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7 Keys to Productivity for Pastors

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If you’re a pastor or church leader, you probably have many roles to fill. 

Depending on the size and culture of your church, you may fulfill the role of teacher, counselor, chief of staff, head of hiring, CEO, head of operations, and lead administrator. Whew!

With that comes a long list of tasks, responsibilities, and communications. On any given day, you may be called to lead a meeting, make executive decisions, counsel a staff member or congregant, hire a new employee, strategize on messaging, and put together a Sunday sermon. 

That being said, staying productive is key to being a pastor. 

Here’s the good news: With the right tools and strategies, you can save time on communications and administrative work, accomplish your goals, and ultimately, do more to advance the Kingdom of God. 

How to Become More Productive as a Pastor

Here are 7 keys to productivity for any pastor. These run the gamut from a simple new work habit to a church management software tool. 

1. Batch your work. 

Generally speaking, there are two types of professionals: specialists and generalists. 

Specialists exercise a skill to achieve an outcome. Think of a coder, a surgeon, a salesperson, or a pastry chef. Generalists wear multiple hats. Think of an entrepreneur, a restaurant manager, a teacher, or a department head. 

As a pastor, you’re a generalist. Though you may have cultivated expert skills in studying the Bible or counseling those in need, you probably perform many different tasks at work. More than some professionals, you may find yourself pulled in multiple directions throughout the day. 

Batching together different types of work throughout the week can help you remain focused on the task at hand. 

By doing all of your administrative work on one day, for example, you:

  • Avoid loss of productivity caused by shifting from task to task (One study says that shifting gears can cost up to 40% of productive working hours). 
  • Set boundaries that help you prioritize more efficiently throughout the week. 

Remember that batching requires planning and intentionality. It also requires the ability to say “no” to tasks that may be perceived as “urgent.” (See Key #2). 

2. Use the Eisenhower Matrix. 

The Eisenhower Matrix is a simple system that you can use to categorize your tasks into four categories: urgent/important, urgent/not important, not urgent/important, and not urgent/not important. 

Named for the General himself, the Eisenhower Matrix has one clear goal for the user: prioritize better. 

By grouping tasks together on a matrix of urgency and importance, you can make better decisions about what to do immediately and what to schedule for later. 

The Eisenhower Matrix can be especially useful for leaders. As a pastor, you constantly encounter new problems to solve and issues to address. The Matrix can help you decide if emerging tasks require your immediate attention, or if they can be put off in light of more urgent and important activities. 

Like most productivity strategies, the Eisenhower Matrix requires good judgment and discipline.

3. Write down your goals. 

To stay on top of your goals, write them down. 

At the beginning of each work day, choose two or three goals that you’d like to accomplish. That might include preparing for a meeting the next day, calling a ministry director, or thinking through a specific strategy for impacting your neighborhood. 

Then, write them down on a sticky note (paper or digital) and put your goals somewhere you can see them. That will help you remain on track throughout the day. 

4. Track your time. 

Accountability isn’t just important for discipleship relationships. It’s also key for staying productive and focused throughout the work day. 

When it comes to staying on task, your best accountability partner isn’t a coworker or family member. It’s a time-tracking tool that tracks every hour (and even minute) of your work day. 

Tracking your time at work can help you:

  • Identify blind spots. If you’re seeing large gaps in your time-tracking results, that can help you identify blocks of time where you got distracted or lost focus. Do those happen more frequently during certain times of the day?
  • Monitor app/tool/website usage. Are you spending more time than necessary on certain systems, apps, or websites? Time-tracking can give you insight. 
  • Stay organized. Pastors frequently spend time with people–in meetings, on the phone, and outside of the office or church. Log this time into your time-tracking app to help you stay organized. 

To track your time, you can use an app such as Timing or TimeDoctor. 

5. Put your phone on airplane mode. 

Sometimes the simplest hacks can be the most effective. 

As a pastor, it might seem counterintuitive to put your smartphone on airplane mode. You may feel like you need to be reachable, 100% of the time. 

But the majority of pastors require focused time every week to study the Word and prepare a sermon. In fact, one common statistic says that pastors spend an average of 16 hours every week preparing a message for Sunday morning. 

To maximize efficiency during sermon prep, use airplane mode to: 

  • Disable incoming (and outgoing) text messages and phone calls.  
  • Resist the temptation to check your email inbox, social media, or the stock market. 
  • Silence pings and notifications. 

One caveat: Be vigilant about keeping your phone on airplane mode. It’s all too easy to make the shift back (if you need to, remove your phone from eyesight or handreach). 

6. Try an email (or text) template. 

Do you find yourself sending the same kinds of emails and text messages throughout the week? Whether you’re setting up a meeting, communicating your schedule, or addressing a pastoral concern, you may write similar verbiage with small tweaks about details. 

If that’s the case, consider coming up with a few templates that you can use to quickly and efficiently communicate with your team and congregation. 

Here’s an example—a response to an emerging request or idea, and a follow-up to schedule a meeting:

That sounds like a great idea, [name]. Let’s set up a meeting next week to discuss further. Can you contact my EA at [number]?

Simply copy and paste the text, and don’t forget to adjust the details. 

7. Use a church management software. 

Church management software can help you stay organized, efficient, and streamlined across all departments and operations. It can help you manage your workflows, communicate with congregants, generate reports, manage donors, create an online presence, and more. 

But software for churches hasn’t always been very affordable or easy to use. With prices upwards of $200 per month and complicated, outdated user interfaces, church software hasn’t always been a great solution for making life easier for pastors. 

Church software has come a long way, however. You no longer need to pay an exorbitant price for an excellent software tool that can help you manage your church’s operations, communications, marketing, and more. Take a look at Tithe.ly’s ChMS solutions to learn more about tools that can help you save time and stay organized without a high monthly price. 

Better Productivity = More Time for the Kingdom

When you’re able to streamline your productive and administrative work, you create more time in your schedule for ideation, counseling, and time with the Lord. You also prevent burnout and free up more time to spend with your family. 

The tools and strategies above are meant to help you create more space for God. If you’re finding that they are leading you closer to Him, you’re using them well. Find what works for you, be patient with yourself, and stay flexible. Good luck!

7 Church Hiring Mistakes That Could Cost You Thousands

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Put simply, hiring is RI$KY business. If you’ve ever made a bad hire, I don’t have to explain this to you. Saying yes to the wrong candidate is costly. In an article by David Fletcher on XPastor.com, he writes, “One ‘wrong fit’ on your staff can cost a bundle. My estimate is that a hiring mistake will cost between $288,000 and $455,000 [based on a $50K salary].” You can watch him do the math on hiring mistakes right here. The Harvard Business Review states that as much as 80 percent of employee turnover is the direct result of hiring mistakes.

I think you get the point—hiring the right candidate is critical. No wonder programs like a career relaunch can be incredibly beneficial.

That’s why we put together seven pro tips for hiring that churches often miss. We don’t want you to drop $300K (or more) of Kingdom funds on hiring mistakes when it should go toward Gospel-centered initiatives.

If you take these recruiting tips and apply them—and avoid the hiring mistakes—I firmly believe you will save thousands of dollars in the long run. Of course, the reverse is also true. If you ignore these pro tips for hiring, you could end up paying out a lot more than you ever imagined. But please don’t.

7 Church Hiring Mistakes That Could Cost You Thousands

1. Hiring without an in-depth background check with their previous ministry

It’s so easy to gloss over this action step and just check a box, but trust me, it doesn’t matter if someone on your team can vouch for them—or if their resume blows you away—if they have issues in their past ministry experience, it’s likely they’ll have issues with you. Make sure and have a real, honest talk with their previous employer(s).

Ask the tough and uncomfortable questions. And, if you feel like you’re just getting pat answers—request another reference. (If you’d like to find out more about the search process—or maybe you’re looking for a candidate—I highly recommend checking out ChurchJobFinder.com.). In addition, when hiring, make sure to conduct a thorough background check for employment so that you can get the top employees needed for the job.

2. Hiring without conversations on critical theological issues

You need to find out where the biggest theological/philosophical differences are and whether you can live with them—or they may be potential hot-button issues down the road. It’s amazing how many churches and search committees give candidates an easy pass on theological differences during the interview process. Don’t be one of them. Do your homework and involve theological experts during the interview process.

In his extensive study of interracial churches, George Yancy concludes that “theological differences on a congregational staff are much more deadly to the cohesiveness of that staff than racial differences” (Yancy, One Body, One Spirit, p. 96).

3. Hiring without asking the nitty-gritty personal questions

You’ve heard the stats, right? According to a Barna study most pastors (57 percent) and youth pastors (64 percent) admit they’ve struggled with porn, either currently or in the past. The vast majority of pastors who struggle with porn say this has significantly affected their ministries in a negative way.

You need to make sure to ask the tough life-questions: When was the last time you viewed pornography? Have you ever been addicted to pornography or any other substance—alcohol, tobacco and prescription drugs? How did you break the cycle and where are you with that struggle today?

This isn’t meant to try to weed them out but to understand their struggles and to know, up front, both their scars and their views on holiness—and grace.

4. Hiring without clearly understanding leadership style and strengths.

First, you need to know what kind of leader you think will fit the culture of your ministry best. This doesn’t mean you need to filter out every candidate who doesn’t fit the description—but it does give you a starting point.

It’s wise to ask every candidate to fill out an evaluation like Strengths Finder 2.0 or Gallup’s Strength Center to find out where each candidate lands on the leadership scale and their unique combination of strengths.

There are so many different leadership styles and you want to know what will fit best with your culture—and communicate it clearly. So many churches hire based on charisma and past experience and totally forget that every leader has a unique wiring that will either endear them to your culture or prove to be a tension point.

5. Hiring with too much emphasis on the resume

A resume is a great starting point, but some churches put too much stock in past ministry experience or descriptions of ministry success. In this way, the resume can often cloud the judgment of search committees.

The resume is meant to be a launching point to identify potential candidates, but it’s not a good end-all for evaluating a potential fit. The resume just gets the ball rolling, but it doesn’t make up for live interaction, real teaching/preaching, and ministry interaction live and in person.

These are all critical aspects and should weigh just as much—if not more—than the paper resume when it comes to hiring.

Don’t get caught resume gazing. Count the real stuff. Anyone can write a beautiful work history, but that doesn’t mean they can recreate it with you.

6. Hiring with urgency and not prayer

Don’t make the mistake of doing all the legwork, but leaving out the most important aspect of any ministry decision: prayer.

Remember, before the Jesus chose his disciples, he went out to a mountainside to pray and spent the night with God.

Paul also wrote this: “Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God” (Philippians 4:6 NIV).

Take time to pray and fast, personally, and call on a larger group of leaders to do the same. This is perhaps the most important aspect of any hiring process within the church, but it’s amazing how often it’s overlooked.

Pray hard. Pray often. And involve others in specific prayer during the hiring process.

7. Hiring charisma over character

This one probably hurts more churches than all other hiring mistakes. It’s easy for us to be enamored by the bold and contagious traits of a charismatic leader and, in doing so, give a blind eye to serious red flags in character.

Pastor Rick Warren says, “Plenty of highly charismatic leaders have bombed out and failed because they lacked character, which trumps charisma every time.” Remember this as you go through the hiring process. Charisma isn’t bad, but if it’s not accompanied by solid character it’s a recipe for future ministry disaster.

Because it’s true: Character trumps charisma every time. Hiring matters. Hiring mistakes hurt.

Summing it all up, when it comes to hiring mistakes, don’t take shortcuts, don’t ignore red flags or fail to do the heavy lifting of prayer and evaluation. In the end, you might have to say no to multiple candidates, but with every no you’re literally stewarding your church’s financing (and future) with great wisdom.

 

Faith Leaders Respond to Trump Shot in Ear During Rally; 1 Killed, 2 Critically Injured

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A possible assassination attempt on former President Donald Trump’s life took place today (July 13) during a rally in Butler, Pennsylvania.

A statement released by the U.S. Secret Service says that at “approximately 6:15 p.m., a suspected shooter fired multiple shots toward the stage from an elevated position outside of the rally venue. US Secret Service personnel neutralized the shooter, who is now deceased.”

“US Secret Service quickly responded with protective measures and the former president is safe and being evaluated,” the statement added. “One spectator was killed, two spectators were critically injured. The incident is currently under investigation and the Secret Service has formally notified the Federal Bureau of Investigation.”

Expected to officially become the Republican nominee for president at next week’s Republican National Convention, Trump posted on Truth Social, thanking the “United States Secret Service and all of Law Enforcement, for their rapid response on the shooting that just took place in Butler, Pennsylvania.”

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However, Trump said, “most importantly, I want to extend my condolences to the family of the person at the Rally who was killed, and also to the family of another person that was badly injured.”

“It is incredible that such an act can take place in our Country,” Trump added. “Nothing is known at this time about the shooter, who is now dead.”

Trump shared that he was “shot with a bullet that pierced the upper part of my right ear” and that he “knew immediately that something was wrong in that I heard a whizzing sound, shots, and immediately felt the bullet ripping through the skin. Much bleeding took place, so I realized then what was happening.” Trump concluded by saying, “GOD BLESS AMERICA!”

Video of the rally shows Trump taking cover as soon as he realized he was the target of gunfire. At that moment, United States Secret Service agents shielded the former President with their bodies while the area was being secured. As they took him off the stage, Trump turned to the crowd, with blood coming from his right ear running down his cheek, raised his fist and yelled, “Fight! Fight! Fight!”

Surrounded by Secret Service agents, Trump was able to walk to his vehicle where they immediately rushed him to an undisclosed facility in order to receive medical attention.

Warning: Graphic video

Church Leaders, Politicians, and Christian Influencers Respond

President Joe Biden posted on X that he had been “briefed on the shooting at Donald Trump’s rally in Pennsylvania. I’m grateful to hear that he’s safe and doing well. I’m praying for him and his family and for all those who were at the rally, as we await further information.”

“Jill and I are grateful to the Secret Service for getting him to safety,” he added. “There’s no place for this kind of violence in America. We must unite as one nation to condemn it.”

“May God protect all who serve us,” Southern Baptist Theological Seminary President Al Mohler said. “Thankful former President Trump is safe. We need to know what happened here. This kind of attack is an attack upon our entire political system and our commitment to ordered liberty. Let’s pray for our nation.”

Ed Stetzer, editor-in-chief of Outreach Magazine and dean of Talbot School of Theology at Biola University, wrote, “I’m not going to post the video, but I am praying for former President Trump…and for our nation right now. I hope you will join me.”

Franklin Graham, president and CEO of Samaritan’s Purse and the Billy Graham Evangelistic Association, posted, “I thank God that former President @realDonaldTrump is alive. Our prayers are also with the others injured at the rally today and the family of the individual who was killed.”

How One Word Changes Your Perspective in a Season of Difficulty

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“Why?”

It’s a question every parent is familiar with. And, at least in my experience, it’s both beautiful and annoying at the same time. It’s beautiful in the sense that it exposes the natural curiosity and wonder of our children. It shows us their seemingly insatiable desire to discover and know. It propels them into greater and greater learning as they encounter more and more of the world around them. But it’s also annoying.

It’s annoying because most of the time, there is no end to it. Your kids ask you “why” something is, and the majority of the time, that only leads to another “why” question. You can explain and explain and explain and yet there is still more to explain, until at some point, most every parent answers the “why” question like this:

“Just because.”

Kids grow, and as they do, they also tend to ask “why” less and less. It doesn’t disappear entirely, but it’s like that natural sense of wonder gets beaten out of them. Their creative curiosity starts to ebb, and it’s as if they care less and less about the reasons behind certain things. They begin to accept that things are the way they are and they no longer need an explanation for it. And then they become adults. They become us. And we don’t ask the “why” question a whole lot. But when we do, we usually do it out of a posture of pain.

We are hurting because of disease, death, destruction or else the general chaos we see in the world around us. We can accept a lot, but every once in a while that chaos becomes too personal and too overwhelming for us to accept much more. And so, like children, we once again cry out, “Why?”

  • Why is my wife sick?

  • Why can’t I find a job?

  • Why is there so much anger in the world?

  • Why is God allowing this to happen?

But here is a difficult question to ask ourselves during these kinds of “why” seasons: Would knowing the “why” really help us? We think it would, but I don’t know—I’m not sure that knowing all the cosmic reasons behind this event or that one would actually be the balm on our wounds we think it would. Knowing the “why” doesn’t take the pain away. Not really.

Job, when he was stricken with all kinds of suffering, went on a quest for answers. He sought understanding—the mysterious “why” behind his troubles. He wasn’t content with the explanations of his friends, and pressed into God asking the hard questions most of us shy away from.

In Job 38, God started talking back. He answered Job out of a whirlwind, which must have been more than a little disconcerting. But after these 37 chapters of accusations, questions, and pain, the answer God gave was not the “Why?” Job was looking for. It was the “Who” he wasn’t.

For the next four chapters, God talked about…himself. He talked about his power and his creativity. He talked about his wisdom and his justice. And he reminded Job that he, as a human, possessed none of those qualities in comparison to the Almighty. Never once did God crack the door of eternity and say, “See, this whole thing started when Satan came walking in here…”

Never once did he take Job into the future to show him the good that would come from his struggle. Never once did he reveal the way He would redeem Job’s pain. Never did God show Job one of the billions of Bibles that would be printed in the future, all containing his story. Not one single answer to Job’s specific questions. Just descriptions of himself.

This is often where the “why” leads us—it leads us not to specific answers but to God. And that is a very good thing.

I wonder, though, if there is another word we can change, by God’s grace, during seasons of difficulty that will also dramatically change our perspective. What is instead of asking “why,” we began asking “what”?

Pastor: 8 Ways To Refresh Your Soul

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Peter Drucker, one of the world’s greatest leadership experts, once listed what he considered the four hardest jobs in the world. Here are those four: President of the United States, a university president, a CEO of a hospital, and a pastor. Wow, strong words from a wise man. Although I’ve not held the first three jobs, I have served as a pastor for over 35 years. It can be tough and pastors must care for their souls. Consider these 8 ways to refresh your soul.

8 Ways to Refresh Your Soul

1. Do something totally different from ministry.

Often pastors spend even their free time on ministry related pursuits and thoughts. Consider doing something totally different from the ministry vein. I once took improv classes I found very refreshing to my soul.

2. Be okay with taking care of you.

Pete Scazzero, most known for emotionally healthy spirituality, learned this the hard way and wrote these words.

“The degree to which you love yourself corresponds to the degree to which you love others. Caring for ourselves was difficult for us to do without feeling guilty. We unwittingly thought that dying to ourselves for the sake of the gospel meant dying to marital intimacy and joy in life. We had died to something God had never intended we die to.”

3. Keep healthy boundaries with others.

A boundary is a line that helps define those things for which we are responsible. They define who we are and who we are not; when properly managed they can bring us great freedom with others in our churches. I recommend Henry Cloud and John Townsend’s bestseller Boundaries for better understanding.

5 Reasons Why People Don’t Volunteer

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If you’ve been in children’s ministry any length of time, then you know just how essential volunteers are.

Like flowers need sunshine.

Like sails need the wind.

Like birds need wings.

Children’s ministry NEEDS volunteers.

Also, if you’ve been in children’s ministry longer than a day, then you know just how scarce those special people we call volunteers can be.

Know of any church that has all their volunteer spots filled?

Me neither.

There could be many reasons why people don’t volunteer in children’s ministry.

Some of those reasons we can do nothing about. They are simply out of our control.

However, many of the reasons that keep people away from children’s ministry can be addressed and fixed.

I hope that this blog post will help you evaluate your current volunteer situation and provide you with at least one actionable step towards improving it.

REASON #1
People are either not called to children’s ministry or in a season of life where children’s ministry is not right for them.

In the Kingdom of God and in the family of God, there are all kinds of things that need to be done. God calls and equips different people for different kinds of work.

Youth ministry, prison ministry, men and women’s ministry, food pantry, caring for widows and orphans, financial mentoring, music, maintenance, administration, hospitality, tech, and on, and on, and on.

The needs and opportunities are endless, and children’s ministry is just one item on a long list.

Also, even if someone is called to children’s ministry, they may be in a stage of life where it’s not right for them… for a season.

Examples include (but are not limited to) people who are…

  • Experiencing health challenges

  • In the middle of a lengthy and challenging adoption process

  • Caring for an elderly parent who just moved in with them

  • Preparing to get married

This is one reason that we can do nothing about, but it is an important one to acknowledge. And here’s why:

  • So you don’t take it personally when someone says no to you. INSTEAD: Encourage them to find their place in God’s story and/or celebrate when they step out to serve God even if it’s not in the children’s ministry arena.

  • So you don’t view other ministries as your competition and avoid the comparison trap. All work is God’s work, and ultimately it is His job to decide — Who? Where? and When? (For case study, check out Peter’s pity party in John 21:18-23.)

  • So you can continue to love and encourage people when they are not “useful” to the children’s ministry. Even when someone needs to step down for a season, it doesn’t mean that our relationship should stop. On the contrary, they may need us now more than ever before.

Now that the first reason is out of the way, let’s take a look at the other four that you can actually do something about.

REASON #2
People don’t understand what they are being asked to do.

Saying, “We need more people in children’s ministry” sounds vague and uninspiring.

People won’t volunteer if it takes too much work to find out what it’s all about.

SOLUTION: Break volunteer responsibilities down into things people can picture, and they are more likely to respond.

“We need 5 more people in our 1st grade class — to build friendships, make church fun and help kids experience Jesus. We’ll bring all the snacks and lesson supplies, and you’ll just show up ready to high-five, smile, listen, and talk about our Jesus.”

For an example of a clear recruitment campaign, check out Honey, I Shrunk KidMin campaign.

Steve Cuss: Quieting Your Inner Critic and Finding Your True Self

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How can we better identify and address the challenges we face as ministry leaders with inner doubts, anxiety, reactivity, and criticism? In this week’s conversation on FrontStage BackStage, host Jason Daye is joined by Steve Cuss. Steve is a pastor, former chaplain, and founder of Capable Life. He speaks, consults, and hosts workshops to help people integrate emotional and spiritual health. He’s a best-selling author, and his latest book is titled “The Expectation Gap.” Together, Steve and Jason look at how we can dismantle the false self that we often accept and uncover our true selves that God created us to be. Steve also provides some incredibly practical tools to help us contain our inner critic and encounter God at a deeper level.

FrontStage BackStage Podcast With Steve Cuss

View the entire podcast here.

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Gateway Church’s Prison Ministries Campus Pastor Served Time for ‘Indecency With a Child’; Victim Was His 13-Year-Old Student

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Gateway Church leadership has more questions to answer in the wake of the resignation of senior pastor and founder Robert Morris amid allegations that he sexually abused a 12-year-old girl in the 1980s.

In a recent article, The Roys Report pointed out that Gateway Church’s Prison Ministries Campus Pastor, Stephen Wilson, is a known convicted sex offender.

Editor’s note: This article contains information about child sex abuse and assault that some readers might find disturbing and/or triggering.

According to an article written by Outreach Magazine’s Jonathan Sprowl in 2019, Wilson was a former middle school teacher and coach who was found guilty in 2002 of attempting “indecency with a child” after he had an “inappropriate relationship with one of his high school students.”

Wilson was arrested on July 30, 2002, and charged with a third-degree felony. He served time in prison and had to register as a sex offender for 10 years. He also forfeited his teaching license.

RELATED: Robert Morris Resigns as Gateway Church’s Senior Pastor Following Sexual Abuse Allegations

local news article from 2002 indicated that Wilson was charged with “three counts of indecency with a child.” Two of the counts involved Wilson touching of the girl’s breasts and genitals, records show. The third count, according to the Assistant District Attorney Jay Lapham, involved “his causing her to touch his genitals.”

Wilson told Outreach Magazine that although he grew up in church, he only possessed “head knowledge” and didn’t actually submit his life to Christ until he was in prison.

While in prison, Wilson witnessed fellow inmates “holding hands and praying in a circle.” Wilson said what he saw “blew [him] away.”

“I’d never thought about those things happening in prison,” he said. “So I just said, ‘Okay, God, I get it. When I get out, I’m going to come back and reach those guys just like that.’”

RELATED: Pastor Robert Morris Ministries Cancels ‘All Future Radio and Television Broadcast Ministry’; Morris Receives No Severance From Gateway

Following his release from prison, Wilson obtained his M.A. in Discipleship Ministries from Liberty University. He started his G3 Prison Ministries non-profit in 2008. The ministry later partnered with Gateway’s Global Ministry in 2011. According to the church’s website, Wilson joined Gateway Church’s staff in 2019 for the purposes of developing and implementing an “internal prison ministry at Gateway.”

‘We Don’t Need You’—Serena Williams Slams Harrison Butker at ESPY Awards

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Serena Williams (L), Quinta Brunson (C), and Venus Williams (R) onstage at the 2024 ESPY Awards. Screengrab from X / @awfulannouncing

Tennis phenomenon Serena Williams slammed Kansas City Chiefs kicker Harrison Butker at the ESPY Awards Thursday night. Williams hosted the show, and by many accounts, Butker was in the audience.

Williams was onstage with her sister, Venus, and “Abbot Elementary” star Quinta Brunson, as the three celebrated women’s sports. “So, go ahead and enjoy women’s sports like you would any other sports, because they are sports,” said Venus.

“Except you, Harrison Butker. We don’t need you,” Serena said as the audience laughed and applauded in response. Brunson added, “At all. Like, ever.” 

One clip of this exchange has received 9.7 million views as of this writing.

Harrison Butker Appears on ESPY Red Carpet

“ESPY” stands for “Excellence in Sports Performance Yearly.” The awards show is hosted by ESPN in partnership with ABC News and recognizes the top athletes and teams in sports from the preceding calendar year. Various well-known athletes and other celebrities attend the event.

The 32nd annual show streamed live Thursday at 8:00 p.m. Eastern Time at the Dolby Theatre in Los Angeles. Harrison Butker appeared on the red carpet prior to the event and was reportedly in the audience during the show, although cameras did not show his reaction to the jab.

The kicker, an outspoken Catholic, generated controversy in May for a commencement address he gave at Benedictine College, a Catholic liberal arts college in Atchison, Kansas. In his speech, Butker took aim at Pride Month and President Joe Biden, but the comments he made that have received the most attention from the media were those he made to the women in attendance

Butker encouraged both men and women to lean into their respective callings, exhorting men to fight “against the cultural emasculation of men. Do hard things. Never settle for what is easy.” The kicker told the women in attendance that they have been told “diabolical lies.”

“Many of you are sitting here now about to cross this stage and are thinking about all the promotions and titles you are going to get in your career,” said Butker. “But I would venture to guess that the majority of you are most excited about your marriage and the children you will bring into this world.”

Steven Furtick’s Son Follows Up Controversial Rap Album With One Filled With Faith and Worship Themes

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Elijah Furtick, teenage son of megachurch Pastor Steven Furtick, has released a third album. Titled “Truly Follow Jesus Christ,” it seems to reflect more of a faith focus than the rapper’s previous material.

Furtick, who turns 19 later this month, goes by the stage name Do the Dash. The nine tracks on his new album, which dropped in May, include “Truly Follow You” and “My Life Is in Your Hands.”

The song “Good Good” features Grammy and Dove Award-winner Nate Diaz, and “Your Love Does” features Grammy Award-winning worship leader Chandler Moore. Moore is a co-founder of Maverick City Music.

Elijah Furtick’s Previous Album Sparked Controversy

Elijah Furtick’s dad, Steven Furtick, is senior pastor of Elevation Church in North Carolina. When Elijah dropped “TEEN MACHINE” in March 2022, his father praised the rap album, even though songs contained references to guns, underage drinking, oral sex, and bragging about excessive amounts of money. Elijah doesn’t swear on that album, but it received a Parental Advisory label.

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As ChurchLeaders reported, Steven Furtick posted at the time that he was proud of Elijah, saying his son inspired him. But Christian rapper Ruslan expressed concerns about multiple lyrics. In songs on “TEEN MACHINE,” Elijah sings about his designer clothing, diamond necklaces, breaking the bank, and turning heads when he walks in the bank.

Ruslan said these references could give the appearance that the money came at the expense of his father’s church, book sales, and preaching engagements. When Ruslan tried to reach out to the Furticks with his concerns, he said they blocked him online.

On Easter 2024, Steven Furtick generated controversy for wearing a pink sweater that reportedly cost $2,000.

The pastor doesn’t appear to have publicly commented yet on his son’s latest album. In May, Holly Furtick posted about the new release, writing on Instagram, “I am so proud of @elijahfurtick.”

Some Biblical Lyrics From Elijah Furtick’s New Album

On the song “You Mean Everything,” Elijah refers to God as the Alpha and Omega and sings portions of Romans 8:28. In “When You Move,” the singer describes how God is in control of his life.

South Carolina Pastor Fired After Church Learned He Is a Registered Sex Offender

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A South Carolina church has fired its pastor after it became widely known that he is a registered sex offender. 

Church elders of Eternal Church in Fort Mill admitted that some of them knew Don Logan had been convicted of sexual misconduct with a 14-year-old. However, not all of the voting members of the board were informed prior to Logan being hired as the church’s pastor in 2014. 

According to Indiana court records, Logan pleaded guilty to a felony charge of sexual misconduct with a minor as part of a plea agreement in 1997. He was sentenced to three years imprisonment, with an additional three years suspended pending his adherence to probation.

Logan was 29 years old at the time of the crime. 

As part of the agreement, the court also ruled that Logan “relinquish his minister’s license, that he have no contact with any minor without adult supervision, and his type of employment is approved by the Court and Probation Department.”

The congregation had not been informed of Logan’s past, and some of the church’s elders did not become aware of Logan’s child sex crime until it was reported in the media. 

According to Fort Mill Sun, church leaders told the congregation on Sunday (July 7) that Logan had been placed on leave in light of the revelation of his past crime, as well as for his health. Logan had previously undergone treatment for cancer. 

During that service, Jacob Collins, the church’s pastor of growth, and Lorne James, a church elder, both expressed their hope that Logan would remain the church’s pastor. 

Collins explained that Logan had pleaded guilty to a felony charge of sexual misconduct with a minor and was sentenced to three years imprisonment. Logan was released after 18 months. 

“During his time in prison, Pastor Don had a profound encounter with Jesus, repented and was transformed,” Collins said.

While Logan had been required to register as a sex offender in Indiana, where the crime occurred, the requirement was only for a set number of years and had expired. However, Logan learned earlier this year that he was required by law to register in South Carolina. 

“This information has triggered past wounds of abuse and eroded trust in church leadership,” Collins said.

James referred to the requirement that Logan register as a sex offender as “a scarlet letter.” 

“We should have seen it coming. I am sorry that we did not. We should have been ready to make sure that if, at some point, if it does come up in the media, that it wasn’t such a surprise,” he said. “This inaction has been exploited by us not being proactive. It’s allowed Satan to have a foothold here. And I want that to end, and I want that to end now.”

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“It breaks my heart that the laws in this state are such that Don had to go and register with the state of South Carolina. I hate it. I don’t like what it has done to his family. I don’t like the way it has hurt my brother and sister, and to see it used against them,” James said. “This has always been fully adjudicated in the legal system. It was in public record. It was Don’s story to share.”

After Debate, Black Churchgoers Often Support but Begin To Question Biden

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President Joe Biden joins senior pastor Bishop J. Louis Felton during a church service at Mount Airy Church of God in Christ, Sunday, July 7, 2024, in Philadelphia. (AP Photo/Manuel Balce Ceneta)

(RNS) — With President Joe Biden sitting over his right shoulder, Bishop J. Louis Felton made it clear as he stood in his Philadelphia pulpit how he felt about the continuing candidacy of his guest.

“If we ever lock arms and come together, there’s no election that we cannot win,
there’s no enemy that we cannot defeat,” said the senior pastor of Mount Airy Church of God in Christ at a campaign event on Sunday (July 7). “We are together because we love our president,” Felton said, as his congregants cheered in agreement.

“We are together because we love our president. We pray for our president. We ask that you continue to give him strength. He’s an Eagles fan. Renew his youth like the eagles. Let him mount up with wings as eagles, run and not be weary, walk and not faint.”

Just before Felton’s prayerful affirmation, a gospel choir had sung a song with lyrics that included the words “You are important to me. I need you to survive.”

In the wake of Biden’s widely panned debate performance Biden against former President Donald Trump, there is strong support as well as a plethora of questions from a wide array of Americans, including those in the country’s Black churches, long considered a significant part of Biden’s base.

At Mount Airy, when Biden concluded his seven-minute remarks in which he praised the power of the faith of Black churches “in good times and in tough times” — members of the church chanted “four more years.”

On the other hand, another Church of God in Christ minister, the Rev. Karl Anderson of Gainesville, Florida, said he’s hearing no-voting threats and “serious” fear — despite the biblical command against it — from the barbershop to the texts that interrupted his attendance at an international COGIC convention in St. Louis on the night of the debate.

“I’m getting text messages from people back home, saying, ‘Pastor, what are we going to do? it’s not looking good,’” Anderson recalled. “I’m getting text messages from family members: ‘Cuz, it’s not looking good. I don’t know what we’re going to do. Man, we got to pray.’”

A Thursday report from Pew Research Center shows that registered voters said if they only had Biden and Trump as candidate choices, 50% would side with the former president, compared with 47% with the incumbent. Trump has greater support among white voters (50% to 36%) while Biden has the greater share of Black voters (64% to 13%, with 21% supporting third-party candidate Robert F. Kennedy Jr.).

While Protestants overall favor Trump (55% to 29%, with 15% supporting Kennedy), Black Protestants favor Biden (65% to 11%, with 22% supporting Kennedy).

The survey, taken July 1-7, follows an April 8-14 survey that did not include questions about Kennedy. The earlier survey found 48% of registered voters favoring Biden and 49% for Trump. Protestants overall favored Trump (60% to 38%), while Black Protestants gave Biden more support (77% to 18%).

The numbers show, before and after the debate, that there is not monolithic Black church support for Biden.

The Day Everything Changed for Me

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I was a scared, scarred, fatherless kid in North Denver wondering how in the world I ever got stuck in a family full of bodybuilders and street fighters.

As a nervous, quiet, bookish boy, I did not fit into my wild family.

Terrified by the relentless loudness and intensity of my always-ready-to-fight family, I used to hide underneath the kitchen sink with nothing but my little red King James Version Bible and a flashlight. Although I knew the answers to all my troubles were in that book, I couldn’t get past the Shakespearean language to the actual meaning of the words.

So I stayed confused.

My Baptist grandparents always took me to church, where I tried to understand how to be saved. But phrases like “confess all your sins” and “ask Jesus into your heart” confused me. I thought if I forgot to confess one sin I’d go to Hell. I thought if Jesus came into my heart and then I got a heart transplant I would lose my salvation.

The Dawning of Hope

On Sunday, June 23, 1974—50 years ago today as I write this—I asked my grandpa to walk the aisle with me so I could publicly declare my intention to get water-baptized. I figured that I had asked Jesus into my heart a thousand times, so one of them had to take.

As I walked the aisle with my grandpa, I could feel the sanctuary full of Baptist eyes on me. Pastor Claud Pettit waited at the front of the stage as the organ music played. When we reached the front, he asked me why I had come forward. I told him I wanted to get baptized.

He then said these life-altering words: “Before you get baptized, you must be a Christian. That means you believe Jesus died in your place for your sins on the cross and that he rose from the dead three days later. That means that you have trusted in Jesus to save you from your sin. Have you done that?”

In a millisecond it all clicked. That was the clearest presentation of the Gospel I had ever heard. Quickly, in the depths of my soul I uttered the words, “I trust in you, Jesus, to save me from my sins” and then answered “YES” to Pastor Pettit’s question.

He had no idea he had just led me to the Lord.

As he announced to the church my intention to get water-baptized, everyone clapped. But it was as though I could hear the angels of Heaven applauding, celebrating my conversion.

In that moment, the fear and trepidation that had defined my eight circles around the sun disappeared.

Pastor, Your Church Needs You To Rest and Take a Vacation

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There are two types of sleep: BC and AD. Before Children and After Death. God does not take naps, but you might need one. Far too many pastors do not get a proper cycle of rest. In the fourth commandment, God set up a pattern of work and rest. This pattern goes back to the creation account in which God rested on the seventh day.

Notice the connection between rest and salvation in Psalm 62: “I am at rest in God alone; my salvation comes from him.” True rest is found only in God’s salvation. In the Old Testament, we have the promise of rest from God. In the New Testament, we learn how to enter this rest—only through Jesus. You cannot properly point people to eternal rest in Christ if you are not rested spiritually and physically.

Generally, Americans are restless. In the 1940s, the average American got right at eight hours of sleep per night. Today, the average is under seven hours. We are burnt out, worn out, tired, sleepy, and cooked. Our first two movements in the morning are to stop the alarm clock and look at the cell phone.

Everyone needs rest. Taking a sabbath is important. Taking a vacation is important.

Pastors should model proper behavior. Part of leadership is showing the way. It is hypocritical to teach about spiritual health if you’re not accounting for your own physical health. A fat slob of a preacher will never effectively communicate spiritual disciplines. A workaholic pastor cannot possibly communicate moderation honestly.

Pastors are not the heroes of their churches. You need this reminder. Your church needs this reminder. If you lead well, then you will equip enough people to serve while you take a quick breather. Entire ministries are built around the charisma of a talented leader. Clearly, this model is wrong and completely unsustainable. However, it’s just as wrong to believe your church cannot possibly operate for a Sunday or two in your absence. Both models—the charismatic hero and the worker bee hero—are misguided.

Your family needs more of your time. Rare is the pastor who is dedicating too much time to family. Most pastors have created idols of their churches at the expense of their families. Idol worship is always destructive and never beneficial. Take a vacation and kill your idols.

Creativity needs to be recharged. Like a battery, creative energy often needs a recharge. You can operate on low power for quite some time. You can lead through weariness, but creativity almost always suffers. Take a vacation and come back a more energized and creative leader.

God created fun. Neglecting fun is neglecting a part of God. Go and have fun with your family. We don’t need any more curmudgeon pastors.

Physical rest is good for the soul. There are those who believe the answer to their unrest is simply working harder, doing more, and justifying themselves. The harder you work to find rest apart from God, the more restless you become. True rest comes when you trust in Christ’s work, not your own. That’s the point of the atonement—Christ’s work on our behalf. If you’re not resting regularly, then you’re relying on your own efforts, not those of Jesus.

This article originally appeared here.

The Church Is More Than a Content Producer

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I recently heard a church leader explaining a lesson that the church can learn from Starbucks. He said, “People value convenience over community.” He explained that for years Howard Schultz and other leaders at Starbucks sold Starbucks as a place of community, a third space, where people could meet and engage with one another. “Now,” this pastor explained, “what people really value is convenience.  Starbucks has learned this, and the church is going to have to learn this as well.”

This pastor was basically saying that the church is content. To paraphrase his thoughts, he was saying that the church is the great content that church leaders provide. People used to have to “go to the store” with other customers to get this content, but now they don’t have time for that. They still want our products but with convenience.

Aggregation versus Congregation

When I was growing up, churches were building big buildings, or in some cases making an idol out of their building, and people would warn, “The church is not a building.” Then came a rise of superstar pastors and cool worship bands, and people would warn, “The church is not an event.” But now, in an age of streaming media, we need to be reminded that “the church is not content.”

The Greek word ecclesia, translated “church,” is probably best understood as the assembly, gathering, or congregation of people called out by the gospel of Jesus and joined together with one another and with him. Church, or ecclesia, has more to do with the people than the building, the event, and certainly the content that people consume. The church is necessarily about community, and there is an emphasis throughout the scriptures, particularly in the New Testament, urging Christians towards one another.

I heard a pastor describe the difference between an aggregation and a congregation by comparing them to a sack of marbles and a cluster of grapes. He said that the church is not an aggregation, a group of people gathered together but disconnected like marbles, but rather a congregation, a group of people joined together organically, like a cluster of grapes, and necessarily bound with one another. The vision of our Lord for his church is that it would be a congregation, not an aggregation. The church is not made up of fellow customers who are enjoying and consuming the same kind of coffee; it is a family who, though it may be enjoying coffee together, is primarily focusing on one another.

Content Machines

Before COVID-19, many “leading” churches had begun to organize themselves around content. Some had an “online campus” that you could join from anywhere in the world, complete with “online pastors.” But most churches were still oriented around their congregations. Pastors were focused on pastoring, groups were focused on community, deacons were focused on meeting the practical needs of the body, and the church members were generally focused on one another.

Then COVID hit, and churches became content-producing machines. Many churches (including my own) that had no streaming service began streaming services weekly. We launched new podcasts or lunchtime conversations, and we shared music, updates, and Bible study material all over the internet. These capabilities provided an incredible crutch for us in these hard times, and this new content was an excellent means by which church leaders could stay connected to their people. But now, as we face re-opening, let’s remember that all of this was just a crutch.

The other night I was walking through my basement, and I saw a pair of crutches that I used after a skiing injury last year. When I hurt myself, I really needed them, but now I am well. I can walk rightly again, and the appropriate place for my crutches is in my basement. I say that to say, as the church begins to open up, we need to fight against the urge to continue to depend on our crutches. As church leaders, we need to shift our focus from merely “providing content” (though biblical truth will remain central to our ministry) to our people.

So, as you begin to re-open the church, here are a few things to think through . . .

Connect with your Members (one another)

If you are a church leader of any kind, from the Senior Pastor to a Group Leader to an involved member, this is a great time to be connecting with your church. If coming together continues to get safer, then this will be a great time to call your fellow church members, to set up a coffee or a walk, and to seek relationship with your brothers and sisters in Christ that you haven’t seen in a while.

Remind Your Church about Church Membership

Tim Keller recently said in an interview that every church is basically going to be a “replant” in the coming months. While this is likely a threat to the church as an institution, I think it is good for the true church of Jesus Christ. It will allow us to rethink and reprioritize what we focus on as a church, and my hope for your church is that you would be focused on people and disciple-making. This “re-opening season” would be a good time to teach on what the church is and to remind the church of the numerous and clear “one another” commands in the New Testament.

Remove the Crutches (at the appropriate time)

If you really want your church to have a “full recovery,” at some point you will have to remove the crutches. While producing helpful online content for church members is valuable, it can also be a hindrance to real relationships that churches need. There are many benefits to a livestream service or Zoom Bible studies, particularly for those who are physically unable to attend, but these benefits can also be a hindrance to meaningful relationships and the necessary congregational aspect of a local church. If you are a church leader, I want to remind you that just because you started doing something during COVID-19 and just because it was a good crutch in this unprecedented time, that doesn’t mean that you have to keep doing it as life returns to normal. (To be clear, we are still not close to normal, so these crutches may be necessary for many more months.)

The church may have a thing or two to learn from Starbucks, but how we prioritize community in a local church is not one of them. There will be many voices in the coming months talking about a “new normal” for the Christian church. This could be a time when many well-meaning people who are actually more focused on goats than sheep can inadvertently lead the flock away from green pastures and towards the wolves. Make sure you are listening for the Galilean accent of our True Shepherd. He is the one who really loves his church and truly knows what is best for us.

This article originally appeared here.

4 Ways to Successfully Navigate Change

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Great leaders manage change well. Great pastors also manage change well. But it’s not easy. In my research for my book, Brain-Savvy Leaders: the Science of Significant Ministry, I learned that brain insight can help us navigate change successfully. Consider these 4 ways to successfully navigate change. (Reprinted by permission from Brain-Savvy Leaders).

4 Ways to Successfully Navigate Change

1. Keep others informed and welcome their input.

Build into your change buy-in plan specific dates when you will communicate progress. Tell your team how you will evaluate progress and when you will report it. Bring all your key players into the conversation. If they feel they are in the “out” group, resistance to change will be higher, as it creates an away response, a response that hinders followership. Be thorough in your assessments. If the change is not going as planned, be honest yet focus on solutions, not problems. Give hope.

Elicit feedback from several sources, not just from those at the top of your organizational chart. The more collaborative your evaluation process, the more successfully you can navigate change. When others feel that they contributed to the evaluation process, they sense more freedom and thus more ownership.

2. Acknowledge that change is scary.

When you talk about the progress you’re making, continue to verbalize that you understand how difficult and scary change can be. Be sure that you don’t speak in a patronizing way that implies that it’s difficult for your team and not for you. Let them know that it’s scary for you as well, another way to build empathy, an important leadership competency. Help your team realize that it’s normal to feel unsettled during change and that it will pass.

What Is Your Personal Canon?

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A couple of years ago a spiritual director at a retreat center asked those in attendance to think about the passages of scripture we found most inspiring. I know–it’s all inspired, but that doesn’t mean that all of the scripture inspires me. Some of it confuses me, some of it comforts me, and yes, some of it inspires me. He was asking us to reflect on our personal canon.

What Is Your Personal Canon?

There are passages to which I return again and again. They never fail to speak to me. There are books of the Bible that seem to have been written to me personally. Genesis, Isaiah, and Hosea call to me from the Old Testament. I turn to them again and again. Luke, Acts, Colossians and both epistles of Peter are my default pages when I turn to the New. How about you?

When we take time to consider which books of the Bible speak most clearly in our lives we begin to discover something about ourselves. Why do certain books, certain passages, certain stories have the power to move us again and again? What does it say about me? What does it say about my strengths and my weaknesses, my calling and my God-given temperament? What did God Himself have in mind for me when he crafted the combination of my mental, physical, and emotional traits?

Holiness is True Freedom

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What if true freedom defies our current, common categories?

I was recently a guest on a podcast with a good friend and amazing leader. We talked about the Asbury Outpouring for one thing, and then about holiness.

She asked me what I thought holiness meant, especially in the aftermath of the outpouring.

My answer surprised me. “Freedom.”

Holiness is True Freedom

Holiness means freedom. It’s not sheer moral purity, though that is often a result. It’s something much more than that.

What drew people to the holiest human being who ever lived—Jesus? It was the beauty of holiness (Ps. 96:9), his set-apart-for-God-ness.

He embodied a life, wholly free.

Free from what?

Free from the sickness of sin.

Let’s cut to the chase. Sin makes us sick. Missing the mark makes us sick. Reveling in dark thoughts and motives and judgements makes us sick.

Being set apart for Jesus—set apart from my old ways and old thoughts and old patterns and old feelings—is the only cure for the heart.

And if the heart is cured, humanity will be cured.

Make no mistake, Jesus was piercing the heart of the world with a human revolution. No government by the people, for the people, can compare.

And the Holy Spirit leads us to this freedom. Holiness is allowing the Holy Spirit to make us like Jesus in every respect. It is a gift the Lord gives, and we lean into it.

We don’t repent because we have to—we repent because we get to.

We don’t consecrate ourselves to Jesus because its our obligation—we consecrate ourselves to Jesus because it is his invitation.

I, for one, am tired of being un-free.

I for one, am tired of being sick with sin—mistrust, self-dependence, fear, hatred, lovelessness, aggravation and irritation and frustration of the kinds that flow from a heart divided, a soul spent injuriously in the wrong places.

Sin doesn’t age well; it looks worse on us, and feels worse in us, as the years progress.

Jesus, I want true freedom. I want holiness. I want anything out of the way that separates me from the incredible love you have for me. And I want healing. All of it. From my mental anguish and incessant return to old patterns of thinking and feeling and acting.

Children’s Ministry Illness Policy: How to Protect Students & Teachers

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Why do you need a children’s ministry illness policy? And what type of information should it contain? Read on to learn about best practices for keeping everyone safe.

I love fall and winter, when kids come to church and Sunday school in puffy coats. They’re like little ministry marshmallows. Then comes the harsh reminder that this also means it’s cold and flu season. Post-pandemic, that seems to be a bit scarier each year. All types of illnesses wreak havoc on our country and on parents’ sense of safety.

Wouldn’t it be awesome if those puffy coats gave off a mist of Lysol whenever they were squished? I may be on to something here.

As a children’s ministry leader, I realize how many kids (and germs) we come in contact with and how often. The average child gets between six to eight colds a year. So the immune system of every kidmin worker is probably working overtime.

Why You Need a Children’s Ministry Illness Policy

While working on our children’s ministry illness policy, I discovered it was outdated. You might ask why this even matters. It’s just a runny nose, right? I believe this subject is important because it reflects how we minister to families.

As parents come to church, especially those who visit, they want to know their children are safe and in great care. Most parents may not love the idea of being called back if junior is running a fever. Yet most appreciate the effort to keep everyone healthy, especially with kids’ best interest at heart.

So first, make sure parents know you have a children’s ministry illness policy (if you don’t, you should!). Next, tell parents why the policy is in place. You love their children and want them to be happy and healthy at church. Plus, you want to protect your workers.

Finally, be sure to enforce your children’s ministry illness policy. Steps 1 and 2 make this possible. Yesterday  at check-in, a child told me she’d been throwing up at bedtime but felt better now. As I reminded Mom of our policy, she understood, and we didn’t send her child to class. I called today and she’s doing much better, and we’ll see her Sunday! This is a hands-on example of how being prepared makes for a good outcome. Mom appreciated our concern and happily followed the procedure.

10 Tips for Using an Illness Policy at Church

Here are 10 ways to maximize your use of a children’s ministry illness policy:

1. Have a policy in place.

2. Regularly sanitize the kidmin rooms.

3. Learn to love Lysol.

It kills everything! We spray in between sanitizing days.

4. Provide guidelines.

Tell parents when children must stay home. Be specific about symptoms, such as green runny nose, fever, or vomiting within 24 hours. Also let parents know when it’s OK for children to return. Be sure to address lice in the illness policy too.

5. Post it!

Policies are pointless if nobody knows them.

Empathy in Church Leadership: Healing Through Connection

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In tough times, church leaders have a big job guiding their congregations through pain and uncertainty. Being able to understand and connect with people on an emotional level isn’t just a nice thing to do—it’s crucial for helping people feel better and move forward. This article explains why it’s so important for leaders to be in tune with the emotions of their congregation and how doing so can make a real difference compared to being disconnected and unresponsive.

The Healing Power of Empathy

Empathy is about really getting what someone else is feeling. For church leaders, this means understanding what their congregations are going through and showing that they care. When leaders do this, it creates a sense of safety and reduces stress, helping people heal from their pain and fears.

How Empathy Helps:

Less Pain with Support: Research shows that having someone who cares nearby can actually make physical pain feel less intense. For example, looking at a picture of a loved one or holding someone’s hand can activate parts of the brain that make us feel safe, which in turn reduces pain.

Feeling Safe: Just knowing that someone trustworthy is there can help people feel less afraid and more secure. This kind of support activates brain areas that signal safety, helping to calm fears.

Emotional Connection and Relief:

Shared Emotions: When leaders and their congregations are emotionally in sync, it can ease pain and stress. For example, empathic touch or shared experiences can lower heart rates and stress hormones, making everyone feel better.

Trust and Pain: When people feel understood and supported by their leaders, their experience of pain diminishes. This is especially true for those who are more anxious and need that extra bit of emotional connection to feel at ease.

The Downside of Being Disconnected

On the other hand, leaders who don’t connect emotionally with their congregations can cause more harm than good. This kind of leadership is similar to the “still face” experiments with babies, where caregivers don’t respond to their infants’ needs, causing the babies to become more distressed. When leaders communicate as though everything is okay when it clearly is not, this incongruence leaves the hearers feeling misunderstood and causes a loss of trust. It can also feel like gaslighting, where the reality of their experiences is dismissed or invalidated.

Making Things Worse:

Lack of Engagement: Studies show that having someone around who doesn’t engage or care can actually make stress and pain worse. In leadership, this means that being emotionally unavailable or dismissive can increase feelings of loneliness and anxiety among the congregation.

Emotional Neglect: When leaders ignore or dismiss the feelings of their congregation, it can lead to greater pain and emotional distress. People need to feel seen and understood to heal, and neglecting this can be very damaging.

Blocking Healing:

No Support: Without empathy, leaders can unintentionally slow down the healing process. Emotional support and understanding are key to managing fear and pain, and without them, recovery can be much harder.

Breaking Trust: Disconnected leadership can break the essential trust needed for a supportive community. Trust helps people feel safe to share their struggles and seek help.

Steps to Becoming an Empathetic Leader

Empathy is the ability to understand and share the feelings of another person. It involves genuinely tuning into someone else’s emotional experience and allowing it to impact us emotionally. Real empathy requires that we be in touch with our own emotions and open to being affected by others’ experiences. This doesn’t mean we have to agree with their conclusions or see the situation exactly as they do, but we genuinely care about how they feel and let their feelings affect us.

“Suck it up and move on” is an approach that promotes emotional avoidance, both of our own feelings and those of others. This attitude can lead to dismissive behavior, which damages trust and hinders the healing process. When we avoid acknowledging emotions, we send a message that those feelings are not valid or important. This can make people feel unheard, unsupported, and isolated, creating a barrier to genuine connection and recovery.

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