is not us.”

For example, at Meck it is a part of our culture that lost people matter to God and reaching out to them is integral to our mission. It is deeply embedded that we are to relate lovingly to each other, give each other the benefit of the doubt, and quickly deal with offense and conflict. On any endeavor, when we are 5 percent away from turning good to great, we give that last 5 percent because excellence honors God. We are ruthless about having no “sacred cows,” so we ruthlessly evaluate methodology in light of our mission. Such things are the heartbeat of our culture.

Simply put, you create a culture through what you value, what you model and what you teach.

Here’s an example of culture creation, indicative of what takes place scores of times each week. Following a staff meeting, a woman on our staff came to my office to express that I had offended her with something I had said. She felt that an off-hand remark I had made demeaned her investment in a particular ministry.

She was right. I made the remark without even thinking about her selfless role in the endeavor. I could only apologize, tell her I truly didn’t mean to intimate that about her, and then ask for her forgiveness.

She graciously accepted it and said, “OK, we’re done!”

A day or two later I felt a prompting to email her and tell her how proud I was of her for how she handled it. She didn’t let it fester or go underground. She came immediately to me to express her concern in a spirit of community, giving me the benefit of the doubt for the heart behind my ill-chosen words. I told her that this was what Matthew 18:15 was all about, and she had modeled it beautifully. She wrote back and thanked me because she so wanted to do such things right.

Why?

Because that’s who we are. It’s the culture we’ve worked so hard to create.

Second, you must protect that culture. I’m stunned by how many leaders work so hard at creating a culture and then do so little to protect it. It’s akin to a father or mother giving of themselves selflessly to their family, fostering love and intimacy, but then doing nothing to guard their online exposure or peer friendships.

So how do you protect a church’s culture?

Most of it is common sense, just not commonly implemented. First and foremost, you protect the entry into that culture. I don’t mean your front door of outreach as much as the interior rooms where family dwells. Do you have a membership process where you go over the culture in such a way that it ends, in essence, by saying: “This is who we are. We would love to have you join us. But if you can’t sign off on this culture, then this isn’t the church for you. Don’t join if you can’t be a part of the culture.” There was a running joke in the early years of Meck that our membership class felt like I was trying to talk people out of joining more than into joining.

And if you think membership is key to protecting your culture, that’s nothing compared to how you staff. Whether you are adding your church’s second staff person or 72nd, that person will have disproportionate influence. If they are not on board culturally, you have just dealt a deathblow to who you are trying to be. This is why we hire almost entirely from within—people who are currently members at Meck and, of late, those who have participated in our Leadership Development Program (a 100-member cohort that goes through a one-year intensive investment on vision, values and mission, leadership, personal spiritual formation and theology).

There is so much more to protecting your culture—who speaks, the resources you highlight, the books you promote (or don’t)—but you get the dynamic at play.

The point, again, is that the church is a family, which means that its leaders are to lead parentally (cf. I Timothy 3). If you are a parent, you know that few things matter more to healthy family life than the culture you create and then protect.

The church is a family, too.

This article originally appeared here.

Easter Scavenger Hunt for the Family

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This Easter scavenger hunt is a great way to help your kids dig into the truth of Easter. The final weeks leading up to Easter are a wonderful time for families to gather around the Bible and consider the life of Christ. I put together this family-oriented Easter scavenger hunt offers for the families at my church so they could use this month to engage with Christ while also spending quality time together. After they find each “clue” the family takes a selfie together with the object they found so that by the end, not only do they have fun, faith-filled memories, they have seven new family pictures.

Feel free to use this Easter scavenger hunt with your church and/or family and may we all be blessed as we consider together the life, death and resurrection of our Lord!

Clue #1 – Birth – Luke 2:6-12

This story begins in a different way

The Baby Jesus was sleeping on Hay

He was the Messiah, God’s Only Son

But His journey began as a quiet, humble one…

With your family, find a barn or manger and take a selfie together beside it. Think about what it meant that Jesus wasn’t born rich or mighty, but as a humble baby, just like us. Talk about why that is important to us as we follow Him.

Clue #2 – Baptism – Matthew 3:13-17

As He grew, he gained respect from God and man

And His calling to save us, He began to understand

He declared He came to set the captives free

And was baptized by John to begin that journey.

John the Baptist baptized Jesus in the Jordan River. See if you can find a stream, a pool, a river, anything with water for your family selfie. Take some time to think about what happened when Jesus was baptized, how God spoke from heaven and what John said about Him.

Clue #3 – Ministry – Matthew 4:18-20

Jesus began to teach all the people

They’d come to hear him, no building or steeple

He’d talk in the mountains and down by the sea

And to those who would listen, He’d say “Come, follow me!”

Jesus went to places where people were to talk to them about God’s Love. If Jesus were here today, where do you think he would teach? Take a picture of your family in the place you thought of and write down a little explanation of why you picked that place!

How Vulnerable Should a Pastor Be in the Pulpit?

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Should a pastor be vulnerable and confess his own sin from the pulpit? How much honesty is too much?

In this video from the Gospel Coalition, Russell Moore, president of the Ethics and Religious Liberty Commission, offers both the dangers and benefits of being transparent in the pulpit.

He sees two risks; first, revealing a sin that the pastor struggles with from the pulpit can convey a sense of excusing or appearing to excuse the sin. Moore says the pastor can be tempted to portray the sin as an area where he struggles and is simply a part of who he is.  The message received from the congregation could be that the pastor excuses the sin because none of us can keep God’s standards.

Second, in admitting the sin, the pastor might tend to reveal only a small part of the vulnerability. Moore understands how that can happen. The pastor would not want to appear to be falling apart. In some cases, the details might not be appropriate for a group of people. The result, the part the pastor decides to talk about, is probably the more mild aspect of the sin. He won’t mention the real scandalous things.

The unintended message delivered to the congregation—God provides grace for mild sins, not for the serious ones that many are dealing with.

His advice for pastors that do present sins to the audience: Speak in broad terms to convey that God’s grace is available to all.

The benefit of being transparent from the pulpit, according to Moore, is the pastor is revealing that the gospel is not coming from him—it’s coming from God to the pastor and to the people in the pews.

He considers that a significant advantage because it dispels a dangerous, implicit message that Jesus came for the well and not for the sick. Moore says when pastors talk about their struggles it tells church goers, “I’m not here as a religious expert, but like you I am a sinner, sanctified by grace,” adding, “What I’m saying is the gospel is true for me and for you.”

In a ChurchLeaders article, retired pastor Joe McKeever writes of seven things a pastor can’t do from the pulpit, one of those deals with the issue of talking about personal sin.

McKeever says a pastor cannot tell the congregation that he struggles with porn or lust.

“Some things are better dealt with privately—or at least between himself, his spouse and a faithful counselor—but never in public. The pastor who tells his people that he has a lust problem is creating more problems for himself than he can imagine. Every woman in the church will think he’s undressing her when he shakes her hand. When that happens, his ministry has come to an end.”

A different view comes from pastor Craig Groeschel. He writes in Confessions of a Pastor that his most impactful sermons are often the ones where he offers real, personal confessions of sin. In the book, Groeschel candidly describes the struggles and sins that he fights daily as a pastor—not surprisingly, the sins that beset him are the same ones that beset us all: lust, fear, worry, a judgmental spirit, selfishness and self-centeredness to name a few.

Love Is the Only Way: The Heart of PAUL, APOSTLE OF CHRIST

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In a behind-the-scenes video for PAUL, APOSTLE OF CHRIST, Jim Caviezel offered a simple yet deep truth.  “In order for us to be great in the eyes of God, we have to become very small.”

Caviezel is no stranger to faith films, having awed moviegoers in 2004 with his riveting portrayal of Jesus in Mel Gibson’s THE PASSION OF THE CHRIST. Now, in his first biblical film since, he plays Luke in PAUL, APOSTLE OF CHRIST, the upcoming biblical epic from AFFIRM Films.

The film also stars James Faulkner (“Downton Abbey”) as Paul, and illustrates how the Book of Acts came to be written amid the turbulence of Nero’s persecution in Rome.

Writer and director Andrew Hyatt sought to create an immersive film introducing modern audiences to Paul, the most significant early convert to Christianity. Using Scripture as the primary reference, Hyatt recreated Paul’s story with a cast of biblical characters including Priscilla and Aquila. As prominent figures of the Roman church, they face execution or exile—and wrestle with whether to abandon Rome to Nero’s darkness, or remain and endure persecution.

The film combines Scripture—Paul’s conversion, the missionary journeys, his friendship with Luke, and imprisonment in Rome—alongside fictional elements, such as the character Mauritius, the ambitious prison prefect. Ultimately, the film portrays the followers of God and their efforts to spread His Word in the midst of oppression, illustrating themes of forgiveness, redemption, and grace.

This is the first theatrical feature film about the life of Paul, though next to Christ, no one played a more central role in the growth of the early Church.

“He wrote a vast swath of the New Testament and traveled more than 10,000 miles by foot to preach the Gospel of Jesus Christ,” said AFFIRM Films Executive Vice President Rich Peluso. “This gripping film dives deep into the final months before Paul’s execution under Nero as he reconciles his faith with his past persecution of the church.”

Producer T.J. Berden also highlighted forgiveness as a key theme in the film: “Paul changed from murdering Christians to becoming their unlikely leader. His life personifies ‘forgiveness,’ a concept that seems almost impossible today — but desperately needed.”

PAUL, APOSTLE OF CHRIST resounds with truth for a modern audience, reminding viewers that in the face of suffering, love is the only way. It was true 2,000 years ago for Paul and Luke, and it’s true for believers today.

In theaters on Friday, March 23, just days before Easter, PAUL, APOSTLE OF CHRIST is the ideal opportunity for an outing with friends, family, or your church. Experience the epic biblical story and be inspired by the lives of the men and women who carried the faith through its tumultuous early days. For information on available church resources like our free Church Simulcast, downloadable materials, sermon clips, and more, please visit PaulMovie.com/Resources. For information on Group Sales, visit PaulMovie.com/groups.

PAUL, APOSTLE OF CHRIST also stars Olivier Martinez (S.W.A.T.), Joanne Whalley (“A.D. The Bible Continues”) and John Lynch (THE SECRET GARDEN).

AFFIRM Films, a Sony Pictures Entertainment (SPE) company, in association with Giving Films, presents an ODB Films production in association with Mandalay Pictures. PAUL, APOSTLE OF CHRIST is produced by T.J. Berden (FULL OF GRACE) and David Zelon (SOUL SURFER). Executive Producers are Eric Groth, Rick Jackson, Harrison Powell and Jim Caviezel.

Craig Groeschel: How to Boost Moral Integrity in Your Staff

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Sadly, there are plenty of stories in the news these days about a lack of moral integrity in ministry. Is there something about ministry work that is contributing to the problem?

Increasing Integrity in Ministry

Craig Groeschel thinks so and he set out to change the culture at his church to address the problem. He talked about the changes on a ChurchLeaders podcast.

Groeschel is the founding pastor of Life.Church in Oklahoma. The church as 26 locations. He’s also the author of several best selling books.

Life.Church is 21 years old and Groeschel said in the first 10 years of the ministry there was only one moral failure. But in the last few years there has been a significant increase.

He blames several factors for the lack of integrity in ministry. One is pastor burnout. Twenty to 30 years ago churches only had one or two services. Life.Church now has up to nine services every week. As a result, pastors are working longer hours on the weekend away from family. The time away, workload and stress make people vulnerable.

There is more temptation available than ever before. He said 30 years ago access to pornography or inappropriate relationships was limited. Today, both are available via a smartphone in a pocket. He said we are primed for failure.

He set out to make changes in the culture of his church to be proactive.

One was with scheduling. Groeschel recognized that their model of ministry was difficult on marriages. With nine services a week pastors were working at a time when their families were home. So Life.Church completely rearranged the weekend schedule. Now pastors work far less on weekends, more volunteers are used, and pastors rotate off some weekends to give them more family time.

Premarital counseling for staff members is now mandatory, and when the counseling is finished the couple is assigned a mentor. Church staff also has access to free marital counseling. And when a new hire is being considered, the candidate’s spouse is also interviewed.

The church did away with the traditional idea of vacation days where a staff member has a set amount of time off. Life.Church tells its staff to take as much time as they need to be with family and they’re trusted not to abuse the policy.

Groeschel said they also set out to create an atmosphere where it’s safe to confess sin early.  

We’re afraid to confess our sins in the church, but that’s exactly what we need to do. We have to take away the fear. Some things you cannot do or you are disqualified but we are on your side and we want to help you conform to Christ. We must be transparent and vulnerable. If the church culture is one where we hide things, sin grows best in the dark.

Families That Pray

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Praying Families.

A few years ago I had the privilege to put together a family snow retreat. Our goal was really to get kids and parents away from everyday life and create memories. Little did I know, a small activity with M&M candies would become one of my most favored ministry moments. It was a simple way to pray, families simply grabbed the candies and each color represented something to pray for. After I had finished prayer with my own family, I looked up to scan the room, and I saw families praying. Kids were praying for mom and dad, moms for dads, and brothers for sisters! While the word beautiful just doesn’t say it all, it was, just so beautiful. Later that evening, I asked what one of the kids thought, and she said it was the first time she had every prayed with her parents. She continued that she didn’t feel she knew how. Another parent said they had also never prayed as a family, they just didn’t know where to start.
In our constant motion of life, do we sit down at the table and bed-sides and just pray? For our kids? Many of our families (including ours) learned on that trip that while the kids often witnessed the parents praying, they really were more spectators than participants. As kids grow they get that lovely “embarrassment” hormone. Suddenly they are intimidated by something they would happily volunteer for at age 3. It is in the preteen ages that kids become a little more reserved about praying as a family. So I began to question, how do we keep that three year old?
Here are some ways to teach kids how to pray. I challenge you to try at least two. I have also included the M&M’s Prayer guide. Make sure that kids know that prayer is a time with God. Things like laughing at one another for “mess-ups” or making fun should not be allowed. Creating a supportive, positive atmosphere will help kids grow strong in their prayer life.

Lastly, teaching our kids that they can pray anywhere at anytime is so important. A whispered prayer before a test or recital will teach kids that they can place their fears and joys in Jesus’ hands for themselves.

1) M&M’s Prayer, each family member takes a few (you can decide the number) candies. As a family, one parent starts and as you pray for that color of M&M the next person goes until all M&M’s are done. 
  • yellow – a friend
  • blue – a sibling
  • green – spouse (or future spouse)
  • brown – teacher
  • orange – parent
  • red – church leader
2) Sentence Prayer. For small children try starting the sentences and letting them finish:
  • “Lord, I thank you for…”
  • “Lord, forgive me for…”
  • “Lord, help my friend…”
  • “Lord, help me be more…”
  • “Lord, help me to let go of…”
  • “Lord, give me the courage to…”
3) Ups and Downs. Ask your children what their “ups” were from the day, and then ask them about their “downs” from the day. Share yours as well, and then pray for them together.
4) Prayer Journal. Share your prayer requests with the other members of your family and then record them in a prayer journal. Pass the journal and pray over each others requests. The next time you pray together, look over the requests you listed previously and update any changes and answers. This is a good way to see how God has been active in your prayer lives.
5) A.C.T.S. Prayer. This is a well-known form of prayer that is easy to remember:
  • A stands for “adoration.” Begin the prayer by simply adoring God for who He is.
  • C stands for “confession.” Spend some time confessing your sins.
  • stands for “thanksgiving.” Take time to thank God for the blessings that He has given to you and your family.
  • S stands for “supplication.” Lift up specific areas of your life in which you need God to supply for your needs.

This article originally appeared here.

How to Use Instagram Stories for Connecting With Your Youth Ministry

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Social media is one crucial way of reaching students and parents today in our digital world. One simple way to reach a ton of people is by using instagram, especially instagram stories. Instagram stories is a snapchat rip off that allows you to post something that will be erased after 24 hours. It’s worth using to communicate and reach students.

Do you use instagram stories?

Last year, we had an amazing grad class. These are the best students you could ever imagine. They were student leaders, they went on all the missions trips, and one of them might have preached the best youth message that year. When we went to their graduation and got photos with them, people had no idea they went to a youth group. Their friends didn’t know what they did on Tuesday nights for four years!!!! That means that their friends were never invited.

How are students going to find out about your ministry? Are other students going to invite their friends? I hope so, but this is one way to nudge some of your students to show others what they actually do on a youth night. Instagram stories is one way to help people see what is really going on in your night without having to be there.

Instagram stories is really your new front door of your ministry. Students are going to check that out first before they ever show up.

Here are some tips that we have learned about using instagram stories for youth ministry.

Get the right size

The right size for instagram stories is 720×1280. So, when you are making custom images this is the size you need to create them in. Getting the right size shows that you know what you are doing.

You can also use a program like word swag to create this size. This is one program that we recommend for you to use.

Things you can do once you get the right size for instagram stories: leader of the week, promote events, share funny moments.

Getting the right size is a big deal. Initially, I was using the wrong size, and it looked terrible. When I make an image for a series I will create an image for instagram stories.

Tip: You can swipe up to access photos while in instagram stories. The photos or images need to be created or taken within the last 24 hours. 

Make it fun

When you are using instagram stories make sure that you are capturing the best moments of your night. Take pictures, video, and especially have fun with the boomerang feature. The boomerang feature can make funny shots out of nothing.

Remember, this might be the first thing students see about your youth ministry. Make sure that it looks like a blast.

Be real

Use live video on instagram stories to show what is really going on. It really doesn’t matter what the quality looks like, it’s just showing what is actually happening on a night.

Students want to see the real ministry. In certain contexts, they most likely haven’t been to a church or youth ministry. This could be the best way to introduce what is actually happening. It gives a snapshot into the life of your ministry.

Check out other instagram stories

I don’t know about you, but I borrow things from other instagram accounts. I routinely take things from Jimmy Fallon’s account. His account has amazing stories every day. They are new, and fresh every day.

Here are some other great instagram accounts you should check out for their instagram stories:

This article originally appeared here.

4 Ways to Make Short Videos Deliver

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Short video presentations have become one of the most important marketing tools in the world, and there’s no better place for using video than sharing our faith. Evangelism, missions, discipleship, promotions, fundraising—all can be more effective by using short videos. The problem is, most short videos fail. They don’t move the audience, call them to action or motivate them to accomplish anything. If you’re suffering from “Ineffective Video Syndrome,” then here are a few tips to get yours back in shape:

1. Video is about emotion, not information. Stop cramming your video presentation with numbers, data and results. If it’s information you want to share, then print it out in a brochure or put it on the website. Video connects with people’s emotions, so for the best results, make sure you’re telling a compelling, dramatic story.

2. Never use two things: cheesy stock footage or cheap music libraries. Both are deadly. Cheesy stock footage isn’t real. It’s staged (thumbs up everyone!) and undercuts the reality and importance of your ideas. Bad library music is the same—it stands out, distracts and turns people away. Take the time to get good shots and find the right music that sets the scene.

3. Lighting matters! I see reality all day long, so when I watch a video presentation, I want to see your vision. Create an artistic world that’s fascinating and intriguing. And when it comes to lighting, always remember, shadows matter, because what you don’t show is just as important as what you show.

4. It all starts with the script. Whether it’s a dramatic or documentary presentation, the writing is more important than anything. As the old Broadway saying goes: “If it ain’t on the page, it ain’t on the stage.” Great acting, lighting or directing can’t overcome a bad script. Start with the right words on the page, and the rest will be much easier.

With current technology, there’s nothing keeping you back from making the best short videos possible. But remember—it’s not the gun, it’s the soldier. The best camera in the world in the hands of an amateur can’t overcome incompetence. People love short videos, so make yours deliver, and see the difference it makes in the presentation of your ideas, products or organization. Not only providing beautiful and engaging videos of your brand, but the best videographer near me can also provide strategies to market your video content.

 What are your suggestions for producing great short videos?

Make Every Effort to Live in Unity

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On Monday, I shared part one of this article, where we discussed God’s desire for the church to live in unity. If you missed it, please take a moment to read it here.

Let’s Choose to Make Every Effort to Live in Unity

The words of Ephesians 4:3 are inescapable. It says, “Making every effort to keep the unity of the Spirit through the bond of peace.”

We cannot live out Ephesians 4:3 apart from God’s grace that we have received freely. Nor can we live out Ephesians 4:3 until we cultivate and live out the truth of Ephesians 4:2, which says, “with all humility and gentleness, with patience, bearing with one another in love.

For example, humility leads to gentleness; gentleness leads to patience; patience leads to bearing one another in love, and all four of these together lead us to make every effort to keep the unity of the Spirit through the bond of peace.

“Making every effort” is a dynamic and compelling phrase. This phrase calls us to be eager and conscientious in everything we do. This phrase also gives us a sense that we are in a crisis and calls us to take initiative, and to do it now. We are to work endlessly toward unity and oneness, guarding over it when we have it. This is a call to action!

Jerry Bridges writes in his book The Pursuit of Holiness“The clause ‘make every effort’ addresses itself to our wills, it is something we must decide to do.”

While the human will determines the needed action, we must understand there is no true unity apart from the Holy Spirit. Unity is supernatural. Unity only happens with God.

Christian unity is a state of oneness, living in harmony and in one accord. Unity is only possible by the gospel because Jesus died for all people.

As we make every effort to keep the unity of the Spirit through the bond of peace, it is the peace of Christ that gives us His love. You see, the peace and love of Jesus are the adhesives of God’s people. They surround us and keep us together.

Are We Making Every Effort?

Are we making every effort to live in unity and oneness in the church? Do we create suspicion and division rather than unity and oneness?

Are we making every effort to live in unity and oneness with other churches that believe the basics of the faith like we do? Or are we marked with a spiritual arrogance like we have a corner on all God’s truth?

Are we making every effort to live in unity and oneness with every member in our immediate family and even with our extended relatives? Or do we check our Christianity at the door and think we can live whatever way we desire when we are at home with our family?

Are we making every effort to live in unity and oneness with people in the workplace? Or do we create division and suspicion with an attitude of criticism that is certainly not from Jesus Christ?

Are we making every effort to live in unity and oneness with our friends? Do we initiate conversations and experiences and truly live life together, or simply respond when invited to do something?

Are we making every effort to live in unity and oneness with all generations? Or do we act like our generation is always the best? Do we inspire other generations by wanting to know how we can walk together as one at this time in history?

Are we making every effort to live in unity and oneness with all ethnicities? Or do we portray an arrogant spirit by not engaging with other ethnicities?  

5 Keys to Sorting Through the Crazy and Conflicting Opinions You Hear as a Leader

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One of the most challenging tasks of leadership involves sorting through seemingly endless opinions you hear almost every day about pretty much everything. Some of the opinions are crazy. Even the ones that aren’t are conflicting.

Think about it:

Your inbox is filled with polite and not-very-polite suggestions about what you should be doing that you’re not doing, and all the things you need to stop doing.

The five people on your board or leadership team all have different ideas about where to head next.

A few people have ideas about how your sermon could have been better.

Everyone in your church or organization has views on pretty much anything. Just ask them.

Most days it’s enough to make your head swim.

On the one hand, you don’t want to be closed to what other people think. On the other hand, you’ve thought about never asking again because the sea of conflicting voices just seem so overwhelming.

What do you with all that?

How do you figure out which voices to listen to?

How do you know which comments contain the gold and which are distractions?

What do you do when no one agrees with each other?

While your job is to lead people into the future, there is no shortage of opinions on how to do that. And that’s where all the frustration seeps in.

There are great ways to use feedback, and not so great ways.

Knowing the difference can help you immensely.

The Problem With 4,000 Opinions

I was reminded recently of  how challenging opinions can be as we selected the final cover design for my next book (which I’m so excited about! It releases September 4th, 2018!).

Choosing a cover isn’t an easy process.

The dialogue on cover design started like many things in leadership do: with a conversation between my editor, me, my agent and few people I invited into the dialogue

My editor, agent, team and I could have just picked our favorite, but I thought I’d test what we thought were the three final designs with a select group of my readers and listeners.

I got over 4,000 responses.

The good news about having 4,000 opinions is you have the insights of 4,000 people.

The bad news, of course, is that you have 4,000 opinions.

When you ask for opinions, you hear from people.

And along the way, guess what I heard?

Tons of conflicting opinions. And negative comments galore. All of that despite getting a 73 percent positive rating on the final cover direction.

At times I had to work hard not to get upset, or discouraged or frustrated. Just like you have to work hard in leadership not to just throw in the towel and declare you’re giving up.

Here are back to back opinions on the SAME design (made on the same day in exactly the same minute, may I add).

 

 

 

 

What do you do with that?

Someone takes an artist’s hard work and a team’s best efforts and simply says “ugh.” And in the very next breath someone else says “best one yet.”

No wonder leadership is hard.

Opposite opinions were everywhere in the surveys.

Check out the back to back comments below:

 

 

 

Plain. Stereotypical. Awesome. All about the same design.

So whether you have 40 different opinions or 4,000, how do you decide?

We’ll get to that in a minute, but in the meantime…here’s the winner (which I love, and which readers made better with every revision).

And The Winner Is…

Getting user feedback may have been a bit challenging, but it was so rewarding for reasons I’ll explain.

In the meantime, many of you have asked what the book is about, so here’s a quick summary.

5 Lies People Believe About Missionaries

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Twenty years ago, if you had asked me what I pictured when I heard the word “missionary,” I would have described a modern-day John the Baptist. In my mind, missionaries were hairy and dirty, wore clothes that were outdated and odd, ate things that made my stomach turn, and lived a life so holy and different that I couldn’t possibly relate.

Fast-forward 20 years, and here I am, a missionary. And when I compare myself to the stereotypical missionary I pictured when I was a kid, I don’t come close to filling the part—thankfully, honestly. Come to think of it, none of my missionary friends do.

There are many things people believe about missionaries that simply aren’t true, at least not fully. Let’s take a look at five of them.

1. Missionaries are all the same, and I’m not like them.

Before I moved to the field, I was worried I wouldn’t fit in. I went to public schools, I shop at H&M, I don’t exclusively listen to Christian music, and I have tattoos. None were traits I pictured missionaries having. About three minutes after I arrived at my initial training, I realized I was wrong. Missionaries are a diverse crowd. Some are older, some were football stars in high school, and some are hipsters. They are as diverse as the countries to which God sends them.

God loves diversity, and he created each of us to be different. Of course he’s going to send assorted people to reach this ever-changing world he created.

2. Missionaries have to homeschool their kids.

God has blessed me with certain talents and skills that I am proud to use for his glory, but he did not bless me with the patience or the ability to homeschool my children. My kids attend a public school in the country we live in, and they love it. And I love the education they’re receiving. Some missionary kids attend international schools, others have teachers come to their homes, and some moms  teach their children in their homes. Every family is different.

One thing is true­: The missionary kid that I grew up stereotyping does not necessarily reflect reality. No matter how they are schooled, many missionary kids’ life experiences and the things they’ve seen God do have molded them into culturally-relevant, well-grounded, faith-confident people. They aren’t the sheltered, unrelateable kids I so wrongly imagined.

3. Missionaries mourn the life they had in America.

America is great. Hot dogs and hamburgers are just not the same outside of the States, and the Stars and Stripes hold a dear place in our hearts. But many missionaries are perfectly satisfied with the lives they lead outside of their home country.

You may be thinking, “Sure, maybe the missionaries in Europe or tropical islands.” But I mean all missionaries. Although it may be incredibly difficult, by the power of the Spirit, it’s also a joy to be where God wants you. God graciously changes your heart so that you love what he loves and want what he wants. No matter where they may be, you’d be hard-pressed to drag most missionaries away from the people God has rooted in their hearts.

That said, it’s true that all missionaries go through hard times. We all spend days missing our family and friends or some of the conveniences of home. Even so, many missionaries feel more at home where God has placed them than they do in America.

12 Reasons People Stay in a Struggling Church

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Yesterday, I published a post about why people leave a church. In our consulting work, we also often talk with people who are seriously frustrated with their church—but who stay there anyway. Here are some of the primary reasons folks give us for staying when they don’t like all that’s happening in their church:

  1. “This is my church.” Sometimes this statement reflects an unhealthy sense of ownership, but it might also show a simple sense of deep love for the congregation.
  2. “We haven’t sensed God’s leadership to leave.” I’m not always convinced that these folks have prayed deeply about the decision, but they at least recognize the need to follow God’s will. They don’t want to jump ship unless He tells them to do so.
  3. “Where else would we go?” When there doesn’t seem to be better alternatives, church members tend to stay where they are.
  4. “We’ve seen pastors come and go.” Folks who’ve walked through more than one leadership transition in a church soon realize that the storms of change often die down.
  5. “Our family has always gone here.” Thus, to walk away from the church—for whatever reason—is to ignore one’s heritage and to break family tradition.
  6. “The church won’t survive without us.” Seldom is that assumption accurate, but some folks genuinely believe it.
  7. “We’re just waiting to see how all this works out.” In this case, a departure might happen, but not immediately. The glue that holds members in the church is weakening, but it’s still there.
  8. “We really do love _______.” In the blank could be any number of words: “our pastor,” “the music,” “our small group,” “the location,” “our friends,” etc. Something means enough that the negatives don’t seem so bad.
  9. “Nobody’s going to drive me away.” Usually, this person’s frustration has become unhealthy bitterness (and even arrogance).
  10. “I’m going to keep my commitment until the end of the year.” Again, leaving this church might still happen, but not before the church year is completed. A commitment is a commitment.
  11. “We still have hope for this church.” Glimpses of God’s hand and a little bit of faith can go a long way in keeping people in a church.
  12. “My kids love it here.” Many parents will put up with a lot they don’t like if their children and teens enjoy the church’s programs.

What other reasons come to mind for you?

This article originally appeared here.

SPECIAL UPDATE: How to Address the Florida School Shooting

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As America mourns more loss of innocent, young life in a senseless school shooting, church leaders around the country are thinking about what to say to their congregations on Sunday. churchleaders.com reached out to pastors…and the reaction from many of the pastors we spoke to was the same—“not again”—as they struggled with what to say about God’s love and our culture in the face of such evil. All of the pastors we spoke to were planning to address the shooting in their Sunday worship services.

What to Say on Sunday ➞

In Maina Mwaura’s exclusive interview with Russell Moore, president of the Ethics & Religious Liberty Commission, Moore advises church leaders not to give in to the temptation of easily explaining away evil or where God was as a gunman killed innocent people.

Moore recommends pastors take the same approach to evil as Scripture that talks about the mystery of iniquity. Moore said, “God doesn’t give us the reason why he permitted that to happen or why it seems that God is silent… There are so many times that God’s own prophets are saying, ‘God where are you, you seem to be silent.’” Instead, Moore suggests pastors let their congregants take time to grieve and lament.

Watch the Russell Moore Interview ➞

This atrocity happened on the first day of Lent, writes Jenny Rapson on foreverymom.com. As church leaders, this cannot be lost on us this Sunday. And as mothers and fathers, our broken hearts resonate with Jenny’s article: “And 17 More in Florida”

Jenny writes: What are we giving up for Lent? Let’s give up, as a country, as a nation, let’s give up WHATEVER IT IS that is keeping us from protecting our kids at school. Let’s give up WHATEVER IT IS that allows people armed with assault rifles and shotguns to keep coming into schools time and time and time and time and time AGAIN to MURDER our children and their teachers. Let’s give THAT up. Let’s identify that thing and then let’s LAY IT DOWN on the altar and sacrifice it so NO MORE CHILDREN have to DIE.

Read “And 17 More in Florida” ➞

On Monday morning after we’ve comforted our congregations and pointed them to Jesus, what’s next? Where do we go from here? As leaders in our communities, what will we do to help protect our children? What can we do to help people heal?

Following the Florida shooting at Marjory Stoneman Douglas High School, one student who witnessed the massacre is making a bold plea to lawmakers: “We’re children. You guys are the adults. You need to take some action and play a role. Work together, come over your politics, and get something done.”

Perhaps we can hear those words as church leaders as we remember that “faith without works is dead.”

What Will We Do Next? ➞

 

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