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A Gut-Wrenching Afternoon Thinking About Child Sexual Abuse

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I want to share with you two things that have been occupying my attention this afternoon, one of them expected and the other quite unexpected.

First, I spent early afternoon completing a training program designed to help protect Christian ministries from child-predators. The program is the second one I have completed in the last month, and both programs are pre-requisite for serving in ministries that I am involved with. I am so very grateful for both programs. They were informative, helpful and practical. But they were also gut-wrenching. I learned so much.

Both programs describe how child predators single out and groom children. Both programs explain how predators manipulate “gatekeepers” to gain access to children. And both programs explain how predators target the most vulnerable children—those who are loners, fatherless or otherwise isolated from their peers. The predators choose and victimize children who have the least amount of protection.

Both programs are designed to protect children participating in Christian ministries, which are often targeted by predators. For those of you who are interested in such training for volunteers in your church or ministry, the one I recommend is Ministry Safe. I hate that such programs are even necessary, but they are. I can’t recommend Ministry Safe highly enough.

Second, in a turn of providence just as I finished the training, I came across Justin Taylor’s posting of Rachael Denhollander’s victim-impact statement, which she gave at the sentencing hearing of Larry Nasser, former Team USA gymnastics doctor who molested her 16 years ago. Let me just say, that I have never seen anything like this.

For over 40 minutes, she held forth. She gave a heart-rending account of her abuse at his hands. With her abuser right before her, she spoke with conviction, determination and moral clarity. She also offered the gospel to her abuser and offered him her forgiveness. When she was done, the judge said she was the bravest person she had ever had in her courtroom. The gallery rose in a standing ovation.

I urge you to set aside 45 minutes to watch the entire thing (see video above). You won’t be able to look away. You will fight back tears. I know I did. But it will be worth it.

Then let the tears flow. Pray. Maranatha.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wehpkiflXMs&feature=youtu.be

Vocation: Discerning Your Calling

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As Christians, we are stewards of the resources God gives us for serving the human community. Our vocations are one avenue for doing God’s work in the world. Stewardship is the cultivation of resources for God. The Bible tells us that one of the most important resources God has given us is our gifts, aptitudes, talents and abilities. One of the sacraments of the medieval church was the Sacrament of Holy Orders, which divided the world into the “religious” and the “secular.”

Those who went into full-time church ministry as priests, monks or nuns were on a completely different spiritual footing from those who did not. One of the Protestant Reformation’s main planks was to overturn this view with the biblical teaching of the priesthood of all believers (1 Peter 2:9). Martin Luther insisted that all forms of work are God-honoring callings. To be a farmer, a craftsman or an artist was just as much a vocation, a calling from God, as to be a preacher. Why?

All Forms of Work Are Participation in God’s Work

God made the created world by his Spirit (Gen. 1:1-3) and continues to care for and sustain it by his Spirit (Ps. 104:30), watering and enriching it (Ps. 65:9–13) and feeding and meeting the needs of every living thing (Pss. 145:15–16 and 147:15–20). Indeed, the very purpose of redemption is to massively and finally restore the material creation (Rev. 21–22). God loves this created world so much that he sent his Son to redeem it. This world is a good in and of itself; it is not just a temporary theater for individual salvation.

If the Holy Spirit is not only a preacher that convicts people of sin and grace (John 16:8–11; 1 Thess. 1:5) but also a gardener, an artist and an investor in creation who renews the material world, it cannot be more spiritual and God-honoring to be a preacher than to be a farmer, artist or banker. To give just one example, evangelism is temporary work, while musicianship is permanent work. In the new heavens and new earth, preachers will be out of a job! Ultimately, the purpose of evangelism is to bring about a world in which musicians will be able to do their work perfectly.

All Forms of Work Are Ways of Serving Others

Imagine how much time it would take to make a chair by yourself. You would not only have to cut and shape the wood yourself, but you’d also have to make the tools. To make the tools, you’d have to mine the ore to make metal. It would take months, perhaps years, to do all the things necessary to create the chair. When you share in the work of others, however, you can buy a chair with money equivalent to some number of hours’ worth of your time, not months or years of effort. Even if you want to make the chair yourself, you can buy tools made by someone else. All work, according to God’s design, is service. Through work we enrich one another and become more and more interwoven.

When Christians do “secular” work, they function as salt and light in the world (Matt. 5:13–16). Farming and business, childcare and law, medicine and music—all these forms of work cultivate, care for and sustain the created world that God made and loves. We are all ministers (priests) to the human community on God’s behalf. Work is taking the raw material of creation and developing it for the sake of others.

Musicians take the raw material of sound and bring the meaning of art into our lives. Farmers take the raw material of soil and seed and bring food into our lives. This means we are God’s ministers in our work not only when we are witnessing or talking directly about Jesus, but when we are simply doing our work. A musician is serving God when she makes great music, not solely when she is singing about coming to Jesus.

Gear for Worship Tech

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One day a guitarist at my church, someone that I had only met a few weeks prior, showed up to my office and said he had something for church. I went to his car and behold…a beautiful 88-key Mark 1 Rhodes Electric Piano! I asked him how he knew this was a dream of mine for the church stage. He told me he overheard me talking about it with someone else, he saw it in a store and bought it for us. Mind: blown!

A couple of years later an older gentleman who was new to the church asked me about the needs of the church in the area of sound and worship gear. I stuttered. I knew we needed things, but at the moment, I couldn’t think of anything. We had been getting away with what we had for so long it was hard to think on the spot. This guy ended up buying some high-end items for the church in other areas like children’s ministry and hospitality. From that moment on, I decided I was going to be ready for the next philanthropist conversation.

I suggest every ministry tech leader, at every size, have an ongoing list of technical gear that they need, want and dream of. Is there something that if the church had could better disciple people, increase the effectiveness of its mission, bring joy to the heart of everyone who sees it?

4 how-to’s for building a dream list:

1. A dream list can be built in Excel or Google Sheets. This makes it share-able, plus expandable and scalable. Print a physical copy: Keep a three-ring binder in your office or green room with printed up pictures and prices of things the church could use to accomplish its goals.

2. Add both crazy expensive and moderately priced items on the list.

3. Know WHY you want what you want. Avoid personal preference and lean toward what serves the vision of the church.

4. Periodically share this updated list with church leaders and your team. Let them know what the future looks like.

Here’s what my personal dream list looks like (starting with crazy to more reasonable):

$15,000 Upgraded Danley Soundlab Subwoofers

$4,500 Neve 1073 Preamp for the church studio for tracking high-end vocals

$3,000 New iMac for front of house for video editing

$500 Extra Fender Jazz House Bass Guitar for the stage

$300 Extra Stage Tuners for all instrumentalists

$100 New Headphones for soundboard

We all know the idea of planning for a rainy day, but what about planning for a better one? Most local churches are non-profit organizations, which means people can and will make donations to help fund their mission. Local laws dictate whether or not these funds can be dedicated to specific uses, but in most situations, an earmarked donation can and will go to said request (check with your church leadership). Having practical lists like this will give some teeth and action to a church’s vision. What are you waiting for? It’s time to make your dream gear list.

 

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Philadelphia Eagles Faith on Display After Exciting Victory

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Unless you’re from Philadelphia, there’s a pretty good chance you never cared for the Philadelphia Eagles. Their players were mean and violent and epitomized by former coach Buddy Ryan who once said, “I think with me what you see is what you get. But some people don’t like what they see.”

Philly fans also have a reputation for being a little raucous. Did you know they once booed Santa Claus and threw snowballs at him?

This year’s Eagles are an entirely different breed. Many attend regular Bible studies, they constantly talk about their faith and they say they just want to glorify God in all they do.

And one other detail separates the 2017 Eagles from their predecessors, the nice guys have a Super Bowl ring.

After Super Bowl LII, arguably the most entertaining of all time, the Eagles kept up their praise of God. Those who have been most outspoken in their faith also made a huge impact in the game.

While standing on the podium accepting the award as the game’s MVP and holding his daughter, Lily, quarterback Nick Foles said, “All glory to God.” Praising his Eagles teammates and coaching staff, he added: “To be here with my daughter, my wife, my teammates, this city…we’re very blessed.”

Foles, who also caught a touchdown pass in the game, plans to become a pastor when his playing days are over. He has already started seminary classes.

Tight end Zach Ertz caught the game winning touchdown. Before the game he said, “Our No.1 goal on this earth is to make disciples. It’s the only job that we pretty much want to do. We want to draw people to Christ.”

Eagles head coach Doug Pederson, the man who called the trick play that resulted in Foles catching a touchdown pass and one that will talked about for decades, praised his “Lord and Savior Jesus Christ” as he talked to NBC’s Dan Patrick before a national television audience immediately following the game. In the locker room after the emotional win he thanked his players for their commitment and sacrifice and then led them in the Lord’s Prayer.

Center Stefen Wisniewski, who helped the Eagle offense rack up 538 yards of total offense tweeted before the game, “Let all the Glory be to Jesus!”

Wisniewski also plans to enter the ministry when his playing days are over.

Tight end Trey Burton, who threw the unexpected touchdown pass to Foles, wrote an article last summer about the great opportunity football had given him to share his testimony and biblical teaching with others.

Even the injured Eagles took time to praise God for the success of those who were on the field.  

One was Carson Wentz. The injured franchise quarterback tweeted after the game:

Free safety Chris Maragos, also sidelined during the season because of injury, was asked after the game what role does Jesus plays in his life. He said, “It’s everything, it’s every aspect of my life. It’s interwoven in everything that I do. Jesus is a part of my marriage, my kids’ lives, it’s a part of me as a parent and me as a football player. It’s everything about who I am.”

And then there was this picture, posted on Twitter by former NFL coach, now sports commentator, Tony Dungy:

What a game. What a team. What a testimony.

 

When the Church Prays: What in the World Is the Summit’s “Boiler Room”?

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We left our house at 8:15 a.m., and I forgot my coffee. Want to know what it’s like to get five kids out the door on a Sunday morning at 8:15 when it’s 6 degrees outside? And, you’re Southerners?

It means you forget your coffee and let me just tell you: It ain’t “Easy Like Sunday Morning,” as Lionel Richie might have you believe.

We parked, walked our parka-clad children to their classes, waved to the under-appreciated parking attendants in snow masks, and headed toward the Boiler Room.

The Boiler Room, you ask? The first time I heard those three words, I imagined two things:

  1. The bottom level of some abandoned building where Freddy Krueger kept his dead bodies.
  2. The noisy, creepy, back-of-the-basement room in my 1980s elementary school where the custodian hung out with his mop and bucket.

For our church, the Boiler Room is our room of prayer—the place where a group of people comes together to pray during all of our services. It’s named after the prayer gatherings at the church of Charles Spurgeon, a famous 19th century preacher who believed that prayer was the spiritual power behind the effectiveness of his ministry.

This was our first week heading to serve in the Boiler Room. After a few months of asking each other where we might serve within our church, the only place we wanted to go was…

Not the Boiler Room.

I suppose we had preconceived notions/questions about it:

  • One hour of prayer? Just prayer? Really? Just prayer? I have never sat quiet and still one hour in my life.
  • Will there be donuts?
  • Will we fit in?
  • Do we want to fit in there?
  • What if it’s…weird?

My husband and I have been Christians most of our lives. We ask the same questions you do! We are as unwilling, prideful, skeptical and downright lazy as they come when the word “serve” is before us.

Somehow [read: The Holy Spirit], we couldn’t escape a nagging nudge to begin serving and praying in the Boiler Room. I’m not from a persuasion where I believe God speaks to us audibly, but I do feel his nudges. As much as I try to escape them, they are often relentless.

Which translated to: You’re going to the Boiler Room.

So, a couple weeks ago, on the coldest day in Raleigh’s history, we walked down the walkway and into a room of prayer. We sat around a table with two men, joined later by another, and we prayed.

For an hour. We prayed. And it was incredible.

There we were, five of us, and every preconceived notion I had about praying, only praying, was shattered in that hour.

Among my other previously mentioned objections, I suppose I thought we would spend an hour praying for Pastor J.D. and his message delivery. I suppose I thought we would pray for our worship leaders, and our production team, and that things would go as they should. And, I suppose I thought we’d pray that the Holy Spirit would move during the service?

We did. We prayed for all of those things.

But only, only briefly.

Why? Because let’s be honest here: Does Pastor J.D. really need the significant portion of our prayers during the service to deliver a stellar message? Don’t we have a talented, capable worship team? When two or more are gathered, isn’t the Holy Spirit among us?

So what did we pray for? What was so magnificent in that hour of prayer?

We declared that God is powerful and that we believe that when we ask, he hears and delights in saying yes!

We made bold “asks,” knowing that God delights to answer them:

  • We prayed for the lost people coming through our church doors that morning. For their salvation. For their open hearts. For their lives to be changed in that service.
  • We prayed for revival among Muslims in Iran. (Talk about bold!)
  • We prayed for our church planters—for their hearts and that God would be near during times of loneliness. We prayed for their churches, for their people, for their cities.
  • We prayed for those among us with long-term, unanswered prayers. For boldness in their asking, for persistence, for faith to believe the promises of God.
  • We prayed for our missionaries around the world. For their protection, for their hearts, for the people they are serving. We prayed for their children.
  • We prayed for those who professed faith in Christ at our Christmas services at DPAC. How could we forget them? We held that service for them!
  • We thanked God for the blessings of the past year and we asked him for guidance as we enter a new year.

We sat in that room and got to hear other people’s hearts for The Summit Church, hear their fervent prayers for the global church, for our city and for the local churches in Raleigh-Durham. We learned from them, and we joined with them.

We collectively proclaimed this truth: A praying church is a church that is near to God’s heart. 

If we want access to the very heartbeat of God, we need to be a people of prayer.

  • What if we packed out the Boiler Room every weekend, every service? What if there was standing room only because The Summit Church is a praying church that is near to God’s heart?
  • What if we live out and proclaim this promise: Ask, and it will be given to you.
  • What if, as we fill up the Boiler Room every weekend, we pray desperately, boldly, persistently and trustingly?
  • What if there are donuts? (#notsorry)

Will you join us? Will you join us in proclaiming that we are a people of prayer?

This year. Come join us in the Boiler Room. During every service at The Summit Church.

Come pray with us.

Come and ask.

Come and see what God does.

Oh! Men and brethren, what would this heart feel if I could but believe that there were some among you who would go home and pray for a revival of religion—men whose faith is large enough, and their love fiery enough to lead them from this moment to exercise unceasing intercessions that God would appear among us and do wondrous things here, as in the times of former generations. –Charles Spurgeon

To join one of the Boiler Room teams praying during every Summit service, go to summitrdu.com/serve.

This article originally appeared here.

How to Help Kids in the Light of the News of More School Shootings

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A CBS News article today said there have been at least 11 school shootings in the U.S. since January 1. And the one that happened yesterday was very close to our community here at Daystar, with our camp being an hour or so away, and Melissa having her first youth director job at Calvert City, Kentucky. With at least 11 this month only, the likelihood is that one has been close to your community, as well.

What do we do? How do we love and protect the kids we love so dearly? What do we say, in light of such tragedy, especially tragedy that was perpetrated by someone close to their age?

Yesterday afternoon, as several of the kids from Marshall County High School were being treated at Vanderbilt, just down the road, I was sitting in my counseling office with a high school girl. We were talking about the culture at her school—how it has grown to be one of sarcasm, criticism, anger, hostility and prejudice. She told me a story of overhearing boys in the hall going down the list of girls in her grade and giving a numerical rating to every single one. We talked about what she could do to change the culture. She’s impassioned and grieved about it, with all that is good and noble and ready-to-save-the-world, as a 16-year-old can be. Through tears, she said, “What can I do? I can’t change it. Things have gotten too bad.”

What’s happening at her school is profoundly different than the tragedy that happened in Kentucky, and has at entirely too many other schools. But it’s a step in the direction of intolerance, and hate, and fear, and a sense that the person sitting next to you in class does not matter. And, ultimately, neither do you. Because, for someone to hurt another in that way, that person doesn’t believe that he, himself, or she, herself, matters, either.

So, we talked about what this teenage girl in my office could do. She’s not helpless. And neither is your child. We say often at Daystar, the kids that we’re concerned about the most are the kids that don’t believe they matter. So, what can we do to help the kids we love believe that they do, and communicate to the kids around them that they do, as well?

She and I talked about creating some type of “Kindness Matters” club at her school. Even if she reached one person who felt lost or was sitting alone, that would change the culture—at least a little. Narcissism is developmentally a part of teenagedom. But so is the beginning of a big-picture desire to have purpose.

A few questions to ask your child:

What do you feel the culture is like in your school? (And then listen, don’t dismiss. They are living in it in a way that we’re not.)

What do they worry about?

Have they ever felt afraid?

Have they been bullied, either in person or on screens or social media? Do they think someone might have ever felt like they bullied them?

How could they make a difference?

What can your child do to be kind to just one child today?

Who seems to need someone to be kind to them?

Who does he or she want to be, in the culture at school?

Who does he feel like God has called him to be?

I firmly believe, if more kids believed they made a difference, both in person and online…if we were encouraging them to reach out, instead of getting stuck with them in the spiral of who’s not reaching out to them…if we continued to value their character more than their happiness…if we talked with them more than at them…if they felt encouraged and empowered to use the gifts God has placed inside of them to make a difference, our schools would be safer—both physically and emotionally.

And, in the light of the culture we’re all in, kids need to hear it. They also need to talk to you about what to do if they do feel unsafe at school. Ask them what they’ve learned about a safety plan from their school. It’s good for them to have to repeat it, to make sure they’ve understood what it is. If they don’t know it, call the school and have them either go over it again, or get one in place. Talk to them about specific steps they can do if they’re outside or in a location without a teacher. Check their phones regularly—to see if they’ve been a victim of or participated in any type of bullying. They need our help navigating these times—physically, emotionally and spiritually…which is, undoubtedly, the most important.

Your child needs to hear today that he is loved deeply by a God who delights in him, and loves him with a saving, redemptive love. He will never allow her to be snatched out of His hand (John 10:28-30). And, sometimes, in these days, it’s good to huddle up together, and read basic, good, comforting truth—like the words of the Jesus Storybook Bible.

“And the King says, ‘Look! God and his children are together again. No more running away. Or hiding. No more crying or being lonely or afraid. No more being sick or dying, because all those things are gone. Yes, they’re gone forever. Everything sad has come untrue. And see—I have wiped away every tear from every eye!’ And then a deep, beautiful voice that sounded like thunder in the sky says, ‘Look, I am making everything new!’”

This article originally appeared here.

10 Ways to Spend More Time with God

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I don’t know many church leaders who think they spend sufficient time with God. Our lives are busy, and it’s tough to add more responsibilities to our plate. Here, though, are some ways to spend more time with God, beginning today.

  1. Pray daily, “Lord, turn my heart to long for You.” If you genuinely want that change in your life, God will transform you. You will look forward each day to being with Him.
  2. Read the Gospels, and see Jesus intentionally spending time with God. He’s our master and model, so we should plan to live like He did:
  • “Very early in the morning, while it was still dark, he got up, went out, and made his way to a deserted place; and there he was praying.” (Mark 1:35)
  • “Yet he often withdrew to deserted places and prayed.” (Luke 5:16)
  • “He was praying in a certain place …” (Luke 11:1)
  1. Be honest about the distractors that get in the way of your time with God. Sometimes they’re good things (e.g., ministry responsibilities). At other times, they’re just time wasters. In some cases, they’re actually idols that mean more to us than our time with God does. Identify your distractors, and don’t let them win.
  2. Subscribe to a Bible reading plan. A simple web search will direct you to options. If nothing else, the reading in your inbox every morning will remind you to get alone with God.
  3. Plan your daily time with God the night before. Life’s too busy and unexpected to wait until each morning to determine how/when you’ll spend time with God. Something else will fill your calendar before the day ever begins.
  4. Find the best time and place to be with God, and prioritize that time. For me, my office is NOT the best place. Much better for me is my home study, a local restaurant or even a place in the woods in good weather.
  5. Take advantage of your 10- and 15-minute opportunities throughout the day. Even if you’re convinced you don’t have an extra hour to be with God, you likely have these brief opportunities that will add up.
  6. Use your driving time wisely. Listen to the Bible. Meditate on the Word. Pray.
  7. Schedule a quarterly day of Bible reading, prayer and fasting. Go ahead and block the days—and let only emergencies cause you to reschedule them. Ideally, get away from your office and your phone to be with the Lord.
  8. Plan an annual leadership retreat that includes nothing but Bible reading and prayer. Jesus took Peter, John and James to the mountain to pray (Luke 9:28), and that’s when His transfiguration took place. God often just does something when leaders of His church get alone to pray.

What other practical ways would you add to this list?

This article originally appeared here.

Preach the Truth of the Bible to See Real Transformation

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Nothing thrills a pastor more than seeing real transformation happen in the lives of people. We want to see people grow up and become completely mature—completely like Jesus Christ. Another word for this is sanctification, and sanctification always begins as God’s Spirit uses God’s truth to change the mind, heart and will of his follower.

Jesus prayed to the Father in John 17:17“Use the truth to make them holy. Your Words are truth” (GW). Transformation is change, and change happens as we apply God’s truth to every area of our lives. The first responsibility of pastors and shepherds is to preach God’s truth, which transforms the lives of our hearers into the image of Jesus Christ.

One of the primary marks of spiritual immaturity is when other people can easily sway us away from the truth. Not knowing the truth of God’s Word causes us to change our beliefs back and forth, repeatedly, which creates an unstable life. Paul said in Ephesians 4:14-15 that when we are mature and know God’s truth, “Then we will no longer be like children, forever changing our minds about what we believe because someone has told us something different or has cleverly lied to us and made the lie sound like the truth” (TLB).

As pastors, teachers and church leaders, it is our responsibility to instruct people in God’s truth and to set the example for what it looks like to apply God’s truth to every area of our lives. Solomon set the bar high in this area in Ecclesiastes 12:9-11“In addition to being a wise man, the Preacher also taught the people knowledge; and he pondered, searched out and arranged many proverbs. The Preacher sought to find delightful words and to write words of truth correctly. The words of wise men are like goads, and masters of these collections are like well-driven nails; they are given by one Shepherd” (NASB, emphasis added).

When you present God’s truth to God’s people for the purpose of life transformation, two things will happen.

First, they will be moved to act on what they’ve heard, to become doers and not just hearers. Solomon said the words of wise men are “like goads” that move the will of people to align with truth.

And secondly, they are like “well-driven nails.” In other words, when God’s truth is presented well, it finds a permanent place in the minds of its hearers.

As we lead our congregations forward spiritually, I believe there are several imperatives that will result in truly transformed lives.

1. Present the Good News of Jesus clearly and repeatedly.

Jesus is the point, and the Good News of his saving grace never gets old. We never go deeper than the Gospel. We never move on past the truth of what it means to be saved.

2. Elevate God’s Word in the eyes of the congregation.

One of the reasons I use so much Scripture in what I call verse-with-verse exposition is that it sends a message that Rick Warren isn’t the authority; the Bible, God’s Word, is the authority.

3. Center every message on God, his character and his truth.

The points of your messages will always have more impact when they are about God and not about you or the hearer apart from God.

4. Call people to act on what they hear.

Once truth saturates the mind and moves the emotions, it should result in actions of the will. This is why I use so many verbs in the points of my message. I don’t believe that behavior modification should ever replace the role of God’s grace in transforming us, but the evidence of real transformation will be behaviors that are modified by God’s truth.

People are living today under the tyranny of self-defeating behaviors, and those self-defeating behaviors are always based on lies, which must be confronted and challenged by God’s truth.

God’s truth is far more powerful than my opinion or yours. God’s Word teaches us the truth. It shows us the path to walk on. It shows us where we get off the path. It shows us how to get back on the path. And it shows us how to stay on the path.

Always start with the truth of God’s Word if you want to see real transformation happen.

This article originally appeared here.

Start Thinking About AI

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I’m often asked what cutting-edge issues are on the horizon that need serious consideration; the coming trends that will challenge the Christian faith and the church.

These days, my answer is immediate: artificial intelligence followed closely by breakthroughs in what we are able to do to genetically modify the human stock.

Let’s bracket genetics off for a moment for a future post. For now, let’s talk AI. And specifically, what we need to start thinking about. There are two principle areas to think about.

First, we need to think about our definition of life itself. Yes, as Christians, we feel like we have a good lead on this. What we don’t have is the ability to talk about our definition of life with how AI calls all definitions into question.

In his book Life 3.0: Being Human in the Age of Artificial Intelligence, M.I.T. professor Max Tegmark classifies life forms into three levels of sophistication: Life 1.0, 2.0 and 3.0. Using the terms “hardware” to refer to matter and “software” to refer to information, he deems that Life 1.0 is “life where both the hardware and software are evolved rather than designed.” Human beings are Life 2.0, “life whose hardware is evolved, but whose software is largely designed.”

Life 3.0 is life that “can design not only its software but also its hardware. In other words, Life 3.0 is the master of its own destiny, finally free from its evolutionary shackles.” So if something like bacteria is Life 1.0 and humans are Life 2.0, what is Life 3.0?

Artificial intelligence. Or, more specifically, “artificial general intelligence” (AGI). Rudimentary forms of AI are already with us in everything from the facial recognition software in Apple’s iPhone X to our digital assistants Siri, Alexa and Cortana. The holy grail is AGI, which is AI reaching human-level intelligence and beyond, being able to accomplish virtually any goal including learning.

So in short, Life 1.0 is biological, Life 2.0 is cultural and Life 3.0 is technological. How does the view of man being made in the image of God interact with this? How will we define life in view of AGI? These will be the questions technology will force us to grapple with.

The second major area for reflection is the goal of AI. Almost all agree that the goal should not be undirected intelligence, but beneficial intelligence. The main concern isn’t with robots, but with intelligence itself—intelligence whose goals are destructive. As Tegmark notes, “we might build technology powerful enough to permanently end [social] scourges—or to end humanity itself. We might create societies that flourish like never before, on Earth and perhaps beyond, or a Kafkaesque global surveillance state so powerful that it could never be toppled.”

Inherent within this is outsourced morality. Here’s a simple example: a self-driving car faces a life-and-death situation. Swerve away from hitting a pedestrian, or save the life of the occupants of the car. It can and will decide, but on what basis? As we grow in our dependence on AI, we will increasingly allow it to make our decisions for us, and that includes ethical ones. And the more AI is able to think independently, the more we will have to face where we limit its autonomy.

If we are even able to.

The progression is frightening:

Step 1: Build human-level AGI.
Step 2: Use this AGI to create superintelligence.
Step 3: Use or unleash this superintelligence to take over the world.

Again, Tegmark: “Since we humans have managed to dominate Earth’s other life forms by outsmarting them, it’s plausible that we could be similarly outsmarted and dominated by superintelligence.”

Tesla and SpaceX CEO Elon Musk told the National Governors Association last fall that his exposure to AI technology suggests it poses “a fundamental risk to the existence of human civilization.” Cosmologist Stephen Hawking agreed, saying that AI could prove “the worst event in the history of civilization.” Facebook founder Mark Zuckerberg, however, calls such talk “irresponsible.”

No wonder it has been called the most important conversation of our time. Whether it proves to be or not, it is certainly a conversation that needs Christian minds that are informed and engaged.

And thinking.

Sources

Max Tegmark, Life 3.0: Being Human in the Age of Artificial Intelligence (Knopf, 2017)

Marco della Cava, “Elon Musk Says AI Could Doom Human Civilization. Zuckerberg disagrees. Who’s right?”, USA Today, January 2, 2018, read online

This article originally appeared here.

38 Signs You Are a Godly Leader

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Last week I wrote a post titled 38 Results of Being an Evil LeaderThe content for this post was taken from specific passages from Proverbs chapters 10–12. As a following up, the following are 38 Signs You Are a Godly Leader taken from the same set of verses. As you read this list, remember none of this happens without brokenness, humility, a life of surrender to Christ, a love of prayer and a passion for reading God’s Word, the Bible. Proverbs 10 with supporting verses

  1. Godly Leaders Are Life-Giving – 16 “The wage of the righteous leads to life, the gain of the wicked to sin.”
  2. Godly Leaders Speak Great Value Into the Lives of Others – 20 “The tongue of the righteous is choice silver; the heart of the wicked is of little worth.”
  3. The Words of Godly Leaders Are Satisfying – 21 “The lips of the righteous feed many, but fools die for lack of sense.”
  4. Godly Leaders’ Desires Are Granted – 24 “What the wicked dreads will come upon him, but the desire of the righteous will be granted.”
  5. Godly Leaders Survive Hard Times – 25 “When the tempest passes, the wicked is no more, but the righteous is established forever.”
  6. Godly Leaders Fear the Lord and Have Longer Lives – 27 “The fear of the Lord prolongs life, but the years of the wicked will be short.”
  7. Godly Leaders Have Hope and Joy – 28 “The hope of the righteous brings joy, but the expectation of the wicked will perish.”
  8. The Lord Protects Godly Leaders – 29 “The way of the Lord is a stronghold to the blameless, but destruction to evildoers.”
  9. Godly Leaders Always Win in the Long Run – 30 “The righteous will never be removed, but the wicked will not dwell in the land.”
  10. The Words of Godly Leaders Bring Wisdom – 31 “The mouth of the righteous brings forth wisdom, but the perverse tongue will be cut off.”
  11. The Words of Godly Leaders Are Acceptable – 32 “The lips of the righteous know what is acceptable, but the mouth of the wicked, what is perverse.”

Proverbs 11 with supporting verses

  1. Godly Leaders Are Delivered From Death – 4 “Riches do not profit in the day of wrath, but righteousness delivers from death.”
  2. Godly Leaders Continually Make Great Decisions – 5 “The righteousness of the blameless keeps his way straight, but the wicked falls by his own wickedness.”
  3. Godly Leaders Are Delivered From Their Sin – 6 “The righteousness of the upright delivers them, but the treacherous are taken captive by their lust.”
  4. Godly Leaders Die With Hope – 7 “When the wicked dies, his hope will perish,
        and the expectation of wealth perishes too.”
  5. Godly Leaders Are Delivered From Trouble – 8 “The righteous is delivered from trouble, and the wicked walks into it instead.”
  6. Godly Leaders Are Smart – 9 “With his mouth the godless man would destroy his neighbor, but by knowledge the righteous are delivered.”
  7. Everyone Rejoices When Godly Leaders Succeed – 10 “When it goes well with the righteous, the city rejoices, and when the wicked perish there are shouts of gladness.”
  8. Godly Leaders Can Lift Up Entire Cities – 11 “By the blessing of the upright a city is exalted, but by the mouth of the wicked it is overthrown.”
  9. Godly Leaders Are Rewarded for Their Righteousness – 18 “The wicked earns deceptive wages, but one who sows righteousness gets a sure reward.”
  10. Godly Leaders Who Are Faithful Will Live – 19 “Whoever is steadfast in righteousness will live, but he who pursues evil will die.”
  11. Godly Leaders Are a Delight to the Lord – 20 “Those of crooked heart are an abomination to the Lord, but those of blameless ways are his delight.”
  12. Even the Children of Godly Leaders Are Blessed – 21 “Be assured, an evil person will not go unpunished, but the offspring of the righteous will be delivered.”
  13. Godly Leadership Ends Only in Good – 23 “The desire of the righteous ends only in good, the expectation of the wicked in wrath.”
  14. Favor Is on the Lives of Godly Leaders – 27 “Whoever diligently seeks good seeks favor, but evil comes to him who searches for it.”
  15. Godly Leaders Will Be Repaid for Their Righteousness – 31 “If the righteous is repaid on earth, how much more the wicked and the sinner!”

What Google Knows About Being Human

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In our digital age, one thing that seems to mark the conclusion of every year is the abundance of “best of” lists making the rounds on the internet. These lists chronicle everything from the best books of the year, to the best movies, songs, cars, employers and even viral videos. As more-than-casual observers of culture, we find these lists fascinating and insightful because of the picture they offer us of the world we live in. And from these lists, we can discern not only the kinds of things that capture people’s attention but also why. So we were particularly intrigued when we stumbled upon Google’s version of the year-end recap of top search results.

Google is ubiquitous in our culture. Being a search engine, an internet provider, ad manager, email service, and so much more, Google is one of the preeminent tech giants whose influence is seen throughout most sectors of our society. For millions of people across the globe—ourselves included—the tech juggernaut is fully integrated into our everyday lives in ways we are not even [conscious] of, seemingly serving as an extension of our own minds. By examining the trends and patterns revealed in internet searches during 2017, Google discovered an interesting result: this year, the world asked “how?” And to showcase these results, Google put together a video.

How?

Our questions ranged from the humorous to the urgent, and from the practical to the existential. Many of our questions came in response to tragedy. In 2017, the world witnessed dozens of devastating natural disasters. We watched as Mexico suffered an earthquake that killed nearly 400 people and injured thousands; we watched as historic wildfires raged across California; and, we watched as multiple hurricanes inflicted horrible damage upon Texas, Florida and the Caribbean including Puerto Rico. Even more, we once again witnessed unspeakable horror as we saw nearly 100 people either injured or killed during mass shootings in Las Vegas and Sutherland Springs. In response to these and other disasters, Google recorded an outpouring of compassion. Millions of people turned to Google to find out how to help. But that wasn’t the only response. In addition to compassion, we also revealed our fears and frailty, asking how we might protect ourselves from experiencing the very same things.

We also asked practical questions: how to be a better parent, how to run for public office, how to view the solar eclipse. And each of these things tells us something too. We see that in an ever-changing world, some things stay the same. Parents still want to do right by their kids, offering them the kind of love, support, and guidance needed for them to make their way in the world. Record searches inquiring how to run for office or how to make a protest sign indicate that in the midst of a year of political chaos and turmoil, many people are motivated to do more than just talk or stand on the sideline. And the fact that millions sought to view the eclipse reminds us that even though nature can wreak havoc through its destructive power, it can also stun us with its remarkable beauty.

Some of the questions we asked were even more serious. We asked about the threat of nuclear war, about immigration and caring for refugees, and about how to be a strong woman. These and similar questions are clear reminders of the brokenness of our world. Throughout 2017, the world has watched with fear each time North Korea ratched up tensions in the Pacific by testing another intercontinental ballistic missile. Likewise, we have watched for years, the humanitarian crisis in Syria, as refugees are driven from their homes in the wake of a brutal civil war that continues to drag on, all the while grappling with our nation’s own treatment of immigrants. And as we close the book on 2017, we do so under the shadow of the #MeToo movement, where week by week new accusations are brought forth revealing the contemptible and predatory culture that has for too long permeated so many of our country’s most significant institutions. All of which shows us the reality that women are often not afforded the honor, dignity, and respect that they deserve as beings created in the image of God.

A window to our souls

It might come as a shock to many that companies like Google keep a record of our internet searches. We understand why the idea is off-putting. In many ways, our search histories provide a window into our souls. In a world where so many things are artificial, our Google searches can show us something real. As Russell Moore recently remarked, “Google knows who we are, sometimes better than we know ourselves.” He adds, “people don’t like to admit certain things about themselves, or to themselves. But they’ll tell Google.” And this is true. Though we can’t help doing it with others, we don’t filter or mask the questions we ask Google. Perhaps this is because we feel secure in the relative anonymity of the internet. But regardless, these search results tells us a great deal about both our greatest fears and desires.

Through these results, we see some basic human traits: People are fearful, so we seek to mitigate disaster and avoid danger. People are compassionate, so we seek to help those in need. People are joyful, so we seek out opportunities to live life to its fullest and to make the world a better place. People are fun, so we ask questions about how to become superheroes. But the biggest thing that these trends reveal is that people are seeking answers because we all understand at our core that we are not in control of our lives or the things around us. We are not God.

The answer the world needs

As Christians, we need to have answers to some of these questions that people are asking. We need to be the ones who lead the way in responding to tragedies, loving our neighbors, equipping parents, protecting women, and so much more. But beyond all of that, we need to be the ones pointing to the answer to the fears behind many of these questions. In a world full of danger ranging from nuclear war to mass shootings to natural disasters, we need to be the ones pointing to the Son of Man. Jesus is the only one who has the answers. And Jesus is the only one who holds the power to make an end of our suffering and bring us peace.

As we start 2018, the world is asking perhaps the most important question, “How to move forward?” The church has the answer that we all are searching for. As God restores this fallen world, we must be the signpost pointing forward to the day when Christ will make all things new. Jesus is the true and lasting hope the world needs.

This article originally appeared here.

Article was written by both Jason Thacker and Josh Wester.

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My Best Advice for Leaders When Things Are Going Wrong

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In my pre-ministry business days, Cheryl and I owned a small manufacturing business. We owned another business prior to this one and it had been extremely successful. We were able to sell it and purchase this new venture. It was an exciting time and we honestly felt it was something God was doing in our lives at the time. Very, very long story short, in the five years we owned the manufacturing company, everything which could go wrong did.

Looking back it was one of the hardest seasons of my life professionally. (Almost as hard as church revitalization. True story.) We learned a ton, but it really was a difficult time for Cheryl and me.

This is not a pity-part post, however. As I do with my blog and ministry, I’d love for you to learn from one of my biggest mistakes while owning this company. As a leader, I reacted poorly and it ended up costing me greatly.

As a result of my experience, here is my best advice for the CEO/Small Business Owner/Pastor when things are going wrong in the organization:

DON’T RUN

Whatever happens, as bad as it gets, don’t disappear from your leadership post. I did this. I was busy with leadership roles in the community and church, and even though there was nothing wrong with any of them, I often made them excuses for not being on the job when they needed me most. (Please understand, this is hard to admit now, but I want you to learn from me.)

When things are going wrong you will be tempted to skip out of the office early, hide with your door closed, or make excuses for why you aren’t on the job. You’ll make excuses for poor performance numbers and why things aren’t going as they should. You’ll be slower to respond to problems when they arise. You’ll avoid conflict at any cost.

None of these are ever the right response.

When you disappear:

  • The people trying to follow you—your team—will have less motivation to work hard. Some will disappear too.
  • Your worries don’t leave you just because you aren’t at the office. They only multiply.
  • Ultimately, you will never solve the problems as an absentee leader. Leadership requires active participation in the problems.
  • And, far worse, you most likely won’t be there to see the turnaround if and when it begins. And, your absence may even ensure a rebound never comes.

Again, this is hard advice from very painful times in my own life. Looking back, however, and I’ve rehearsed this in my mind thousands of times since, we were just about to reach some resolutions when we eventually sold the company. I gave up too soon. (God worked it all for good as He does, but I can only live with my regrets—and, thankfully, accept His grace.)

Eight long, hard months after selling this business I entered the ministry—and God has continued His faithfulness. I wish my story included me ending in the business world on a more positive note. At least I can learn from the experience and pass it on to you.

As much as you want the pain to be over, hang in there and fight your way to the end of the battle.

You may need to slip away long enough to regain your composure. In fact, I encourage frequent times of rest to re-energize in the midst of the battle. It’s been one of my key strategies in revitalization, but those seasons should never be so long that those who are trying to follow you think they have lost their leader.

You may need to write a new plan. This may involve getting bluntly honest with your team (something I didn’t do) and humbly soliciting their input. They often have better ideas if you ask them. It’s one of the chief values of a team. You may need to call in some advisors (and, not doing so was another mistake I made), but there is wisdom in the collection of minds. Often the turnaround is in the room if you lead people to it.

Whether the end result is that things turn around and everyone gets to celebrate, or the worse case scenario comes true and the organization ends, lead your team as long as you hold the position of leader.

Looking back on the situation, from my humbled perspective, you’ll be glad you continued to lead strong to the end.

This article originally appeared here.

The Art of Leading

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LOTR: The Missionary’s (and Leader’s) Ideal Companion

This is a repost from Jacklyn Parrish, you can read it here on IMB’s site. I’m currently reading LOTR and was struck by the writer’s poignancy and poetic accuracy in what it means at times to feel lost and found as we journey in this world, longing for our future reality.

As leaders, we need this reality pressing into our sights at all times. It’s vital that we read/watch/dwell on things that give us hope as we lead others through the challenges of life.

I was 15, about to embark on my first overseas experience. I had my passport, my visa and my clothes (expertly packed), but I was lacking one item essential for transcontinental travel: a book. In the end, Terry Brooks and Sir Arthur Conan Doyle were consigned to my checked baggage, and J.R.R. Tolkien took his honored place in my carry-on. That flight to Fortaleza inaugurated what has since become an established ritual for me.

You see, during times of extreme change in my life, I (re)read The Lord of the Rings. I still have the same paperback that accompanied me to Brazil and, according to the tally on the epigraph page, I’ve read it six times. The book was my companion during two cross-country moves, my marriage, and my time serving as a missionary in South Asia.

I would argue that Tolkien’s fantasy epic is an excellent applicant to any missionary’s library. When you’ve exhausted the in-flight entertainment system and your Kindle’s running dry, J.R.R. can still spin his tale under your reading lamp. When the Road ahead does indeed go on and on, and home is far behind, Tolkien is the ideal companion. Here are a few reasons why.

THE GREAT ESCAPE

Many a self-styled literary critic has sneered at fairy tales as escapist, as flights of fancy that draw the reader out of the “real” world. And they are perfectly right. As Tolkien himself said in On Fairy-Stories, “Why should a man be scorned if, finding himself in prison, he tries to get out and go home? Or if, when he cannot do so, he thinks and talks about other topics than jailers and prison-walls?”

The Lord of the Rings is an escape, not out of reality, but into it. We live our twenty-first century lives hemmed in by the incessant lie that this world is all there is, that truth, goodness, and beauty are nothing more than random sparks in the simian brain. We’re told repeatedly that chance and reproductive impulse are all that govern the universe. But Tolkien will have none of that foolishness. He leads us out of physical facts through glorious fantasy so that we may finally arrive at eternal Truth.

For you see, this tale of talking trees and wandering wizards invites the reader to believe in truths that are more real than anything we can hold in hands of flesh. It insists on the existence of courage, justice, redemption and friendship. It holds fast to the dream that small and insignificant folk can “arise from their quiet fields to shake the towers and counsels of the Great.” It clings to Sam Gamgee’s mad hope that one day, “everything sad [is] going to come untrue.” It’s a clear and gentle call to keep believing everything worth believing in, and few need to hear that call more desperately than the missionary.

THERE AND BACK AGAIN

My flight to South Asia took me farther away from home than I’d ever been in more ways than geographical. I stepped off that plane and deep into a land of shadow, a land where precious few had heard of the Light of the world. But Tolkien’s world was a familiar path through a strange forest. I could journey with Strider and his hobbits as they journeyed with me, and they gave me space to feel my homesickness while staying true to my quest. “I feel,” as Frodo does, “that as long as the Shire lies behind, safe and comfortable, I shall find wandering more bearable: I shall know that somewhere there is a firm foothold, even if my feet cannot stand there again.” Middle-Earth was warm and familiar, even if it was fantasy, and I needed that breath of familiar air as home faded fast behind me.

Because, for many missionaries, even the flight back to the States is not truly a homecoming. We’ve changed. We no longer fit into the spaces we left. We’re surrounded by friends and family who love us deeply but who can’t really understand the world we’ve seen, any more than Sam’s Gaffer could understand the songs of Lórien or the dungeons of Moria.

But as Frodo observes, “It must often be so, Sam, when things are in danger: some one has to give them up, lose them, so that others may keep them,” and that is as true for gospel worker as it is for the Ringbearer. A missionary gives up home, not just for a time, but often for a lifetime, so that others can be brought home to the family of God. And they return to their respective Shires with an elvish air, a touch of strangeness about them, as if they don’t quite belong in this world. Because, after all, they don’t. No Christian does. We are “strangers and exiles on the earth…seeking a homeland…a better country, that is, a heavenly one” (Heb. 11:13–16 ESV).

HOMEWARD BOUND

Even as I longed, sometimes even wept, for home, Tolkien faithfully reminded me that, truth be told, I haven’t been there yet. I knew, like Master Samwise, that “in the end the shadow [i]s only a small and passing thing: there [i]s light and high beauty forever beyond its reach,” and that Light is my true home. I tread and retread the paths of Rivendell and the streets of Minas Tirith with the confidence that, even in their glory, they are but a small foretaste of the eternal home waiting for us.

The missionary makes their home on the ragged edge of the kingdom of God, joining their voices each day with all creation as it groans for redemption. We confidently hope in truth we cannot see (Rom. 8:18–25). But through Tolkien’s masterpiece, we catch a flash of the day when “the grey rain-curtain turn[s] all to silver glass and [i]s rolled back, and [w]e beh[o]ld white shores and beyond them a far green country under a swift sunrise.”

This article originally appeared here.

How Belief in Regenerate Church Membership Should Impact Preaching

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“Wesley, if six weeks in one place, would preach myself and the people dead.”

Those words are from John Venn, a contemporary of Wesley. Alongside other members of the Eclectic society, Venn was discussing the apostles method of preaching. His point was that the local church pastor has a different ministry than a traveling evangelist, like Wesley. The apostles were more like traveling preachers than local church pastors. Therefore to preach like Wesley, week after week, would not lead to healthy sheep.

This is something I must keep in the forefront of my mind as I read through the sermons of Puritans, Edwards and other Great Awakening heroes. Their congregations were markedly different than the one that I serve. One major difference is that people who are in attendance are here because they want to be (excepting the handful of children dragged here by parents). Those present do not face imprisonment or social shame for not attending.

I love reading books for pastoral ministry that are hundreds of years old. I’m often amazed that these men of old face similar issues that I face in the 21st century. Their thoughts, so often grounded in the gospel, are timeless and beneficial. It’s helpful to me to see the same types of issues hundreds of years ago, as it anchors me in eternal truth in the midst of the present streams of culture. But if I’m not careful I can start preaching to a congregation that is not my own.

What I’m meaning to say is that as a Southern Baptist I believe in regenerate church membership. That has to mean something for the way I preach on Sunday mornings. It means that while I expect to have unbelievers in our midst, a vast majority of my listeners are going to be those who are followers of Jesus. This is markedly different from those who lived in Puritan England or even in the Deep South of the 1950s.

Revivalistic preaching in previous eras was far more effective because a vast majority of those gathered were Christian by name only. They were there because either social or governmental pressure required their attendance. Thus preaching mostly evangelistic messages about conversion was entirely fitting. But a steady diet of this type of preaching to believers will lead to a shallow and colloquial faith.

If we truly believe that our members are regenerate then we ought to preach in a way that is focused upon feeding the sheep and equipping the saints for the work of ministry. This is not to mean that we are not sensitive to outsiders. Nor does this mean that we do not proclaim and clearly spell out the gospel in every sermon. But it does mean that as we walk through the Scriptures our points of application are not solely focused on how a person is to be saved, but rather how believers ought to live out the Christian life.

If we are constantly trying to get our members saved then we’ve dropped the ball somewhere. I have a suspicion that the real problem is that many professing believers look a bit too much like the world, but rather than treating it as a discipleship problem we treat it as an evangelism problem. And so we keep going with revivalistic preaching and make the whole of the Christian life about where one spends eternity. It is true that we never graduate from the gospel but it is not true that we never graduate from the question of whether or not we are saved. To continue trying to get our members saved and making that the entirety of our preaching ministry will leave our sheep malnourished. And we also had better stop telling people we believe in regenerate church membership.

Shouldn’t a belief in regenerate church membership have an impact on our preaching ministry?

This article originally appeared here.

Six Ways Ministry Spouses Get Hurt

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It’s easy to forget what ministry spouses go through. Consider the man who said this:

“Hey, I’m not on the church payroll. Go complain to someone else!”

The moment the words left his mouth, he knew he blew it. His wife was the church’s children’s minister. Too often he received complaints about the ministry as if it were his responsibility. On that one occasion, he lost his temper after one complaint too many.

Hurting Ministry Spouses

We often lose sight of those in churches whose spouses serve on staff. These are the spouses of executive pastors, youth pastors, children’s pastors, lead pastors and others. We have heard from these spouses through thousands of comments at ThomRainer.com.

We want you to see the six issues we have heard most frequently. We want you to be aware of them so you can offer ministry, encouragement and friendship to spouses of those who serve in the church. Sometimes those are among the loneliest people in the church.

Here, then, are six of the most common ways ministry spouses get hurt:

1. Complaints about their spouses. 

A student ministry spouse heard complaints for months about her husband. The great tragedy was when the head of the personnel committee told her that her husband was about to be fired. The husband had not heard that news.

2. High expectations about ministry involvement. 

A pastor’s wife shared with us about an elder calling her house looking for her husband. Upon informing him her husband was not in, the elder asked her questions about the upcoming elders’ meeting. When the wife was not able to answer, the elder complained about her lack of knowledge about what was going on in the church.

3. Complaints about the children.

One of the ways to inflict the greatest pain on someone is to attack his or her children. It is beyond belief how many church members expect a model of behavior for the minister’s family well beyond expectations of their own families. Cut a child and the parent bleeds.

4. Isolation.

Some church members don’t know how to interact with ministry spouses, so they ignore them altogether. Vocational ministry can be lonely. Being the spouse of a vocational minister can be lonely as well.

5. Gossip and murmuring. 

Some churches have a modest level of gossip and murmuring. Other churches are pretty vocal with gossip and murmuring. At some point a spouse of a minister will hear something about his or her spouse. That hurts. That hurts a lot.

6. Going to the spouse with problems about the minister. 

A worship minister shared with us this tragic story. He was caught up in some worship wars, an all too common reality. The worship leader, however, was pretty thick-skinned, and moved forward despite the criticisms. When the critics saw they were not making progress with the worship leader, they began to attack his wife with their issues. She went into deep depression, and the worship leader ultimately left the church for his wife and family.

It is indeed tough to be in vocational ministry. But it’s also tough to be the spouse of these ministers. Pray for them. Encourage them. Befriend them.

This article originally appeared here.

Dan Allender: How Pastors Can Help a Sexual Abuse Victim

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Rachael Denhollander and Beth Moore have bluntly stated that the church hasn’t done enough to address sexual abuse.

What can and should the church do?

In 2016, Dr. Dan Allender, author of “Healing the Wounded Heart,” addressed the church’s role in healing sexual abuse on a ChurchLeaders podcast.

When he originally broached the topic in the 1980’s, Allender said it was an issue largely ignored by the church.  Sadly, what could be characterized as the shock and shame of the 80’s has given way to boredom and indifference.

The revelations of the past four months have brought the church and culture at large out of our stupor.

Allender says the church must be involved because sexual abuse harms a person both physically and spiritually.

Victims of childhood sexual abuse hide a deep sense of shame, which Allender says is a condition of the heart.  

“We are as sick as our secrets. If we can’t grapple with what you have silenced through shame, you can’t hope for redemption. Not just ‘I have been abused’ but to enter the story and its implications is part of the work of redemption.”

He advises pastors to watch for the telltale signs of a person hiding shame, which include cynicism, anger and detachment.  Allender says those traits were cultivated by the victim’s struggle with evil that killed something in his or her heart.

“When you see people given to judgment of others and themselves in the realm of accusations, that signatures significant contempt.  Where there is contempt, there’s shame and an unaddressed story of shame.”

Pastors are advised to engage those exhibiting signs of shame. Get them to tell their story and then be supportive. “Invite them to name what is true, honor what is true and then step them toward the process with a hand on the shoulder to keep them moving forward.”

Allender understands that many pastors might claim they don’t have the expertise to deal with emotional problems caused by sexual abuse. But he reminds them that there are deep spiritual issues at play and that is the realm of ministry.

But if a pastor still feels outside his or her depth, they should refer sexual abuse victim to a Christian counselor who can help them get on a path of healing. You may not walk with that person to the end of that path, but getting them started on their journey is incredibly important.

You’ll want to ask several questions of the potential counselor to be sure that it’s a good fit and keeping two priorities in balance:

Integrity – You want to know each counselor you utilize sufficiently to be able to recommend them with integrity.

Efficiency – You wear many hats and need to be able to vet potential counselors in a time frame that does not impede your ability to fulfill other ministry responsibilities.

The worst thing a pastor can do, according to Allender, is to walk away from the problem and refuse to support the one who is suffering.  He says when you engage what evil does not what you to name, the spirit of God can work and redemption is not just a possibility but is virtually assured.

Nick Foles: A Pastor in Training in the Super Bowl

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Nick Foles, the starting quarterback for the Philadelphia Eagles in Super Bowl LII, might be about to play in the biggest game of his career, but he’s preparing for something even bigger; becoming a pastor.

Foles is taking online seminary classes through Liberty University with the goal of one day becoming a pastor in a high school.  

“When I speak to (students), that’s such a time of young men and young women’s lives that there’s a lot of things that are thrown at them. So much temptation in this world, so much going on with social media and the Internet that you want to talk to them and address it, and share all the weaknesses I have because I’ve fallen many times,” Foles added. “It’s something I want to do. I can’t play football forever. I’ve been blessed with an amazing platform and it’s just a door God has opened, but I still have a lot of school left and a long journey.”

In fact, Foles almost quit the NFL to become a pastor but he and his wife prayed about it and decided to give professional football one more shot. And here’s something a lot of the reporters covering this Sunday’s game in Minneapolis have a hard time understanding: Nick Foles ranks being a pastor right up there with being the starting quarterback in the Super Bowl against the New England Patriots.

“A lot of people look at this moment and say, ‘Wow, aren’t you super excited that you made that decision and you’re in the Super Bowl, what if you wouldn’t have?’” Foles said Thursday. “But I look at it this way: It wasn’t a matter of that. I’m grateful to be up here, I’m grateful to have this opportunity to speak and play in this game, but at the same time, if I would have made the other decision my life wouldn’t have been a loss. I would have gone and done something else and glorified God in that instance.”

Foles has spoken often this week about his faith, as have many Eagles players like the man who Foles replaced, Carson Wentz. Wentz suffered a season ending knee injury in December and is forced to watch the Super Bowl from the sidelines, but you get a sense that he’s enjoying what God is doing, not on the football field, but in the lives of those who call themselves Christians. “It’s crazy how it has all unfolded, but God has had a plan for him through this whole thing, and he knows that,” Wentz said.

While few teams would want to go into a Super Bowl with a quarterback who was a backup less than two months ago, the Eagles have confidence in Foles because his demeanor never changes.

“Nothing rattles Nick at all,” quarterbacks coach John DeFilippo said. “He can be going through a tough stretch, going through a tough couple series, and he’s the same guy when he’s throwing four touchdowns. That’s a unique quality to have as a quarterback in the National Football League. With Nick Foles, you don’t have to worry about this stage being too big for him.”

Foles said, “Every time I play the game, every time I speak, it’s to glorify Him.”  

Maybe that’s the secret. Although he’s playing the most important position on the field, in the biggest game in sports, with more than 100 million people watching, all Foles sees is God.

Maximizing Mentoring Relationships in Your Youth Ministry

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Encouraging healthy mentoring relationships between students and adults is crucial in youth ministry. If a ton of students show up at your youth group, but they only interacted with their peers and not with any adults, they might as well have gone to the mall instead. Mentoring relationships between teenagers and mature adults are one of the things that make youth ministry work. If those kinds of relationships aren’t happening in our youth ministries, then we really are just segregating teenagers from the older generations of the church. The problem is that mentoring relationships don’t just happen. They need to be encouraged, cultivated and sometimes arranged. Even if you have a fantastic team of adult volunteers, that doesn’t necessarily mean that mentoring relationships are automatically happening. Here are some ways to help those kinds of relationships happen in your youth ministry and how to maximize their impact:

Design events to foster interactions between students and adults.

It’s entirely possible to have an incredibly fun and meaningful event with almost zero interaction between adults and teenagers. You may have recently been at one of those events, like that lock-in where the adults huddled around the coffeemaker the whole night while the students played in the gym. Make it clear to leaders and parents at the event that their job is to interact with students. If necessary, give them a numerical goal, such as learning the names and schools of at least seven students. And while you’re at it, plan your events so that it’s almost impossible for a teenager to spend the bulk of it without an adult around. Some of the best conversations can happen during a service project or a day at the amusement park.

Give job descriptions to your leaders.

It might be clear to you—the youth pastor—that adult leaders should make an effort to get to know students in the youth group. But your new volunteer who’s a great guy but somewhat scared of his new role may not know that. Make sure that there are plenty of adult leaders available at your weekly gatherings who know their job is to simply talk to the teenagers who are coming.

Build Small Groups.

I’m a big fan of small groups because of the opportunities for mentoring that exist there. Small groups aren’t just a convenient way to get teenagers to study to Bible together; they are a petri dish for mentoring relationships. When I ask someone to be a small group leader, I make it clear that their job is to shepherd and mentor the teenagers in their group. To me, there’s no better recipe for mentoring in youth ministry than a few great leaders teaming up to shepherd eight to 10 teenagers.

Find great adults for teenagers to meet with one-on-one.

Every so often, a teenager really needs to have a mentor that he or she meets with one-on-one. When that happens, I do my best to find a safe, mature adult for that teenager to meet with (because if I’m the one doing all the mentoring, I’m going to burn out pretty quickly). This requires a bit of leg work like finding the right mentor and making sure the student’s parents are on board, but when it works, it’s well worth it. Oh, and here’s a little secret: The mentor doesn’t have to be a full-fledged youth leader. You’d be surprised how many great people in your church may not be up for being with lots of teenagers week in and week out, but they are happy to meet with one of them every month for breakfast.

How do you encourage mentoring relationships in your youth ministry?

This article originally appeared here.

Stop Trying to Get God to Like You

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It was the middle of July and I was speaking at a student summer camp in West Texas. This particular Thursday night was just like every other night during this time of year—it was a breezy, 182 degrees. OK, I may be exaggerating, but only by a little bit.

On this night, I had preached on a familiar passage from John chapter three. Of course, I focused on verse 16: “For God so loved, that he gave his only Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have eternal life.” As sweat dripped from the tip of my nose onto the highlighted passages of my Bible, I pled with the students to experience, enjoy and be encouraged by the truth that God loves them and sent His very best for them—His only Son. He loves you with a perfect love, so don’t ever get over it. Be overwhelmed by it, rest in it and love others out of the overflow of it. The three most powerful words in the English language: God loves you.

After the message, I noticed out of the corner of my eye a young man who was standing about 10 feet from me, looking as though he wanted to speak with me but didn’t know how to approach. I walked over to him and he indicated he wanted to talk. We went right outside of the Worship Center so that we could hear each other.

“What’s going on man?”

“Well, Shane, I appreciate what you had to say about God loving me. However, I can’t enjoy God’s love because I don’t even think that God likes me. In fact, I am certain that God doesn’t like me very much at all!”

“Wait. What? You don’t think God likes you? You think He is mad at you? Did He schedule to fight you at the playground after school or something?” (Yes, unfortunately I often operate in the spiritual gift of sarcasm.)

“Ha. Nah, man. Nothing like that. I don’t think that God likes me because I work really hard to keep His rules, but I still struggle with sin. I try really hard to overcome my problems, and I can’t. I pray and go to church. For the most part I am a really good person. However, I still don’t feel like He cares about me. In fact, I am so certain that He doesn’t like me that I am starting to not like Him very much either.”

Plain and simple. Trying to work really hard to get God to like you is a fruit of self-righteousness. What is this? It’s the effort to become righteous before God by your own efforts. Sadly, self-righteousness is always defined by self. You decide what is right and wrong. You vainly attempt to define what is good enough for God to be pleased with you. Or, more honestly, you determine what actually pleases you. You’re desperately working to get to the point where you say, “This good enough. I bet God likes me now.” If we’re really transparent with ourselves, the ultimate reason we want God to like us is because we think if He likes us He will do what we want Him to do.

Self-righteousness becomes its own form of religion, and religions are built on what mankind can do for their god or gods. However, the teachings of the Bible lead us in a very different direction. In fact, they lead us in the very opposite direction. It leads to a life of freedom that can only be found in the love of God.

Who Is at the Center of Your Group?

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God created man to have fellowship with him, and so God visited Adam in the garden of Eden. The fellowship continued until the moment when man sinned. From then on, God began his efforts to reestablish fellowship with his creation. Initially he tried to do it by selecting Abraham. God established a covenant with Abraham and his offspring based on altars and animal sacrifices. From the patriarchs, he established a new people, the nation of Israel. Some centuries later through Moses, God gave them the law to live in holiness, and so he could dwell among them. In fact, the tabernacle was designed to be at the center of the Israelite camp.

But God’s people sinned again and again, and the tabernacle of God had to be taken out of the camp. Later, Solomon built the temple for the dwelling of God in the midst of his people. But, in the deportation, Ezekiel the prophet could see how the glory of God left the temple and his people due to their repeated sins. But, God did not renounce his desire to dwell among his people.

God sent his only son, not only to dwell among men but also to become a man. By taking human nature, God decided to unite with man forever; that’s why his name is Emmanuel. When He ascended to the father, Jesus continued to be present in the midst of his people, his church, which is his mystical body. Wherever two or three meet in his name, he is always present. The presence of God in the midst of men is a reality in every cell. God’s desire comes true every time his people come together; he has fellowship with us when we have fellowship with one another. In each cell it is a wonderful reality that is repeated as many times as the believers come together in his name.

This article originally appeared here.

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