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New Christmas Video Has Over 16 Million Views…Already!

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This Christmas season, over 35 Kapamilya singers of all ages are featured on this Internet sensation with almost 16 million views on their Christmas video. The “Just Love Ngayong Christmas” video is a hymn about love, kindness and faith. And it’s also an advertisement for ABS-CBN Entertainment Christmas Station. ABS-CBN Entertainment is a news site for the latest in Philippine entertainment and celebrity news and features.

About this video, ABS-CBN Entertainment’s YouTube channel (which has over 7 million subscribers) states:

Love is the force that connects families across the world. Filipinos are known for being a loving people. We solve conflicts with compassion, respect our differences, heal pain with kindness, comfort each other during difficult times and possess a strong grip on our faith. This Christmas, we celebrate these admirable Filipino traits. By gathering images and videos that went viral online, we focus the spotlight on individuals and organizations with inspiring stories. #JustLove, ABS-CBN’s new theme, is the hymn of our collective voices, stories and dreams for our family and our country.

We think it’s a great theme for the entire world—at Christmas and always!

Pastor Daniel Fusco Answers: How Would Jesus Respond to #metoo?

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Pastor Daniel Fusco of Crossroads Church in Vancouver, Washington, speaks to ChurchLeaders about being a leader in the midst of the #metoo movement. Fusco has been in ministry for several years and recently wrote “What Jesus Could Teach Chefs, Celebrities and a President About Masculinity” for USAToday addressing the abuse allegations that have upset nearly every corner of society. Fusco shares his thoughts on being a leader in this volatile time we live in and the example of leadership and masculinity we are given in Jesus.

ChurchLeaders (CL): As a pastor, what are your thoughts on the allegations that have been made against men in positions of power recently?

Fusco: My first response is my heart breaks for the victims. And my second response is Jesus is the ultimate example of meekness: Strength under control, power under control. I think part of the message of Jesus is to help us understand what power is supposed to look like. We have a tendency in our culture—especially as these examples of abuse come up—to feel power is bad. But with Jesus, all authority was his, and he brought the greatest blessing and transformation to the world through his self-sacrifice.

CL: In your article for USAToday, you said “many women were reporting abuses to their superiors with no recourse, or suffering in silence. But thankfully, that is changing.” Why is that changing?

Fusco: I think it’s changing for a number of reasons. First, it’s changing because the way it used to be is wrong. Anytime someone is abusing power, it’s wrong. Maybe there was a time where it was more culturally acceptable. Culture is always responding and reacting to what has come before it, and I think that this new reckoning (that’s the word I like to use) is a great thing because what was perceived as acceptable, like this whole “boys will be boys” thing—that was wrong. Boys are not supposed to be boys like that. So, the fact that it’s not acceptable now is a great growth on the part of our culture where now when people speak up, they’re being heard and people are not just pushing it away. Right now we’re hearing about famous people, but this has been going on and nothing’s happened. There’s been no investigation or [the victims] know that nothing’s going to happen so they’re just suffering in silence….I think it’s a great development for us culturally.

CL: Do you see any way that church leaders can lead this change?

Fusco: Jesus is the hope for all humanity, and not just 21st-century western humanity, but all humanity…God has acknowledged the sinfulness of humanity and he has sought to redeem it through the finished work of Jesus. That message of both the honesty about sin and God’s plan to reconcile that world [is relevant to our current situation].

I’m not soft-pedaling what is wrong, but I’m also not pretending that God’s grace and forgiveness don’t exist either. I believe that the message of Jesus, the Gospel, bears very strongly on what’s going on. I think the problem for many church leaders is that we have a tendency to think about these things politically and not biblically. We’re straddling the complexities of our culture and politics within our culture rather than having an absolute allegiance to Jesus and allegiance to his finished work and his life and what he’s taught us.

I think when we’re willing to say “my allegiance is to Jesus and I’m willing to deny myself, take up my cross and follow him in the cause of the Gospel,” I think we have what is needed in this.

CL: Your article in USAToday was mainly about the masculinity Jesus modeled and how our culture is crying out for masculinity like this. Could you describe more about what real masculinity looks like?

Fusco: Our culture has broken notions of both masculinity and femininity…Jesus modeled a whole masculinity for us. For example, little kids loved to play with Jesus, and Jesus had time for them. But Jesus also…spoke truth to power. And so you have Jesus as the kind shepherd, where tax collectors and sinners and people marginalized in society had audience with Jesus, but he wasn’t afraid to call a spade a spade. Jesus advocated for a woman who, under that culture, would have been subject to the death penalty for adultery, but Jesus was her advocate and protected her. He reminded everyone that they, too, were sinners. But yet he also told her, “Go and sin no more.”

When we behold the Jesus of the Scriptures, and maybe not the Jesus of our current church cultures, we’re presented with a very unique view of…strength that is directed at blessing others.

Johnson Amendment Remains—Will Your Preaching Be Affected?

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On Thursday, the Senate parliamentarian blocked language in the tax bill ensuring that the Johnson Amendment remains the law of the land.

The parliamentarian determined the inclusion of the repeal did not meet Senate rules that require elements of the tax bill to have something to do with the budget.

The Johnson Amendment is a 1954 law that bars tax-exempt organizations, churches and charities from engaging in political activity. As a result of the parliamentarian’s decision, pastors will continue to be subjected to laws restricting political speech.

JOHNSON AMENDMENT RESTRICTIONS

The Johnson Amendment restricts churches and nonprofits in three ways:

  1. Tax-exempt churches and their staff cannot endorse or oppose political candidates, even indirectly.
  2. Churches cannot make political donations, invite one candidate to speak or use its facilities without the others, or compare a candidate’s positions to the church’s. Anything that suggests the church prefers a candidate or party can endanger the church’s tax exemption.
  3. Pastors are free to endorse candidates if they do so as private citizens: that is, not speak from the church building, making clear their independence from their church role.

While efforts to repeal the Johnson Amendment by way of this tax bill have ended, the protest by many pastors likely will not. And it’s almost just as certain they won’t be penalized.

SELDOM ENFORCED LAW

While the law clearly states that churches can lose their tax exempt status if they violate the Johnson Amendment, it’s widely held that it has only happened once in the 60 years the law has been on the books.

In 2000, the D.C. Circuit affirmed an IRS decision to revoke the tax-exempt status of the Church of Pierce Creek after it published full-page ads in two major newspapers opposing presidential candidate Bill Clinton.

In fact, the IRS has had plenty of evidence to go after pastors and that evidence has been produced by preachers themselves. Since 2008, pastors have been using one Sunday in October to speak out politically from the pulpit. It’s called Pulpit Freedom Sunday, an event started by Alliance Defending Freedom. Some pastors send those messages directly to the IRS daring the agency to come after them.  

That is not to say that the IRS hasn’t investigated churches and nonprofits or reached out of court settlements following accusations, but unless there’s a court case, those events are unknown since the agency does not disclose them.  

Indeed, and sadly, examples of the IRS targeting specific groups date back to President Franklin Roosevelt and involve administrations from both political parties.  

EXAMPLES OF GOVERNMENT ABUSE

Such abuses and a firm conviction that government should not tell pastors what they can and cannot say from the pulpit have fueled protests against the Johnson Amendment.

Alliance Defending Freedom sent a letter to Congress in October pointing out a Lifeway Research Poll of 1,000 Protestant pastors that found 91 percent agree that “pastors should have the right to speak freely from the pulpit without the fear of being penalized by the government.” In addition, 73 percent agree that “Congress should remove the IRS’s power to penalize a church because of the content of its pastor’s sermons.”

The letter was signed by 4000 religious leaders whose fears are demonstrated in two recent examples of government overreach.  

In 2014, the city of Houston issued subpoenas demanding a group of pastors turn over any sermons dealing with homosexuality, gender identity or Annise Parker, the city’s first openly lesbian mayor. Ministers who failed to comply were told they could be held in contempt of court. The city dropped the demand after a public outcry.

That same year, a Freedom From Religion Foundation press release announced it had reached a settlement with the IRS in its lawsuit against the agency. The release revealed the existence of secret procedures for investigating churches.

In that court case, the U.S. Court of Appeals sided with 38 non-profit organizations from 22 states who said they were targeted by the IRS and subjected to numerous violations of their First Amendment rights.

FEARS OF CHURCH ABUSE

Those applauding the decision by the Senate parliamentarian, including more than 4,000 faith leaders, more than 100 religious groups, and more than 5,000 nonprofits, say the Johnson Amendment prevents abuse from church leaders.

They say repeal would be a dangerous and radical stomping on the separation of church and state. They envision endless politicking from the pulpit and the political corruption of houses of worship and charities.

“Charities and foundations have worked for years, decades and centuries to build the public’s trust,” Tim Delaney, president of the National Council of Nonprofits, told the Wall Street Journal, “and we don’t want to be dragged down by toxic partisanship.”

Others worry that they won’t be able to turn down the allure of big bucks from political and special interest groups.

Alan E. Brownstein, a law professor at the University of California, Davis, told HowStuffWorks:

“It can be very, very hard for a house of worship that really doesn’t want to play this political game to stay silent if other houses of worship are endorsing their candidates. It becomes much more difficult for a house of worship who’d like to stay out of the fray,” Brownstein says. “You repeal it, you politicize houses of worship and other charities as well.”

THE DEBATE CONTINUES

Thursday’s development won’t be the end of this debate.

Sen. James Lankford (R-Okla.) said in a statement that he was “disappointed” that the measure was not allowed into the tax bill.

“The federal government and the IRS should never have the ability, through our tax code, to limit free speech; this tax reform bill was an appropriate place to address this historic tax problem. Nonprofits are allowed to lobby Congress or their local elected officials, but the ambiguity of the current tax code keeps non-profits in constant fear that they might have crossed a line that no other organization has to consider.”

And efforts to keep the Johnson Amendment in place will also continue. Sen. Ron Wyden’s (D-Ore.) told the Wall Street Journal:

I will continue to fight all attempts to eliminate this critical provision that keeps the sanctity of our religious institutions intact, prevents the flow of dark money in politics, and keeps taxpayer dollars from advancing special interest biddings.

As church leaders brace for the next round of battles over the Johnson Amendment, the debate will continue as to whether the law is a political hammer to be used against opponents or a safeguard against politics tarnishing the pulpit.

Answering the Top Questions From Today’s Parents, Part 1

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The questions began rolling in…

What age do you recommend giving our kids phones?

What is the easiest way to monitor a child’s online safety?

What are the dangers of the app Musical.ly?

These are just a few of the countless questions I just received from parents…and in the next three days I’m going to answer all of them in this blog. Each day I’m going to narrow it down to the top 10.

In early November I sat on a panel where five of us (myself, a child psychiatrist, a coach, a school administrator and a youth pastor) fielded questions from the audience. Questions were texted in and we answered as many as we could in an hour’s time. The questions were so numerous we couldn’t possibly get to them all, so I tackled each of them when I got back to my office, offering quick answers, links to online articles and finally books for further reading.

So here they are…including the ones we answered that day. (Here’s the first 10, PART I of III)

THE TOP 10 QUESTIONS FROM TODAY’S PARENTS:

1. What age do you recommend receiving a phone?

With all the distractions that today’s mobile devices offer, I think it’s best to wait until age 12 or 13 to give our kids their first device that gives them the capability to download apps. After all, they can’t even be on the big social media sites (Facebook, Instagram, Snapchat, etc.) until age 13 (thanks to COPPA…more on that in the next answer).

Jim Steyer, CEO of Common Sense Media, was asked when he recommends allowing a smartphone and he said, “The longer you wait the better.” He explained how no two kids were the same, so it’s hard to name one age for all kids, but for his own kids, he waited to give them smartphones until they were in high school and learned responsibility.

More research on this subject in this article: ARE SMARTPHONES & SOCIAL MEDIA TOO DANGEROUS FOR MY KIDS?

2. What age do you recommend allowing children on social media?

You’d think this answer would be easy, because even the Federal Trade Commission has declared that kids have to be 13 years old to be on SnapChat, Instagram and Facebook. It’s because of COPPA, which stands for the Children’s Online Privacy Protection Act, preventing companies from collecting certain information from kids under 13. Apps like Snap, Insta and Facebook actually ask your kids to enter their birthdate when they sign up. If they are under 13, they can’t sign up…that is…unless they lie about their age, which is what most kids do. Other apps like Musical.ly don’t ask for age information, but in their privacy settings do claim that they cannot collect information from 13-year-olds…but who’s checking?

Many parents aren’t aware of these age requirements, and honestly, many don’t care. Here’s where parents need to remember they are the parent, and some boundaries are healthy. When your 11-year-old asks you if they can download SnapChat, this is a great time to reply, “Sorry, it’s against the law. You have to wait until you’re 13.” Now you’re off the hook…at least until they turn 13.

Experts like Common Sense Media agree that 13 is a good age to let your kids start using social media, but even then, they say “whether she is 10 or 16” set some realistic ground rules like using privacy settings, thinking before you post, etc. And that’s the bottom line—don’t just hand your kids a device at 13; teach them responsibility first. Use a book like The Teen’s Guide to Social Media & Mobile Devices as a phone contract, helping them think through who they’re friending, the pics they’re posting, the content they’ve absorbing. Simply tell them, “When you finish the book, then you get your phone.” Educate them and engage them in conversations about what it looks like to post wisely in an insecure world.

3. I am a mom of an 11-year-old girl. Do you have recommendations for her first phone or specific smartphones or specific apps that allow us to limit the types of websites she would have access to?

Good question. First, I’ve seen countless software available to “block” porn and “spy” on kids…and personally…I didn’t use those. I just used the “enable restrictions” feature on my kids’ iPhones and made it so they required a password to download apps, etc. That way if my kid came to me and asked, “Can I have Instagram?” then I could have a conversation with them about it rather than just relying on some spy app to block it. Conversations and “walking with” our kids through this process is by far better than any software.

Here’s an article about some of the settings you might want to consider for Instagram, as well as some of the important guidelines you might want to discuss with your kids: KEEPING INSTAGRAM SAFE.

And here’s an article about preventing porn: THREE PARENTING PRACTICES PREVENTING THE PERMEATION OF PORN.

Here’s an article about porn blocks and filters: 2 UNDENIABLE FACTS ABOUT PARENTAL CONTROLS AND PORN BLOCKS.

For Further Reading: If I Had a Parenting Do Over, Chapter 7: Walk With

7 Ways to Get Young People to Serve

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I hear frequently that it’s hard to get the younger generation to serve in the church. That may be true, especially under some of our current church structures. I don’t think it’s because they don’t want to serve, however. I think we may simply need to reconsider the circumstances under which they are willing to serve or the structure that works to attract them to serve.

After working with a younger age group in church planting and the more established churches, I’ve made some observations that appear true in both.

Here are seven ways to get young people to serve:

Don’t just talk about it…do it. They truly want to be active. They want to be doers of the word…not just hearers.

Reward progress…not people. Humble service is a valued character trait to the current younger generation. That’s why they love teams so much.

Think people impact…not project completion. They want to help others…make a difference in someone’s life…and add value to the world around them.

Make meetings social events. Boring meetings won’t work anymore, but they’ll get together for pizza…and organize a cause in the process.

Use teams more than committees. They tend to rebel against bureaucracy and embrace working together through fellowship.

Give ownership more than assignments. They want a seat at the table. They want to do something of importance now. They want to help shape their own future. Make them feel welcome.

Be inclusive, not exclusive. They aren’t looking for the country club environment, as much as a collaboration of differences.

None of these mean we have to lessen our values to work with the younger generation, but our values should be biblical, and clearly identified. This newer generation is more tolerant. It’s not a buzzword for them…it’s in their DNA. The good news is they are more willing to work with others, even if they don’t completely agree with them. If they know people are being transparent with them and others, and are working to address a concern in which they believe needs addressing, they are eager to serve.

What have you learned about getting a younger generation to serve?

This article originally appeared here.

Worship Leader: When Do You Take a Break?

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If you have flown on a commercial airline you have undoubtedly heard the flight attendant recite the following pre-flight safety instructions: “In the unlikely event the oxygen level in the main cabin becomes unstable, oxygen masks will drop in front of each passenger.” Passengers are then instructed to secure their own masks before assisting other passengers.

Sunday is the day designated by most congregations as the Sabbath or day of rest. As a worship leader, this day has evolved into a day full of service, leadership responsibilities, rehearsals and meetings. Congregants, teams, staff and even family members vie for your time and full attention. At the end of the day your spiritual, emotional, mental and physical resources are depleted. Since this designated day is obviously not a Sabbath for you…when is your Sabbath? Are you even taking one? If not, how can you regularly lead people to a place where you no longer have the stamina to go yourself?

Observing a Sabbath “says to the frantic, exhausted, distracted, fatigued people of God:  please, rest. The hectic lives of Christians in our culture and the busyness of many churches show little sign of living out of God’s rest. Our tendencies to imitate our culture are directly related to our unwillingness to stop, cease producing, consuming, moving, accomplishing, buying, planning. We can be as much 24-7 (even in the name of Jesus) as our secular neighbors. Yet we cannot live as light and salt, doing righteousness and showing justice, if we fail to practice living out God’s rest. It’s a boundary that sets us free.”[1]

Christian life and ministry can sanctify busyness rather than free us from it. Our church culture often values motion as a sign of significance, believing our efforts are essential to God’s success in His mission to the world. When we attempt to elevate our relevance through our activity it becomes more about us than about God. Jesus said, “Come to me, all of you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. All of you, take up My yoke and learn from Me, because I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for yourselves. For My yoke is easy and My burden is light” (Matt 11:28-30).

Several years ago, David Henderson wrote an article titled Take a Load Off: Are You Doing More Than God Intended? Based on the previous Matthew passage, Henderson suggested stripping off your self-made yokes, laying aside the things God has not called you to do, and asking God to lead you into each day could lighten the load. Observing a Sabbath is saying yes to God and his rhythms and no to the life-draining rhythms of the culture and people around us—it is essential to our call to worship.[2] Worship Leader…if you aren’t modeling this understanding of a Sabbath for your congregation, who will?


[1] Mark Labberton, The Dangerous Act of Worship: Living God’s Call to Justice (Downers Grove: InterVarsity, 2007), 96.

[2] Ibid.

This article originally appeared here.

Don’t Put Your Seniors Out to Pasture

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There are several reasons, I think, the Bible makes it a commandment to honor our parents and the New Testament commands us to care for the old folks in our family, but one of them is undoubtedly this: God knows we tend to ignore them, which is really a form of hatred.

Yes, I know that sounds harsh. But can anyone doubt that the modern evangelical church has marginalized seniors and the elderly into ecclesiological inconsequence, that we have assimilated worldly culture’s idolization of youth?

I once read in a friend’s Facebook status that all the “old people” are gonna hate heaven if they think the worship music in churches is too loud. You know, because heaven’s worship is going to be exactly like the laser light rock and roll concerts we got goin’ on in evangelicalism right now. (Eye roll.)

Church would be so much more fun if it weren’t for all these lame old people and their lame musical tastes. They don’t get “real” worship, do they?

Oddly enough, I thought about the youth-idolatry and pushing of our elders to the margins once while watching the end of The Lord of the Rings: The Return of the King. At the end, after the king has been crowned, the entire procession—men, elves and dwarves—bow a knee to the fat, furry-footed, diminutive hobbits. Why did it make me think of ageism in the church? Because I think when we do get to heaven, we are going to find that we are honoring the people we wouldn’t think to honor in real life (with any meaningful consideration).

Do we tend to think our churches are better off because we think old people are unbending, unhip, unsophisticated, unable to get “the vision”? As we push for multicultural ministry, do we forget multigenerational? When we get to heaven we will fully realize all the wisdom and experience and authority we not only squandered, but ridiculed. I fear the reason we don’t pour much ministry into the elderly is because we don’t figure we’ll get much return on our investment when it comes to realizing our church vision, filling the seats, etc. (A church of all old people, of course, is just as much in danger as a church of all young people—just a danger of a different kind.)

Yes, some old people don’t “get it.” But a lot of young people don’t either. Why are we more eager to work with the young than the old?

My friend Darryl Dash once wrote:

Don’t get me wrong here. I’ve been part of sleepy churches full of seniors who are resistant to change, and that holds no attraction to me.

Prayer in Suffering

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Recently, I have heard the heart cry of several friends and family who have been enduring significant seasons of prayer in suffering. Some are dealing with physical and emotional struggles; others, with financial stresses and setbacks or prodigal children. Still others are agonizing over the suffering or loss of family members or friends. Most are in a place where their prayer lives have become paralyzed. I have been in these dark places of despair, and struggled with the “Why me, God?” questions. Yet, it was in these times of desolation and anguish that God spoke most clearly and it was in the hopeless places where I found the most hope…and where I learned without a doubt that the God of all comfort was very present.

2 Corinthians 1:3-5 has always held for me the all-important key to enduring difficulties: “Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our affliction so that we will be able to comfort those who are in any affliction with the comfort with which we ourselves are comforted by God. For just as the sufferings of Christ are ours in abundance, so also our comfort is abundant through Christ.” This passage came to the forefront after experiencing a devastating season of suffering in my own life which I thought might never end. I began to see something happen that I had never expected, and did not fully comprehend until time had passed. But our grace-filled Father patiently used my painful experiences and trials to minister into the lives of others who were walking through similar circumstances. It was the fulfillment of the truth from 2 Corinthians taking root in my life. Seeing this promise come to fruition was life-changing for me, and has allowed me to see suffering in an entirely different light. I don’t have to like it, but if I patiently endure it, God will be faithful not only in the midst of what I am walking through…He will take it and use it for His kingdom’s purposes!

To punctuate this point, 1 Thessalonians 5:16-18 says, “Rejoice always, pray continually, give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.” If God’s will for me is to joyfully and prayerfully give thanks in the midst of every circumstance, then I must be an obedient child, even when I am unsure…even when I am angry…and even when I don’t feel like praying, trusting that He will make use of every season I am in! I would suggest that it is best when we don’t feel like praying to do two things. First, just breathe the name of Jesus into the space around you. His Name keeps the enemy at bay and His Name releases the power of Christ into our situations. Second, play worship music so that your surroundings are permeated by the Presence of the God of Comfort. He is attracted to our worship, so as we focus on Him rather than upon our circumstances, He will reveal Himself in ways we may never expect!

God isn’t asking me to do anything He has not done Himself. “Since Jesus went through everything you’re going through and more, learn to think like him. Think of your sufferings as a weaning from that old sinful habit of always expecting to get your own way. Then you’ll be able to live out your days free to pursue what God wants instead of being tyrannized by what you want” (1 Peter 4:1-2, MSG). Several prayer points jump out at me through this passage:

Remember. I need to continually pray that I will always remember that Jesus has gone through all I have and will ever suffer and more! Picturing Christ on the cross or being pierced for my transgressions or even bearing the sin of the world should be enough to keep me from complaining about my own state of affairs. The Father heart of God was broken to experience the suffering of the Son, and I have to believe that He aches over mine as well. 2 Corinthians reminds me that He is the God of comfort and promises that comfort is mine if I will be willing to receive it in place of demanding my own comfort.

Think. God may be doing something in me that only He knows and which might not be accomplished if I were to get my own way by avoiding or trying to get out of suffering. His ways are higher. I do think it is OK to let God know when I suffer and that I am angry about it as long as I don’t dwell there. If I can discipline myself to share the burdens, ask why and express anger…I will be free to receive His comfort and trust that His purposes in allowing my suffering will be for the benefit of my own spiritual growth and to help others who walk through similar experiences.

Choose. By becoming free of the tyranny of what I want, I will be able to have the freedom to pursue what God wants—His kingdom purposes rather than the purposes of my own kingdom. Will I receive victory in the hands of Jesus Christ or be defeated at the hands of Satan?

Scripture has many promises and much reassurance for those who endure suffering. There are remarkably powerful graces from the Father to us if we will persevere in the face of trials. May the Word encourage you no matter what you may be facing today:

  • “And the God of all grace, who called you to his eternal glory in Christ, after you have suffered a little while, will himself restore you and make you strong, firm and steadfast” (1 Peter 5:10).
  • “Count it all joy, my brothers, when you meet trials of various kinds, for you know that the testing of your faith produces steadfastness. And let steadfastness have its full effect, that you may be perfect and complete, lacking in nothing” (James 1:2-4).
  • “We also rejoice in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance; perseverance, character; and character, hope” (Romans 5:3-4).”
  • “I will be glad and rejoice in your love, for you saw my affliction and knew the anguish of my soul” (Psalm 31:7).
  • “For he has not despised or disdained the suffering of the afflicted one; he has not hidden his face from him but has listened to his cry for help” (Psalm 22:24).

And the ultimate consideration for believers who are going through trials and suffering is rolled out for us in Romans 8:18: “I consider that our present sufferings are not worth comparing with the glory that will be revealed in us.” This earth is not our home. This body is only a poor reflection of what is to come. Let’s choose to lean into the Presence of Jesus Christ, who loves us with an all-encompassing love. As we continue to trust Him, He will step into suffering with us and bend His ear toward our cries for mercy. We must continue to trust that He will redeem and bring light into situations and circumstances that seem dark and impossible for the sake of His glory.

This article originally appeared here.

The Ice Bergs That Are Destroying Missional Churches

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April 15, 1912. Early that morning an event happened that caused the loss of over 1,500 lives and hundreds who survived were left to live with haunting memories. We’ve all heard the story and a lot of us have even seen the movie. The Titanic was an incredible ship, but never reached its destination and potential because of what was hidden beneath the water.
Icebergs are unique and there is no way to tell with the naked eye what lies beneath the water. What you see of an iceberg usually only represents about 10 percent of its total size because 90 percent of an iceberg is under water and isn’t seen. There is no way to know how wide or deep the iceberg is when looking at it, unless you get beneath the surface and find out what is really there. That’s where we get the term “tip of the iceberg” from, which is used to describe a problem or difficulty that is only a small portion of a larger problem.

So how are icebergs destroying missional churches?

I was recently talking with a pastor who told me that they were working toward their church being more missionally focused. This was a well-established large church that was beginning to see a need to become active outside the walls of their building. They had created a committee and were establishing goals, plans and reviewing programs that could be used to serve the hurting in their community.

While I applaud this effort, the goals, plans and programs are just the tip of the iceberg. They are what we see.

There is so much more to a church effectively engaging their community than what is written in a plan. It’s these larger things that lie beneath the surface that will destroy this effort.

There are four things that are hidden beneath the water that can kill your church’s vision to become a missionally focused church. The Great Commandment tells us to “love the Lord your God with all your heart, soul, mind and strength…and love your neighbor as yourself.” The heart, soul, mind and strength; they are the 90 percent that are hidden beneath the water.

  1. Heart – This isn’t speaking of the muscle in your chest that pumps blood and keeps you alive. It means your center. It’s how you feel and think; it’s your values and worldview.
  2. Soul – The very breath of your being. The soul is the driving force of who you are. It’s your passion.
  3. Mind – The way of understanding, feeling and your desires. It’s the lens through which we process information.
  4. Strength – This is what you hold. The force in your body. Your specific abilities, your might and your power.

These four parts of our being are overlapping, but each holds a unique depth to their meaning that, although they overlap, make them different. These are the things that are beneath the surface.

Most of us want our church to be a reflection of what we see in the mirror. Contrary to what we say and convince ourselves to believe, we want to worship with people who look like us, think like us and dress like us. If you really wanted that to change, you would be experiencing it already.

To become a missional church, we must first bring our heart, soul, mind and strength under the Lordship of Christ. Until this happens, our goals, plans and programs will fail to come through and millions will be lost.

The church is an incredible ship with so much potential and an eternal destination, but until we figure out the first commandment, we cannot truly love our neighbors as we love ourselves.

This article originally appeared here.

The Most Unsung Heroes in Your Church’s Salvation Stories

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Next month a single mom will visit your church on a cold, wintry morning and give her life to Christ. There will be much to celebrate and many people to thank. In your staff meeting the following day you acknowledge the following:

  • The warm environment.
  • The great signage.
  • Wonderful volunteers.
  • A children or youth ministry that valued the thing she valued the most (her children).
  • Incredible music.
  • A moving baptism where someone had a life-changing story similar she could relate to.
  • A relevant message from the God of the Ages delivered by an anointed and prepared preacher.

But there is a very special group of people who were involved in the Sunday morning experience you will likely overlook.

This single mom drove into a parking lot where all the snow and ice were cleared away. What she doesn’t know is someone arrived at church while everyone else was sleeping and shoveled it all away.

She then walked here children along a sidewalk covered with salt. This ensured her family would not fall and hurt themselves. What she doesn’t know is after clearing away the snow, this same team of individuals poured all salt before the sun rose.

The family then entered a lobby which was clean, well-lit and featured an incredible coffee area. What she doesn’t know is just 10 minutes before walking in the front door someone spilled their coffee making a huge mess. What she doesn’t know is a team of individuals were on standby with mops-in-hand to handle such emergencies.

The mother then dropped her children off in an area that was clean, safe and had a lot of things children love. What she doesn’t know is another child had vomited in the hallway an hour earlier. It was immediately cleaned up as well.

The single mom then entered a clean sanctuary and sat down awaited the service to begin. What she doesn’t know is there was a wedding in this same room the day before. A group of individuals showed up afterward, set up all the chairs, vacuumed the facility and picked up all the trash while everyone else was home with their families.

Once the service began, she witnessed an emotional baptism moment. What she doesn’t know is someone arrived four hours earlier, filled the baptistery with water and began heating it up.

So who cleared the parking area and poured the salt while everyone else was sleeping? Who immediately did the work no one else wanted to do and cleaned the coffee and vomit in the heavily populated areas? While everyone else was home with their families watching football, who cleaned the church and setup the sanctuary on Saturday? Who also arrived before the sun rose to fill the baptistery and warm the water?

The answer is the most unsung heroes in your church’s salvation stories. The answer is your facilities director and facilities staff!  

We are very good at celebrating the work of our volunteers and frontline staff. And we should.

But too often we view our facilities staff as “the help” and overlook (or don’t even understand) the vital role they play in people giving their life to Christ at our churches.

So this week, make sure you take a moment and honor those who rise before others, work 60-70 hours per week, and have more sweat equity in our ministries than anyone else. Let’s honor our facilities staff. Oh year, one more thing. Please invite the entire facilities team and their spouses to your Christmas party this year!

This article originally appeared here.

How to Serve Parents in Youth Ministry

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There is a correlation between the faith importance of parents and the faith importance of young adults, according to Christian Smith and Melina Lundquist Denton in their book Soul Searching: The Religious and Spiritual Lives of American Teenagers. The research has been at the forefront of my mind since the day it was published.

Circled around a conference table, Christian, myself and a handful of incredible junior high youth ministry leaders across the United States gathered to wrestle with data that overwhelmingly suggests that the strongest variable in a teenagers spirituality was a parent or parents who had a high faith importance throughout their adolescence.

Our conversations shifted back and forth.
Should we be focusing more on parent ministry?
Is what we’re currently doing enough?
In those moments when we have shifted to parent focused youth ministry, did it make a difference?
Do parents want to be ministered to?

We’d follow the rich rabbit trail of discussion with Christian interjecting his thoughts.
It ranks for me one of the top five most stimulating and practical conversations on youth ministry I’ve experienced.
At the same time, I walked away wondering how this sorts itself out in my ministry.
I think we all did.
I think we’re all still sorting it out.

In an ideal situation, we’d be the “vitamin” and the parents would be the “meal” in spiritual and life formation/ development.

But this isn’t always the case. We stand in the gap in many cases where this isn’t possible.
What I’m learning is that prayer is the infrastructure of that bridge.

Not every teenager we journey with has a home, a parent, a functional living environment. And even some of those that are present, participatory and prepared for raising teenagers may still lack spiritual depth and leadership that a child needs during his or her most formative years. Parents need help.
I know, because I need help.

There are many levels of ministering to parents.
Both spontaneous and planned.

I used to think that the more I planned to minister to parents, the more parents would be ministered to. Now I know that God does the ministering and I’m the catalyst for ministry.

On being a catalyst…well, one has to be open and ready to be used in all sorts of ways. We find ourselves yielding to God’s leading because God knows what each parent needs in each of their unique situations. We don’t know what they need in the intimate ways God does.

That’s why we pray.
In prayer, we wait.
In the stillness, we receive.
Maybe a thought that lingers longer than most.
An impression.
A nudge…
An ability to understand or to put pieces together.
A next step…
A peace.

10 Reflections of a Formerly Single Pastor

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For the first 10 years of my pastoral ministry (ages 20-30), I was unmarried. The Lord had called me to preach when I was 13 years old, and the first church called me as pastor at age 20. Here are my reflections on those years as a single pastor.

  1. I don’t think I was wrong to serve as a single pastor. I realize others believe that 1 Timothy 3:2 requires pastors to be married, but this text does not forbid singles from serving in this role. It’s fair to say, though, that the text assumes most pastors will be married—and that’s the case.
  2. I had more time to do ministry as a single adult. This is simply a practical reality: A single adult generally has more time to do ministry throughout the week. I admit my workaholism, but I visited in members’ home most nights of the week as a single pastor.
  3. I wish I’d known then what I know now: It’s always wise to have somebody with you when you’re doing ministry. I was the only pastoral leader in my small country church, and I didn’t try hard enough to involve and train others. It was just too easy to do it myself as a single.
  4. I faced unique dating challenges as a single pastor. More than one well-meaning member tried to fix me up with a potential spouse. A couple of single ladies actually told me they sensed God’s leading for us to date. At times, I found myself attracted to members who weren’t interested in dating their pastor. When Pam (my wife-to-be) and I started dating, it wasn’t easy to avoid the spotlight. Such were the realities that come with serving as a single pastor who assumes marriage is in the future.
  5. I should have sought more help with counseling. Because I was called to pastor, I was convinced I was fully equipped to counsel anyone—including doing pre-marital and marital counseling. I wasn’t married long, though, before I realized I didn’t know nearly what I needed to know about counseling!
  6. I needed accountability. I was a young man fighting all the temptations that young men face, and I wasn’t smart enough to know I needed others to help me fight them. My singleness made me too much a loner.
  7. I took advantages of my singleness to do international missions. My calendar allowed it, and I traveled when I could. If I were a single young leader today, I would take mission trips as often as feasible. I’m a more global leader today because of those choices when I was single.
  8. I learned grace via a single adult failure: a broken engagement. I got engaged briefly to a church member’s granddaughter, and I ended the engagement when I realized I had rushed ahead of God. I even offered my resignation to my church then, but they put their arms around me and loved me through the process. I suppose such a difficult issue is always possible for a single pastor.
  9. God granted me a spouse, but not every pastor is called to be married. I’m incredibly grateful for Pam, my partner and friend in marriage and ministry (and, by the way, we were fixed up by two church secretaries!)—but God’s call for some is to pastor and remain single. They must face the unique challenges and take advantage of the unique opportunities that singleness offers.
  10. With the exceptions of my notable failures, I would do it all over again. I enjoyed my single years of ministry, and God taught me much through pastoring in those years. When I did marry somewhat later than others (age 30), though, God’s timing was perfect. My responsibility was to serve Him well at all times.

If you’ve served a single pastor, what reflections would you have?

This article originally appeared here.

9 Life-Saving Tips for Preaching on Hot Topics

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As a preacher you should never shy away from tough topics. If the Bible addresses an issue, you should too. You want to help your people have a holistic view of how biblical truth intersects with every aspect of their lives. But the more controversial the topic, the more important it is to handle it with care.

In the last couple years I have preached on topics ranging from what the Bible teaches about alcohol consumption, to sex and sexual issues, to marriage and financial giving. Along the way, I have learned a few things about how to approach these types of sermons, and I would like to share with you. Here are nine tips for preaching on controversial topics:

1. Avoid shock-jocking. Some preachers use sensitive topics as an opportunity to use crass language and coarse humor. Their intent is to capture attention and foster interest in the topic, but this is unnecessary. If you are covering a sensitive topic, it probably engenders enough interest in itself.

Depending on your listeners, you risk alienating people who may be offended and decide not to listen to you. My suggestion is to avoid being offensive for the purpose of shocking people. If you take a biblical approach to a sensitive cultural issue, it will be offensive on its own. Tell the truth, use humor to relieve the tension, but don’t seek to capitalize on the opportunity for a moment of attention-getting.

Your objective is to inform, inspire, motivate and change the way people think about an important life issue. You don’t want anything to compromise your effectiveness.

2. Demonstrate that you are being thoroughly biblical. If you are giving your opinion because the Bible doesn’t explicitly address something, then say that’s what you’re doing. Otherwise, point to Scripture and not your own ideas about the topic. This helps remove you from the equation and puts the focus on the text itself. When people take exception with your arguments, you should always be able to point to Scripture as your source. If they disagree with you, then you need to be able to show them that their disagreement is with the text.

3. Understand the religious objections from within your church. Some topics have the potential of offending church people more than non-church people. I gave a sermon on what the Bible teaches about alcohol. I knew there were a lot of people in my church who held views about alcohol that were based in tradition and preference, but not actually in what the Scriptures teach about the subject. I addressed these biases up front and challenged them to be biblical, even if it confronts their traditions and preferences.

4. Share your material with others while you prepare. Before you preach on a controversial issue, make sure you seek counsel from others. I am a firm believer in preparing sermons in teams, and I believe it is even more important when the subject matter is controversial. I wrote about the importance of gathering input before you preach in this series of posts on preaching teams.

5. Be well-informed from a cultural perspective. The more hot the topic, the more your listeners will have a vast understanding of it. You need to be on top of where the issue stands at that moment. If your data and conclusions are five years behind (or even two years behind), it will make you look uninformed and harm your credibility as a speaker. If your goal is to get your listeners to view the issue from a biblical perspective, you need to demonstrate that you understand it from a cultural perspective. Speak into the culture with an understanding of the world in which your listeners live.

3 Ways to Build Your Volunteer Team During This Christmas Season

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Christmas is a great time to enlist new volunteers for your team. Here are three ways you can build your volunteer team during the Christmas season.

Do a church-wide push for people to serve one time during Christmas services, events, programs, etc. Usually it is counterproductive to get up in front of the church and ask for volunteers…especially if it comes across as “begging.” But it can be effective at Christmas if done correctly.

The pastor should be the one who makes the ask during a church service. He should share about the opportunity the church has to reach many people for Christ during the Christmas season since people are more likely to be thinking about “religious things” and attending church. New people will be walking in the doors of your church and people who aren’t currently serving can step up and serve one time at Christmas and have a part in seeing people come to Christ.

Have a list of one-time serving opportunities that are available during Christmas. The pastor should ask people to commit right then and there to serve one time. They can indicate on a provided card what area(s) they are interested in helping with and then turn in the response card.

Make sure the people who signed up to serve one time have a great serving experience. Place them in an easy role. Give them clear instructions about what they should do. Pair them up with experienced volunteers. Have snacks and food for them.

After their one time serve, connect back with them and invite them to join your volunteer team on a full-time basis. If you will be intentional about doing this within a week after they serve, you will see many of them join your team. I have seen as high as 85 percent of one-time volunteers join our volunteer team on a full-time basis when we did this.

Ask your current volunteers to invite one person to serve with them during the Christmas season. If you will be intentional about encouraging your volunteers to bring someone to serve with them, you will see many respond and do so.   

Encourage it. Have each volunteer write down the name of one person they can invite.   

Promote it. Create a theme you use to build momentum and create a culture of reproducing yourself in others.   

Pray for it. Pray during the weeks leading up to Christmas that God would send new volunteers to join the team. Ask your volunteers to join you in praying for this. 

Honor those who bring someone to serve. Celebrate the stories of volunteers who impact others by getting them involved in serving.

Your volunteers know people you don’t know. They have influence with people that you don’t have influence with. You can only invite so many people to join the team by yourself. But when your volunteers also begin bringing people to serve, you will see your volunteer team begin to grow exponentially.

Partner with student ministry. Christmas is a great time to involve students in serving. Not only can you enlist them through the first step mentioned, but you can also go to the student ministry and invite them directly.

Talk with the student ministry pastor/director at your church and ask him/her to help you enlist students to serve. Students often have extra time since they are out of school for the holidays and can make a big impact if you’ll give them the opportunity.

I trust this post has given you some fresh ideas and inspiration to build your volunteer team this Christmas. If you will build your volunteer team during the Christmas season, you can enter the new year with momentum, energy and excitement.

You can get more proven ideas for building your volunteer team in my book “The Formula for Building Great Volunteer Teams.” It is available at this link.

This article originally appeared here.

Getting Guests to Stay

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Thanks so much for joining us for another episode of the unSeminary podcast. Today I have Greg Curtis with me, director of assimilation at Eastside Christian Church.

Eastside Christian Church was founded in 1962 and was recently named the second fastest growing church in the country with four locations in California and Minnesota. The problem that most churches experience is not necessarily getting first-time guests, but rather getting those guests to stay, and that is Greg’s area of expertise at Eastside. He’s here with us today to talk about the scalable assimilation strategy Eastside transitioned to since the last time we had him on the show.

• See what isn’t working. One of the first programs Eastside used was called First Step With Gene, where those new to the church could have pizza with Senior Pastor Gene Appel. Each year they had an average of 1,200 people attend. During this program people heard Gene’s story and the church’s story. At the end, they learned about a seven-week program which everyone was pointed to. It was a kind of discipleship launch into small groups. This worked extremely well, but the problem was that they only did this program quarterly. There were so many new people coming through the doors, this system couldn’t support the growth, especially since Gene couldn’t be everywhere at once. Ultimately this led to people waiting too long to attend the seven-week program at all and they never quite got plugged into the church.

• The Four P’s. Greg has worked with churches across the world and seen their assimilation process. From there he worked to develop a scalable system for assimilation that could be applied anywhere, regardless of church size and location. This lead to what he calls the Four Ps: one place, one program, two processes, two placements. This can be done in a myriad of forms. The idea is to send your guests to one place, maybe using an incentive such as giving them a free gift. At that one place, invite them to your one program, whatever it is, whenever it is. That one program is then engaging them into two processes, a volunteer placement process and a small group placement process.

• Develop a program that works for your community. Gene was exposed to Chris Hodges and his four week Growth Track program at Church of the Highlands. It’s ongoing and someone can jump in anytime or leave anytime. Eastside took this idea of providing an experience, rather than a class, and turned that into their Next Steps program. There are four steps and each step runs a different week of the month, but newcomers can start anytime and finish anytime, or attend the weeks out of order. The first step is Connect, featuring Gene on three short videos. Here people are encouraged to connect with Gene’s story, Eastside’s story and discover how pursuing God can impact their stories as well. Step two is Community where people enjoy some fun activities and discover how to build community by making friends, following Jesus and making a difference in a small group. Step three is Change Makers, where people discover how they are uniquely shaped to impact others. Week four is Compassion, where people explore how they can unleash compassion both locally and globally.

• Connect like people. The table time during Next Steps is the most critical part. Greg explains that assimilation is bringing visitors from a seat (in the auditorium) to a circle of friends. Next Steps functions almost like a restaurant, with a host at the front to direct newcomers to a certain table of people that match their demographic, for example seating young adults together, or empty nesters together, or newlyweds together. Greg says, “The unspoken question when a guest comes to your church: Is there anybody here like me?” If people who are new are able to connect with others in their same stage of life, it puts them at ease and sets them up to make friends more easily.

You can learn more about Eastside Christian Church at www.eastside.com or visit Greg’s website, Climbing the Assimilayas.

This article originally appeared here.

The Game Changer: Annual Goals and Daily Prayer Affirmations

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If every Senior Pastor reading this would…

  • Seek God’s face for next year’s ministry
  • Write down what they believe God wants them to do
  • Translate those dreams into SMART goals
  • Turn those annual goals into daily prayer affirmations
  • And storm the throne room of God every day until they become a reality

…the impact for the Kingdom of God would be staggering.

I want to make you a promise.

If you’ve been a reader of mine for any length of time, you know that I rarely make promises. When I do, it stems from something I have been doing for a long, long time, have seen consistent results in my own life, have led the people I coach to experience the same results, and that tactic has become part of my ministry DNA.

So here it is…

I promise you that if you do what I’m about to tell you—exactly as I tell you to do it—you will look back upon next year as the most impactful 365 days you have ever spent on this earth. Period.

Here’s how…

1. Get Out of the Office and Dream

Whenever I force those I coach to get out of the weeds and walk with me through the dreams God has put on their heart for next year, the first thing I notice is God hasn’t put any dreams on their heart. It’s like they just stopped dreaming. Or worse, if they have dreams, they have no conceivable plan for making them happen anytime soon.

As the point leader, you must routinely take off the “execution mode” hat, leave the daily grind, put on your “dreamer” hat, and hightail it to Mt. Sinai to meet with God. Then, just as important, you must come back with a plan written on stone, ready to execute with a vengeance.

I completely understand that it feels like you simply don’t have the time to do this, but you do. And you must.

As my leadership mentor, Warren Bennis reminds us,

“I really believe that the best leaders I’ve met and known over the years have been reflective practitioners, that they both think and act” (Reinventing Leadership, p. 27).

Elsewhere, Bennis warns,

“It’s very clear to me that failing organizations almost always fail because they’re over managed and they’re under led” (Reinventing Leadership, p. 7).

So, get out of manager mode, get away to a monastery or a state park this week, and pray two bold leader prayers:

  • “God, if I stopped self-sabotaging my ministry and lived out the dream you have for my life and the congregation I’m privileged to serve, what would I/we STOP doing and what would I/we START doing?”
  • “God, what are the four things I/we could do in the next 90 days that would make a 50 percent difference?”

Ask those questions, then start writing.

You will know you have God’s dreams in hand when you are ready to come back and work so hard that, in the words of Bennis, your “lawn and goldfish have died of neglect.”

Danny Recommends: Children’s Christmas Books

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This Danny Recommends gets chalked up as a purely personal tip from Uncle Danny. There are a couple of things I love: books and Christmas (I love a lot more than that—I see you, Breyers Chocolate Chip ice cream!—but for now let’s just focus on those two). If you happen to love those same two things, and you happen to be the parent of younger kids, this post is for you.

Since our daughter’s first Christmas with us, she and I have had an annual tradition of a special Christmas book. (She didn’t know it was a tradition at first. She was a fairly bright one year old, but she wasn’t that bright.) The new book makes its debut the week after Thanksgiving, and then we rotate through the old books as we move through the Christmas season. It’s something we both look forward to at December bedtimes each year, and if you have kids or grandkids, this is something you ought to consider.

I have a few ground rules for what makes the “special Christmas book” list:

  • It has to be aesthetically appealing: This is not the time for a few pencil drawings and comic sans font. Books have to be illustrated, and they have to be illustrated beautifully.
  • It has to be a hardcover. I fully intend for these to be books that Haven will read to her kids one day, so they have to last.
  • It has to be a one-night read. This is not the time for Dickens’ A Christmas Carol. I have no problem with longer books—and we will often read a few pages of one every few nights to supplement the season—but the special Christmas book has to be relatively brief.
  • It doesn’t necessarily have to be Bethlehem-centric. While most of our books so far have centered around the proverbial reason for the season, I’ve mixed a couple of secular books in along the way. Because again…we’re rotating through the entire pile all through December.

Finding books that match these qualifiers is becoming more challenging. We’re hitting our seventh Christmas together, and each year the trips to Barnes and Noble or the surf times on Amazon get a little longer.

So what’s on the shelf so far? I’m so glad you asked. Here’s the list, starting this year and working our way back:

2017: The Christmas Promise (Alison Mitchell, Catalina Echeverri) Full disclosure: This one hasn’t arrived from Amazon yet. It hasn’t fully passed all of the tests above, except the hardcover rule. The jury is still out on this one; I’ll let you know if it goes in the book burning pile.

2016: A Night of Great Joy (Mary Engelbreit) This one made the cut because it met my rules, plus 2016 was the year that Haven had her first Christmas play. So the theme just worked, y’know?

2015: The First Christmas Night (Keith Christopher, Christine Kornacki) A very typical poetic retelling of Jesus’ birth, but the illustrations, y’all. Stunning.

2014: The Donkey Who Carried a King (R.C. Sproul, Chuck Groenink)

When R.C. Sproul writes a children’s book…nay, when R.C. Sproul writes a Christmas children’s book…you buy it. There’s a little bit of “story within a story within a story” business that drives me a little bit nuts, but still.

2013: Angelina’s Christmas (Katharine Holabird, Helen Craig)

Again, theming was big this particular year. 2012 was the year Haven was into all things ballet, and she was especially into all things Angelina Ballerina. This was a no-brainer.

2012: Song of the Stars (Sally Lloyd-Jones)

Let’s face it: If Sally Lloyd-Jones published her grocery list, we’d all buy it. She’s the one who brought us The Jesus Storybook Bible, and this particular Christmas book may be my favorite she’s ever written (yes…I just put it above JSB. Whoa.) It’s hard for me to read this one to Haven without getting choked up. “Heaven’s Son / sleeping under the stars / that he made.” That’ll preach.

2011: Room for a Little One (Martin Waddell, Jason Cockcroft)

The first Christmas book is still our favorite. I’ve likely read this book hundreds of times to Haven. The illustrations are gorgeous, the story is sweet, and if you’re an adoptive parent trying to read this particular book to your child while navigating your first year, I dare you to read it without your heart exploding.

Honorable mention: Emmet Otter’s Jug-Band Christmas (Russell Hoban and Lillian Hoban)

If you’re a child of the ’70s/’80s and this wasn’t your favorite Christmas special growing up, I’m not sure I can respect you as a human. So when I saw that there’s now a book version on Amazon (based on the movie, which was—and I just found this out—based on a book), I gave ’em all my money. It’s not a one-night read, but it’s still going in this year’s rotation.

This article originally appeared here.

This Verse Is the Most Popular Bible Verse the World Over

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In what could be a commentary on the times in which we live, Joshua 1:9 was the most popular Bible verse most often shared, bookmarked and highlighted by the global YouVersion community in 2017.

YouVersion is a Bible app that debuted on Apple’s app store nine years ago. It was launched as a website to help increase access and engagement with the Bible, part of Life.Church’s missional approach to technology. It has been downloaded in every country and expects to reach 300 million total downloads before the end of the year.

Joshua 1:9 is the iconic verse in the story of Israel when Moses instructs Joshua, his successor in leadership, to prepare to lead the people into the promised land on the other side of the Jordan River. “This is my command—be strong and courageous! Do not be afraid or discouraged. For the Lord your God is with you wherever you go.”

MOST POPULAR BIBLE VERSES BY COUNTRY

Joshua 1:9 was the most popular Bible verse this year worldwide, but each country had their own preference.

United States: Romans 8:28 – “And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.”

Philippines, South Africa, United Kingdom, Canada, Nigeria, Singapore, Malaysia, Indonesia: Jeremiah 29:11 – “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.”

Australia: Romans 12:2 – “Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.”

India: John 3:16 – “For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.”

DOWNLOADS INCREASING WORLDWIDE

“We believe the Bible is an enduring source of courage and strength,” said Bobby Gruenewald, Life.Church Innovation Pastor and YouVersion Bible App founder. “We are encouraged to see from this year’s data that people all over the world are finding hope in God’s Word.”

Some countries saw huge increases in downloads in 2017. The countries with the greatest increases were Angola at 733 percent, Mozambique 243 percent and India 228 percent.  

YouVersion hopes to have the New Testament translated for 99.9 percent of the world’s population by 2033.

Daniel Fusco: How to Transition Leadership and Still Grow

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Daniel Fusco is a pastor, writer and musician.  He came to a saving knowledge of Jesus Christ in April of 1998 while he was in his last year at Rutgers University. Daniel’s passion for the lost keeps him playing music and drinking coffee in and around Portland, Oregon. where he is able to minister outside the four walls of his church, Crossroads Community.

Key Questions:

Tell us about the transition process from a longtime pastor to a young pastor.

What was it like to replace a longtime pastor?

How does everyone live upward, inward and outward

What are you doing outside the church to connect with people?

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Key Quotes:

“Ministry is a process. Whatever we think we know gets challenged everyday.”

“If you’re awkward in starting a conversation, the conversation will be awkward. Plan a couple of questions to get the conversation started.”

“I teach a gospel with teeth on it.”

“We want Crossroads to be a place where people can belong before they become a Christian.”

“I do a two-minute video on social media. I call it chumming the water.”

“Don’t get your eyes on the culture, get them on the Lord.”

Mentioned in the Show:

Upward, Inward, Outward

Two Minute Messages

Healthy Spirituality – Pete Scazzero

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The Downside of Intentionality

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People tell me I’m one of the most intentional people they know. I’ve given away a hundred copies of a book with a light switch on the cover asking, “Is what you’re about to do ON or OFF purpose?” I own the URL intentionality.org. I’m serious about being on purpose and intentional.

But years ago, I found a downside to intentionality. I realized I had lots of acquaintances, but few real friends. Up until that point, I’m not sure I’d had a real friend since high school. Oh, I had colleagues…people I worked with, went to church with, did ministry with. I had people I advised, supported, mentored and hung out with, even people who loved me. But they had short little alligator arms, primarily because I was so busy and independent, that’s all I’d let them use. Few people knew me. Knew what I had a burden for. What stressed me.

What I dreamed about or struggled with.

I discovered this on a retreat with some guys. They skewered me. A couple of them told me they felt I was too busy to be a real friend. When I would fly by their lives, it felt more like I was trying to fix them than be with them. I started to notice people apologize for reaching out to me, starting conversations with words like “I hate to bother you…” or “I know you’re busy…” I was spending virtually all my time getting to know people, but I was unknown. At a deep, personal level, I was friendless. The enemy of intimacy is busyness, and I was so busy being intentional, no one could catch up with me long enough to become an intimate friend.

The lesson?

Over time, intentionality leads to isolation.

So, I shifted gears.

I never stopped being intentional. Instead, I began to be as intentional about friendships as I was about everything else. I made time to hang out with a few of the guys I know and care about. I opened up, sharing more about myself…my ambitions, fears, frustrations, struggles and stresses. I shared my needs, letting them in on what I’m thinking and feeling.

And they loved me. Listened to me. Prayed for me. God, in His awesome grace and provision, taught me how to love others and how to let them love me back.

After seeing the power real friendship brings, I began to wonder what held me back for so long?

I think it’s the same thing that holds a lot of men back…a deep-seated doubt that you’re good enough. That you’re worthy of friendship. That you’re truly lovable for who you are and not just what you do. Fear that other guys will judge you. Fear that if you take off the mask and admit your fears and weaknesses, you’ll be seen as a wuss. The enemy whispers his lies… “They already have friends.” “Who are you? You’re on the outside of their world. It’ll be subtle, but they’ll reject you.” “You’ve got too much to do already, with work, family, church, kids’ sports and all.”

So, you don’t try. You stay isolated. You continue to fight your battles alone.

Listen, guys desperately want authentic friendship, but someone has to initiate.

And that someone has to be you.

So, come on. Be a leader and initiate. Be intentional about developing meaningful friendships with a few guys. Friends, not buddies. Pick men who share your values. Men who want the same things in life you want. God first, great marriage, awesome kids, influence for Christ in the world.

Granted, it’s awkward. Maybe even a little weird at first. But when you put in enough miles with a few guys…when you have enough hours of honest conversation, you’ll realize you’re in a safe place. A place where you’re known…and loved.

And you’re no longer isolated.

Scripture: A person standing alone can be attacked and defeated, but two can stand back-to-back and conquer. Three are even better, for a triple-braided cord is not easily broken. (Ecclesiastes 4:12)

Mentor Tip: Some of your guys may have intimate friendships, most probably won’t. Challenge them to not let the mentoring season end without taking steps to build meaningful friendships. It can even be with someone else in the group!

This article originally appeared here.

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